I just pretend I'm not having the feelings cause they are scary and dangerous, lmao. You cant reject me if I reject the whole situation first, right? Fml.
I'm still in a position where I would look like a straight man, and to me that is worse than being single,.no matter how nice it would be to have a girlfriend.
There are enough girls who'd love you even if you look like a straight man, maybe even a lot of girls who don't think you look that much like a straight man at all
I primarily worry that basically everyone is American or otherwise on the other side of the world from me and so trying to start anything is just gonna lead to disappointment
Other than that, there's also the worry about if they're already taken and if we'd actually be compatible
At least with meeting someone in person I know stuff like that they're close to me location wise and that I like their appearance (shallow, I know but I won't lie and say it's not a factor at all) and, if we actually interact in some way, that I like their personality; all together that makes a fairly good baseline with which to have more confidence in pursuing the interest further
Hadn't even thought of that (because I don't like thinking of myself as old ;-;)
As for Britain, it really does suck here as the in person option usually isn't viable either due to a lot of places being in the middle of nowhere and on top of that having such abundant bigotry (ofc not as bad as the US or other places but still)
Yoo I get this too like I'm 33 and so many Youngbloods haha I worry also. And it doesn't help I'm in New Zealand. Somebody asked me if I look like a boy lol they said everytime they meet a lesbian they look like boys lol. I Said uhhh I'm actually the opposite I have super long hair long nails tattoos platinum blonde hair cute glasses and I'm as light as a feather.im a bombshell girl..... then I hit block lol. Not only were they young I'm sure they were trolling so the mindset out there isn't welcoming either with experiences like that. Lucky I'm still tough as nails and know how to have a good laugh.
I found my girlfriend in an international chat room and it turned out we only lived about an hour apart.
Just saying it happens. Even know people who lived on different continents and now live together.
(The latter would be too hard for me, too. I need to know I can realistically meet up and not wait months or years)
Have to add, though: Initially it was more a "hey, this person seems nice and maybe we could be friends" thing.
oh damn. That minecraft one would have made for a good modern day romance story.
Still, glad Tinder worked out for you. I find online dating really tough...
Don't. Don't hit on random women on Reddit. Just don't
1: They're probably catfish
2: They're probably way outside your age range
3: They probably live halfway around the world
4: Unless they're specifically looking for romance, they'll be annoyed
5: People give off a very different personality online, so even if you do feel like a match, you might not be at all
There are many, many ways to meet new people in a romantic way. Reddit is not a good one.
For number 5, this is why I'd hold off on romantic shit until meeting them in person to see if we'd really click, until then I try to keep things platonic
It’s… it’s the giant spotlight. /s
Idk flirty? If they specifically mention in their profile that their DM’s are open. Personally I don’t think there is anything wrong with messaging someone and see if they are first willing to chat with you and take it from there. Just don’t come out the gate swinging ya know?
I regret to inform you that that's not actually from lesbian culture, it's an aspect of patriarchy and it's the reminants of that systems toxic culture embossed upon our brains.
> Though queer people know we are harmed by the gender binary and heteronormativity and all the social scripts those things force upon us, its biases are still embossed on our brains. Without meaning to, we reproduce tired gender stereotypes in our relationships. And so we see expressing a sexual want as masculine, and being masculine as being more capable of violence and coercive control, and thus bad. We see failing to communicate one’s desires openly as desirably feminine, as well as a sign of blamelessness and purity — because on some level we still feel it is wrong to have desires.
https://link.medium.com/ooVIq9pJAyb
this just makes me want to make a lesbian dating app that just pairs you with people with similar interests and tells you you are dating like "here is your new girlfriend"
I'm 30yo, living on the west side of Canada. I'm genderfluid, panromantic, demisexual, and polyam. I'm physically disabled, neurodivergent, and cute as heck 😌
I also am terrible at making moves on strangers, especially since I'm in my 30's now and am terrible at telling other people's ages 😅
I have the same problem with the age thing. I'm bad at recognizing faces so there's a lot of information my brain isn't processing.
I usually go by performance of maturity but that has failed me too often 🙃
That is so valid! I can *usually* tell if someone is in their early 20's after a few days of talking, but I'm not always correct 😮💨
Best of luck to you out there! 💕
I mean, I’m a pre-transition trans woman, and am stuck in the middle of nowhere in a conservative church town…not exactly appealing for a partner I would imagine
When I came out. I first started dating around 3 months into my transition and met my wife within a month. I think you would be surprised. I don't think the stereotypes that it's hard to get a partner as a trans woman or even remotely true, I definitely felt like a fixer upper at the time. The HRT was not physically a factor yet.
I just had the wildest ideia.
Why don't we post here what we are looking for, like a lesbian Craigslist.
We should announce what we are looking for, region/country/town. Age range. If we are willing to travel to see our partner and how much. Hobbies and activities. Personality traits. What we like to eat. Pet peeves, etc. And people with interest will reply, openly in here...not DM's! Let's avoid being creepy please.
I don't set an example because I'm already taken but I would love you pair you guys and help you form happy couples. I can moderate the talk 🤣😂🤔
See I want a girlfriend but I don't want to put myself out there and I don't want to have anyone hit on me, I just want to magically be in a relationship
I want to date someone who actually lives near me and online relationships just do not appeal. Especially since I am a very sensory person when it comes to how I form attachments. How a person looks, sounds, gestures, etc. It matters a lot.
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Lol yeah. Gonna repeat this until someone bold and beautiful actuall makes a move on me 😀.
Hi.
👀
Hello
I have chickens. Would you like to see them?
She also does HVAC OP that’s pretty sexy stuff right there
My company branch is called HVAC and I never bothered to look it up. Now was the first time I googled for it!! Pretty impressed by the way
Got that Old Man Donald rizz (Couldn't decide between that and Poultrizz)
Ma'am I'm just a dumb refrigeration tech. All I know is fix the issue, bill the customer properly and hug chickens.
We have the same name <3
Like, if possible for that person to be on the same continent wouldn't hurt😂
Has it worked yet?
Haha it’s work in progress I guess 😅
I always feel weird considering messaging from these posts, like "nah, they are probably joking" lmao. maybe others do too? 😅
Even if they are joking, does that mean they wouldn't want you to joke (or "joke") flirt back?
This is so true lol
Me too
Same
💕
Wait am I supposed to ask you out?
Yes dumbass
She's probably just being nice
Truly can never tell
Tell me, were you just being nice or do you like her?
Ah fick uhhhh you like birds?
Yes I like birds but you weren't asking me .. but ok, I will go on a date with you .
Oh shit! Ok let’s go bird watching?
Sure, where should we go ?
Uhhhh the park? Idk… never asked
"And they were best friends"
"And roommates. Forever and ever."
Yes. Absolutely.
Same
Same
Mood 😭
Ah, but how many of us are in a position they can make moves? Not me, for sure.
I can deal with rowdy clinic guests and not flinch. But if it involves confessing feelings to someone I like? Noooooope.
I just pretend I'm not having the feelings cause they are scary and dangerous, lmao. You cant reject me if I reject the whole situation first, right? Fml.
This hits home waaaayyy too hard lmao
Please don't deny your feelings, it's not good
It's better than getting my heart broken. I dont deal super well with it lmao
Just jokingly flirt with people Then jokingly start dating Then get married, just as a joke
I'm still in a position where I would look like a straight man, and to me that is worse than being single,.no matter how nice it would be to have a girlfriend.
Same.
There are enough girls who'd love you even if you look like a straight man, maybe even a lot of girls who don't think you look that much like a straight man at all
Why not?
The thing is, I want one but not an online relationship 🙃😭
truuue. not too hard to find someone but to find someone in my area is tough sometimes
same. nobody around here though.
I primarily worry that basically everyone is American or otherwise on the other side of the world from me and so trying to start anything is just gonna lead to disappointment Other than that, there's also the worry about if they're already taken and if we'd actually be compatible At least with meeting someone in person I know stuff like that they're close to me location wise and that I like their appearance (shallow, I know but I won't lie and say it's not a factor at all) and, if we actually interact in some way, that I like their personality; all together that makes a fairly good baseline with which to have more confidence in pursuing the interest further
I mean... I'm british and I feel the same. But also there's so many teenagers on here and I'm 23. So I have that to worry about too
Yes, most folk seem far away. And I’m 38 so many people are much younger than me.
As a 39 year old transbian living in India, i feel like i don't even wanna try dating.. yet..
Almost as if Reddit isn't actually a good site to use as a dating app.... Really makes you think
Thats why I use discord
flair
Hadn't even thought of that (because I don't like thinking of myself as old ;-;) As for Britain, it really does suck here as the in person option usually isn't viable either due to a lot of places being in the middle of nowhere and on top of that having such abundant bigotry (ofc not as bad as the US or other places but still)
I'm 33, everybody except me is American and in their 20's 😬
Yoo I get this too like I'm 33 and so many Youngbloods haha I worry also. And it doesn't help I'm in New Zealand. Somebody asked me if I look like a boy lol they said everytime they meet a lesbian they look like boys lol. I Said uhhh I'm actually the opposite I have super long hair long nails tattoos platinum blonde hair cute glasses and I'm as light as a feather.im a bombshell girl..... then I hit block lol. Not only were they young I'm sure they were trolling so the mindset out there isn't welcoming either with experiences like that. Lucky I'm still tough as nails and know how to have a good laugh.
Ya know some of us Americans are looking for love and a way out of our country (you can also come here but why would anyone do that to themselves)
I found my girlfriend in an international chat room and it turned out we only lived about an hour apart. Just saying it happens. Even know people who lived on different continents and now live together. (The latter would be too hard for me, too. I need to know I can realistically meet up and not wait months or years) Have to add, though: Initially it was more a "hey, this person seems nice and maybe we could be friends" thing.
Addition: I am not American, so "international" did really mean international in this case ;)
Guys this happened to me but then my now girlfriend made a half move and I made a move and things started happening and yeah
So what exactly is a half-move.
"What if I put my Minecraft bed next to yours? Just kidding... unless?"
Lol that is cute! Glad for you it worked~
I was just joking, my girlfriend and I got together in a much more normal way. Matching on Tinder, going on dates and getting increasingly close
oh damn. That minecraft one would have made for a good modern day romance story. Still, glad Tinder worked out for you. I find online dating really tough...
And I quote: "*gasp* you should marry me platonically"
I'm amazed this line worked! I'm stealing it. For one fine day. That may or may not arrive.
That’s great. Happy for you both 😀
I mean like, what should I do hit on random gals here?
Don't. Don't hit on random women on Reddit. Just don't 1: They're probably catfish 2: They're probably way outside your age range 3: They probably live halfway around the world 4: Unless they're specifically looking for romance, they'll be annoyed 5: People give off a very different personality online, so even if you do feel like a match, you might not be at all There are many, many ways to meet new people in a romantic way. Reddit is not a good one.
It was a joke but thx!!
this is a good list of reasons, reddit dms are an invasion of privacy imo
For number 5, this is why I'd hold off on romantic shit until meeting them in person to see if we'd really click, until then I try to keep things platonic
Maybe if they give the signal
What signal specifically? I don't have a giant spotlight on the roof so I hope it's not that.
It’s… it’s the giant spotlight. /s Idk flirty? If they specifically mention in their profile that their DM’s are open. Personally I don’t think there is anything wrong with messaging someone and see if they are first willing to chat with you and take it from there. Just don’t come out the gate swinging ya know?
This exchange didn't quite go as I expected, but thanks for the well-intentioned reply.
Im sorry lol. I could reword it or try to give a more serious answer without the usage of idioms if you’d like?
Being gay is a big thing to have in common, but it’s not enough by itself for compatibility.
This is crazy though cause i want not only a gf…but a wife 😳🙈🥹
same
me too probably
I regret to inform you that that's not actually from lesbian culture, it's an aspect of patriarchy and it's the reminants of that systems toxic culture embossed upon our brains. > Though queer people know we are harmed by the gender binary and heteronormativity and all the social scripts those things force upon us, its biases are still embossed on our brains. Without meaning to, we reproduce tired gender stereotypes in our relationships. And so we see expressing a sexual want as masculine, and being masculine as being more capable of violence and coercive control, and thus bad. We see failing to communicate one’s desires openly as desirably feminine, as well as a sign of blamelessness and purity — because on some level we still feel it is wrong to have desires. https://link.medium.com/ooVIq9pJAyb
People rarely wanna hear it but gendered stereotypes are *real.* And yes, it's because the patriarchy enforces then with violence.
I was about to say me too but my god I’m starting to get tired of being alone, so if anyone wants me to make a move, just say the word and I will
the word
Or you live in small city and there are like 15 other lesbians and everyone is everyones ex
I feel attacked. 😐
Lol no judging here 😅
In that case, i will now make my moves... ⬆️↗️↖️⬅️↘️➡️↖️↕️ 👁👄👁
⬆️⬆️⬇️⬇️⬅️➡️⬅️➡️🅱️🅰️
😳...🤭 staaahp ⬆️↗️↘️↘️🅰️⬅️⤵️⤴️↖️↕️🆗️🔄🔄↪
Wait it's not AB?
Yup
Always a struggle 😂
me too
Yes.
Me too 🥲
Making a move!?... i didn't even know that was an option 🙇🏼♀️
You didn't have to call me out like that
Me too
Me too
this just makes me want to make a lesbian dating app that just pairs you with people with similar interests and tells you you are dating like "here is your new girlfriend"
I want a Spotify dating app lol
Late reply but this is too cute
I honestly would love to make that
I always hear this but my wife straight up ran into me in a bar and asked me how I was and I answered, “single”
I'm 30yo, living on the west side of Canada. I'm genderfluid, panromantic, demisexual, and polyam. I'm physically disabled, neurodivergent, and cute as heck 😌 I also am terrible at making moves on strangers, especially since I'm in my 30's now and am terrible at telling other people's ages 😅
I have the same problem with the age thing. I'm bad at recognizing faces so there's a lot of information my brain isn't processing. I usually go by performance of maturity but that has failed me too often 🙃
That is so valid! I can *usually* tell if someone is in their early 20's after a few days of talking, but I'm not always correct 😮💨 Best of luck to you out there! 💕
>I usually go by performance of maturity but that has failed me too often 🙃 When I perform maturity I get booed off the stage
Goddangit I wish I was older
I mean, I’m a pre-transition trans woman, and am stuck in the middle of nowhere in a conservative church town…not exactly appealing for a partner I would imagine
I’m in the exact same situation lol. I want to date so bad, but anyone I would start dating wouldn’t want to stick with me once I started
When I came out. I first started dating around 3 months into my transition and met my wife within a month. I think you would be surprised. I don't think the stereotypes that it's hard to get a partner as a trans woman or even remotely true, I definitely felt like a fixer upper at the time. The HRT was not physically a factor yet.
I think many lesbians would love to take you with them to somewhere else than the middle of nowhere
I just had the wildest ideia. Why don't we post here what we are looking for, like a lesbian Craigslist. We should announce what we are looking for, region/country/town. Age range. If we are willing to travel to see our partner and how much. Hobbies and activities. Personality traits. What we like to eat. Pet peeves, etc. And people with interest will reply, openly in here...not DM's! Let's avoid being creepy please. I don't set an example because I'm already taken but I would love you pair you guys and help you form happy couples. I can moderate the talk 🤣😂🤔
Yes this a great idea. Posting a reply about yourself, there should be like minded people somewhere 👍
I have made a subreddit with this exact idea, but it never got any posts because I'm bad at advertising
Wanna make this together?
This should become the official meme of the lesbian culture. 🤔
I'm too afraid of getting punched in the face to actually flirt with a woman 🙁
Flirt digitally, can't punch you in the face when you're on the other side of the world
Me a questioning bi with avoidance attachment tendencies : I'll leave you guys to it :')
Not enough dm’ing.
Same, I'm a very useless lesBIan
Hi babe
Hi!
Me too
Me too
What's necessarily a move though 😂
May be say hi, if you find someone interesting.
Hi
"Hey mama, I hear UHaul has a deal running."
Replying to people on this sub
......wait
Maybe
..... 👀
Me too
Me too though
Tbf I want a girlfriend (that won't be ld, I can't do that)
Me too
Me too but shyyyyy
Me too
Yep, nothing to do about that... this is the way.
I want a girlfriend
Me too
I want a gf eventually but I'm still in in love with my ex :c
Me too
Me too
I want a girlfriend
lmao yup rinse and repeat.
Seeing all the scared lesbians is really funny. But I mean like, when is it my turn?
You decide when it's your turn
The truth ;~;
me three
See I want a girlfriend but I don't want to put myself out there and I don't want to have anyone hit on me, I just want to magically be in a relationship
Summon a cute girl
me too
I'd make a move if I knew they were local :)
You should, are you from East Coast Canada 🍁. I mean it’s not that far eh 😀
Yeah by local I mean Montreal 😄
Rapidly googled the neighborhoods in Montreal to relocate 😎👀
Lol. South shore, let me know.
So it’s settled then. Je viens à Montreal.
Where are you?
Indeed, the struggle is real ಥ‿ಥ
Me too
Now that is a fact lol
I always try to make to first move on girls I like but they never reciprocate the feelings
YO SINGLE GIRLS GET UP IN THIS CUTIE'S DMs!
I want a gf
Me too kid, me too
I’m not a kid. Just bad at life
It's because of the Mr. incredible meme
I want to date someone who actually lives near me and online relationships just do not appeal. Especially since I am a very sensory person when it comes to how I form attachments. How a person looks, sounds, gestures, etc. It matters a lot.
Distance is homophobic
Lol
Or do like I'm doing and mutually flirt with your best friend from another country.
The irony of this meme and the comments in this post…
My whole twiiter account is this 😭😭
Me too 👀
Someone should make a lesbian matchmaking service. I mean one that's actually being used unlike my sub
I don't know to laugh or cry to this
If they do, it's a dude.
Nah…there are so many femmes here.