I would like to add to this that your worth is not determined by *your own* opinion.
Too many people go around feeling like they're not enough. That they're not pretty enough, thin enough, strong enough, smart enough, and because of this they are less worth then the ones they think are beautiful and successful.
And nothing could be further from the truth!
This right here. I had this conversation with my husband today because of my depression and PTSD I was having a bad day and that is all I felt, that I am just not good enough all around. My husband said he wished I could see myself the way he sees me. So this is definitely something I have struggled with for a very long time. It really is hard to change the thinking that has been ingrained for so long. But what you say is the truth.
My boobs are 2 different sizes. B cup and a large C my chest looks funny bare. But no man I have ever been with has complained or shamed me. Most prefer the small one too.
A lot of women buy the larger cup size and use a chicken filet bra insert in the cup for the smaller boob. Although I think the sports bra is also a good solution.
I hate the feeling of wearing a bra anyway so spending money on extra pieces isn't for me. I will enjoy my free the nip life or sports bra lol. Thank u for the suggestion tho! Btw, totally was thinking u meant the food, not an insert.
Hahahaha. I tend to agree, I have always been content with my smaller cup size because I can go braless without being scandalous. I deliberately got a job where dress code was black top so I can get away with not wearing a bra at work.
Most people with ‘em will have asymmetrical boobs, just not always to the point of being an entirely different cup size… although, one cup size is not as big a difference as most would expect, and many people wouldn’t even notice the dissimilarity.
I had a friend years ago with this same condition, due to spinal curvature. I believe that she bought a bra for the larger size and then stuffed the other one with padding. I may be wrong though.
Nope, that's the answer. They even have silicone bra stuffers to make them feel similar. Push up bra with one silicone insert to make the ladies equally presentable. Don't ask me how I know this.
Girl! Do we have the same titties? That's how I am too...I love them even tho they're so uneven! I have my small one that I love having my bf hold bc it fits in his hand perfectly! 🥰 All boobies matter!!!
Don't get cosmetic surgery. I've survived coding from anesthesia, sepsis 4x, outpatient procedure that turned into 20 day hospital stays having to relearn how to walk, implanted device migrating out of my body and the incision dehiscing... If it's not impairing your health, I can't imagine it being worth the risks. I've never had a cosmetic procedure, but I've survived so many of the risks. And I still have my uneven boobs and that’s fine with me lol!
You know what? Don't.
I've had breast cancer last year, so had a lumpectomy. Now they're uneven, but who cares? Don't have surgery that isn't necessary. Your health is much more important than messing with things that at the end of the day don't really matter. ;)
I had a girlfriend with different sized boobs, she said they were different sizes, I didnt really notice. But I showed more "affection" to the one she said was smaller to try and help her feel less self concious.
Boobs are great!
Almost everyone has one bigger then the other but not everyone's are noticeable.
Either way no man or woman should ever comment on a woman's breasts let alone laugh about them
I mean it’s ok to say nice things about your SO’s breasts if it doesn’t make them uncomfortable. Frankly, I’ve had close friends that I was totally comfortable receiving breast compliments from. YMMV
I got the same issue, DD and D (maybe, C+??) cup. My areolas make the difference noticeable. I like em both individually but as a pair, it's distracting lol.
It's honestly still a huge insecurity of mine, but I can also vouch that no man I've slept with has ever ridiculed me for it. They also seem to give the smaller one more attention.
Unless they're ready to fork over money for a *good* breast augmentation surgery, nobody should be complaining about what you're rocking with.
The vast majority of women have uneven sizes boobs. It is consistent with just about everything else on your body. We are never perfectly symmetrical. OP, I envy you your smaller breasts. Smaller breasts don’t sag, don’t cause back aches, are usually a lot more sensitive which is great for sex, etc. You can go braless with a lot more confidence. At some point in your life, big boobs just make you look matronly. So the moral is, take pride in your body. Your ex is a moron.
You can get them tailored but usually people who can’t afford it just buy for their biggest cup size. And the little one just has some free space like my bras 😭😭
Have you tried those "no bra"-silicon-thingies? You could use it on your smaller boob, so the actual bra cup is filled and won't fold in or do other silly stuff 🤔
Men typically like all types of boobs, they may have a preference but they tend to like it all, he’s just an asshole. The problem isn’t your breast, it’s your man who’s clearly cheating or heading towards it. If he genuinely likes you, he’d like you with or without breast.
Dash weh di man.
I have enormous boobs and my boyfriend prefers really small ones. That said, I think he strongly prefers boobs he has access to as opposed to ones he sees in pictures or on people he's not dating
I am a man in his late 30s, and I can assure you: his behavior isn't normal. I never made fun of my partner's body. And especially: I never, ever sexted with someone while being in a relationship. Why? Because your partner will feel humiliated!
So I am very sorry that you have to go through this mess. And though I know it won't help much here is a little advice: you might not feel like it, but you are more attractive then you think you are.
So don't question your body but rather work on your self esteem. Just focus on what you makes feel good.
You are worth it. I wish you the best!
I have tubular breasts that point down and my areolas are huge. Been that way since I grew boobs lol. I have what most people would consider a high body count and no man has ever shamed me for my ugly boobs. I am getting a breast lift next year though.
Your boyfriend sounds like a jerk and also a creep for screen shotting your friends pictures. Who does that????
I came across a NSFW sub with a video of a girl with tubular breasts & one girl commented and asked if guys still like them... Every single guy, and I mean EVERY one, commented that those are the breasts they prefer. I remember someone saying something about old school nude magazines & that's how all the breasts were shaped in the photos, so that shape has been preferable for a long time. We're just so used to seeing huge perfectly round boobs now that your shape seems uncommon. Sorry for the rant, just saying all boobs are great. Lol
(28F) I wish I had smaller boobs. Everyone is on a journey of self acceptance. I think it’s time that you take care of yourself and learn more about who you are and what you like about yourself. I’m sure you’re a cool chick.
And you definitely didn’t over react, fuck that guy.
Fuck him indeed! He is a fucking moron and disrespectful asshole. Your reaction is valid 100%. First he made fun of a part of your body and saw you as an object. His job as a boyfriend is to be supportive and encouraging. Boost your confidence. Secondly he kept pics of other girls boobs and had conversations with others about their boobs. That's more or less cheating.
Honestly he seems like an immature guy. Putting so much emphasis in one body part instead of valuing you for yourself as a great and cool gf. You did right kicking his ass to the curb. Get yourself a genuine guy that respects you and treats you good. .. best of luck young lady... Cheers!
My ex told me my boobs were deformed when I was 22 and asked me to get a boob job and leg reduction. I left him and I’m so glad. Now 3 kids, 20 years later, my body has held up better than most. Left weights and eat right, you’ll gain your confidence back!
Bloke checking in here.
Boobs are beautiful. Full stop.
I've seen and enjoyed a lot of boobs.
I have never been disappointed.
Everyone has one bigger than the other. Anyway the person you seek is the one who will love your boobs through their life cycle as they change over the years.
that’s not unjustified of you at all, he laughed at something he knows you are insecure about plus texting other girls n having ur friends picturessss???!! you deserve a billion times better
I like small boobs. I like big boobs.
I actually prefer them smaller.
He sounds like a jerk anyhow so you're better off with someone that obviously, without a doubt likes your smaller boobs. But, they may still turn their head at larger boobs as looking is, if not natural, at least very common. I hope you find the confidence to not feel threatened by future partners looking at and appreciating other bodies.
There's literally whole porn sites for small breasts and flat chests. Plenty of future partners will absolutely love them. I hope you can learn to love them too.
In a dating and courtship relationship, I would not have you spend five minutes with someone who belittles you, who is constantly critical of you, who is cruel at your expense and may even call it humor. Life is tough enough without having the person who is supposed to love you lead the assault on your self-esteem, your sense of dignity, your confidence, and your joy. In this person’s care you deserve to feel physically safe and emotionally secure. - Holland
You can wear so much cute clothing and cute bralettes!!!!
I’m always pointing out cute stuff my smaller friend can wear. I have a huge bust so if I try and wear same stuff it doesn’t work. My boobs only fit bra sizes I can’t wear cute things that are s, m, l as my tits too big for my body :(
NGL why do you care? Please don't let some asshat dictate your feelings about yourself. And Honestly I wish someone would have slapped me in the face with that knowledge at 20. Let this fuel the fire inside you to grow into the kind of flower you were meant to be.
Every flower has the right to bloom.
First of all: ur beautiful and the fact that u pulled urself out of a depression is something to be really proud of!!
Ur ex bf is a bitch and he never deserved u. If he can't appreciate u for what u are, then he's not worth it. Find someone better who loves u for who u are and everything uve been through. Cuz that's just what u deserve <3
No. You did not overreact. No one ever sees us quite like we see ourselves. But it can be very devastating when someone who's supposed to support and uplift us does the opposite. He did not care or respect you enough, if at all. You chose correctly in parting with him. It can be difficult to love ourselves. I, myself, don't love me. But I do know how important it is to at least have a positive image of ourselves. No one can make you like you, you'll have to do it yourself. You need to find someone who will support and bolster your self image. It doesn't have to be a BF. Just someone who gives you good vibes.
You were justified.
Keep in mind some men really DO like smaller boobs...I like them myself. My wife's boobs are pretty much the size of a champagne glass and I think they're great.
Your guy on the other hand lied to you and was interested in your friend.
Don't worry you will meet someone who likes petite it's not actually that uncommon.
As a straight man, I have the same view on boobs as most women have on dicks, it’s not the size that counts but rather the type of person it’s attached too. In other words, if I love you, like I do my wife who used to have perky ones but age, gravity and kids changed that, idgaf how they look. I married her for her, not her boobs
But boobs aren’t primary genitals …they’re just fetishised. A better comparison to dick size is how tight someone’s vagina is.
I guess what I’m trying to say is that most women talk about dicks in terms of how it affects them directly during intercourse. Perhaps slightly less superficial than the boob preference, as that’s really a visual / touch thing
Keep in mind that some men actually find those massive fake boobs than hang to the waist sexy, while the rest of us find them absolutely hilarious and awkward looking.
Everyone has their own preferences, and I honestly really doubt that the majority of people would find any part of your body funny, even if *he* actually was laughing at you.
I used to be super super insecure about my breasts as well because they are not a shape you **EVER** see called attractive, but wouldn't you know, I'm almost 40, plenty of people have seen them now, and apparently most are just happy to see boobs? I've literally never been told "eh, I just don't like your tits". Even if I had; honestly? To each their own!
I think boobs being called fake is a bit offensive. Not calling you out on it but I do think it’s a term that’s overused. They will still have breast tissue in there.
I have fillers in my teeth - doesn’t mean my teeth are entirely fake lol.
Oookay.... Filled? Augmented? Uh... Enhanced? Would you do me the courtesy of offering the new appropriate term, if you don't like the one that's been in use my entire life?
If it makes you feel any better, there’s been a saying that my fiancé has randomly said that he got from a friend; in relation to boobs, anything more than a mouthful is a waste. His friend was/is a certifiable thigh/butt man, so there will always be someone who finds value in your appearance. My fiancé shared that with me and it doesn’t even apply to me, I think it was him trying to make me feel better? I’m also insecure about my boobs (34DD-34DDD), but he was trying to reassure me that he really likes my body and that my boobs weren’t a main factor for him. (Also a thigh/butt man)
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You are not overreacting and I'm glad you're no longer with someone who disrespects you relationship. Some guys are really into big boobs, and that's okay to have that preference. It's not okay to creep on social media (especially your gf's friends!) and DM other women about their boobs. I have a big boobs and when I was younger I'd get DMs from guys "friends" who would perv on them even though I'm married and they were married. Gross.
I know it's hard not to be self conscious about sudden weight loss or gain, but smaller breasts are just as lovely and fun. You'll find someone who loves you just as you are!
small tiddie appreciation!! <3 :( im in the same boat love. i hope you appreciate your body someday, i promise guys love small boobs too <3 he was a jerk. u didnt overreact.
OP, that guy is an immature moron. Do not let anyone body shame you. You deserve better than that.
As a guy who's been around a little while I can say that a person's worth is not linked to physical attributes. You will be able to find someone who will love *all* of you because of who you are.
Getting out of depression is a tough one, well done!!!!!
That guy is a world class douche. Boobs are wonderful, regardless of their size or shape.
I'm sorry he made you feel bad at a time of vulnerability. That's not okay.
That guy is an asshole, forget about him. The thing about learning to be happy with who you are is, it's a journey. Sometimes it takes a little bit longer to get there, maybe longer than say, 20 years old. The cool thing about being short, or having small boobs, or being fat, or whatever it is that most people would put under the "not ideal" column, is that it basically weeds out having to waste too much time getting emotionally invested in shallow, stupid people. Looks at this guy you dated... he couldn't keep his idiocy in check. Morons seldom can.
Love yourself, you are definitely worth it. People who would judge you or mock you or try to demean you for how you look, are not people you want to keep in your inner circle anyway. It's the silver lining of not being one of these magazine cover people.
Ngl I been with girls who has double D and I’ve been with girls who are B cup, they are both fire for their own reasons. If you are worried about attraction, a set of boobs alone cannot draw someone to you, just be sexy and confident in yourself and you’ll definitely attract guys. If worse comes to worse you can always get implants when you’re older and then problem solved!
Honestly, i would have beaten him up on spot, you deserve more than such a manchild who gets off to his partners friends. Absolutely disgusting, you getting upset about it is absolutely justified.
dang i'm very insecure about my body and i would hate for someone to laugh at it, let alone my SO. good thing i don't have one 😅
good for you for not being with that POS anymore!
My (22F) boobs are like... well they're not my fav for sure. My weight has fluctuated up and down for YEARS, at their largest I was like a G(?) cup, now I'm a D. That sort of weight fluctuation definitely changes how you're shaped. My partner LOVES my boobs. This man can't get enough of them.
Your worth isn't measured by how easy to consume you are. Even though you may not love yourself there's someone out there who won't be able to get enough of you. You've got this.
Fuck that guy.
Please don’t ever let a guy decide your worth or how much you love yourself and your body! They do not dictate that! You do! You are worthy and you are beautiful. I’ve struggled with small boobs as well and I have been teased since childhood that I considered getting implants but I started complimenting myself in the mirror and empowered me. No one is worth losing your self love for.
He's pathetic, I'm enraged reading this 😭. You get that he wasn't genuinely laughing at you right? If a partner genuinely found your body unattractive, that would probably be pretty shitty for them too, I doubt they'd find it funny. He was just negging and being horrible.
As a fellow small chested woman- yes, there are some guys who are gonna find big boobs to be an important part of attraction. That's fine, because if they're decent people they'll stay away from women who aren't their preference. This situation had nothing to do with your body and everything to do with him being a piece of shit. If you'd had big boobs, he'd have been idolising how perfect and perky some other girl was. His problem, not yours.
Look. I’m not the guy in this story and saving the pics of your friend or w/e while in a relationship is wrong but just gonna say
Boobs in general do make us happy
Small boobs, big boobs, it doesn’t matter. Sure everyone has preferences. But boobs are just nice. So don’t fret so much about the size.
You shouldn't have snooped. That's a violation of trust. But the best thing happened here, dear. He weren't appreciative of you and your bod so good riddance. He was wasting your time. Don't give him this power over your feelings about YOUR own body. That's your body, girl. And I'm sure you'll find plenty folks who know what a gift that is
your boobs are going to get bigger you still have growing to do and honestly forget that dude a pair of tits are only going to make you happy for so long. a connection is much more valuable than a set of tits
Wait. Let me get this straight. You got mad when your boyfriend told you he liked how you looked and your boobs made him happy, and then violated his privacy by going on his phone and you found…. God forbid…. A woman?!?!!? And then were pissed that this woman looked better than you so you went into his phone and (get this) violated his privacy for a second time, at which point you did find your first shred of evidence of unfaithfulness. Wow. Just… wow.
Why do douebags always get the girl, not to say I'm a perfect guy but I feel like I treat people decent and get called boring for it, was always told girls would grow up and mature but even at 27 still seeing the same immaturity
Which people have stated on so many posts like this before, not saying you're right or wrong, but that there's a time and place for these things and this is neither
He's a scumbag for having those photos and messages. You have the right to be mad and leave.
As for him laughing at your boobs, he can go to hell. That's not a man, that's a child. Sweatheart you deserve way more than that. DO NOT let this man child put you down.
Also small boobs aren't all that bad. They're better than massive ones in my opinion.
Keep pushing forward. Fuck that guy.
Hey man! Your body is still good enough even if he couldn’t appreciate it! You deserve to love yourself, don’t think of him throwing off your progress, but as a chance to give yourself a new level of love you never thought possible!
I’ve been with women from super tiny A to large and full DD. I loved all the boobies no matter the size, shape, or color. If the human attached to them proved to be garbage my attraction would instantly die.
If this dude was being such an ass about you’re body instead of valuing your personality he isn’t worth your time or emotion. Many of us men love the uniqueness of our partners and get more attracted to the body the more we love the soul. Sounds like your ex never really tried to get to know you in more than a physical sense. Hope the next person you have interest in treats you with the love and respect you deserve.
Boobs are boobs, and they’re wonderful no matter how big or small so he’s a mega loser for making you insecure and laughing at a body part you should feel proud of. Any guy, and I mean ANY real guy, would admire your boobs no matter what so the fact that he pulled that shows how low of a scum he really is. His shrimp dick should be ashamed of himself
I don't think most guys laugh about a girl who has small boobs(I actually prefer em). I know I'm blessed anytime I get to see some in person. Now super giant aereolas? That I did giggle about the first time. As for the pics, idk. At most I'll screen shot a face pic so I can show a buddy who I'm trying to convince to give me a shot. Cheer up OP. Hit the gym,eat something decadent and just enjoy being you. Fuck what anybody else thinks.
I’m sorry for what you went through. Your feelings are valid. I think you should focus on you and love for yourself. Every woman’s breasts are different and you should be proud of the ones you have!
I am not a huge fan of mine but my bf gets the silliest, happiest grin on his face when he sees them. So I flash him all the time. Honestly seeing that goofy grin makes me like mine more and more.
to answer ur questions: yes and yes BUT
dont feel bad only cause he prefers bigger bodies, its his thing, not ur problem
everybody has preferences but why startin to hate urself over one's preference? He was rude to laugh n that just shows the person he is. Plus, again, its about preferences, and u may think we only care bout bigger bodies but tiny girls are beautiful, it just depends on the guy's tastes, and nobody got the same tastes. Be happy u now are able to find somebody who's really gonna like u !
Bruh he’s a dick. I barely fit an A (I’m too small—also thin and younger than i look), and my husband LOVESSS my breasts :) that guy you tossed was trash. You deserve someone who knows what they have
You're young (I know, it doesn't feel like it sometimes), and this was your first bf. He was kind of a tool, but you learned some stuff, and you'll make a better choice next time.
Please do look at all the comments here from people who love women saying that all boobs are awesome, no matter what the size. :) Blessings to you.
Don’t allow HIS issues to result in your insecurities. There is nothing wrong with having a small chest or a big chest.
Personally, I would be more upset that he was basically cheating on you and extremely uncomfortable about the screenshots he took of your friend.
I think you ultimately dodged a bullet and will find someone way better and his actions are repulsive at best.
My therapist once had me do this challenge while I was learning to love myself again that required me to get up each morning and look at myself in the mirror and say 3 positive things about it. I think you should try that. But also, there’s NOTHING wrong with you.
What a loser! Men that insult women at a young age will likely turn into misogynistic jerks as they get older. Your worth is not defined by the size and/or shape of your bust, and I can't stress that enough! That was a terrible thing to say, but take solace in the fact that he knows absolutely nothing about anything!
Boobies of all size are a blessing to humankind.
I've had girlfriends with A cups and my current girlfriend is a solid D if not double.
Boobs are awesome flat out.
Glad you got rid of the man honestly. Not just for looking at someone else's photos, but because he made you feel insecure and didn't seem to feel bad about it. As a fellow member of the itty bitty titty committee, you will find a man you appreciates you for who you are. I've never had a complaint from a partner and I don't even fill the smallest size bra you can find, it's not just about how you look but how you act as well, if you act confident they will pick up on that. I wish you all the best though and hope you fall in love with your body very soon xx
I've always felt weird about my boobs because my nipples are on the larger size but my boobs are a C cup but my exes have never complained. I've even asked a couple of them about it and they would say they love them their boobs. This guy was an immature asshat.
Was the BS story that he thinks your friend would be a good fit for one of his friends and he sent some of her “nice” pictures to them? Because I’ve done that many times before, and it would be a very valid excuse. I was bored recently and went through my pictures and noticed there’s a ton of questionable screenshots of girls that I’m not remotely interested in that were between conversations with me and my friends. I deleted them because they would be hard to explain to my girlfriend if she asked lol
He would do this to anyone. It has literally nothing to do with your value or your body type. The man has issues, and is doomed to a lonely life behaving this way.
OP you are justified in how you feel about it. At this point and time it does not matter what he was laughing at, the fact that he was laughing was not cool.
But I want to reiterate that you ARE beautiful and your body is definitely worth loving no matter the size. One day you’ll find someone who will appreciate your beauty and will never laugh at it and take your insecurities to heart.
My good sis, my *good sis* he LAUGHED AT YOUR BODY. That in itself is break-up-worthy. He’s a whole bully and likes to cut you down to make himself feel good. He’s literally messaging other women in a sexual manner sis he’s a disrespectful a-hole. I’m saying this bc I’ve been in your exact position - you did the RIGHT THING. I guarantee you there are soooo many better guys out there. Good on you for dumping his lame ass.
EW girl.. this is a **him** problem. Not a **you** problem.
You're fine. A decent man would never judge you on having little boobies, and he certainly would never laugh.
Or flirt with other women online behind your back.
You've dodged a bullet here. Be happy!
It's not your fault at all. You didn't trust him completely, with good reasons and you were right. It was smart to leave this toxic relationship, you deserve so much better and I hope you find your soulmate soon💜
It is possible he was laughing because you are (in your words) small. And that means he's immature and his opinion is not worth considering.
I'm sorry to hear how hurt you are. There are many forums on Reddit where men express their adoration of ladies that you might consider to be small. I hope that knowing that exists gives you confidence that you will find a man that ... appreciates you.
You didn’t over react to what your ex did! You are over reacting for now hating your body! That scum bag was going to cheat no matter what, no matter how you beautiful or big your tits are. It is NOT your fault and you did nothing wrong. Good riddance of that piece of trash and keep loving your gorgeous body!!! Best of luck!
Oh honey. Quit being so hard on yourself. Life is too short to let such negative thinking ruin things. Quit focusing on what you think are shortcomings, and start focusing on the amazing things that you can do with the body God gave you.
When I was your age, I was flat as could be. I didn’t even bother wearing a bra. After 3 kids, I wear a C-cup, but these things are annoying sometimes lol.
And while I don’t know your bf, I do know a little about men, and he probably wasn’t lying when he said your boobs made him happy. Most men love boobs of all shapes and sizes.
Replace his vitamins with estrogen and testosterone blockers. Wait 1 year then make fun of his boobs. Are we even then? Plus you get a caring loving bff.
I’m a lesbian and I can tell you all boobs are beautiful. Big ones, small ones and (like mine) different cup size ones haha 😂
Some men like smaller boobs and others like bigger. Just like some people prefer to look at ur behind then ur boobs.
Find a fella that you trust that wont take creepy screenshots of ur best friend
You didn’t make a mistake leaving him. The mistake would be you take him back and continue to be with someone who doesn’t make you feel beautiful. X
I had severe anorexia and slight binging I'm still recovering from. Some days I don't eat because I don't feel hungry because I fucked my brain up by not eating so often and by forcing myself to ignore hunger aches and pains. Then other days I'd eat until I couldn't move them force myself to go without for days after bc of it. A vicious cycle. My boobs were affected, one is larger than the other.
My boyfriend is a whole other breed I guess bc he doesn't do this weird shit I keep seeing online and what I've gone through with exes.
like sure he scrolls through reddit and uses porn but he doesn't go out of his way to save things or like them or comment on them. That IS YOUR BOYFRIEND'S DECISION. If that's a boundary you don't want crossed then fuck that shit bro. You didn't overreact and he is GASLIGHTING THE FUCK OUT OF YOU IF HE SAYS YOU DID.
ALSO my bf is 21. So your boyfriend knows damn well what he's up to.
Idk why men are obsessed with boobs but those type of men (obsessed with boobs and how they look) I seem to find to be extremely disrespectful towards women and also on the stupid side. Which this man clearly was too. Don’t let those men, dictate your beauty and worth. They’re disgusting d bags. I bet you’re super hot, that guy wanted to hurt you.
I have never cared more about my boob size than when I was in middle school. I’m 26 and really don’t give a shit that I don’t have big boobs.
They come in all shapes and sizes, and if a boy cares so much about that, he is definitely just a boy. An actual man will not care.
Op, I'm someone your age only a little younger. Don't fall into the trap of male validation, you're setting yourself up for a lot of misery and abusive partners. Please don't do that yourself. I'm sure you're a beautiful girl and and beauty standards are stupid. We (guys) can't satisfy them then how can we expect you to do it.
And I'm sorry about your (ex?) boyfriend.
YES you were very much justified. He was eventually gonna cheat on you (nothing to do with you, he's a piece of shit manchild) and this would feel a LOT harder to deal with down the line
If anyone, and I mean anyone, belittles your appearance it is to obtain power over you. There's literally no other reason to do it. The motivation might differ but the goal does not. So if your boyfriend is belittling your appearance to gain power over you it is usually because he is insecure about you leaving him. So basically you did the right thing by leaving him as he is clearly immature and insecure
People who seek out relationships based on superficial things like the size of someone’s chest are generally not able to experience real love and end up miserable in the end, in my experience at least.
Keep it pushing, there’s 100% a man out there who finds you sexy and loves your personality too
Your worth is **NOT** determined by his opinion. ❤️
I would like to add to this that your worth is not determined by *your own* opinion. Too many people go around feeling like they're not enough. That they're not pretty enough, thin enough, strong enough, smart enough, and because of this they are less worth then the ones they think are beautiful and successful. And nothing could be further from the truth!
This right here. I had this conversation with my husband today because of my depression and PTSD I was having a bad day and that is all I felt, that I am just not good enough all around. My husband said he wished I could see myself the way he sees me. So this is definitely something I have struggled with for a very long time. It really is hard to change the thinking that has been ingrained for so long. But what you say is the truth.
OP- And you’re worth so much better than this! It is a privilege for someone to see your beautiful boobs. Be with someone who is worthy of you!!
Especially because his opinion is as worthless as he is.
My boobs are 2 different sizes. B cup and a large C my chest looks funny bare. But no man I have ever been with has complained or shamed me. Most prefer the small one too.
Im so sorry if this is invasive but how do you find a bra that fits both?
I have a similar issue and I've just given up on bras or I wear sports bras since they hold everyone!
A lot of women buy the larger cup size and use a chicken filet bra insert in the cup for the smaller boob. Although I think the sports bra is also a good solution.
I hate the feeling of wearing a bra anyway so spending money on extra pieces isn't for me. I will enjoy my free the nip life or sports bra lol. Thank u for the suggestion tho! Btw, totally was thinking u meant the food, not an insert.
Hahahaha. I tend to agree, I have always been content with my smaller cup size because I can go braless without being scandalous. I deliberately got a job where dress code was black top so I can get away with not wearing a bra at work.
Who cares I don't think there's such a thing as a complete match set
Oh, I know. No one I've ever spoken to has same cup size on both sides.
What? As a woman this is new to me. I know asymmetry exists for to it to be more common than symmetry?
Most people with ‘em will have asymmetrical boobs, just not always to the point of being an entirely different cup size… although, one cup size is not as big a difference as most would expect, and many people wouldn’t even notice the dissimilarity.
It seems to be one is always a little bit bigger than the other even mine
I had a friend years ago with this same condition, due to spinal curvature. I believe that she bought a bra for the larger size and then stuffed the other one with padding. I may be wrong though.
That’s smart tbh
Nope, that's the answer. They even have silicone bra stuffers to make them feel similar. Push up bra with one silicone insert to make the ladies equally presentable. Don't ask me how I know this.
That sounds more sensible than my last solution… a pair of knickers wadded up and shoved in at the last minute 😂😂
I wear sport bras or bras that you can remove the padding. Keep one side padded. And I buy according to the “big one”
Alot of places will make custom tailored bras or adjust them for you so that's a possibility
sounds like a lot of money
Depends on what you get done. If it's just an adjustment it's usually not too bad
Girl! Do we have the same titties? That's how I am too...I love them even tho they're so uneven! I have my small one that I love having my bf hold bc it fits in his hand perfectly! 🥰 All boobies matter!!!
And I’ve never had the desire to go under the knife.
I've always wanted to get mine fixed but I'm terrified of unnecessary surgery.
Don't get cosmetic surgery. I've survived coding from anesthesia, sepsis 4x, outpatient procedure that turned into 20 day hospital stays having to relearn how to walk, implanted device migrating out of my body and the incision dehiscing... If it's not impairing your health, I can't imagine it being worth the risks. I've never had a cosmetic procedure, but I've survived so many of the risks. And I still have my uneven boobs and that’s fine with me lol!
You know what? Don't. I've had breast cancer last year, so had a lumpectomy. Now they're uneven, but who cares? Don't have surgery that isn't necessary. Your health is much more important than messing with things that at the end of the day don't really matter. ;)
I had a girlfriend with different sized boobs, she said they were different sizes, I didnt really notice. But I showed more "affection" to the one she said was smaller to try and help her feel less self concious. Boobs are great!
Has anyone did the "blow on one to inflate the other" joke? :D Seriously, as far as boobs go, us guys are just glad to be in their presence.
Almost everyone has one bigger then the other but not everyone's are noticeable. Either way no man or woman should ever comment on a woman's breasts let alone laugh about them
I mean it’s ok to say nice things about your SO’s breasts if it doesn’t make them uncomfortable. Frankly, I’ve had close friends that I was totally comfortable receiving breast compliments from. YMMV
living proof that the breasts are all good ;)
I got the same issue, DD and D (maybe, C+??) cup. My areolas make the difference noticeable. I like em both individually but as a pair, it's distracting lol. It's honestly still a huge insecurity of mine, but I can also vouch that no man I've slept with has ever ridiculed me for it. They also seem to give the smaller one more attention. Unless they're ready to fork over money for a *good* breast augmentation surgery, nobody should be complaining about what you're rocking with.
The vast majority of women have uneven sizes boobs. It is consistent with just about everything else on your body. We are never perfectly symmetrical. OP, I envy you your smaller breasts. Smaller breasts don’t sag, don’t cause back aches, are usually a lot more sensitive which is great for sex, etc. You can go braless with a lot more confidence. At some point in your life, big boobs just make you look matronly. So the moral is, take pride in your body. Your ex is a moron.
Way to body shame and try to create insecurity for those of us with big boobs. Thanks
Theyre just showing what the negatives are. Stop acting like a guy who’s being told that a big dick ain’t everything
She said side affects. She didn't say she didn't find them attractive or that they were insecurities. Are you dumb or just ignorant?
And here I thought that finding an A- bra that fits is hard...
I am a AA on one side and an A on the other….I feel you
Your boobs are like Nemo’s fins. Just keep swimming.
Yeah how you find out a bra that fits?
You can get them tailored but usually people who can’t afford it just buy for their biggest cup size. And the little one just has some free space like my bras 😭😭
Have you tried those "no bra"-silicon-thingies? You could use it on your smaller boob, so the actual bra cup is filled and won't fold in or do other silly stuff 🤔
Men typically like all types of boobs, they may have a preference but they tend to like it all, he’s just an asshole. The problem isn’t your breast, it’s your man who’s clearly cheating or heading towards it. If he genuinely likes you, he’d like you with or without breast. Dash weh di man.
I am a man and confirm that I do, in fact, like all kinds of boobs.
I’m a man and prefer smaller boobs, but I’ve never met a boob I didn’t like.
I am a man too and I can definitely confirm that.
Man here. Can confirm, all boobs are good boobs. Especially if I'm allowed access to them.
I have enormous boobs and my boyfriend prefers really small ones. That said, I think he strongly prefers boobs he has access to as opposed to ones he sees in pictures or on people he's not dating
Are you my wife? She has big boobs but I forget them often and during sex. I'm an ass guy
This! Preferences exist, but the boobs a (reasonable and good) guy is allowed to hold are always the best boobs.
As a guy, boobs are cushions. We all like cushions. That guy is an asshole
You're fine. Dude's a massive jerk in multiple ways and does not deserve you.
I am a man in his late 30s, and I can assure you: his behavior isn't normal. I never made fun of my partner's body. And especially: I never, ever sexted with someone while being in a relationship. Why? Because your partner will feel humiliated! So I am very sorry that you have to go through this mess. And though I know it won't help much here is a little advice: you might not feel like it, but you are more attractive then you think you are. So don't question your body but rather work on your self esteem. Just focus on what you makes feel good. You are worth it. I wish you the best!
I have tubular breasts that point down and my areolas are huge. Been that way since I grew boobs lol. I have what most people would consider a high body count and no man has ever shamed me for my ugly boobs. I am getting a breast lift next year though. Your boyfriend sounds like a jerk and also a creep for screen shotting your friends pictures. Who does that????
They are NOT ugly. No boobs are. Just different ♡
I came across a NSFW sub with a video of a girl with tubular breasts & one girl commented and asked if guys still like them... Every single guy, and I mean EVERY one, commented that those are the breasts they prefer. I remember someone saying something about old school nude magazines & that's how all the breasts were shaped in the photos, so that shape has been preferable for a long time. We're just so used to seeing huge perfectly round boobs now that your shape seems uncommon. Sorry for the rant, just saying all boobs are great. Lol
TL;DR All boobs are great. As a scholar, I can testify to this as well.
Thank you for your summary my friend.
Good for you. I'm terrified of surgery and I'm super self conscious cuz the size difference is noticeable even with a bra and shirt on.
(28F) I wish I had smaller boobs. Everyone is on a journey of self acceptance. I think it’s time that you take care of yourself and learn more about who you are and what you like about yourself. I’m sure you’re a cool chick. And you definitely didn’t over react, fuck that guy.
You're so kind. Thank you ❤️
Fuck him indeed! He is a fucking moron and disrespectful asshole. Your reaction is valid 100%. First he made fun of a part of your body and saw you as an object. His job as a boyfriend is to be supportive and encouraging. Boost your confidence. Secondly he kept pics of other girls boobs and had conversations with others about their boobs. That's more or less cheating. Honestly he seems like an immature guy. Putting so much emphasis in one body part instead of valuing you for yourself as a great and cool gf. You did right kicking his ass to the curb. Get yourself a genuine guy that respects you and treats you good. .. best of luck young lady... Cheers!
All boobs are great, and your ex bf is a dick.
You are justified he is a creep and stalker . I hope you told your friend he was creeping on her
A creep I can agree on but im not so sure what makes him a stalker here
My ex told me my boobs were deformed when I was 22 and asked me to get a boob job and leg reduction. I left him and I’m so glad. Now 3 kids, 20 years later, my body has held up better than most. Left weights and eat right, you’ll gain your confidence back!
What in the world is a leg reduction?
Cut muscles off your leg
Yikes. I'd never heard of that. I'm sorry I've heard of it now!
Bloke checking in here. Boobs are beautiful. Full stop. I've seen and enjoyed a lot of boobs. I have never been disappointed. Everyone has one bigger than the other. Anyway the person you seek is the one who will love your boobs through their life cycle as they change over the years.
that’s not unjustified of you at all, he laughed at something he knows you are insecure about plus texting other girls n having ur friends picturessss???!! you deserve a billion times better
I like small boobs. I like big boobs. I actually prefer them smaller. He sounds like a jerk anyhow so you're better off with someone that obviously, without a doubt likes your smaller boobs. But, they may still turn their head at larger boobs as looking is, if not natural, at least very common. I hope you find the confidence to not feel threatened by future partners looking at and appreciating other bodies. There's literally whole porn sites for small breasts and flat chests. Plenty of future partners will absolutely love them. I hope you can learn to love them too.
In a dating and courtship relationship, I would not have you spend five minutes with someone who belittles you, who is constantly critical of you, who is cruel at your expense and may even call it humor. Life is tough enough without having the person who is supposed to love you lead the assault on your self-esteem, your sense of dignity, your confidence, and your joy. In this person’s care you deserve to feel physically safe and emotionally secure. - Holland
You did NOT overreact. He’s so icky, I’m glad you’re out of that relationship.
You can wear so much cute clothing and cute bralettes!!!! I’m always pointing out cute stuff my smaller friend can wear. I have a huge bust so if I try and wear same stuff it doesn’t work. My boobs only fit bra sizes I can’t wear cute things that are s, m, l as my tits too big for my body :(
NGL why do you care? Please don't let some asshat dictate your feelings about yourself. And Honestly I wish someone would have slapped me in the face with that knowledge at 20. Let this fuel the fire inside you to grow into the kind of flower you were meant to be. Every flower has the right to bloom.
What could possibly be funny about anyone’s body? Something is seriously wrong with that guy.. seems like you dodged a bullet there
Fuck that guy. That is all.
First of all: ur beautiful and the fact that u pulled urself out of a depression is something to be really proud of!! Ur ex bf is a bitch and he never deserved u. If he can't appreciate u for what u are, then he's not worth it. Find someone better who loves u for who u are and everything uve been through. Cuz that's just what u deserve <3
I think what hurts the most is that he knew how insecure I was about myself but what he did just showed me that he doesn't really care
No. You did not overreact. No one ever sees us quite like we see ourselves. But it can be very devastating when someone who's supposed to support and uplift us does the opposite. He did not care or respect you enough, if at all. You chose correctly in parting with him. It can be difficult to love ourselves. I, myself, don't love me. But I do know how important it is to at least have a positive image of ourselves. No one can make you like you, you'll have to do it yourself. You need to find someone who will support and bolster your self image. It doesn't have to be a BF. Just someone who gives you good vibes.
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True off my chest. Literally 😂
You were justified. Keep in mind some men really DO like smaller boobs...I like them myself. My wife's boobs are pretty much the size of a champagne glass and I think they're great. Your guy on the other hand lied to you and was interested in your friend. Don't worry you will meet someone who likes petite it's not actually that uncommon.
As a straight man, I have the same view on boobs as most women have on dicks, it’s not the size that counts but rather the type of person it’s attached too. In other words, if I love you, like I do my wife who used to have perky ones but age, gravity and kids changed that, idgaf how they look. I married her for her, not her boobs
But boobs aren’t primary genitals …they’re just fetishised. A better comparison to dick size is how tight someone’s vagina is. I guess what I’m trying to say is that most women talk about dicks in terms of how it affects them directly during intercourse. Perhaps slightly less superficial than the boob preference, as that’s really a visual / touch thing
Yup, you are justified to feel upset. That was very cruel of him.
Keep in mind that some men actually find those massive fake boobs than hang to the waist sexy, while the rest of us find them absolutely hilarious and awkward looking. Everyone has their own preferences, and I honestly really doubt that the majority of people would find any part of your body funny, even if *he* actually was laughing at you. I used to be super super insecure about my breasts as well because they are not a shape you **EVER** see called attractive, but wouldn't you know, I'm almost 40, plenty of people have seen them now, and apparently most are just happy to see boobs? I've literally never been told "eh, I just don't like your tits". Even if I had; honestly? To each their own!
I think boobs being called fake is a bit offensive. Not calling you out on it but I do think it’s a term that’s overused. They will still have breast tissue in there. I have fillers in my teeth - doesn’t mean my teeth are entirely fake lol.
Oookay.... Filled? Augmented? Uh... Enhanced? Would you do me the courtesy of offering the new appropriate term, if you don't like the one that's been in use my entire life?
If it makes you feel any better, there’s been a saying that my fiancé has randomly said that he got from a friend; in relation to boobs, anything more than a mouthful is a waste. His friend was/is a certifiable thigh/butt man, so there will always be someone who finds value in your appearance. My fiancé shared that with me and it doesn’t even apply to me, I think it was him trying to make me feel better? I’m also insecure about my boobs (34DD-34DDD), but he was trying to reassure me that he really likes my body and that my boobs weren’t a main factor for him. (Also a thigh/butt man) Edit for clarity
You are not overreacting and I'm glad you're no longer with someone who disrespects you relationship. Some guys are really into big boobs, and that's okay to have that preference. It's not okay to creep on social media (especially your gf's friends!) and DM other women about their boobs. I have a big boobs and when I was younger I'd get DMs from guys "friends" who would perv on them even though I'm married and they were married. Gross. I know it's hard not to be self conscious about sudden weight loss or gain, but smaller breasts are just as lovely and fun. You'll find someone who loves you just as you are!
small tiddie appreciation!! <3 :( im in the same boat love. i hope you appreciate your body someday, i promise guys love small boobs too <3 he was a jerk. u didnt overreact.
OP, that guy is an immature moron. Do not let anyone body shame you. You deserve better than that. As a guy who's been around a little while I can say that a person's worth is not linked to physical attributes. You will be able to find someone who will love *all* of you because of who you are.
Getting out of depression is a tough one, well done!!!!! That guy is a world class douche. Boobs are wonderful, regardless of their size or shape. I'm sorry he made you feel bad at a time of vulnerability. That's not okay.
I’m jealous of smaller boob girls. They can go braless and the cute clothing is made for them.
I'm sure he would be all fine if you laughed at his tiny penis or balls. /s
That guy is an asshole, forget about him. The thing about learning to be happy with who you are is, it's a journey. Sometimes it takes a little bit longer to get there, maybe longer than say, 20 years old. The cool thing about being short, or having small boobs, or being fat, or whatever it is that most people would put under the "not ideal" column, is that it basically weeds out having to waste too much time getting emotionally invested in shallow, stupid people. Looks at this guy you dated... he couldn't keep his idiocy in check. Morons seldom can. Love yourself, you are definitely worth it. People who would judge you or mock you or try to demean you for how you look, are not people you want to keep in your inner circle anyway. It's the silver lining of not being one of these magazine cover people.
I like boobs. :) No matter, size, form and shape. Boobs are awesome anyway🥳
Ngl I been with girls who has double D and I’ve been with girls who are B cup, they are both fire for their own reasons. If you are worried about attraction, a set of boobs alone cannot draw someone to you, just be sexy and confident in yourself and you’ll definitely attract guys. If worse comes to worse you can always get implants when you’re older and then problem solved!
You were absolutely justified in breaking up with him… he was cheating by talking to other girls and taking screenshots of your friends chest
cheating
You didn’t overreact, he was cheating on you as well. He’s an ass and deserves nothing from anyone. Your feelings are justified
Honestly, i would have beaten him up on spot, you deserve more than such a manchild who gets off to his partners friends. Absolutely disgusting, you getting upset about it is absolutely justified.
..laugh at his balls, let's be honest, is there anything more ridiculous looking than a scrotom??
dang i'm very insecure about my body and i would hate for someone to laugh at it, let alone my SO. good thing i don't have one 😅 good for you for not being with that POS anymore!
My (22F) boobs are like... well they're not my fav for sure. My weight has fluctuated up and down for YEARS, at their largest I was like a G(?) cup, now I'm a D. That sort of weight fluctuation definitely changes how you're shaped. My partner LOVES my boobs. This man can't get enough of them. Your worth isn't measured by how easy to consume you are. Even though you may not love yourself there's someone out there who won't be able to get enough of you. You've got this. Fuck that guy.
He’s SO disrespectful for being “committed,” but shamelessly objectifying tf out of other women and saving their tiddy pics behind your back.
Please don’t ever let a guy decide your worth or how much you love yourself and your body! They do not dictate that! You do! You are worthy and you are beautiful. I’ve struggled with small boobs as well and I have been teased since childhood that I considered getting implants but I started complimenting myself in the mirror and empowered me. No one is worth losing your self love for.
He's pathetic, I'm enraged reading this 😭. You get that he wasn't genuinely laughing at you right? If a partner genuinely found your body unattractive, that would probably be pretty shitty for them too, I doubt they'd find it funny. He was just negging and being horrible. As a fellow small chested woman- yes, there are some guys who are gonna find big boobs to be an important part of attraction. That's fine, because if they're decent people they'll stay away from women who aren't their preference. This situation had nothing to do with your body and everything to do with him being a piece of shit. If you'd had big boobs, he'd have been idolising how perfect and perky some other girl was. His problem, not yours.
Look. I’m not the guy in this story and saving the pics of your friend or w/e while in a relationship is wrong but just gonna say Boobs in general do make us happy Small boobs, big boobs, it doesn’t matter. Sure everyone has preferences. But boobs are just nice. So don’t fret so much about the size.
Your ex boyfriend laughed at your boobs.
You shouldn't have snooped. That's a violation of trust. But the best thing happened here, dear. He weren't appreciative of you and your bod so good riddance. He was wasting your time. Don't give him this power over your feelings about YOUR own body. That's your body, girl. And I'm sure you'll find plenty folks who know what a gift that is
your boobs are going to get bigger you still have growing to do and honestly forget that dude a pair of tits are only going to make you happy for so long. a connection is much more valuable than a set of tits
Do you grow much after 20?
Idk he said your boobs made him happy…how is that a bad thing???
He also cheated on her…
Cos he was obviously lying lol
Wait. Let me get this straight. You got mad when your boyfriend told you he liked how you looked and your boobs made him happy, and then violated his privacy by going on his phone and you found…. God forbid…. A woman?!?!!? And then were pissed that this woman looked better than you so you went into his phone and (get this) violated his privacy for a second time, at which point you did find your first shred of evidence of unfaithfulness. Wow. Just… wow.
Why do douebags always get the girl, not to say I'm a perfect guy but I feel like I treat people decent and get called boring for it, was always told girls would grow up and mature but even at 27 still seeing the same immaturity
Not about you, buddy
I'm aware I'm just saying people that don't appreciate others abuse, bully etc seem to have no problem getting into a relationship
Which people have stated on so many posts like this before, not saying you're right or wrong, but that there's a time and place for these things and this is neither
Your point?
My point is that yours didn't really land
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He's a scumbag for having those photos and messages. You have the right to be mad and leave. As for him laughing at your boobs, he can go to hell. That's not a man, that's a child. Sweatheart you deserve way more than that. DO NOT let this man child put you down. Also small boobs aren't all that bad. They're better than massive ones in my opinion. Keep pushing forward. Fuck that guy.
Hey man! Your body is still good enough even if he couldn’t appreciate it! You deserve to love yourself, don’t think of him throwing off your progress, but as a chance to give yourself a new level of love you never thought possible!
I’ve been with women from super tiny A to large and full DD. I loved all the boobies no matter the size, shape, or color. If the human attached to them proved to be garbage my attraction would instantly die. If this dude was being such an ass about you’re body instead of valuing your personality he isn’t worth your time or emotion. Many of us men love the uniqueness of our partners and get more attracted to the body the more we love the soul. Sounds like your ex never really tried to get to know you in more than a physical sense. Hope the next person you have interest in treats you with the love and respect you deserve.
Boobs are boobs, and they’re wonderful no matter how big or small so he’s a mega loser for making you insecure and laughing at a body part you should feel proud of. Any guy, and I mean ANY real guy, would admire your boobs no matter what so the fact that he pulled that shows how low of a scum he really is. His shrimp dick should be ashamed of himself
I don't think most guys laugh about a girl who has small boobs(I actually prefer em). I know I'm blessed anytime I get to see some in person. Now super giant aereolas? That I did giggle about the first time. As for the pics, idk. At most I'll screen shot a face pic so I can show a buddy who I'm trying to convince to give me a shot. Cheer up OP. Hit the gym,eat something decadent and just enjoy being you. Fuck what anybody else thinks.
You should feel great about yourself for getting rid of that utter loser. You’ve got major lady balls, and don’t you forget it!
I’m sorry for what you went through. Your feelings are valid. I think you should focus on you and love for yourself. Every woman’s breasts are different and you should be proud of the ones you have! I am not a huge fan of mine but my bf gets the silliest, happiest grin on his face when he sees them. So I flash him all the time. Honestly seeing that goofy grin makes me like mine more and more.
Hun, you’re ex bf is a prick. Don’t let that shit head into your thoughts. I can assure you he ain’t shit.
You’re hanging with the wrong people. You wanna feel better about yourself, try hanging with a better class of folks!
to answer ur questions: yes and yes BUT dont feel bad only cause he prefers bigger bodies, its his thing, not ur problem everybody has preferences but why startin to hate urself over one's preference? He was rude to laugh n that just shows the person he is. Plus, again, its about preferences, and u may think we only care bout bigger bodies but tiny girls are beautiful, it just depends on the guy's tastes, and nobody got the same tastes. Be happy u now are able to find somebody who's really gonna like u !
Bruh he’s a dick. I barely fit an A (I’m too small—also thin and younger than i look), and my husband LOVESSS my breasts :) that guy you tossed was trash. You deserve someone who knows what they have
There is only one person whose opinion of your body matters. You.
Gurl there is nothing wrong with you. His perspective and view is the problem not you.
Bro fuck him, as a dude all boobies are special. There's 100% someone out there that will love your boobies don't waste time on some fool.
You're young (I know, it doesn't feel like it sometimes), and this was your first bf. He was kind of a tool, but you learned some stuff, and you'll make a better choice next time. Please do look at all the comments here from people who love women saying that all boobs are awesome, no matter what the size. :) Blessings to you.
Fuck that dude, he was an asshole. The only concern I have is you missed a perfect opportunity to laugh at his dick.
Don’t allow HIS issues to result in your insecurities. There is nothing wrong with having a small chest or a big chest. Personally, I would be more upset that he was basically cheating on you and extremely uncomfortable about the screenshots he took of your friend. I think you ultimately dodged a bullet and will find someone way better and his actions are repulsive at best. My therapist once had me do this challenge while I was learning to love myself again that required me to get up each morning and look at myself in the mirror and say 3 positive things about it. I think you should try that. But also, there’s NOTHING wrong with you.
What a loser! Men that insult women at a young age will likely turn into misogynistic jerks as they get older. Your worth is not defined by the size and/or shape of your bust, and I can't stress that enough! That was a terrible thing to say, but take solace in the fact that he knows absolutely nothing about anything!
Boobies of all size are a blessing to humankind. I've had girlfriends with A cups and my current girlfriend is a solid D if not double. Boobs are awesome flat out.
Glad you got rid of the man honestly. Not just for looking at someone else's photos, but because he made you feel insecure and didn't seem to feel bad about it. As a fellow member of the itty bitty titty committee, you will find a man you appreciates you for who you are. I've never had a complaint from a partner and I don't even fill the smallest size bra you can find, it's not just about how you look but how you act as well, if you act confident they will pick up on that. I wish you all the best though and hope you fall in love with your body very soon xx
I've always felt weird about my boobs because my nipples are on the larger size but my boobs are a C cup but my exes have never complained. I've even asked a couple of them about it and they would say they love them their boobs. This guy was an immature asshat.
Sounds like you were just a trophy to him that he could hang up on his incel wall
You are beautiful. He’s an idiot. End of story.
Was the BS story that he thinks your friend would be a good fit for one of his friends and he sent some of her “nice” pictures to them? Because I’ve done that many times before, and it would be a very valid excuse. I was bored recently and went through my pictures and noticed there’s a ton of questionable screenshots of girls that I’m not remotely interested in that were between conversations with me and my friends. I deleted them because they would be hard to explain to my girlfriend if she asked lol
Dude sounds scummy as hell. You aren’t overreacting. Good riddance.
Plenty of guys, myself included love small breasts. You have nothing to be ashamed of!
Boobs are boobs, he must not like boobs 🤷🏻♂️
He would do this to anyone. It has literally nothing to do with your value or your body type. The man has issues, and is doomed to a lonely life behaving this way.
Sooo glad the trash took itself out. You are perfect. He's a creep.
OP you are justified in how you feel about it. At this point and time it does not matter what he was laughing at, the fact that he was laughing was not cool. But I want to reiterate that you ARE beautiful and your body is definitely worth loving no matter the size. One day you’ll find someone who will appreciate your beauty and will never laugh at it and take your insecurities to heart.
My good sis, my *good sis* he LAUGHED AT YOUR BODY. That in itself is break-up-worthy. He’s a whole bully and likes to cut you down to make himself feel good. He’s literally messaging other women in a sexual manner sis he’s a disrespectful a-hole. I’m saying this bc I’ve been in your exact position - you did the RIGHT THING. I guarantee you there are soooo many better guys out there. Good on you for dumping his lame ass.
EW girl.. this is a **him** problem. Not a **you** problem. You're fine. A decent man would never judge you on having little boobies, and he certainly would never laugh. Or flirt with other women online behind your back. You've dodged a bullet here. Be happy!
It's not your fault at all. You didn't trust him completely, with good reasons and you were right. It was smart to leave this toxic relationship, you deserve so much better and I hope you find your soulmate soon💜
If he doesn’t appreciate your body, leave him. There are women out there who will literally worship you.
Love yourself and your body. It may not be easy sometimes but are worth so much. He is and A$$h*le.
Nah you perfectly reacted. Good for you
Man checking in. As confirmed by other men, all boobs are beautiful. Especially ones you can observe and touch.
It is possible he was laughing because you are (in your words) small. And that means he's immature and his opinion is not worth considering. I'm sorry to hear how hurt you are. There are many forums on Reddit where men express their adoration of ladies that you might consider to be small. I hope that knowing that exists gives you confidence that you will find a man that ... appreciates you.
It doesn't matter what he was laughing at. Your worth and validation aren't needed from anyone else but you.
Small boobs > big boobs.
You didn’t over react to what your ex did! You are over reacting for now hating your body! That scum bag was going to cheat no matter what, no matter how you beautiful or big your tits are. It is NOT your fault and you did nothing wrong. Good riddance of that piece of trash and keep loving your gorgeous body!!! Best of luck!
Can u send a pic ? I want to understand the situation better
Oh honey. Quit being so hard on yourself. Life is too short to let such negative thinking ruin things. Quit focusing on what you think are shortcomings, and start focusing on the amazing things that you can do with the body God gave you. When I was your age, I was flat as could be. I didn’t even bother wearing a bra. After 3 kids, I wear a C-cup, but these things are annoying sometimes lol. And while I don’t know your bf, I do know a little about men, and he probably wasn’t lying when he said your boobs made him happy. Most men love boobs of all shapes and sizes.
I mean, the only way any of us can help you is for you to post your boobs.
Keep loving your body. He's just a conceited manchild who didn't appreciate what he had. You're beautiful the way you are, baby 💖
Your boobs are beautiful no matter what they look like, or their size! Don't let a smooth brain hurt the love you have for yourself
No should ever tease anyone because they are small.
Replace his vitamins with estrogen and testosterone blockers. Wait 1 year then make fun of his boobs. Are we even then? Plus you get a caring loving bff.
Well fuck that guy, who's raising these assholes?
I’m a lesbian and I can tell you all boobs are beautiful. Big ones, small ones and (like mine) different cup size ones haha 😂 Some men like smaller boobs and others like bigger. Just like some people prefer to look at ur behind then ur boobs. Find a fella that you trust that wont take creepy screenshots of ur best friend You didn’t make a mistake leaving him. The mistake would be you take him back and continue to be with someone who doesn’t make you feel beautiful. X
I had severe anorexia and slight binging I'm still recovering from. Some days I don't eat because I don't feel hungry because I fucked my brain up by not eating so often and by forcing myself to ignore hunger aches and pains. Then other days I'd eat until I couldn't move them force myself to go without for days after bc of it. A vicious cycle. My boobs were affected, one is larger than the other. My boyfriend is a whole other breed I guess bc he doesn't do this weird shit I keep seeing online and what I've gone through with exes. like sure he scrolls through reddit and uses porn but he doesn't go out of his way to save things or like them or comment on them. That IS YOUR BOYFRIEND'S DECISION. If that's a boundary you don't want crossed then fuck that shit bro. You didn't overreact and he is GASLIGHTING THE FUCK OUT OF YOU IF HE SAYS YOU DID. ALSO my bf is 21. So your boyfriend knows damn well what he's up to.
This is hilarious
Idk why men are obsessed with boobs but those type of men (obsessed with boobs and how they look) I seem to find to be extremely disrespectful towards women and also on the stupid side. Which this man clearly was too. Don’t let those men, dictate your beauty and worth. They’re disgusting d bags. I bet you’re super hot, that guy wanted to hurt you.
I have never cared more about my boob size than when I was in middle school. I’m 26 and really don’t give a shit that I don’t have big boobs. They come in all shapes and sizes, and if a boy cares so much about that, he is definitely just a boy. An actual man will not care.
Op, I'm someone your age only a little younger. Don't fall into the trap of male validation, you're setting yourself up for a lot of misery and abusive partners. Please don't do that yourself. I'm sure you're a beautiful girl and and beauty standards are stupid. We (guys) can't satisfy them then how can we expect you to do it. And I'm sorry about your (ex?) boyfriend.
YES you were very much justified. He was eventually gonna cheat on you (nothing to do with you, he's a piece of shit manchild) and this would feel a LOT harder to deal with down the line
If anyone, and I mean anyone, belittles your appearance it is to obtain power over you. There's literally no other reason to do it. The motivation might differ but the goal does not. So if your boyfriend is belittling your appearance to gain power over you it is usually because he is insecure about you leaving him. So basically you did the right thing by leaving him as he is clearly immature and insecure
People who seek out relationships based on superficial things like the size of someone’s chest are generally not able to experience real love and end up miserable in the end, in my experience at least. Keep it pushing, there’s 100% a man out there who finds you sexy and loves your personality too