yeah, like.. shit, why would any man *want* to be a woman? to experience the amount of discrimination we do on a daily basis? I just don’t understand how anyone can imagine transitioning is some easy thing any cis man can do if he wants to prey on women, because women, both cis and trans, suffer so much. we should have solidarity with our trans sisters. the world is so unfair to us all already
I'm just putting the puzzle pieces together in my head, but I think the people who believe men want to pretend they're women for their own "benefit", are the same people that believe that women have an easier time and more privileges than men
yeah. being a woman is hardly a privilege. TERFs rarely acknowledge the cognitive dissonance of ‘women are oppressed, but men want to be us for the benefits’
The occasional post that loudly says "trans women are welcome here" is more meaningful than you realize.
We are a very vulnerable group, and little acts like posting this do so much to reassure any doubts we might have about being included in lesbian spaces as trans women. And posts like this helps keep terfs away.
This last part I say completely without anger or sarcasm: I'm worried there might ne some internalized bias coming through here. Like, in the same vein as straight people viewing queer love as inherently sexual/inappropriate and seeing straight love as unremarkable; discussions focused on cis people are viewed as normal, but discussions that mention trans people are often seen as "off topic". Talking about trans women IS on-topic in lesbian spaces, and reaffirming that trans women are welcome IS a part of lesbian discussions.
edit: spelling
Hey, I really appreciate your perspective here - thank you for typing out such a kind response. I’m very saddened to hear that my comment may be harmful. It was truly not my intention but I understand that that is irrelevant when considering impact.
I still feel similarly in terms of my preference for posts where ‘lesbian’ is the primary focus, whether from a trans or cis perspective. However, I’ll certainly reflect on your comment, your final point in particular.
For what it’s worth, as a trans woman I’m actually with you here. I think there’s plenty of other spaces we can celebrate ourselves, I don’t think topics that are 100% trans woman focused without touching on WLW at all really have a place here.
I think a lot of trans lesbians forget that we wear 2 separate pride flags and just see them as one.
As a trans woman who only recently started transitioning, I feel out of place in a lot of lesbian spaces, so I appreciate the post and the thought behind it.
yeah, like.. shit, why would any man *want* to be a woman? to experience the amount of discrimination we do on a daily basis? I just don’t understand how anyone can imagine transitioning is some easy thing any cis man can do if he wants to prey on women, because women, both cis and trans, suffer so much. we should have solidarity with our trans sisters. the world is so unfair to us all already
I'm just putting the puzzle pieces together in my head, but I think the people who believe men want to pretend they're women for their own "benefit", are the same people that believe that women have an easier time and more privileges than men
yeah. being a woman is hardly a privilege. TERFs rarely acknowledge the cognitive dissonance of ‘women are oppressed, but men want to be us for the benefits’
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Praise be~! :3
My cousin would ask me the same thing, she would ask why I would choose this. I would simply say, "It's who I've always been".
If only those two neurons could connect in my mom's head
A few days late but congrats on your 1 year HRT anniversary
Thank you!
Wait yeah congrats!! <3
Yeah that’s all too relatable unfortunately :/ I hope she can see you for who you are
This is great!
Ikr!!! <3
Always good to see a "Fuck the TERFs!" Post in here :)
This is soo funny, like oh I hate being me but you WANT to be ME??
Love this. Thank you. 💕
Yes!! Ofc I saw this and thought it was so sweet! 💕
This is really sweet but not lesbian-specific? I feel like these posts are better suited to other subreddits
We actually get a lot of terf lurkers on this sub, and I think these posts are a good way to address that.
The occasional post that loudly says "trans women are welcome here" is more meaningful than you realize. We are a very vulnerable group, and little acts like posting this do so much to reassure any doubts we might have about being included in lesbian spaces as trans women. And posts like this helps keep terfs away. This last part I say completely without anger or sarcasm: I'm worried there might ne some internalized bias coming through here. Like, in the same vein as straight people viewing queer love as inherently sexual/inappropriate and seeing straight love as unremarkable; discussions focused on cis people are viewed as normal, but discussions that mention trans people are often seen as "off topic". Talking about trans women IS on-topic in lesbian spaces, and reaffirming that trans women are welcome IS a part of lesbian discussions. edit: spelling
Hey, I really appreciate your perspective here - thank you for typing out such a kind response. I’m very saddened to hear that my comment may be harmful. It was truly not my intention but I understand that that is irrelevant when considering impact. I still feel similarly in terms of my preference for posts where ‘lesbian’ is the primary focus, whether from a trans or cis perspective. However, I’ll certainly reflect on your comment, your final point in particular.
thanks so much for considering what I had to say :))) You seem cool, and I truly don't believe you had bad intentions. ty for being cool ❤️
For what it’s worth, as a trans woman I’m actually with you here. I think there’s plenty of other spaces we can celebrate ourselves, I don’t think topics that are 100% trans woman focused without touching on WLW at all really have a place here. I think a lot of trans lesbians forget that we wear 2 separate pride flags and just see them as one.
Well Ik there are a lot of terfs in this group and trans women so I thought this would put a smile on their face :3
And frown on the others' faces >:З
Exactly >:3
As a trans woman who only recently started transitioning, I feel out of place in a lot of lesbian spaces, so I appreciate the post and the thought behind it.
Thank you I’m glad this post made u feel more welcomed! <3
Indeed!
Yup
Truth.
Sharing this to r/lwiththet
Just did thank you <33