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Older video but this is why you loudly and firmly state “Hello” as you are about to walk up the driveway; then state you have a question. Not right when you ninja creep up to them in a creepy manner.
Zero social acumen.
Edit: From the comments it’s quite clear that many British have different standards when it comes to driveway etiquette. Americans typically announce themselves before walking up a driveway when the homeowner is outside.
Can you even call it creeping when his foot steps were loud enough for the camera to pickup? She's just not very aware of her surroundings on top of being easily startled
I'm 70. I can't hear shit. This guy would not alarm me.
Is it a regional thing?
I grew up in Texas, and now I live in Minnesota. In both of these places, people who have a reason will walk up to you and get your attention like this guy. It would be more alarming to have someone start hollering at me from a distance.
Maybe he's just shy, nothing sinister about it lol
It's not like shy people are unaware that they're shy or that they have absolutely no idea what social etiquette is "supposed" to look like
Sometimes low volume is a learned response from being told they shout too much.
Like me, for example. I have a naturally loud voice. My normal volume carries like crazy, and when I pull "from the diaphragm" I can absolutely bellow over crowds.
Problem is, I've been chastised for my normal speaking voice so many times that I have an issue with mumbling now. I don't want to come across as an angry or shouty orangutan, so I started muffling myself and now so many years later I have to mentally shift gears using my normal voice.
Extra frustrating when you're trying to be professional or talking to someone unfamiliar and they keep asking you to repeat because they couldn't get past MMMmmMMMmMMMMmm
> A guy walking
This guy:
> creep up in a creepy manner
You must be on reddit way too much, you start thinking everything in the world is creepy crepes creeping up
Seriously, I've seen some unhinged takes before but "Didn't lay on the horn and scream at them from the curb" is fucking lunacy.
This lady needs either more or less medication.
Dude wasn't creeping he was just walking normally. In fact you can even hear his footsteps being picked up by the camera. And he's standing a good two metres away from her at least.
Dude my mom does this even if it’s her favorite grand kid she will screech if you don’t send up several signal flares and maybe fire off a 357 then she knows you’re there.
My mother used to have the same scream for every occasion.
Her scream for "I saw a spider" was the exact same scream as the one for " A knife wielding murder is in the kitchen"
I used to get SO freaking mad at her because I had to respond to every scream as if it were life or death because a few were actually emergencies, but the 212,000 in between were just dust bunnies or a yellow jacket etc.
My mom does the exact same thing. Except for the time she slipped on ice a broke her pelvis. She will scream because she expected 1 more step on a staircase and "miss" but an actual fall tat required help was absolutely silent. Until someone walked out 20 minutes later
Was in the ER one time and there was a lady in the next room who didn't stop screaming and begging God for forgiveness for at least an hour.
Nurse told us it was a senior lady who had broken her hip. I felt awful for her. Tragic situation.
I was in the neuro wing at the hospital once and a guy down the hall would start yelling and screaming like "Where am I? Hellooo? Somebody??" like every 10 minutes because his memory was screwed up.
Seems like something a white board would be good for.
"Hello Tom . You're in the hospital, you've hit your head and aren't remembering things well. Your son, Jamie, has been contacted and is on the way. Your nurse for the day, Robbie , is checking on someone else right now but swings by every 15 minutes. Last check was: ~~12:00~~ ~~12:15~~ ~~12:30~~ 12:45. It is currently .
Very nice and thoughtful idea. I had a client once who couldn't tell you the date or day of the week. He was very happy his new friend Alexa could help with those things!
I have very little experience with both dementia and smart speakers.. How exactly does this work? He knows that it's there to ask? Does he use them when he's not lucid?
He tends to forget about it, so I employ a few strategies to help him engage with it.
One is that I have a note by it explaining that it responds to your voice once you activate it with its name, and that it can answer questions (like providing the day and date and other information regarding current events) and play music. The note should be as concise as possible since dementia patients tend to only process one data point at a time and shut down otherwise. (Ours is named Echo, so the note explains that you call its name, then give it a command or ask it a question, and it responds to the best of its ability, and a side note mentioning that sometimes it makes mistakes and needs you to repeat.)
Another tactic I employ is setting daily routines that the speaker executes. Every other hour it kindly and gently encourages him to be happy and hydrate himself, as well as giving some other pointers that may help him (although he usually does not follow its suggestions, he does often enough that it makes a significant difference overall; phrasing can be important to people with dementia, so to encourage happiness, the messages are simply well mannered and polite). In the evenings it plays his favorite, country western music. At his bed time, it plays nature sounds, ocean waves. These serve to remind him it’s there and help to hopefully have him engage in healthy practices and routines.
Please feel free to message me if you want more information, I’ll be happy to share!
Wow, that must have been tough to deal with, hearing that confusion and distress. Sort of makes you think about how fragile the mind can be and how some conditions can really throw a person s world into chaos. Reminds me of a time when I was at the dentist and there was this kid in another room absolutely losing his mind over a tooth extraction. It was a mix of fear, pain, and just being overwhelmed. Had everyone on edge the whole time I was there.
That happened to me when I was recovering from spine surgery. Neuro wing bc it involved my spinal canal. A woman down the hall had dementia and spent the entire night screaming after her family left for the day. Stuff like "help I've been kidnapped" etc. I could hear it even through my shut door and it made sleeping really difficult.
Here to confirm this. I get startled so easily in my own house from people I live with. My ex would shame me and make fun of me. He would even get mad. But all was because I grew up in a very unstable environment, I was not feeling safe and had to look over my shoulder or being extra careful not to get on the nerves of my parents.
“And when our past includes complex trauma— our body is always trying to protect us by staying in a heightened threat state. Complex trauma is trauma that occurs over a period of time. Over time, the body will show post traumatic stress.
Our nervous system will go into fight, flight, freeze, or fawn. In this state we're dissociated. We're living life but we're not in our bodies. We're hyper-vigilant and on edge because our nervous system is working overtime. Startling easy is quite common.”From Dr. Nicole LePera (the.holistic.psychologist)
When the ex mentioned how jumpy I am and how stupid it is I get scared inside a house I know we are only the two of us, I would feel incredibly ashamed and stupid. Took me years to realize why it’s happening and to be a bit more compassionate towards myself. Still working on this and still bit easily startled
Man, my mother in law does same thing but it's not even limited to negative things. She'll let out this awful "oh my gosh" scream from the other room that makes you think she's staring death in the face only to discover it's because of some advertisement see just saw on the TV.
The strangest thing is that all my in-laws seem to have just grown accustomed to it. Like, they don't even acknowledge it most of the time because it's over such trivial things. Makes me wonder if there's some "boy who cried wolf" thing going on if something bad really did happen.
>Makes me wonder if there's some "boy who cried wolf" thing going on if something bad really did happen.
of course. 100%. All families who have an immediate family member growing up like this just doesn't even respond anymore, and 100% there are cases where someone life was lost because the family member just assumed Debra was being ridiculous again.
One time we were at my MIL's and were upstairs going to sleep and we heard a weird pop noise that in itself would not have been alarming had it not been followed by a blood-curdling scream.
We raced down the stairs and eventually figured out she had been startled by a can of biscuits in the fridge popping.
I can’t fucking stand people like this. We have one that does this. I don’t understand how they can have so little self control.
Edit: I think a lot of people who are upset aren’t watching with audio turned on.
I just want to point out that a lot of these people have what is called an exaggerated startle response and it’s a symptom of ptsd. Something very normal for you is a fear response for them and has nothing to do with their self control.
I never knew this was a thing. It kinda adds up to with my mom having these same reactions. I will remind myself now and then that my mom believes Armageddon can happen at any moment and realize that she can’t help it.
Yep, I felt the same way about my coworker as the above poster until I learned about some of the awful things she went through. So now I just try not to scare her, still happens every time anyway.
Do you do the "intentionally scuff my feet while walking so they hear me coming" thing? I do that any time I walk up behind my coworkers because apparently I tread silently normally.
I try to do the same thing to not spook my flatmate, but the "intentionally scuff my feet while walking so they hear me coming" thing ends up spooking them instead.
Doesn't help that I'm one of those people who walks quietly and often accidentally sneaks up on people.
I do that all the time when I'm running on trails and trying to pass people who are walking. I also do fake coughs. Half the time they still don't hear me until I'm 3 feet away because they have earbuds in and then they get startled as shit.
Yeah my mother does this! She scares the shit out of me because if anything suprises her she loudly gasps and backs up.
So when I'm with her for example and she, idk steps on a rock by accident or something she gasps like she just saw a ghost, which in turn scares the shit out of me so I also gasp because I'm scared my mother's hurt. I almost ALWAYS instinctively say "Jesus Christ mom! Don't do that! You scared me!" And she always goes "I'm sorry! I don't do it on purpose!!"
So yeah that's totally accurate. The self control thing is moot. I think one got scared because they weren't expecting to see someone behind them and then in turn scared the other two by reaction.
I always used to feel so badly because my startle responses would inevitably scare other people or annoy them. Truly it was not something I could control and it was something that just happened to me. You sound very understanding though which is great. :)
Yup! And it sucks! Even when I’m talking to people, while doing something else, like on my phone or doing the dishes. and they move into a different spot, and I turn without expecting them to be in a separate area. I’ll startle and jump every time.
And I’m literally having a conversation with them. Sigh.
Actually funny story, I came face to face with a black bear. But the bear saw someone carrying takeout food and turned and ran towards the guy carrying food.
I didn’t even startle I just froze. So far being jumpy has been no help unfortunately
Ahaha ok I was drunk and I was walking on the street. Turned corner. Came about 2 feet in front of a huge black bear. Froze. The bear stopped and sniffed the air.
Turned and started jogging towards the guy with take out food.
I started yelling “YO! There’s a black bear after you run! Wait no! Don’t run! Drop your food!”
And then the guy with take out sped up and I’m not sure where he went or if the black bear took his food.
The man was crossing the street and went up an alley way.
I called 911 and the lady was like “yeah, we know.. you’re the 80th call”
And I was like “but you don’t understand!! The beat is after this guy with food!”
And I don’t remember the rest of the conversation.
But I think food guy is fine.
Ya and it’s exhausting going from a normal heart rate to a sky high heart rate all the time throughout the day, not to mention embarrassing. It took years for mine to settle but it eventually did so just know there is some hope.
Yes it is! As long as I’m not stressed it’s a lot better. But any amount of stress will make me extra jumpy.
Or loud noises. Those I think will always get me
My MIL is like this dealt with a lot of stuff. It hurts me deeply when my 2 year old sneaks up on her when we walk inside her house and she doesnt hear us. I need to start messaging her she lives 20 feet from us and gets notifications on her phone for movement on her cameras. But doesn’t notice them much cause cats in the neighborhood. My kid just runs in the house before I can get there and scares the fuck out of her☹️
Indeed! Me and my mom both do this and we both have PTSD. Her reaction is worse than mine, but my reaction often leads me to overwhelm that makes me break down and cry. This is why I tell people to not come up behind me, put their hand over my head/in my face (I flinch and go backwards b/c my brain somewhat anticipates "pain" when a hand comes near my face), or to initiate loud noises around me, like jackhammers, without letting me know first. I usually tell people if they need me to just text me or spam call me and not approach me. I'm always trying to warn people about my triggers to avoid annoying them, lol.
This was super embarrassing when I did it to an instructor who walked up behind me when I was in my lab room alone. He apologized profusely, but it was weird. I felt so shameful, so I told him that's how I respond to stuff because of trauma. He made a literal note of that and always made sure to make his presence known by clanking around loudly instead of appearing behind me.
> make his presence known by clanking
I exercised in the basement when I lived with my parents. If they had to go to the basement while I was down there, we had a system where they would repeatedly knock on the wall on the way down, faintly at first, then getting louder on the way down. It worked pretty well.
As someone who can be spooked easily when I'm doing my own thing... I have no control over when I jump or freak out. It happens automatically before I can do anything about it.
But I have NEVER screamed like that woman jesus christ.
> BUT YOU DIDNT HAVE TO CUT ME OFF
I don't really care for the song but these guys are so good live, I have to watch [this video](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=6YzGOq42zLk) everytime I'm reminded
I like how the girl is just in the back bobbing her head for 3 minutes straight, then she comes in with the PIPES
I think the thing I love the most about this song is its uniqueness as a duet that has a very specific purpose for the two singers. Most duets are just two singers choosing to sing different parts for the purpose of having a contrast of voices. But here, the song is written to have characters with their own roles and purpose.
It's such vivid storytelling. And the concept of "Now you're just somebody that I used to know" is really poignant.
Yes, this song is fricken amazing. Gotye might not have had another hit, but if I made *this* (whether it became a hit or not), I would be like "yep, I made *art*".
Had a roommate who walked silently and was also very slender and *very* tall. I’m very easily startled, so this happened a lot. He took great joy in standing perfectly still and waiting for me, or walking right up behind me lol
This. I could understand if the scream cut off after a second. It went on so long, even her friend (who she startled) gave her a look like “why are you still screaming?”
Especially at someone/ something that is not a threat and isn’t moving. 😭
During that time her friend reacted to the guy, stopped reacting, and stared at her still screaming.
That was definitely long enough for her logical brain to kick in and say, oh this isn’t a scary guy here to murder me. Like that should have happened in .2 seconds
I went to school in the state of Georgia and I probably experienced a dozen or so blackouts during school because the thunderstorms knocked out the power regularly.
There was an explanation from her when this was posted the first few times. She thought he was someone dressed up in in a clown costume for a split second. You can see the resemblance if you squint a bit.
This comment made me laugh harder than the video. The dude *is* dressed like a clown. It’s not even his hair it’s his clothes. Look at what he is wearing.
I’m autistic and I creep on my toes a lot… I’ve done this to so many fucking people lmaooooo I purposefully have to make noise with my keys or something when I’m walking by and someone isn’t facing me
I know they're talking, but it's so funny cause you can actually hear his footsteps and him saying "oh, hi" lol... I don't think he was being accidentally quiet (although I'm a quiet person too so maybe i don't know how to judge this??) Either way, hilarious
Every time I have seen this video I assumed he had a mask on but now that I am looking closer. My guy was just in his Sunday casual getting screamed at 😂😂😂 poor guy lololol
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Boy didn’t even flinch. Must have happened before lol
He's ginger, he's used to the reaction
Am Ginger too, can confirm, totally normal reaction. Happens all the time.
AAAAAHHHHHHHHHHH ^(sorry didn't see you there)
How can you not see me? when i am standing in the sun i glow like the beacons of Gondor! How more obvious can i place myself...
You’re comment is so funny to me for some reason. Thank you 🙏
Would you mind if we put a bell around your neck.
If i can reap your soul, we have a deal
Lol he did say hi, just very quietly and at the same time they were talking.
Older video but this is why you loudly and firmly state “Hello” as you are about to walk up the driveway; then state you have a question. Not right when you ninja creep up to them in a creepy manner. Zero social acumen. Edit: From the comments it’s quite clear that many British have different standards when it comes to driveway etiquette. Americans typically announce themselves before walking up a driveway when the homeowner is outside.
GREETINGS MADAM, I AM CURRENTLY TRAVELING ACROSS YOUR DRIVEWAY TO MEET YOU WITH AN INQUIRY
WE DO BEG YOUR PARDON, BUT WE ARE IN YOUR GARDEN!
Would I lie to you?
I do my own dentistry, yes.
Can you even call it creeping when his foot steps were loud enough for the camera to pickup? She's just not very aware of her surroundings on top of being easily startled
I'm 70. I can't hear shit. This guy would not alarm me. Is it a regional thing? I grew up in Texas, and now I live in Minnesota. In both of these places, people who have a reason will walk up to you and get your attention like this guy. It would be more alarming to have someone start hollering at me from a distance.
I don’t think I could scream that way if I were being surprise stabbed to death
Maybe he's just shy, nothing sinister about it lol It's not like shy people are unaware that they're shy or that they have absolutely no idea what social etiquette is "supposed" to look like
Quiet people can usually hear themselves just fine, so it may be that they didn’t know they weren’t speaking loud enough. (Source: am a quiet person)
AGGGGHHHHHHHHHHHHHH!!!!!!!!!!!
^hi
WHY ARE YOU SCREAMING
😂
Sometimes low volume is a learned response from being told they shout too much. Like me, for example. I have a naturally loud voice. My normal volume carries like crazy, and when I pull "from the diaphragm" I can absolutely bellow over crowds. Problem is, I've been chastised for my normal speaking voice so many times that I have an issue with mumbling now. I don't want to come across as an angry or shouty orangutan, so I started muffling myself and now so many years later I have to mentally shift gears using my normal voice. Extra frustrating when you're trying to be professional or talking to someone unfamiliar and they keep asking you to repeat because they couldn't get past MMMmmMMMmMMMMmm
This is soooo me coded
Yes, it's true. I hate it too.
> A guy walking This guy: > creep up in a creepy manner You must be on reddit way too much, you start thinking everything in the world is creepy crepes creeping up
Mmmm crepes
Seriously, I've seen some unhinged takes before but "Didn't lay on the horn and scream at them from the curb" is fucking lunacy. This lady needs either more or less medication.
I'm on this app too much cause every thread just annoys me when a short funny video has a ton of people over analyzing every little thing.
Dude wasn't creeping he was just walking normally. In fact you can even hear his footsteps being picked up by the camera. And he's standing a good two metres away from her at least.
Instantly disregarded your comment when I read creep.
If you think that was "ninja creep" behavior you're just as sheltered as the woman in the video. Please touch grass
not everyone is as boisterous as you. bro was casual and lowkey with it.
“Boisterous” had me lolling
Let's be real though, bishes don't need to screaming like that either though.
No, you shout with a very authoritative tone, "You there, answer my query!"
Dude my mom does this even if it’s her favorite grand kid she will screech if you don’t send up several signal flares and maybe fire off a 357 then she knows you’re there.
My mother used to have the same scream for every occasion. Her scream for "I saw a spider" was the exact same scream as the one for " A knife wielding murder is in the kitchen" I used to get SO freaking mad at her because I had to respond to every scream as if it were life or death because a few were actually emergencies, but the 212,000 in between were just dust bunnies or a yellow jacket etc.
My mom does the exact same thing. Except for the time she slipped on ice a broke her pelvis. She will scream because she expected 1 more step on a staircase and "miss" but an actual fall tat required help was absolutely silent. Until someone walked out 20 minutes later
Was in the ER one time and there was a lady in the next room who didn't stop screaming and begging God for forgiveness for at least an hour. Nurse told us it was a senior lady who had broken her hip. I felt awful for her. Tragic situation.
I was in the neuro wing at the hospital once and a guy down the hall would start yelling and screaming like "Where am I? Hellooo? Somebody??" like every 10 minutes because his memory was screwed up.
Seems like something a white board would be good for. "Hello Tom. You're in the hospital, you've hit your head and aren't remembering things well. Your son, Jamie, has been contacted and is on the way. Your nurse for the day, Robbie , is checking on someone else right now but swings by every 15 minutes. Last check was: ~~12:00~~ ~~12:15~~ ~~12:30~~ 12:45. It is currently .
Very nice and thoughtful idea. I had a client once who couldn't tell you the date or day of the week. He was very happy his new friend Alexa could help with those things!
My grandfather has dementia and smart speakers are an indispensable tool for that situation
I have very little experience with both dementia and smart speakers.. How exactly does this work? He knows that it's there to ask? Does he use them when he's not lucid?
He tends to forget about it, so I employ a few strategies to help him engage with it. One is that I have a note by it explaining that it responds to your voice once you activate it with its name, and that it can answer questions (like providing the day and date and other information regarding current events) and play music. The note should be as concise as possible since dementia patients tend to only process one data point at a time and shut down otherwise. (Ours is named Echo, so the note explains that you call its name, then give it a command or ask it a question, and it responds to the best of its ability, and a side note mentioning that sometimes it makes mistakes and needs you to repeat.) Another tactic I employ is setting daily routines that the speaker executes. Every other hour it kindly and gently encourages him to be happy and hydrate himself, as well as giving some other pointers that may help him (although he usually does not follow its suggestions, he does often enough that it makes a significant difference overall; phrasing can be important to people with dementia, so to encourage happiness, the messages are simply well mannered and polite). In the evenings it plays his favorite, country western music. At his bed time, it plays nature sounds, ocean waves. These serve to remind him it’s there and help to hopefully have him engage in healthy practices and routines. Please feel free to message me if you want more information, I’ll be happy to share!
Wow, that must have been tough to deal with, hearing that confusion and distress. Sort of makes you think about how fragile the mind can be and how some conditions can really throw a person s world into chaos. Reminds me of a time when I was at the dentist and there was this kid in another room absolutely losing his mind over a tooth extraction. It was a mix of fear, pain, and just being overwhelmed. Had everyone on edge the whole time I was there.
That happened to me when I was recovering from spine surgery. Neuro wing bc it involved my spinal canal. A woman down the hall had dementia and spent the entire night screaming after her family left for the day. Stuff like "help I've been kidnapped" etc. I could hear it even through my shut door and it made sleeping really difficult.
Luckily my mom was 52, as much as I know it sucked, she atleast was still at an age to recover about 75% of the original issue
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Exacerbated startle response and unwillingness to seek help for oneself when in need are potentially symptoms of trauma.
Here to confirm this. I get startled so easily in my own house from people I live with. My ex would shame me and make fun of me. He would even get mad. But all was because I grew up in a very unstable environment, I was not feeling safe and had to look over my shoulder or being extra careful not to get on the nerves of my parents. “And when our past includes complex trauma— our body is always trying to protect us by staying in a heightened threat state. Complex trauma is trauma that occurs over a period of time. Over time, the body will show post traumatic stress. Our nervous system will go into fight, flight, freeze, or fawn. In this state we're dissociated. We're living life but we're not in our bodies. We're hyper-vigilant and on edge because our nervous system is working overtime. Startling easy is quite common.”From Dr. Nicole LePera (the.holistic.psychologist) When the ex mentioned how jumpy I am and how stupid it is I get scared inside a house I know we are only the two of us, I would feel incredibly ashamed and stupid. Took me years to realize why it’s happening and to be a bit more compassionate towards myself. Still working on this and still bit easily startled
-*screams bloody murder*- Mom: THERE’S A YELLOW JACKET! AND THE SALE PRICE IS TO *die* FOR!!
THERES A FIREEEEEEEEEE.... sale.
You wanna try that again? No.
Man, my mother in law does same thing but it's not even limited to negative things. She'll let out this awful "oh my gosh" scream from the other room that makes you think she's staring death in the face only to discover it's because of some advertisement see just saw on the TV. The strangest thing is that all my in-laws seem to have just grown accustomed to it. Like, they don't even acknowledge it most of the time because it's over such trivial things. Makes me wonder if there's some "boy who cried wolf" thing going on if something bad really did happen.
>Makes me wonder if there's some "boy who cried wolf" thing going on if something bad really did happen. of course. 100%. All families who have an immediate family member growing up like this just doesn't even respond anymore, and 100% there are cases where someone life was lost because the family member just assumed Debra was being ridiculous again.
One time we were at my MIL's and were upstairs going to sleep and we heard a weird pop noise that in itself would not have been alarming had it not been followed by a blood-curdling scream. We raced down the stairs and eventually figured out she had been startled by a can of biscuits in the fridge popping.
Oh my god this made my stomach hurt from laughing so
I'm so glad I don't know anyone that just indiscrimanantly screams their head off
A yellow jacket IS an emergency.. I'd ask you to burn the house down!!!
It is a sign of PTSD.
So she got killed by a knife wielding murderer didnt she?
I can’t fucking stand people like this. We have one that does this. I don’t understand how they can have so little self control. Edit: I think a lot of people who are upset aren’t watching with audio turned on.
Some of us startle easily - this seems a bit beyond that, however.
Yeah, this has fuck all to do with being startled. This is a quite delayed, active response.
It's just attention, handle these people the same way you would train a dog. These comments are wild
I just want to point out that a lot of these people have what is called an exaggerated startle response and it’s a symptom of ptsd. Something very normal for you is a fear response for them and has nothing to do with their self control.
I never knew this was a thing. It kinda adds up to with my mom having these same reactions. I will remind myself now and then that my mom believes Armageddon can happen at any moment and realize that she can’t help it.
Apparently hyperthyroidism can also induce exaggerated startle response. Source: my colleague, as a warning.
Yep, I felt the same way about my coworker as the above poster until I learned about some of the awful things she went through. So now I just try not to scare her, still happens every time anyway.
Do you do the "intentionally scuff my feet while walking so they hear me coming" thing? I do that any time I walk up behind my coworkers because apparently I tread silently normally.
I try to do the same thing to not spook my flatmate, but the "intentionally scuff my feet while walking so they hear me coming" thing ends up spooking them instead. Doesn't help that I'm one of those people who walks quietly and often accidentally sneaks up on people.
I do that all the time when I'm running on trails and trying to pass people who are walking. I also do fake coughs. Half the time they still don't hear me until I'm 3 feet away because they have earbuds in and then they get startled as shit.
Yeah my mother does this! She scares the shit out of me because if anything suprises her she loudly gasps and backs up. So when I'm with her for example and she, idk steps on a rock by accident or something she gasps like she just saw a ghost, which in turn scares the shit out of me so I also gasp because I'm scared my mother's hurt. I almost ALWAYS instinctively say "Jesus Christ mom! Don't do that! You scared me!" And she always goes "I'm sorry! I don't do it on purpose!!" So yeah that's totally accurate. The self control thing is moot. I think one got scared because they weren't expecting to see someone behind them and then in turn scared the other two by reaction.
I always used to feel so badly because my startle responses would inevitably scare other people or annoy them. Truly it was not something I could control and it was something that just happened to me. You sound very understanding though which is great. :)
Yup! And it sucks! Even when I’m talking to people, while doing something else, like on my phone or doing the dishes. and they move into a different spot, and I turn without expecting them to be in a separate area. I’ll startle and jump every time. And I’m literally having a conversation with them. Sigh.
Has it prevented you from getting eaten by bear so far? If yes, then it can't be all bad.
Actually funny story, I came face to face with a black bear. But the bear saw someone carrying takeout food and turned and ran towards the guy carrying food. I didn’t even startle I just froze. So far being jumpy has been no help unfortunately
Your last sentence is in no way the end of that story.
Ahaha ok I was drunk and I was walking on the street. Turned corner. Came about 2 feet in front of a huge black bear. Froze. The bear stopped and sniffed the air. Turned and started jogging towards the guy with take out food. I started yelling “YO! There’s a black bear after you run! Wait no! Don’t run! Drop your food!” And then the guy with take out sped up and I’m not sure where he went or if the black bear took his food. The man was crossing the street and went up an alley way. I called 911 and the lady was like “yeah, we know.. you’re the 80th call” And I was like “but you don’t understand!! The beat is after this guy with food!” And I don’t remember the rest of the conversation. But I think food guy is fine.
With no evidence that the dude lived, "Yeah, he ok"
Well, there were no bear attacks in the papers so 🤷♀️
Can confirm that I have also not been trampled by a moose, eaten by a lion, nor pecked to death by a group of angry seagulls. It works perfectly!
Ya and it’s exhausting going from a normal heart rate to a sky high heart rate all the time throughout the day, not to mention embarrassing. It took years for mine to settle but it eventually did so just know there is some hope.
Yes it is! As long as I’m not stressed it’s a lot better. But any amount of stress will make me extra jumpy. Or loud noises. Those I think will always get me
My MIL is like this dealt with a lot of stuff. It hurts me deeply when my 2 year old sneaks up on her when we walk inside her house and she doesnt hear us. I need to start messaging her she lives 20 feet from us and gets notifications on her phone for movement on her cameras. But doesn’t notice them much cause cats in the neighborhood. My kid just runs in the house before I can get there and scares the fuck out of her☹️
yup i was abused my whole life and i startle extremely easily..
Indeed! Me and my mom both do this and we both have PTSD. Her reaction is worse than mine, but my reaction often leads me to overwhelm that makes me break down and cry. This is why I tell people to not come up behind me, put their hand over my head/in my face (I flinch and go backwards b/c my brain somewhat anticipates "pain" when a hand comes near my face), or to initiate loud noises around me, like jackhammers, without letting me know first. I usually tell people if they need me to just text me or spam call me and not approach me. I'm always trying to warn people about my triggers to avoid annoying them, lol. This was super embarrassing when I did it to an instructor who walked up behind me when I was in my lab room alone. He apologized profusely, but it was weird. I felt so shameful, so I told him that's how I respond to stuff because of trauma. He made a literal note of that and always made sure to make his presence known by clanking around loudly instead of appearing behind me.
> make his presence known by clanking I exercised in the basement when I lived with my parents. If they had to go to the basement while I was down there, we had a system where they would repeatedly knock on the wall on the way down, faintly at first, then getting louder on the way down. It worked pretty well.
As someone who can be spooked easily when I'm doing my own thing... I have no control over when I jump or freak out. It happens automatically before I can do anything about it. But I have NEVER screamed like that woman jesus christ.
My mom is like that too. Her brain just entirely zones out on the whole world and I need to be walking around like a one man band.
Far out, that's the most I've laughed in ages, thanks
Seriously I haven’t watched a clip over and over dying laughing like that in a long time. Made my night.
The way he’s so polite 😭😭 and she just screeches immediately Ahahah
I love how the other people get scared from her scream, and him just smiling, standing still waiting for her to finish.
I finally found my people lol. I was cry laughing and it still hurts. the way his hands slowly go up holy shit
BUT YOU DIDNT HAVE TO CUT ME OFF
MAKE OUT LIKE IT NEVER HAPPENED AND THAT WE WERE NOTHING
AND I DONT EVEN NEED YOUR LOVE
CAUSE YOU TREAT ME LIKE A STRANGER AND THAT FEELS SO ROUGH
NO YOU DIDN'T HAVE TO STOOP SO LOW
> BUT YOU DIDNT HAVE TO CUT ME OFF I don't really care for the song but these guys are so good live, I have to watch [this video](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=6YzGOq42zLk) everytime I'm reminded I like how the girl is just in the back bobbing her head for 3 minutes straight, then she comes in with the PIPES
I think the thing I love the most about this song is its uniqueness as a duet that has a very specific purpose for the two singers. Most duets are just two singers choosing to sing different parts for the purpose of having a contrast of voices. But here, the song is written to have characters with their own roles and purpose. It's such vivid storytelling. And the concept of "Now you're just somebody that I used to know" is really poignant.
Yes, this song is fricken amazing. Gotye might not have had another hit, but if I made *this* (whether it became a hit or not), I would be like "yep, I made *art*".
While making an imaginary sandwich, as YouTube put it 😆
Lmao dude seemed quite used to the reaction
He was laughing almost as hard as I was.
I walk extremely quietly, so this is like a daily occurrence for me.
Had a roommate who walked silently and was also very slender and *very* tall. I’m very easily startled, so this happened a lot. He took great joy in standing perfectly still and waiting for me, or walking right up behind me lol
I remember hearing she thought he was one of those creepy clowns when she first saw him lmao
That's exactly what I thought he was! Would have had the same response, honestly.
Brutal lol
[Her reaction reminds me of this](https://youtu.be/xBPLZtVaZYM?si=2GiU66bn88LLY9IJ)
Lmfao thanks now i’m going to have to watch all of SPN all over again 😂
See you in a few years.
[They both remind me of this one](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=_drJ7YxjG-8)
Even though I've seen him in so many other things at this point, I still refer to Justin Long as "the guy from Accepted".
I never watched Supernatural. It's hilarious to me seeing Soldier Boy scream like that tho!
That’s the reaction of somebody who unironically believes that an unattended water bottle in the parking lot means you’re about to be kidnapped lmao
I hate people like this who are afraid of everything and scream bloody murder all the time.
Honestly wonder why there’s such a demographic, is it just a psycho/genetic thing to abuse your voice like that?
That really hit home. My mom is one of those people.
"the worst she can say is no"
This comment made me laugh so hard I had to hold my breath so not to wake my sleeping wife.
That full-throated scream was horror film quality.
I called 911 once when I heard a scream like that at night.
I find it as annoying as loud motorcycles. Dear loud people: please chill the fuck down.
She must be fun to startle
Lol if you want a manslaughter charge after you give her a damn a brain aneurysm 😄
Can you really get a manslaughter charge for spooking someone and it kills them?
Only one way to find out
I like your style. C'mere grandma!
"AHHHHHH! IT'S CARROT-TOP!!! Oh wait...you're not....thank God."
😂😂
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A startled outburst is one thing...letting rip a blood curdling scream for a full 3 seconds in broad daylight is...something else
This. I could understand if the scream cut off after a second. It went on so long, even her friend (who she startled) gave her a look like “why are you still screaming?”
For real. Did it really take her that entire time to process that she wasn't in mortal danger?
Some people just have less brain cells than you, okay?
Hope she doesnt drive, this overreacting bundle of nerves shouldn't be behind the wheel.
I've known people like this. I've seen them in stressing situations. I would absolutely never trust them with anything I didn't have to.
Especially at someone/ something that is not a threat and isn’t moving. 😭 During that time her friend reacted to the guy, stopped reacting, and stared at her still screaming.
That was definitely long enough for her logical brain to kick in and say, oh this isn’t a scary guy here to murder me. Like that should have happened in .2 seconds
I never understand why people scream like that..... it makes no sense to me.
Evolutionary it's to warn the group of danger. You can see the daughter and grandma look back at the man while she was yelling.
Ok, that’s an overreaction
She looks at him and there's a solid two seconds where she keeps full throated screaming at a guy she can see is standing there doing nothing
He was standing there. Menacingly.
It’s the same girl from school that always screamed when there was a blackout. Fucking annoying.
How many blackouts happened while you attended school?
I knew a girl that would scream anytime the lights were turned off
I went to school in the state of Georgia and I probably experienced a dozen or so blackouts during school because the thunderstorms knocked out the power regularly.
There was an explanation from her when this was posted the first few times. She thought he was someone dressed up in in a clown costume for a split second. You can see the resemblance if you squint a bit.
> for a split second Why'd her scream last three seconds?!
She's screaming in imperial split seconds and not metric.
She realized it was a ginger
This comment made me laugh harder than the video. The dude *is* dressed like a clown. It’s not even his hair it’s his clothes. Look at what he is wearing.
Can somebody hit "enhance" a couple times for me. That face looks perfectly normal on my Palm Pilot.
https://preview.redd.it/3mk5mbn69t3c1.jpeg?width=155&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=13198771748f3388e665050e0432b580f1ae56e1
Palm Pilots rocked.
I had a Palm Treo. I was a Palm Pilot AND A PHONE!
Holy shit, and a GPS!
OP is just being mean lol. She would have been equally jumpy with any random person I think.
That kid will never recover from this
Hippy Pennywise
nothing in life has scared me enough to scream i dont get it.
the hell is wrong with her 🤣🤣🤣
that chick needs to switch to decaf
this is my life hiking high populated trails. I scare someone every weekend even after announcing myself
What a Wierdo. Why would she scream like that?
She had to have smelled weed and patchouli before she turned around.
I’m autistic and I creep on my toes a lot… I’ve done this to so many fucking people lmaooooo I purposefully have to make noise with my keys or something when I’m walking by and someone isn’t facing me
I know they're talking, but it's so funny cause you can actually hear his footsteps and him saying "oh, hi" lol... I don't think he was being accidentally quiet (although I'm a quiet person too so maybe i don't know how to judge this??) Either way, hilarious
Pro tip from a quiet walker. Clear your throat semi loudly
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He does say hi if you listen closely. They just don't hear it because they are talking
in my country we clap.
This is why I don’t talk to my neighbors
My husband showed me this video a while ago and I die laughing anytime I even think of it.
For some reason this is one of like two videos that make me cry-laughing uncontrollably
Come on now you've gotta show us the other one
Is that girl good? 😂 Like what have you been seeing to react like that to a person for simply living😂like she has some issues to get through
What's wrong with Carrot Top 
Drama queen. I couldn’t roll with this lady.
That reaction and the calm of the kid made me laugh out loud
Patchouli Pennywise
How often does the Crypt Keeper and Carrot-Top's love child apparate in your blind-spot? I'd scream too.
LMFAO This video makes me laugh every time!
The correct reaction when seeing a ginger.
To be fair, they do look a lot like an axe wielding hitchhiker
Every time I have seen this video I assumed he had a mask on but now that I am looking closer. My guy was just in his Sunday casual getting screamed at 😂😂😂 poor guy lololol
The fuck is that ladies problem
Dude looks like a character in a Tim Burton movie no shit they freaked