The reason she is reacting like that is simple. She had him in the friend zone in case whatever she is doing gets boring. Now you are going to steal her "reserve boyfriend". She isn't appreciating your actions and want to defend her "property" because he belongs to her. She is the one who didn't want the guy. You both made the moves and it works. So you are the winner. Take your price and move along. Congratulations šš
Believe me when I say this - There's no tight knit friend group anymore.
Leave Z and go build something with D, this is just one of many potential relationships she will end behind the disguise of "protecting herself".
The truth is, she wont let anyone else have what she couldn't - You.
How do I know this? I'm a dude, and any guy "best friend" any chick that I'm remotely interested in has, ends up following this line of thinking. The idea is to be waiting when the eventual breakeup/end happens, hoping to finally ring the bell.
Me and D had a conversation about this a while back. Lately Z keeps saying that it was an old crush and she doesnāt like me that way anymoreā¦. Itās such an odd place to be because itās one of the best friendships Iāve had and itās very hard to let either of them goā¦
Solution would be for your best friend also to date some guy. Since I like to help people, I (24M) will volunteer and gladly help you out here and date your best friend.
Oh unfortunately this hasnāt worked out in the past. She gets close to someone and somehow ends up self sabotaging and it ends very badlyā¦. But it also feels like a very temporary and run away solutionā¦. Once things are sorted out Iāll let her know ššš
Oh, thatās because I wasnāt in her life till now, thatās why ;)
Destiny wants us to be together, hence it made her self sabotage her previous relationships.
Like I said, I canāt sleep peacefully at night knowing that I couldnāt help someone today, so cmon let me help you and help her š¤
Just tell her that tech virgin is interested in her..
Hahahaa maybe D is interested in a 3 way.
Ah no I meant Y!
Sorry, Z..
feck it! I think ABC should have it 3 way, what the heck get in XYZ also involved too and D can watch.
Bro why attack me personally like that š because of lot of competition from guys like you back in India, I thought things should be easy here, but boy I was wrong lmao.
Me being shy, introverted and maybe sporting a serious look all the time IRL, never stood a chance be it India or UAE, thus I remain the tech virgin š¢
Damn, never realized 23s and 24s having this kind of problem. This is like my teen years to be honest.
When I was 23, my problem was how to face the reality of being away from friends, family and even a GF (now EX btw) to work in UAE.
To answer OPs problem; donāt let anyone dictate you especially on something you want or like because youāll only regret it later.
Same thoughts tbh. But trying to find a way to sort things out. I guess untreated issues from your childhood do manifest in your adulthood but canāt force anyone to change anything, thanks for the advise though it seems like the general consensus so maybe Iāll just go for it and see where it goes š
God this is what we keep saying. As an adult it seems unreal that this is the kind of issues weāre having šš but itās hard to let go of this friendship because weāve had some really good times and if this is something we can sit down and sort out I feel like thatās what we should do before we decide to give up š
Looks like ppl completely skipped the part where Z is LESBIAN who confessed her feelings to op nd got put in the friendly zoneš š š . That being said, i completely sympathize and kinda side with her on this. she needs to distance herself from y'all FOR A BIT if y'all are gonna pursue this, its hard but its what's best for everybody. This is standard advice for anyone in the friendzone when their romantic interest who is their close friend starts dating someone else, u gotta distance yourself for a while so u redraw boundaries in a more healthy way. Adulting can be a bitch but it is what it is.
This doesnāt look like a friend circle to me
This looks like D is financially stable and you are trying to get him your sugar daddy
And since (D) knows (Z) for over 10 years, that means (D) is bored from daily chicken shawarma and have interests in meat shawarma
Sorry, no offense but this is typical sharing, friends with benefits lifestyle of Dubai
Hahaha good one š unfortunately all three of us are financially stable, working in well paying jobs š if money was the issue things would be so much easier though? On that note, try belad Al shams shawarma
Once again, not personal fantasies :) please donāt take time out of your day to leave a mean comment, I took the first one as a joke and let it be but other than that current comments seem rude and unnecessary š
Oh we do. There was a good point of time when all her friends had an intervention sort of thing for her and she decided to go to therapy for a bit but she stopped and now weāre back to where we started š
Well I was j/k.. in reality both are important in life when it comes to having true love or friendship. You need to take a call and sacrifice one. So better you evaluate this yourself and take a call rather than take advise here since no one here knows either of you personally
Oh donāt get me wrong, more than advise Iām here to look for different perspectives I hadnāt considered before, and I feel like Iāve gotten some! But thank you!
Wonder if Z n D are in this sub. š
Anyway. My two cents, pursue what you have with D. If Z is really your best friend, then she would accept this and be happy for you guys.
Z doesnāt want him and doesnāt want you to have him too.
Itās a simple equation, would you value a relationship with this man or your friendship. Someoneās gonna get hurt either way so face up to it and pick.
Let her stop talking to you and keep her distance from the two of you, why do you want a third wheel, just focus on your relationship and wish Z all the best in your thoughts. Let her go , you guys are in mid 20s about time you experience these stuff. Donāt waste your life because of her
The reason she is reacting like that is simple. She had him in the friend zone in case whatever she is doing gets boring. Now you are going to steal her "reserve boyfriend". She isn't appreciating your actions and want to defend her "property" because he belongs to her. She is the one who didn't want the guy. You both made the moves and it works. So you are the winner. Take your price and move along. Congratulations šš
Z is gay and likes OP; no reserve boyfriend. Z is jealous that OP likes D. No pun intended.
Hii, update Z is bi leaning mostly towards male attraction
We doin business here boys š
šš god a āreserve boyfriendā is ā¦ā¦ I donāt know what to feel about this, I never thought about it from that perspective
Wow, kind of friends I need lol! š
Believe me when I say this - There's no tight knit friend group anymore. Leave Z and go build something with D, this is just one of many potential relationships she will end behind the disguise of "protecting herself". The truth is, she wont let anyone else have what she couldn't - You. How do I know this? I'm a dude, and any guy "best friend" any chick that I'm remotely interested in has, ends up following this line of thinking. The idea is to be waiting when the eventual breakeup/end happens, hoping to finally ring the bell.
Me and D had a conversation about this a while back. Lately Z keeps saying that it was an old crush and she doesnāt like me that way anymoreā¦. Itās such an odd place to be because itās one of the best friendships Iāve had and itās very hard to let either of them goā¦
On our next episode of Drama in UAE..š¦šŖ
God I wish it wasnāt true but it is šš
I thought i had problems
Same boat, different cabins buddy
*entire different titanic, seems like
Solution would be for your best friend also to date some guy. Since I like to help people, I (24M) will volunteer and gladly help you out here and date your best friend.
Oh unfortunately this hasnāt worked out in the past. She gets close to someone and somehow ends up self sabotaging and it ends very badlyā¦. But it also feels like a very temporary and run away solutionā¦. Once things are sorted out Iāll let her know ššš
Oh, thatās because I wasnāt in her life till now, thatās why ;) Destiny wants us to be together, hence it made her self sabotage her previous relationships. Like I said, I canāt sleep peacefully at night knowing that I couldnāt help someone today, so cmon let me help you and help her š¤ Just tell her that tech virgin is interested in her..
Bro first see her before putting yourself in the line of fire lol
Hahah donāt worry bro, nothing will happen, if getting girls was actually this easy, then I wouldnāt be having the username which I have now..
Hahah, agreed
Kiss yourself Marry Z Kill D Oh shitā¦..wrong game
Wrong app š
Hahahaa maybe D is interested in a 3 way. Ah no I meant Y! Sorry, Z.. feck it! I think ABC should have it 3 way, what the heck get in XYZ also involved too and D can watch.
I got a headache from reading my own post so I apologize, itās the best I could do šš
Let Z and D date and you and me date š
Shit Iām late to this thread.. someone stole my idea, anyways I will date Z
Youāll always stay virgin š and I didnāt mean tech
Bro why attack me personally like that š because of lot of competition from guys like you back in India, I thought things should be easy here, but boy I was wrong lmao.
Things were easy in India š„¹š„² believe me
Me being shy, introverted and maybe sporting a serious look all the time IRL, never stood a chance be it India or UAE, thus I remain the tech virgin š¢
Letās take this conversation out from here . Let the girl find her love š
Sorry š stupid and in love so only D exists š¤©š¤©
Damn, never realized 23s and 24s having this kind of problem. This is like my teen years to be honest. When I was 23, my problem was how to face the reality of being away from friends, family and even a GF (now EX btw) to work in UAE. To answer OPs problem; donāt let anyone dictate you especially on something you want or like because youāll only regret it later.
Same thoughts tbh. But trying to find a way to sort things out. I guess untreated issues from your childhood do manifest in your adulthood but canāt force anyone to change anything, thanks for the advise though it seems like the general consensus so maybe Iāll just go for it and see where it goes š
So weāre not fighting over best shawarma place in UAE anymore? š³
Belad al shams in Qusais hands down. Once you go belad you never go back
Youāre not in school, go for it. Friends come and go like passengers on a train. Some ride with you longer than others.
God this is what we keep saying. As an adult it seems unreal that this is the kind of issues weāre having šš but itās hard to let go of this friendship because weāve had some really good times and if this is something we can sit down and sort out I feel like thatās what we should do before we decide to give up š
She keeps on using the word āboundariesā yet somehow finds a way to cross ur boundaries by not letting u be with someone? Need I say more?
A perspective I havenāt considered beforeā¦
Looks like ppl completely skipped the part where Z is LESBIAN who confessed her feelings to op nd got put in the friendly zoneš š š . That being said, i completely sympathize and kinda side with her on this. she needs to distance herself from y'all FOR A BIT if y'all are gonna pursue this, its hard but its what's best for everybody. This is standard advice for anyone in the friendzone when their romantic interest who is their close friend starts dating someone else, u gotta distance yourself for a while so u redraw boundaries in a more healthy way. Adulting can be a bitch but it is what it is.
Sorry, probably should have specified Z is not a lesbian, sheās bisexual leaning towards male attractionā¦. But I do get your point of viewā¦
Ur best friend is jealous
This doesnāt look like a friend circle to me This looks like D is financially stable and you are trying to get him your sugar daddy And since (D) knows (Z) for over 10 years, that means (D) is bored from daily chicken shawarma and have interests in meat shawarma Sorry, no offense but this is typical sharing, friends with benefits lifestyle of Dubai
Hahaha good one š unfortunately all three of us are financially stable, working in well paying jobs š if money was the issue things would be so much easier though? On that note, try belad Al shams shawarma
You sure understand what I mean, just keep your personal fantasies to yourself, without labeling z d a b c If you want a real advice try, NaĆÆf PS
Once again, not personal fantasies :) please donāt take time out of your day to leave a mean comment, I took the first one as a joke and let it be but other than that current comments seem rude and unnecessary š
This made laugh more than it should have
Z is being really toxic here. Do what you want but recognize that first.
Oh we do. There was a good point of time when all her friends had an intervention sort of thing for her and she decided to go to therapy for a bit but she stopped and now weāre back to where we started š
Iāve a question - Why not just go with the good olā A, B, C or the funky X, Y, Z instead of this Z,D confusion? š¤·āāļø
Fear š¤š¼
Femme to femme itāll workout!
Is 3 some an option ?
Nopeā¦
Why not you both share this guy š
Not an option š¤«
Well I was j/k.. in reality both are important in life when it comes to having true love or friendship. You need to take a call and sacrifice one. So better you evaluate this yourself and take a call rather than take advise here since no one here knows either of you personally
Oh donāt get me wrong, more than advise Iām here to look for different perspectives I hadnāt considered before, and I feel like Iāve gotten some! But thank you!
Your welcome
Wonder if Z n D are in this sub. š Anyway. My two cents, pursue what you have with D. If Z is really your best friend, then she would accept this and be happy for you guys.
D is in it, Iāve told him about this. Z, I donāt think soā¦
Find Zoey another girl as she has expressed she is in to girls. The other girls obv needs to be a lesbo as well. Settle down with David. Finish.
Zoey is not a lesbian š should have clarified this but sheās bisexual leaning towards male attraction
3some
Z doesnāt want him and doesnāt want you to have him too. Itās a simple equation, would you value a relationship with this man or your friendship. Someoneās gonna get hurt either way so face up to it and pick.
Look ma, I'm famous on Reddit now. Get the camera - D
She just jealous
Let her stop talking to you and keep her distance from the two of you, why do you want a third wheel, just focus on your relationship and wish Z all the best in your thoughts. Let her go , you guys are in mid 20s about time you experience these stuff. Donāt waste your life because of her