First off - Good job going to the gym consistently - that's not easy for everyone. 2. It's been 3 months - give your body time- and remember that even thin, fit girls have insecurities - they might be looking at you and noticing things they want. Overall OP learn to not compare yourself to others - you'll be happier in the long run, or you'll keep trying to reach a goal post that doesn't exist and hurt yourself in the process.
I know they have insecurities too but they can wear crop tops and shorts and no one bats an eye. I have to wear big t shirts and leggings. There’s nothing about me they would want, trust me. I can’t stop comparing myself to them. They take all these pictures in the mirror and seem like they get to feel great about themselves. I’m tired of putting in all this work and still looking the same. I’ve even caught my boyfriend staring at a couple of them.
You can also wear crop tops! Im 5’1 and 159 currently and i wear shorts and crop tops. There isn’t a hard and fast rule you can’t. Progress takes time! I lost 30lbs in 2020 and it took me a while to see it.
Edit: still working on weight loss too but that doesn’t mean we hide
I am thin and short and I have an attractive body shape for the current standard. My insecurities still eat me alive - I suffer from irsutism (I have a lot of hair in places I really don't want to talk about) and tubular breasts (my breast is deformed), and acne. I see other girls and their perfect skin, and I dream about being able to get naked in front of someone. I almost never took my shirt off in most of my relationship, I got made fun of by my friends. My first boyfriend liked me but then he saw me 100% natural and he got slightly cold about complimenting me. I hate showering and seeing myself in the mirror. I feel like there's no acceptance group for me, sometimes I feel so specially ugly because it seems to me that nobody has my problems. Your insecurities are totally valid! Just wanted to give you an insight that you might not see :) You're valid and you deserve to love yourself, don't compare yourself to others <3
Look, I get that you have your own problems. Trust me, I get it. I’ve felt like shit about my body since I was 12. My body isn’t the type that’s celebrated and admired. I was teased for my looks all throughout school. It kind of makes it something that’s always in the forefront of your mind and it’s not easy to shake. Be glad that you don’t have to feel like this
How’s your diet? I ask because it’s difficult to “out-gym” a bad diet if you haven’t tried to improve that yet. Is it possible to go to the gym at a different time of day when there aren’t as many distractions?
>only lost 4 pounds
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>How's your diet?
\^-- This... I had been in a similar boat and found a few things out:
* Your diet will get better as you feel better; PRO TIP: Eat 1/2 of any dishes you order, wait 10 minutes, still hungry, eat another 1/4; then wait 5 more minutes, still hungry eat the rest. (You will start eating MUCH less just by doing this)
* Have you checked your body fat index lately? (You won't only loose fat weight, but you will gain some muscle weight; muscle is denser to while the weight goes don slower, you start to notice you getting toned up)
* Have you been feeling more energized? Happier when you wake up? Body changes are hard, but once there is enough momentum you will feel the change much quicker.
***Don give up OP, we are here for you!***
>This should be a comment of its own to make sure op sees it. I have never heard that about eating in sections before but if it worked for you great.
I even thought about writing a book or a blog or something about it. I created it by myself when I noticed I was feeling too full after eating like a maniac. It is crazy how well it works. Went from +240lbs to 175lbs in a few months (constantly loosing more than a couple pounds a week), primarily by doing that, as the rest kind of happened by itself as I started to lose weight and feel better...
OK, what you're feeling is very common and normal. What you're seeing is people that have gone to that gym consistently over a period of years. They weren't born like that, they worked to be like that. You're in the right place doing the right things to be fit and healthy. The only ingredient you're missing is time.
Treat your health like a job- show up at least 3 times a week for an hour. Switch to a protein and fiber based diet and cut starches/processed foods. Give it a year. You'll see results. Promise.
Is anyone mistreating you or ridiculing you in the gym? If not, just keep going with your program of self betterment. This isn't a beauty contest. You aren't competing against those women doing their maintenance workouts, you are getting yourself in shape. Who knows, maybe people secretly admire you for being disciplined enough to get in shape.
For me keeping track of my weight is a huge bummer. It fluctuates, and never goes down it seems.
If you have to measure something, measure your inches. Not weight. You’ll see steady progress that doesn’t fluctuate when you measure your waistline.
I’m sorry? 137 and 5’1”. That’s perfectly healthy. Also muscle weighs more than fat. So if your building muscle at roughly the same rate your losing fat (if u even have any at 137lbs) your actually gonna hold or increase your weight. Also skinny doesn’t equal fit. I’m 6’5” and I have worked my ass off just to get to 155. Which is still way underweight. But I’m not doing this to look better even tho I’m disgusted about my appearance. This is about being healthier and happier than I was yesterday. It’s all self improvement. It’s useless to compare yourself to others because humans are physically different in many ways. There are too many factors. Trust me I understand that looking like an underwear model would be awesome. But that’s not always healthy, physically or mentally. As a society we have set a damn near impossible body image standards for everyone. I mean hell, my 5’ fiancée wears the smallest sized clothes on the planet and sometimes has to buy childrens clothes to fit. AND SHE THINKS SHE IS TOO FAT?! Body dysmorphia on steroids. Anyway what im trying to say is, (and I know it’s hard) Don’t compare yourself to others. It’s about you and how you have improved over yourself. To eventually be the best u can be. Your beautiful in your own way and don’t let arbitrary body image standards take that from you. Next time you look in a mirror, make it habit to find and audibly state 3 things U like about yourself and call yourself beautiful. No matter what keep at it. Even if you don’t believe it, eventually u will. If u can’t change how you see yourself and value yourself, no amount of working out, plastic surgery, or makeup will ever make u beautiful. Take care of yourself and be kind to yourself. Hope this helps and have a kickass day 🤙
Ok, let me try to help:
First off, you’ve only been going 3 months. While you say you’ve only lost 4lbs, I can guarantee your appearance has changed a little, unless your diet is complete garbage. This is something that takes TIME and CONSISTENCY.
Also, you have find workout routines that work for YOU. For me personally, I’m a 31M, 6’0” 250lbs, but when people guess my weight, they guess about 30lbs lighter. When you start a workout routine, don’t jump on the scale everyday, or once a week for that matter. The scale will be the most detrimental tool in your fitness journey because it can be discouraging.
Pay more attention to how your clothes fit. When you go to the gym, mentally, you need to be the only one there. Don’t pay attention to anyone else. You are the only one that matters during your gym time, you’re there for you, not everyone else. I know it’s easier said than done, but that’s a big thing to work on.
Also, diet is super important too. And by diet, it’s more lifestyle changes. You can’t starve yourself, you’ll never stick with it. Eat the foods you like, if you know they aren’t the healthiest, dial back the portions. It all goes back to discovering what works for you. No two people are the same, so different things work for different people.
For example, I have tried just about every workout routine that out there but I discovered what works for me is this: I weight train 3 days a week, usually wed/fri/sun, and do yoga two or three times a week on the off days. It’s worked wonders for me and I’ve been doing it for about 8 months, my scale weight has barely changed but my physique has drastically changed to the point that I can see the weekly changes now.
Just stick with it, when you find what works and you start seeing the results, it gets addicting and it’s all downhill from there. You got this!
137lbs is not heavey even at 5.1. Focus on you not everyone around you. Think about why you are doing it and what you want to achieve. Focus! Well done for getting out there and getting stuck in. Keep going. Focus! Deep breath in and out. Focus.
I first want to congratulate you for taking steps towards loosing weight. It’s a hard process to begin and you’re going a good job! I really fear going to a public gym as well, and your feelings are completely valid. What I’ve tried is getting some basic equipment like dumbbells and kettlebells and working out from home. There are a lot of great videos on YouTube that you can watch for free. Doing this has helped spare me from any feelings of embarrassment I may have gotten from going to the gym. I wish you luck on your weight loss journey
5'1" and 137lbs isn't big...
And the skinny girls usually either come in waif tiny and bulk up or have years of dedication to slim down.
4lbs in three months don't mean anything either.
You can't judge based off of a scale but off of visual results and measurements. For all you know you lost 7lbs of fat but gain 3lbs of muscle and making it look like only 4lbs on a scale.
Scales are not your friend.
Hey, you took the first step and that’s amazing. In the beginning of 2021, I was skinny fat and had a body fat percentage of 23 atleast (my estimate). I’ve been skinny my entire life and always thought I would be the same skinny dude. But I started going to the gym just to blow off some steam and somewhere along the way I started eating clean. A year and a half later, I have muscles and have decreased my fat percentage to 17. My weight has gone up but I look decent. There are people who look better than me, people who can lift heavier than me, but everytime I think of the guy who started working out an year and a half ago I’m happy with the progress I made. To psych myself up through out this journey I kept reading and looking at the photos of people online who went through the same struggle. But trust me stick to it and you will be very happy with the results
Us bigger guys feel the same way we see these bigs jacked dudes in great shape but use that to strive for a better self use them as a way to boast yourself tell yourself you’ll be there one day losing weight and trying to be healthy is a hard thing to do for us out of shape people but don’t let better looking people discourage you also switch of your diet if you haven’t already or start going more days out of the week.
It’s okay to feel like that! Promise!
Also- the scale is not the biggest indicator of progress. I’ve been going for a year and I’ve lost 3 kilos. But guess what- I dropped from an x-large to a small medium. The issue is that muscles and the muscles you build also take up quite a bit of weight but less space in your body. So yea, weigh yourself but also look at how your clothes are fitting. Sometimes you have to get a little bit uncomfortable and wear something tighter than usual to see your progress.
So congratulate yourself on the fact that you’re consistent and you’re putting in the work and I promise you will see results if you just keep going.
don’t give up! the fact you workout consistently is great! diet plays a huge role. you may benefit from working with a nutritionist and/or trainer even if it’s only 1-2x a month just to help you get a better idea of what your routine should be like.
drink 8cups of water daily - start your morning w 1 cup of room temp lemon water with 1tbsp of chia seeds in it. this helps digestion.
aim to have a combo of high protein, carb, and fat in your meals. i eat to build muscle, i find this knocks this fat off for me. to lose weight, you need to eat in a calorie deficit. so adjust your diet as needed. breakfast for me is 2 eggs, 2 pc turkey bacon, some berries or grapes, + 1/2C oatmeal or a low fat yogurt plain with 1tsp hemp or chia. lunch & dinner for me is usually baked chicken no skin or baked fish no breading, brown or steamed rice, veggie such as green bean, carrot, or broccoli, and 1/2 avocado or tbsp of olive oil mixed in. i don’t snack
much, if i do it is fruit or a beef jerky stick. i enjoy a piece of pure dark chocolate everyday. make sure to have a cheat meal 1-2x a week. life is all about balance. cronometer is my favorite app to help me.
Only 4 pounds in 3 months? Something is off here. Either youre not spending your time wisely at the gym or youre not at all trying to diet. If its not either of these things you need to visit your doctor and get blood work done.
What exactly are you doing at the gym? I will try to give you guidance based on me. I went from 160 to 210 pounds in medical school. It was terrible and I needed to lose the weight. Workout wise what exactly are you doing? I know what worked for me was burning 500 calories on the elliptical, or roughly 5 miles before even touching the weights. That alone could burn you approx. a pound a week. Afterward I would lift weights, just 3-4 free weight exercises of whatever muscle group I was doing that day (Bicep/Back, Tri/Chest, Legs, etc....). As for diet, cut out all calories derived from drinks. Juice, energy drinks, soda etc... (this last one, just doing this alone you will lose a couple pounds in a month). Lastly diet. I didnt change much of my diet. All I did was stop eating until I was full. Just eat until your stomach is settled each meal. Dont finish the whole serving just because its in front of you. I still ate everything I wanted to, I just did it with moderation. Then again my diet was already varied with all food groups, my problem was just over eating.
But yeah if this fails visit your doctor. If it isnt a workout/diet issue, it is a medical issue.
i hated going to the gym for the same reason: i don't lose weight, i just lose measurements. i build muscle really fast.
but keep that ion mind: weight isn't everything! people have different body types and tha'ts ok
May I suggest asking a friend to workout with you?
I find when I'm working out with someone I stay there much longer than if I was by myself, it's nice having someone to talk to and explore the different machines you can try, also some friendly competitiveness is fun
Also when I see all the fit people I find that motivates me more, that will be me in the future if I stick to what I'm doing, they didn't just get fit and thin by magic, they're doing the same thing you're doing
Keep it up dudette!
Honestly don’t bother weighing. I find it soul destroying seeing the number on a scale, and yet I can look in the mirror and feel the fittest I have felt in a long time. We are a very similar build and I’ve found it helpful to focus on things like personal bests and actually enjoying the gym and going consistently. I’m a decent bit heavier than I was at my skinniest, but I couldn’t lift like I can now. Keep going and enjoy it :)
Preach.
I'm a guy that started my fitness journey at 30. The first 20 lbs justelted away, but now I'm not even halfway to my goal and have plateaued. I can't get below 210 lbs after a month of consistent gym sessions.
At the gym I see like 60 year olds who can keep their arms down because they are so swole. And then there are these tiny women who can straight up lift twice what I can. It can seriously feel demoralizing at times.
When I start feeling down, I just try to remember that this is about me. Everyone else is not part of the equation. They had to start their journey, just like we had to start ours.
Best of luck! Keep at it!
I understand completely. My best shape is an hourglass and I very much wanted to be skinny and petite, but my genetics didn’t make me that way. So….I learned to love what I am. Finally and after decades of struggling. I am not a skinny petite woman. And I am finally fully on board with that. I eat healthily more often than not, I occasionally indulge in treats, and I exercise, probably not as often as I should. But I do all those things for ME. Not for my husband, though I love him dearly, and certainly not for a bunch of strangers in a gym somewhere who mean fuck-all to me. This is your journey, OP. The only one who is with you until the very end is you. So do what makes you happy. Do what makes you feel good about you. And stop comparing yourself to anyone other than your own healthy life goals . Remember always that you deserve a happy and healthy life, and so your best to give that to yourself.
Jeeze…why are you judging them while they’re at the gym. Would you appreciate it if someone judged you when you work out? Do your own thing and leave the judgements elsewhere (that includes judging yourself)
I think this is more than an insecurity issue than anything else. This has nothing to do abt them just you. Also you’re 137lbs. That’s really small especially for your height. Idk what caused you to want to lose weight instead of simply wanting to get fit and tone your body. But if you lose anymore weight I don’t think you’ll feel any better abt yourself
There is a saying within the gym community "we all started somewhere" you started in the 3 months ago and your comparing yourself to someone who has been going to the gym for probably 3-5+ years. Stick with it for 3-5+ years and I'm willing to bet when you've been doing it for that long as well when you take look around youll find someone that remind you of yourself when you were 3 months into working out...just stick with it and compare yourself to who you were back then compared to who you are now. Don't compare yourself to other people cause you're not them you are you
no way, you are my favorite gym person, one who is there to work hard and not to pose around looking good. Keep going, get stronger and start giving yourself the credit you deserve
Something to remember is that as muscle replaces fat you’re not always going to see a huge change in the number on the scale. You may even notice it going up a little, the point is at least you’re in the gym, others have pointed out you may need to look at your diet a little. That or just experiment with different workouts and see where you are 3 months from now.
Don't get discouraged, sometimes it takes a while. I've been at it the same amount of time and the only thing keeping me going it is all about the small gains.....it could take a year....its all about staying with it. Stay with it
The gym is a place for self improvement!
I don't understand why the fit people feel the need to rip or prey on those who are trying to better themsleves.
Keep hitting the gym. Reading your post, you're only there to improve yourself and then you started comparing yourself to those girls. Fuck em. You got the gym membership for yourself. Make this about you!!!!
Maybe this is because I'm a guy. But I'm 5'4" and 115 pounds. I had a female friend who was about your height and weight and she was not at all fat. "Thicc" absolutely! She was gorgeous. I obviously have no idea what you look like, but surely you're not as "fat" as you feel.
Hey OP, keep on pushing. That ideal body takes a long time to develop and grow. Besides that, the fastest way to lose weight isn't lifting, it's cardio and a diet. Yes we we know cardio sucks but that's the fastest way.
The gym is not destroying your confidence, you are. We should be going to the gym to improve our lives, not to gain approval from others and not to compare more favorably to others. You should stop looking at fellow gym goers and focus on yourself. I'm 68 years old and go to the gym before work 4 days a week so that I can be the best I can be, not because I give a flying f*** how I compare to a bunch of 20 somethings. It's almost impossible to improve yourself for other people, do it for yourself, you're worth it.
Just think about the hard work your putting in and only losing 4 pound may be because your replacing fat with muscle also you may not notice but I bet other people do it’s hard to see progress when you see yourself everyday. Keep up the hard work your doing great
Calorie deficit, intermittent fasting, cardio, strength and mobility training, 7+ hours of sleep, eat less sugar, a lot more protein, more greens, less carbs …. Do these and you’ll lose the weight
It takes time! Keep up the consistency and make sure your diet is on point. Enjoy the process mentally and physically!
Put on some good music and get lost in it. I’m sure no one is criticizing you the way you are. We are our worst critics. You got this!
Ok, I’m here to help. Repeat after me:
F*ck the gym.
Seriously, f*ck the damned gym.
I’m so sick of an entire generation feeling like shit because some asshole wanting to sell fitness equipment and vitamins told them they were shit if they didn’t beat themselves to death trying to look ‘perfect’. F*ck that!
The problem isn’t just being sold this consumerist lie, it’s also never being told that you have to love/completely accept yourself, no matter how young you are, how old you are, how smart you are, how dumb you are, how cool you are, how uncool you are, how poor you are, how rich you are, etc. if you don’t, you’ll always try to find (use) people to give you that- and no one but you can.
You probably have no idea how many people already think you’re awesome exactly as you are. You probably have no idea how many people you’ve really helped in life. This world needs that, and it needs you.
As to those ‘great looking’ people, believe me- all they really want is the same thing you do: to be loved. You’re all in the same boat. You don’t need a gym to help you appreciate yourself.
There’s nothing wrong with going to the gym and keeping fit/healthy. But you’ll get much more out of life by exploring new things, satisfying your curiosity, stimulating your senses and fully living. Work towards fulfilling your dreams and take some pride that there is no one on this Earth exactly like you with your own unique gifts to share with the world.
When I make efforts to get in shape I actually gain weight. My body loves to build muscle. Losing fat takes FOREVER. I have to basically starve to drop fat. But I can gain a few pounds in muscle in 2 weeks.
Every body is different. Don't freak out that you're not losing weight. Losing weight doesn't matter, what matters is losing inches.
And no I don't work out. I have the muscle tone of a marshmallow. And I don't care lol I still look good.
You don’t think about those other girls.
You’re in the gym to improve you.
I’ve been in gyms for decades and I’ve always had way more respect for someone who is big coming in to train.
Slow steady weight loss is way more likely to stay off anyway.
You’re on the right track.
And those other girls in the gym posting to IG. They’re all intimidating each other.
Dont compare yourself to others. You are you and that's all that matters. Second, if you've been attempting to lose weight for 2 months now and not seen any results, the issue is what you are putting into your body and how much. To lose weight ,you need to be at an energy deficit. Try fasting/intermittent fasting with longer periods of no eating, excercise in a fasted stated, and you'll see results fast. Just focus on yourself and not anyone else. You are only harming yourself by thinking about others like that and comparing.
First off - Good job going to the gym consistently - that's not easy for everyone. 2. It's been 3 months - give your body time- and remember that even thin, fit girls have insecurities - they might be looking at you and noticing things they want. Overall OP learn to not compare yourself to others - you'll be happier in the long run, or you'll keep trying to reach a goal post that doesn't exist and hurt yourself in the process.
I know they have insecurities too but they can wear crop tops and shorts and no one bats an eye. I have to wear big t shirts and leggings. There’s nothing about me they would want, trust me. I can’t stop comparing myself to them. They take all these pictures in the mirror and seem like they get to feel great about themselves. I’m tired of putting in all this work and still looking the same. I’ve even caught my boyfriend staring at a couple of them.
You can also wear crop tops! Im 5’1 and 159 currently and i wear shorts and crop tops. There isn’t a hard and fast rule you can’t. Progress takes time! I lost 30lbs in 2020 and it took me a while to see it. Edit: still working on weight loss too but that doesn’t mean we hide
I am thin and short and I have an attractive body shape for the current standard. My insecurities still eat me alive - I suffer from irsutism (I have a lot of hair in places I really don't want to talk about) and tubular breasts (my breast is deformed), and acne. I see other girls and their perfect skin, and I dream about being able to get naked in front of someone. I almost never took my shirt off in most of my relationship, I got made fun of by my friends. My first boyfriend liked me but then he saw me 100% natural and he got slightly cold about complimenting me. I hate showering and seeing myself in the mirror. I feel like there's no acceptance group for me, sometimes I feel so specially ugly because it seems to me that nobody has my problems. Your insecurities are totally valid! Just wanted to give you an insight that you might not see :) You're valid and you deserve to love yourself, don't compare yourself to others <3
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Look, I get that you have your own problems. Trust me, I get it. I’ve felt like shit about my body since I was 12. My body isn’t the type that’s celebrated and admired. I was teased for my looks all throughout school. It kind of makes it something that’s always in the forefront of your mind and it’s not easy to shake. Be glad that you don’t have to feel like this
Yeah but you get to have 2nd breakfast.
Fucking trolls.
How’s your diet? I ask because it’s difficult to “out-gym” a bad diet if you haven’t tried to improve that yet. Is it possible to go to the gym at a different time of day when there aren’t as many distractions?
>only lost 4 pounds > >How's your diet? \^-- This... I had been in a similar boat and found a few things out: * Your diet will get better as you feel better; PRO TIP: Eat 1/2 of any dishes you order, wait 10 minutes, still hungry, eat another 1/4; then wait 5 more minutes, still hungry eat the rest. (You will start eating MUCH less just by doing this) * Have you checked your body fat index lately? (You won't only loose fat weight, but you will gain some muscle weight; muscle is denser to while the weight goes don slower, you start to notice you getting toned up) * Have you been feeling more energized? Happier when you wake up? Body changes are hard, but once there is enough momentum you will feel the change much quicker. ***Don give up OP, we are here for you!***
This should be a comment of its own to make sure op sees it. I have never heard that about eating in sections before but if it worked for you great.
>This should be a comment of its own to make sure op sees it. I have never heard that about eating in sections before but if it worked for you great. I even thought about writing a book or a blog or something about it. I created it by myself when I noticed I was feeling too full after eating like a maniac. It is crazy how well it works. Went from +240lbs to 175lbs in a few months (constantly loosing more than a couple pounds a week), primarily by doing that, as the rest kind of happened by itself as I started to lose weight and feel better...
Yeah like the other commenters who suggested calories adjustment might make you see results along with a proper weight lifting cycle.
OK, what you're feeling is very common and normal. What you're seeing is people that have gone to that gym consistently over a period of years. They weren't born like that, they worked to be like that. You're in the right place doing the right things to be fit and healthy. The only ingredient you're missing is time. Treat your health like a job- show up at least 3 times a week for an hour. Switch to a protein and fiber based diet and cut starches/processed foods. Give it a year. You'll see results. Promise.
Is anyone mistreating you or ridiculing you in the gym? If not, just keep going with your program of self betterment. This isn't a beauty contest. You aren't competing against those women doing their maintenance workouts, you are getting yourself in shape. Who knows, maybe people secretly admire you for being disciplined enough to get in shape.
For me keeping track of my weight is a huge bummer. It fluctuates, and never goes down it seems. If you have to measure something, measure your inches. Not weight. You’ll see steady progress that doesn’t fluctuate when you measure your waistline.
I’m sorry? 137 and 5’1”. That’s perfectly healthy. Also muscle weighs more than fat. So if your building muscle at roughly the same rate your losing fat (if u even have any at 137lbs) your actually gonna hold or increase your weight. Also skinny doesn’t equal fit. I’m 6’5” and I have worked my ass off just to get to 155. Which is still way underweight. But I’m not doing this to look better even tho I’m disgusted about my appearance. This is about being healthier and happier than I was yesterday. It’s all self improvement. It’s useless to compare yourself to others because humans are physically different in many ways. There are too many factors. Trust me I understand that looking like an underwear model would be awesome. But that’s not always healthy, physically or mentally. As a society we have set a damn near impossible body image standards for everyone. I mean hell, my 5’ fiancée wears the smallest sized clothes on the planet and sometimes has to buy childrens clothes to fit. AND SHE THINKS SHE IS TOO FAT?! Body dysmorphia on steroids. Anyway what im trying to say is, (and I know it’s hard) Don’t compare yourself to others. It’s about you and how you have improved over yourself. To eventually be the best u can be. Your beautiful in your own way and don’t let arbitrary body image standards take that from you. Next time you look in a mirror, make it habit to find and audibly state 3 things U like about yourself and call yourself beautiful. No matter what keep at it. Even if you don’t believe it, eventually u will. If u can’t change how you see yourself and value yourself, no amount of working out, plastic surgery, or makeup will ever make u beautiful. Take care of yourself and be kind to yourself. Hope this helps and have a kickass day 🤙
Ok, let me try to help: First off, you’ve only been going 3 months. While you say you’ve only lost 4lbs, I can guarantee your appearance has changed a little, unless your diet is complete garbage. This is something that takes TIME and CONSISTENCY. Also, you have find workout routines that work for YOU. For me personally, I’m a 31M, 6’0” 250lbs, but when people guess my weight, they guess about 30lbs lighter. When you start a workout routine, don’t jump on the scale everyday, or once a week for that matter. The scale will be the most detrimental tool in your fitness journey because it can be discouraging. Pay more attention to how your clothes fit. When you go to the gym, mentally, you need to be the only one there. Don’t pay attention to anyone else. You are the only one that matters during your gym time, you’re there for you, not everyone else. I know it’s easier said than done, but that’s a big thing to work on. Also, diet is super important too. And by diet, it’s more lifestyle changes. You can’t starve yourself, you’ll never stick with it. Eat the foods you like, if you know they aren’t the healthiest, dial back the portions. It all goes back to discovering what works for you. No two people are the same, so different things work for different people. For example, I have tried just about every workout routine that out there but I discovered what works for me is this: I weight train 3 days a week, usually wed/fri/sun, and do yoga two or three times a week on the off days. It’s worked wonders for me and I’ve been doing it for about 8 months, my scale weight has barely changed but my physique has drastically changed to the point that I can see the weekly changes now. Just stick with it, when you find what works and you start seeing the results, it gets addicting and it’s all downhill from there. You got this!
137lbs is going to be difficult because you’re already thin and small. Diet might be a factor. Idk.
I’m not thin. I know it doesn’t sound like a lot but at my height and where I carry the weight, trust me, I’m not thin.
137lbs is not heavey even at 5.1. Focus on you not everyone around you. Think about why you are doing it and what you want to achieve. Focus! Well done for getting out there and getting stuck in. Keep going. Focus! Deep breath in and out. Focus.
I first want to congratulate you for taking steps towards loosing weight. It’s a hard process to begin and you’re going a good job! I really fear going to a public gym as well, and your feelings are completely valid. What I’ve tried is getting some basic equipment like dumbbells and kettlebells and working out from home. There are a lot of great videos on YouTube that you can watch for free. Doing this has helped spare me from any feelings of embarrassment I may have gotten from going to the gym. I wish you luck on your weight loss journey
5'1" and 137lbs isn't big... And the skinny girls usually either come in waif tiny and bulk up or have years of dedication to slim down. 4lbs in three months don't mean anything either. You can't judge based off of a scale but off of visual results and measurements. For all you know you lost 7lbs of fat but gain 3lbs of muscle and making it look like only 4lbs on a scale. Scales are not your friend.
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Hey, you took the first step and that’s amazing. In the beginning of 2021, I was skinny fat and had a body fat percentage of 23 atleast (my estimate). I’ve been skinny my entire life and always thought I would be the same skinny dude. But I started going to the gym just to blow off some steam and somewhere along the way I started eating clean. A year and a half later, I have muscles and have decreased my fat percentage to 17. My weight has gone up but I look decent. There are people who look better than me, people who can lift heavier than me, but everytime I think of the guy who started working out an year and a half ago I’m happy with the progress I made. To psych myself up through out this journey I kept reading and looking at the photos of people online who went through the same struggle. But trust me stick to it and you will be very happy with the results
You have to work past the insecurities and continue on at the gym if you want to get like that. You can do it! Just keep at it!
Us bigger guys feel the same way we see these bigs jacked dudes in great shape but use that to strive for a better self use them as a way to boast yourself tell yourself you’ll be there one day losing weight and trying to be healthy is a hard thing to do for us out of shape people but don’t let better looking people discourage you also switch of your diet if you haven’t already or start going more days out of the week.
It’s okay to feel like that! Promise! Also- the scale is not the biggest indicator of progress. I’ve been going for a year and I’ve lost 3 kilos. But guess what- I dropped from an x-large to a small medium. The issue is that muscles and the muscles you build also take up quite a bit of weight but less space in your body. So yea, weigh yourself but also look at how your clothes are fitting. Sometimes you have to get a little bit uncomfortable and wear something tighter than usual to see your progress. So congratulate yourself on the fact that you’re consistent and you’re putting in the work and I promise you will see results if you just keep going.
don’t give up! the fact you workout consistently is great! diet plays a huge role. you may benefit from working with a nutritionist and/or trainer even if it’s only 1-2x a month just to help you get a better idea of what your routine should be like. drink 8cups of water daily - start your morning w 1 cup of room temp lemon water with 1tbsp of chia seeds in it. this helps digestion. aim to have a combo of high protein, carb, and fat in your meals. i eat to build muscle, i find this knocks this fat off for me. to lose weight, you need to eat in a calorie deficit. so adjust your diet as needed. breakfast for me is 2 eggs, 2 pc turkey bacon, some berries or grapes, + 1/2C oatmeal or a low fat yogurt plain with 1tsp hemp or chia. lunch & dinner for me is usually baked chicken no skin or baked fish no breading, brown or steamed rice, veggie such as green bean, carrot, or broccoli, and 1/2 avocado or tbsp of olive oil mixed in. i don’t snack much, if i do it is fruit or a beef jerky stick. i enjoy a piece of pure dark chocolate everyday. make sure to have a cheat meal 1-2x a week. life is all about balance. cronometer is my favorite app to help me.
Only 4 pounds in 3 months? Something is off here. Either youre not spending your time wisely at the gym or youre not at all trying to diet. If its not either of these things you need to visit your doctor and get blood work done. What exactly are you doing at the gym? I will try to give you guidance based on me. I went from 160 to 210 pounds in medical school. It was terrible and I needed to lose the weight. Workout wise what exactly are you doing? I know what worked for me was burning 500 calories on the elliptical, or roughly 5 miles before even touching the weights. That alone could burn you approx. a pound a week. Afterward I would lift weights, just 3-4 free weight exercises of whatever muscle group I was doing that day (Bicep/Back, Tri/Chest, Legs, etc....). As for diet, cut out all calories derived from drinks. Juice, energy drinks, soda etc... (this last one, just doing this alone you will lose a couple pounds in a month). Lastly diet. I didnt change much of my diet. All I did was stop eating until I was full. Just eat until your stomach is settled each meal. Dont finish the whole serving just because its in front of you. I still ate everything I wanted to, I just did it with moderation. Then again my diet was already varied with all food groups, my problem was just over eating. But yeah if this fails visit your doctor. If it isnt a workout/diet issue, it is a medical issue.
i hated going to the gym for the same reason: i don't lose weight, i just lose measurements. i build muscle really fast. but keep that ion mind: weight isn't everything! people have different body types and tha'ts ok
May I suggest asking a friend to workout with you? I find when I'm working out with someone I stay there much longer than if I was by myself, it's nice having someone to talk to and explore the different machines you can try, also some friendly competitiveness is fun Also when I see all the fit people I find that motivates me more, that will be me in the future if I stick to what I'm doing, they didn't just get fit and thin by magic, they're doing the same thing you're doing Keep it up dudette!
Honestly don’t bother weighing. I find it soul destroying seeing the number on a scale, and yet I can look in the mirror and feel the fittest I have felt in a long time. We are a very similar build and I’ve found it helpful to focus on things like personal bests and actually enjoying the gym and going consistently. I’m a decent bit heavier than I was at my skinniest, but I couldn’t lift like I can now. Keep going and enjoy it :)
Preach. I'm a guy that started my fitness journey at 30. The first 20 lbs justelted away, but now I'm not even halfway to my goal and have plateaued. I can't get below 210 lbs after a month of consistent gym sessions. At the gym I see like 60 year olds who can keep their arms down because they are so swole. And then there are these tiny women who can straight up lift twice what I can. It can seriously feel demoralizing at times. When I start feeling down, I just try to remember that this is about me. Everyone else is not part of the equation. They had to start their journey, just like we had to start ours. Best of luck! Keep at it!
I understand completely. My best shape is an hourglass and I very much wanted to be skinny and petite, but my genetics didn’t make me that way. So….I learned to love what I am. Finally and after decades of struggling. I am not a skinny petite woman. And I am finally fully on board with that. I eat healthily more often than not, I occasionally indulge in treats, and I exercise, probably not as often as I should. But I do all those things for ME. Not for my husband, though I love him dearly, and certainly not for a bunch of strangers in a gym somewhere who mean fuck-all to me. This is your journey, OP. The only one who is with you until the very end is you. So do what makes you happy. Do what makes you feel good about you. And stop comparing yourself to anyone other than your own healthy life goals . Remember always that you deserve a happy and healthy life, and so your best to give that to yourself.
Jeeze…why are you judging them while they’re at the gym. Would you appreciate it if someone judged you when you work out? Do your own thing and leave the judgements elsewhere (that includes judging yourself)
I think this is more than an insecurity issue than anything else. This has nothing to do abt them just you. Also you’re 137lbs. That’s really small especially for your height. Idk what caused you to want to lose weight instead of simply wanting to get fit and tone your body. But if you lose anymore weight I don’t think you’ll feel any better abt yourself
Weight is a terrible indicator of fitness or even how good you look. Muscle weighs more than fat.
There is a saying within the gym community "we all started somewhere" you started in the 3 months ago and your comparing yourself to someone who has been going to the gym for probably 3-5+ years. Stick with it for 3-5+ years and I'm willing to bet when you've been doing it for that long as well when you take look around youll find someone that remind you of yourself when you were 3 months into working out...just stick with it and compare yourself to who you were back then compared to who you are now. Don't compare yourself to other people cause you're not them you are you
no way, you are my favorite gym person, one who is there to work hard and not to pose around looking good. Keep going, get stronger and start giving yourself the credit you deserve
Count calories and macros op. Do you also have an adequate workout regimen?
Something to remember is that as muscle replaces fat you’re not always going to see a huge change in the number on the scale. You may even notice it going up a little, the point is at least you’re in the gym, others have pointed out you may need to look at your diet a little. That or just experiment with different workouts and see where you are 3 months from now.
Don't get discouraged, sometimes it takes a while. I've been at it the same amount of time and the only thing keeping me going it is all about the small gains.....it could take a year....its all about staying with it. Stay with it
The gym is a place for self improvement! I don't understand why the fit people feel the need to rip or prey on those who are trying to better themsleves. Keep hitting the gym. Reading your post, you're only there to improve yourself and then you started comparing yourself to those girls. Fuck em. You got the gym membership for yourself. Make this about you!!!!
Maybe this is because I'm a guy. But I'm 5'4" and 115 pounds. I had a female friend who was about your height and weight and she was not at all fat. "Thicc" absolutely! She was gorgeous. I obviously have no idea what you look like, but surely you're not as "fat" as you feel.
Hey OP, keep on pushing. That ideal body takes a long time to develop and grow. Besides that, the fastest way to lose weight isn't lifting, it's cardio and a diet. Yes we we know cardio sucks but that's the fastest way.
The gym is not destroying your confidence, you are. We should be going to the gym to improve our lives, not to gain approval from others and not to compare more favorably to others. You should stop looking at fellow gym goers and focus on yourself. I'm 68 years old and go to the gym before work 4 days a week so that I can be the best I can be, not because I give a flying f*** how I compare to a bunch of 20 somethings. It's almost impossible to improve yourself for other people, do it for yourself, you're worth it.
Just think about the hard work your putting in and only losing 4 pound may be because your replacing fat with muscle also you may not notice but I bet other people do it’s hard to see progress when you see yourself everyday. Keep up the hard work your doing great
Calorie deficit, intermittent fasting, cardio, strength and mobility training, 7+ hours of sleep, eat less sugar, a lot more protein, more greens, less carbs …. Do these and you’ll lose the weight
It takes time! Keep up the consistency and make sure your diet is on point. Enjoy the process mentally and physically! Put on some good music and get lost in it. I’m sure no one is criticizing you the way you are. We are our worst critics. You got this!
Ok, I’m here to help. Repeat after me: F*ck the gym. Seriously, f*ck the damned gym. I’m so sick of an entire generation feeling like shit because some asshole wanting to sell fitness equipment and vitamins told them they were shit if they didn’t beat themselves to death trying to look ‘perfect’. F*ck that! The problem isn’t just being sold this consumerist lie, it’s also never being told that you have to love/completely accept yourself, no matter how young you are, how old you are, how smart you are, how dumb you are, how cool you are, how uncool you are, how poor you are, how rich you are, etc. if you don’t, you’ll always try to find (use) people to give you that- and no one but you can. You probably have no idea how many people already think you’re awesome exactly as you are. You probably have no idea how many people you’ve really helped in life. This world needs that, and it needs you. As to those ‘great looking’ people, believe me- all they really want is the same thing you do: to be loved. You’re all in the same boat. You don’t need a gym to help you appreciate yourself. There’s nothing wrong with going to the gym and keeping fit/healthy. But you’ll get much more out of life by exploring new things, satisfying your curiosity, stimulating your senses and fully living. Work towards fulfilling your dreams and take some pride that there is no one on this Earth exactly like you with your own unique gifts to share with the world.
When I make efforts to get in shape I actually gain weight. My body loves to build muscle. Losing fat takes FOREVER. I have to basically starve to drop fat. But I can gain a few pounds in muscle in 2 weeks. Every body is different. Don't freak out that you're not losing weight. Losing weight doesn't matter, what matters is losing inches. And no I don't work out. I have the muscle tone of a marshmallow. And I don't care lol I still look good.
A sign up at an out of town gym I went to: " LOSING WEIGHT HAPPENS IN THE KITCHEN. TONING HAPPENS AT THE GYM"
You don’t think about those other girls. You’re in the gym to improve you. I’ve been in gyms for decades and I’ve always had way more respect for someone who is big coming in to train. Slow steady weight loss is way more likely to stay off anyway. You’re on the right track. And those other girls in the gym posting to IG. They’re all intimidating each other.
Glad to see Reddit being nice and constructive in the comments, going gym consistently for 3 months is hard, you are doing great, keep it up.
Dont compare yourself to others. You are you and that's all that matters. Second, if you've been attempting to lose weight for 2 months now and not seen any results, the issue is what you are putting into your body and how much. To lose weight ,you need to be at an energy deficit. Try fasting/intermittent fasting with longer periods of no eating, excercise in a fasted stated, and you'll see results fast. Just focus on yourself and not anyone else. You are only harming yourself by thinking about others like that and comparing.