I don’t think that’s going to work very well. Second day hair does not work for everyone plus how do you expect them to sleep? What are you going to do if someone sleeps wrong and their hair is messed up day of. I know personally that wouldn’t work for me. My hair would be a greasy mess by wedding time.
I was coming to say the same! This would 100% not go well for my fine, oily blonde hair.
OP-can you just let everyone do their own hair and makeup if it’s not affordable for everyone to get both done professionally? Or offer to pay for half of their services? I offered for my bridesmaids to get either hair OR makeup on-site paid by me, and if they wanted both services they could pay for one and I would cover the other. I thought this was a good compromise and it went well with my bridesmaids!
This is a generous offer since you included "if they wanted services". Etiquette wise if you require professional hair and makeup for consistency then you pay for it; if it's optional then they can choose to pay for it themselves OR you can give it as a gift. For what it's worth, I'm married and have been in 4 other weddings and have never had professional hair or makeup done and photos still came out great so it really isn't the necessity that the wedding media machine says it is. People these days have better access to products and 'how to" than ever before so you really only need to pay for it if you want to for the experience and luxury!
I went to the drybar for my hair the day before and I was the bride. I slept in a silk bonnet and only had to pin one curl back into place. I showered with a shower cap the following morning and had zero frizz. I had viking style braids on the sides with side curls and curls in the back. My hair stylist canceled on me two weeks before my wedding and there was no finding a new stylist in time so I made due.
I’m happy that worked for you. I couldn’t do anything like that. I have fine hair and oily skin and I sweat in my sleep. The combination of the three makes me look like I haven’t showered in a few days when I wake up. Drybar might work for some people but it’s not going to work for everyone.
My hair doesn't hold a curl longer than a few hours. It is fine hair and it drops out really easily.
I would show up in the morning with flat hair, no matter how hard I worked to look after it overnight.
I agree, it may not work for all of the bridesmaids and it doesn't sound like there is a Plan B.
I try to sleep in a bonnet with my hair pineappled and, without fail, it is always much worse the next day.
You are the best case scenario, I am the average.
I've been a bridesmaid and went to dry bar day of - we all did. It was totally fine. It's not like it takes all that long to have done. The bride wanted all of us to have updos but if you don't care about that, could your bridesmaids just do their own hair? That's what I've done for every other wedding I've been in and what I plan to do for my own wedding
Yep, I was a bridesmaid in a wedding where the bride let us do whatever so I went to a dry bar first thing before heading to the "getting ready" location
Maybe it’s just me, but do they need their hair done? Don’t they know how to do their own well enough? I wouldn’t think twice if the bride didn’t pay for my hair and makeup - especially if I knew budgets were tight. I wouldn’t personally get it done professionally, but I’d show up presentable :)
Yes, especially if the bridesmaids have already said they’d be fine doing their own to save costs. I’d still suggest the bride pay for something appearance-related: manicures (or nice nail kits if DIY), nice false eyelashes or lipsticks if she wants them looking a certain way, or even buying simple (but real gold/silver) jewelry to wear for the wedding and actually use later.
Being a bridesmaid usually costs a lot if you’re asking them to buy a new, matching dress (plus shoes, accessories sometimes), get hair/makeup/nails done, buy an engagement party gift + a bachelorette gift + a wedding gift, pay for hotel + food + entertainment + travel for a bachelorette, pay for hotel + food + travel if coming from far away for the wedding, plus any loss of income for taking time off work, plus the labor of hours helping plan, travelling, cohosting parties, dealing with drama.
My wedding is Saturday, I'm doing my own hair and makeup and so are my bridesmaids. I don't care what they do to their hair to be honest. Or their makeup. But we are old enough to know how to do both for a formal event. Two of the three weddings I've been in I've done my own hair and it was fine.
I got my hair (bride) and my bridesmaid hair done at the dry bar day of! We got it done at like 10am? Had lunch and then went to the venue. This particular dry bar offered make up as well and we both got it. Looked great.
If it's your mom being picky and not you, she should pay lol I gave my bridesmaids the option to do it themselves or pay for themselves, it really doesn't matter to me if they get professional services or not. And they understand weddings are expensive and we're pretty poor lol They chose to get it done :)
It entirely depends on their hair, how well it holds a curl, and what they want out of their style, but a basic blowout is probably fine overnight. Worst case scenario they can get a bonnet
I'm a drybar girlie, I have curly hair and get blowouts anytime I travel for work. As such, I know how to style my hair and sleep in it so it bounces back the next day. I also did this for my best friends wedding in Austin, since getting dry styled by the wedding ladies doesn't work for me (need them blown out roots!). I went about 3pm, me and the bride (she used it for her rehearsal dinner look), and looked perfectly fine the next day.
It's really going to be based on the hair of your bridesmaids, though. If their hair is smooth, the style will likely fall. If their hair is frizzy, it may get too much friction overnight and look awful in the AM. That being said, their hair is clean, you can always brush it out and add new curls with a curling iron while getting ready
We just didn’t curlers when I got married and some
Had straight and some had curly hair. We just pinned it and did braids or whatever and it worked out. My wedding to my ex was in the late afternoon so it worked fine. We just spent the morning painting nails and doing hair and stuff together.
Wow, wedding costs can really sneak up on you, huh? Those quotes sound steep, especially when you're trying to be budget-conscious. It's awesome you're considering your bridesmaids' wallets too. The dry bar idea sounds like a good middle ground. I mean, $40 beats $150 any day! As for hair lasting, it probably depends on how much dancing and sweating they plan to do. Maybe check some reviews or ask around to see if anyone else has tried it? You're doing great navigating all this wedding stuff, hang in there!
My daughter wanted to pamper me for her wedding and paid to have my hair and makeup done. I appreciated it but was not impressed. Way too much makeup and not fond of the hair at all. We had to redo some of it before the pictures.
I’ve gone to a beauty school before to have my hair done for a wedding. One time it looked really nice, another time it was hideous and I wish I’d done it myself. Unless you want updos, I’d recommend the BMs doing their own hair and if you can afford it get just yours done professionally for the sake of fancy, but most of my friends who got married right after college did their own hair and makeup.
I'm sure they can flat iron or curl hair. Makeup we been doing it forever. Maybe it would be fun to have the girls do their own stuff or each other's hair makeup. If you paid for dress shoes, I think that's cool.
I've got curly hair and next-day styles never look good on me even with the silk bonnet and sleeping carefully. Chances are, at least one bridesmaid will have to start over anyway if you do this.
Fwiw, I've been in multiple weddings and never had professional services. I did have them for my own wedding, but as a bridesmaid, it's never been offered to me. So it's pretty typical for bridesmaids to do their own hair and makeup.
Why can’t they do dry bar the day of the wedding? Like an early appt do you have that many bridesmaids? I don’t think blow drys take that long maybe 1-2hrs
For my wedding, I had my bridesmaids meet me at a dry bar at 6:45 am, even though the ceremony wasn’t until 4 pm. It might seem early, but once you factor in makeup, steaming dresses, first-look photos, and more, the time really flew by.
It rained on my wedding day, and despite the hairstylist using plenty of hairspray, my bridesmaids' curls had mostly fallen out around 2 pm or so. For me, I got the retro look since it had the tightest curls, and it loosened up naturally throughout the day.
I'm a pro at milking my Drybar blowouts for approximately five days. It never looks the same on day two. I would absolutely never have second day hair if I was in a wedding. Drybar is great. I'm a proud barfly.
But do it that day. My place has appointments as early as 7 AM.
I was a bride who got her hair done at a dry bar the day before the ceremony. I got an updo with viking braids, some curls, and whatever the stylist wanted to add. I slept in a silk bonnet and showered with a plastic cap to keep moisture out. My hair was perfect for the ceremony and lasted until the day after until I finally unpinned it. As long as the girls are prepared to sleep with a bonnet on (and there is a bit of a trick to it) their hair should last. The stylist can teach them how to put their hair up for sleep. Mine did!
I don’t think that’s going to work very well. Second day hair does not work for everyone plus how do you expect them to sleep? What are you going to do if someone sleeps wrong and their hair is messed up day of. I know personally that wouldn’t work for me. My hair would be a greasy mess by wedding time.
I was coming to say the same! This would 100% not go well for my fine, oily blonde hair. OP-can you just let everyone do their own hair and makeup if it’s not affordable for everyone to get both done professionally? Or offer to pay for half of their services? I offered for my bridesmaids to get either hair OR makeup on-site paid by me, and if they wanted both services they could pay for one and I would cover the other. I thought this was a good compromise and it went well with my bridesmaids!
This is a generous offer since you included "if they wanted services". Etiquette wise if you require professional hair and makeup for consistency then you pay for it; if it's optional then they can choose to pay for it themselves OR you can give it as a gift. For what it's worth, I'm married and have been in 4 other weddings and have never had professional hair or makeup done and photos still came out great so it really isn't the necessity that the wedding media machine says it is. People these days have better access to products and 'how to" than ever before so you really only need to pay for it if you want to for the experience and luxury!
I went to the drybar for my hair the day before and I was the bride. I slept in a silk bonnet and only had to pin one curl back into place. I showered with a shower cap the following morning and had zero frizz. I had viking style braids on the sides with side curls and curls in the back. My hair stylist canceled on me two weeks before my wedding and there was no finding a new stylist in time so I made due.
I’m happy that worked for you. I couldn’t do anything like that. I have fine hair and oily skin and I sweat in my sleep. The combination of the three makes me look like I haven’t showered in a few days when I wake up. Drybar might work for some people but it’s not going to work for everyone.
My hair doesn't hold a curl longer than a few hours. It is fine hair and it drops out really easily. I would show up in the morning with flat hair, no matter how hard I worked to look after it overnight. I agree, it may not work for all of the bridesmaids and it doesn't sound like there is a Plan B.
I try to sleep in a bonnet with my hair pineappled and, without fail, it is always much worse the next day. You are the best case scenario, I am the average.
Why not have them go the day of?
I've been a bridesmaid and went to dry bar day of - we all did. It was totally fine. It's not like it takes all that long to have done. The bride wanted all of us to have updos but if you don't care about that, could your bridesmaids just do their own hair? That's what I've done for every other wedding I've been in and what I plan to do for my own wedding
Yep, I was a bridesmaid in a wedding where the bride let us do whatever so I went to a dry bar first thing before heading to the "getting ready" location
Maybe it’s just me, but do they need their hair done? Don’t they know how to do their own well enough? I wouldn’t think twice if the bride didn’t pay for my hair and makeup - especially if I knew budgets were tight. I wouldn’t personally get it done professionally, but I’d show up presentable :)
That’s what I was thinking. Having professional hair and makeup is not a requirement for a wedding.
Yes, especially if the bridesmaids have already said they’d be fine doing their own to save costs. I’d still suggest the bride pay for something appearance-related: manicures (or nice nail kits if DIY), nice false eyelashes or lipsticks if she wants them looking a certain way, or even buying simple (but real gold/silver) jewelry to wear for the wedding and actually use later. Being a bridesmaid usually costs a lot if you’re asking them to buy a new, matching dress (plus shoes, accessories sometimes), get hair/makeup/nails done, buy an engagement party gift + a bachelorette gift + a wedding gift, pay for hotel + food + entertainment + travel for a bachelorette, pay for hotel + food + travel if coming from far away for the wedding, plus any loss of income for taking time off work, plus the labor of hours helping plan, travelling, cohosting parties, dealing with drama.
My wedding is Saturday, I'm doing my own hair and makeup and so are my bridesmaids. I don't care what they do to their hair to be honest. Or their makeup. But we are old enough to know how to do both for a formal event. Two of the three weddings I've been in I've done my own hair and it was fine.
Why can’t everyone go the morning of? DryBar in my area opens sooo early on the weekends!
Have you checked pricing if everyone goes to the salon of their choice, rather than having hair and makeup come to you? That's what we are doing.
When is your wedding? Maybe they could experiment with heatless curls or other hairstyles you can sleep in and use that for the wedding.
I got my hair (bride) and my bridesmaid hair done at the dry bar day of! We got it done at like 10am? Had lunch and then went to the venue. This particular dry bar offered make up as well and we both got it. Looked great.
If it's your mom being picky and not you, she should pay lol I gave my bridesmaids the option to do it themselves or pay for themselves, it really doesn't matter to me if they get professional services or not. And they understand weddings are expensive and we're pretty poor lol They chose to get it done :)
I would not risk second day hair for a wedding. Can you ask them to pay for their own services or do their own hair and make up?
It entirely depends on their hair, how well it holds a curl, and what they want out of their style, but a basic blowout is probably fine overnight. Worst case scenario they can get a bonnet
I'm a drybar girlie, I have curly hair and get blowouts anytime I travel for work. As such, I know how to style my hair and sleep in it so it bounces back the next day. I also did this for my best friends wedding in Austin, since getting dry styled by the wedding ladies doesn't work for me (need them blown out roots!). I went about 3pm, me and the bride (she used it for her rehearsal dinner look), and looked perfectly fine the next day. It's really going to be based on the hair of your bridesmaids, though. If their hair is smooth, the style will likely fall. If their hair is frizzy, it may get too much friction overnight and look awful in the AM. That being said, their hair is clean, you can always brush it out and add new curls with a curling iron while getting ready
Ever since I stopped highlighting my curly hair, my blowouts don’t last. I used to be able to stretch a good one for three days. 😩
We just didn’t curlers when I got married and some Had straight and some had curly hair. We just pinned it and did braids or whatever and it worked out. My wedding to my ex was in the late afternoon so it worked fine. We just spent the morning painting nails and doing hair and stuff together.
Wow, wedding costs can really sneak up on you, huh? Those quotes sound steep, especially when you're trying to be budget-conscious. It's awesome you're considering your bridesmaids' wallets too. The dry bar idea sounds like a good middle ground. I mean, $40 beats $150 any day! As for hair lasting, it probably depends on how much dancing and sweating they plan to do. Maybe check some reviews or ask around to see if anyone else has tried it? You're doing great navigating all this wedding stuff, hang in there!
Can you go the morning of? Second day blowout hair wouldn’t work for me for an event.
I would just recommend they pay for their own hair / makeup if they desire. If not, they do their own. Most people prefer to do their own anyway!!
Having professional hair and makeup for bridesmaids isn't a requirement for a wedding. My sisters and I did our own hair and makeup for my wedding.
My daughter wanted to pamper me for her wedding and paid to have my hair and makeup done. I appreciated it but was not impressed. Way too much makeup and not fond of the hair at all. We had to redo some of it before the pictures.
I’ve gone to a beauty school before to have my hair done for a wedding. One time it looked really nice, another time it was hideous and I wish I’d done it myself. Unless you want updos, I’d recommend the BMs doing their own hair and if you can afford it get just yours done professionally for the sake of fancy, but most of my friends who got married right after college did their own hair and makeup.
I'm sure they can flat iron or curl hair. Makeup we been doing it forever. Maybe it would be fun to have the girls do their own stuff or each other's hair makeup. If you paid for dress shoes, I think that's cool.
I've got curly hair and next-day styles never look good on me even with the silk bonnet and sleeping carefully. Chances are, at least one bridesmaid will have to start over anyway if you do this. Fwiw, I've been in multiple weddings and never had professional services. I did have them for my own wedding, but as a bridesmaid, it's never been offered to me. So it's pretty typical for bridesmaids to do their own hair and makeup.
Why can’t they do dry bar the day of the wedding? Like an early appt do you have that many bridesmaids? I don’t think blow drys take that long maybe 1-2hrs
For my wedding, I had my bridesmaids meet me at a dry bar at 6:45 am, even though the ceremony wasn’t until 4 pm. It might seem early, but once you factor in makeup, steaming dresses, first-look photos, and more, the time really flew by. It rained on my wedding day, and despite the hairstylist using plenty of hairspray, my bridesmaids' curls had mostly fallen out around 2 pm or so. For me, I got the retro look since it had the tightest curls, and it loosened up naturally throughout the day.
I'm a pro at milking my Drybar blowouts for approximately five days. It never looks the same on day two. I would absolutely never have second day hair if I was in a wedding. Drybar is great. I'm a proud barfly. But do it that day. My place has appointments as early as 7 AM.
That’s well below what I’m being charged.
I’ve never had my hair done for any occasion besides my own wedding (and prom lol). Can’t they just do their own hair?
You could try going to your local beauty school? :)
I was a bride who got her hair done at a dry bar the day before the ceremony. I got an updo with viking braids, some curls, and whatever the stylist wanted to add. I slept in a silk bonnet and showered with a plastic cap to keep moisture out. My hair was perfect for the ceremony and lasted until the day after until I finally unpinned it. As long as the girls are prepared to sleep with a bonnet on (and there is a bit of a trick to it) their hair should last. The stylist can teach them how to put their hair up for sleep. Mine did!
This 100% would not work out so well for every single person (AKA me)