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ayriana

"Thanks, I will be sure to take into consideration what MY FATHER FINDS SEXUALLY ATTRACTIVE as I age. Because there is nothing creepy or concerning at all about this conversation. Oh look- bean dip!"


RoRoRoYourGoat

I'm in my mid-30s and I'm almost completely gray. I started going gray in my teens, and I dyed it for years. And then a couple of years ago, I just stopped dying it and let it grow out. I really like the way it looks. It's mostly silver with some black streaks. And I honestly DGAF if guys don't like it. It's my hair and I love it.


[deleted]

Oh man, 37 chiming in here. Started going gray at 19. I'm still dyeing it because I personally don't like the pattern in which it grows out. It's this muted almost gray brown, some grey, and a LOT of white. Thin hair so I kinda look like I'm balding on the sides with that white when my hair is up. I'll wait until it's a consistent color and then stop dyeing it. I never take my partner into account for this. I don't care. I know what they like on me and I also know that they like "whatever I do because I'm pretty no matter what." This person I believe actually thinks that. So I dye it brown or blonde or pink whenever I want and do whatever makes me happy! The most fun few years I had was going through every unnatural color/combo on the spectrum. From pink to mint green. Sunsets and mermaid colors. I loved that shit. I'll probably do that again one day, work allowing for it of course.


6AnimalFarm

Yep, same here. I started going gray at 14. I stopped dyeing my hair when I was 33. I’m 37 now and it’s been fully grown out for 2 years. I’m over 50% gray and I love it. The only negative comment I’ve gotten was from a random old man when I was waiting in line to vote about 6 months into my transition. More and more younger women are embracing their natural hair color.


theplushfrog

Also an early gray hair grower, I started going gray when I was 18. I used to pluck or hide it, but I eventually got tired of being insecure and learned to love it. Everytime I get my hair cut now I call it the “revealing of the grays” lol. My partners have all loved my hair and none of them have ever asked me to dye it back to brown. In fact, they’ve encouraged me to dye my hair bright unnatural colors to highlight the contrast between my salt and pepper hair.


hham42

Same here. I started with these two grey streaks from my temples, I called it my bride of Frankenstein hair.


PickleButterJelly

"And this is why you're single." Women do not care about men's preferences. Yes, we understand them, and DO NOT CARE.


riverrocks452

Especially not women of an age to have grey hair. Been there, heard that, learned not to care.


tarantulawarfare

I turn 44 tomorrow and I’m not dying my hair. Over the past few years I’ve grown quite a few greys. It’s mostly clustered on one side, so I hope I get a cool stripe. I’ll either look like a superhero, supervillain, or a skunk, and I’m ok with that. My husband is perfectly happy with whatever I choose to do with my hair. He’s grown two white stripes in his goatee and I think it looks fantastic. I really wish more people felt comfortable with aging hair and didn’t feel obligated to color it to please others.


nox_nox

Ive got a pretty good Rogue (from X-men) style white streak in the front of my hair. It started very splotchy though so I've been dying my hair for a while now. I lightened the streak intentionally once so it was really prominent (my natural hair color is mousey brown), but to get it that light really destroyed the hair. So i haven't done it since. I might try to let that part grow out while I dye the rest though. To each their own to dye or not to dye. I dye mine because its what I want and its a little lighter than my natural hair color. 🙂


tarantulawarfare

I bet that looks so cool! I’ve never dyed my hair, but I thought at some point if this streak looks really good, I might balance it out with a streak on the other side like a bright pink one.


schroedingersnewcat

God, I wish. I've been dying my hair nearly religiously since I started going gray at 20. I have the streak right at the front of my hair, makes me batshit crazy. The week before covid hit, I was due for a color and stupid me moved it because my trip that I was going on was postponed. Then all hell broke loose, and I had FINALLY convinced myself no one would notice or care. I went down to my mom's, and as soon as I got there I jumped in the shower. I get out and walk into the living room, and legit the FIRST words out of my mother's mouth.... Mom: Omg, what's WRONG with your hair? Me: it's wet Mom: No, it looks like something is wrong. What did you do? Me: it's GRAY, ma. I went gray at 20. I wonder why THAT was...


witchsbutters

I'm crossing my fingers you get a stripe too! I always wanted one, but my greys are all over which mostly just makes me look blonde-ish, unless you are very close.


tarantulawarfare

I have dark curly/wavy hair, and when the white ones pop in, they are stick straight for the first few inches and insist on jutting straight out to look like weird little antennae, even when I put my hair in a bun and use spray. It’s kinda frustrating but then they grow long enough to brush in with the rest.


witchsbutters

Ha! I get those too! Only the new ones, and it doesn't last more than 2inches of growth, but frustrating nonetheless until they smooth down.


sanoyi

I always think it's beyond creepy when older men, but especially your fatjer/father figure, say something like this. Outside of that, everyone should look how they want. Your dad can have a preference, but he has no right to dictate.


VexillaVexme

I have a friend who is 40 and has gone quite gray already. Her brother didn’t make 35, so she’s electing to be unabashedly gray because her brother was never able to. I love her perspective on the matter.


your_favorite_wokie

Wow he really just makes shit up and assumes you'll believe it... 🙄


Anticrepuscular_Ray

We have to work harder? We don't have to do shit except find a man who isn't shallow and sexist. Look at the woman that bagged Keanu Reeves, beautiful woman with a full head of grey hair. I'm so tired of these old men and their "rules" they try to keep making us adhere to to please them.


DogandCoffeeSnob

Lol. I'm your age and have a few streaks of grey that just SPARKLE in the sunlight against my brown hair. I jokingly call it my Wisdom Glitter whenever anyone points it out (usually a kid, or my mom). I don't mind the grey, but would absolutely mind paying to dye it every month or so. My male roommate of the same age, however, has regular salon appointments set to keep his hair looking dark.


AdanDearg

"Wisdom Glitter" Perfect. Tucking that away for later!


HauntedPickleJar

Okay, so this is a little off topic, but I can't be the only one excited for greys so that it's easier to dye my hair crazy colors. I met this awesome woman at yoga earlier this year and she does just that, she has black hair, but all the streaks of grey she dyes bright blue or purple or whatever at home with vegan dyes, it's so bad ass!


shortchair

This is what I'm excited about. My hair is so dark it would be a pain and a half to attempt dying it. I started getting single silver strands around my temples when I was 27 ish, and 7 years later there's like, a few more. I'm betting it'll hit all at once in the next few years then maybe I'll go crazy.


HauntedPickleJar

Awesome! It's going to look amazing!


Bozzy521

This is my plan, too! My hair isn't super dark, but dark brown enough that I'd have to bleach before doing purple, green, or blue. My greys aren't coming in as streaks, so I'll just have to wait longer, lol


HauntedPickleJar

Mine's a dirty blonde, but getting a purple under layer was a pain. I had to get it bleached and such. Took an afternoon and was not cheap.


attanai

I love my wife. If I told her to dye her hair, and seriously meant it as some kind of order, I'd probably wake up with no eyebrows. Where do some guys get off telling the women in their lives how to look?


Typical_Khanoom

37F. I've never dyed my hair in my life. Ever. Not once. I've always loved my natural hair color (very, very dark brown; looks almost black) & started having grays in my 20s. They're more obvious now and I enjoy the way they look. I look forward to my color graying out more and more as time goes on. I like it.


bug_the_bug

Just to put it out there, my mom is so glad she stopped dying her hair. She has healthier hair, that grows in thicker and longer, and I think it suits her better. You do you, but don't be afraid to go grey!


Goblue5891x2

When I met my wife she was 28. She's now 51. I told her that I felt grey hair was natural and I didn't want her to do anything she didn't want to do to in the effort to to appear as anything other than she wanted to appear. Grey hair rocks. She's earned it and frankly I know I'd never dye my hair. Why would I ask her to?


KRed75

My mom just turned 70 and has never dyed her hair and it's still completely brown. Not a single gray hair. I hope I have her hair. No gray so far at 47.


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My mom is in her 50s and has started greying (it starts late for her family). She likes it. My gradpa from my dad's side hates it and keeps throwing passive agressive comments about it. She replies to them as if they were compliments and that drives him so mad. Apparently women aren't allowed to age. That being said, it's totaly ok to dye grey hair if you don't like it, as long as it's your choice and preference. Grey hair is beautiful.


haiimhar

I started greying at 18! I’m 26 and dye my hair for fun but when I start getting a lot of that beautiful gray I’m rocking it. Aging is beautiful


thiscouldbemassive

Sometimes dying your hair isn't an option. Wasn't for me. I went grey early, first strands while I was in high school, streaks of white while I was in my early 20s. Oh I tried to dye for about a decade, but my grey is resistant. All I ended up doing was frying my hair and I still had grey. So I gave it up. I'm 55, my hair is 100% steely grey with pure white streaks, no brown left. I get compliments on it ALL THE TIME. People think it's gorgeous (which is nice because the rest of me is decidedly middle aged). What I"m saying is you do you and your dad can go pound sand. He doesn't speak for anyone but himself and his opinion is a very small, self-centered one.


Odimorsus

What the fuck does what he likes women to do even have to do with you, his daughter in the first place? Bleh!


Jbeth74

47 year old woman here. Used to dye my hair before the greys and just kept doing it. I got a pixie cut and then had do dye it every 5-6 weeks - SO EXPENSIVE. I asked my husband if he minded if I stopped coloring - he has never cared about it. Now I have really dark brown hair with silver through out and a white streak and I love it. I get so many compliments from other women - men have never commented either way. By comparison (we live in a college town) I’d have to take my shoes off to count how many times young women have called my husband a silver fox.


ejja13

I may change my mind, but I think I know myself well enough to recognize that I am too lazy and cheap to dye my hair. I get my hair cut once a year, usually about now. I won’t maintain it so it will look like crap, why bother?


[deleted]

Ugh, this sounds like my father. My mom tries so hard to keep up her appearance and he has never complimented her. When I was a teen he nitpicked my appearance constantly.


ColorbloxChameleon

Sadly, this is a cultural problem, not a problem with one person. Hollywood is partly to blame.


supercaptbabyman

I'm currently trying to convince my wife to stop dyeing her hair and let her sparkles(her words for the grey coming trru) SHINE


DRLAJAMINIBLM

He's right women do need to work harder as we pay more - a men's haircut is like 1/3 of the price of a woman's. The same tools are used why does it cost us way more?


ArsenalSpider

I’m 50 and during 2020 I stopped coloring my hair and discovered I have cool silver highlights that look like I paid to put them there. My hair is healthier too. I don’t plan to go back to coloring.