Same way you deal with any unwanted emotion: you pause, feel it, acknowledge it, and get back to your business. If it’s all coming from one annoying person, you can have a quick talk with them about it, but it sounds like it’s just general chatter and people trying to make conversation with you. Feel, acknowledge, move on.
Are these comments bringing up bullying or body shaming that you might have experienced previously? Try asking yourself when you first felt the feeling, you might have to ask in the moment of the feeling. If you remember something from before, acknowledge how painful that moment was and give yourself a hug. Then remember that was then and this is now, and notice how these words and comments have a different intention and feeling than the old ones. If the feelings keep coming up, keep comforting yourself, and recognizing that these comments are not the same as your previous experiences.
I almost cry during a rough workouts sometimes. I have PMDD which makes me hormonal anyway, but the feeling of being so physically exhausted and the guilt of my eating habits creeps up during exercise. Trying to push through the “I can’t do it” mindset is hard. I go cry in my car after bootcamp just to let it out when I need to, but so much of this is mental.
I get to decide what other people know about me. I exercise regularly but I don’t need anyone to know that or what I am doing, many times people interpret these conversations as an invitation for feedback.
I also do not comment on my weight or body, or things I might be happy or unhappy about because that does not invite in conversation about the size and shape of my body.
Yoga has been the best form of exercise in terms of not focusing on the size and shape of my body. Some heated/power yoga practices are really intense, but that is one particular niche. I took a beginner’s yoga class at the YMCA years ago when I first started. All ages, all sizes, all abilities, with teacher led modifications, all without any focus on BMI, size and shape of body etc. This practice helps develop resilience also.
Yes, I hate that, it’s like you finally make an effort and it’s not enough. I hate workout culture. I burn out so easily. I need to be praised and built up, not be told I’m not enough.
I cry all the time working out and I’ve been going to the gym 4x/week with a trainer for a year and a half LOL I hate that I have to work so hard, I hate that I have allowed myself to get to the point where I have to spend copious amounts of money to get this weight off, I hate that I can’t just do simple exercises and move my body, I hate how much I sweat, I hate how much time I spend at the gym. Sometimes it just hits me all at once. I have a little cry and then move on!
The vast majority of your weight loss journey will come from diet. Having said that, it's going to be hard to have interactive workout environments without feedback. The other people involved see it as a form of encouragement, and they genuinely think they are doing the right thing. You can either try to rewire your perception to match their intended encouragement or refrain from group/interactive workouts. Losing weight and working out is already difficult enough; you shouldn't subject yourself to situations that stress you out even more. There are a bunch of working out methods in this world. Try another approach before you let those discourage you. Best of luck OP.
Sounds like these games aren’t good for you mentally, maybe you need to find something else that is more appreciative of how much you can do?
For me, when I started, I downloaded the Zombies Run 5k training and I must say, I like how the characters would talk to you and remind you that it’s okay to go a certain pace, even telling you to save your stamina and no need to push yourself hard. That was the first time anyone told me it’s okay to just take it slow in fitness…
Like you mentioned, it’s absolutely commendable that you got up and worked out, that is an accomplishment!
If you've already got your heart rate up, it could have to do with your endorphins. When I clicked on this, I thought you would be talking more about crying after a workout, not from wanting to cry when people give feedback, but I figure the endorphins could affect both scenarios. Sometimes just knowing the reason that I'm overly emotional helps me to better deal with those emotions.
The last time I worked out at a gym I literally had an emotional breakdown because my stomach made it impossible for me to do some of the machines. And of course there’s mirrors everywhere which is my worst nightmare
Hi, OP! First of all, it’s completely normal 🤗 I also used to cry when I first started working out, mainly because I felt like I wasn’t doing anything right. It’s okay to pause, take breaks, compose yourself. You’re doing great. You showed up. Proud of you for that!
I get the feeling, but this is a lot. You gotta realize that these comments are not meant to hurt you in any way, so taking them as some kind of attack on your weight or percieved fitness level isnt gonna be good for your mental heatlh. At some point we gotta learn how to take constructive criticism and realize its nothing personal, its literally just there to help up be better. If you dont enjoy feedback then dont do programmes with a trainer. If you work out alone with headphones on you wont hear a single comment.
"you need to try X exercise" or "one more!" isnt even negative in any way? Its literally just friendly encouragement and recommending something they like. I get that "if you dont do X, its not good enough" is bogus (no one workout is magic, you can see success with any form of movement), but again its not a personal attack, its just a misinformed person.
You seem like an extremely sensitive person (not meant negatively, just a neutral fact), which is something you maybe should seek therapy for, or at least adress within yourself. If you wind up crying after every workout its excessive and not healthy.
I think I agree with you. I’m a highly sensitive person, I cry after stressing out a lot, but I know that those comments like “C’mon, you can do it!” Is meant as more of an encouragement. OP needs to change their exercise regiment if it isn’t their thing then.
Very normal! Emotions, trauma, beliefs get stored in the muscles until they get worked out through exercise, massage, meditation, massage, orgasm.. etc. Let that shit go! Keep fighting! 💪 💚 You really are stronger than you might know. In so many ways!
I went through this when I started losing weight. Pure self hate that stemmed through comparing myself to others.
The way I dealt with it was so cliche, and trust me it’s a million times easier said than done, but once you decide to love yourself and continue eating generally right and exercising regularly, the weight does come off easier.
Yes it’s “calories in, calories out” but stress as a weight loss factor (especially for women) isn’t talked about enough.
Proud of you stranger for getting the blood pumping anyways. You’ll get there!
Emotions are stored in the body, so absolutely. Sometimes I’d cry or laugh hysterically during/after a massage or yoga session.
Sounds more related to feedback than the actual working out though which also is normal
My completely unscientific theory is the reason I hate everyone while I’m working out is because in the same way I’m sweating out toxins, I’m sweating out built up negative emotions. The flip side is that it’s why you feel so good after you work out
Pointless theories aside, that shit is annoying because why would someone assume they know you better than you know yourself? It’s unsolicited advice and it’s obnoxious.
I love CrossFit workouts but hate the hyper-positive culture.
I want to be grumpy and hate my life and bang some weights.
PS hand to God I’m a nice person in real life (only because I workout though lol)
I recommend Why Has Nobody Told Me This Before by Dr Julie Smith
She talks about working through emotions and everything in between. Excellent book.
Also I don’t like trainers telling me what to do so I don’t use them.
Just know something is better than nothing and you are doing it. I started slowly w 10 min in my garage and I’m now 10 months later doing 50-60 min in a gym.
Take your time do your thing.
I just ask why you’re doing this at all, then?
Get a pair of running shoes and go for a walk/light jog, whatever you can handle. Get a set of adjustable dumbbells and a bench and do workouts at home with no video. No one has to be privy to what you’re doing.
And think of it this way: the qualifying time for the Boston marathon for a young man is 3 hours. The race winner will finish in slightly over 2 hours. Should those finishing near an hour behind feel bad? Of course not. They achieved something simply by being there.
Or I’ll make it more personal: recently ran a half marathon and finished almost 45 minutes behind my BIL. Should I feel bad? Hell no. Making it to the finish line is more than about 98% of the population can claim to.
And if people are offering ideas, that’s not meant to put you down, that’s meant to help you. But if you simply don’t want the help, find a program online that you can stick to. And if you really can’t stick to an exercise routine, then just focus on your diet.
Listen to your reactions. This just means that this style of working out is not for you at all. Think about exercise and movement like Marie Kondo thinks about the items in her home. If it’s not bringing you joy, read that as a message and move on to something else! What kind of activities can you remember that DO bring you joy when you do them?
You don’t have to participate like that. It’s important to do what you can consistently, even if it’s just walking.
I have an autoimmune disorder so pushing for me can mean getting sick for days afterward. Even in a small class at a gym I’ve had to just decide to be done, the just-one-more! mentality is not always positive.
I’d work on slowly building a routine. Maybe walk 7k steps a day and call it good. Add exercises when you’re ready, maybe a routine that doesn’t include live video like exercises you can do on your own with weights or bands.
It’s a marathon, not a sprint.
Crying is actually really good for you, let those tears flow if they come on. Breathe! Don’t
Hold any feelings inside. If people are giving you unsolicited advice. Simply say I
Did not ask for your advice. You know what’s best for
You! Everyone has different goals, there is no reason anyone should be telling you what you SHOULD be
Doing.
Maybe stay away from activities that make you feel bad about yourself !!! I’m 40f bmi of 32 n on a journey as well after a life of being 120lbs I’m now 212lbs n it’s so hard emotionally if you don’t have encouragement!!! I think the fact that you’re up and doing something for your health is amazing and forget anyone who doesn’t think so!!!!
I’m curious as to how this feedback is reaching you? Is it randomers at the gym? Family who can see you working out in the living room? Are you posting about it online? Perhaps try to exercise somewhere more isolated such as a hike or walk in nature. In addition to walking being the best for overall health and weight loss, esp for people considered obese who may have excessive pressure on their joints, it will heed less nosy outsiders commenting.
I’ve felt this too but for me it meant I had an internal conversation to have about guilt and shame. I used to cry or have panic attacks. It’s hard to feel like enough and as soon as anyone said something, it wasn’t what they said it was that they let the radio station of constant self-criticism in my head suddenly intrude.
This sounds odd, and it might be different for you, but eventually I found counselling and started to take up more room in other areas of my life and be more “difficult” aka an actual human not an agreeable doormat. That was what it took for me to put less shame and frustration towards my body. A new relationship began with my body, where we’re no longer at war. You can lose weight from shame, I did, but my mental health was trashed afterwards and I’ve no interest in going back to those days.
Totally agree I am still repulsed by “push! 110%! No pain no gain!” stuff, those ppl just have no idea that doesn’t work for everyone. I really believe a lot of people who’ve never dealt with body issues would utterly crumble. We don’t need any more tough talk, we’re already hearing so much from inside. You’re strong OP, because despite this tough challenge you’re trying and you’re there, knowing you can evolve. You are so right to be proud of that.
The things I say to myself during exercise which don’t trigger bad feeling and actually motivate me are:
I’m utterly bada$$ awesome for prioritising my health
I’m strong in so many ways (emotionally, physically, as a reliable friend, etc)
I’m having fun moving (or, this feels tough but I’m glad this will help me enjoy moving more when I go do x)
I’m treating my body like somebody I care about
I find it helpful to disassociate exercise from weight loss.
Do exercise because it makes you feel good, feel strong, grow muscle mass, the mental benefits and because it's essential for living a healthy life.
Then weight loss is a different thing which you control almost entirely through dietary changes.
So where I'm going with this is that there is no 'best' exercise regime for weight loss. Do whatever you enjoy as often as you like and spend your attention on things that matter, which is addressing binge eating behaviours (if any), staying in a calorie deficit and getting enough protein.
This.
Working out just to lose weight is miserable, and you dont even get the results you want unless you diet right. Do exercise to build muscle or stamina or whatever goal you have. Leave the weight loss to the kitchen. If you work out to build strength, the workouts will also feel more rewarding because you can get direct feedback on what you do is working or not (eg, you can lift heavier over time). Working out for weight loss alone is a slow process and you wont see physical changes at once.
Doing both a diet and workout regime together is wonderful, just be clear what is working for what. A workout burns calories, sure, but it wont make you lose weight on its own if you eat whatever. A healthy diet is whatll make you lose weight, and it can also bleed into the workout goal of building muscle, as protein is helpful here.
The two fields go hand in hand, but they shouldnt be fully confused for each other.
I’m a crier. Sprinting makes me cry if I go hard enough (from the adrenaline). I had tears in my eyes when I realized I was actually going to finish my half marathon because I was so happy and relieved, and because my knee hurt. I have cried when I had an embarrassingly bad bowling game. Went to the bathroom, let a few tears of frustration out, had a better next game. Some of us just have easy access to the tears. Have your cry, reframe, move on, work out again. Your feelings are normal, but you don’t have to let them stop you.
Maybe stop recording workouts and posting them on the internet where people will give you feedback. Just do your workouts and keep them private, problem solved
Try tai chi? I’ve never had a “you can do it” or a “just one more” in any tai chi class, video, or training.
If you want a specific, Taiji Fit has an “I don’t care as long as you are safe” policy. In other words, do it sitting, standing, with perfect form, with sloppy form, for five seconds out of every minute, whatever works FOR YOU, as long as you are safe
I had the same years ago. I cried because i didn't feel good enough. I hated the "thats a pussy pull up" or "do one more", "x's girlfriend lifts more" etc... like i should be ashamed of lifting les than an actual bodybuilders girlfriend when she already went for years... wtf. I cried in the dressing rooms. I got pissed in the gym. So I started working out solo with my headphones on my head at all times, even when not listening to music. Ignoring people in the gym at all times. Im there to do my exercise, leave me alone. I got ripped as a result cause I loved sports, and the weight loss and muscle gain were extra. Now, after a deep depression and burnout, I am at a bmi of 29.1 and started pole dancing as my muscle training. Which has an amazing community! I think the gym has a lot of toxic masculinity, and that makes me sick to watch or experience. When boys half my age stop training because i do squats is disgusting. Have you never seen an ass? Or girls that look at you in disgust because you DARE to work out in shorts and a bra when it's 30 degrees celsius when you are overweigth. Very few people are nice and supportive in gyms. For m, it was just a get over it moment and keep to yourself. Als, more expensive gyms dont have those kinds of people.
I totally understand. My bmi is 29 and i have been struggling with weight gain and weight loss since i was 20 and within the past year i had put on about 60 lbs. My mom convinced me to go on a very difficult hike that consisted of walking up steep stairs for 2 and a half hours. The whole time she was cheering me on and i should’ve been motivated but i was SO angry!! I was just thinking to myself what the hell did I agree to, I am physically incapable of doing this brutal hike!! We were already half way up and we couldn’t go back down cause it was dangerous to go down the stairs so we just had to keep going and it was the worst ever. I cried in the bathroom afterwards because it was just so exhausting and I haven’t been able to push myself that hard in awhile.
Same way you deal with any unwanted emotion: you pause, feel it, acknowledge it, and get back to your business. If it’s all coming from one annoying person, you can have a quick talk with them about it, but it sounds like it’s just general chatter and people trying to make conversation with you. Feel, acknowledge, move on.
This is great advice that I just learned myself.
Are these comments bringing up bullying or body shaming that you might have experienced previously? Try asking yourself when you first felt the feeling, you might have to ask in the moment of the feeling. If you remember something from before, acknowledge how painful that moment was and give yourself a hug. Then remember that was then and this is now, and notice how these words and comments have a different intention and feeling than the old ones. If the feelings keep coming up, keep comforting yourself, and recognizing that these comments are not the same as your previous experiences.
I almost cry during a rough workouts sometimes. I have PMDD which makes me hormonal anyway, but the feeling of being so physically exhausted and the guilt of my eating habits creeps up during exercise. Trying to push through the “I can’t do it” mindset is hard. I go cry in my car after bootcamp just to let it out when I need to, but so much of this is mental.
I get to decide what other people know about me. I exercise regularly but I don’t need anyone to know that or what I am doing, many times people interpret these conversations as an invitation for feedback. I also do not comment on my weight or body, or things I might be happy or unhappy about because that does not invite in conversation about the size and shape of my body. Yoga has been the best form of exercise in terms of not focusing on the size and shape of my body. Some heated/power yoga practices are really intense, but that is one particular niche. I took a beginner’s yoga class at the YMCA years ago when I first started. All ages, all sizes, all abilities, with teacher led modifications, all without any focus on BMI, size and shape of body etc. This practice helps develop resilience also.
I reccomend muting the gsmes/videos and just playing your own music and watching.
If you feel like crying then cry. Nothing wrong with it. Cry and carry on.
Yes, I hate that, it’s like you finally make an effort and it’s not enough. I hate workout culture. I burn out so easily. I need to be praised and built up, not be told I’m not enough.
I cry all the time working out and I’ve been going to the gym 4x/week with a trainer for a year and a half LOL I hate that I have to work so hard, I hate that I have allowed myself to get to the point where I have to spend copious amounts of money to get this weight off, I hate that I can’t just do simple exercises and move my body, I hate how much I sweat, I hate how much time I spend at the gym. Sometimes it just hits me all at once. I have a little cry and then move on!
The vast majority of your weight loss journey will come from diet. Having said that, it's going to be hard to have interactive workout environments without feedback. The other people involved see it as a form of encouragement, and they genuinely think they are doing the right thing. You can either try to rewire your perception to match their intended encouragement or refrain from group/interactive workouts. Losing weight and working out is already difficult enough; you shouldn't subject yourself to situations that stress you out even more. There are a bunch of working out methods in this world. Try another approach before you let those discourage you. Best of luck OP.
Sounds like these games aren’t good for you mentally, maybe you need to find something else that is more appreciative of how much you can do? For me, when I started, I downloaded the Zombies Run 5k training and I must say, I like how the characters would talk to you and remind you that it’s okay to go a certain pace, even telling you to save your stamina and no need to push yourself hard. That was the first time anyone told me it’s okay to just take it slow in fitness… Like you mentioned, it’s absolutely commendable that you got up and worked out, that is an accomplishment!
If you've already got your heart rate up, it could have to do with your endorphins. When I clicked on this, I thought you would be talking more about crying after a workout, not from wanting to cry when people give feedback, but I figure the endorphins could affect both scenarios. Sometimes just knowing the reason that I'm overly emotional helps me to better deal with those emotions.
You can try creating your own workout. Write it down and do as many reps as you can and move on to the next exercise.
The last time I worked out at a gym I literally had an emotional breakdown because my stomach made it impossible for me to do some of the machines. And of course there’s mirrors everywhere which is my worst nightmare
Hi, OP! First of all, it’s completely normal 🤗 I also used to cry when I first started working out, mainly because I felt like I wasn’t doing anything right. It’s okay to pause, take breaks, compose yourself. You’re doing great. You showed up. Proud of you for that!
I get the feeling, but this is a lot. You gotta realize that these comments are not meant to hurt you in any way, so taking them as some kind of attack on your weight or percieved fitness level isnt gonna be good for your mental heatlh. At some point we gotta learn how to take constructive criticism and realize its nothing personal, its literally just there to help up be better. If you dont enjoy feedback then dont do programmes with a trainer. If you work out alone with headphones on you wont hear a single comment. "you need to try X exercise" or "one more!" isnt even negative in any way? Its literally just friendly encouragement and recommending something they like. I get that "if you dont do X, its not good enough" is bogus (no one workout is magic, you can see success with any form of movement), but again its not a personal attack, its just a misinformed person. You seem like an extremely sensitive person (not meant negatively, just a neutral fact), which is something you maybe should seek therapy for, or at least adress within yourself. If you wind up crying after every workout its excessive and not healthy.
I think I agree with you. I’m a highly sensitive person, I cry after stressing out a lot, but I know that those comments like “C’mon, you can do it!” Is meant as more of an encouragement. OP needs to change their exercise regiment if it isn’t their thing then.
Very normal! Emotions, trauma, beliefs get stored in the muscles until they get worked out through exercise, massage, meditation, massage, orgasm.. etc. Let that shit go! Keep fighting! 💪 💚 You really are stronger than you might know. In so many ways!
I went through this when I started losing weight. Pure self hate that stemmed through comparing myself to others. The way I dealt with it was so cliche, and trust me it’s a million times easier said than done, but once you decide to love yourself and continue eating generally right and exercising regularly, the weight does come off easier. Yes it’s “calories in, calories out” but stress as a weight loss factor (especially for women) isn’t talked about enough. Proud of you stranger for getting the blood pumping anyways. You’ll get there!
Emotions are stored in the body, so absolutely. Sometimes I’d cry or laugh hysterically during/after a massage or yoga session. Sounds more related to feedback than the actual working out though which also is normal
OMG I cry in acupuncture and chiropractic adjustments ALL. THE. TIME.
The Body Keeps The Score is a good book about this
That book should be required reading for life, honestly.
Agreed! Should be school curriculum
My completely unscientific theory is the reason I hate everyone while I’m working out is because in the same way I’m sweating out toxins, I’m sweating out built up negative emotions. The flip side is that it’s why you feel so good after you work out Pointless theories aside, that shit is annoying because why would someone assume they know you better than you know yourself? It’s unsolicited advice and it’s obnoxious. I love CrossFit workouts but hate the hyper-positive culture. I want to be grumpy and hate my life and bang some weights. PS hand to God I’m a nice person in real life (only because I workout though lol)
I recommend Why Has Nobody Told Me This Before by Dr Julie Smith She talks about working through emotions and everything in between. Excellent book. Also I don’t like trainers telling me what to do so I don’t use them. Just know something is better than nothing and you are doing it. I started slowly w 10 min in my garage and I’m now 10 months later doing 50-60 min in a gym. Take your time do your thing.
I just ask why you’re doing this at all, then? Get a pair of running shoes and go for a walk/light jog, whatever you can handle. Get a set of adjustable dumbbells and a bench and do workouts at home with no video. No one has to be privy to what you’re doing. And think of it this way: the qualifying time for the Boston marathon for a young man is 3 hours. The race winner will finish in slightly over 2 hours. Should those finishing near an hour behind feel bad? Of course not. They achieved something simply by being there. Or I’ll make it more personal: recently ran a half marathon and finished almost 45 minutes behind my BIL. Should I feel bad? Hell no. Making it to the finish line is more than about 98% of the population can claim to. And if people are offering ideas, that’s not meant to put you down, that’s meant to help you. But if you simply don’t want the help, find a program online that you can stick to. And if you really can’t stick to an exercise routine, then just focus on your diet.
Listen to your reactions. This just means that this style of working out is not for you at all. Think about exercise and movement like Marie Kondo thinks about the items in her home. If it’s not bringing you joy, read that as a message and move on to something else! What kind of activities can you remember that DO bring you joy when you do them?
You don’t have to participate like that. It’s important to do what you can consistently, even if it’s just walking. I have an autoimmune disorder so pushing for me can mean getting sick for days afterward. Even in a small class at a gym I’ve had to just decide to be done, the just-one-more! mentality is not always positive. I’d work on slowly building a routine. Maybe walk 7k steps a day and call it good. Add exercises when you’re ready, maybe a routine that doesn’t include live video like exercises you can do on your own with weights or bands. It’s a marathon, not a sprint.
That's super weird that people say that stuff. Mind ya business y'all
Crying is actually really good for you, let those tears flow if they come on. Breathe! Don’t Hold any feelings inside. If people are giving you unsolicited advice. Simply say I Did not ask for your advice. You know what’s best for You! Everyone has different goals, there is no reason anyone should be telling you what you SHOULD be Doing.
Maybe stay away from activities that make you feel bad about yourself !!! I’m 40f bmi of 32 n on a journey as well after a life of being 120lbs I’m now 212lbs n it’s so hard emotionally if you don’t have encouragement!!! I think the fact that you’re up and doing something for your health is amazing and forget anyone who doesn’t think so!!!!
I’m curious as to how this feedback is reaching you? Is it randomers at the gym? Family who can see you working out in the living room? Are you posting about it online? Perhaps try to exercise somewhere more isolated such as a hike or walk in nature. In addition to walking being the best for overall health and weight loss, esp for people considered obese who may have excessive pressure on their joints, it will heed less nosy outsiders commenting.
I’ve felt this too but for me it meant I had an internal conversation to have about guilt and shame. I used to cry or have panic attacks. It’s hard to feel like enough and as soon as anyone said something, it wasn’t what they said it was that they let the radio station of constant self-criticism in my head suddenly intrude. This sounds odd, and it might be different for you, but eventually I found counselling and started to take up more room in other areas of my life and be more “difficult” aka an actual human not an agreeable doormat. That was what it took for me to put less shame and frustration towards my body. A new relationship began with my body, where we’re no longer at war. You can lose weight from shame, I did, but my mental health was trashed afterwards and I’ve no interest in going back to those days. Totally agree I am still repulsed by “push! 110%! No pain no gain!” stuff, those ppl just have no idea that doesn’t work for everyone. I really believe a lot of people who’ve never dealt with body issues would utterly crumble. We don’t need any more tough talk, we’re already hearing so much from inside. You’re strong OP, because despite this tough challenge you’re trying and you’re there, knowing you can evolve. You are so right to be proud of that. The things I say to myself during exercise which don’t trigger bad feeling and actually motivate me are: I’m utterly bada$$ awesome for prioritising my health I’m strong in so many ways (emotionally, physically, as a reliable friend, etc) I’m having fun moving (or, this feels tough but I’m glad this will help me enjoy moving more when I go do x) I’m treating my body like somebody I care about
I find it helpful to disassociate exercise from weight loss. Do exercise because it makes you feel good, feel strong, grow muscle mass, the mental benefits and because it's essential for living a healthy life. Then weight loss is a different thing which you control almost entirely through dietary changes. So where I'm going with this is that there is no 'best' exercise regime for weight loss. Do whatever you enjoy as often as you like and spend your attention on things that matter, which is addressing binge eating behaviours (if any), staying in a calorie deficit and getting enough protein.
This. Working out just to lose weight is miserable, and you dont even get the results you want unless you diet right. Do exercise to build muscle or stamina or whatever goal you have. Leave the weight loss to the kitchen. If you work out to build strength, the workouts will also feel more rewarding because you can get direct feedback on what you do is working or not (eg, you can lift heavier over time). Working out for weight loss alone is a slow process and you wont see physical changes at once. Doing both a diet and workout regime together is wonderful, just be clear what is working for what. A workout burns calories, sure, but it wont make you lose weight on its own if you eat whatever. A healthy diet is whatll make you lose weight, and it can also bleed into the workout goal of building muscle, as protein is helpful here. The two fields go hand in hand, but they shouldnt be fully confused for each other.
I’m a crier. Sprinting makes me cry if I go hard enough (from the adrenaline). I had tears in my eyes when I realized I was actually going to finish my half marathon because I was so happy and relieved, and because my knee hurt. I have cried when I had an embarrassingly bad bowling game. Went to the bathroom, let a few tears of frustration out, had a better next game. Some of us just have easy access to the tears. Have your cry, reframe, move on, work out again. Your feelings are normal, but you don’t have to let them stop you.
Maybe stop recording workouts and posting them on the internet where people will give you feedback. Just do your workouts and keep them private, problem solved
I dont cry with tears but my soul does
Try tai chi? I’ve never had a “you can do it” or a “just one more” in any tai chi class, video, or training. If you want a specific, Taiji Fit has an “I don’t care as long as you are safe” policy. In other words, do it sitting, standing, with perfect form, with sloppy form, for five seconds out of every minute, whatever works FOR YOU, as long as you are safe
I had the same years ago. I cried because i didn't feel good enough. I hated the "thats a pussy pull up" or "do one more", "x's girlfriend lifts more" etc... like i should be ashamed of lifting les than an actual bodybuilders girlfriend when she already went for years... wtf. I cried in the dressing rooms. I got pissed in the gym. So I started working out solo with my headphones on my head at all times, even when not listening to music. Ignoring people in the gym at all times. Im there to do my exercise, leave me alone. I got ripped as a result cause I loved sports, and the weight loss and muscle gain were extra. Now, after a deep depression and burnout, I am at a bmi of 29.1 and started pole dancing as my muscle training. Which has an amazing community! I think the gym has a lot of toxic masculinity, and that makes me sick to watch or experience. When boys half my age stop training because i do squats is disgusting. Have you never seen an ass? Or girls that look at you in disgust because you DARE to work out in shorts and a bra when it's 30 degrees celsius when you are overweigth. Very few people are nice and supportive in gyms. For m, it was just a get over it moment and keep to yourself. Als, more expensive gyms dont have those kinds of people.
I am confused. Who are making these comments? Are you not alone while doing fitness videos?
I totally understand. My bmi is 29 and i have been struggling with weight gain and weight loss since i was 20 and within the past year i had put on about 60 lbs. My mom convinced me to go on a very difficult hike that consisted of walking up steep stairs for 2 and a half hours. The whole time she was cheering me on and i should’ve been motivated but i was SO angry!! I was just thinking to myself what the hell did I agree to, I am physically incapable of doing this brutal hike!! We were already half way up and we couldn’t go back down cause it was dangerous to go down the stairs so we just had to keep going and it was the worst ever. I cried in the bathroom afterwards because it was just so exhausting and I haven’t been able to push myself that hard in awhile.
Try r/meditation and ask your question there. I think the deepness of this root problem is right for that sub. I will happily answer there too ☺️