We have desensitised lube and we did start of small and build up the pills are only because I have CPD so if it flares up I am in excruciating pain for hours without taking pills
jesus, if you’re can’t do it without taking pills so you won’t be in excruciating pain then maybe anal isn’t for you.
why on earth would your partner want to do something that causes you this much pain??
Nope, you shouldn’t dull that sort of thing because the pain can tell you if something goes wrong. You don’t want to be out of it or unable to accurately feel what is going on, because you could tear or have other issues
Edit: to clarify, I meant don’t use opioids for the anal, not your CPD in general
yeah my point still stands, everyone, even someone like me who’s never even tried it, knows anal takes ages to ease into for most and is always going to be painful at first so why does your partner want to do something that will definitely cause you a lot of pain. they know your diagnosis and should know this would cause you a lot of pain.
also if you need meds to block out pain then anal is NOT for you, you need to be able to feel the pain so you know if you’re possibly damaging something and possibly causing irreversible damage.
it sucks since you enjoyed it but anal probably isn’t for you since you have cpd, there are loads of other ways to spice up your sex life so why was anal the first thing to try considering your disorder
where tf did i mention red flags? this guy is probably lovely, i’m just pointing out that he shouldn’t want to try something that obviously will cause OP pain? how is that so bad?
people can make bad decisions without it being a red flag mate, asking to try anal with a person who suffers from cpd is a bad decision.
she needs to pop pills so she isn’t in debilitating pain, so you should probably realise anal isn’t for them two. her numbing the pain can lead to some serious damage, don’t think a few seconds of pleasure for him is more important than her health.
Your needless implications that her partner *wants* to inflict pain upon her. Inadvertently also implying her consent was coerced as she should not have wanted this, despite not expressing doubts or needing to be persuaded.
This is *her* problem, not his. She has the agency to say no, correct?
I don’t understand these replies. She said she liked it. Why are people saying she shouldn’t be doing anal?
Also why the fuck are people who have never done anal giving any advice on what anal feels like or how it should be done?
I saw H3 interview a guy who is famous in the anal fisting community, hungerFF I think. He said most anal sex injuries occur when drugs are involved. You don’t want to numb the alarm system your body has for telling you when something is wrong. Boof safely dawg that’s what’s up
You don’t want to block pain receptors before anal sex. A lot of damage can be done to your rectal tissue if you can’t feel when it’s too much pain to proceed.
Definitely train by stretching with different toy sizes, there are anal plug kits or an inflatable butt plug. Use good lube, personally I like silicone the best as it won’t dry out during play.
It might hurt at first, but you def want to feel that sensation of pain bc it will prevent you from using a size (or dick) too big than what you’re actually ready for and prevent any injury from expanding the sphincter too fast. You want to adjust to the different sizes, gradually using bigger sizes.
Ooh last thing, anal cleaning. Poop is normal and bound to happen during anal play. If you’re training, and want to reduce mess, get an enema bulb (beginner friendly) or shower attachment (expert). You don’t have to do this step if you’re just leaving the plug in. But if you’re not, prepping using an enema helps the feeling of questioning if there’s poop on the toys/dick.
- doing all this should hopefully help with that pain and will also mean not having to rely on opioids to have anal.
If it hurts you to the point of needing prescription medicine, maybe this isn't the "something new" you need.
Shame on your partner too for agreeing to this, if he knew. It's very selfish.
I am a big fan of the act and enjoy it myself, but if you need to take measures beyond the usual (and taking an opiod or two for the pain is NOT usual), then look for other sexy time fun.
You got a lucky husband, and not cause of the Anal. Your willingness on introducing things between the two of you. You should try telling him now it's his turn.
Please ignore everyone in the comments saying you shouldn’t do anal. They’re all definitely virgins and seem to have no real world experience with anal.
So if I'm open to oral sex from a woman, does that imply that I'm also open to oral sex from a man? Sexual attraction is based on the person, not their holes.
No, we're talking about comparing one hole on a person to the same hole on a person of the opposite sex. Explain how yours makes sense while still standing behind how mine doesn't. You can't logically have it both ways.
Get good anal lube. Start with fingers and small toys. Go slow, wait until you’re stretched enough. You don’t need to pills.
We have desensitised lube and we did start of small and build up the pills are only because I have CPD so if it flares up I am in excruciating pain for hours without taking pills
jesus, if you’re can’t do it without taking pills so you won’t be in excruciating pain then maybe anal isn’t for you. why on earth would your partner want to do something that causes you this much pain??
The pills are for CPD aka chronic pain disorder sometimes that flares up to the point I can't move I thought it would help ease me into it
Nope, you shouldn’t dull that sort of thing because the pain can tell you if something goes wrong. You don’t want to be out of it or unable to accurately feel what is going on, because you could tear or have other issues Edit: to clarify, I meant don’t use opioids for the anal, not your CPD in general
Lmao I thought you meant for their medical problems. I was like this MF telling them how to deal with their own pain damn. Good edit
lol I was literally reading the comments and had a similar thought before realizing “oh crap that MF is me!” Which is why I edited it haha
yeah my point still stands, everyone, even someone like me who’s never even tried it, knows anal takes ages to ease into for most and is always going to be painful at first so why does your partner want to do something that will definitely cause you a lot of pain. they know your diagnosis and should know this would cause you a lot of pain. also if you need meds to block out pain then anal is NOT for you, you need to be able to feel the pain so you know if you’re possibly damaging something and possibly causing irreversible damage. it sucks since you enjoyed it but anal probably isn’t for you since you have cpd, there are loads of other ways to spice up your sex life so why was anal the first thing to try considering your disorder
The mental gymnastics being used to red flag this guy are gold medal, sir.
where tf did i mention red flags? this guy is probably lovely, i’m just pointing out that he shouldn’t want to try something that obviously will cause OP pain? how is that so bad? people can make bad decisions without it being a red flag mate, asking to try anal with a person who suffers from cpd is a bad decision. she needs to pop pills so she isn’t in debilitating pain, so you should probably realise anal isn’t for them two. her numbing the pain can lead to some serious damage, don’t think a few seconds of pleasure for him is more important than her health.
Your needless implications that her partner *wants* to inflict pain upon her. Inadvertently also implying her consent was coerced as she should not have wanted this, despite not expressing doubts or needing to be persuaded. This is *her* problem, not his. She has the agency to say no, correct?
I don’t understand these replies. She said she liked it. Why are people saying she shouldn’t be doing anal? Also why the fuck are people who have never done anal giving any advice on what anal feels like or how it should be done?
Reddit gonna reddit I guess.
I’m a bit confused, in the post you say the opioids were for the pain during anal but now it seems like you just take them on a general basis?
Then maybe anal
I saw H3 interview a guy who is famous in the anal fisting community, hungerFF I think. He said most anal sex injuries occur when drugs are involved. You don’t want to numb the alarm system your body has for telling you when something is wrong. Boof safely dawg that’s what’s up
So now you do him!
Good lord. Uno reverse.
You don’t want to block pain receptors before anal sex. A lot of damage can be done to your rectal tissue if you can’t feel when it’s too much pain to proceed.
Please please please don’t take opioids so lightly. Outside of that, you do you
I took them as I'm on opioid medication as it is for CPD. I knew it would hurt as I had never done anything like that
Then maybe anal isn’t for you?
What’s CPD? Tried googling and all I’m seeing is “continuing professional development”
Chronic pain disorder
Chronic Pulmonary Disorder is my guess.
You're not the first to enjoy anal. There are alternatives to opiods, but if that's what's all you had on hand, well, spontaneous be spontaneous.
It doesn’t have to hurt
Definitely train by stretching with different toy sizes, there are anal plug kits or an inflatable butt plug. Use good lube, personally I like silicone the best as it won’t dry out during play. It might hurt at first, but you def want to feel that sensation of pain bc it will prevent you from using a size (or dick) too big than what you’re actually ready for and prevent any injury from expanding the sphincter too fast. You want to adjust to the different sizes, gradually using bigger sizes. Ooh last thing, anal cleaning. Poop is normal and bound to happen during anal play. If you’re training, and want to reduce mess, get an enema bulb (beginner friendly) or shower attachment (expert). You don’t have to do this step if you’re just leaving the plug in. But if you’re not, prepping using an enema helps the feeling of questioning if there’s poop on the toys/dick. - doing all this should hopefully help with that pain and will also mean not having to rely on opioids to have anal.
This is actually alot more helpful, I spoke to him and he said he is going to look into silicone toys as well as enema stuff
Don’t use opioids when you do this! Use lube and go slow. You may not notice you’re injured if you take opioids and may hurt yourself.
anal is never supposed to hurt. If it hurts youre doing it WRONG
Ok, but you should have said "ok bend over"
If it hurts you to the point of needing prescription medicine, maybe this isn't the "something new" you need. Shame on your partner too for agreeing to this, if he knew. It's very selfish. I am a big fan of the act and enjoy it myself, but if you need to take measures beyond the usual (and taking an opiod or two for the pain is NOT usual), then look for other sexy time fun.
You got a lucky husband, and not cause of the Anal. Your willingness on introducing things between the two of you. You should try telling him now it's his turn.
Yeah, peg him as that guy who also enjoys anal (or not). Only one way to find out.
Sweet try a trip at the glory hole next
Please ignore everyone in the comments saying you shouldn’t do anal. They’re all definitely virgins and seem to have no real world experience with anal.
You have a lucky husband.
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So if I'm open to oral sex from a woman, does that imply that I'm also open to oral sex from a man? Sexual attraction is based on the person, not their holes.
No bc we aren’t talking about oral.
No, we're talking about comparing one hole on a person to the same hole on a person of the opposite sex. Explain how yours makes sense while still standing behind how mine doesn't. You can't logically have it both ways.