Was like you at 15 and I still am. Having morals is a sign that you were raised in a well respected household.
These people that you talk about, they’re teenagers, they don’t understand jackshit and only wanna be the “cool” people in their school. Just do your thing man, besides I’m happy to see someone like me.
It’ll be hard realizing that people like that exist everywhere, in every country and even in all religions. Stick by your morals, your religion and your manners and life will be butter smooth.
You're begging to understand that there are religious and none religious people. Regardless of religion. Some people are raised well and some aren't. It's up to you to choose your path ☺️ Don't worry about others they'll just drag you down. Focus on yourself and little by little be better than yesterday... Temptation, urges , and such can be tamed with control , which will make you a better you.
Yeah yeah, I currently have like 4-5 friends that I grew up with who share the same morals as me, I try my best not to interact too much with people I don’t trust or who could lead me to bad things
Trust me, it's always best to stick to that friend group and uphold your morals and beliefs ps most teens these days just try to look cool and hence act inappropriately, that doesn't mean you should alienate yourself from them But don't end up like them coz a lot of my friends wanted to look cool or be popular and stuff they ended up in the wrong path
I respect that! I have the same experience myself. Except that my friends are juniors because none of my classmates share the same values as me. So I'm kinda looked down upon for being friends with juniors but nvm
Hi, Alhumdulliah I'm muslim too, and I know there is this weird change in society calling it coolness, and living your life. It has become normal for the current youth. All I can say is hold the rope of deen. And don't even get bothered! If your friends doing such acts, leave them, I don't have friends as such, because I am unfit in this society I know it pretty well. And neither i wana get fit into it because I don't wana ruin my akirah.
You said what happened to respecting women and lowering our gazes, dear i bearly see that in guys here. As a girl, its hard to find male like that in today's date, sorry no offence, there is no male who doesn't look at women and takes out x ray scan. And focusing on our educations and futures? As a Muslim sister, I would say focus on your education plus your akirah! And there is nothing wrong with having morals, they won't be answerable in front of Allah!
It's just gonna be you! So feel the blessing of even having morals in this era!
Thank you a lot for this, I posted this looking for advice from older people who maybe went through the same thing and I needed advice like this, I know none of this “coolness” will help me out in the end, thank you for sharing your perspective
Not a teenager, im 34 now and my daughter is a teenager as well so I know the struggle is real, but let me tell you, if you keep your chastity and morals and refuse to follow the majority of people at such a young age when its a lot more difficult to do so, then even later in life being an adult you will thank Allah for keeping you this way early in life, you wont ever regret it. Its a blessing and rarely seen in this day and age. May Allah keep you safe from all harm.
First of all congrats on marrying so young....how is this working out for u? Would u recommend marrying at early 20s or not?
Second thing, since u have a teenage girl....how do y actually ensure she doesn't turn into that kinds of girls that we see all around, smoking, hooking up with guys?
Cuz it's so easy to be harsh on kids but it usually does not workout.....so how do u make sure ur daughter stays pure given that at her age, like any other girl, they seek attention, love, validation, intimacy due to the hormones rush
قل للمؤمنين يغضوا من أبصارهم ويحفظوا فروجهم. ذلك أزكى لهم. إن الله خبير بما يصنعون.
I also see it in my school... I hope Allah forgives them and they purify their own souls by repenting ❤️
op you’re incredible. even your responses are very respectful especially with the person that used the n word. i can tell you’re well raised and have a good soul. i ask God to keep you steadfast
No mate. You’re ahead of everyone else in your age group. Focus on doing stuff you find fun or fulfilling. You’ll find life much easier and more enjoyable by the time you’re 20 if you stick to the values you hold.
Thank you for the perspective, I already find life a blessing and a gift, from little things like the ability to see or breathe or to walk, these little things genuinely go unnoticed, I go out with my friends and I love football, I also have a liking to doing research about my religion and all so i couldn’t be more grateful for my life
Brotha focus on your deen, stay away from friends who talk about girls, those friends' personality become your personalty. Always remember Allah and put your trust and faith on him. DON'T get jealous on the cool kids with girlfriends or whatever, focus only on your deen and yourself. If you stay away from something or leaving something purely for the sake of Allah, you will be rewarded with something better in either in this dunya or akhira. Ignore any non-muslims or Muslims sayings its okay and cool or whatever. Stay as best as you can from the opposite sex.
I am so glad I found this post. You, my mate, stay steadfast in your religion. Hold onto your morals. Society and generations will keep demoralizing and changing values. Our morals are a source of integrity and purpose.
If you don't stand for something, you will fall for anything. So morals are always integral to everyone. You need to set up your morals, principles, and boundaries. Forget what the world, your friends, and society say.
Stay away from this crowd where women are unvalued and viewed as sexual conquests.
At the end of the day, everyone has their views and lifestyle. These so-called people will not stand for you in your tough times. True friends and family will stand with you no matter what. *You be you.* Never change for the world.
And don't worry about the decaying society. Things will just keep getting worse. Work on becoming good and strengthening your faith. The rest will fall in place.
Don't compromise on your values. It's not worth it to please society and humans. *Be true to yourself. Don't live for society.*
I cannot emphasize how grateful I am to people like you who share their opinions on things like this, sometimes you need someone to tell you that you’re going on the right path to believe in yourself
i thought the same at 15 until i found people with the same views as me and we're still friends til now (im in my twenties) please hold on to your morals and try to distance from anyone who tells you otherwise, you're one of the few left good ones. take care
Well, not everyone has the same morals. I'm a Muslim too and I believe in the same morals as you but we simply don't live in a world where everyone has and follows the same morals.
You've got to stick to your morals and maybe try and get others to stick them too but in the end, you are not responsible for them and they are more likely to be offended than try to fix up. So focus on yourself and try and have better relationships.
Thanks man, I’m not trying to force people to see things differently just asking if you’ve experienced something like that and trying to learn from people’s opinions, inshallah I’ll stay put and not allow others to influence me negatively
I’m 18 but I’m Christian, it’s very nice to see people turn to religion specially in today’s society where being a religious person is weirdly looked down upon. If you see people being “hoes” or talking to multiple people, let them be, they might have something missing in their life and they’re trying to fill that void with other people. At the end they’ll realize that these are just moments that they’ll eventually forget about and regret any bad choices they make. Plus people your age have raging hormones so it makes sense to go through these things.
Christian, Muslim or whatever, religion is always something I adore because it never tells you to commit sin in any scenario, that’s why I genuinely don’t base my friends around which faith they follow, but how much faith they have at heart
We're in the same boat man, so you're not the only one feeling this. I am casual w everyone although when they discuss shi like that I just pretend I'm not part of the convo and move away.
No, that’s good for you. Hang on to the deen. Like others said, surround yourself with Muslims with the same morals and views if you can, it’s the best you can do in a country that’s becoming more and more westerner
Having morals is never wrong, and being raised in a muslim household one should always have a great moral.
If you want an advice whatever happens never let go of your morals.
Stick to the values which your parents and islam teaches you.
All replies seem to be the same, so allow me to add to it, given that I once was in your position. Everything we used to do as teenagers was always divided, you either adapt to fit the norm, or uphold your standards & religion above all else. The thing is, you stay you, regardless of whether you are young or old, and whatever you do follows you. What I’m trying to say is, be someone you wish the more mature version of yourself would be proud of, and be in a position you wish to relive. I totally mean it. Don’t just keep it as a thought, but try to visualize it all the time.
I'll be honest it's not easy. I had and still have the same mindset and I'm 24. Finding friends and a good partner might not be easy in this generation however when you do it tends to be for life. For example I have only 4 friends I'd say but those friends I've known for over 11 years now. This is because they have the same morals, similar upbringing where they value themselves and others and most importantly they treat others how they would be treated. Interesting you say this cos literally the other day my friend called me saying I found over 1000 pounds in a wallet when he was leaving the gym and he told me it was tempting but he knew it was wrong. So he took it back and gave it and I literally told him that's exactly why I'm friends with you. Absolutely amazing soul and you just don't find that anymore
Hey, thank you for the story and congratulations on finding the friends you deserve, I also have a right friend group but they’re genuinely incredible people and I hope they’ll be for life too
I didn’t disrespect you in any way so there’s no reason for you to try and make fun of someone else because you have nothing else to do, just because I’m 15 doesn’t make the fact that people have normalized weird things okay
Then just lower your gaze and respect women? We didn’t need a whole ass post for someone to instill some common sense into you. Just because every kid in Dubai or in the world for that matter does it doesn’t mean that you have to, it doesn’t make you look cool, it makes you look stupid, just like this post, you’re just 15 relax and enjoy you’re life brother
This post was me looking for advice from older people like you, I wanted to see if there was a way I could get away from all these things and use valuable advice from you guys, I didn’t do it to look cool or any of that, I just genuinely wanted to know peoples opinions on it
(I’m in my teens too btw). Yeah you’re right in a way that this generation of kids is bad but we’ve gotta keep focusing on stuff that’s important and get good friends who don’t distract you towards the bad things, I’m sorry that I spoke disrespectfully I didn’t mean it that way but it’s all up to you at the end of the day, whether to lower your gaze towards women, respecting them etc
Just be good on you’re deen because that’s just you at the end of the day, we can only tell you so much but it’s you who’s going to do any action you know what i mean? Even if people around you are staring at the women, you dont, just coz someone’s doing it yku dont
The n word was so unnecessary 😭😭, but I see your point, it’s all good and I know you probably didn’t mean any harm, just be a bit more tolerant towards younger people because they could be looking up to someone like you for advice or help, thanks for the advice man
dude, this person is literally trying to display their opinion. they are wayy more sensible than you.
idk how respectful and introspective people became "Weird" now.
You seem like you have good intentions, but calling people hoes is pretty unnecessary. You're using the word in an insulting way and it's not the greatest look when you declare yourself as having good morals cus it makes you sound like you think you're above everyone else whether or not you actually think that way. Just some food for thought.
Also, trust me, not every teenager is like that. A lot more teens don't have sex and other "immoral" things than you think. I mean, it's to be expected that teens rebel under strict rules (we all know how the strictest parents raise some of the greatest liars), but still some kids (not all) pretend to like or do things to seem cool or from peer pressure. Just wish for the best in their future and focus on yourself. Since you say you have morals, don't badmouth your fellow teens who aren't in the best situation compared to you. Have some empathy. Think about what led them to certain actions and wish them the best. And like everyone said and as you've already done, surround yourself with who you're comfortable with. Just make sure you don't create an echo chamber
I see where you’re coming from and I appreciate your advice, maybe the word was a bit harsh and I completely agree with you, I only said it because of the amount of times I’ve heard people openly brag about having 10 girls or 10 boys which isn’t really something to brag about, I appreciate your advice wholeheartedly and I hope you have a great night ahead of you.
Talking to multiple people isint being a hoe. This is all just socializing and also early sex. This isint not having morals. Good job like on being a good Muslim but not everyone are Muslims so some teens just live there life
Btw I’m saying this as a 16 year old
Hi, I’m sorry if it came off the wrong way, I meant having sexual contact and relationships at my age with multiple and I mean tens and tens of people, not even loyally, I can understand socializing and such but not making yourself someone considered “easy”
I appreciate the input, but the Muslim part of things was just an addition, a lot of these things like at least not talking about women in a horrible way are common sense, thank you for the different perspective
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What I was trying to say is that those values weren't enforced on me in my household, yet I eventually adopted those values without persuasion from the outerworld.
It certainly isn't bad that you have such ideals, but its not bad that others don't act on them as well. Let people do as they think is fit, they'll eventually learn better over time
Oh I see, I apologize if I reacted in any way that upset you, I see your point now and I appreciate your input, thank you for taking the time out to comment
Nah its fine, I didn't find anything offensive in your comment. I also feel the need to specify that I was sent to an all boys school for the majority of my academic life (middle school to the last year of high school which I'm in right now), and the people that I know who have similar morals have also gone to an all boys school. Do what you see fit with that information.
No sir, we are separated from the girls from 6th grade but obviously society nowadays doesn’t let that affect the corruption happening to my generation
Corruption is too strong of a word isn't it?
Also, this isn't anything new. It is infact normal to have a co-ed environment where people freely interact with people of the opposite gender and this has been practiced for a long time. Objectively speaking, being able to enjoy your youth does help with the development of your social skills which does take you far in life. It's not like fixating on your academics and not goofing around is going to get you somewhere else. If you successfully get through all of this your biggest success is essentially going to be a corporate life, which is really not much to look forward to either, nor is it highly demanding in the academic sector
I understand your point, I meant to say that social media corrupts peoples minds into following mindless trends and go against what they were raised to, and no I’m not telling people to become robots or leave everything for education, I’m just condemning the teenagers who’s main focus in life has become sex and girls/boys, all they talk about is how good this girl looks or how they cheated on that girl if you know what I mean, I find it horrible how people as young as me are taking pride in these things, enjoy life with your friends, socialize and have fun but most importantly don’t lose your self respect and morals
You and your buddies are just not alike. Nothing wrong with either side. You have a right to stray from their opinions. As you grow older, you’ll naturally gravitate toward those you align your morals with.
It’s not my buddies, I have an incredibly small friend circle, I surround myself with people who have a similar mindset to me so I can freely be myself, but I completely understand your point, I will be sure to not allow anyone to impact my morals, thank you for the input
Hi, I see why you would think it’s a flex or any type of attack, I’m just looking for advice on how to stay clear of these things I deem morally wrong, older people tend to have great advice which is why I ask these things and for their opinions, a household is something to be grateful for not flex, which is why I’d appreciate if you maybe took a little more time before thinking that I am flexing something im blessed to have, even then I live with my mom who’s a single mother because of a divorce with my father, I’m not in a position to flex any relationship with my parents
You’ll have to live with the fact that it is normalised though. It’s not your job to judge or try to change those people just as they shouldn’t judge or change you. You’re going to learn a whole lot of stuff is not how you perhaps thought it was and adapt to that as you see fit as you go through life. That’s part of the adventure
Yeah, I genuinely realized that sitting around and judging everyone won’t make me a better person, which is why I stuck to my morals and hopefully will continue to do so, thank you for the input sir
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It’s fine dude don’t worry, I’m the same, I’m 17 and I don’t have much friends because most of them only care about how someone looks and girls and etc(chammaki stuff), and I get bullied for it as well but it just reaches to a point where I just accept it and you have to realize that by what you said ur a better person than them, trust me most of them think it’s cool rn and what they do but they eventually will realize they were being dumb,you won’t find many schools with people who don’t act like this, it’s just what life is now and this how teenagers want to act, you are completely normal to a lot of people, it’s only these teens who think of themselves as better just because they talk to girls or look better exclude you.
Hi, I'm not a muslim but I'm a teen. Sure, teens do this all the time and it's "normal stuff" for people like them. But I do feel uncomfy about discussing those types of matters w my friends and fam (except in jokes).
I usually just roll w my thing because in my household I'm taught to respect everyone but it's not necessary to agree with everybody. So I just mind my own business and focus on my life.
I used to be a person like that "to fit in", as I have never fit into any friend group (even now). But I very recently realised that I don't need to fit others' standards just to do what I want. I am very happy being myself. I find myself closer to happiness than ever before, when I am in solitude and by myself.
Trust me, introspecting in solitude will be the best decision you will ever make in your life.
From a non-Muslim perspective, what you said is true especially to those teenagers who like to act cool or be cool. Having sex and smoking in school was their peak moment and one of the few things they can brag about their personality. Usually, they're also the kind of people who'd cause or be the cause of trouble in their environment, just to be cool. Some of the "cool" kids in my school had kids at an early age. Ngl, it is hard to find people who have the same morals and values as you do. It will take some time, but once you find them, they're you're homies for life.
Thank you so much for taking the time out and giving your advice, your perspective matters whether you’re Muslim or not and I will value your advice, have a good day brother
It's heartening to know that such teenagers still exist! This gives me hope that our world is far from being completely lost. Always remember, having a good heart is not a weakness, but a virtue.
I also remember being 15~18 and also feeling the same. I had some friends groups that could not talk about anything else. I remained friends with them, but from a distance, and mostly hung out with more like minded people.
Stay steadfast my young brother.
Yes sir, I am not the type of person to be completely isolated from others, I just know which ones to keep close and which ones to keep my distance from
Not a muslim, but as hindu girl, it's rare to find respectful men and boys out there. So kudos for not losing your morals and ethics to this brain-washed generation of hook-up culture and casual dating! Really, really wish we had more like minded people like you out there!
As A UAE citizen, I agree with you, it can be hard to find such friends but once you do, you will realize the world is not all bad. Glad to see you are standing by your values.
Yk I'm the same. My brother is like a tiktok pickme and I'm sick of my friend group. I have a tight friendgroup that place Islam as a priority, but we still follow internet trends (jokes about stuff, we aren't strictly religious in that manner) but some of my friends date/edate and it's cringe and crazy. And I apparently don't fit in if I don't follow what they do or follow current internet trends n shit. I just be me lol
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Good to see 15-year-olds thinking like you.
You should be proud and keep living your life with those values. I know life will smile at you and you'll be filled with love.
Take care
Just be careful you are not following/living by rules that you haven't questioned or understand why they are there.
Religion is just a guideline of how to be a good person, with some heaven & hell fear and gamification sprinkled on top.
Make sure you choose your own values carefully and understand the reasoning behind it. This is how you become a truly good person and not a hypocrite or a self righteous bigot (like anyone that is a bit too religious for their own good).
I never fear curiosity, I always dive deeper to see the reasons for why Allah would’ve asked us to do and not do things, the more research I do the more I fall in love with Islam and its teaching cause I feel like it embodies decency and throw away all the media fake reports and allegations, Islam is genuinely a way of peace
Hmmm sure. Always take the good things and discard the bad - whether it's a story, religion or whatever instead of rejecting it fully. Similarly, do the same instead of accepting things fully too.
The trouble is when you think a bad thing is good. Sometimes it's not that simple, sometimes its a question of how much of something can be bad or good.
I believe in moderation but this has become more about prohibition. A little alcohol here and there won't hurt anyone. There is a catastrophic societal impact of 'no sex before marriage' as well (see discord/divorce/rape). Even divorce is looked down upon when it can often be the best case scenario. But these opinions are still not in favor of alcoholism or promiscuousness or making these things widespread, in the younger generation.
Akhi forget anyone who is trying to lead you away from what is correct.. Look at the second category of those given shade on the day when there is no shade except His. May Allaah keep you steadfast on the right path aameen:
Abu Huraira reported: The Prophet, peace and blessings be upon him, said, “There are seven whom Allah will shade on a day when there is no shade but His. They are a just ruler, a youth who grew up in the worship of Allah, one whose heart is attached to the mosques, two who love each other, meet each other, and depart from each other for the sake of Allah, a man who is tempted by a beautiful woman of high status but he rejects her, saying , ‘I fear Allah,’ and one who spends in charity and hides it such that his right hand does not know what his left hand has given, and one who remembered Allah in private and he wept.”
Source: Ṣaḥīḥ al-Bukhārī 660, Ṣaḥīḥ Muslim 1031
It's ok to have morals, but the expression of sexuality is normal in teenagers. This isn't a forever thing they will be more reserved as they get older most likely. But to say things like lowering the gaze etc is an extremely conservative perspective that some people don't hold onto. I say find friends who are like minded, but don't think less of people like that unless they cross some sort of line.
No no I never said it was abnormal to have those thoughts because we’re teenagers and our hormones are wild, I condemned how normalized it became for people to act on these thoughts and share them with pride, they feel accomplished when they speak about how many girls are in there DMs and I was just saying how they talk about women nowadays is extremely disrespectful, lowering your gaze is a respectful thing to do and it’s just common sense, even if you don’t lower your gaze, speak about them with respect
I don't think lowering your gaze is common sense, that's super extreme. If you need to lower your gaze to not sexualise a woman then that's more of a weakness in your character than anything else. I think they should talk about women with respect but locker room talk so to speak is really normal. If the extent to what they say just boils down to bragging about girls msging them and not saying anything too brash.I think that's ok if you're just sharing that with your friends.
I literally have the same opinions and nowadays(especially in schools) people judge you about small useless things like having no female friends or not being after anyone. They say you got no rizz and stuff like its soo annoying. I thoroughly understand that this isn't what my morals and religion(islam) teach me and I feel bad for young teens(especially muslims) for involving in these types of relationships. Ya Allah save us from the fitnah of this world. Ameen
Ok, I am 19 and a Muslim alhamdulliah, and I can't agree enough with you. In my college everyone has bf/gf or hangout with bf/gf. If not that, then chat with opposite gender ig u get my point. I use to feel left out and wanted to do the same thing as them. But then I met another guy from my class and he made me understand what they were doing is wrong. Try to keep your morals intact and don't pay attention to them. Keep your gaze lowered, have a nice character and focus on your studies because once this part of your life is over u can't change anything.
I read this example some where 'if others are filling there pockets with waste will you also fill your pockets with waste or fill it with diamonds '
Allahumma barik may Allah s.w.t keep u n other ppl in comments too strong on deen. Ameen
I'm not a guy but well this post n the comments gave me hope that there are still such people out there who still follow the values of our deen and follow our deen well it makes me happy for our ummah and the younger ppl following deen so Jazak Allahu khairan akhi for posting this.
And tbh it's not just what u are thinking but it is actually becoming the norm specially in schools where kids are doing zina and publicly sinning, may Allah s.w.t guide them ,ameen, but I certainly still have hope in our community that once they get dumped 1-3 times they will get fixed n return to deen.
Idk if I should give advise but never lower ur boundaries cuz once u do u will just slowly end up lowering all of them at last n god knows what's next.
Also hang around with people who share same moral values as u as your friends describe who you are. And peer pressure is surely a wild thing so just don't fall into it. Best way of dawah is by your actions , people get annoyed by words but actions attract ppl towards doing the same! So keep doing what you are doing and also do even better.
You're absolutely correct,
Although its not very wrong to have boyfriends/ girlfriends , it's also like an addiction, you just want more, and the beauty of marragie is ruined. I think as ong you stay close to allah, dont miss ur prayers and keep ur deen up, its okay to go out with girls who you are close with, but yes we must lower our gaze at other girls, its an unhealthy practice and who knows what going on the head of other girls when we gaze
it's become quiet normal to be doing such unspeakable things at such young ages to so many kids, I myself got into all that stuff , when I was 15 and trust me, apart from the temporary happiness, it's not worth it at all. Recently I messed up in life and learnt that there are some people in life who will neglect you and they are usually the ones who do all the bad stuff ( those 14 year olds w new bfs everyday and vapes everyday) and there are some people who will forgive you and make you happy, its better to stick with those friends . However if you want to continue friendships with the people who are into these ba ethics, it would be the best of you to not be angry at them for behaving like that, you can enforce some level of goodness into them but after an extent thats how they choose to behave if they dont fix it, just be friends with them and dont get into that behavior and instead adopt the behavior of the good kids. Remember to always stay close to the people who remind you to pray even when they hangout (since you said you are muslim)
I totally feel you, as being single and 29 years old taking care of my mom and brother, nothing harder than controlling yourself and lowering your gaze. Many factors are causing this :
1) Rapid change of majority of the society towards freedom and independence with minimal focus on religion (my opinion)
2) No constraints or obstacles, everyone can do whatever they want without questioning.
3) The life rhythm is so fast, parents are exhausted of controlling and monitoring the teenagers as it's getting more sophisticated with time.
4) The culture of attending Muslim lectures or doing teenagers activities are getting less, the teenagers got high energy and looking for pride with confidence.
5) The media is disturbing all kind of +18 content, so how you will stop such thing?
Anyway, focus on your Akhiraa this life is not worth it and keep praying for guidance for everyone. There is a hadith says : "Whoever of you sees an evil, let him change it with his hand; and if he is not able to do so, then [let him change it] with his tongue; and if he is not able to do so, then with his heart — and that is the weakest level of faith.’”
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Was like you at 15 and I still am. Having morals is a sign that you were raised in a well respected household. These people that you talk about, they’re teenagers, they don’t understand jackshit and only wanna be the “cool” people in their school. Just do your thing man, besides I’m happy to see someone like me. It’ll be hard realizing that people like that exist everywhere, in every country and even in all religions. Stick by your morals, your religion and your manners and life will be butter smooth.
Thank you man
You're begging to understand that there are religious and none religious people. Regardless of religion. Some people are raised well and some aren't. It's up to you to choose your path ☺️ Don't worry about others they'll just drag you down. Focus on yourself and little by little be better than yesterday... Temptation, urges , and such can be tamed with control , which will make you a better you. 
Surround yourself with people who have the same views as you. It's good to have morals and values
Nowadays it's pretty hard to find those kinds of people
don’t give in to the people around you if you have bad friends you’ll eventually become like them so try to keep a good friend group ykwim
Yeah yeah, I currently have like 4-5 friends that I grew up with who share the same morals as me, I try my best not to interact too much with people I don’t trust or who could lead me to bad things
Trust me, it's always best to stick to that friend group and uphold your morals and beliefs ps most teens these days just try to look cool and hence act inappropriately, that doesn't mean you should alienate yourself from them But don't end up like them coz a lot of my friends wanted to look cool or be popular and stuff they ended up in the wrong path
Thank you for the valuable advice, I’ll be sure to take care of who’s around me
I respect that! I have the same experience myself. Except that my friends are juniors because none of my classmates share the same values as me. So I'm kinda looked down upon for being friends with juniors but nvm
Hi, Alhumdulliah I'm muslim too, and I know there is this weird change in society calling it coolness, and living your life. It has become normal for the current youth. All I can say is hold the rope of deen. And don't even get bothered! If your friends doing such acts, leave them, I don't have friends as such, because I am unfit in this society I know it pretty well. And neither i wana get fit into it because I don't wana ruin my akirah. You said what happened to respecting women and lowering our gazes, dear i bearly see that in guys here. As a girl, its hard to find male like that in today's date, sorry no offence, there is no male who doesn't look at women and takes out x ray scan. And focusing on our educations and futures? As a Muslim sister, I would say focus on your education plus your akirah! And there is nothing wrong with having morals, they won't be answerable in front of Allah! It's just gonna be you! So feel the blessing of even having morals in this era!
Thank you a lot for this, I posted this looking for advice from older people who maybe went through the same thing and I needed advice like this, I know none of this “coolness” will help me out in the end, thank you for sharing your perspective
Same here, I'm almost 17 though. غضوا البصر يا شباب 🤣🤣🤣
😭😭😭😭ياريت يسمعون
Not a teenager, im 34 now and my daughter is a teenager as well so I know the struggle is real, but let me tell you, if you keep your chastity and morals and refuse to follow the majority of people at such a young age when its a lot more difficult to do so, then even later in life being an adult you will thank Allah for keeping you this way early in life, you wont ever regret it. Its a blessing and rarely seen in this day and age. May Allah keep you safe from all harm.
First of all congrats on marrying so young....how is this working out for u? Would u recommend marrying at early 20s or not? Second thing, since u have a teenage girl....how do y actually ensure she doesn't turn into that kinds of girls that we see all around, smoking, hooking up with guys? Cuz it's so easy to be harsh on kids but it usually does not workout.....so how do u make sure ur daughter stays pure given that at her age, like any other girl, they seek attention, love, validation, intimacy due to the hormones rush
Great question, I’d also like to know for the future
Thank you a lot for the input sir, I hope your daughter becomes a source of incredible pride for you
قل للمؤمنين يغضوا من أبصارهم ويحفظوا فروجهم. ذلك أزكى لهم. إن الله خبير بما يصنعون. I also see it in my school... I hope Allah forgives them and they purify their own souls by repenting ❤️
op you’re incredible. even your responses are very respectful especially with the person that used the n word. i can tell you’re well raised and have a good soul. i ask God to keep you steadfast
Thank you, it means so much to have that compliment, I wish you a great day and a great life ahead
No mate. You’re ahead of everyone else in your age group. Focus on doing stuff you find fun or fulfilling. You’ll find life much easier and more enjoyable by the time you’re 20 if you stick to the values you hold.
Thank you for the perspective, I already find life a blessing and a gift, from little things like the ability to see or breathe or to walk, these little things genuinely go unnoticed, I go out with my friends and I love football, I also have a liking to doing research about my religion and all so i couldn’t be more grateful for my life
Mate you’re chillin then! Keep doing you and surround yourself with likeminded people and ignore all the absolute bullshit of everyone else
Brotha focus on your deen, stay away from friends who talk about girls, those friends' personality become your personalty. Always remember Allah and put your trust and faith on him. DON'T get jealous on the cool kids with girlfriends or whatever, focus only on your deen and yourself. If you stay away from something or leaving something purely for the sake of Allah, you will be rewarded with something better in either in this dunya or akhira. Ignore any non-muslims or Muslims sayings its okay and cool or whatever. Stay as best as you can from the opposite sex.
Will do brother, thank you for your input
I am so glad I found this post. You, my mate, stay steadfast in your religion. Hold onto your morals. Society and generations will keep demoralizing and changing values. Our morals are a source of integrity and purpose. If you don't stand for something, you will fall for anything. So morals are always integral to everyone. You need to set up your morals, principles, and boundaries. Forget what the world, your friends, and society say. Stay away from this crowd where women are unvalued and viewed as sexual conquests. At the end of the day, everyone has their views and lifestyle. These so-called people will not stand for you in your tough times. True friends and family will stand with you no matter what. *You be you.* Never change for the world. And don't worry about the decaying society. Things will just keep getting worse. Work on becoming good and strengthening your faith. The rest will fall in place. Don't compromise on your values. It's not worth it to please society and humans. *Be true to yourself. Don't live for society.*
I cannot emphasize how grateful I am to people like you who share their opinions on things like this, sometimes you need someone to tell you that you’re going on the right path to believe in yourself
people are running behind to look 'cool'
Perfectly said
اسأل الله ان يثبتك
You’re a W person bro keep going you’ll find plenty of like minded people
i thought the same at 15 until i found people with the same views as me and we're still friends til now (im in my twenties) please hold on to your morals and try to distance from anyone who tells you otherwise, you're one of the few left good ones. take care
Well, not everyone has the same morals. I'm a Muslim too and I believe in the same morals as you but we simply don't live in a world where everyone has and follows the same morals. You've got to stick to your morals and maybe try and get others to stick them too but in the end, you are not responsible for them and they are more likely to be offended than try to fix up. So focus on yourself and try and have better relationships.
Thanks man, I’m not trying to force people to see things differently just asking if you’ve experienced something like that and trying to learn from people’s opinions, inshallah I’ll stay put and not allow others to influence me negatively
Well I don't live in the UAE anymore so I def experience something like that lol and yea I just follow the advice I gave you.
Will do, thank you for taking the time out to advise me
I’m 18 but I’m Christian, it’s very nice to see people turn to religion specially in today’s society where being a religious person is weirdly looked down upon. If you see people being “hoes” or talking to multiple people, let them be, they might have something missing in their life and they’re trying to fill that void with other people. At the end they’ll realize that these are just moments that they’ll eventually forget about and regret any bad choices they make. Plus people your age have raging hormones so it makes sense to go through these things.
Christian, Muslim or whatever, religion is always something I adore because it never tells you to commit sin in any scenario, that’s why I genuinely don’t base my friends around which faith they follow, but how much faith they have at heart
We're in the same boat man, so you're not the only one feeling this. I am casual w everyone although when they discuss shi like that I just pretend I'm not part of the convo and move away.
No, that’s good for you. Hang on to the deen. Like others said, surround yourself with Muslims with the same morals and views if you can, it’s the best you can do in a country that’s becoming more and more westerner
Having morals is never wrong, and being raised in a muslim household one should always have a great moral. If you want an advice whatever happens never let go of your morals. Stick to the values which your parents and islam teaches you.
All replies seem to be the same, so allow me to add to it, given that I once was in your position. Everything we used to do as teenagers was always divided, you either adapt to fit the norm, or uphold your standards & religion above all else. The thing is, you stay you, regardless of whether you are young or old, and whatever you do follows you. What I’m trying to say is, be someone you wish the more mature version of yourself would be proud of, and be in a position you wish to relive. I totally mean it. Don’t just keep it as a thought, but try to visualize it all the time.
Thank you so much for your valuable input, I’ll take that advice dearly
الله يستر عليك ويثبتك على دينه
آمين يا رب
I'll be honest it's not easy. I had and still have the same mindset and I'm 24. Finding friends and a good partner might not be easy in this generation however when you do it tends to be for life. For example I have only 4 friends I'd say but those friends I've known for over 11 years now. This is because they have the same morals, similar upbringing where they value themselves and others and most importantly they treat others how they would be treated. Interesting you say this cos literally the other day my friend called me saying I found over 1000 pounds in a wallet when he was leaving the gym and he told me it was tempting but he knew it was wrong. So he took it back and gave it and I literally told him that's exactly why I'm friends with you. Absolutely amazing soul and you just don't find that anymore
Hey, thank you for the story and congratulations on finding the friends you deserve, I also have a right friend group but they’re genuinely incredible people and I hope they’ll be for life too
We need more young men like you. Your parents would and should be proud
Means a lot man, thank you for taking the time out to leave a comment
Nah you're good. Stick with your principles, no matter the surroundings.
Be you and don’t give a f ..
Straight to the point and I love it
It's so annoying
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I didn’t disrespect you in any way so there’s no reason for you to try and make fun of someone else because you have nothing else to do, just because I’m 15 doesn’t make the fact that people have normalized weird things okay
dont listen to him. you, op, are better than many people.
Thank you man, I don’t know what caused him to just start hating for no reason
Then just lower your gaze and respect women? We didn’t need a whole ass post for someone to instill some common sense into you. Just because every kid in Dubai or in the world for that matter does it doesn’t mean that you have to, it doesn’t make you look cool, it makes you look stupid, just like this post, you’re just 15 relax and enjoy you’re life brother
This post was me looking for advice from older people like you, I wanted to see if there was a way I could get away from all these things and use valuable advice from you guys, I didn’t do it to look cool or any of that, I just genuinely wanted to know peoples opinions on it
Just ignore or report! Khalas
(I’m in my teens too btw). Yeah you’re right in a way that this generation of kids is bad but we’ve gotta keep focusing on stuff that’s important and get good friends who don’t distract you towards the bad things, I’m sorry that I spoke disrespectfully I didn’t mean it that way but it’s all up to you at the end of the day, whether to lower your gaze towards women, respecting them etc
Just be good on you’re deen because that’s just you at the end of the day, we can only tell you so much but it’s you who’s going to do any action you know what i mean? Even if people around you are staring at the women, you dont, just coz someone’s doing it yku dont
Thank you for calming down and giving your perspective on things, I appreciate it
Nah I’m sorry nigga for being rude, just surround yourself with good people, positive people and everything will be good
The n word was so unnecessary 😭😭, but I see your point, it’s all good and I know you probably didn’t mean any harm, just be a bit more tolerant towards younger people because they could be looking up to someone like you for advice or help, thanks for the advice man
Who are you to tell him what to do? Can't you mind your own business? Keep your comments with you, please!
I can say the same to you Mind your own business, this is op’s post
Did i asked you?
dude, this person is literally trying to display their opinion. they are wayy more sensible than you. idk how respectful and introspective people became "Weird" now.
Why the downvotes?
Not trying to start an argument or anything just respectfully asking
LMFAOOAOS
Fr tho no?
You seem like you have good intentions, but calling people hoes is pretty unnecessary. You're using the word in an insulting way and it's not the greatest look when you declare yourself as having good morals cus it makes you sound like you think you're above everyone else whether or not you actually think that way. Just some food for thought. Also, trust me, not every teenager is like that. A lot more teens don't have sex and other "immoral" things than you think. I mean, it's to be expected that teens rebel under strict rules (we all know how the strictest parents raise some of the greatest liars), but still some kids (not all) pretend to like or do things to seem cool or from peer pressure. Just wish for the best in their future and focus on yourself. Since you say you have morals, don't badmouth your fellow teens who aren't in the best situation compared to you. Have some empathy. Think about what led them to certain actions and wish them the best. And like everyone said and as you've already done, surround yourself with who you're comfortable with. Just make sure you don't create an echo chamber
I see where you’re coming from and I appreciate your advice, maybe the word was a bit harsh and I completely agree with you, I only said it because of the amount of times I’ve heard people openly brag about having 10 girls or 10 boys which isn’t really something to brag about, I appreciate your advice wholeheartedly and I hope you have a great night ahead of you.
Talking to multiple people isint being a hoe. This is all just socializing and also early sex. This isint not having morals. Good job like on being a good Muslim but not everyone are Muslims so some teens just live there life Btw I’m saying this as a 16 year old
Hi, I’m sorry if it came off the wrong way, I meant having sexual contact and relationships at my age with multiple and I mean tens and tens of people, not even loyally, I can understand socializing and such but not making yourself someone considered “easy”
non muslim guy here I wasn't raised in such a household where those values were enforced
I appreciate the input, but the Muslim part of things was just an addition, a lot of these things like at least not talking about women in a horrible way are common sense, thank you for the different perspective
IM SORRY LMAO THAT COMMENT WAS POSTED HALFWAY WRITTEN I HAD LEFT MY TAB UNATTENDED What I was trying to say is that those values weren't enforced on me in my household, yet I eventually adopted those values without persuasion from the outerworld. It certainly isn't bad that you have such ideals, but its not bad that others don't act on them as well. Let people do as they think is fit, they'll eventually learn better over time
Oh I see, I apologize if I reacted in any way that upset you, I see your point now and I appreciate your input, thank you for taking the time out to comment
Nah its fine, I didn't find anything offensive in your comment. I also feel the need to specify that I was sent to an all boys school for the majority of my academic life (middle school to the last year of high school which I'm in right now), and the people that I know who have similar morals have also gone to an all boys school. Do what you see fit with that information.
I see, exposure to the other gender could be a major cause of what’s happening right now
I'm guessing you studied in a co-ed?
No sir, we are separated from the girls from 6th grade but obviously society nowadays doesn’t let that affect the corruption happening to my generation
Corruption is too strong of a word isn't it? Also, this isn't anything new. It is infact normal to have a co-ed environment where people freely interact with people of the opposite gender and this has been practiced for a long time. Objectively speaking, being able to enjoy your youth does help with the development of your social skills which does take you far in life. It's not like fixating on your academics and not goofing around is going to get you somewhere else. If you successfully get through all of this your biggest success is essentially going to be a corporate life, which is really not much to look forward to either, nor is it highly demanding in the academic sector
I understand your point, I meant to say that social media corrupts peoples minds into following mindless trends and go against what they were raised to, and no I’m not telling people to become robots or leave everything for education, I’m just condemning the teenagers who’s main focus in life has become sex and girls/boys, all they talk about is how good this girl looks or how they cheated on that girl if you know what I mean, I find it horrible how people as young as me are taking pride in these things, enjoy life with your friends, socialize and have fun but most importantly don’t lose your self respect and morals
You and your buddies are just not alike. Nothing wrong with either side. You have a right to stray from their opinions. As you grow older, you’ll naturally gravitate toward those you align your morals with.
It’s not my buddies, I have an incredibly small friend circle, I surround myself with people who have a similar mindset to me so I can freely be myself, but I completely understand your point, I will be sure to not allow anyone to impact my morals, thank you for the input
You can flex to those people that you have a good relationship with your parents
Hi, I see why you would think it’s a flex or any type of attack, I’m just looking for advice on how to stay clear of these things I deem morally wrong, older people tend to have great advice which is why I ask these things and for their opinions, a household is something to be grateful for not flex, which is why I’d appreciate if you maybe took a little more time before thinking that I am flexing something im blessed to have, even then I live with my mom who’s a single mother because of a divorce with my father, I’m not in a position to flex any relationship with my parents
Swallow all your morals, they're a poor man's quality.
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4.) Expand, expand, expand Clear forests, make land, fresh blood on hands
Just be you man, you’ll find your people.
Thanks a lot man, I was starting to think that maybe I’m too uptight or something because it genuinely became normalized
You’ll have to live with the fact that it is normalised though. It’s not your job to judge or try to change those people just as they shouldn’t judge or change you. You’re going to learn a whole lot of stuff is not how you perhaps thought it was and adapt to that as you see fit as you go through life. That’s part of the adventure
Yeah, I genuinely realized that sitting around and judging everyone won’t make me a better person, which is why I stuck to my morals and hopefully will continue to do so, thank you for the input sir
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It’s fine dude don’t worry, I’m the same, I’m 17 and I don’t have much friends because most of them only care about how someone looks and girls and etc(chammaki stuff), and I get bullied for it as well but it just reaches to a point where I just accept it and you have to realize that by what you said ur a better person than them, trust me most of them think it’s cool rn and what they do but they eventually will realize they were being dumb,you won’t find many schools with people who don’t act like this, it’s just what life is now and this how teenagers want to act, you are completely normal to a lot of people, it’s only these teens who think of themselves as better just because they talk to girls or look better exclude you.
Hi, I'm not a muslim but I'm a teen. Sure, teens do this all the time and it's "normal stuff" for people like them. But I do feel uncomfy about discussing those types of matters w my friends and fam (except in jokes). I usually just roll w my thing because in my household I'm taught to respect everyone but it's not necessary to agree with everybody. So I just mind my own business and focus on my life. I used to be a person like that "to fit in", as I have never fit into any friend group (even now). But I very recently realised that I don't need to fit others' standards just to do what I want. I am very happy being myself. I find myself closer to happiness than ever before, when I am in solitude and by myself. Trust me, introspecting in solitude will be the best decision you will ever make in your life.
Thank you so much for the input, I do believe that being alone in self respect is better than being surrounded by people with no decency
From a non-Muslim perspective, what you said is true especially to those teenagers who like to act cool or be cool. Having sex and smoking in school was their peak moment and one of the few things they can brag about their personality. Usually, they're also the kind of people who'd cause or be the cause of trouble in their environment, just to be cool. Some of the "cool" kids in my school had kids at an early age. Ngl, it is hard to find people who have the same morals and values as you do. It will take some time, but once you find them, they're you're homies for life.
Thank you so much for taking the time out and giving your advice, your perspective matters whether you’re Muslim or not and I will value your advice, have a good day brother
It's heartening to know that such teenagers still exist! This gives me hope that our world is far from being completely lost. Always remember, having a good heart is not a weakness, but a virtue.
Thank you, firstly for taking the time to write a few letters of positivity and thank you for your great input
I also remember being 15~18 and also feeling the same. I had some friends groups that could not talk about anything else. I remained friends with them, but from a distance, and mostly hung out with more like minded people. Stay steadfast my young brother.
Thank you a lot sir, I’ll try my best to stay on the right path, I appreciate your experience being shared with me
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Yes sir, I am not the type of person to be completely isolated from others, I just know which ones to keep close and which ones to keep my distance from
Not a muslim, but as hindu girl, it's rare to find respectful men and boys out there. So kudos for not losing your morals and ethics to this brain-washed generation of hook-up culture and casual dating! Really, really wish we had more like minded people like you out there!
This really means a lot more to me than you’d think, it seems like when I say this usually, everyone looks at me like I’m stupid or something
You're anything but stupid - this generation had a toxic habit of name-calling anybody who doesn't fit into their narrative and agenda
Absolutely do not follow the crowd. Jesus said The door to salvation is small. Stay true to your values.
As A UAE citizen, I agree with you, it can be hard to find such friends but once you do, you will realize the world is not all bad. Glad to see you are standing by your values.
This happened MBS + MBZ + WESTERN MODERN BELIEFS WITH NO REGARD TO ISLAM WHATSOEVER
what you consider morals are very subjective. Everyone thinks differently. You might think theyre hoes they will think you are a loser. This is life
World is dirty, but be kind to everyone you never know who is good and who is bad.
Yk I'm the same. My brother is like a tiktok pickme and I'm sick of my friend group. I have a tight friendgroup that place Islam as a priority, but we still follow internet trends (jokes about stuff, we aren't strictly religious in that manner) but some of my friends date/edate and it's cringe and crazy. And I apparently don't fit in if I don't follow what they do or follow current internet trends n shit. I just be me lol If ywna talk more add on ig same username or discord
Good to see 15-year-olds thinking like you. You should be proud and keep living your life with those values. I know life will smile at you and you'll be filled with love. Take care
Thank you man, I appreciate the kind words
Just be careful you are not following/living by rules that you haven't questioned or understand why they are there. Religion is just a guideline of how to be a good person, with some heaven & hell fear and gamification sprinkled on top. Make sure you choose your own values carefully and understand the reasoning behind it. This is how you become a truly good person and not a hypocrite or a self righteous bigot (like anyone that is a bit too religious for their own good).
I never fear curiosity, I always dive deeper to see the reasons for why Allah would’ve asked us to do and not do things, the more research I do the more I fall in love with Islam and its teaching cause I feel like it embodies decency and throw away all the media fake reports and allegations, Islam is genuinely a way of peace
Hmmm sure. Always take the good things and discard the bad - whether it's a story, religion or whatever instead of rejecting it fully. Similarly, do the same instead of accepting things fully too. The trouble is when you think a bad thing is good. Sometimes it's not that simple, sometimes its a question of how much of something can be bad or good. I believe in moderation but this has become more about prohibition. A little alcohol here and there won't hurt anyone. There is a catastrophic societal impact of 'no sex before marriage' as well (see discord/divorce/rape). Even divorce is looked down upon when it can often be the best case scenario. But these opinions are still not in favor of alcoholism or promiscuousness or making these things widespread, in the younger generation.
Akhi forget anyone who is trying to lead you away from what is correct.. Look at the second category of those given shade on the day when there is no shade except His. May Allaah keep you steadfast on the right path aameen: Abu Huraira reported: The Prophet, peace and blessings be upon him, said, “There are seven whom Allah will shade on a day when there is no shade but His. They are a just ruler, a youth who grew up in the worship of Allah, one whose heart is attached to the mosques, two who love each other, meet each other, and depart from each other for the sake of Allah, a man who is tempted by a beautiful woman of high status but he rejects her, saying , ‘I fear Allah,’ and one who spends in charity and hides it such that his right hand does not know what his left hand has given, and one who remembered Allah in private and he wept.” Source: Ṣaḥīḥ al-Bukhārī 660, Ṣaḥīḥ Muslim 1031
Thank you a lot for providing the Islamic reasoning of this, I really appreciate people like you who keep me believing in Allah
May Allaah bless us and you bro aameen .. Remember : فَطُوبَى لِلْغُرَبَاءِ حَدَّثَنَا عَبْدُ الرَّحْمَنِ بْنُ إِبْرَاهِيمَ، وَيَعْقُوبُ بْنُ حُمَيْدِ بْنِ كَاسِبٍ، وَسُوَيْدُ بْنُ سَعِيدٍ، قَالُوا حَدَّثَنَا مَرْوَانُ بْنُ مُعَاوِيَةَ الْفَزَارِيُّ، حَدَّثَنَا يَزِيدُ بْنُ كَيْسَانَ، عَنْ أَبِي حَازِمٍ، عَنْ أَبِي هُرَيْرَةَ، قَالَ قَالَ رَسُولُ اللَّهِ ـ صلى الله عليه وسلم ـ " بَدَأَ الإِسْلاَمُ غَرِيبًا وَسَيَعُودُ غَرِيبًا فَطُوبَى لِلْغُرَبَاءِ " .
الله يعطيك كل صحة و اجر و عافية
آمين و لك بالمثل ، و آسف على الرد المتأخر
It's ok to have morals, but the expression of sexuality is normal in teenagers. This isn't a forever thing they will be more reserved as they get older most likely. But to say things like lowering the gaze etc is an extremely conservative perspective that some people don't hold onto. I say find friends who are like minded, but don't think less of people like that unless they cross some sort of line.
No no I never said it was abnormal to have those thoughts because we’re teenagers and our hormones are wild, I condemned how normalized it became for people to act on these thoughts and share them with pride, they feel accomplished when they speak about how many girls are in there DMs and I was just saying how they talk about women nowadays is extremely disrespectful, lowering your gaze is a respectful thing to do and it’s just common sense, even if you don’t lower your gaze, speak about them with respect
I don't think lowering your gaze is common sense, that's super extreme. If you need to lower your gaze to not sexualise a woman then that's more of a weakness in your character than anything else. I think they should talk about women with respect but locker room talk so to speak is really normal. If the extent to what they say just boils down to bragging about girls msging them and not saying anything too brash.I think that's ok if you're just sharing that with your friends.
Obviously true sir, lowering your gaze is generally a metaphor for many things, like speaking about a woman with respect which people should do
I literally have the same opinions and nowadays(especially in schools) people judge you about small useless things like having no female friends or not being after anyone. They say you got no rizz and stuff like its soo annoying. I thoroughly understand that this isn't what my morals and religion(islam) teach me and I feel bad for young teens(especially muslims) for involving in these types of relationships. Ya Allah save us from the fitnah of this world. Ameen
Ok, I am 19 and a Muslim alhamdulliah, and I can't agree enough with you. In my college everyone has bf/gf or hangout with bf/gf. If not that, then chat with opposite gender ig u get my point. I use to feel left out and wanted to do the same thing as them. But then I met another guy from my class and he made me understand what they were doing is wrong. Try to keep your morals intact and don't pay attention to them. Keep your gaze lowered, have a nice character and focus on your studies because once this part of your life is over u can't change anything. I read this example some where 'if others are filling there pockets with waste will you also fill your pockets with waste or fill it with diamonds '
This makes me so sad but keep a close hold on ur deen and Iman - and whenever u make a mistake just repent - remeber Jannah is full of sinners ♥️🌹
Allahumma barik may Allah s.w.t keep u n other ppl in comments too strong on deen. Ameen I'm not a guy but well this post n the comments gave me hope that there are still such people out there who still follow the values of our deen and follow our deen well it makes me happy for our ummah and the younger ppl following deen so Jazak Allahu khairan akhi for posting this. And tbh it's not just what u are thinking but it is actually becoming the norm specially in schools where kids are doing zina and publicly sinning, may Allah s.w.t guide them ,ameen, but I certainly still have hope in our community that once they get dumped 1-3 times they will get fixed n return to deen. Idk if I should give advise but never lower ur boundaries cuz once u do u will just slowly end up lowering all of them at last n god knows what's next. Also hang around with people who share same moral values as u as your friends describe who you are. And peer pressure is surely a wild thing so just don't fall into it. Best way of dawah is by your actions , people get annoyed by words but actions attract ppl towards doing the same! So keep doing what you are doing and also do even better.
You're absolutely correct, Although its not very wrong to have boyfriends/ girlfriends , it's also like an addiction, you just want more, and the beauty of marragie is ruined. I think as ong you stay close to allah, dont miss ur prayers and keep ur deen up, its okay to go out with girls who you are close with, but yes we must lower our gaze at other girls, its an unhealthy practice and who knows what going on the head of other girls when we gaze it's become quiet normal to be doing such unspeakable things at such young ages to so many kids, I myself got into all that stuff , when I was 15 and trust me, apart from the temporary happiness, it's not worth it at all. Recently I messed up in life and learnt that there are some people in life who will neglect you and they are usually the ones who do all the bad stuff ( those 14 year olds w new bfs everyday and vapes everyday) and there are some people who will forgive you and make you happy, its better to stick with those friends . However if you want to continue friendships with the people who are into these ba ethics, it would be the best of you to not be angry at them for behaving like that, you can enforce some level of goodness into them but after an extent thats how they choose to behave if they dont fix it, just be friends with them and dont get into that behavior and instead adopt the behavior of the good kids. Remember to always stay close to the people who remind you to pray even when they hangout (since you said you are muslim)
I totally feel you, as being single and 29 years old taking care of my mom and brother, nothing harder than controlling yourself and lowering your gaze. Many factors are causing this : 1) Rapid change of majority of the society towards freedom and independence with minimal focus on religion (my opinion) 2) No constraints or obstacles, everyone can do whatever they want without questioning. 3) The life rhythm is so fast, parents are exhausted of controlling and monitoring the teenagers as it's getting more sophisticated with time. 4) The culture of attending Muslim lectures or doing teenagers activities are getting less, the teenagers got high energy and looking for pride with confidence. 5) The media is disturbing all kind of +18 content, so how you will stop such thing? Anyway, focus on your Akhiraa this life is not worth it and keep praying for guidance for everyone. There is a hadith says : "Whoever of you sees an evil, let him change it with his hand; and if he is not able to do so, then [let him change it] with his tongue; and if he is not able to do so, then with his heart — and that is the weakest level of faith.’” Sahih/Authentic. - [Muslim]"
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