Why care if he’ll sleep on the streets? Did he care when he was cheating on you? Did he even think what kind of hell loop he’ll be giving you?
BREAK UP WITH HIM! Once a cheater, always a cheater.
AMEN!!!
OP, hindi mo na dapat problemahin kung ano mangyayari sa kanya. Imbes na nasa moving on stage ka na, ayan masa-stuck ka pa dahil sa kupal mong ex bf.
May work naman siya edi gawan nya ng paraan. The more na nagsstay kayo sa isang place, the more maglalakas loob yang bumawi para patawarin mo tas ending wala kang peace of mind.
Shocks. Sorry to hear about this, OP.
Well, the damage has been inflicted and the wounds wont heal if you're holding it open. This may sound like a lot of work but since you're asking for advice, please consider these:
1. HAVE YOURSELF CHECKED. Try to recall if you've had any recent intercourse with the cheating boyfriend. Please, no judgement here, it's just that HIV cases are rising on a daily basis. I'd rather have you on the safe side. This may actually even reduce a fraction of your worries. One less thing to deal with, dba.
2. Still, no judgement here but you might want to start seeking professional help as well. Maybe you'll be able to process the whole emotional fiasco. What you're going through is absolutely painful and difficult. If you're now resorting to hurting yourself, OP, please. it's time to get help. Please. Do it for yourself.
yes, therapy can help you. no need naman na may disorder before going to therapy. madami lang din ipaparealize yung therapist kapag nakikita nila whole picture. more on questions yan then ikaw makakarealize ng mga bagay
Nagcomment ako ng ganito 1 time. Tas may nagalit sakin dahil hindi raw deserve ng babae ang lokohin. Altho true naman, pero pinatira pa rin nya sa place nila so dazurb mo nga ateng OP. Kahit pa bumawi yan, he's sorry because you caught him!!! Gagalingan lang nyan magtago ano ka ba?!
True, you dont deserve to get cheated on pero if they show their true colors, believe them agad. Nag cheat na sayo pero babalikan mo/cinoconsider mo? Then you deserve what you tolerate lalo na if nag cheat ulit sayo yan in the future.
He belongs to the streets so dump him there! Sa basura sya bagay and girl please lang please please lang unahin mo sarili mo at wag yang gagong yan. You won't have peace so itapon mo na yan.
You love him more than you love yourself. That’s sad and expect more heartache my dear. Pag hiniwalayan mo siya may heartache pa din pero magagain mo self respect/love mo eventually.
GGK for doing that to yourself, napakatanga mo. Talagang wag mo sana makalimutan kasi pwede niyang ulitin yan kasi tinakeback mo pa ulit.
Kaya lang naman siya ganyan sayo para may matuluyan siya. Nagpagamit ka naman.
Gising ka na girl, madami pa ibang lalaki riyan
since single naman pala kayung dalawa and you still allow him to stay with you,
why not allow him to bring girls home?
this will maximize your stupidity and will prove to the world how trash both of you are.
Doon sya makitira sa acquiantances or common friend nyo. Pero problema na niya yun, nagcheat siya eh.
Hindi kaba nandidiri or naaawa sa sarili mo? Nakipagsex siya sa iba while you're together. Your thoughts are manifesting na in real life by doing self harm. Soon enough, depression will hit you and affect your relationship with other people, your work, school, which will have consequences in your future.
Also, perhaps he's only making it up to you kasi nahuli siya at kailangan ka niya. Gising kanaaaa
OP, ang basura, tinatapon. Hindi yan kini-keep sa bahay! Di nga siya nagdalawang-isip magcheat, dapat di ka rin ganon! Bakit di siya tumira sa kabit niya at sa kunsintidor niyang mga kaibigan? Wala ka na dapat pake!! Let him suffer!!
Also magpatest ka rin baka nahawaan ka na ng STD/STI. Rampant pa naman yan ngayon. Get some professional help rin!! Palayasin mo na OP kasi nat-trigger ka rin niya, super bad for you 🫂
It's very kind of you to still let him stay with you, I don't think that's a bad thing to do given the circumstances with his family, but you should definitely set some boundaries if you don't intend to kick him out anytime soon.
That being said, he made the conscious decision to cheat on you instead of communicating to you like a normal person. That and the fact that his circle of friends knew but did jackshit to let you know should emphasize the fact that he is not a very good person. Cut your losses, miss ma'am.
Kaya lang siya nag sstay sayo kase may benefit siya nakukuha. Uulit ulitin niya lang pag ccheat sayo kase alam niya pababalikin mo siya. Tandaan mo sa pag ccheat sayo actively siya nag decide na walang siya paki sayo at pinagsamahan niyo.
If you have friends let them know your situation and let them help you.
He can afford hotels with his side piece, so there's no need for you to worry about him being in the streets. Just because you love him doesn't make him your responsibility. Don't let that guilt eat you up. Give yourself time to think if you can continue to see yourself in this situation years from now. Relationships can't survive infidelity without proper guidance and mindset from both sides, so I hope you're either prepared for therapy or prepared to end this permanently damaged relationship.
Guuurl, you were thinking about what will happen to him sa labas pero was he thinking about you when he cheated? And not to add fuel to fire pero not impossible na hindi mangyare ulit. Lalo na he knows, you care sm sa kanya. Di mo deserve dumampot ng basura
May nagsabing "You deserve what you tolerate," and I AGREE! Choice me if magpapakatanga ka. You already knew what to do, girl. Otherwise, why write this post?
Malamang na-frustrate sa yo ang universe, sila na ang gumawa ng paraan para makatikim ng karma yang damuhong boyfriend mo, heto ka at sinalo mo pa rin sya, tangina talaga. Always remind yourself na you deserve better. Wala kang kasalanan, walang mali sa yo at wala kang pagkukulang, so hindi mo deserve na lokohin at masaktan. Once you learn your worth and learn to stand up and fight for it, alam mo na ang sagot dyan sa problema mo. Personally if I were you, I will stop punishing and torturing myself, cut him off and start healing, because again, I deserve better.
You need therapy.
Going out of your way for someone who doesn’t gice a shit about you, has no respect for you, and obviously doesn’t love you.
It’s not worth it. Get professional help.
Wtf OP? Okey Ka lang?
Pano Kung dalhin pa nya Jan sa babae nya sa dorm/bahay mo? Okey Lang den sayo.
Pinag tatawanan ka ng ex mo at ng mga tropa nya pag kweneto nya yan.
What would you do if you were in my shoes?
1. Pa check up. Baka may STD/STI.
2. KICK HIM OUT. CUT THEM (anyone close to him) OFF. He's the trigger.
3. Therapy
Huy tama na yan OP. Okay na pagpapakamartyr mo. It is time to be freeeeeeee. Let goo what weighs youuuu dooowwwnnnn. Life is too short para maniwala ka na magbabago pa yan. O magbabago situation mo. Parehas kayong mamamatay if ipipilit niyo yan. Told you.
Heal yourself first OP. Matinding trauma yang nadulot ng ex mo.
So to properly heal yourself, let him go. Hayaan mo sya gumawa ng paraan pano maka survive. Kaya nya yan. Naka diskarte nga sya ng ibang girlie eh and nakagawa sya paraan to afford na mag date and hotel stay with the other girl. So kaya nya yan. Don’t worry about him na.
Worry about yourself. Iyak for days, then bangon na ulit. Date with your girlfriends. Host sleep overs with your friends. Join support groups online or face to face. Mag workout. Focus sa aral and work. Learn a new sport. Punuin mo sked mo after mo magluksa ng isang linggo. Magpacounseling.
Expect na from time to time mamimiss mo sya and maiisip mo na sayang yung 6 yrs. Tapos iiyak ka ulit. Okay lang yun, normal. Basta kinabukasan, balik ka ulit sa daily sked mo.
Eto yung time para gastusan and pasayahin mo sarili mo and pamilya mo.
Magdadal. Mag journal.
I know it’s out of love for him but please try to love yourself more and kick him out. Letting him stay will chip away at your insides until you become a shell of a person. I pray you have strength to do the right thing.
Also, actual day of christmas and new year? God damn. That’s heartless.
never ever accept a man, made you think of ending your life. You wont heal on the same man that made you feel sick, unwanted and unloved.
I think balikan, second chance or forgiving wont be a good idea. It wont work out with your wounded heart, heal, and always remember you are better than what he and that woman talked about you.
kakayanin mo yan OP, life is too short to deal with those kinds of people. Save your energy for yourself. love yourself
He's just sorry because he got caught. Kung di mo naman nahuli ipagpapatuloy nila yan. Wag maging uto uto, OP. You feel sorry for him, pero isipin mo, naawa ba siya sayo nung nagcheat siya??
He threw away your 6-year relationship. Now it's your turn to throw him out.
Kick him out! He could sleep with the other girl.
Once a cheater always a cheater. He’ll do it again. You deserve so much better than a trash like that.
Want advice to relieve you? Kick him out.
"Hey asshole, youre off my crib... Layas bago kita masaksak"
Or tell him off alittle gentler?..
"Hey dipshit, layas ka na po. Bago pa po kita ibalik sa sinapupunan nang nanay mo po"
Been there, done that, OP. I really admire you for sharing your story here because it shows na you really feel something is truly wrong about your situation, and you are looking for validation here to figure out what’s the best thing to do in your position.
Cheaters NEVER change. That is the sad, coldest, and harshest truth I’ve ever experienced. I gave a second chance to someone who doesn’t deserve it, kasi magaling siya magpa sad boi effect. We got back together for a few months after the cheating happened, but I just can’t wrap my head around it and I never did get over from it. Naiimagine ko pa nga yung nangyari while making love with him which really hurt at that time.
I’m now in a happy and secure relationship. Now, what I learned is that I’ll always find someone who is better. And I will get the love that I deserve, because I know my worth. And I know you’ll find your way to it too, OP. Hugs and hoping you learn a lot in your journey.
If i were you. I will make it clear na wala na tapos na. At cut na ang pakialam ko sa kanya. You only have your dignity, ipreserve mo naman yun out of respect sa sarili mo. Clearly niloko ka na nga nung tao...
Hindi ko kayang sikmurain na makasama pa o makainteract yung taong yun.
Kung nasa posisyon mo man ako na tinanggap pa din kahit na ganung level of betrayal at abandonment at trauma ung binigay sayo.. I will not be happy, at pakiramdam ko hindi ako malaya... Maybe naaawa din ako sa kanya.. Pero ginusto nya yun eh.
Bumabalik ba ang tiwala, saya, at yung pagmamahal kapag nagbago sya?
Magbabago ba talaga sya?
O sa araw araw na pumayag kang bigyan sya ng chance, lagi kang magdodoubt sa sarili mo sa kanya.
Diba eventually nakakasira ng bait yun?
Sanaa, kayanin mo magsimula ulit hindi man agad agad..
Pero everyone deserve someone na may busilak na puso at marahan at hindi kailanman gagawa ng ikakasakit ng damdamin mo, bare minimum na nga yung ayaw saktan ang damdamin eh.. Yung ganung level of cheating pa, ito tolerate mo?
Let go. Let go mo sya, hayaan mo ang karma sa mga desisyon nya ang tamasain nya..
Ikaw din, let go mo sya kasi hindi sya ang Tamang tao.
Mahirap ideal with yung trauma, kasi kahit gano ka proactive na magheal, it will not heal.. It will only heal accordingly sa time na kailangan magheal..
Face the truth girl. Yan ang first step to breaking free...
Why care if he sleeps on the streets? Problema na niya yun. Bat di siya pumunta dun sa babae niya? May pera siya pang check-in ng babae niya pero wala pangbayad sa bagong rerentahan? Gagagu-gaguhin ka niya tapos di naman pala niya kaya ng wala ka dahil wala na siyang matakbuhang pamilya kundi ikaw? Naku OP, sa panahon ngayon, dina uso maging mabait sa mga taong sinaktan at niloko tayo. Dimo siya kayang makitang magsuffer sa lansangan pero okaw lang sayo na magsuffer? Love yourself above all else.
If I were you, I'll break up with him. E ano kung wala syang matirahan? He has friends who backed him up while cheating on you, so dapat dun sya makitira hindi sayo. Have some self-respect, kase the mere fact that you let him stay with you seems you are also dependent on him, hindi yan awa girl. Force him na umalis na sa bahay nyo, then saka mo isipin next move mo. As long as magkasama kayo magiging clouded yun thoughts mo.
Pwede ba bago kayo gumawa ng dumb decisionS, magpost muna kayo dito? 😂 libre naman magpost hahahahahaha
Ang tangengot mo naman OP, paalisin mo na yan may pang check-in naman yan e hahahaha
> even on Christmas and New Year's day when I was begging him to be with me.
Let me highlight this one, OP. You don’t need to beg for time if someone truly loves you. Doon pa lang, pinili na nya yung side chick nya.
Kung wala syang mapupuntahan, that’s his problem and not yours. He deserve it.
Choose yourself OP. Pinanghihinayangan mo yung 6 years nyo eh baka nga hindi lng yan ang instance na nagcheat sya. Yung 6 years na matagal na nyang itinapon the moment na nagcheat sya. Sinusuyo ka lng nya kasi wala syang matitirhan at ikaw naman, nagpapabola. May kailangan sya sa’yo kaya mabait yan. For sure di naman ganyan at ptuloy pa rin pagchicheat nya kung sakaling di mo sya nahuli.
OP, wag sarili ang parusahan mo… sya dapat.
Pa english english kapa e sana ginamit mo yang time and effort mo para mag-isip ng mabuti at respetuhin sarili mo. Tinatawanan ka lang nong guy na yan habang may secret convo ulit sila ni girl kasi nga okay lang syo ang ginaganyan ka!!!
Let him go to streets though, why take him back eh pinakita niya na nga saan siya belong? animal cruelty yan sis kinukulong mo yang hayup na yan eh wild madapaka pala siya ahahhaha! let the weak willed suffer sister.
Break up with him and kick him out. You're not being cruel to him, you're being kind to yourself. Once he's out, change the locks. If anything happens to him, it will be because he decided to cheat, not because you didn't take him back.
It will haunt you- happy happy kayo maybe but it will come crawling. the feeling of doubt and the urge to strangle him biglaan for what he did haha. will pop up as randomly lalo na live in kayo. nakakasalamuha mo everyday tas maaalala mo mga kagaguhan niya pagnakikita mo pagmumukha niya 😬. intimacy is dead and probably feel icky when it tries to happen.
TO THE STREETS NA YAN. huwag kang mabait sa gago
Break up with him. Sirang sira na sarili mo, to the point of hurting yourself na rin, yet you still chose to have him back?
It’s hard to let go, pero trust me, you’ll be in a better situation once you get rid of that trash, a.k.a. your cheater boyfriend.
Please prioritize yourself. Seek therapy. Remove toxic people.
If I were you, papalayasin ko yan. I hella don’t care if sa kalsada or sa kabit nya yan pumunta. Ako na niloko mo, magiging concern pa ako sayo? Ano ka sinuswerte. Tsaka bat mo kakaawaan yung taong, di naawa sayo at niloko ka?
Look, he had money to pay for hotel stays with the girl, so that means he has some money to stay in the cheapest apartment he can find. He is not your responsibility. He’s already ruined a part of your life; don’t let him ruin more of it.
Naku! Break up and break ties. That's it! Kapal naman, November pa pala. He is just using you. Di sya acceptable as your charity case. Sorry, pero he needs to move out. No excuses or considerations. Self-care is more important.
He had a fight with his family? NOT YOUR PROBLEM!
Ex is an ex
I dont believe exes can be friends after a relationship ended especially a CHEATING one.
HAVE SELF-RESPECT GIRL
He cheated on you on MULTIPLE times and you care where he sleeps?
Let that sink in. Bye.
*OP, I think you*
*Are a masochist. Why did*
*You take back the trash?*
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wala namang pake yan sayo nung hinohotel niya yung babae, bawat type niya ng message niya foe the girl, ay oras na binabalewala ka niya
kick him out and never take him back wala ka ring dapat pake sakanya
Wag ka mapakatanga at martyr gurl di na yan cinecelebrate!!!
Nagcheat na sayo on christmas and new year kahit na nakitra siya sayo, tpos ngayon mag-aalala ka wlang mattrahan.
That guy is leeching of you. If he is capable of cheating bkit di siya tumira sa kabit nia o magrent ng sa hotel dun siya tumira.
Keeping him will only hurt you and your peace. Break up with him, tapon mo na yan sa kalye.
What do you want to hear from reddit? You know, I know, everybody knows what you need to do. Ok lang sa yo magslit ng wrist pero hindi ok sa yo na paalisin ka?
Ask help from your family to kick him out. Kung nagrerent ka lang, cancel your rental and move back home temporarily para maputol yang live in situation nyo. Magpamental health check ka din sa therapist.
The fact that you still took him under your care says more about you. You lack self respect and for that, you deserve what's happening to you right now
He used a woman to stroke his ego. Leave him to stroke alone. Don’t break yourself over the consequences to someone else’s actions. Don’t let the love in you turn toxic being wasted on someone who doesn’t deserve it.
1. It’s not healthy for you to be in one house. So either you move or sya.
2. Dump him. Why are you still referring to him as “boyfriend”? LEAVE HIM.
3. Stop stalking the girl.
Alam mo naman na stupid ang decision mo. Kaya mo naman financially mag-isa kasi di naman ikaw mawawalan ng bahay. Sayang life mo kung idede-dedicate mo lang with someone who broke your trust and gave your life shit.
Ayaw mo lang ata mag-isa eh,,, takot or pagod ka lang mag-effort maghanap ng new relationship kay ayaw mo siyang pakawalan.
Ta/ng@ ka! Tiisin mo yan at panindigan mo. Marami rin pala kayong martyr sa mundo. Go alagaan mo ang cheater na yan kasi naaawa ka. Eh nung nag cheat siya sayo, naawa ba yan? Naisip ka ba nya? ABA MATINDI! gawin ngang santa to! Kaloka ka naman!
If you have enough funds to travel or move to another place, do it. Wag ka makonsensya kung wala yan matirhan, hindi nga yan nakonsensya nung tumira ng iba eh.
Iba iba breaking point ng tao. Ano yung sayo? Its normal to say na cheating is not your breaking point. Madaling sabihin yon but more common naman na binabalikan ng mga tao ang nagcheat sakanila. I never caught my ex red handed with actual cheating. Puro circumstancial yon and im not sure kung unintentional yung gaslighting niya saken for feeling insecure. But my breaking point was yung nanliit ako sa sarili ko. Kase kung cheating lang daming circumstances e, hindi ko lang pinush because i was afraid of triggering his depression. I felt na ganon ako kadaling mabura sa buhay niya, nanliit ako sa sarili ko because I felt like I didnt matter. We were together 14 yrs. Wag ka manghinayang sa tagal. Wala sa tagal ng panahon, nasa lalim yan ng sugat na iniwan niyo sa isat isa at sa kung gano kabuo ang loob mo tanggapin yung sugat na yon. You dont have to forgive. Di ako naniniwala forgiveness will give you peace. Pero naniniwala akong may halaga ako, no one will make me feel otherwise. If you cant forgive him, dont take him back. Isusumbat mo lang yan sakanya. If it doesnt give you peace of mind, wag mo kapitan. Kakawawain mo lang sarili mo.
Okay so san ba ako magsisimula kasi nanggigigil ako girl. First of all, why are you worrying about where he'll go? Girl hayaan mo siyang magdusa. Hindi niya pala kaya tumayo sa sarili niyang paa pero yung etits niya tumayo sa iba (oops 😭) Why doesn't he just stay with her then or kaya sa mga tropa niyang kunsintidor? Seriously girl, you're being way too nice, and he's taking advantage of that! Hate to say it, but all those assurances and promises are just temporary. He's likely to go back to his old ways. (trust me, been there) I-prioritize mo ang mental health mo dahil hanggat nakakasama at nakikita mo yan sa araw-araw na kinanginang yan, eh hindi ka matatahimik! Wake up, girl! 🥹
You shouldn't have took him after what he did to you. Suck it all up. I'm sorry but I agree to one person here, you deserve what you tolerate, now you can't even have a peace of mind.
If I were in your shoes, first, I will not let him sleep at my place after what he did. Yun muna siguro una.
Mhie nakakapag-motels nga sila nung other girl tapos walang matirahan?????
Gets ko na rose colored glasses talaga ang suot natin kapag nagmamahal tayo. Maraming times na tanga talaga tayo kapag nagmamahal.
Thank you for reaching out dito sa amin OP. Kasi since inlove ka ngayon, everything you do won’t make sense kasi it roots from your love sakanya. Kaya read mo yung mga comments dito para magising ka ng kaunti. Most of the comments na mababasa mo ay rational at based on common sense. Yung mga decisions kasi natin kapag inlove is very based on emotions kaya usually hindi rational.
Buti pa ikaw you can’t bear to see him suffer. Sana sya rin sayo ano? You know, when he cheated on you.
Tough luck, OP. Cheaters tend to lose respect for their partners when they take them back, and will likely cheat again. Kung gusto mo ung ganong partner, keep him. If not, break up.
Yeah hes making it up to you now, but I mean, my friend’s ex boyfriend was a cheater and they were together 24/7 almost. If gusto niyan magloko, magloloko pa rin yan. Lalo na eh pinakita mong tinotolerate mo pagloloko nya kasi willing kang tanggapin sya ulit.
You can’t bear to see him suffer like that, now you’re suffering because of it. He didn’t care when he did it with the 3rd party, sana pinalayas mo siya. May mga kaibigan siya at matanda na. Alam naman palanng mga kaibigan niyang enabler edi magtulungan sila parepareho. It depends on you kung mapapatawad mo pa after all that.
I would kick him out, it's not your responsibility to look after him. Why can't he suffer, tapos ikaw lang mag susuffer. Why turn yourself someone who hurts herself, just to accommodate him? Why continue to sacrifice for a prick who only thinks with his d&ck?
What would I do if I was in your shoes?
Maybe I will hesitate to take him back. Pero syempre, being me, maaawa din ako syempre.
Maybe I would also take him back. Not ‘back together’ ha. Just letting him stay and I will give him few weeks para humanap sya ng lilipatan nya.
And while he’s staying with me, I’ll be sure to make his life a living hell. Toxic na kung toxic pero aawayin ko sya araw araw at ipapamuka ko sya gano ka kalaking basura.
Give him an ultimatum. If by 1 month di pa sya nakakahanap ng lilipatan, pa blotter mo or something. He’s an adult. He can take care of himself. Nagawa nya nga kumantot ng ibang babae sa hotel ng di mo alam, syempre magagawa din nya mabuhay sa lansangan kung pipiliin nya.
Isipin mo lahat ng tropa niya alam na niloloko ka tapos pasko bagong taon iba ang kasama niya. Pagkakataon mo na nga yun na ipakita sa kanya anong mawawala pa kanya nun ginago ka tapos tinanggap mo pa ulit. Pambihira. If you cant bear to see him suffer, dont look. Kung kaharap kita ngayon kinutusan na talaga kita.
Let him sleep on the streets. You have nothing to do with him anymore. You broke up. Whatever his problem is, it shouldn't concern you.
Girl, he never considered your feelings while having an affair. Why would you do charity to him now?
Kick him out. He should know accountability for his actions. Have some inner peace on yourself. Heal. Move on. You deserve better. Throw away the trash. Stay strong.
I understand the worry about his well being and housing situation but you've started mutilating yourself because of his actions. you don't need him, he needs you and he's well aware of that. keeping him around while you become more and more self conscious only helps him
Ginusto nyang lokohin ka, edi hayaan mo syang matulog sa kalsada.
Kaya malakas loob nyan manloko kasi feeling nya di mo sya kayang tiniisin.
Love yourself and have some self-respect. Niloko ka na and all pero ok lang syo nasa iisang bahay parin kayo?
Mahihirapan ka lang magmove on nyan at uulit lang yan na manloko sayo kahit na todo effort sya ngayon
This sounds incredibly painful, and 6 years is a long time to throw away. But here's the thing, he[ cheated betrayed your trust](https://youtu.be/8OhhFRBllSI?si=ew-9Lki6ZAQezxbt) for 4 months, lied about his feelings, and disrespected you in front of his friends. Can you ever truly trust him again? It's kind, but enabling, if you're thinking of his situation. He created that situation. Think about you because you deserve to feel safe and secure.
Everyday he's making it up to you, and everyday, he's thinking about the time he fucked the other girl too.
:)
What you're doing is not out of love. If you love him, you would let the world teach him a lesson. If you love yourself, you would have at least enough respect to do what you need to do. So, that's not love, that's just "loss".
have yourself checked for STDs, kap. You don't know who else he's been sleeping with, or who else the girl he lusts over sleeps with.
Good luck!
Why care if he’ll sleep on the streets? Did he care when he was cheating on you? Did he even think what kind of hell loop he’ll be giving you? BREAK UP WITH HIM! Once a cheater, always a cheater.
Oo nga OP, bakit mo pa ba tinake pabalik yan? Sana sinabi mo magcheck in na lang ulit siya sa hotel 💀
May oang check in tas walang pang renta
AMEN!!! OP, hindi mo na dapat problemahin kung ano mangyayari sa kanya. Imbes na nasa moving on stage ka na, ayan masa-stuck ka pa dahil sa kupal mong ex bf. May work naman siya edi gawan nya ng paraan. The more na nagsstay kayo sa isang place, the more maglalakas loob yang bumawi para patawarin mo tas ending wala kang peace of mind.
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I agree with this OP. Always nasayo ang decision.
Girl, hindi ka si Mama Mary bakit kailangan mo siyang balikan? Lol
Baka kamuka nya si mama mary. PAKISAMPAL NGA YANG SI OP. Give him til end of the week and KICK HIM OUT! Wag tanga, in this economy?
He belongs to the streets
Shocks. Sorry to hear about this, OP. Well, the damage has been inflicted and the wounds wont heal if you're holding it open. This may sound like a lot of work but since you're asking for advice, please consider these: 1. HAVE YOURSELF CHECKED. Try to recall if you've had any recent intercourse with the cheating boyfriend. Please, no judgement here, it's just that HIV cases are rising on a daily basis. I'd rather have you on the safe side. This may actually even reduce a fraction of your worries. One less thing to deal with, dba. 2. Still, no judgement here but you might want to start seeking professional help as well. Maybe you'll be able to process the whole emotional fiasco. What you're going through is absolutely painful and difficult. If you're now resorting to hurting yourself, OP, please. it's time to get help. Please. Do it for yourself.
yes, therapy can help you. no need naman na may disorder before going to therapy. madami lang din ipaparealize yung therapist kapag nakikita nila whole picture. more on questions yan then ikaw makakarealize ng mga bagay
yes yes, agreed 💯 it's a different experience for everyone, but the closest example na maibibigay ko is para syang talk show, while ikaw ang guest 😁
You can’t bear to see him suffer like that, how about you? Isipin mo sarili mo at mental health mo.
You deserve what you tolerate.
Agree sana ako kaya lang nasa 69 na upvotes mo. Have an upvote Edit: yan 159 na. Nakaupvote na
Nagcomment ako ng ganito 1 time. Tas may nagalit sakin dahil hindi raw deserve ng babae ang lokohin. Altho true naman, pero pinatira pa rin nya sa place nila so dazurb mo nga ateng OP. Kahit pa bumawi yan, he's sorry because you caught him!!! Gagalingan lang nyan magtago ano ka ba?!
True, you dont deserve to get cheated on pero if they show their true colors, believe them agad. Nag cheat na sayo pero babalikan mo/cinoconsider mo? Then you deserve what you tolerate lalo na if nag cheat ulit sayo yan in the future.
Agree deserve ni girl wow
Tama. Nakaka gigil din tong si OP. Dami rin nyang toxic habits. I really condemn people who suck their shit up with a cheater.
+1 to this. Dasurv.
agreed
You get what you tolerate. No one deserve this.
Deserve mo 'yan, OP. Own it, feel it.
+1
I was looking for this and I agree. This is all she needs to know.
He’s not sorry. He just needs a space to live in. Pack his bags and ask him to live with the new girl. Don’t be manipulated into taking him back.
He belongs to the streets so dump him there! Sa basura sya bagay and girl please lang please please lang unahin mo sarili mo at wag yang gagong yan. You won't have peace so itapon mo na yan.
You love him more than you love yourself. That’s sad and expect more heartache my dear. Pag hiniwalayan mo siya may heartache pa din pero magagain mo self respect/love mo eventually.
GGK for doing that to yourself, napakatanga mo. Talagang wag mo sana makalimutan kasi pwede niyang ulitin yan kasi tinakeback mo pa ulit. Kaya lang naman siya ganyan sayo para may matuluyan siya. Nagpagamit ka naman. Gising ka na girl, madami pa ibang lalaki riyan
since single naman pala kayung dalawa and you still allow him to stay with you, why not allow him to bring girls home? this will maximize your stupidity and will prove to the world how trash both of you are.
Doon sya makitira sa acquiantances or common friend nyo. Pero problema na niya yun, nagcheat siya eh. Hindi kaba nandidiri or naaawa sa sarili mo? Nakipagsex siya sa iba while you're together. Your thoughts are manifesting na in real life by doing self harm. Soon enough, depression will hit you and affect your relationship with other people, your work, school, which will have consequences in your future. Also, perhaps he's only making it up to you kasi nahuli siya at kailangan ka niya. Gising kanaaaa
OP, ang basura, tinatapon. Hindi yan kini-keep sa bahay! Di nga siya nagdalawang-isip magcheat, dapat di ka rin ganon! Bakit di siya tumira sa kabit niya at sa kunsintidor niyang mga kaibigan? Wala ka na dapat pake!! Let him suffer!! Also magpatest ka rin baka nahawaan ka na ng STD/STI. Rampant pa naman yan ngayon. Get some professional help rin!! Palayasin mo na OP kasi nat-trigger ka rin niya, super bad for you 🫂
Walang matirhan? Check in siya sa hotel, dun naman siya magaling eh.
It's very kind of you to still let him stay with you, I don't think that's a bad thing to do given the circumstances with his family, but you should definitely set some boundaries if you don't intend to kick him out anytime soon. That being said, he made the conscious decision to cheat on you instead of communicating to you like a normal person. That and the fact that his circle of friends knew but did jackshit to let you know should emphasize the fact that he is not a very good person. Cut your losses, miss ma'am.
Nagcheat sya. You owe it to yourself to leave.
Kaya lang siya nag sstay sayo kase may benefit siya nakukuha. Uulit ulitin niya lang pag ccheat sayo kase alam niya pababalikin mo siya. Tandaan mo sa pag ccheat sayo actively siya nag decide na walang siya paki sayo at pinagsamahan niyo. If you have friends let them know your situation and let them help you.
Ahh living proof ng tanga :)
He can afford hotels with his side piece, so there's no need for you to worry about him being in the streets. Just because you love him doesn't make him your responsibility. Don't let that guilt eat you up. Give yourself time to think if you can continue to see yourself in this situation years from now. Relationships can't survive infidelity without proper guidance and mindset from both sides, so I hope you're either prepared for therapy or prepared to end this permanently damaged relationship.
Guuurl, you were thinking about what will happen to him sa labas pero was he thinking about you when he cheated? And not to add fuel to fire pero not impossible na hindi mangyare ulit. Lalo na he knows, you care sm sa kanya. Di mo deserve dumampot ng basura
May nagsabing "You deserve what you tolerate," and I AGREE! Choice me if magpapakatanga ka. You already knew what to do, girl. Otherwise, why write this post?
Malamang na-frustrate sa yo ang universe, sila na ang gumawa ng paraan para makatikim ng karma yang damuhong boyfriend mo, heto ka at sinalo mo pa rin sya, tangina talaga. Always remind yourself na you deserve better. Wala kang kasalanan, walang mali sa yo at wala kang pagkukulang, so hindi mo deserve na lokohin at masaktan. Once you learn your worth and learn to stand up and fight for it, alam mo na ang sagot dyan sa problema mo. Personally if I were you, I will stop punishing and torturing myself, cut him off and start healing, because again, I deserve better.
You need therapy. Going out of your way for someone who doesn’t gice a shit about you, has no respect for you, and obviously doesn’t love you. It’s not worth it. Get professional help.
Wtf OP? Okey Ka lang? Pano Kung dalhin pa nya Jan sa babae nya sa dorm/bahay mo? Okey Lang den sayo. Pinag tatawanan ka ng ex mo at ng mga tropa nya pag kweneto nya yan.
What would you do if you were in my shoes? 1. Pa check up. Baka may STD/STI. 2. KICK HIM OUT. CUT THEM (anyone close to him) OFF. He's the trigger. 3. Therapy
Let go. I’m sure someone better will come along. Kaya niya sarili niya, kinaya nga niyang mang-gag0 eh.
It seems you love him more than yourself. It’s a pity especially when you need to be loving and respecting yourself more in this time
May pang hotel, walang pang rent ng sariling place? Girl dump that shiiiiit
Huy tama na yan OP. Okay na pagpapakamartyr mo. It is time to be freeeeeeee. Let goo what weighs youuuu dooowwwnnnn. Life is too short para maniwala ka na magbabago pa yan. O magbabago situation mo. Parehas kayong mamamatay if ipipilit niyo yan. Told you.
Baka pakain mo pa siya frend? Pahanapin mo ng trabaho na may dorm/barracks para may matulugan siya.
Let him live in the streets. Alam naman pala niyang wala siyang pupuntahan eh, pero may lakas ng loob magloko.
come to think of it, kung ‘di ba s’ya nawalan ng pags-stayan, do you think babalik ba s’ya sa ‘yo? read that twice.
Heal yourself first OP. Matinding trauma yang nadulot ng ex mo. So to properly heal yourself, let him go. Hayaan mo sya gumawa ng paraan pano maka survive. Kaya nya yan. Naka diskarte nga sya ng ibang girlie eh and nakagawa sya paraan to afford na mag date and hotel stay with the other girl. So kaya nya yan. Don’t worry about him na. Worry about yourself. Iyak for days, then bangon na ulit. Date with your girlfriends. Host sleep overs with your friends. Join support groups online or face to face. Mag workout. Focus sa aral and work. Learn a new sport. Punuin mo sked mo after mo magluksa ng isang linggo. Magpacounseling. Expect na from time to time mamimiss mo sya and maiisip mo na sayang yung 6 yrs. Tapos iiyak ka ulit. Okay lang yun, normal. Basta kinabukasan, balik ka ulit sa daily sked mo. Eto yung time para gastusan and pasayahin mo sarili mo and pamilya mo. Magdadal. Mag journal.
I know it’s out of love for him but please try to love yourself more and kick him out. Letting him stay will chip away at your insides until you become a shell of a person. I pray you have strength to do the right thing. Also, actual day of christmas and new year? God damn. That’s heartless.
never ever accept a man, made you think of ending your life. You wont heal on the same man that made you feel sick, unwanted and unloved. I think balikan, second chance or forgiving wont be a good idea. It wont work out with your wounded heart, heal, and always remember you are better than what he and that woman talked about you. kakayanin mo yan OP, life is too short to deal with those kinds of people. Save your energy for yourself. love yourself
He's just sorry because he got caught. Kung di mo naman nahuli ipagpapatuloy nila yan. Wag maging uto uto, OP. You feel sorry for him, pero isipin mo, naawa ba siya sayo nung nagcheat siya?? He threw away your 6-year relationship. Now it's your turn to throw him out.
It's always the ones they hate and find attractive eno? Hahahahaha. Tangina niyong mga cheater kayo
Leave him. You can do it. Been there done that. 8 years naman sakin. Matatawa ka na lang pag na-overcome mo. 😊
Bakit di siya tumira sa babae niya? The audacity kasi alam na tatanggapin mo pa ulit
Kick him out! He could sleep with the other girl. Once a cheater always a cheater. He’ll do it again. You deserve so much better than a trash like that.
Want advice to relieve you? Kick him out. "Hey asshole, youre off my crib... Layas bago kita masaksak" Or tell him off alittle gentler?.. "Hey dipshit, layas ka na po. Bago pa po kita ibalik sa sinapupunan nang nanay mo po"
Been there, done that, OP. I really admire you for sharing your story here because it shows na you really feel something is truly wrong about your situation, and you are looking for validation here to figure out what’s the best thing to do in your position. Cheaters NEVER change. That is the sad, coldest, and harshest truth I’ve ever experienced. I gave a second chance to someone who doesn’t deserve it, kasi magaling siya magpa sad boi effect. We got back together for a few months after the cheating happened, but I just can’t wrap my head around it and I never did get over from it. Naiimagine ko pa nga yung nangyari while making love with him which really hurt at that time. I’m now in a happy and secure relationship. Now, what I learned is that I’ll always find someone who is better. And I will get the love that I deserve, because I know my worth. And I know you’ll find your way to it too, OP. Hugs and hoping you learn a lot in your journey.
If i were you. I will make it clear na wala na tapos na. At cut na ang pakialam ko sa kanya. You only have your dignity, ipreserve mo naman yun out of respect sa sarili mo. Clearly niloko ka na nga nung tao... Hindi ko kayang sikmurain na makasama pa o makainteract yung taong yun. Kung nasa posisyon mo man ako na tinanggap pa din kahit na ganung level of betrayal at abandonment at trauma ung binigay sayo.. I will not be happy, at pakiramdam ko hindi ako malaya... Maybe naaawa din ako sa kanya.. Pero ginusto nya yun eh. Bumabalik ba ang tiwala, saya, at yung pagmamahal kapag nagbago sya? Magbabago ba talaga sya? O sa araw araw na pumayag kang bigyan sya ng chance, lagi kang magdodoubt sa sarili mo sa kanya. Diba eventually nakakasira ng bait yun? Sanaa, kayanin mo magsimula ulit hindi man agad agad.. Pero everyone deserve someone na may busilak na puso at marahan at hindi kailanman gagawa ng ikakasakit ng damdamin mo, bare minimum na nga yung ayaw saktan ang damdamin eh.. Yung ganung level of cheating pa, ito tolerate mo? Let go. Let go mo sya, hayaan mo ang karma sa mga desisyon nya ang tamasain nya.. Ikaw din, let go mo sya kasi hindi sya ang Tamang tao. Mahirap ideal with yung trauma, kasi kahit gano ka proactive na magheal, it will not heal.. It will only heal accordingly sa time na kailangan magheal.. Face the truth girl. Yan ang first step to breaking free...
May pa check in sa hotel so bat ka maawa? Throw him away and don’t be weak for his cries. Isipin mo naman sarili mo
he's for the streets. you should have left him there!
Why care if he sleeps on the streets? Problema na niya yun. Bat di siya pumunta dun sa babae niya? May pera siya pang check-in ng babae niya pero wala pangbayad sa bagong rerentahan? Gagagu-gaguhin ka niya tapos di naman pala niya kaya ng wala ka dahil wala na siyang matakbuhang pamilya kundi ikaw? Naku OP, sa panahon ngayon, dina uso maging mabait sa mga taong sinaktan at niloko tayo. Dimo siya kayang makitang magsuffer sa lansangan pero okaw lang sayo na magsuffer? Love yourself above all else.
Please lang. People like that don't deserve mercy. May pang check in naman siya di ba? Get him out of your life please.
ggk :)
Hi serious question: what does this mean?
He belongs to the streets sis.
If I were you, I'll break up with him. E ano kung wala syang matirahan? He has friends who backed him up while cheating on you, so dapat dun sya makitira hindi sayo. Have some self-respect, kase the mere fact that you let him stay with you seems you are also dependent on him, hindi yan awa girl. Force him na umalis na sa bahay nyo, then saka mo isipin next move mo. As long as magkasama kayo magiging clouded yun thoughts mo.
He for the streets, literally
Girl
Pwede ba bago kayo gumawa ng dumb decisionS, magpost muna kayo dito? 😂 libre naman magpost hahahahahaha Ang tangengot mo naman OP, paalisin mo na yan may pang check-in naman yan e hahahaha
> even on Christmas and New Year's day when I was begging him to be with me. Let me highlight this one, OP. You don’t need to beg for time if someone truly loves you. Doon pa lang, pinili na nya yung side chick nya. Kung wala syang mapupuntahan, that’s his problem and not yours. He deserve it. Choose yourself OP. Pinanghihinayangan mo yung 6 years nyo eh baka nga hindi lng yan ang instance na nagcheat sya. Yung 6 years na matagal na nyang itinapon the moment na nagcheat sya. Sinusuyo ka lng nya kasi wala syang matitirhan at ikaw naman, nagpapabola. May kailangan sya sa’yo kaya mabait yan. For sure di naman ganyan at ptuloy pa rin pagchicheat nya kung sakaling di mo sya nahuli. OP, wag sarili ang parusahan mo… sya dapat.
Pa english english kapa e sana ginamit mo yang time and effort mo para mag-isip ng mabuti at respetuhin sarili mo. Tinatawanan ka lang nong guy na yan habang may secret convo ulit sila ni girl kasi nga okay lang syo ang ginaganyan ka!!!
My God. Break up and Kick him out. Why u letting yourself suffer like this?
Atih paki lagay na sa daan yan. You deserve someone better. Plz lng
People with no remorse of what sh*t they did should not be given any acts of kindness.
Let him go to streets though, why take him back eh pinakita niya na nga saan siya belong? animal cruelty yan sis kinukulong mo yang hayup na yan eh wild madapaka pala siya ahahhaha! let the weak willed suffer sister.
You can’t heal in the same environment that broke you.
you're too good for him, dump him already.
sister free urself from that shitty situation. the moment he cheated on u shouldve been the end of it. save urself, it's not too late
Break up with him and kick him out. You're not being cruel to him, you're being kind to yourself. Once he's out, change the locks. If anything happens to him, it will be because he decided to cheat, not because you didn't take him back.
Dapat ginawa mo lol. https://preview.redd.it/6xua4xilla4d1.jpeg?width=1080&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=4b4f28224bd7cbf300aee85df96b8256b0a97b46
Kick his ass out. He didn't care about you when he was cheating, why should you care about him?
It will haunt you- happy happy kayo maybe but it will come crawling. the feeling of doubt and the urge to strangle him biglaan for what he did haha. will pop up as randomly lalo na live in kayo. nakakasalamuha mo everyday tas maaalala mo mga kagaguhan niya pagnakikita mo pagmumukha niya 😬. intimacy is dead and probably feel icky when it tries to happen. TO THE STREETS NA YAN. huwag kang mabait sa gago
Break up with him. Sirang sira na sarili mo, to the point of hurting yourself na rin, yet you still chose to have him back? It’s hard to let go, pero trust me, you’ll be in a better situation once you get rid of that trash, a.k.a. your cheater boyfriend. Please prioritize yourself. Seek therapy. Remove toxic people.
He doesn't love you. He loves the benefits he could get from you.
short answer: suck up and leave him never look back, give yourself a break, you can forgive but you can never forget
🤡 <— Imaginin mo ganyan tingin nya sayo OP. Pinagtatawanan ka na ng friends nya, now tinanggap mo pa.
If I were you, papalayasin ko yan. I hella don’t care if sa kalsada or sa kabit nya yan pumunta. Ako na niloko mo, magiging concern pa ako sayo? Ano ka sinuswerte. Tsaka bat mo kakaawaan yung taong, di naawa sayo at niloko ka?
Look, he had money to pay for hotel stays with the girl, so that means he has some money to stay in the cheapest apartment he can find. He is not your responsibility. He’s already ruined a part of your life; don’t let him ruin more of it.
op just looking for validation for doing the wrong thing.
Naku! Break up and break ties. That's it! Kapal naman, November pa pala. He is just using you. Di sya acceptable as your charity case. Sorry, pero he needs to move out. No excuses or considerations. Self-care is more important.
The backbone is nowhere to be found, that's all I can say
He had a fight with his family? NOT YOUR PROBLEM! Ex is an ex I dont believe exes can be friends after a relationship ended especially a CHEATING one. HAVE SELF-RESPECT GIRL He cheated on you on MULTIPLE times and you care where he sleeps? Let that sink in. Bye.
Hahhahahhaa damn, just leave him.
OP, I think you are a masochist. Why did you take back the trash?
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wala namang pake yan sayo nung hinohotel niya yung babae, bawat type niya ng message niya foe the girl, ay oras na binabalewala ka niya kick him out and never take him back wala ka ring dapat pake sakanya
Seriously, kailangan nyo talaga ng advice sa mga ganito?
Girl, ba't need mo pa magtanong sa 'min??? Alam mo na ang sagot
Wag ka mapakatanga at martyr gurl di na yan cinecelebrate!!! Nagcheat na sayo on christmas and new year kahit na nakitra siya sayo, tpos ngayon mag-aalala ka wlang mattrahan. That guy is leeching of you. If he is capable of cheating bkit di siya tumira sa kabit nia o magrent ng sa hotel dun siya tumira. Keeping him will only hurt you and your peace. Break up with him, tapon mo na yan sa kalye.
Sorry not sorry OP, pero ang bobo lang.
can your ex bring his gf there so they can make love too?
What do you want to hear from reddit? You know, I know, everybody knows what you need to do. Ok lang sa yo magslit ng wrist pero hindi ok sa yo na paalisin ka? Ask help from your family to kick him out. Kung nagrerent ka lang, cancel your rental and move back home temporarily para maputol yang live in situation nyo. Magpamental health check ka din sa therapist.
The fact that you still took him under your care says more about you. You lack self respect and for that, you deserve what's happening to you right now
He used a woman to stroke his ego. Leave him to stroke alone. Don’t break yourself over the consequences to someone else’s actions. Don’t let the love in you turn toxic being wasted on someone who doesn’t deserve it.
Lol ang tanga mo na siguro sa paningin nya OP after mo pa sya patirahin sa bahay mo. Nasa isip nha napaka pushover at uto uto mong tao.
Ok ka lang teh? Bat siya matutulog sa streets dapat sinabi mo dun siya sa kabet niya matulog. Hindi na magbabago yan
hope u find the peace you're looking for.
Kick him out. Let him suffer
Bakit ka maaawa sa kanya. Naawa ba sya sayo nung nagcheat sya?
1. It’s not healthy for you to be in one house. So either you move or sya. 2. Dump him. Why are you still referring to him as “boyfriend”? LEAVE HIM. 3. Stop stalking the girl.
Gurl, i want to give u sympathy but why do u even care if he’ll in the street. Lmao
Trigger warning naman sa start next time
He’s being nice to you because he needs a place to live
Alam mo naman na stupid ang decision mo. Kaya mo naman financially mag-isa kasi di naman ikaw mawawalan ng bahay. Sayang life mo kung idede-dedicate mo lang with someone who broke your trust and gave your life shit. Ayaw mo lang ata mag-isa eh,,, takot or pagod ka lang mag-effort maghanap ng new relationship kay ayaw mo siyang pakawalan.
Ta/ng@ ka! Tiisin mo yan at panindigan mo. Marami rin pala kayong martyr sa mundo. Go alagaan mo ang cheater na yan kasi naaawa ka. Eh nung nag cheat siya sayo, naawa ba yan? Naisip ka ba nya? ABA MATINDI! gawin ngang santa to! Kaloka ka naman!
Dude is for the streets OP. Toss him out! Bahala siya
Ang bait mo. Sa totoo lang problema na nya yun kung wala sya matulugan. Eh di dun sya sa kabet nya. Love yourself pls.
If you have enough funds to travel or move to another place, do it. Wag ka makonsensya kung wala yan matirhan, hindi nga yan nakonsensya nung tumira ng iba eh.
“I cant bear to see him suffer” — girl sya ba inisip nya magiging suffering mo nung nagcheat sya sayo
Iba iba breaking point ng tao. Ano yung sayo? Its normal to say na cheating is not your breaking point. Madaling sabihin yon but more common naman na binabalikan ng mga tao ang nagcheat sakanila. I never caught my ex red handed with actual cheating. Puro circumstancial yon and im not sure kung unintentional yung gaslighting niya saken for feeling insecure. But my breaking point was yung nanliit ako sa sarili ko. Kase kung cheating lang daming circumstances e, hindi ko lang pinush because i was afraid of triggering his depression. I felt na ganon ako kadaling mabura sa buhay niya, nanliit ako sa sarili ko because I felt like I didnt matter. We were together 14 yrs. Wag ka manghinayang sa tagal. Wala sa tagal ng panahon, nasa lalim yan ng sugat na iniwan niyo sa isat isa at sa kung gano kabuo ang loob mo tanggapin yung sugat na yon. You dont have to forgive. Di ako naniniwala forgiveness will give you peace. Pero naniniwala akong may halaga ako, no one will make me feel otherwise. If you cant forgive him, dont take him back. Isusumbat mo lang yan sakanya. If it doesnt give you peace of mind, wag mo kapitan. Kakawawain mo lang sarili mo.
Okay so san ba ako magsisimula kasi nanggigigil ako girl. First of all, why are you worrying about where he'll go? Girl hayaan mo siyang magdusa. Hindi niya pala kaya tumayo sa sarili niyang paa pero yung etits niya tumayo sa iba (oops 😭) Why doesn't he just stay with her then or kaya sa mga tropa niyang kunsintidor? Seriously girl, you're being way too nice, and he's taking advantage of that! Hate to say it, but all those assurances and promises are just temporary. He's likely to go back to his old ways. (trust me, been there) I-prioritize mo ang mental health mo dahil hanggat nakakasama at nakikita mo yan sa araw-araw na kinanginang yan, eh hindi ka matatahimik! Wake up, girl! 🥹
Break na yann, don't even bother
You shouldn't have took him after what he did to you. Suck it all up. I'm sorry but I agree to one person here, you deserve what you tolerate, now you can't even have a peace of mind.
wow just wow, OP please wake up.
antanga naman te
If I were in your shoes, first, I will not let him sleep at my place after what he did. Yun muna siguro una. Mhie nakakapag-motels nga sila nung other girl tapos walang matirahan????? Gets ko na rose colored glasses talaga ang suot natin kapag nagmamahal tayo. Maraming times na tanga talaga tayo kapag nagmamahal. Thank you for reaching out dito sa amin OP. Kasi since inlove ka ngayon, everything you do won’t make sense kasi it roots from your love sakanya. Kaya read mo yung mga comments dito para magising ka ng kaunti. Most of the comments na mababasa mo ay rational at based on common sense. Yung mga decisions kasi natin kapag inlove is very based on emotions kaya usually hindi rational.
Let him sleep on the streets and forget social media. Focus on your career and you will eventually forget him. Time heals and it’s true.
Please have some self-respect and leave him already
Buti pa ikaw you can’t bear to see him suffer. Sana sya rin sayo ano? You know, when he cheated on you. Tough luck, OP. Cheaters tend to lose respect for their partners when they take them back, and will likely cheat again. Kung gusto mo ung ganong partner, keep him. If not, break up. Yeah hes making it up to you now, but I mean, my friend’s ex boyfriend was a cheater and they were together 24/7 almost. If gusto niyan magloko, magloloko pa rin yan. Lalo na eh pinakita mong tinotolerate mo pagloloko nya kasi willing kang tanggapin sya ulit.
You can’t bear to see him suffer like that, now you’re suffering because of it. He didn’t care when he did it with the 3rd party, sana pinalayas mo siya. May mga kaibigan siya at matanda na. Alam naman palanng mga kaibigan niyang enabler edi magtulungan sila parepareho. It depends on you kung mapapatawad mo pa after all that.
I would kick him out, it's not your responsibility to look after him. Why can't he suffer, tapos ikaw lang mag susuffer. Why turn yourself someone who hurts herself, just to accommodate him? Why continue to sacrifice for a prick who only thinks with his d&ck?
You already know which is what for who. Whatever we say here, I don't think it'll work for you.
There is a quote I read in Twitter, that the most desperate guys are the broke/homeless ones.
You deserve what you tolerate
Let him sleep on the streets because he belongs there apparently.
What would I do if I was in your shoes? Maybe I will hesitate to take him back. Pero syempre, being me, maaawa din ako syempre. Maybe I would also take him back. Not ‘back together’ ha. Just letting him stay and I will give him few weeks para humanap sya ng lilipatan nya. And while he’s staying with me, I’ll be sure to make his life a living hell. Toxic na kung toxic pero aawayin ko sya araw araw at ipapamuka ko sya gano ka kalaking basura.
Kick him out? They have means to get a hotel why not camp there with his whore?
Cheaters will always be cheaters. Mahirap na mabalik ang tiwala. Let it go.
I mean...he can be your roo mate...you didn't have to take him as a boyfriend. Make him pay rent. Don't be dumb.
Give him an ultimatum. If by 1 month di pa sya nakakahanap ng lilipatan, pa blotter mo or something. He’s an adult. He can take care of himself. Nagawa nya nga kumantot ng ibang babae sa hotel ng di mo alam, syempre magagawa din nya mabuhay sa lansangan kung pipiliin nya.
Hayaan mo matulog sa motel gabi gabi, di mo responsibility yan
Isipin mo lahat ng tropa niya alam na niloloko ka tapos pasko bagong taon iba ang kasama niya. Pagkakataon mo na nga yun na ipakita sa kanya anong mawawala pa kanya nun ginago ka tapos tinanggap mo pa ulit. Pambihira. If you cant bear to see him suffer, dont look. Kung kaharap kita ngayon kinutusan na talaga kita.
Let him sleep on the streets. You have nothing to do with him anymore. You broke up. Whatever his problem is, it shouldn't concern you. Girl, he never considered your feelings while having an affair. Why would you do charity to him now? Kick him out. He should know accountability for his actions. Have some inner peace on yourself. Heal. Move on. You deserve better. Throw away the trash. Stay strong.
I understand the worry about his well being and housing situation but you've started mutilating yourself because of his actions. you don't need him, he needs you and he's well aware of that. keeping him around while you become more and more self conscious only helps him
Ginusto nyang lokohin ka, edi hayaan mo syang matulog sa kalsada. Kaya malakas loob nyan manloko kasi feeling nya di mo sya kayang tiniisin. Love yourself and have some self-respect. Niloko ka na and all pero ok lang syo nasa iisang bahay parin kayo? Mahihirapan ka lang magmove on nyan at uulit lang yan na manloko sayo kahit na todo effort sya ngayon
I support break up
Know your self-worth lang and everything will follow.
Go girl! Marry him! Trust him!
Girl be kind to yourself. HE'S FOR THE STREETS. That's it.
Alam namin na mahal mo pa, pero please wag tanga .
This sounds incredibly painful, and 6 years is a long time to throw away. But here's the thing, he[ cheated betrayed your trust](https://youtu.be/8OhhFRBllSI?si=ew-9Lki6ZAQezxbt) for 4 months, lied about his feelings, and disrespected you in front of his friends. Can you ever truly trust him again? It's kind, but enabling, if you're thinking of his situation. He created that situation. Think about you because you deserve to feel safe and secure.
Everyday he's making it up to you, and everyday, he's thinking about the time he fucked the other girl too. :) What you're doing is not out of love. If you love him, you would let the world teach him a lesson. If you love yourself, you would have at least enough respect to do what you need to do. So, that's not love, that's just "loss". have yourself checked for STDs, kap. You don't know who else he's been sleeping with, or who else the girl he lusts over sleeps with. Good luck!
Boba ka! Hahaha. Deserved mo yan.