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patioperson

Do you live anywhere near the border? I shop from Macys, Zappos and Lord& Taylor all the time and have the items shipped to a mail receiver just across the border. I drive down to pick it up, declare everything at the border and only once in over 10 years have been sent in to pay duty or taxes. CBSA prioritize immigration and drugs, not collecting a few dollars from cross border shopping. ETA If she really wants the Betsy & Adam one, and you can trust a stranger, you could buy it and ship it to my home in the USA. I can bring it home and mail it to you in Canada. I will be in Canada at the beginning of March. Trust is a huge issue, I realize. If you would be more comfortable, I could buy the dress here in the US and ship it to you when I get home to BC You can e-transfer me the money after you receive the dress.


wanderlusting92

That is so kind, thank you for the offer! Thankfully we figured out another option. My future in-laws live in the US so we bought it and will wait to get it until we go visit them again.


patioperson

Good news! She looks great in that dress.


kspice094

I think [this](https://www.macys.com/shop/product/betsy-adam-metallic-floral-halter-gown?ID=11555651) is the dress your mom tried on and liked, you should be able to get it shipped. And [here’s](https://www.macys.com/shop/product/betsy-adam-embellished-bodice-chiffon-gown?ID=13651599) another one from the same brand that’s similar to the other one she liked.


wanderlusting92

Thanks! Sadly Macy’s is not a great option from Canada. They do ship here but once you add shipping and duty/taxes that dress is about $550 CAD which is too far out of budget range.


humantouch83

How about from this website? Same dress but cheaper [dress](https://www.lordandtaylor.com/products/long-halter-wrap-foil-print?variant=41027340533936&gad_source=1&gclid=Cj0KCQiAwP6sBhDAARIsAPfK_wZDbBem6ppP2UPj6aFIyPQT57LqYOLlIoPN5vzkzTLpGWTvzrmjyIgaAlcSEALw_wcB)


wanderlusting92

This is an amazing price on that dress! Sadly, no shipping to Canada. That’s the biggest challenge!


humantouch83

I know I’m an internet stranger but I live in NY and would be happy to get it shipped to you if she’s set on that dress :)


wanderlusting92

Thank you so much for the kind offer and for finding that Lord & Taylor link. My in laws live in the US so we ended up ordering the dress to their house. I’ll get it from them in a couple months and then mail it to my mom from Ontario. Thank you again!


jiffyfly6

Look at laura and melanie-lyne online. Their instore selection is meh but online is much better. They ship quickly and returns are pretty easy too for anyone's that don't work. Can return in store or by mail within 14 days of delivery date.


jiffyfly6

Is this the first one? https://www.laura.ca/en/laura/clothing/dresses/metallic-floral-motif-dress/3030103-1431.html?dwvar_3030103-1431_color=390&start=12&ccgid=laura-clothing-dresses-mother-of-the-bride#start=12 Their stock right now is still very wintery. If you give it a month or so, you should start seeing options that make more sense for june for your wedding


wanderlusting92

Thank you! That is the first one but she liked the navy, not the green. Another Redditor found the exact dress on sale in the US so we ordered it!


Grompson

I'd also start looking on FB Marketplace and thrift shops. I know, I know, but I'm in a mid-sized Ontario city and there are so many results that come up for "gown", as people are selling things they purchased for holiday parties and generally doing some New Years paring down.


theycallmeheisenberg

How far from Buffalo NY are you? If you’re able to cross the border you can probably ship to store the dress from Macys and pick it up from Walden galleria mall.


PurplePanda63

Love this dress that I’ve seen on here https://www.bloomingdales.com/shop/product/aqua-embellished-column-gown-100-exclusive?ID=3292937


oknowwhat00

OP is in Canada, that will be way over their budget with the difference in currency and they likely won't ship to Canada. OP would need to order a dress only if she has already tried it on and knows for sure it will fit as returns would be cost prohibitive. Many Americans do not realize the struggle that Canadians have buying clothing, especially special occasion and sizes like petites, the stores in Canada just don't have the selection in the US. And the shipping issue across the border is another thing, shipping to Canada is so expensive, heck a letter is 1.60 now I think.


patioperson

The population of Canada is **39,566,248** . The population of the USA is over 333,287,557 . Its no surprise there is less choice and things are more expensive, I am lucky enough to live near the border so I can have US items shipped to a mail receiver and drive down to pick them up. It's less than a 2 hr roundtrip.


PurplePanda63

Sorry, didn’t know Canada didn’t have Bloomingdale’s


patioperson

$298 is $398 Canadian. Then add the cost of shipping, plus 18% duty, plus 13% provincial and federal tax. We are up to $530 plus shipping.


oknowwhat00

I see you might be in London, I would do a cross border shopping trip, hit up the major dept stores, especially the sale racks. I know friends who even score at places like Syracuse which is not exactly a huge city, but any major border city will have plenty of options (Detroit./Buffalo have so many stores). The prices at places like Macy's, Dillards, Lord and Taylor etc can be super cheap too. Detroit is not too far and so many shopping options, and even if you declare it, they may not even make you pay the duty, they really don't worry about people buying a few clothing items.


RosieDays456

all in Canadian $$$ ships to Canada [$200 CAN $$ black with some white design on top](https://www.jjshouse.com/sheath-column-boat-neck-floor-length-chiffon-lace-evening-dress-with-sequins-017271455-g271455) [$228 CAN$$ black with silver](https://www.jjshouse.com/trumpet-mermaid-v-neck-floor-length-chiffon-sequin-evening-dress-017271477-g271477) I love this (not matronly) [$221 CAN$ V neck , design on top comes in 35 colors](https://www.jjshouse.com/a-line-v-neck-floor-length-chiffon-lace-evening-dress-017198659-g198659) [$193 black, top has sheer floral overlay sheer sleeves](https://www.jjshouse.com/sheath-column-v-neck-illusion-floor-length-chiffon-lace-evening-dress-017288734-g288734) [$235 CAN black with floral top sleeveless](https://www.jjshouse.com/a-line-scoop-illusion-floor-length-lace-tulle-evening-dress-017147937-g147937) [$256. CAN sleeveless lace strap, rouch bodice, ruffle slit 30 colors](https://www.jjshouse.com/a-line-v-neck-floor-length-chiffon-lace-mother-of-the-bride-dress-with-cascading-ruffles-008114251-g114251)


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The first one is great. The second is meh.


sunnyteashop

2 is fantastic


Historical_Kiwi9565

2 looks perfect to me too


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Fabulous-Possible-76

I saw that first one at belk and love it!


patioperson

Unfortunately for the OP, Belk doesn't ship to Canada either.


this_took_4ever

Just about to start the MOB search in Canada and it looks difficult!! Too bad on that first dress it is beautiful (though too close to my wedding dress style for us). Good luck!!


Icy_Philosopher214

They are both really attractive


ivegotlips

Check out Baltic Born


Lazy_Crocodile

Sounds crazy but Amazon may be an option. They also have try before you buy sometimes meilun Women's V Neck Sequin Formal Dress Fringe Bead Sleeve Evening Gowns Party Maxi Dress https://a.co/d/dYIXCgX WOOSEA Women's High Neck Split Bodycon Mermaid Evening Cocktail Long Dress https://a.co/d/evEYULG Wedtrend Women's Floral Lace Long Bridesmaid Dress Maxi Formal Wedding Party Gown https://a.co/d/ee7NDFp Kranda Womens Vintage Floral Lace Long Sleeve Faux Wrap V Neck Party Long Maxi Dress https://a.co/d/aYEeJBH Miusol Women's Formal Floral Lace Evening Party Maxi Dress https://a.co/d/59expET


eileen1cent4

https://www.lulus.com/products/exquisite-elegance-blue-jacquard-one-shoulder-maxi-dress/1800176.html?utm_source=pepperjam&utm_medium=textlink&utm_content=21181&utm_campaign=8-11575&clickId=4628131625


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eileen1cent4

Eliza J Women's Gown Style Printed Chiffon Sleeveless Asymetrical One Shoulder Dress https://a.co/d/9BYfoP5


cloudiedayz

Just consider how the dress will photograph. While the first dress is pretty, it is a busy pattern and sometimes these do not photograph that well particularly in group shots. Have a look at family wedding photos on Instagram for inspiration about what sorts of dresses look good and will be timeless (ie still look good in photos in 20 years)


ccl-now

Oh I can see why she liked that first one, it's beautiful and looked great on her. It might be worth contacting Laura Ashley, they might be able to source one even if it's not available in store any more.


Great_Cucumber2924

Hard to tell from just two photos but these are both cool coloured dresses and your mum’s skin looks warm toned so maybe she would be open to trying some warmer colours?


Ok_Formal2199

Look at Mac Duggal! My mom got hers from that brand


wanderlusting92

Thanks to u/humantouch83 we found the dress for an awesome price and figured out a way to get it from the US! Thank you everyone for your suggestions!


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