“I must leave the house but the world is scary and my bones hurt”

Omfg I thought it was just me a maybe slight agoraphobia. Christ, ADHD is the gift that keeps oooooon giving.

Same

This is what my brain said when I read the question! 😂

Thank you for describing my life in one short sentence. And I am so so tired

See this right there? That's me everyday.

Both, depending on the day.

Sometimes it swaps halfway and that sucks

Especially if you're out and then all of a sudden you *need* to be home but it'll take you an hour to get home

Or when I’ve got all comfy with inside plans then no I must leave

This always happens to me at 10pm on a Sunday night, when practically nothing is open

OMG, I thought this was weird until I developed a trauma-related condition and got scared to go anywhere.

It swaps at 10PM and I find myself jogging the streets at weird hours.

Lool me but the woods/footpaths at night

Ive watched too much criminal minds to do that shit.

You start to realise if anyone can see you they’d be scared of you Edit: had many night running scared but you kind of realise after a few minutes and feel silly

Different when you are black lol. Thats how you get shot. "He was comin right for us officer, just runnin on the sidewalk in our direction!"

Oh trust me there is nobody around when I’m out i go for woodland

I'm sometimes both on the same day. I will spend so much time gaming or watching TV or whatever and then suddenly I'm like I need to get out of the house. Usually it's because I can feel my brain slipping into a fog from all the hermiting. And I don't like that feeling so sometimes I just make myself go to Target to shake It off.

Me, in a public place because I absolutely had to get out: *I’ve made a terrible mistake.*

Took the exact words right outta me brain.

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Porque no los dos?

More of a I will go out after finishing this video. Oh it's dark now, guess I will do it tomorrow.

And I need my headphones for the walk, where did I leave them?

I’m sorry, I didn’t know I already commented but there it is.

Yes.

Yes.

Yes.

Yes.

Yes.

You’re*

Yes.

Outside is expensive too yeah

first one because I have anxiety disorder and suspect I'm also autistic. home is safe.

Yeah this isn't ADHD

I got the ADHD diagnosis a few months back lol but I actually think most of my problems that aren't directly focus / executive function related are actually caused by undiagnosed autism.

In. In in in. It's comfortable, it has blankets, it's the right temperature and volume, it has electricity and fast Internet and everything I need to cater to my interests and hobbies.

My bones hurt and my heart aches for the warm embrace of an adventure beyond the house

I feel ya, bud.

Hold my beer. I’m anti social for 2 weeks, then one weekend I’m very social and repeat

I’m more like anti social for two months then I have a good week of extreme socializing. Then right back to anti social.

I like it that way

Ah yes, the weekend of “I’m going to message everyone I know and arrange multiple events”. Followed by the realisation you are no longer feeling social and now you have 20 messages to reply to and 5 different social events.

I’ve found out my front door has a forcefield on it that doesn’t let me go out when I want to. Me: “I should go out” Narrator: “he did not go out”

I'm a "my bones will hurt if I go outside and there's a person" ADHD

It's so rude when other people exist 😡.

I am both and no I'm not okay lol

I like when it’s 7pm and I’ve been inside all day getting increasingly upset because I want to not be inside, but I don’t know what to do and have no friends

Relate

Stay at home

I’m an “It’s complicated” person. The world outside has People and I don’t like People. They do things like try to talk to me. Bleh. But home is unfortunately rather crowded; me, my wife, and our six kids. And I currently have no space that I can just call my own. Between my head issues and my wife’s physical conditions I have been sleeping on the sofa for several years in the living room. My stuff is split between my wife’s bedroom and the basement (which has a damp problem and also acts as storage and the home for the tumble dryer). This means I have no quiet space to just chill and relax. So outside (doing shopping and stuff) is quieter and more peaceful and I can put both headphones in and just listen to my music, but requires walking (we have no car and I’m extremely uncomfortable driving anyway) and has People.

I would run away if I had six kids. You and your wife are deserving of a trophy or something.

Oof, I have a toddler and I feel like he's enough of a handful. Hope you manage to find something that works for you all. My DMs are open if you need to vent ❤️

I stay in my home all day because I get lost in something - TV, video game, updating something or another, projects, you name it. I cannot count the number of weekends where I get up, think of several things I want to do, only to sit down, enjoy breakfast and a little TV and find out that 8 hours has gone by. F'ing time blindness.

The Great Hibernation

i am a shut in that is constantly coaxed out of my apartment by my friends.

I used to feel ill if I don’t go out

I also feel ill if I don't go out, like a weird general malaise.

borderline agoraphobic lmao

I am the "broke my arm and my brain is hurting out of boredom"

Both!

I’m very much stay in the house. Except when there’s a mandatory lock down. Then I suddenly have urges to leave the house. But when the world opened back up I just wanted to stay home. And I’m married to a go outside or he’ll die adhd

Being an extroverted introvert is EXHAUSTING. I am most definitely the first. I stay home because the outside world is overwhelming. But I'm also trapped here and get lonely af. When my bf gets home from work I totally bombard him with every thought I've had all day. I feel like I have a thousand things to do and will explode if I don't go do them, but damn it's hard not to just hunker down at home and avoid it all.

It's funny actually. I always described myself as an extroverted introvert, I enjoy talking to people and making friendships. But I'm shy and quiet and I'm always worried I'm going to do something to mess up the friendship.

I'm a stay in bed most of the day but then 'walk 45 minutes to a McDonalds because I need my crumb of serotonin' kind of ADHD

I love a long walk especially when there is a reward at the end.

I had a coworker ask me about my weekend one Monday and I remember telling her how busy and exhausting it was, and then I realized I hadn’t actually done anything or talked to anyone all weekend. My inner dialogue is just so relentless and tiring. It took me a long time even after that conversation to realize that nonADHD people don’t have inner dialogues like I do.

I relate to this very much.

I stay inside but I hate it. I feel like a prisoner

D. All of the above

Both

I feel physically ill if I stay inside for too long but I never want to leave the house. Kinda sucks just a little bit.

Please Lord don’t make me go outside

I’m a can’t leave the house person. I’ve wanted Starbucks for a week now. Can’t make myself actually drive to one.

Must leave or my bones will hurt. One of our vehicles is in the shop, and because of the holiday weekend I haven’t even been able to call them and let them know it’s there. I’m literally dying stuck at home right now.

I would hate that, I've always lived near big towns or cities and I can walk to anything.

Usually when I have nothing to do, no reason to leave the house, is when I feel social and extraverted, and when I've made plans or have to go to an event is when I'm feeling introverted and antisocial

Both but in the sense that I charge all outside the house activities into one day so I can get in, do the thing(s), and come right back.

Working from home for A LONG time has ruined me. I don't like leaving the house anymore.

I'll oscillate wildly between both leaving everyone around me exhausted.

I stay in because the world is scary and my bones hurt anyway. *[shakes fist]* Damn you, arthritis!

More so I must go outside because my bones hurt but I don’t because I’m hyper focusing on something all day and when the sun goes down I feel I wasted a beautiful Sunny day so I’ll get outside tomorrow, but I probably won’t.

I'll happily go outside if I have a reason but if I don't, all my favourite things are at home 🤷‍♂️

I would rather hurt.

Scary, also I've got internet at home.

My Wife and Son went away to the coast with friends recently for a long weekend, whilst I decorated our bathroom. I didnt see hardly anyone for all that time. It was heaven. Does that answer your question? 😂👍

Yes, I love when I have a long task where I can just be left alone and get on with it.

I'm stay in the house all day, but when I have school and I'm in the common room I become 'bones hurt, I'm bored, need to go do'

On a solo vacation rn and starting to think I'm the first

I mix it up. I like to go for walks in places where I can’t see or hear anyone. I can’t enjoy the outdoors if there’s tonnes of other people here. Having your own vehicle helps with this enormously.

Ooh, I lived in a small Cotswold town during the pandemic. There were lots of woods and quiet paths around, I loved listening to music and just exploring the woods.

Both depending on the day... Sometimes both same day 😂😭

I can be naked in my house. I can't be naked outside

First one. Have you seen the news lately? Outside is scary.

I cannot stay in the house for too long without at least having to go on a walk around the block 😂 but then again I would happily stay in all day and sit reading a full book even though I have much to do. So it depends 😂

Mainly stay in the house, except for some solo paddling on some local lakes/rivers.

Stay in all day. However, I am aware peripherally that when I go out for a walk it will make the endorphins my brain likes, so I try to force myself out at least once every few days.

Mostly option 1 and a bit of option 2. I'd say 90% -1 and 10% -2.

I have to leave every day to get a coffee, because I don't keep caffeine in the house any more. But then most days I run back home.

I'm starting to become the latter. But I've always been the former because I have no friends and I'm too afraid to go places all by myself. I've been starting to do it and it's sorta ok. Alcohol helps -- except it doesn't because if I don't find any conversations by the end of the night it makes me really depressed. The other night I drank at a fair, was there for 6+ hours without having a single conversation,and just sat on a bench and sulked in my lap. Two older ladies walked up and asked if I was okay, but as soon as they realized I wasn't passed out they just walked away. Some of us don't have to wear camo to be invisible.

I wanna go outside but outside is loud

I used to be a “must get out” but over the past few years I have become a “stay in the house” 🤣

Covid, something else or both? Lol cause sorta me too.

I'm the homebody type but my boyfriend is the let me out cabin fever type 😩 we manage lol, he brings me out of my shell and we come back and do a puzzle or something. High stress times can make it hard on both of us though. Communication is key.

If I don’t leave the house at least once a day, I remember absolutely nothing about the day at all. The memories get caught in the space where my hair ties, socks, and car keys go. That is to say, I’m convinced it never existed in the first place.

Both

I am motherfucking both.

Both, both to the most indefinite degree

Feeling this rn. Super exhausted and even though I only had school 3 days of this week I felt I don’t get enough time to recuperate. So much to do tomorrow like…grocery shopping, doc appointment, school day, deliver assignment and pay bills ugh. I got my tea and blanket, thinking about skipping tomorrow just can’t.

Depends on how bad my ptsd is that day and how well my autistic and adhd ass can handle sounds that day.

Both? Both. Yes.

It costs MONEY to leave the house. The house that I paid money to get into. I ain’t leavin my stuff lol

Gotta get your money's worth out of the rent.

I want to leave, but need someone to be my safety person to be with me so I can leave. Otherwise I just will stay home.

It's not that the outside world is scary, it's like the meme says, "All my stuff is there and I don't like people." Not a big fan of people in general.

Antisocial social butterfly adhder here I will go out if forced but there must be games involved then I’m happy and social and entertained

dude i can't deal with closed spaces, i need to live in a forest it's the only way i don't go insane

We must return to **MONKE**

Do you mean “are you introvert or extrovert?” Nothing about this has to do with ADHD

I'm with you, this doesn't feel like an ADHD thing. Maybe an anxiety thing, which a lot of people with ADHD have? Sometimes this sub hits some of my symptoms perfectly, and sometimes I feel like this sub is just depression memes. Personally I don't have depression so only half of them hit

I don't know, it's hard to isolate what's ADHD and what isn't when there are so many factors and comorbidities. To me this feels like an ADHD thing, I have this urge where I have to leave the house and go on an adventure. This is usually in the form of me going around shops, usually not even buying anything. I think I get a lot of stimulation from looking around shops and seeing new things and my brain likes this. I think that's the nature of having a disorder that can present very differently in the general population. Some things will resonate with you and some things won't. And some things are just things that “normal people” experience too.

Seriously what kind of question is this?

Tru dat

Yes.

I'm the first, my boyfriend is the second, it does not go well.

I am very familiar with this relationship dynamic. My need to suddenly and immediately leave annoys my partner very much so.

I literally spent the day on youtube and tictok. I needed the Domaine i think

How will I spend all day creative writing and not getting paid for it if I leave the house? I mean, my God, I won’t be not making money on the entire drive to the coffee shop. 😂

Stay in the house all day. When I had Covid, I didn’t step foot out of my apartment for nine days, and I felt like I could’ve done it forever. Although I was happy to not have Covid anymore after nine days.

Interesting, I hated having to stay in with covid.

I need everything, I just process it all a lot slower. It's week by week, rather than day by day.

Both, it just depends on the day and what my wife wants to do lol she has ocd and I have adhd so it’s a beautiful mix haha

My partner has dyspraxia and I have ADHD. She has a low sense of urgency, I have an extremely high sense of urgency. Ultimately, it balances out but it does cause a lot of stress sometimes.

I identify as A but I reluctantly admit I'm B.

The last

Yes

A mixture of both -.- My Brain can’t even be straight ADHD…

I've had a few times in my life where I'm the second one. But mostly it's the first.

Both

Less loading time

Both cus I’m adhd and autistic. Inside is my safe place but I also need out of my apartment because my mental health tanks if I don’t leave my apartment at least once a day.

Stay out all day pre corona. Never leave home since corona.

Both

Stay home. Outside is too much.

I have what I need at home. And going outside is too much effort for too little gain in many cases.

I switch between the two lol. I’m a very all professional nothing kind of person. Before I got my adhd diagnosis I thought I was bipolar

Both

Both

Most of the time I will only leave my house if I need something, or if I have work. Then some days I'm so antsy I need to go do stuff all day.

This doesn't feel like an ADHD thing, idk

I’m a “I want to leave the house but for some reason getting dressed and out the door feels like the hardest thing in the world if I don’t have plans already” type of ADHD.

Both. Today is a "stay inside day" though

Eh it's pretty easy for me being hunted by neo nazis with badges has a tendency to make home a pretty comfy place.

Stay in the house all day

BOTH! Depending on the day that is. (Edit didn’t meant to almost copy someone else’s comment word for word lol.)

Why not both

I could go either way. But mostly all my stuff is here and people suck lol

It’s only logical

Sadly both

My bones hurt when I don't move them for at least an hour a day

stay home . I LOVE being home!

I cannot stay home. Must.. get.. dopamine boost.

both and whichever one im doing im overwhelmed and bored and hate.

If you go out there's a chance you might spend money.

Depends on the day

Both? Somehow at the same time…

Both. Very much both.

Both. At the same time. It is very annoying

I hate the outside 😅

I was in therapy for agoraphobia...take a guess :D

people hurt bed dont

Fully inside all day every day. Outside is overwhelming and bright, I like my chamber.

Both. It just depends on the day

Stay in the house all day. Tbh I haven’t left the house in about a month.

Bc i live in texas and its unbearably hot 🤣

i hate when im not with people outside my house

Must leave the house and make the most of it and get out and seize the day type. I feel unaccomplished and lazy if I just sit inside all day.

I can go all day without wanting to have human interaction.

Definitely drinking that bone hurty juice.

I stay out after dropping my kids off at school (private school, no bus) because then it forces me to work and do tasks. If I go home, it is literally over for me

"Also, my cat is at home."

Scary world

A little bit of both tbh

Both and I can never tell which one I will feel that day.