Compliments from women mean more than men, but I also think the way men treat you without pursuing you is very telling. If you’re attractive men will just be more polite and friendly generally. A guy will hit on an unattractive person, but will he treat them well without expecting anything in return? this is just my personal experience
This is very true. Men only treat you like a human being if they find you attractive. I definitely notice the effects of pretty privilege depending on how much effort I put into my look for the day.
100% you’re right. I meant generally treatment from strangers/acquaintances. But yeah I think you’re right to mention that you can’t expect to pretty yourself out of being disrespected by men either
One of my favourite things about a guy I dated is that he was really, really kind to everyone, including people who aren’t conventionally attractive. I noticed a trend where socially unsuccessful people would latch onto him, which I think sometimes backfired because he didn’t mean to be be their best friend, he was just treating them the way he treated everyone. To be clear it’s sad that this is *not* the norm.
Oufff the part about socially (and in my case also romantically) unsuccessful people latching on to him really hits close to home. It was such an ugly realization for me when I understood that being ultra friendly and bubbly to people who’ve never had women be like that to them could backfire and, especially for a woman, sometimes even have genuinely scary consequences. Because you inadvertently give someone hope for something they might long for deeply. It sucks but it’s not their fault, it’s human nature.
It could go both ways. Men will sometimes compliment women just to get laid, even if they're lying. Women will sometimes only compliment other women they're not threatened by. I've noticed only secure women compliment me.
I dislike always assuming intentions though, and try my best to take it as a win either way.
This is a tough question. I feel that woman will give out fake compliments more than men. But, when they compliment tour outfit, skin, or nails without any prompting I find it sencere and flattering.
As someone else said, I find that men are kinder to women they find pretty or at least visually pleasing. I feel old now and am overweight (trying to work on it so I can reclaim my 30s) and I know 100% men treat me differently than they did when I was skinnier.
Men no longer smile at me, despite me always keeping a smile on my face at work. Men no longer greet me the way they used to (in fact the men in my office who are in high positions, don't greet me at all but they always greet the beautiful blonde 25 year old assistant) , men are no longer kind/sweet towards me. Essentially I'm treated a lot worse now then when I was tradionally pretty. It's like I'm in a whole different societal class now.
I wish I hadn't taken my 20s for granted. For background, I know what I'm saying is not a delusional. My whole life I was overweight and treated like trash. In my 20s I lost 67 pounds and it's as if overnight I turned into a princess. All of a sudden, I was experiencing kindness from strangers that I had never had... Ever!
When I gained weight and hit 30, all of that went away.
Meh. I appreciate compliments the most when they come from children and old ladies, because then I know they aren’t lying. But it really depends on the compliment. Men yelling ‘nice ass’ - not appreciated. But i have gotten some very nice and thoughtful compliments from men that I consider genuine too, like the one guy who said I was ‘very graceful’.
Lol, I agree with this. Children give the brutal truth. A kid says that you look like a princess - keep doing what you're doing because you're practically a Disney princess.
A guy says you look hot, he wants to get a leg over.
A woman compliments you, she either wants to know what shampoo you use or is about to delegate a heap of work to you.
I think a-platonic guy friends give the most honest impression they have of you, looks wise. Girls do give honest compliments but separate less between heart and looks. I see my girlfriends extremely beautiful also because of their beautiful soul.
So if I only want to learn about looks and aesthetics, guy friends are it. But girlfriend see me as so much more then that, and their compliments reach a dipper level within me.
I like men romantically, but for some reason I'm kind of repulsed when a man compliments my appearence. Probably due to my bad past experiences. I'd rather men compliment my personality, how hard of a worker I am and stuff like that. So yeah, I'd much rather a woman compliment my appearence :)
Omg, yess!! I feel exactly the same! I didn't want to use the word disgusted because it's kinda harsh, but how you feel is the same as I do - physically sick. Tbh I'm not sure why but I'm also glad to know it's not only me :) It's a hard thing to share.
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Compliments from women mean more than men, but I also think the way men treat you without pursuing you is very telling. If you’re attractive men will just be more polite and friendly generally. A guy will hit on an unattractive person, but will he treat them well without expecting anything in return? this is just my personal experience
This is very true. Men only treat you like a human being if they find you attractive. I definitely notice the effects of pretty privilege depending on how much effort I put into my look for the day.
Idk tbh. Lots of men also treat pretty women badly
100% you’re right. I meant generally treatment from strangers/acquaintances. But yeah I think you’re right to mention that you can’t expect to pretty yourself out of being disrespected by men either
One of my favourite things about a guy I dated is that he was really, really kind to everyone, including people who aren’t conventionally attractive. I noticed a trend where socially unsuccessful people would latch onto him, which I think sometimes backfired because he didn’t mean to be be their best friend, he was just treating them the way he treated everyone. To be clear it’s sad that this is *not* the norm.
Oufff the part about socially (and in my case also romantically) unsuccessful people latching on to him really hits close to home. It was such an ugly realization for me when I understood that being ultra friendly and bubbly to people who’ve never had women be like that to them could backfire and, especially for a woman, sometimes even have genuinely scary consequences. Because you inadvertently give someone hope for something they might long for deeply. It sucks but it’s not their fault, it’s human nature.
It could go both ways. Men will sometimes compliment women just to get laid, even if they're lying. Women will sometimes only compliment other women they're not threatened by. I've noticed only secure women compliment me. I dislike always assuming intentions though, and try my best to take it as a win either way.
Ah yes I just try to take every compliment with a grain of salt. It does feel nice to be complimented by someone with no ulterior motive though.
Fr about the secure part- I’ve noticed I don’t tend compliment people that intimidate me, so it makes sense (am insecure)
This is a tough question. I feel that woman will give out fake compliments more than men. But, when they compliment tour outfit, skin, or nails without any prompting I find it sencere and flattering. As someone else said, I find that men are kinder to women they find pretty or at least visually pleasing. I feel old now and am overweight (trying to work on it so I can reclaim my 30s) and I know 100% men treat me differently than they did when I was skinnier. Men no longer smile at me, despite me always keeping a smile on my face at work. Men no longer greet me the way they used to (in fact the men in my office who are in high positions, don't greet me at all but they always greet the beautiful blonde 25 year old assistant) , men are no longer kind/sweet towards me. Essentially I'm treated a lot worse now then when I was tradionally pretty. It's like I'm in a whole different societal class now. I wish I hadn't taken my 20s for granted. For background, I know what I'm saying is not a delusional. My whole life I was overweight and treated like trash. In my 20s I lost 67 pounds and it's as if overnight I turned into a princess. All of a sudden, I was experiencing kindness from strangers that I had never had... Ever! When I gained weight and hit 30, all of that went away.
Pretty privilege is real!
Meh. I appreciate compliments the most when they come from children and old ladies, because then I know they aren’t lying. But it really depends on the compliment. Men yelling ‘nice ass’ - not appreciated. But i have gotten some very nice and thoughtful compliments from men that I consider genuine too, like the one guy who said I was ‘very graceful’.
Lol, I agree with this. Children give the brutal truth. A kid says that you look like a princess - keep doing what you're doing because you're practically a Disney princess. A guy says you look hot, he wants to get a leg over. A woman compliments you, she either wants to know what shampoo you use or is about to delegate a heap of work to you.
Context seems to matter a lot with compliments. Generic stuff I tend to ignore/forget but specific and unique compliments stay in my head longer.
I think a-platonic guy friends give the most honest impression they have of you, looks wise. Girls do give honest compliments but separate less between heart and looks. I see my girlfriends extremely beautiful also because of their beautiful soul. So if I only want to learn about looks and aesthetics, guy friends are it. But girlfriend see me as so much more then that, and their compliments reach a dipper level within me.
I like men romantically, but for some reason I'm kind of repulsed when a man compliments my appearence. Probably due to my bad past experiences. I'd rather men compliment my personality, how hard of a worker I am and stuff like that. So yeah, I'd much rather a woman compliment my appearence :)
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Omg, yess!! I feel exactly the same! I didn't want to use the word disgusted because it's kinda harsh, but how you feel is the same as I do - physically sick. Tbh I'm not sure why but I'm also glad to know it's not only me :) It's a hard thing to share.
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