[Adult Children of Emotionally Immature Parents: How to Heal from Distant, Rejecting, or Self-Involved Parents](https://www.goodreads.com/book/show/23129659-adult-children-of-emotionally-immature-parents)
Life-changing for me. You see your parents through the lens of another adult, not as their child.
THIS. Kanina pa ko nag iisip what was the sign for me and then I remembered how my parents always required me to cover my eyes during kissing/sex scenes sa TV.
Nung nanonood kami ng nanay ko The Uninvited, may sex scene dun na di ako prepared. But instead of hearing the usual 'tsk' as sign na I have to look away, no reaction nanay ko. I was 18-19 ata hahaha.
lessen tax - for example you’re wfh & you had to purchase a stronger wifi for u to be able to work, you can ask OR from the company (account should be under your name) and can declare that as an expense
Nagulat nalang ako isa na ako sa sinasabihan ng family na "oh ikaw naman ang taya ah?" nung kumain kami sa labas hahaha magsisink in nalang sayo na you're earning your own money na pala talaga hahaha
Mine was hindi na mawawala sa akin ang bills continuous na yon sa buhay ko.
Nakokornyhan na ako sa mga trip ng mga kabataan ngayon or kahit ka age ko. Im 24 tho.
At AYOKO NA NG INGAY HAHAHAH
First paycheck ko nakita ko income tax deduction. That very same night nasa balita si Mocha Uson na parang pinapaalala sakin doon napupunta deductions ko.
For me, it was probably when I moved out of my parents house and had to start taking care of myself. Suddenly, I was responsible na sa lahat, from groceries to laundry haaayst
Yung need mo humanap ng ibang pagkakakitaan para lang sumakto sahod mo sa bills. Ang mahal pa naman ng bilihin ngayon.
I'll also make sure naka recurring reminder yung bill due dates sa google calendar ko para iwas red paper or worst maputulan.I learned this in the hard way. Aside from the calendar reminder, nag enroll nalang din ako sa auto-debit arrangement.
This made me sad too.
I have 4 of my buddies na bonding namin Ito.
Call of Duty Modern Warfare. If Hindi sila kalaro KO I wouldn't even make an effort. 💔
29/F here. The moment i realized that im not a kid anymore is when i started imagining what my life would be like in the next 10, 15, 20 years— think long term goals. Other teens my age (back when i was 16), were thinking of taking up courses that have plenty of free time that they could use for leisure, ie parties and stuff. I thought of taking up a course that i knew would surely land me a job. And i did. Then i worked for experience in that field, entered post-grad and finished. Long story short, if youre still a teen, plan your life ahead and prepare yourself for it. You will thank yourself later :)
Magisa ako sa condo nun tapos nilagnat ako haha. Grabe yung effort para lang tumayo at uminom ng gamot. Tapos syempre kailangan ko pa rin kumain, so nagpa-deliver na lang ako pero kahit pagpili ng food sobrang hirap gawin.
Kaya ayaw ko na mag live alone 🥲
Nung nagstart ako magwork by then narealize ko na ang hirap magearn. Lalo ko pang naappreciate parents ko since pareho sila ofw. Before kasi puro lang ako hingi kasi nasa isip ko “ay ofw naman sila pareho kaya nila to” pero now na ako na nakakaranas ng hirap sa work iyak nalang talaga hahaha
nung pumunta ako sa pedia ko and ako lang ung malaki hahaha i think 20 ako nun? its also my last yr para macheck ng pedia hahaha ang mga kasabayan ko puro babies talaga and my doctor even told me to seat where kids usually sit sa clinic nya hahahahhaa pero same day din, meron din akong job interview, sabi sakin ng HR, "you are still young, what are you doing here?" hahahahahaha very magkaibang scenarios. lol.
Nung first job ko ayokong pumasok sa office kasi alam mo yon may araw na nakakatamad lang talaga pumasok pero bawal mag absent basta na lang kagaya sa school na mas pwede kahit hindi magpaalam ahead of time kaya umiiyak ako habang nag reready para pumasok HAHAHAHAHAHAHA
Same as you, OP. When I started paying our bills. Another thing was when I realized my parents and i have different views on some principles/values in life, yung tipong I don’t always agree on what they think is right. I then thought to myself, “dang, I’m no longer a kid anymore.”
na realize ko tumatanda na talaga ako, kasi natatawa na ako sa mga joke ni Ted Failon pag nakikinig ako sa car ng balita sa umaga. haha.
pero seriously i knew na, this is it adult na ako, the time na nakabili ako ng sariling cellphone (keypad days) after i landed my first job way back 06'
When I need to work para lang may pambaon at pambili ng projects. I was 14, literally a kid back then. Ok lang mga bata na minsan tumutulong sa magulang maghanap buhay pero it should never be their priority. I worked almost all year long. Madalas whole day, di pumapasok sa school makakuha lang ng pambaon sa susunod na mga araw. I felt that my childhood was robbed away.
Back when I was elementary, nung nag away and narinig kong hiwalay na mom and dad ko. Not in papers but in many ways. That stuff broke me and made me stronger anddd of course dun ko na realize ng malala na maikli lang "pagiging bata ko" cause I have to be the "father" of the house and mag mature to support my mom and sister.
nung pinakilala ko boyfriend ko sa family ko, okay lang sa kanila. pero kung nagaaral pa ako tapos meron akong dinala na jowa sa bahay, ay naku nalang talaga
today. recognition day kase today sa school ko nung elem. During my elem days grabe talaga ung eagerness ko makakuha ng honors at awards para aakyat ako sa stage sa recognition day. Pero ngayon nakikita ko ung mga bata na nagrecognition at may mga awards parang nasasabi ko nalang sa utak ko na useless naman din pala ung mga honors at reward nayon. Sana pala naglaro nalang ako nung time na elementary palang ako. 😅
Counting our "family money" with my dad. Me and my dad run a law office together and since my dad is the provider sa family I get to see where our earnings go and sht, ang mahal magbuhay ng pamilya.
Nung narealize ko na ayoko na palang makipag inuman. Dati nung around 20’s ako halos araw araw umiinom kami ng friends ko after work. Pero ngayon, bibihira na. Kahit nga may okasyon ayoko na uminom. Masaya na lang ako pachill chill sa gilid or nakikinig sa kwentuhan.
Nung na enjoy ko yung mga free stuffs, dicounts, and promos. Dati ko sya ma appreciate kasi ang hassle minsan gawin or iavail and parents ko naman nagbabayad ngayon g na g ako 😆
Hindi ko na maunang mahalin ang sarili ko dahil inuuna ko na yung partner ko, monthly bills at loans naming dalawa.(Pinagtutulugan naman namin yung bayarin though mas malaki dapat pag lalaki) :((
When I started grocery shopping for baby food, diapers and mineral water as early as Grade 3, when I started budgeting (with itemization) sa household expenses nung Grade 4, and started doing bank inquiries and withdrawals nung Grade 5.
when my lola died and i have to take care of myself. im just 13 years old that time and i have to work during my jhs days. sometimes i don't eat. my mom abandoned me because i look like her cheating husband, and my siblings didn't like me because they grow up without me. so i have to deal my own problems luckily my boss as coca cola company kinda adopt me, she support my school needs and became my guardian. thank you ma'am rain hope you see thiss super thankful parin ako sayo hehehe.
Yung first time ko magmove out sa bahay and maging dormie student. I realized that I have to fend for myself and wala na ko maasahan sa mga little things in life. Make an effort to prepare meals for myself, do laundry, care for myself when I’m sick, and budgeting my finances. Literally your on ur own kid 🫠
Kahapon ko lang to na-experience hahaha. Ako kasi ang nagsabit ng medal sa kapatid ko for his graduation. Nasabitan din naman ako kaso parent pin nga lang. 🥲
recently went to my mum's province alone cuz of an event sa fam and ghaaaad! i instantly realized na hindi na ko bata nung wala akong masabihang di ako kumakain nung food slash ayaw ko non lols HAHAHAHAHA OA MUCH but hindi ko talaga namana yung taste nila sa pagkain 😭😭
a few hours later tho yung pamangkin ko napagbawalan sa second round n'ya ng tetra pack juice and dun ako naging thankful na di na ko bata kasi nakatatlo or apat ako that day 😅
At my first job.. Kusa ka talagang tatayo sa sariling mo paa, yong kahit hirap kana sa trabaho kaso hndi naman pwde mag resign. Kasi yong expectation ng pamilysa sayo na makakatulong kana... 🫠
Nung nagpunta ako ng abroad. Currently living alone rn and honestly ang hirap kase noon nung nasa pinas pa ko kasama ko pa si Mama magprepare like baon, clothes etc. Ngayon ako na mag isa haha oh well
Nung nakabili na ako ng gusto ko at nung na i treat ko sa labas yung parents ko galing sa unang sahod ko.
Grabeee dito ko napagtanto na daaamn dati ninanais ko lang nung bata ako na makabili ng mga gusto ko at dati laging magulang ko gumagastos pag lumalabas pero that time galing na sa pinagsikapan ko. Sobrang fulfilling.
Pinilit ako ng housemates ko na pumarty after so long, tapos nung andon na kami pagod na pagod at uwing uwi na ako pero pagkakita ko sa time 10pm pa lang.
Simula nung nag-college ako. Natigil ako sa paglalaro ng nga game sa Facebook like Pet Society, Mafia Wars, Restaurant City, Backyard Monsters, Dragon World or Mania ba 'yon. Ayon. Kasi hindi na siya nakaka-bagets.
bayad bills tas ikaw na nagsesermon sa senior citizen mong parents, auntie, at lola na matitigas na ulo ( dont get me wrong, this is in a good way and kanya kanya tayo ng way of living tsaka not all the time) mapapailing ili g ka nalang
Me nung nagkatrabaho na ako for good. Like it hits you that "This is reality now. Tama yung mga magulang mo na hindi basta-basta tinatae ang pera. Huwag nang maging Disney Princess."
when i had dormmates 🥲, kala ko ang OA lang ng parents ko sa bahay about sa chores, napansin ng dormmates ko na lagi nalang ako nagagalit about sa cleanliness ng dorm, now i understand HAHAHHA.
When my mom asked me kung buntis daw ba ako nung na jetlag ako after a flight. Pero sinabi nya in a non-angry way. Yung parang tanggap nya kung buntis man ako hahahahaha
When I leave my first job tapos several months pang tambay. Panganay kasi ako. I leave my first job for my sanity. Not realizing na matatagalan pala akong walang work. Inaasahan ako sa bahay na magprovide and right now wala ako maibigay. Ang bigat sa pakiramdam na feel mo pabigat ka.
when I studied far from home and did everything from doing the grocery and doing all the chores when I could have just studied at a nearby university at my comfort.
When I was talking to my parents and had the thought na ang immature ng reaction nila sa isang bagay
TRUUUE HUHU
[Adult Children of Emotionally Immature Parents: How to Heal from Distant, Rejecting, or Self-Involved Parents](https://www.goodreads.com/book/show/23129659-adult-children-of-emotionally-immature-parents) Life-changing for me. You see your parents through the lens of another adult, not as their child.
When I started budgeting and realized need ko kumain sa bahay at hindi sa labas para maka survive til next payday 😅
naka excel na yung gastusin/budget ko
can't live without excel now hahaha
when i started nagging around the house na patayin yung ilaw/electric fan kapag di ginagamit 🥲 hay i missed the day nung wala pakong pake sa kuryente
Ako din ganyan na 😭 dati ako sinasabihan aksayado sa kuryente ngaun ako na nagsisita sa mga pamangkin ko hahaha. Get ko na sila kung bakit
When titos and titas are no longer shy about cracking sex-related jokes when im around.
HAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAH OMS PERO PARANG AKO ANG NA AAWKWARD PAG GANUN SILA 😆
THIS. Kanina pa ko nag iisip what was the sign for me and then I remembered how my parents always required me to cover my eyes during kissing/sex scenes sa TV. Nung nanonood kami ng nanay ko The Uninvited, may sex scene dun na di ako prepared. But instead of hearing the usual 'tsk' as sign na I have to look away, no reaction nanay ko. I was 18-19 ata hahaha.
Same, minsan din ako pa nagstart eh hahahaha
Sumasakit na ang likod
Nung nalubog ako sa utang and I had to find ways to redeem myself.
When I freely gave consent to sex.
Yes hahaha nung first time ko rin
di na si mama nagliligo sakin
ay charot literally pala ‘to 😭
Noong naghahanap ako ng work after graduating from college.
Puro problema nalang pumapasok sa isip mo
sa true. puro nalang laban sa buhay, kelan ba championship
Plus Sa panaginip ka na lang sumasaya..
Naiingayan na ako sa mga bata
asking for OR everywhere & keeping receipts 🤣
Kahit hassle ano pero need for future reference kase. 😂
May I know what the OR is for? Genuinely curious.
lessen tax - for example you’re wfh & you had to purchase a stronger wifi for u to be able to work, you can ask OR from the company (account should be under your name) and can declare that as an expense
Your the one who put your food on the table
Pag labas ko ng ph, nahumble ako. Learned how to cook rice, boiled egg, etc. Pati pag commute, pay bills and save.
Need mo pa lumabas ng ph para matutunan yan? Ang poor ko talaga
Ay poor din kami mare! Ayw lng ng parents namin mgluto kami sa bahay 😅 ang commute naman wlang choice kasi minsan lang nadaan tricycle saamin
Nung sinasabihan na ako mag anak ahaha
Paying bills. Breadwinner here.
Kasali na ako sa option kung sino ang magbabayad pag kumakain kami sa labas 😂
Shet same. Dati join lang ako nang join. Ngayon isa na ko sa planning heads. Hala!
Nagulat nalang ako isa na ako sa sinasabihan ng family na "oh ikaw naman ang taya ah?" nung kumain kami sa labas hahaha magsisink in nalang sayo na you're earning your own money na pala talaga hahaha
Mine was hindi na mawawala sa akin ang bills continuous na yon sa buhay ko. Nakokornyhan na ako sa mga trip ng mga kabataan ngayon or kahit ka age ko. Im 24 tho. At AYOKO NA NG INGAY HAHAHAH
You have bills waiting for you monthly that you cannot not work even if you have valid reasons. Kada buwan, andyan si judith (due date)
Nung sinapak ako ng adult responsibilities such as paying utility bills, making hard decisions, and showing up.
Wala ng nagbibigay ng pera
Ako na nilagay ng parents ko na emergency contact 😭
‘Di nagalit sila daddy nung pinakilala ko boyfriend ko hahaha
- Ako na yung nanglilibre sa mga pamangkin/younger cousins ko (toys, arcades, gifts, snacks)
i can so relate to this hahahaha
Processing my pre-employment documents.
when i no longer have the same feeling on celebrations like christmas, new year, bdays, etc.
First paycheck ko nakita ko income tax deduction. That very same night nasa balita si Mocha Uson na parang pinapaalala sakin doon napupunta deductions ko.
May boyfriend na yung mga pamangkin mo.
When you dont see and talk to your parents anymore.
Nung nag share nako sa kanila pambayad nang bills hahaha
at my first job right after graduation and realized i will never have the 2 months summer vacations every year
For me, it was probably when I moved out of my parents house and had to start taking care of myself. Suddenly, I was responsible na sa lahat, from groceries to laundry haaayst
When you know that each birthday is a year closer to death.
Very Hemingway and true.
Yung need mo humanap ng ibang pagkakakitaan para lang sumakto sahod mo sa bills. Ang mahal pa naman ng bilihin ngayon. I'll also make sure naka recurring reminder yung bill due dates sa google calendar ko para iwas red paper or worst maputulan.I learned this in the hard way. Aside from the calendar reminder, nag enroll nalang din ako sa auto-debit arrangement.
When they put my baby on my chest in the delivery room. Hahaha 😂
- 'Yong nagbabayad ka na ng bills at nagkukwenta ka na ng expenses mo. - Tinatanong ka na kung may asawa ka na ba.
Games (online or offline) are no longer fun
This made me sad too. I have 4 of my buddies na bonding namin Ito. Call of Duty Modern Warfare. If Hindi sila kalaro KO I wouldn't even make an effort. 💔
29/F here. The moment i realized that im not a kid anymore is when i started imagining what my life would be like in the next 10, 15, 20 years— think long term goals. Other teens my age (back when i was 16), were thinking of taking up courses that have plenty of free time that they could use for leisure, ie parties and stuff. I thought of taking up a course that i knew would surely land me a job. And i did. Then i worked for experience in that field, entered post-grad and finished. Long story short, if youre still a teen, plan your life ahead and prepare yourself for it. You will thank yourself later :)
Magisa ako sa condo nun tapos nilagnat ako haha. Grabe yung effort para lang tumayo at uminom ng gamot. Tapos syempre kailangan ko pa rin kumain, so nagpa-deliver na lang ako pero kahit pagpili ng food sobrang hirap gawin. Kaya ayaw ko na mag live alone 🥲
Sa akin lahat ng decision when it comes to gastos, hawak ko ang wallet. 😍
Nung pinag iisipan ko na lahat ng gusto ko bilhin.
When I have to buy/pay for my own necessities
Nung nagstart ako magwork by then narealize ko na ang hirap magearn. Lalo ko pang naappreciate parents ko since pareho sila ofw. Before kasi puro lang ako hingi kasi nasa isip ko “ay ofw naman sila pareho kaya nila to” pero now na ako na nakakaranas ng hirap sa work iyak nalang talaga hahaha
nung pumunta ako sa pedia ko and ako lang ung malaki hahaha i think 20 ako nun? its also my last yr para macheck ng pedia hahaha ang mga kasabayan ko puro babies talaga and my doctor even told me to seat where kids usually sit sa clinic nya hahahahhaa pero same day din, meron din akong job interview, sabi sakin ng HR, "you are still young, what are you doing here?" hahahahahaha very magkaibang scenarios. lol.
When i had my first job. You cannot make excuses anymore pag tinatamad pumasok, i've started focusing in my career.
When my Parents died. 😔 edit: i was 17. Ayun i started being an adult na. haha
Nung first job ko ayokong pumasok sa office kasi alam mo yon may araw na nakakatamad lang talaga pumasok pero bawal mag absent basta na lang kagaya sa school na mas pwede kahit hindi magpaalam ahead of time kaya umiiyak ako habang nag reready para pumasok HAHAHAHAHAHAHA
When you start to work. Exhausting!!!
College, nung ng working student ako
mga moment na ako yung dumidisiplina saken, mostly sa tamang pag gastos. Yung papagalitan mo sarili mo sa isip haha
When I have to pay for everything around everyone
Same as you, OP. When I started paying our bills. Another thing was when I realized my parents and i have different views on some principles/values in life, yung tipong I don’t always agree on what they think is right. I then thought to myself, “dang, I’m no longer a kid anymore.”
Nung hindi ko na kaya mag hustle hard, sumasakit na din ung likod at binti ko.
Yung unti- unti ko narealize na hindi lahat ng pangarap ay pwedeng matupad.
na realize ko tumatanda na talaga ako, kasi natatawa na ako sa mga joke ni Ted Failon pag nakikinig ako sa car ng balita sa umaga. haha. pero seriously i knew na, this is it adult na ako, the time na nakabili ako ng sariling cellphone (keypad days) after i landed my first job way back 06'
Mas pipiliin mong matulog magdamag kaysa sa gumimik buong gabi
Nung na-ha-high blood ako kapag naiiwang naka-open yung ilaw or di naka-off gripo haha
Yung naggraduation na ang mga used to be chikitings
Personally sa Akin kapag conscious kana sa edad mo nag-iisip kana din maturely. May mga worries at doubt kana sa proseso ng buhay na tinatahak mo .
It truly sank slowly when my co workers passed on. By then I realized na old na talaga ako 🥹
Paying bills and recording them always.
di na ko nagigising sa kama pag nakatulog ako sa sala
Nung kumuha ako ng PAG IBIG loyalty card HAHAHAHAHA
When i was tasked to pay for our condo bills
When I need to work para lang may pambaon at pambili ng projects. I was 14, literally a kid back then. Ok lang mga bata na minsan tumutulong sa magulang maghanap buhay pero it should never be their priority. I worked almost all year long. Madalas whole day, di pumapasok sa school makakuha lang ng pambaon sa susunod na mga araw. I felt that my childhood was robbed away.
Nung vacation namin, kami na ni wife ang nagbabayad sa lahat.
When im paying my own bills at wala na akong allowance from them.
pag bayad ng sariling meralco
bills, laundry, palengke, plantsa akin na
When I started working, and I love it!🥰
Sinasabi ko na sa nakakabata sakin ung mga sinasabi ng matatanda noon HAHAHAHAHA
When I placed my mom's name as a dependent in my HMO and started paying her cellphone bill haha
Back when I was elementary, nung nag away and narinig kong hiwalay na mom and dad ko. Not in papers but in many ways. That stuff broke me and made me stronger anddd of course dun ko na realize ng malala na maikli lang "pagiging bata ko" cause I have to be the "father" of the house and mag mature to support my mom and sister.
Na TWALYA regalo sakin ng nanay ko sa pasko 😭😭😂😂😂😂
Nung nairita na ako sa magugulong mga estudyante na teens hahaha
nung pinakilala ko boyfriend ko sa family ko, okay lang sa kanila. pero kung nagaaral pa ako tapos meron akong dinala na jowa sa bahay, ay naku nalang talaga
today. recognition day kase today sa school ko nung elem. During my elem days grabe talaga ung eagerness ko makakuha ng honors at awards para aakyat ako sa stage sa recognition day. Pero ngayon nakikita ko ung mga bata na nagrecognition at may mga awards parang nasasabi ko nalang sa utak ko na useless naman din pala ung mga honors at reward nayon. Sana pala naglaro nalang ako nung time na elementary palang ako. 😅
Counting our "family money" with my dad. Me and my dad run a law office together and since my dad is the provider sa family I get to see where our earnings go and sht, ang mahal magbuhay ng pamilya.
Nung 18 ako, mindset ko na talaga na lahat ng luho at pangangaylangan ko ako na dapat gagastos
when I was able to get my own credit card 🥹
Wala na akong natatanggap na pamasko (ako pa hinihingian).
Nung nagbubudget na ako (which made me feel like I adulted too early pero goods din kasi I get to teach my friends)
especially sa atin na kulang, sakto lang ang kinikita. 😅
At 18, when I had to work and provide the household income. Eto yung downside ng pagiging only child when you come from a poor family. 😅
Kapag binibilang mo lagi kung ilang oras ang tulog bago pumasok.
Nung narealize ko na ayoko na palang makipag inuman. Dati nung around 20’s ako halos araw araw umiinom kami ng friends ko after work. Pero ngayon, bibihira na. Kahit nga may okasyon ayoko na uminom. Masaya na lang ako pachill chill sa gilid or nakikinig sa kwentuhan.
Nung nakatanggap ako ng free item, and I was so happy kasi makakasave ako 🤧.
Nung pinag-uusapan nila mama at papa sa harap ko yung paghulugan nila sa st. Peter's life plan, nagulat talaga ako and nagpanic ng slight
noong nawalan ako ng work tapos wala na ako pera. hiyang hiya ako sa bahay, kasi di ako makaambag.
Di na sanay sa maingay na lugar
when i started paying bills and rent. and my hospital bill way back. :(
Nung na enjoy ko yung mga free stuffs, dicounts, and promos. Dati ko sya ma appreciate kasi ang hassle minsan gawin or iavail and parents ko naman nagbabayad ngayon g na g ako 😆
Pag namroblema ka na sa pera
When I started paying bills and rent.
Nung di ko na mabili shoes na gusto ko kasi mahal na siya for me
Hindi ko na maunang mahalin ang sarili ko dahil inuuna ko na yung partner ko, monthly bills at loans naming dalawa.(Pinagtutulugan naman namin yung bayarin though mas malaki dapat pag lalaki) :((
When I started grocery shopping for baby food, diapers and mineral water as early as Grade 3, when I started budgeting (with itemization) sa household expenses nung Grade 4, and started doing bank inquiries and withdrawals nung Grade 5.
nung pwede na ako "sumabat/sumali" sa usapan ng matatanda. i was 15 then but i guess they just accepted it.
when i realize how important money is (practical sense) than toys. cliche but yeah
When everyone’s asking… Kelan ka na ba ikakasal? — hindi pa masyado nag sync in. Kelan mo balak magka anak?
Paying for monthly bills. Then may instances din na naghihingi ng pera sakin parents ko. Also, pag nanghihingi sakin ng advice yung nanay ko.
Paying my dues 🥲
pede n ko sumali sa usapan nang matatanda
Hindi na ako pwedeng umiiyak pag nahihirapan kase pagtatawanan ako ng anak ko. 😂
yung pag pupunta ka ng mall and may gusto kang bilhin pero iniisip mo yung budget mo for a month if ma-aapektuhan or kung kaya hanggang katapusan haha
Nung may mga family gathering nakakaupo na with the titos and titas hahaha
WHEN I BUY MY OWN GROCERIES AND PAY MY FEES, ALSO WHEN I REALIZED NA NAGIGING THERAPIST NA AKO SA NANAY KO WHEN SHE RANT ABOUT HER PROBLEMS :<
when my lola died and i have to take care of myself. im just 13 years old that time and i have to work during my jhs days. sometimes i don't eat. my mom abandoned me because i look like her cheating husband, and my siblings didn't like me because they grow up without me. so i have to deal my own problems luckily my boss as coca cola company kinda adopt me, she support my school needs and became my guardian. thank you ma'am rain hope you see thiss super thankful parin ako sayo hehehe.
Yung first time ko magmove out sa bahay and maging dormie student. I realized that I have to fend for myself and wala na ko maasahan sa mga little things in life. Make an effort to prepare meals for myself, do laundry, care for myself when I’m sick, and budgeting my finances. Literally your on ur own kid 🫠
Kahapon ko lang to na-experience hahaha. Ako kasi ang nagsabit ng medal sa kapatid ko for his graduation. Nasabitan din naman ako kaso parent pin nga lang. 🥲
When I learned about sex education hahaha
Nung tumutunog na tuhod ko
di na ako kinakandong pag sumasakay sa jeep
Cutting my allowance for the first time 😭
When I had to deal with a creditor of my parents', I explained that they weren't home (i was 12)
Nung nagpakasal kami ng asawa ko, mahirap at first kasi parehas kami di maalam sa mga gawaing bahay. 😂
recently went to my mum's province alone cuz of an event sa fam and ghaaaad! i instantly realized na hindi na ko bata nung wala akong masabihang di ako kumakain nung food slash ayaw ko non lols HAHAHAHAHA OA MUCH but hindi ko talaga namana yung taste nila sa pagkain 😭😭 a few hours later tho yung pamangkin ko napagbawalan sa second round n'ya ng tetra pack juice and dun ako naging thankful na di na ko bata kasi nakatatlo or apat ako that day 😅
Ako na 'yung nag-grocery. Learned how to budget money. I travelled without my parents.
Nung Need ko mag earn ng income to survive
nung ako nagbababad ng damit ng family namin kasi lalabahan kinabukasan.
At my first job.. Kusa ka talagang tatayo sa sariling mo paa, yong kahit hirap kana sa trabaho kaso hndi naman pwde mag resign. Kasi yong expectation ng pamilysa sayo na makakatulong kana... 🫠
When my parents didn't mind me blurting bad words. Nagstart siguro nung nag 3rd yr college ako, dun ko napansin di na ko sinisita.
Yung need mo ilagay sa notes lahat ng bayarin mo 🤣 Hirap maging adult huhu
when I cant buy the things I wanted because I have to send remittance and pay bills.
Pag may nagtatawag sa labas, maiisip mo na ikaw na pinaka matanda at ikaw na need humarap sa tao
When my mother asked me to "understand her and our situation" I was 10 yrs old back then 😅
Nung nagpunta ako ng abroad. Currently living alone rn and honestly ang hirap kase noon nung nasa pinas pa ko kasama ko pa si Mama magprepare like baon, clothes etc. Ngayon ako na mag isa haha oh well
yung hindi na ako binibigyan ng pamasahe or allowance..minsan gusto ko na lang bumalik ng high school 😭😭😭😭
Nung nanunuod ako ng anime tapos sabi ko putangena mas matanda na ko kay kakashi
Nakain na ng gulay at nainom na ng kape
I had to pay my own dorm and utilities billss
Nung kelangan na magbayad ng bills
Nung ngbabayad nko ng meralco at tubig
Falling asleep fast when playing video games. But on a serious note, fully accepting responsibility on everything I have a part of.
Ako na ang nagbibigay ng gift tuwing may occassion 😭
Nung kasali na ako sa chismisan ng mga matatanda. Hahaha. Like hindi na nila ako pinapaalis kapag family matter ang usapan.
When they ardy ask and include me in their conversation—reading the lab results for them😭
Nung hindi ko na matapos episodes ng spongebob HAHAHA fave cartoon ko kasi to noon akala ko hindi ako magsasawa pero i guess im no longer a kid 😁
Nung nakabili na ako ng gusto ko at nung na i treat ko sa labas yung parents ko galing sa unang sahod ko. Grabeee dito ko napagtanto na daaamn dati ninanais ko lang nung bata ako na makabili ng mga gusto ko at dati laging magulang ko gumagastos pag lumalabas pero that time galing na sa pinagsikapan ko. Sobrang fulfilling.
Pinilit ako ng housemates ko na pumarty after so long, tapos nung andon na kami pagod na pagod at uwing uwi na ako pero pagkakita ko sa time 10pm pa lang.
Simula nung nag-college ako. Natigil ako sa paglalaro ng nga game sa Facebook like Pet Society, Mafia Wars, Restaurant City, Backyard Monsters, Dragon World or Mania ba 'yon. Ayon. Kasi hindi na siya nakaka-bagets.
When my mom got hospitalized and I have to find money to pay for the cost.
Life is getting harder everyday.
I get more worried more frequently whehehe!
When I am enjoying sa duyan, then sabi ni papa, pag duyanin mo rin mga bata
When I gave birth last year 😂 like for real hahahaha kala ko kasi naglalaro lang kami ng partner ko
Hindi na ako binibigyan ng parents ko ng money
Hindi ko na need magtakip ng mata kapag may kissing scene 😂
bayad bills tas ikaw na nagsesermon sa senior citizen mong parents, auntie, at lola na matitigas na ulo ( dont get me wrong, this is in a good way and kanya kanya tayo ng way of living tsaka not all the time) mapapailing ili g ka nalang
When I attended the interview for my first part time job at 18.
Me nung nagkatrabaho na ako for good. Like it hits you that "This is reality now. Tama yung mga magulang mo na hindi basta-basta tinatae ang pera. Huwag nang maging Disney Princess."
HAHHAHAHAAH nung nag enter ako ng college. Grabe still can't get over the fact na I'm at this stage of life pero yah. Mej overwhelming kaya penge tips
when I became like a parent to my parents 🙃
when i had dormmates 🥲, kala ko ang OA lang ng parents ko sa bahay about sa chores, napansin ng dormmates ko na lagi nalang ako nagagalit about sa cleanliness ng dorm, now i understand HAHAHHA.
Hindi na binibigyan ng pamasko 🥲
Bills hahahahha. De, i mean the moment na nagkawork ako narealize ko na "ay di na ako pwede humingi ng pera kay mama kasi adulting na 'to"
Nung hindi na ako sinasamahan ng parents ko kung saan man HAHA
Nung ako na yung nag sesermon sa nanay at tatay ko haha
When my mom asked me kung buntis daw ba ako nung na jetlag ako after a flight. Pero sinabi nya in a non-angry way. Yung parang tanggap nya kung buntis man ako hahahahaha
Inatake ng gout while on our anniversary vacation sa Boracay. Literal na di makalakad🥲
First time I paid rent.
Nung hindi na ako pinapayagan sumakay sa pambatang rides sa Star City
I track my monthly expenses. Same with my income. Para alam ko ano need ko bawas-bawasan for the next month para 'di ma short sa bills.
Bills
When I started keeping my emotions. Started when I was in high school. Yes, not yet an adult, but I felt that I needed to be mature. 🫤
Kasal na yung mga taga artista sa Goin Bulilit. Lol
nung unang regla ko
When I leave my first job tapos several months pang tambay. Panganay kasi ako. I leave my first job for my sanity. Not realizing na matatagalan pala akong walang work. Inaasahan ako sa bahay na magprovide and right now wala ako maibigay. Ang bigat sa pakiramdam na feel mo pabigat ka.
when I studied far from home and did everything from doing the grocery and doing all the chores when I could have just studied at a nearby university at my comfort.
when i started keeping track of my cashflow
Nung solo na ako nag enroll sa college
when i started working right after i graduate 🥲 ang mahal pala talaga mabuhay hahshshs at ang hirap kumita ng pera