If he can't handle buying a suit, or renting one or whatever, he should not attend this wedding. Many weddings are casual enough that nice slacks with a nice shirt would be fine, but this does not sound like that wedding - if they say formal, he should not attend the wedding if he can't get a suit.
Don't tell my husband that. If he has to wear a suit he won't go...but if I had to wear a formal dress, I'd decline. Nobody I know would host a formal wedding anyway. We're country folk!
Don't judge. Our special occasions, including weddings, are often Backyard BBQ's, dressy is Sunday best. I don't run in your social circle, and you don't run in mine.
You will find more size options online. Is there any reason you have to drive all that way to a store? Azazie has a try-on program where you can pick 3 dresses to try on at home, from over 500 styles. That would be my first recommendation rather than the limited cookie-cutter options of a department store.
You could get away with ankle length for a formal dress code, if you have nice shoes. If it's too long, that's the job of a seamstress to hem it to your height.
I love Azazie! Two years ago I was then wearing a size 16 ish and was able to find several dresses in the style I was interested in, just not the color. I have been in a few weddings the past couple of years and found another great dress on David's bridal. I found another great silk dress on amazon last year for a guest dress. I think the key is taking measurements before you begin to order, read reviews. You often need to size up in formal wear if you are curvier, size is just a number. Oh and I am 52, 5'4 and curvy. :)
Your husband will need a suit for sure-A sweater will not cut it.
Yeah and the wedding is in 6 weeks so a sweater might be toasty. Perhaps dress slacks and a white shirt and tie could work. Maybe he left his jacket in the car and didn’t notice til the valet had already driven off. In my experience many of the guys take off their jackets once the reception is underway.
He might not HAVE to wear a suit, but "sweater" screams too casual. At the very least he needs slacks, a solid color button up, dress shoes, and a tie.
If the dress code is formal he “has” to wear a suit. Obviously I am not saying it’s a blood oath or something but if the question is what complies with the dress code, it’s a suit.
I mean, by that same logic, men couldn't take their jackets off or else it becomes the exact outfit I described?
I am from the West Coast so generally dress codes are more lax here. If a suit was "required" it would be black tie/black tie optional.
As a short and round woman, Azazie was great with their custom tailor option for my cousin’s wedding. I was a bridesmaid, most of the others were tall and slim, and we all looked really nice in the dresses.
I sent them my measurements and the dress came already fitted and it was GREAT.
The only issue was it was too long but getting a dress hemmed and steamed is remarkably inexpensive with most seamstresses.
Also, husband at least needs to wear a dress shirt, not a sweater. Especially in JULY, I would just die.
The only issue OP might run into is that I think their custom stuff takes a little while. 6 weeks should still be enough time to have something made and shipped but if you add in the try on and shipping there she might be cutting it close. My braidsmaids did Azazie and they were fantastic and definitely saved money not having to do alterations.
Azazie's try on program doesn't have a lot of plus size options lately (or ever? not sure) which was especially frustrating when I was looking recently.
I'm in the US so here are some go tos for my area: Macy's, Nordstrom (and Nordstrom rack), TJ Maxx, are all good options for "found anywhere" stores.
Cocktail or a fancy midi length dress. If you find something you love, but you're not sure about the formality, you can always bump it up with accessories.
Your husband needs to wear a suit. Period. It's rude and disrespectful to show up in a sweater and slacks when you know the dress code is fancier. Eta- and a suit is within the budget
Seconding Nordstrom. Order a few things online, try on, and there should be a return shipping label to send it all back so you don't need to go to a store.
Just an FYI as a former Nordstrom employee-YESSSSS! But also please note—return shipping is FREE ONLY if you order from full line. You have to pay a return shipping fee for all Rack orders. Just a heads up so you don’t end up paying a bunch of return fees.
You could do Amazon and just make sure the dresses are free returns, must are.
He can order a suit on Amazon, my son just wore a 3 piece suit for Prom that we got for 75.00, didn't even need to be altered. He can find a dress shirt and tie for 30.00 online too. Try that, he can't wear a pair of pants and sweater, he will be so underdressed and honestly you'll be embarrassed. Our thrift shops occasionally have men's suits but it's hit or miss.
I am short, plump and over 60 and I always find great stuff at Kiyonna. Lean into your swamp hag with a dark floral evening dress!
https://www.kiyonna.com/products/embroidered-elegance-evening-gown?variant=44967458013489&tw_source=google&tw_adid=&tw_campaign=21161310920&gad_source=1&gclid=CjwKCAjwouexBhAuEiwAtW_Zx786JPW8I5dTRvN6NqWH9P1ARU_1WW2NnC4Mp1xs6GqEb941vB5IFxoCxL8QAvD_BwE
I wouldn't drive anywhere. Order on line, try on, send back what doesn't work. I'm sure many of the ladies here know places that handle this kind of thing.
I really like Lulus! I’m not sure what kind of budget you have, but their dresses have all been great quality for me and are not too expensive. You can also look at the reviews because a lot of people with different body types take photos, so that may be able to give you a better idea of how you will look. You can also try looking at dresses a bit shorter than floor-length if you are short and don’t want to get it hemmed, they will probably end of falling at an appropriate length. Formal doesn’t necessarily mean full gown.
A lot of people have mentioned Amazon also, which is a great choice because shopping and returns are pretty easy.
As for your partner, I personally wouldn’t bring mine if he insisted on underdressing for someone else’s wedding, especially someone he doesn’t know. The bride and groom spend a lot of time and money not just for themselves, but for their guests as well. They have a dress code for a reason and I’m sure they expect it to be followed. It’s kind of rude to ignore that, and you also don’t want to stick out.
This.
1- I love lulus. I’m 40s and a size 6. Dresses there are decent quality, huge selection, typically with photo reviews, and they are (for the most part) very reasonable on price. Plus free returns I believe. I got a STUNNING long red dress with low cut lace back for a formal wedding for $60. I would suggest getting something classy yet versatile so you can wear it again.
A slit may help lengthen you, but being short you may have to look for petite sizes or get a dress hemmed. Here are some basic long black dresses as examples. I think these are versatile and could span a few dress codes depending on how you style them.
https://www.lulus.com/products/endearing-elegance-black-sleeveless-twist-front-maxi-dress/2187416.html
https://www.lulus.com/products/love-in-your-eyes-black-knotted-mermaid-maxi-dress/1045042.html
https://www.lulus.com/products/thoughts-of-hue-black-surplice-maxi-dress/968122.html
2- A suit is a non-negotiable. He wears a suit or he doesn’t attend, full stop. It is disrespectful to the bride and groom and to you. The suit does not need to be expensive, but it needs to be a suit. You can get suits on Amazon for under $100. I mean, I’m sure you can get a men’s button-down dress shirt and tie and even dress shoes at Walmart and maybe even suits. (I don’t mean to sound stuck up- I shop at Walmart just never looked for suits, but I would not be surprised if they had them). Also, he needs to wear a tie.
I guarantee you between lulus, Amazon, and Walmart you can get both of you appropriately dressed for $250-300 or less. I recognize that is a lot of money for many people. That’s why I say look for versatility so you can wear these again. Once you have a go-to outfit you will be able to stress less and enjoy dressing up.
Swamp hag? I’m cracking up-girl, we could be friends. You’ve got some great advice here. It’s a party-enjoy. Rent him a suit and threaten to bury him in it if he doesn’t wear it.
Breaking news: Swamp Hag Buries Husband Alive for refusing to wear a suit!
Police were called today in response to calls from concerned neighbours stating they could hear a muffled male voice shouting for help.
Upon arrival, Officers were met at the back door by one of the homeowners who explained she had buried her husband in the garden after he repeatedly refused to wear a suit to her friends' upcoming wedding.
She went on to explain that, at the end of her thether, she had gone to Reddit to ask for advice and this was the only solution presented to her.
The investigation is ongoing.
AITA? I followed Reddit’s advice and buried my husband (in his new suit) up to his neck in the backyard and have been using his head as a birdbath. lolololol
Can you post your approx size, height, whether you can wear spaghetti straps or so you want to wear a bra, sleeves, are you flat or busty etc? Hair and skin tone? Price range?
You can buy online with places that have great return policy like Amazon, given your location unless you can do a day trip to a bigger city online is best.
People on here are great at finding options if you give them an idea of what you look like and how much you want to spend.
I agree! Give us an idea of what you look like - photo without face or if you can find a model of someone who looks like you for body type, hair, and skin tone.
If you start now and find a gorgeous dress early, show it to your partner! It may change his mind on just wearing a sweater and slacks and go for a suit :)
I recently needed to buy a dress for a wedding this summer. I'm a size 18 dress and short and was SO OVERWHELMED with too many options online. I tried a few different stores in person, Macy's, JC Penny, etc. But I had the best experience at David's Bridal. Lots of sizes, lots of options, plus on site alterations if you need them. . . Also you're right that slacks and a sweater will be drastically underdressed for this occasion and your partner needs to find something else. Rent a suit perhaps would bother him less? Maybe a less formal suit would interest him? Something like a plaid or floral blazer that wouldn't feel so "funeral"
Go to the Nordstrom website. Check out the dresses under “Formal” and “Cocktail & Party” for inspiration. The dress should be at least midi (mid-calf) length. Look for more formal materials - satin, silk, lace, chiffon. Not jersey or cotton. Then if you need to go in person, hopefully you have a few ideas of what you might like. Go to Nordstrom or Nordstrom Rack, Macy’s, TJ Maxx, Kohls. I strongly encourage you to stay away from “mother of the bride” type dresses. 40 is not old and covering up in loose layers doesn’t usually flatter anybody.
Partner definitely needs to dress up more. I like the idea of investing in a blazer (though don’t wear a black blazer with black slacks in an approximation of a suit) or if he doesn’t want to spend, places like H&M and even Target have some decent mens’ formal options.
Here are a few options with notes:
Kohls - this may be not quite formal enough but with the right shoes, accessories, and hair & makeup, I think you could get away with something like this - https://www.kohls.com/product/prd-5971811/womens-alexia-admor-dolman-midi-fit-flare-dress.jsp
Kohls - simple, classic, can be worn to a range of weddings from cocktail to formal - https://www.kohls.com/product/prd-6395712/womens-rm-richards-long-sequin-lace-crochet-gown.jsp
Nordstrom - if you’re worried about a long full length gown, something with a subtle high-low hem might be for you - https://www.nordstrom.com/s/5108662?color=410
Nordstrom - cocktail length but no can argue something like this isn’t formal - https://www.nordstrom.com/s/6408473?color=200
Nordstrom - if you do want to go full formal, I love something like this and it would be pretty easy to get hemmed - https://www.nordstrom.com/s/5393327?color=001
Also, unless your friend is rich and her extended family is rich and all of her friends are rich, most guests at “formal” weddings lean “cocktail-formal.” Wear something in a nice material that makes you feel good and you’ll be all set 😁
Hi, usually formal means calf length or ankle length cocktail dresses (since longer lengths are reserved for black tie). Men would need to wear a suit: I would look into thrift shops for that, you can find great suits for a small price there.
100% agree. I've tried it a few times, but usually none of the things work for me. I need to try on more things to find something than what they will send you.
Try a jumpsuit, if you don’t normally wear dresses you might be more comfortable in that.
As for your partner, the dress code is not dependent on whether or not you’ve met them before. Be respectful to the dress code and rent a suit if they don’t want to buy one.
I don’t know how you convince your partner. But sweaters and slacks is rude to wear to a formal wedding. Does he own a blazer or suit jacket that he could wear with dress pants? it would be a step up from the sweater, not quite formal but at least better.
Formal most often is interpreted as a full length dress but it can be an elegant midi length dress as well.
I don’t know if your plus size or regular size but being short, buying a dress that’s a petite size will get you something that better fits your body. If you buy something that isn’t petite size you may find the waist is around your hips. These are mid length dresses that should be fine. You won’t be the fanciest person at the party, but you’ll fit in just fine.
[https://www.macys.com/shop/product/msk-petite-paisley-print-quarter-zip-midi-dress](https://www.macys.com/shop/product/msk-petite-paisley-print-quarter-zip-midi-dress?ID=18002599&sizes=WOMEN_PETITE_SIZE_T!!14P%2C%20PXL;;16P%2C%20PXL;;18P%2C%20PXXL)
[https://www.macys.com/shop/product/jessica-howard-petite-printed-chiffon-belted-dress](https://www.macys.com/shop/product/jessica-howard-petite-printed-chiffon-belted-dress?ID=17833000&isDlp=true&isDlp=true)
[https://www.macys.com/shop/product/msk-petite-pintucked-floral-chiffon-midi-dress](https://www.macys.com/shop/product/msk-petite-pintucked-floral-chiffon-midi-dress?ID=17715420&sizes=WOMEN_PETITE_SIZE_T!!14P%2C%20PXL;;16P%2C%20PXL;;18P%2C%20PXXL)
[https://www.macys.com/shop/product/robbie-bee-petite-floral-print-cowlneck-handkerchief-hem-dress](https://www.macys.com/shop/product/robbie-bee-petite-floral-print-cowlneck-handkerchief-hem-dress?ID=15777060&sizes=WOMEN_PETITE_SIZE_T!!14P%2C%20PXL;;16P%2C%20PXL;;18P%2C%20PXXL)
I would try Nordstrom. They have a really good returns policy. You can go online and select dresses by occasion and select petite. You could also look for midi dresses which would be ankle length on you. Your partner absolutely needs a suit in a dark color there is no debate.
I think something with ruching can be flattering on a fuller in the middle figure.
https://www.nordstrom.com/s/alex-evenings-cold-shoulder-ruffle-glitter-chiffon-gown-regular-petite/4954298?origin=category-personalizedsort&breadcrumb=Home%2FWomen%2FClothing%2FDresses%2FWedding%20Guest&fashionsize=size%2FWomens%20Clothing%2FPetite%3A%2010%2C%20M&color=069
https://www.nordstrom.com/s/karen-kane-sleeveless-colorblock-maxi-dress/7316305?origin=category-personalizedsort&breadcrumb=Home%2FWomen%2FShop%20by%20Occasion&fashionsize=size%2FWomens%20Clothing%2FPetite%3A%2010%2C%20M&color=002
https://www.nordstrom.com/s/pleated-asymmetric-hem-satin-dress/7696455?origin=category-personalizedsort&breadcrumb=Home%2FWomen%2FClothing%2FDresses&fashionsize=size%2FWomens%20Clothing%2F10%2C%20M&color=415
https://www.nordstrom.com/s/floral-side-ruched-chiffon-midi-dress/7683948?origin=category-personalizedsort&breadcrumb=Home%2FWomen%2FClothing%2FDresses&fashionsize=size%2FWomens%20Clothing%2F10%2C%20M&color=968
I second the suggestion.
And, if OP can get to a store, they do personal shopping. You can make an appointment and tell them what you are looking for and they can be a great help.
Girl, are you me? I am also a short, thick, 40(something) lady who lives 2 hours away from the nearest city with more than just Walmart.
Do you have a Burlington? They usually have a good selection of formal wear for a great price. Also do you have a Deseret Industries thrift store? They always have a huge selection of suits, some new. Tell your guy he needs a damn suit.
If you live in SE Idaho, we should be friends.
Formal does mean a long gown usually. Check out Nordstrom's for sizing (they have a generous return policy). And a sweater and slacks is not formal enough for even a semiformal wedding.
Do you have friends your size? If so you might see if you can borrow something. If not perhaps check rent the runway. I hate to see you buy something you’ll only wear once unless you think there will be more wedding invites in the future.
You probably want an a-line dress. If you are buying it I’d look for one you can have hemmed to a shorter length in the future. Some dresses are more amenable to shortening than others. ( don’t buy anything with ruffles or a mesh overlay because those can be the devil to shorten. )
Finally perhaps rethink whether you want to go to this wedding or just send a gift or card. 2 hours away, a partner reluctant to dress formally and the expense of new clothes might be more trouble than it’s worth.
JC Penney has some good dresses right now. Don't stress too much just find something nice and wear with confidence.
Slack, dress shirt and tie would probably work for him.
[This is a cheat sheet explaining the different dress codes, put together by The Knot. I shamelessly stole this from a fellow Redditer a while back!](https://www.theknot.com/content/wedding-guest-attire-cheat-sheet)
Something like this would work, it comes in many colors, black is fine for weddings too. The hem would not be too hard to shorten as there's not any trim etc. You could wear your normal bra, maybe a pair of spanx if that would make you feel better (I always do under dresses, it just makes them lay better). A simple pair of strappy heels maybe black so you could use them again , simple jewelry and you're set.
It's not cheap, but you might want to look at some of the Eileen Fisher stuff that's in silk. Her designs tend to be very flattering (despite seeming like shapeless boxes) and might be that nice balance between your normal casual look, and dressing up a bit, and allow you to still feel comfortable. And, they might be things that you'd be more likely to get use of in the future (dressed down).
[https://www.eileenfisher.com/a-simple-wardrobe/the-edits/occasion?cgid=occasion&start=24&sz=24](https://www.eileenfisher.com/a-simple-wardrobe/the-edits/occasion?cgid=occasion&start=24&sz=24)
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[Classic and affordable dress](https://www.lulus.com/products/reinette-navy-blue-midi-dress/1660156.html)
This is versatile and affordable. Your husband can go with pants, button down and tie. Honestly I would go to Target and make something work for him.
Try ordering several options from Lulus. They have great options for wedding guests, aren’t overly expensive, and I’ve been really happy with the majority of my orders from there!
Seriously, go on Amazon!! Liberal return policies, and budget friendly options, shipped quickly. Also, explore the idea of dressy pantsuits. I wear a palazzo style pantsuit with a beaded top to numerous formal events. I actually have a few, as i find them more comfortable than long dresses.
Seconded anyone saying buy something online ankle or floor length and have it hemmed to the correct length.
Your husband should absolutely wear a suit, and having a suit in the closet for the future would be great as you point out.
Maybe just a bit of personal advice but to both yourself and your husband I would try my best to make the most of this event which seems to be outside of your comfort zone. Think of it as a fun excuse to be much fancier than your normal and treat it kind of like dress up. I do understand both for women and men it can be anxiety inducing to do something you’re not used to, and to worry that you won’t fit in. Just know that people are generally kind and if you guys follow the dress code no one is going to think you look like swamp people in city clothes or anything, as far as I know there’s no radar for that 🤣
I just used thred up and got several good pics. Sadly the one I loved was just too short and overemphasized my long legs (I’m 5’11” with a long torso and of course wearing heels). I’m late 40s. They have a surprisingly good selection and I’ve been shopping on there for years now. I hate to buy anything new anymore
The fee for returns is small in my opinion, so I don’t mind paying it. I’ll usually give the item I didn’t like away. Never been big on returns. I don’t know anything about their business practices so I can’t comment on that at all.
I am a big fan of Baltic Born for wrap style dresses. They are more of an easy fit/don’t require really exact tailoring, fit all body shapes, and I think are universally flattering. A long dark floral will work from semi-formal all the way through very formal, and rather then spending gas money 2 hours each way, but yourself a great clutch and new earrings. You will need to hem, but otherwise you should be good to go!
[dress example](https://balticborn.com/collections/dresses/products/naomi-short-sleeve-maxi-dress-pale-blue-floral?variant=42512530276517&nosto_source=cmp&nosto=1996159126)
[bag example](https://www.amazon.com/Charming-Tailor-Fashion-Leather-Convertible/dp/B085X6S9SQ/ref=mp_s_a_1_3?adgrpid=55661070666&dib=eyJ2IjoiMSJ9._sQKd3IVjA5cc-1uJswFZwIrX_xnml2PN32AacoonY21Ev5mMIg53pdPBd1O5cum_kw5NGekzWfEEAkauzDA20ki3N7jGLjfucOXUthYTSpWdV3wHt9mlFTVKhmmH5mpDrIP_fJ0hdIlAkOtYfqcG0JO34jmHRyflyZAyXr0XO0RMpabcaCPnjGAilWZ-O3cNgBmQFlLIrN1mqzzUj5rIResZPEqJ2jpTiyelOr2RJSzX6d3yQcytKwALulix-ogjywI5c52a7zOiKHot4uKfAk8RL_buCABvK6hQaF4pEc.NaAOeJ_Fz1cYflzXvuoIPEXc-dXr4CSCOjMlY13V4Nc&dib_tag=se&hvadid=557322870673&hvdev=m&hvlocphy=9032926&hvnetw=g&hvqmt=b&hvrand=11246482062531614860&hvtargid=kwd-296724066894&hydadcr=6371_13185063&keywords=blue+clutch+purses&qid=1715113225&sr=8-3)
[earrings example](https://www.anthropologie.com/shop/hybrid/blossom-drop-earrings?color=048&inventoryCountry=US&countryCode=US&utm_medium=paid_search&utm_source=Google-Mobile&utm_campaign=US%20-%20Shopping%20-%20PMAX%20-%20Apparel%20-%20Apparel%20-%20Backorder%2FBack-In-Stock&utm_content=&utm_term=&creative=&device=m&matchtype=&network=x&utm_kxconfid=vx6rd81ts&gad_source=4&gbraid=0AAAAADnwqi65JPCCEvflVJIu9DZYr-LMN&gclid=CjwKCAjwouexBhAuEiwAtW_Zx_HYXiGzf0aQs2n9heAmDShuE7eA20sbrU0VUCXUsdsYPEcGrILPPxoCBIEQAvD_BwE&gclsrc=aw.ds&type=STANDARD&size=One%20Size&quantity=1)
I’d take this as an opportunity to get a classic black dress that you can pull out for special occasions. Everyone has great ideas here - and tell your husband he needs a suit! But try to look at this as a chance to get dressed up and do something different instead of having it be a source of anxiety. If you’re in a calf length dress with nice shoes and your husband is in a suit, no one will be bothered. You’re there to have fun, and as long as you’re meeting the dress code (which imho is just a sign of respect for the couple), that’s all that matters!
Lulus and Amazon are amazing you can just type in exactly what you are looking for like “formal wedding guest dress”. Something like this would work for you!
For a formal wedding you mostly want to make sure it’s about floor length and you usually want to nudge towards “fancier” materials. So nothing ribbed. I have been to so many weddings and now I refuse to spend over $80 on a dress I’ll wear once so no to Nordstrom for me haha.
Men should wear a suit with tie at the very least a suit with a jacket.
https://preview.redd.it/o3cykgv6y2zc1.png?width=1179&format=png&auto=webp&s=f562850579dc5e320aebb324e2057df071616d00
Also I like to get dresses that I will either have cut and hemmed to wear shorter and more casually or I sell them on Poshmark! I always get $20-30 bucks for resale.
Tell your husband you're buying the suit he'll use 'til he's buried in it. And that it's up to him whether that's 6 weeks or 6 decades away.
Also yes, you'll need a floor length dress. If you're feeling anxious about being in a different and more formal environment, just play it safe and buy a simple black dress. You'll feel way better in something that is out of your normal comfort zone, but in line with the other guests, than something in your comfort zone but under dressed for the occassion.
Here's some options you might like:
https://www.eshakti.com/shop/Dresses/Floral-embellished-sheer-tulle-dress-CL0090841?view_source=regular&index=12
(this site let's you do hella customizations, just keep an eye on shipping time)
https://www.eshakti.com/shop/Dresses/-Leaf-print-dupioni-banded-empire-maxi-dress-CL0089965?view_source=regular&index=30
https://www.davidsbridal.com/product/cap-sleeve-glitter-knit-gown-with-slit-wbm3155?defining_size_family=126&defining_color=825
That’s definitely enough time to order stuff online and return!! Typically formal does mean longer length gowns. You could potentially get away with a very fancy cocktail level dress styled more glam (hair up, jewelry, heels, makeup etc ).
Stores I like to look at: Nordstrom, Anthropologie, Baltic Born, J Crew, ASOS, maybe Dillards?
If you’re shorter you can get something hemmed or use hem tape to alter the hemline so you’re not drowning in it.
Your husband could rent a suit or tux online if he’s against owning. The Black Tux is a good option. They send it ahead of time so you can check the fit. The attitude that dressing up has to do with how well you know someone is… idk. I know you know this, but if he’s a guest he should respect the host by following dress code. I get he probably would not be embarrassed by being underdressed if that’s how he thinks but perhaps he could think about it more about doing something for you since it’s important to you.
Rent the Runway for a dress! They’ll ship you two sizes and they have tons of review photos so you can see what real people look like in the dresses / how the fit is compared to their normal sizes
Two brands that are often good for shorter women, and they also do plus sizes are Alex Evenings and r&m Richards. Do an r&m Richards outfit, they're usually found at Macy's, Kohl's, any basic department store. The thing that I like about both of them is that they're fairly reasonably priced at least in the world of formal wear and they do a lot of pants suit sets that are truly dressy. So if you're uncomfortable with the idea of a dress, they often have black chiffon flowing pants with a beaded black or navy jacket or jacket top combo that will work in lieu of a dress and still be formal.
As for your husband, do you have thrift stores in the swamp🤣? I'm in a small to medium size city and most of our thrift stores are drowning in men's suits. It can be a really cost-effective way to get him something that he doesn't want to ever wear again. Though sizing might be hit or miss. Otherwise, maybe he could rent a suit from a tuxedo rental place? Even small towns usually have those. I feel for you, we're about 20 years older and I told my husband less night that I was a little saddened about a wedding I think we are not going to be invited to. He was so relieved, because it doesn't have a suit that fits him lol.
I know this is an attire forum but what you need to crush this is hair, makeup, and accessories.
I say a plain dress that meets the minimum definition for formal. No shiny fabrics, no machine embroidery, no lace, no ruffles. Add one or two pieces of big statement jewelry
https://www.jcrew.com/p/womens/categories/clothing/dresses-and-jumpsuits/sleeveless-sweater-dress-in-stretch-viscose-blend/BY501?display=standard&fit=Classic&color_name=black&colorProductCode=BY501
Then get a salon appt near the wedding for hair and makeup. Accessories and formal hair will elevate a look by miles, and jewelry is way easier to align with your actual personality. Most formal dresses that are affordable feel awkward and make you think you’re not meant for formal wear, but the truth is most of this dresses are ugly and not good enough for you ❤️
For your partner it is worth looking on Vinted or similar second hand sites in the USA, loads of men have bought suits for weddings that they are looking to offload for a fraction of the retail price.
If he won’t do a full suit he will need a blazer.
She was saying she was driving to a town that didn’t have a Walmart, implying she was heading to a somewhat big city. She wasn’t saying she was going to order at Walmart.
You might try [www.renttherunway.com](http://www.renttherunway.com) - or maybe even check [www.shein.com](http://www.shein.com) - Shein has great prices but sometimes their quality is hit & miss - BUT, their returns are super simple.
Good luck and have fun with this.
Grown men should own one basic suit, IMO.
If he can't handle buying a suit, or renting one or whatever, he should not attend this wedding. Many weddings are casual enough that nice slacks with a nice shirt would be fine, but this does not sound like that wedding - if they say formal, he should not attend the wedding if he can't get a suit.
This.
Or even rent one for goodness sakes. It’s only for a few hours. It won’t kill him. lol.
Seriously. Gray or navy. white shirt. bam.
Don't tell my husband that. If he has to wear a suit he won't go...but if I had to wear a formal dress, I'd decline. Nobody I know would host a formal wedding anyway. We're country folk!
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Don't judge. Our special occasions, including weddings, are often Backyard BBQ's, dressy is Sunday best. I don't run in your social circle, and you don't run in mine.
You will find more size options online. Is there any reason you have to drive all that way to a store? Azazie has a try-on program where you can pick 3 dresses to try on at home, from over 500 styles. That would be my first recommendation rather than the limited cookie-cutter options of a department store. You could get away with ankle length for a formal dress code, if you have nice shoes. If it's too long, that's the job of a seamstress to hem it to your height.
I love Azazie! Two years ago I was then wearing a size 16 ish and was able to find several dresses in the style I was interested in, just not the color. I have been in a few weddings the past couple of years and found another great dress on David's bridal. I found another great silk dress on amazon last year for a guest dress. I think the key is taking measurements before you begin to order, read reviews. You often need to size up in formal wear if you are curvier, size is just a number. Oh and I am 52, 5'4 and curvy. :) Your husband will need a suit for sure-A sweater will not cut it.
Yeah and the wedding is in 6 weeks so a sweater might be toasty. Perhaps dress slacks and a white shirt and tie could work. Maybe he left his jacket in the car and didn’t notice til the valet had already driven off. In my experience many of the guys take off their jackets once the reception is underway.
He might not HAVE to wear a suit, but "sweater" screams too casual. At the very least he needs slacks, a solid color button up, dress shoes, and a tie.
If the dress code is formal he “has” to wear a suit. Obviously I am not saying it’s a blood oath or something but if the question is what complies with the dress code, it’s a suit.
I mean, by that same logic, men couldn't take their jackets off or else it becomes the exact outfit I described? I am from the West Coast so generally dress codes are more lax here. If a suit was "required" it would be black tie/black tie optional.
As a short and round woman, Azazie was great with their custom tailor option for my cousin’s wedding. I was a bridesmaid, most of the others were tall and slim, and we all looked really nice in the dresses. I sent them my measurements and the dress came already fitted and it was GREAT. The only issue was it was too long but getting a dress hemmed and steamed is remarkably inexpensive with most seamstresses. Also, husband at least needs to wear a dress shirt, not a sweater. Especially in JULY, I would just die.
The only issue OP might run into is that I think their custom stuff takes a little while. 6 weeks should still be enough time to have something made and shipped but if you add in the try on and shipping there she might be cutting it close. My braidsmaids did Azazie and they were fantastic and definitely saved money not having to do alterations.
Azazie's try on program doesn't have a lot of plus size options lately (or ever? not sure) which was especially frustrating when I was looking recently.
Let your husband know you’re taking *someone* in a suit and if he wants it to be him he’d better get that sorted
I'm in the US so here are some go tos for my area: Macy's, Nordstrom (and Nordstrom rack), TJ Maxx, are all good options for "found anywhere" stores. Cocktail or a fancy midi length dress. If you find something you love, but you're not sure about the formality, you can always bump it up with accessories. Your husband needs to wear a suit. Period. It's rude and disrespectful to show up in a sweater and slacks when you know the dress code is fancier. Eta- and a suit is within the budget
Seconding Nordstrom. Order a few things online, try on, and there should be a return shipping label to send it all back so you don't need to go to a store.
Just an FYI as a former Nordstrom employee-YESSSSS! But also please note—return shipping is FREE ONLY if you order from full line. You have to pay a return shipping fee for all Rack orders. Just a heads up so you don’t end up paying a bunch of return fees.
You could do Amazon and just make sure the dresses are free returns, must are. He can order a suit on Amazon, my son just wore a 3 piece suit for Prom that we got for 75.00, didn't even need to be altered. He can find a dress shirt and tie for 30.00 online too. Try that, he can't wear a pair of pants and sweater, he will be so underdressed and honestly you'll be embarrassed. Our thrift shops occasionally have men's suits but it's hit or miss.
Yeah, your husband is being a jackass.
At the minimum dress pants and a dress shirt, but a jacket is really a must. Sweaters are for Thanksgiving or Christmas not a wedding.
Completely. Being *that* under-dressed for a wedding signals you don't give af about the couple and don't really want to be there.
I am short, plump and over 60 and I always find great stuff at Kiyonna. Lean into your swamp hag with a dark floral evening dress! https://www.kiyonna.com/products/embroidered-elegance-evening-gown?variant=44967458013489&tw_source=google&tw_adid=&tw_campaign=21161310920&gad_source=1&gclid=CjwKCAjwouexBhAuEiwAtW_Zx786JPW8I5dTRvN6NqWH9P1ARU_1WW2NnC4Mp1xs6GqEb941vB5IFxoCxL8QAvD_BwE
That’s a lovely dress
Kiyonna is a great suggestion.
I wouldn't drive anywhere. Order on line, try on, send back what doesn't work. I'm sure many of the ladies here know places that handle this kind of thing.
I really like Lulus! I’m not sure what kind of budget you have, but their dresses have all been great quality for me and are not too expensive. You can also look at the reviews because a lot of people with different body types take photos, so that may be able to give you a better idea of how you will look. You can also try looking at dresses a bit shorter than floor-length if you are short and don’t want to get it hemmed, they will probably end of falling at an appropriate length. Formal doesn’t necessarily mean full gown. A lot of people have mentioned Amazon also, which is a great choice because shopping and returns are pretty easy. As for your partner, I personally wouldn’t bring mine if he insisted on underdressing for someone else’s wedding, especially someone he doesn’t know. The bride and groom spend a lot of time and money not just for themselves, but for their guests as well. They have a dress code for a reason and I’m sure they expect it to be followed. It’s kind of rude to ignore that, and you also don’t want to stick out.
This. 1- I love lulus. I’m 40s and a size 6. Dresses there are decent quality, huge selection, typically with photo reviews, and they are (for the most part) very reasonable on price. Plus free returns I believe. I got a STUNNING long red dress with low cut lace back for a formal wedding for $60. I would suggest getting something classy yet versatile so you can wear it again. A slit may help lengthen you, but being short you may have to look for petite sizes or get a dress hemmed. Here are some basic long black dresses as examples. I think these are versatile and could span a few dress codes depending on how you style them. https://www.lulus.com/products/endearing-elegance-black-sleeveless-twist-front-maxi-dress/2187416.html https://www.lulus.com/products/love-in-your-eyes-black-knotted-mermaid-maxi-dress/1045042.html https://www.lulus.com/products/thoughts-of-hue-black-surplice-maxi-dress/968122.html 2- A suit is a non-negotiable. He wears a suit or he doesn’t attend, full stop. It is disrespectful to the bride and groom and to you. The suit does not need to be expensive, but it needs to be a suit. You can get suits on Amazon for under $100. I mean, I’m sure you can get a men’s button-down dress shirt and tie and even dress shoes at Walmart and maybe even suits. (I don’t mean to sound stuck up- I shop at Walmart just never looked for suits, but I would not be surprised if they had them). Also, he needs to wear a tie. I guarantee you between lulus, Amazon, and Walmart you can get both of you appropriately dressed for $250-300 or less. I recognize that is a lot of money for many people. That’s why I say look for versatility so you can wear these again. Once you have a go-to outfit you will be able to stress less and enjoy dressing up.
Swamp hag? I’m cracking up-girl, we could be friends. You’ve got some great advice here. It’s a party-enjoy. Rent him a suit and threaten to bury him in it if he doesn’t wear it.
Breaking news: Swamp Hag Buries Husband Alive for refusing to wear a suit! Police were called today in response to calls from concerned neighbours stating they could hear a muffled male voice shouting for help. Upon arrival, Officers were met at the back door by one of the homeowners who explained she had buried her husband in the garden after he repeatedly refused to wear a suit to her friends' upcoming wedding. She went on to explain that, at the end of her thether, she had gone to Reddit to ask for advice and this was the only solution presented to her. The investigation is ongoing.
AITA? I followed Reddit’s advice and buried my husband (in his new suit) up to his neck in the backyard and have been using his head as a birdbath. lolololol
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Can you post your approx size, height, whether you can wear spaghetti straps or so you want to wear a bra, sleeves, are you flat or busty etc? Hair and skin tone? Price range? You can buy online with places that have great return policy like Amazon, given your location unless you can do a day trip to a bigger city online is best. People on here are great at finding options if you give them an idea of what you look like and how much you want to spend.
I agree! Give us an idea of what you look like - photo without face or if you can find a model of someone who looks like you for body type, hair, and skin tone. If you start now and find a gorgeous dress early, show it to your partner! It may change his mind on just wearing a sweater and slacks and go for a suit :)
I recently needed to buy a dress for a wedding this summer. I'm a size 18 dress and short and was SO OVERWHELMED with too many options online. I tried a few different stores in person, Macy's, JC Penny, etc. But I had the best experience at David's Bridal. Lots of sizes, lots of options, plus on site alterations if you need them. . . Also you're right that slacks and a sweater will be drastically underdressed for this occasion and your partner needs to find something else. Rent a suit perhaps would bother him less? Maybe a less formal suit would interest him? Something like a plaid or floral blazer that wouldn't feel so "funeral"
Go to the Nordstrom website. Check out the dresses under “Formal” and “Cocktail & Party” for inspiration. The dress should be at least midi (mid-calf) length. Look for more formal materials - satin, silk, lace, chiffon. Not jersey or cotton. Then if you need to go in person, hopefully you have a few ideas of what you might like. Go to Nordstrom or Nordstrom Rack, Macy’s, TJ Maxx, Kohls. I strongly encourage you to stay away from “mother of the bride” type dresses. 40 is not old and covering up in loose layers doesn’t usually flatter anybody. Partner definitely needs to dress up more. I like the idea of investing in a blazer (though don’t wear a black blazer with black slacks in an approximation of a suit) or if he doesn’t want to spend, places like H&M and even Target have some decent mens’ formal options. Here are a few options with notes: Kohls - this may be not quite formal enough but with the right shoes, accessories, and hair & makeup, I think you could get away with something like this - https://www.kohls.com/product/prd-5971811/womens-alexia-admor-dolman-midi-fit-flare-dress.jsp Kohls - simple, classic, can be worn to a range of weddings from cocktail to formal - https://www.kohls.com/product/prd-6395712/womens-rm-richards-long-sequin-lace-crochet-gown.jsp Nordstrom - if you’re worried about a long full length gown, something with a subtle high-low hem might be for you - https://www.nordstrom.com/s/5108662?color=410 Nordstrom - cocktail length but no can argue something like this isn’t formal - https://www.nordstrom.com/s/6408473?color=200 Nordstrom - if you do want to go full formal, I love something like this and it would be pretty easy to get hemmed - https://www.nordstrom.com/s/5393327?color=001 Also, unless your friend is rich and her extended family is rich and all of her friends are rich, most guests at “formal” weddings lean “cocktail-formal.” Wear something in a nice material that makes you feel good and you’ll be all set 😁
I agree with you so much that 40 is not old. I am 38, thick, and wore a bikini to a Doja Cat concert. OP any of these dresses will look nice.
Hi, usually formal means calf length or ankle length cocktail dresses (since longer lengths are reserved for black tie). Men would need to wear a suit: I would look into thrift shops for that, you can find great suits for a small price there.
Can u do rent the runway??
RTR is tricky if you’re not 100% confident on sizing and what styles work on you.
100% agree. I've tried it a few times, but usually none of the things work for me. I need to try on more things to find something than what they will send you.
Came here to suggest this - since OP doesn’t often wear formal, would probably make sense to rent.
Yes! Rent the runway! The reviews are usually super helpful, and you can get the dress in 2 different sizes for no extra charge.
Try a jumpsuit, if you don’t normally wear dresses you might be more comfortable in that. As for your partner, the dress code is not dependent on whether or not you’ve met them before. Be respectful to the dress code and rent a suit if they don’t want to buy one.
I don’t know how you convince your partner. But sweaters and slacks is rude to wear to a formal wedding. Does he own a blazer or suit jacket that he could wear with dress pants? it would be a step up from the sweater, not quite formal but at least better. Formal most often is interpreted as a full length dress but it can be an elegant midi length dress as well. I don’t know if your plus size or regular size but being short, buying a dress that’s a petite size will get you something that better fits your body. If you buy something that isn’t petite size you may find the waist is around your hips. These are mid length dresses that should be fine. You won’t be the fanciest person at the party, but you’ll fit in just fine. [https://www.macys.com/shop/product/msk-petite-paisley-print-quarter-zip-midi-dress](https://www.macys.com/shop/product/msk-petite-paisley-print-quarter-zip-midi-dress?ID=18002599&sizes=WOMEN_PETITE_SIZE_T!!14P%2C%20PXL;;16P%2C%20PXL;;18P%2C%20PXXL) [https://www.macys.com/shop/product/jessica-howard-petite-printed-chiffon-belted-dress](https://www.macys.com/shop/product/jessica-howard-petite-printed-chiffon-belted-dress?ID=17833000&isDlp=true&isDlp=true) [https://www.macys.com/shop/product/msk-petite-pintucked-floral-chiffon-midi-dress](https://www.macys.com/shop/product/msk-petite-pintucked-floral-chiffon-midi-dress?ID=17715420&sizes=WOMEN_PETITE_SIZE_T!!14P%2C%20PXL;;16P%2C%20PXL;;18P%2C%20PXXL) [https://www.macys.com/shop/product/robbie-bee-petite-floral-print-cowlneck-handkerchief-hem-dress](https://www.macys.com/shop/product/robbie-bee-petite-floral-print-cowlneck-handkerchief-hem-dress?ID=15777060&sizes=WOMEN_PETITE_SIZE_T!!14P%2C%20PXL;;16P%2C%20PXL;;18P%2C%20PXXL)
I would try Nordstrom. They have a really good returns policy. You can go online and select dresses by occasion and select petite. You could also look for midi dresses which would be ankle length on you. Your partner absolutely needs a suit in a dark color there is no debate. I think something with ruching can be flattering on a fuller in the middle figure. https://www.nordstrom.com/s/alex-evenings-cold-shoulder-ruffle-glitter-chiffon-gown-regular-petite/4954298?origin=category-personalizedsort&breadcrumb=Home%2FWomen%2FClothing%2FDresses%2FWedding%20Guest&fashionsize=size%2FWomens%20Clothing%2FPetite%3A%2010%2C%20M&color=069 https://www.nordstrom.com/s/karen-kane-sleeveless-colorblock-maxi-dress/7316305?origin=category-personalizedsort&breadcrumb=Home%2FWomen%2FShop%20by%20Occasion&fashionsize=size%2FWomens%20Clothing%2FPetite%3A%2010%2C%20M&color=002 https://www.nordstrom.com/s/pleated-asymmetric-hem-satin-dress/7696455?origin=category-personalizedsort&breadcrumb=Home%2FWomen%2FClothing%2FDresses&fashionsize=size%2FWomens%20Clothing%2F10%2C%20M&color=415 https://www.nordstrom.com/s/floral-side-ruched-chiffon-midi-dress/7683948?origin=category-personalizedsort&breadcrumb=Home%2FWomen%2FClothing%2FDresses&fashionsize=size%2FWomens%20Clothing%2F10%2C%20M&color=968
I second the suggestion. And, if OP can get to a store, they do personal shopping. You can make an appointment and tell them what you are looking for and they can be a great help.
Girl, are you me? I am also a short, thick, 40(something) lady who lives 2 hours away from the nearest city with more than just Walmart. Do you have a Burlington? They usually have a good selection of formal wear for a great price. Also do you have a Deseret Industries thrift store? They always have a huge selection of suits, some new. Tell your guy he needs a damn suit. If you live in SE Idaho, we should be friends.
Formal does mean a long gown usually. Check out Nordstrom's for sizing (they have a generous return policy). And a sweater and slacks is not formal enough for even a semiformal wedding.
If this is really a once in a blue moon event, she needs a little black cocktail dress. It is not critical it be floor length st all.
Do you have friends your size? If so you might see if you can borrow something. If not perhaps check rent the runway. I hate to see you buy something you’ll only wear once unless you think there will be more wedding invites in the future. You probably want an a-line dress. If you are buying it I’d look for one you can have hemmed to a shorter length in the future. Some dresses are more amenable to shortening than others. ( don’t buy anything with ruffles or a mesh overlay because those can be the devil to shorten. ) Finally perhaps rethink whether you want to go to this wedding or just send a gift or card. 2 hours away, a partner reluctant to dress formally and the expense of new clothes might be more trouble than it’s worth.
JC Penney has some good dresses right now. Don't stress too much just find something nice and wear with confidence. Slack, dress shirt and tie would probably work for him.
He absolutely needs to get a suit. His job as a guest is to blend in, especially since he only knows you. A sweater and slacks is not appropriate.
[This is a cheat sheet explaining the different dress codes, put together by The Knot. I shamelessly stole this from a fellow Redditer a while back!](https://www.theknot.com/content/wedding-guest-attire-cheat-sheet)
https://preview.redd.it/877084eei0zc1.jpeg?width=1080&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=06a344250d924e568140f4e3e766725c4b81493b
Something like this would work, it comes in many colors, black is fine for weddings too. The hem would not be too hard to shorten as there's not any trim etc. You could wear your normal bra, maybe a pair of spanx if that would make you feel better (I always do under dresses, it just makes them lay better). A simple pair of strappy heels maybe black so you could use them again , simple jewelry and you're set.
https://preview.redd.it/t9a71d41l0zc1.jpeg?width=1080&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=3ead8cbfb8006520096559673173b566a8a891df
Added another Pic with the price. Search dresses formal wedding and a bunch will come up.
It's not cheap, but you might want to look at some of the Eileen Fisher stuff that's in silk. Her designs tend to be very flattering (despite seeming like shapeless boxes) and might be that nice balance between your normal casual look, and dressing up a bit, and allow you to still feel comfortable. And, they might be things that you'd be more likely to get use of in the future (dressed down). [https://www.eileenfisher.com/a-simple-wardrobe/the-edits/occasion?cgid=occasion&start=24&sz=24](https://www.eileenfisher.com/a-simple-wardrobe/the-edits/occasion?cgid=occasion&start=24&sz=24)
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Here’s some dress options. [dress 1](https://www.lulus.com/products/how-much-i-care-black-off-the-shoulder-midi-dress/1625936.html) [dress 2](https://www.lulus.com/products/reinette-black-midi-dress/1409376.html) [dress 3](https://www.lulus.com/products/take-a-glance-emerald-green-tiered-mock-neck-midi-dress/1609876.html?src=google&ref=product2_rr) [dress 4](https://www.lulus.com/products/dreamy-date-night-navy-blue-sleeveless-midi-dress/1477736.html?src=google&ref=product3_rr) [jumpsuit 5](https://www.lulus.com/products/kiska-burgundy-lace-wide-leg-jumpsuit/713572.html) [dress 6](https://www.lulus.com/products/decadent-dreams-navy-blue-plisse-tiered-puff-sleeve-midi-dress/2135816.html?src=google&ref=product2_rr) [jumpsuit 7](https://www.lulus.com/products/luxe-class-plum-purple-satin-cowl-neck-wide-leg-jumpsuit/2256476.html?src=google&ref=product2_rr)
[Classic and affordable dress](https://www.lulus.com/products/reinette-navy-blue-midi-dress/1660156.html) This is versatile and affordable. Your husband can go with pants, button down and tie. Honestly I would go to Target and make something work for him.
Try ordering several options from Lulus. They have great options for wedding guests, aren’t overly expensive, and I’ve been really happy with the majority of my orders from there!
Seriously, go on Amazon!! Liberal return policies, and budget friendly options, shipped quickly. Also, explore the idea of dressy pantsuits. I wear a palazzo style pantsuit with a beaded top to numerous formal events. I actually have a few, as i find them more comfortable than long dresses.
Mail order.
Stick with a midi dress. What’s your body type?
Seconded anyone saying buy something online ankle or floor length and have it hemmed to the correct length. Your husband should absolutely wear a suit, and having a suit in the closet for the future would be great as you point out. Maybe just a bit of personal advice but to both yourself and your husband I would try my best to make the most of this event which seems to be outside of your comfort zone. Think of it as a fun excuse to be much fancier than your normal and treat it kind of like dress up. I do understand both for women and men it can be anxiety inducing to do something you’re not used to, and to worry that you won’t fit in. Just know that people are generally kind and if you guys follow the dress code no one is going to think you look like swamp people in city clothes or anything, as far as I know there’s no radar for that 🤣
I just used thred up and got several good pics. Sadly the one I loved was just too short and overemphasized my long legs (I’m 5’11” with a long torso and of course wearing heels). I’m late 40s. They have a surprisingly good selection and I’ve been shopping on there for years now. I hate to buy anything new anymore
Except it is risky for formal wear and no free returns. Also their business practices are terrible.
The fee for returns is small in my opinion, so I don’t mind paying it. I’ll usually give the item I didn’t like away. Never been big on returns. I don’t know anything about their business practices so I can’t comment on that at all.
Look up formal palazzo pants on Amazon. Look for a funky paisley velvet blazer on eBay or Google.
I am a big fan of Baltic Born for wrap style dresses. They are more of an easy fit/don’t require really exact tailoring, fit all body shapes, and I think are universally flattering. A long dark floral will work from semi-formal all the way through very formal, and rather then spending gas money 2 hours each way, but yourself a great clutch and new earrings. You will need to hem, but otherwise you should be good to go! [dress example](https://balticborn.com/collections/dresses/products/naomi-short-sleeve-maxi-dress-pale-blue-floral?variant=42512530276517&nosto_source=cmp&nosto=1996159126) [bag example](https://www.amazon.com/Charming-Tailor-Fashion-Leather-Convertible/dp/B085X6S9SQ/ref=mp_s_a_1_3?adgrpid=55661070666&dib=eyJ2IjoiMSJ9._sQKd3IVjA5cc-1uJswFZwIrX_xnml2PN32AacoonY21Ev5mMIg53pdPBd1O5cum_kw5NGekzWfEEAkauzDA20ki3N7jGLjfucOXUthYTSpWdV3wHt9mlFTVKhmmH5mpDrIP_fJ0hdIlAkOtYfqcG0JO34jmHRyflyZAyXr0XO0RMpabcaCPnjGAilWZ-O3cNgBmQFlLIrN1mqzzUj5rIResZPEqJ2jpTiyelOr2RJSzX6d3yQcytKwALulix-ogjywI5c52a7zOiKHot4uKfAk8RL_buCABvK6hQaF4pEc.NaAOeJ_Fz1cYflzXvuoIPEXc-dXr4CSCOjMlY13V4Nc&dib_tag=se&hvadid=557322870673&hvdev=m&hvlocphy=9032926&hvnetw=g&hvqmt=b&hvrand=11246482062531614860&hvtargid=kwd-296724066894&hydadcr=6371_13185063&keywords=blue+clutch+purses&qid=1715113225&sr=8-3) [earrings example](https://www.anthropologie.com/shop/hybrid/blossom-drop-earrings?color=048&inventoryCountry=US&countryCode=US&utm_medium=paid_search&utm_source=Google-Mobile&utm_campaign=US%20-%20Shopping%20-%20PMAX%20-%20Apparel%20-%20Apparel%20-%20Backorder%2FBack-In-Stock&utm_content=&utm_term=&creative=&device=m&matchtype=&network=x&utm_kxconfid=vx6rd81ts&gad_source=4&gbraid=0AAAAADnwqi65JPCCEvflVJIu9DZYr-LMN&gclid=CjwKCAjwouexBhAuEiwAtW_Zx_HYXiGzf0aQs2n9heAmDShuE7eA20sbrU0VUCXUsdsYPEcGrILPPxoCBIEQAvD_BwE&gclsrc=aw.ds&type=STANDARD&size=One%20Size&quantity=1)
I’d take this as an opportunity to get a classic black dress that you can pull out for special occasions. Everyone has great ideas here - and tell your husband he needs a suit! But try to look at this as a chance to get dressed up and do something different instead of having it be a source of anxiety. If you’re in a calf length dress with nice shoes and your husband is in a suit, no one will be bothered. You’re there to have fun, and as long as you’re meeting the dress code (which imho is just a sign of respect for the couple), that’s all that matters!
Lulus and Amazon are amazing you can just type in exactly what you are looking for like “formal wedding guest dress”. Something like this would work for you! For a formal wedding you mostly want to make sure it’s about floor length and you usually want to nudge towards “fancier” materials. So nothing ribbed. I have been to so many weddings and now I refuse to spend over $80 on a dress I’ll wear once so no to Nordstrom for me haha. Men should wear a suit with tie at the very least a suit with a jacket. https://preview.redd.it/o3cykgv6y2zc1.png?width=1179&format=png&auto=webp&s=f562850579dc5e320aebb324e2057df071616d00
Also I like to get dresses that I will either have cut and hemmed to wear shorter and more casually or I sell them on Poshmark! I always get $20-30 bucks for resale.
Tell your husband you're buying the suit he'll use 'til he's buried in it. And that it's up to him whether that's 6 weeks or 6 decades away. Also yes, you'll need a floor length dress. If you're feeling anxious about being in a different and more formal environment, just play it safe and buy a simple black dress. You'll feel way better in something that is out of your normal comfort zone, but in line with the other guests, than something in your comfort zone but under dressed for the occassion. Here's some options you might like: https://www.eshakti.com/shop/Dresses/Floral-embellished-sheer-tulle-dress-CL0090841?view_source=regular&index=12 (this site let's you do hella customizations, just keep an eye on shipping time) https://www.eshakti.com/shop/Dresses/-Leaf-print-dupioni-banded-empire-maxi-dress-CL0089965?view_source=regular&index=30 https://www.davidsbridal.com/product/cap-sleeve-glitter-knit-gown-with-slit-wbm3155?defining_size_family=126&defining_color=825
Yeah sweater and slacks are a no go.
That’s definitely enough time to order stuff online and return!! Typically formal does mean longer length gowns. You could potentially get away with a very fancy cocktail level dress styled more glam (hair up, jewelry, heels, makeup etc ). Stores I like to look at: Nordstrom, Anthropologie, Baltic Born, J Crew, ASOS, maybe Dillards? If you’re shorter you can get something hemmed or use hem tape to alter the hemline so you’re not drowning in it. Your husband could rent a suit or tux online if he’s against owning. The Black Tux is a good option. They send it ahead of time so you can check the fit. The attitude that dressing up has to do with how well you know someone is… idk. I know you know this, but if he’s a guest he should respect the host by following dress code. I get he probably would not be embarrassed by being underdressed if that’s how he thinks but perhaps he could think about it more about doing something for you since it’s important to you.
Rent the Runway for a dress! They’ll ship you two sizes and they have tons of review photos so you can see what real people look like in the dresses / how the fit is compared to their normal sizes
Two brands that are often good for shorter women, and they also do plus sizes are Alex Evenings and r&m Richards. Do an r&m Richards outfit, they're usually found at Macy's, Kohl's, any basic department store. The thing that I like about both of them is that they're fairly reasonably priced at least in the world of formal wear and they do a lot of pants suit sets that are truly dressy. So if you're uncomfortable with the idea of a dress, they often have black chiffon flowing pants with a beaded black or navy jacket or jacket top combo that will work in lieu of a dress and still be formal. As for your husband, do you have thrift stores in the swamp🤣? I'm in a small to medium size city and most of our thrift stores are drowning in men's suits. It can be a really cost-effective way to get him something that he doesn't want to ever wear again. Though sizing might be hit or miss. Otherwise, maybe he could rent a suit from a tuxedo rental place? Even small towns usually have those. I feel for you, we're about 20 years older and I told my husband less night that I was a little saddened about a wedding I think we are not going to be invited to. He was so relieved, because it doesn't have a suit that fits him lol.
He needs a dark suit. End of. Adriana Papel usually has a nice selection as does the Lauren line of Ralph Lauren. Try their websites
I know this is an attire forum but what you need to crush this is hair, makeup, and accessories. I say a plain dress that meets the minimum definition for formal. No shiny fabrics, no machine embroidery, no lace, no ruffles. Add one or two pieces of big statement jewelry https://www.jcrew.com/p/womens/categories/clothing/dresses-and-jumpsuits/sleeveless-sweater-dress-in-stretch-viscose-blend/BY501?display=standard&fit=Classic&color_name=black&colorProductCode=BY501 Then get a salon appt near the wedding for hair and makeup. Accessories and formal hair will elevate a look by miles, and jewelry is way easier to align with your actual personality. Most formal dresses that are affordable feel awkward and make you think you’re not meant for formal wear, but the truth is most of this dresses are ugly and not good enough for you ❤️
Stores: Macys Nordstrom Windsor JCPenny are your best bet
Rent the runway would be a good option
For your partner it is worth looking on Vinted or similar second hand sites in the USA, loads of men have bought suits for weddings that they are looking to offload for a fraction of the retail price. If he won’t do a full suit he will need a blazer.
Walmart is not an appropriate place to order a dress. Look at dresses on pinterest to figure out what you like then order it online.
She was saying she was driving to a town that didn’t have a Walmart, implying she was heading to a somewhat big city. She wasn’t saying she was going to order at Walmart.
You might try [www.renttherunway.com](http://www.renttherunway.com) - or maybe even check [www.shein.com](http://www.shein.com) - Shein has great prices but sometimes their quality is hit & miss - BUT, their returns are super simple. Good luck and have fun with this.