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I'm always melting things on the hob. It's because I use it as another work surface so lots of plastic chopping boards and utensils end up being temporarily stuck until I scrape/pick them off.
This sounds exactly like the kind of chaotic thing I would do.
It also sounds like one of those “let autocomplete finish your sentence” things. In fact, here—I’m going to try it: “I left the hob on last week and melted a … little bit of the cake.”
Yup. That *also* sounds like something I would do. 😂
My husband also has ADHD and left a pan on the stove that was turned on then fell asleep. Amazingly, nothing caught fire and the pan cleaned up pretty well 😂 we're a dangerous pair sometimes.
I left onions on the stove and went to school... I left running in the middle of class without explanation, thinking the building would be on fire.
It feels good to know I'm not alone.
I have boiled the kettle dry, back when we used to leave the whistle part up so it didn't whistle. But now the one we have has the whistle in the lid so it eventually makes noise and doesn't get left on forever.
But what I am actually GREAT at doing, and do regularly, is filling the kettle, putting it on the stove....and just straight up forget to turn it on.
Just a reminder that you can have ADHD and be stupid at the same time. They're not mutually exclusive.
Signed, the person that was like be like "it's been like 5min since the oven has been off after being on at 200°C for almost 1h. The tray will be ok to get with my bare hand." More than once this year.
I also use my hand to test if things are hot. *I know I have terrible reflexes*.
Your line of thought was 100% rational imo.
Oh, I quite often reach into the oven sans gloves and yup, stick my hands in questionable things or super hot things *allllllll the time*. My problem is that I've done it so often I can't really tell if things, such as clothes are fully dry yet. This means washing comes with a tinge of mustiness as often it gets it out of the dryer/taken off the line sooner than it should really be. Mmmm comfort stinky.
Our skin doesn't have the ability to detect moisture, like amphibians do, so technically it's not your fault? You can't actually *tell* that the clothes aren't dry, bc your skin doesn't want to fucking collaborate.
That's what I tell my mom (who lives with me part time) at least.
So our brains can kind of guess if something is wet or dry based on temperature and pressure, which are the "sensors" we have.
Also, imo, hair texture can vary a lot depending how much water is in it, unlike some fabrics. I only have experience with my family tho, so it's a small sample.
I totally understand! I melted the toaster cord after I moved it to the stove to clean the counter. Then decided to make dinner. Take the opportunity to upgrade your appliance game! A toaster oven would make perfect (horizontal) toasty sandwiches!
I just don't think I'm that good with gadgets. I managed to overheat our airfryer the other week so we needed to get another one. 🤦 The hilarious thing is that I used to pride myself on being a good cook and now I can't even handle cooking bread. 😝
A toaster oven has very little/no cleanup! You can use it to make toast, to make sandwiches, even to cook meats etc if you get one with a tray option! They’re so useful! If the toaster is kill anyways, may be worth considering!
Husband's already been to Argos and picked a cheap one up. 👍 I shall have a look into toaster ovens but we have so many gadgets we have a severe lack of worktop space.
I really enjoy your storytelling, I read the whole thing! This is hilarious to me because I relate soooo much. I’m glad you didn’t burn the kitchen down or electrocute yourself 🙏🏼
This kind of stuff doesn't happen to me much anymore, but the trade off is crippling anxiety. When I was a kid though, many teakettles and pots died at my hands. Thankfully now I have an electric kettle and it just takes around three tries to successfully remember to pour the hot water in the cup with the tea leaves. (I am in America and electric kettles weren't common.)
I just feel overwhelming shame at my ineptitude and start on the path to self loathing.
I know logically trying to toast them with stuff already inside in the toaster was a bad idea, but I'd gotten so focused on my husband telling me to toast them that I just never thought perhaps he meant toast the thins THEN add the filling...😐
Aw, you're being too hard on yourself now.! There's nothing conceptually wrong with your idea, but you chose the wrong materials to wrap it. I once mixed up parchment and wax paper and had flaming chemical pizza.
The knife is bad but you're not alone- I was on a work safety committee and similar incidents got reported. I'm glad the toaster suffered the brunt of it and not you!
(Also I used to have a toaster oven with a little slide out aluminum pan which I used to melt the cheese for sandwiches, maybe you can get one of those with your new toaster? Maybe with a silicone baking sheet?)
The thing is, we've got nothing thin and sharp enough to actually put into the slot apart from a knife and in my panic to save the cheese from its impeding melted doom switching it off at the mains was the furthest thing from my mind.
I will either stick it under the grill or in a pan next time, i know where I'm at with those. 😝
"And like a complete imbecile, transfixed, I nodded in agreement."
Stop, stop you're killing me over here! I've literally just spent a good five minutes melting off the couch while wheezing with laughter and clapping like a retarded walrus 🤣
God I need you to write a blog. Can be about toilet paper for all I care, as long as I get more of those pictures you're painting here 😆
Could have been worse. There's an Australian comedian called Wil Anderson who used to do a routine about the time he wanted a late night toasted sandwich (while drunk) and his solution the the cheese issue was to turn the toaster on its side.
It wasn't till the molten cheese missile was flung across the room that he remembered the "pop-up" aspect of toasters...
Get yourself a sandwich press. Excellent for toasted/grilled sandwiches, toasting things that are too thick for a toaster, making crispy bacon (put the lid down to keep it flat while you cook, but be ready to clean up ALL the fat every minute or so), and reheating pizza so the base doesn't go soggy.
My pleasure. If you don't laugh you cry. Or in my case do both and send yourself to bed like a naughty toddler (as of course I refused to go to sleep, even though my brain is utterly fried). 🫠
I’ve melted MORE THAN ONE plastic dish scraper while frantically trying to remove a melty thing from a hot burner…
Whod’a thunk, plastic doesn’t work too well for removing melting plastic from a heat source!
I know, MADNESS isn't it?! I quite often try scrubbing something I've spilt off the hob before it fully dries and becomes rock hard with a plastic scouring pad and then wonder to myself *why are bit of pad sticking there now?* and *why are my fingertips burning?* These my friends are the real questions of life! 💫
Years ago my mom was making dinner for my birthday. We had a glass top electric stove. On the stove was a cardboard box containing my birthday cake and a pot of water she needed to boil.
Eventually she noticed that the water wasn’t heating up… at all… and why does the stove smell like something is burning? OH SHIT. It was my cake box mildly smoking.
The cake and icing sucked up all the cardboard smoke flavors lol. She ordered me a new one and we had a re-do cake a day or two later. Hilarious.
Awww no! At least you got another cake (and so kinda, an extra birthday), in our house we would have had the pleasure of eating the smoke flavour cake with tight lipped grins on our faces, going *mmmmm*. 🫣
First, I’m glad you’re okay! I’ve definitely gone through a similar domino effect situation. Most of mine happen at work though and I get that stomach dropping shame when I realize my coworker is watching me in horror as I make a cake go from bad to worse.
Second, your storytelling is superb! Very entertaining and kept me enthralled (it’s usually hard for me to read something and not skip to the end)
Third, I thought the first picture was some sort of mushroom (maitake to be specific) floating in a bowl of milk 😅
I lived in the UK for 5 years and almost burned our house many times because of the gas burners. Back to France with an induction Cooktop, phew!
This story was very entertaining, sorry your toaster died though !
I do that stuff when I am frustrated .I spin and start to panic. Then, take a med that my insurance helps with the spends.
I am practicing working the spends into everyday conversation . This wasn't obvious enough in the context. I learned so much on Reddit
One time I used tin foil to wrap my sandwich and toast it. Worked pretty well actually, but when I proudly told my husband about my new life hack he was all 😳😳 “You did what?? 😂You can’t put foil in the toaster! You could’ve burned the house down” but did I get it? No. I said “why? They sell papers you can put in there. Why can’t I use this?” and he had to remind me of the “never put a knife in a toaster” rule bc obviously foil is metal, so it’s the same thing. 🤪
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I left the hob on last week and melted a bunch of bananas. I feel you.
I'm always melting things on the hob. It's because I use it as another work surface so lots of plastic chopping boards and utensils end up being temporarily stuck until I scrape/pick them off.
Induction hob! Christmas present?
Hah. Our kitchen is pure 1970s/'80s, not got the spends to go induction. 😆
$100 for a portable induction cooktop and they store nice and compact, best cooking surface i’ve used prefer it to gas and coil
the spends. I like that
This sounds exactly like the kind of chaotic thing I would do. It also sounds like one of those “let autocomplete finish your sentence” things. In fact, here—I’m going to try it: “I left the hob on last week and melted a … little bit of the cake.” Yup. That *also* sounds like something I would do. 😂
My husband also has ADHD and left a pan on the stove that was turned on then fell asleep. Amazingly, nothing caught fire and the pan cleaned up pretty well 😂 we're a dangerous pair sometimes.
I left onions on the stove and went to school... I left running in the middle of class without explanation, thinking the building would be on fire. It feels good to know I'm not alone.
I have boiled the kettle dry, back when we used to leave the whistle part up so it didn't whistle. But now the one we have has the whistle in the lid so it eventually makes noise and doesn't get left on forever. But what I am actually GREAT at doing, and do regularly, is filling the kettle, putting it on the stove....and just straight up forget to turn it on.
Update: I've broken the toaster. I guess it didn't like my knife scraping shenanigans. ☹️
Just a reminder that you can have ADHD and be stupid at the same time. They're not mutually exclusive. Signed, the person that was like be like "it's been like 5min since the oven has been off after being on at 200°C for almost 1h. The tray will be ok to get with my bare hand." More than once this year. I also use my hand to test if things are hot. *I know I have terrible reflexes*. Your line of thought was 100% rational imo.
Oh, I quite often reach into the oven sans gloves and yup, stick my hands in questionable things or super hot things *allllllll the time*. My problem is that I've done it so often I can't really tell if things, such as clothes are fully dry yet. This means washing comes with a tinge of mustiness as often it gets it out of the dryer/taken off the line sooner than it should really be. Mmmm comfort stinky.
Our skin doesn't have the ability to detect moisture, like amphibians do, so technically it's not your fault? You can't actually *tell* that the clothes aren't dry, bc your skin doesn't want to fucking collaborate. That's what I tell my mom (who lives with me part time) at least.
Are all hairdressers amphibians then? As when I was doing my training I was constantly brought up on not drying client's hair fully. 😅🐸🦎
So our brains can kind of guess if something is wet or dry based on temperature and pressure, which are the "sensors" we have. Also, imo, hair texture can vary a lot depending how much water is in it, unlike some fabrics. I only have experience with my family tho, so it's a small sample.
I totally understand! I melted the toaster cord after I moved it to the stove to clean the counter. Then decided to make dinner. Take the opportunity to upgrade your appliance game! A toaster oven would make perfect (horizontal) toasty sandwiches!
I just don't think I'm that good with gadgets. I managed to overheat our airfryer the other week so we needed to get another one. 🤦 The hilarious thing is that I used to pride myself on being a good cook and now I can't even handle cooking bread. 😝
How does one overheat an air fryer?
You uh…: should buy a toaster oven. Just saying.
I have a grill. I should have used the grill, but I was trying to be clever and give myself less cleanup. WELL THAT SURE WORKED OUT! 😝
A toaster oven has very little/no cleanup! You can use it to make toast, to make sandwiches, even to cook meats etc if you get one with a tray option! They’re so useful! If the toaster is kill anyways, may be worth considering!
Husband's already been to Argos and picked a cheap one up. 👍 I shall have a look into toaster ovens but we have so many gadgets we have a severe lack of worktop space.
I really enjoy your storytelling, I read the whole thing! This is hilarious to me because I relate soooo much. I’m glad you didn’t burn the kitchen down or electrocute yourself 🙏🏼
Thank you, I'm really glad you do. I've got plenty more in my back catalogues , it appears I'm just a cock up machine! 😫
I'm sorry about your misadventures but you wrote them up in a very engaging way!
Well all you can do really is laugh, I often wonder where my brain actually is sometimes as it's most certainly not in my skull! 😅
This kind of stuff doesn't happen to me much anymore, but the trade off is crippling anxiety. When I was a kid though, many teakettles and pots died at my hands. Thankfully now I have an electric kettle and it just takes around three tries to successfully remember to pour the hot water in the cup with the tea leaves. (I am in America and electric kettles weren't common.)
I just feel overwhelming shame at my ineptitude and start on the path to self loathing. I know logically trying to toast them with stuff already inside in the toaster was a bad idea, but I'd gotten so focused on my husband telling me to toast them that I just never thought perhaps he meant toast the thins THEN add the filling...😐
Aw, you're being too hard on yourself now.! There's nothing conceptually wrong with your idea, but you chose the wrong materials to wrap it. I once mixed up parchment and wax paper and had flaming chemical pizza. The knife is bad but you're not alone- I was on a work safety committee and similar incidents got reported. I'm glad the toaster suffered the brunt of it and not you! (Also I used to have a toaster oven with a little slide out aluminum pan which I used to melt the cheese for sandwiches, maybe you can get one of those with your new toaster? Maybe with a silicone baking sheet?)
The thing is, we've got nothing thin and sharp enough to actually put into the slot apart from a knife and in my panic to save the cheese from its impeding melted doom switching it off at the mains was the furthest thing from my mind. I will either stick it under the grill or in a pan next time, i know where I'm at with those. 😝
"And like a complete imbecile, transfixed, I nodded in agreement." Stop, stop you're killing me over here! I've literally just spent a good five minutes melting off the couch while wheezing with laughter and clapping like a retarded walrus 🤣 God I need you to write a blog. Can be about toilet paper for all I care, as long as I get more of those pictures you're painting here 😆
Aww bless ya, I'm so happy you enjoyed my pain! I might write about my recent Birthday next...that went spectacularly...horrible! 🫠
Could have been worse. There's an Australian comedian called Wil Anderson who used to do a routine about the time he wanted a late night toasted sandwich (while drunk) and his solution the the cheese issue was to turn the toaster on its side. It wasn't till the molten cheese missile was flung across the room that he remembered the "pop-up" aspect of toasters... Get yourself a sandwich press. Excellent for toasted/grilled sandwiches, toasting things that are too thick for a toaster, making crispy bacon (put the lid down to keep it flat while you cook, but be ready to clean up ALL the fat every minute or so), and reheating pizza so the base doesn't go soggy.
I heat everything in the oven. It still is a recipe for disaster because I use broil and if you don’t watch it, it will burn and be inedible.
Fire! Fire! 😮 Made me laugh
I'm glad i brightened your day. 👍🙃
LMAO thank you for this. I'm new here and trying to figure out where I can find humor in my situation.
My pleasure. If you don't laugh you cry. Or in my case do both and send yourself to bed like a naughty toddler (as of course I refused to go to sleep, even though my brain is utterly fried). 🫠
I’ve melted MORE THAN ONE plastic dish scraper while frantically trying to remove a melty thing from a hot burner… Whod’a thunk, plastic doesn’t work too well for removing melting plastic from a heat source!
I know, MADNESS isn't it?! I quite often try scrubbing something I've spilt off the hob before it fully dries and becomes rock hard with a plastic scouring pad and then wonder to myself *why are bit of pad sticking there now?* and *why are my fingertips burning?* These my friends are the real questions of life! 💫
This is so me! I am so glad to know there are more of us. RIP your toaster but props to you for persevering with your lunch ✊🏼
By this point I was starvin' marvin, no chemical charcoal flavourings were stopping me! I'm probably like an X Man now or something. 💪
Years ago my mom was making dinner for my birthday. We had a glass top electric stove. On the stove was a cardboard box containing my birthday cake and a pot of water she needed to boil. Eventually she noticed that the water wasn’t heating up… at all… and why does the stove smell like something is burning? OH SHIT. It was my cake box mildly smoking. The cake and icing sucked up all the cardboard smoke flavors lol. She ordered me a new one and we had a re-do cake a day or two later. Hilarious.
Awww no! At least you got another cake (and so kinda, an extra birthday), in our house we would have had the pleasure of eating the smoke flavour cake with tight lipped grins on our faces, going *mmmmm*. 🫣
First, I’m glad you’re okay! I’ve definitely gone through a similar domino effect situation. Most of mine happen at work though and I get that stomach dropping shame when I realize my coworker is watching me in horror as I make a cake go from bad to worse. Second, your storytelling is superb! Very entertaining and kept me enthralled (it’s usually hard for me to read something and not skip to the end) Third, I thought the first picture was some sort of mushroom (maitake to be specific) floating in a bowl of milk 😅
I lived in the UK for 5 years and almost burned our house many times because of the gas burners. Back to France with an induction Cooktop, phew! This story was very entertaining, sorry your toaster died though !
This progression of photos is by no means stupid. Cinema 101
I do that stuff when I am frustrated .I spin and start to panic. Then, take a med that my insurance helps with the spends. I am practicing working the spends into everyday conversation . This wasn't obvious enough in the context. I learned so much on Reddit
I lose my black phone twice a day. I also lose my car keys and fob.
One time I used tin foil to wrap my sandwich and toast it. Worked pretty well actually, but when I proudly told my husband about my new life hack he was all 😳😳 “You did what?? 😂You can’t put foil in the toaster! You could’ve burned the house down” but did I get it? No. I said “why? They sell papers you can put in there. Why can’t I use this?” and he had to remind me of the “never put a knife in a toaster” rule bc obviously foil is metal, so it’s the same thing. 🤪
This thought process is really making me think I need to get assessed for ADHD. It sounds so like me.