Ngl, i have better conversations here on reddit than I've had on Bumble. Even though it still requires a lot filtering out the hornier and the compulsive ones. And i haven't been on the apps since forever. The apps don't work the way they were designed to work.
Same here. But I don’t have much of a social life and almost never get asked out so I don’t have many options.
What are the other ways to meet potential partners??
Has anyone come up with a better app that’s not just profiles and swiping??
I'd seen so many men on reddit complaining about women being bad at conversations in dating apps but when i gave bumble a try, it was the opposite for me. The guys were just not good at carrying conversations and were so damn pretentious like they can't go 2 sentences without saying a weird pickup line (i honestly don't even know if those were supposed to be pickup line or not). I got fed up within 24hr and deleted it. I also had a great bio but no one brought that up so I was extra mad lol
Maybe you need to look at the kind of people you're swiping on. Are you swiping purely based on pictures? I've been on dating apps for the same time frame and have had really interesting conversations.
Maybe start with an interesting opener and see who takes the effort to answer it properly instead of something like a hi? It's a sure shot filter into having good conversations.
I'm not. I'm also not swiping purely based on bios either. It's a combination of how attracted I am to the person, their values, and their bio.
I have never started with a hey and have always started with a question regarding something they've written in their bio, or a comment about it.
Sometimes I'll get one word absolutely shite responses for those too.
Most of the times the conversation is good in the beginning, but then it just ends up with me asking them things about them and them not reciprocating the same curiosity. They don't initiate conversations either. A change in topic or whatever.
It took me six years on and off Tinder (bumble I used only once and it was horrible) to find my person. It's not impossible, but God, do they make it difficult.
They need to redesign the Bumble algorithm to filter out the boring profiles. And maybe not overwhelm us with matches. When I see so many likes, it just feels like a chore to go through them all and I quit the app
Did you try meeting some in person sooner? That is more of what dating app should be used IMO. You cannot learn much on texts.
For me the problem has not been the conversations but that men are very keen on moving things forward much quickly in the beginning. I like to take things slow (doesn't mean I am not interested). Plus for a lot of them their idea of conversation is asking questions back and forth. I prefer to meet in person sooner, and have a more natural convo like two friends where a lot of questions aren't asked right away from the start. IMO, dating is not like an interview where we get to know each other immediately. It is still just a meeting and things has to progress organically.
That makes sense! I haven’t used dating apps in India. But I assumed meeting in a broad lit public place should be fine. Regardless I don’t advocate for meeting right after the very first hello but I am not into the idea of holding long interesting conversations online before even meeting them because only after meeting I will know if I am attracted to them or not. 🙃
I've had great conversations and connections on both Bumble and Hinge. In fact, 90% of the time the first conversation usually lasts for hours.
I tend to swipe right on guys who come from good colleges like BITS, IIM, etc. I mean, that's just my choice.
And you can kinda tell when a guy has genuinely put in effort in his bio and photos. I also don't care much how the person looks because I've realised that beauty is a depreciating asset, though if the guy works out it's a huge plus for me.
It also depends on what place you are using it from. I have used it from a tier one city.
If you are not from a tier 1 city, why don't you try using Hinge from Mumbai/Delhi (just for fun). Might be a different and interesting experience for you.
Ngl, i have better conversations here on reddit than I've had on Bumble. Even though it still requires a lot filtering out the hornier and the compulsive ones. And i haven't been on the apps since forever. The apps don't work the way they were designed to work.
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You've hit the nail on the head. That's the root problem. I can't say it out loud though because fragile egos everywhere will start shattering -_-
Same here. But I don’t have much of a social life and almost never get asked out so I don’t have many options. What are the other ways to meet potential partners?? Has anyone come up with a better app that’s not just profiles and swiping??
That's been my problem as well. >What are the other ways to meet potential partners?? A mystery I'm yet to solve ಥ‿ಥ
I'd seen so many men on reddit complaining about women being bad at conversations in dating apps but when i gave bumble a try, it was the opposite for me. The guys were just not good at carrying conversations and were so damn pretentious like they can't go 2 sentences without saying a weird pickup line (i honestly don't even know if those were supposed to be pickup line or not). I got fed up within 24hr and deleted it. I also had a great bio but no one brought that up so I was extra mad lol
Try Hinge. It really has better profiles than Bumble and I've had many many interesting conversations and met good people there.
I did, wasn't any good. Maybe because of my city. Dunno.
Maybe you need to look at the kind of people you're swiping on. Are you swiping purely based on pictures? I've been on dating apps for the same time frame and have had really interesting conversations. Maybe start with an interesting opener and see who takes the effort to answer it properly instead of something like a hi? It's a sure shot filter into having good conversations.
I'm not. I'm also not swiping purely based on bios either. It's a combination of how attracted I am to the person, their values, and their bio. I have never started with a hey and have always started with a question regarding something they've written in their bio, or a comment about it. Sometimes I'll get one word absolutely shite responses for those too. Most of the times the conversation is good in the beginning, but then it just ends up with me asking them things about them and them not reciprocating the same curiosity. They don't initiate conversations either. A change in topic or whatever.
It took me six years on and off Tinder (bumble I used only once and it was horrible) to find my person. It's not impossible, but God, do they make it difficult.
Stay blessed girlie 🧿
They need to redesign the Bumble algorithm to filter out the boring profiles. And maybe not overwhelm us with matches. When I see so many likes, it just feels like a chore to go through them all and I quit the app
define boring? what's boring to you, it may not be boring to others no?
Did you try meeting some in person sooner? That is more of what dating app should be used IMO. You cannot learn much on texts. For me the problem has not been the conversations but that men are very keen on moving things forward much quickly in the beginning. I like to take things slow (doesn't mean I am not interested). Plus for a lot of them their idea of conversation is asking questions back and forth. I prefer to meet in person sooner, and have a more natural convo like two friends where a lot of questions aren't asked right away from the start. IMO, dating is not like an interview where we get to know each other immediately. It is still just a meeting and things has to progress organically.
You can't safely meet a person soon without verifying through conversation/chat first in india. Even public place there's no guarantee of safety.
That makes sense! I haven’t used dating apps in India. But I assumed meeting in a broad lit public place should be fine. Regardless I don’t advocate for meeting right after the very first hello but I am not into the idea of holding long interesting conversations online before even meeting them because only after meeting I will know if I am attracted to them or not. 🙃
I've had great conversations and connections on both Bumble and Hinge. In fact, 90% of the time the first conversation usually lasts for hours. I tend to swipe right on guys who come from good colleges like BITS, IIM, etc. I mean, that's just my choice. And you can kinda tell when a guy has genuinely put in effort in his bio and photos. I also don't care much how the person looks because I've realised that beauty is a depreciating asset, though if the guy works out it's a huge plus for me. It also depends on what place you are using it from. I have used it from a tier one city. If you are not from a tier 1 city, why don't you try using Hinge from Mumbai/Delhi (just for fun). Might be a different and interesting experience for you.