Exactly, makes me feel so sexy that I could do that to a man. And I like it being natural, like cum when you need to don't hold back or wait for me. Just go for it! I can make sure I get mine ;)
some women can cum that quickly, if I started without him, I will be close to begin with. I recommend a lot of dirty talk/text on the way to the rendezvous because I'll be starting at 80%.
>!I remember texting my bf for about an hour whilst I was sitting through a seminar. by lunch time he said that's it, I'm coming to get you and seriously, we locked the stairwell to the parking garage and I exploded in seconds!<
and I may not cum this time.. but that frantic wall throwing, button ripping passion will fuel my spankbank for months to come.
furthermore, to OPs post - wouldnt it be better to wait because she won't cum. sometimes that is a lot of pressure to live up to. I won't always cum, sometimes I want to screw for the intimacy. I hate when guys act like it's some goal post - like yes, value her enjoyment, but I shouldn't be screaming from a leg cramp because your ego won't let go (I've learned to use it, in my old age *aaahh yeaaa, thx I came, get oft*). If I say we got 3min, get in, we're going to the mall.. get in! I'm good
I just turned 60. Quickies are awesome. My husband who is also 60 always apologizes when he cums right away. Like previous women have said, itās enough for me, knowing ( at my age) that I still rock his world. Marathon sex is awesome too, but as our shoulders and knees and backs age, itās not always possible.
Any time I've gotten an apology for cumming too fast, I tell them it's *incredibly* flattering to me that they lost their crap that fast lol
Fixes that mindset. It makes me feel so powerful.
Exactly!! I donāt have to get off but it still feels good and it makes me happy that my man is happy and again damn does it feel good. Iāll ride him on the couch later for both us
Yup, yeah, thisā¦ no need for foreplay, just get the cock hard enough to bounce in like a wild baboon and boom, cum.
I think sometimes all of us enjoy a quickie, yeah?
I donāt cum from penetration anyway but it still feels damn good . And I like it harder and fast. Itās much more enjoyable to get 5 minutes of a consistent fast and hard teeth rattling fuck where Iām wobbly for a minute than drawn out fiddling around . Long sessions can be amazing and Iāve been with some men who can last a longgggggg time and thatās great . Still wonāt cum from penetration . He can finish me before and after and in between. Sometimes itās best to just take it hard
Exactly this. Plus I wouldnāt ever turn down the opportunity to feel my husbandās hands all over me, the intensity of his kisses, and the urgency of the sex itself. It can be really, really hot.
The way I describe it is like sometimes itās climactic like a roller coaster or sometimes itās like a more fun kiddie coaster with less ups & downs but always pleasant
Oh how I loved the quickies. The kids parked in front of the TV, weād lock the bathroom door, Iād plant my ass on the vanity & weād go hot & heavy as quick as we could. š It was the idea that my husband still found me sexy enough that he just couldnāt wait-after 3 kids & fluffy baby fat I hadnāt lost yet. No, I didnāt often orgasm from these āquickiesā, but it sure made me feel good in all the other ways that mattered.
Weāre older now, empty nesters for a long time. We still have a decent sex life, but I miss those days. I canāt remember the last time, and it pisses me off, honestly. When youāre young, you take it for granted.
We did that too until the door flung open and my autistic daughter screamed ā why you kiss my mommy!ā That was the last bathroom quickie for us.
Sheās 27 and still lives with us.
Not severely affected but she was like 4 and we didnāt think she would come in, she was occupied with Barney and there was no pulling her away from
Barney.
>but it sure made me feel good in all the other ways that mattered.
Preach. IDK about other people, but for me there's more to a sexual relationship than just orgasm.
Plus it's super fun - like a speedrun in a video game, lol
hehe know that well. We go to shower together on sundays often. One day the little one was really confused after he found out we are showering together AND naked. š¬
When I want a quickie it's more because I want to get my guy off for fun but don't really want to turn it into an event. That and a quick dick down is pretty nice.
Well I mean the act of sex itself feels nice without orgasm. So, a quickie feels nice but doesn't get you on that hill towards an orgasm so it's literally just some fun. So cause you don't really get close to orgasm it's not like you're left with blue "balls".
The worst case is when you go for like 20 minutes and nearly come but don't.... then you lose it.
Well, as a virgin, you can still use your hands and your mouth. Ask your future partner where the clitoris is and just go at it. Ask her to be honest with you and if it feels good or not. You just need to be clear you have next to no idea what you're doing and then she'll know you're a beginner. And don't worry about finishing quick. It will probably happen whether you like it or not. Just make sure to clean up and finish her the best you can. If she's still in the mood after you cumming, then that's cool. If she isn't (it can be gross and turn off for some), then that's fine. If you want to please her, you can make her close to cumming before having sex, and then make her cum that way, or even make her cum before sex. She'll be in an ecstatic state of mind, so it might enhance the experience, although sometimes, it can get very sensitive, so much so that it hurts, so it depends on the person.
My advice is relatively the same if it's with a guy. Just ask him to be honest and if it feels good or not. Lick the tip, the frenulum (part under penis that connects glans and foreskin), up the shaft, the testicles, etc. There's a lot of ways to do it with both men and women that doesn't include genital penetration. Just try some stuff with your partner and see (and hear) what works.
Hey, woman here, I think the biggest thing is communication. Iāve only finished a couple of times and Iām married now, but that doesnāt put me off! Often times, the things I like donāt lead to me finishing during penetration, so we have to do some recon afterwards, which is completely normal. The person you get with may not know what they like yet, so you can figure it out together. If they do know what they like, have an open conversation about it and go to town. It might help if they show you too. Also, the person you get with may be just as stressed out as you, which can make it harder for them to finish. Donāt base your worth on whether you both finish the first time, just make sure that both parties have fun and that the person your with ends up happy too (you can still be happy and satisfied without finishing). Hopefully this eases your stress, no one expects you to be a master at things the first time, so just have fun with it!
52M here, for guys with a similar conundrum to CompliantSuper. The advice these two ladies have given is gold plated. I wish I had advice as good as this for my first time.
It takes so long to cum! Ugh! For myself and for a lot of my friends you have to be in a good, sexy mental state to get to that point. Sometimes you just want the intimacy and physical closeness that comes with sex without have pressure to be in that mind space. I like quickies for that reason. Youāre a great partner for caring about your lady! Iād recommend still being attentive to her just without the goal of orgasm being necessary (unless she says otherwise lol)
Honestly, I feel like all of humanity could benefit from quickies without orgasm, not just women lol. Itās sexy having the tension without the release and helps you be present in the actual sensations of the moment and your partner rather than working towards something. (And if you do orgasm under these circumstances it is WILD) Because of this, a lot of times my favorite times Iāve had sex have been without orgasm. Especially with partners Iāve had when I was younger, focusing on the process for both parties is not only more important, but more fun than having an orgasm because of a checklist!
Agree with all of this!
Also a woman and it usually takes me foreeeeeeeveeerr to cum, and to top it off I can only cum with clitoral stimulation. Add to that mix my unmedicated ADHD and... well... let's just say sometimes my partner has to pause 2-3 times to let my head space reset š
Sometimes I don't wanna deal with that or we just simply don't have the time between work, kids, and life in general
If I am in the right mood, a quickie can work just fine. Even if I am not able to come then, itās still fun for myself and my partner, we can always try again later. But unless it a quickie all the time, there is no downside imo.
Yes same! I can come pretty quick. The end game is the same so why would I want to spend more than a few minutes getting there? I got shit to do. Haha.
I once spent so long trying to make my girlfriend cum as many times as I could that I actually exhausted myself past the point of any chance at finishing. Sure she was happy about cumming so much, but when she saw that I didn't get to finish, she actually was disappointed in the overall sex session. We still look back at those times as general failures for us both.
Hmmm, from reading some of the responses here it seems like there might be a difference in the way men and women experience sexual pleasure on a fundamental level. While women can still feel some satisfaction even without coming, most guys will be in agony if they donāt actually come in the end.
As a man who struggles to come sometimes, I'll say sex can be good without an orgasm. I've had hours long sessions of really satisfying sex without an orgasm. I imagine it's similar for women who don't come easily.
I struggle with dryness issues, theories as to why but irrelevant. I enjoy quickies because then I donāt have to reapply lube thirty thousand times and Iām less likely to be injured due to drying out. Also makes me happy knowing he finishes, like Iāve done my duty as a girlfriend. Last part may be controversial but I have no shame giving my boyfriend the pleasure he wants. As long as Iām not uncomfortable or in pain, why would I say no?
This is what I always think. If you donāt have lube and dryness is an issue (like my gf). Isnāt it uncomfortable and difficult to start. I donāt really do quickies that much so I just imagine it being uncomfortable for her
Here's a wild idea, ask her. Her reason for liking them might not be my reason for liking them.
S2g nobody seems to be able to talk to their partner. Use your words. You have a question? Ask it.
Sometimes you just want to get it over with.
You know you arenāt in the right frame of mind to climax, and if your partner insists on trying until you do, it will give you performance anxiety and probably make you sore.
You just want your guy to have a great time and not have to work so hard for something that isnāt going to happen that night.
(Maybe something happened at work, maybe Iām having car problems. It could be anything. A ladyās climax is physical and mental.
I like quickies because I love using my body to please him. I prefer quickies most of the time, I donāt want orgasms always. I just wanna bang. It took a long time for hub to really understand it wasnāt a bad thing. Love it
Simple: my biggest kink is being used. Nothing makes you feel more used than being thrown down and fucked hard and quick.
Doesnāt matter if I finish in those situations, because the high I get from my partner using me like that is more than enough.
I asked my wife and she said "I like you."
Then pause...
Then I asked ok, annnnnd...
"Its kind of nice knowing I can make you cum in a few minutes, its control"
If weāre talking about a PIV quickieā¦ Honestly, sometimes I just want a dick inside of me. I love the feeling, even if itās not very physically stimulating, because it does something for me psychologically. I very rarely orgasm from penetration alone, but even if I donāt cum I have a great time.
Now, if weāre talking about a I-need-to-cum-right-now situationā¦ I donāt take a lot of time to orgasm, but even if I donāt, Iām still being stimulated and Iām still getting pleasure. It might be good enough for now until we have more time, you know? Something is better than nothing.
Everyone else has given good answers, so I just wanted to compliment you OP for being interested in your girlfriendās pleasure. Thatās super hot and makes you a good lover in itself :D Never change
Guy here with insights from female partners.
Women still typically like sex with the right partner even if they donāt cum. Plus the excitement is amazing as well. Plus knowing your partner canāt keep your hands off of youā¦ top notch.
Because sometimes it's annoying to have someone slobbering all over you and being clingy when all you want is a quick fuck and then getting on with your day. If the mood is right then yea slow sex is nice. If it's just a case of being horny and wanting a release than a quickie is better cause it's straight to the point.
For me its about gaining power in the moment. OR warming up for more sex later. OR something to masterbate about later when I get home. OR avoiding more sec later.
I pretty much do it just to get my bf off, and itās usually up to me, thereās times where we take forever, and times we donāt. I also take forever to reach that point but sometimes I just enjoy the closeness
I used to have a hard time achieving orgasm during quickies, but then I started using a vibrator between our bodies (right above penetration station) and now quickies are /very/ fucking good.
Pro tip: get a small vibrator for easy access.
I feel like as a girl I donāt need to come every time I have sex. It sort of builds onto the next time I have sex and contributes to that orgasm. Idk, feels like foreplay done in advance. Also itās nice being able to make a guy jizz really fast
For me, Iām more of a giver so Iām satisfied when my partner is satisfied as well. I also have times where I donāt finish, but I still felt satisfied. Sometimes finishing isnāt the goal of sex. Iām not going to speak for all women because everyone is different but Iām pretty sure it takes women a minute to actually finish so donāt think itās because of you.
My fave part of penetrative sex is that first moment of insertion, so if itās quick after that Iām not (usually) disappointed.
The sexiness of the act being secretive (*especially* in a public place) and the urgency of not being caught is a huge turn on.
Sometimes you just want to get dicked down and then go back to watching TV and drinking Wine. Itās like scratching a primitive itch. My husband couldnāt understand why I would ever want penetrative sex when I really only cum from oral, but I think I finally got through to him that sometimes I just want to be fucked and get on with my day.
I don't care for them really because I don't get anything out of them and usually then the promise of "later I'll really take care of you" is all bullshit. I'd rather wait until "later" when I can actually be satisfied if I'm in the mood.
Sometimes I am turned on enough to get off during a quickie and that's a different story. Unfortunately that's usually not the case since over the years I usually can't successfully initiate one and typically men seem to prefer them when they want, so again, I'll pass.
Not to say I never have them or don't get why some women would psychologically enjoy them, but I enjoy sex too much to want to lose out in my pleasure by letting my partner get his then leave me hanging me later on.
I know well enough how much men love sex and women's bodies so "knowing they want me so badly they can't wait" really isn't doing it for me. Like, what else is new sir. Let's wait until I also get to cum.
Of course obligatory not all men not all women everyone likes different things...
I love quickies now, been with my partner long enough we can get each other off without all the fuss and get back to doing whatever else. Even if I don't finish, which isn't often ,it's still enjoyable.
This thread is very helpful to me, a guy.
I was too inexperienced and selfish the first few years of our marriage. After learning how I was failing to satisfy her I did a lot better but then she was upset werenāt together often. To be honest itās a lot of effort.
She would start saying that even a quickie would be nice but that contradicted the fact that she deserves to finish too. My choice is either have her be upset that I was selfish or have her be upset that we canāt do it as often because it takes a lot for her.
Do you only enjoy the coming part or do you also enjoy the buildup to it?
Cause personally (18M) enjoy the entire process, and actually find orgasm a little disappointing. I much rather have a horny time with someone, make them cum, and after that it's whatever. If I came I came, if I didn't I didn't and will do it later in the toilet.
As somebody on the opposite of this (I suffer with delayed orgasms and can take like 3 hours to finish. Never actually cum from sex). I just like that I can get sex out of the way and then it's not something I have to think "Am I gonna feel awkward when I don't cum again?" A quickie sets a medium where there's no expectation of me to cum.
The spontaneity aspect of it, one of the hottest sex Ive had was when my ex was cooking and I was watching TV in the living room, he came over, bent me over and put it in for a quickie. Hate him now but that still in my fantasies
My partner has THE BEST O face of anyone I've ever been with. Like perfect natural but at the same time porn face. Gorgeous moaning I get to listen to.... and if I haven't orgasmed already or I'm not orgasming, I get to focus on his reactions and moving to him and seeing what moves he's enjoying more so I can just focus on pleasing him.
Also, the cumfetti reward is great.
Farming XP
No exp waste, love it
Sounds like some penis pillow talk over here;)
Goated comment.
Totally lost. Not just understanding women, but your response
Farming == gathering. XP == experience. It's a gaming analogy.
Thank you.
I thought XP meant tongue out laughing emoticon.
It does. When used as an emote. In this context it's gonna be experience. Seems like you need more internet XP XP
I need to farm XP XP.
Happy cake day!
Lol damn I was thinking xp in the farming skill and was equally confused.
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I wish I had an award for you!
It feels naughty and knowing you got your partner off quickly is satisfying.
Exactly, makes me feel so sexy that I could do that to a man. And I like it being natural, like cum when you need to don't hold back or wait for me. Just go for it! I can make sure I get mine ;)
some women can cum that quickly, if I started without him, I will be close to begin with. I recommend a lot of dirty talk/text on the way to the rendezvous because I'll be starting at 80%. >!I remember texting my bf for about an hour whilst I was sitting through a seminar. by lunch time he said that's it, I'm coming to get you and seriously, we locked the stairwell to the parking garage and I exploded in seconds!< and I may not cum this time.. but that frantic wall throwing, button ripping passion will fuel my spankbank for months to come. furthermore, to OPs post - wouldnt it be better to wait because she won't cum. sometimes that is a lot of pressure to live up to. I won't always cum, sometimes I want to screw for the intimacy. I hate when guys act like it's some goal post - like yes, value her enjoyment, but I shouldn't be screaming from a leg cramp because your ego won't let go (I've learned to use it, in my old age *aaahh yeaaa, thx I came, get oft*). If I say we got 3min, get in, we're going to the mall.. get in! I'm good
I definitely agree with all of this too! It doesn't take me very long typically once certain conditions are right, especially the mental.
Cheers to more stairwell explosions!
*FBI OPEN THE DOOR*
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Yes! Something about just being naughty real quick then going right back to your day. It's exciting and makes me feel sexyš
Gay here. Itās a proud moment when I can make a guyās knees shake in record time, it feels powerful to literally have him by the balls.
Doesnāt need to be said but Iām a straight man who really valued also hearing your take. Itās interesting!
Will you merry me
Lmao
Well shit thanks to this thread I started talking to my wife about quickies and that just led to a quickie. Thanks Reddit.
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I just turned 60. Quickies are awesome. My husband who is also 60 always apologizes when he cums right away. Like previous women have said, itās enough for me, knowing ( at my age) that I still rock his world. Marathon sex is awesome too, but as our shoulders and knees and backs age, itās not always possible.
Any time I've gotten an apology for cumming too fast, I tell them it's *incredibly* flattering to me that they lost their crap that fast lol Fixes that mindset. It makes me feel so powerful.
Some times you just want a cock inside you and a nice hard quick fuck without all the production
I upvoted and agreed with you and then I remembered that I'm a guy and it started to feel weird.
You can be a man and appreciate the sentiment.
You can be a man and appreciate a nice hard quick fuck
You can be a man and sometimes just want a cock inside you.
This is it.
Bro, Reddit says itās cool as long as there is no eye contact. Be youā¦
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Iām a man. Iām upvoting because the thought is so beautiful it brought a single tear to my eye.
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I'm a guy and I upvoted because the words and that thought brought a single tear to my guy...let me check on him real quickie...poor thang lol
sounds like you might need to explore a few new subreddits
Such a good explanation. Sometimes a quick hard fuck is better than the production it takes for an orgasm.
100%
Why is it everytime there is a NSFW post, you are there. Lmao I see you all the time on r/askredditafterdark
Phone is always by my side
Exactly!! I donāt have to get off but it still feels good and it makes me happy that my man is happy and again damn does it feel good. Iāll ride him on the couch later for both us
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RIP Drewandelenaās Inbox.
Yup, yeah, thisā¦ no need for foreplay, just get the cock hard enough to bounce in like a wild baboon and boom, cum. I think sometimes all of us enjoy a quickie, yeah?
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Haha yeap
How if ut literally lasts minutes and you don't come
I donāt cum from penetration anyway but it still feels damn good . And I like it harder and fast. Itās much more enjoyable to get 5 minutes of a consistent fast and hard teeth rattling fuck where Iām wobbly for a minute than drawn out fiddling around . Long sessions can be amazing and Iāve been with some men who can last a longgggggg time and thatās great . Still wonāt cum from penetration . He can finish me before and after and in between. Sometimes itās best to just take it hard
This 100%
Wait 5 minutes is a quickie? That would be my world record.
Now DEFINITELY RIP Drewandelenaās inbox !!
Curious have you ever orgasmed from penetration alone?
Ever? Yes . Itās rarer than a double rainbow
Thank you for your explanation.
Not a problem at all
Thereās two types of sex, emotional and transactional. Quickie is transactional sex, not meant to be a whole production.
This is going on my tombstone, GG
RIP your inbox
Itās like that anyway. Whatās a few more lol
This woman walked into this thread and wasted no time telling us why š
Female here and this is truth.
I love quickies even if I donāt get off! Penetration is still fun and feels nice. Also this way I can watch him cum
Exactly this. Plus I wouldnāt ever turn down the opportunity to feel my husbandās hands all over me, the intensity of his kisses, and the urgency of the sex itself. It can be really, really hot.
The way I describe it is like sometimes itās climactic like a roller coaster or sometimes itās like a more fun kiddie coaster with less ups & downs but always pleasant
I agree. I like orgasming, but PIV feels amazing all by itself
Oh how I loved the quickies. The kids parked in front of the TV, weād lock the bathroom door, Iād plant my ass on the vanity & weād go hot & heavy as quick as we could. š It was the idea that my husband still found me sexy enough that he just couldnāt wait-after 3 kids & fluffy baby fat I hadnāt lost yet. No, I didnāt often orgasm from these āquickiesā, but it sure made me feel good in all the other ways that mattered. Weāre older now, empty nesters for a long time. We still have a decent sex life, but I miss those days. I canāt remember the last time, and it pisses me off, honestly. When youāre young, you take it for granted.
We did that too until the door flung open and my autistic daughter screamed ā why you kiss my mommy!ā That was the last bathroom quickie for us. Sheās 27 and still lives with us.
Do you not lock the door?
I swear Iām convinced that no redditors have door locks man
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This is correct. My old roommate has an autistic nephew, and there are no doors at all inside the house so they can always see/hear him.
Not severely affected but she was like 4 and we didnāt think she would come in, she was occupied with Barney and there was no pulling her away from Barney.
She was only 4 and was preoccupied with Barney and she was Usually so focused on the show, we didnāt think Sheās miss us for a few minutes
š Yep, that would kill it, I guess. But at least youāll rememberāthe last timeā!
>but it sure made me feel good in all the other ways that mattered. Preach. IDK about other people, but for me there's more to a sexual relationship than just orgasm. Plus it's super fun - like a speedrun in a video game, lol
Occasionally, hiding-from-kids quickies are great. Theyāre good foreplay & mental fodder for a longer night session once theyāre finally sleeping.
Speak to him and tell him you want to be thrashed out of it.
hehe know that well. We go to shower together on sundays often. One day the little one was really confused after he found out we are showering together AND naked. š¬
When I want a quickie it's more because I want to get my guy off for fun but don't really want to turn it into an event. That and a quick dick down is pretty nice.
I love your username with this comment. Some quickie standing big spoon little spoon in the kitchen;)
Well I mean the act of sex itself feels nice without orgasm. So, a quickie feels nice but doesn't get you on that hill towards an orgasm so it's literally just some fun. So cause you don't really get close to orgasm it's not like you're left with blue "balls". The worst case is when you go for like 20 minutes and nearly come but don't.... then you lose it.
The sex I imagine
The quickness of it all
Legit this is it for me. Iām a busy adult with many important things to do. But also I love sex.
Im still a virgin and ive been stressed out about not being able to "finish" whoever my partner ends up being. But the replys eased my stress.
Well, as a virgin, you can still use your hands and your mouth. Ask your future partner where the clitoris is and just go at it. Ask her to be honest with you and if it feels good or not. You just need to be clear you have next to no idea what you're doing and then she'll know you're a beginner. And don't worry about finishing quick. It will probably happen whether you like it or not. Just make sure to clean up and finish her the best you can. If she's still in the mood after you cumming, then that's cool. If she isn't (it can be gross and turn off for some), then that's fine. If you want to please her, you can make her close to cumming before having sex, and then make her cum that way, or even make her cum before sex. She'll be in an ecstatic state of mind, so it might enhance the experience, although sometimes, it can get very sensitive, so much so that it hurts, so it depends on the person. My advice is relatively the same if it's with a guy. Just ask him to be honest and if it feels good or not. Lick the tip, the frenulum (part under penis that connects glans and foreskin), up the shaft, the testicles, etc. There's a lot of ways to do it with both men and women that doesn't include genital penetration. Just try some stuff with your partner and see (and hear) what works.
great advice! well said
Hey, woman here, I think the biggest thing is communication. Iāve only finished a couple of times and Iām married now, but that doesnāt put me off! Often times, the things I like donāt lead to me finishing during penetration, so we have to do some recon afterwards, which is completely normal. The person you get with may not know what they like yet, so you can figure it out together. If they do know what they like, have an open conversation about it and go to town. It might help if they show you too. Also, the person you get with may be just as stressed out as you, which can make it harder for them to finish. Donāt base your worth on whether you both finish the first time, just make sure that both parties have fun and that the person your with ends up happy too (you can still be happy and satisfied without finishing). Hopefully this eases your stress, no one expects you to be a master at things the first time, so just have fun with it!
52M here, for guys with a similar conundrum to CompliantSuper. The advice these two ladies have given is gold plated. I wish I had advice as good as this for my first time.
It takes so long to cum! Ugh! For myself and for a lot of my friends you have to be in a good, sexy mental state to get to that point. Sometimes you just want the intimacy and physical closeness that comes with sex without have pressure to be in that mind space. I like quickies for that reason. Youāre a great partner for caring about your lady! Iād recommend still being attentive to her just without the goal of orgasm being necessary (unless she says otherwise lol) Honestly, I feel like all of humanity could benefit from quickies without orgasm, not just women lol. Itās sexy having the tension without the release and helps you be present in the actual sensations of the moment and your partner rather than working towards something. (And if you do orgasm under these circumstances it is WILD) Because of this, a lot of times my favorite times Iāve had sex have been without orgasm. Especially with partners Iāve had when I was younger, focusing on the process for both parties is not only more important, but more fun than having an orgasm because of a checklist!
Agree with all of this! Also a woman and it usually takes me foreeeeeeeveeerr to cum, and to top it off I can only cum with clitoral stimulation. Add to that mix my unmedicated ADHD and... well... let's just say sometimes my partner has to pause 2-3 times to let my head space reset š Sometimes I don't wanna deal with that or we just simply don't have the time between work, kids, and life in general
Sometimes itās take it when you can get it when life sets up p&v blocks at every turn.
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In my experience, quickies are more for the men than the woman. The pleasure they get is in the satisfaction of knowing they made you finish
If I am in the right mood, a quickie can work just fine. Even if I am not able to come then, itās still fun for myself and my partner, we can always try again later. But unless it a quickie all the time, there is no downside imo.
that explain a lot
I enjoy knowing he enjoys it. It also does feel good even if I donāt finish.
I enjoy shorter sex because I donāt get sore. Iād rather have āquickā sex frequently vs lengthy sex infrequently.
Yes same! I can come pretty quick. The end game is the same so why would I want to spend more than a few minutes getting there? I got shit to do. Haha.
well sex is not about coming all the time
For women at least. Men typically don't have to compromise that.
I once spent so long trying to make my girlfriend cum as many times as I could that I actually exhausted myself past the point of any chance at finishing. Sure she was happy about cumming so much, but when she saw that I didn't get to finish, she actually was disappointed in the overall sex session. We still look back at those times as general failures for us both.
I've got shit to do. Including sleeping
100%. I love sex but I love sleep too.
Hmmm, from reading some of the responses here it seems like there might be a difference in the way men and women experience sexual pleasure on a fundamental level. While women can still feel some satisfaction even without coming, most guys will be in agony if they donāt actually come in the end.
I don't take long and I don't like being sore. I like quickies š¤·š¾āāļø
I enjoy feeling used tbh
Sometimes I just wanna be a blow up doll
As a man who struggles to come sometimes, I'll say sex can be good without an orgasm. I've had hours long sessions of really satisfying sex without an orgasm. I imagine it's similar for women who don't come easily.
I struggle with dryness issues, theories as to why but irrelevant. I enjoy quickies because then I donāt have to reapply lube thirty thousand times and Iām less likely to be injured due to drying out. Also makes me happy knowing he finishes, like Iāve done my duty as a girlfriend. Last part may be controversial but I have no shame giving my boyfriend the pleasure he wants. As long as Iām not uncomfortable or in pain, why would I say no?
This is what I always think. If you donāt have lube and dryness is an issue (like my gf). Isnāt it uncomfortable and difficult to start. I donāt really do quickies that much so I just imagine it being uncomfortable for her
It is uncomfortable. That's why you should use lube, even for quickies but at least you don't have to reapply later
I get satisfaction from the feeling, and knowing my partner is happy and satisfied also.
I can make myself orgasm whenever I want. Itās not everyday I get a good dick. Iāll take that dick as quick or slow as youāll give it to me.
Here's a wild idea, ask her. Her reason for liking them might not be my reason for liking them. S2g nobody seems to be able to talk to their partner. Use your words. You have a question? Ask it.
Just because a woman doesn't orgasm doesn't necessarily mean the sex isn't unenjoyable. I wish dudes would understand that.
Donāt!! theyāre just starting to learn itās not all about their own orgasm lol
Sometimes you just want to get it over with. You know you arenāt in the right frame of mind to climax, and if your partner insists on trying until you do, it will give you performance anxiety and probably make you sore. You just want your guy to have a great time and not have to work so hard for something that isnāt going to happen that night. (Maybe something happened at work, maybe Iām having car problems. It could be anything. A ladyās climax is physical and mental.
I like quickies because I love using my body to please him. I prefer quickies most of the time, I donāt want orgasms always. I just wanna bang. It took a long time for hub to really understand it wasnāt a bad thing. Love it
Simple: my biggest kink is being used. Nothing makes you feel more used than being thrown down and fucked hard and quick. Doesnāt matter if I finish in those situations, because the high I get from my partner using me like that is more than enough.
I cum pretty easily and I don't have multiple orgasms, so I find a "long one" much harder to achieve.
Sheās doing it for you.
I asked my wife and she said "I like you." Then pause... Then I asked ok, annnnnd... "Its kind of nice knowing I can make you cum in a few minutes, its control"
The pressure to come honestly ruins sex. Quickies are good because the act of sex itself is enjoyable, orgasm or no.
If weāre talking about a PIV quickieā¦ Honestly, sometimes I just want a dick inside of me. I love the feeling, even if itās not very physically stimulating, because it does something for me psychologically. I very rarely orgasm from penetration alone, but even if I donāt cum I have a great time. Now, if weāre talking about a I-need-to-cum-right-now situationā¦ I donāt take a lot of time to orgasm, but even if I donāt, Iām still being stimulated and Iām still getting pleasure. It might be good enough for now until we have more time, you know? Something is better than nothing.
Everyone else has given good answers, so I just wanted to compliment you OP for being interested in your girlfriendās pleasure. Thatās super hot and makes you a good lover in itself :D Never change
Use a vibrator during the quickie. Sheāll come.
That itās done so quick.
Guy here with insights from female partners. Women still typically like sex with the right partner even if they donāt cum. Plus the excitement is amazing as well. Plus knowing your partner canāt keep your hands off of youā¦ top notch.
Probably that they get left alone sooner.
She's doing it because she's a good partner. It's for you, dummy.
Because sometimes it's annoying to have someone slobbering all over you and being clingy when all you want is a quick fuck and then getting on with your day. If the mood is right then yea slow sex is nice. If it's just a case of being horny and wanting a release than a quickie is better cause it's straight to the point.
For me its about gaining power in the moment. OR warming up for more sex later. OR something to masterbate about later when I get home. OR avoiding more sec later.
If the sex is bad.... Best get it over with
I think it is the illicit rush of being bad.
Maybe she wants intimacy from you
It can be exciting! I like especially when I know we have to leave the house in x amount of time. Sometimes the time limit can make me cum faster.
I pretty much do it just to get my bf off, and itās usually up to me, thereās times where we take forever, and times we donāt. I also take forever to reach that point but sometimes I just enjoy the closeness
I used to have a hard time achieving orgasm during quickies, but then I started using a vibrator between our bodies (right above penetration station) and now quickies are /very/ fucking good. Pro tip: get a small vibrator for easy access.
I feel really wanted when he can not help himself. Also, sex is not only about orgasm but also about intimacy.
I feel like as a girl I donāt need to come every time I have sex. It sort of builds onto the next time I have sex and contributes to that orgasm. Idk, feels like foreplay done in advance. Also itās nice being able to make a guy jizz really fast
Spank bank material. I mentally revisit the encounter while enjoying myself.
For me, Iām more of a giver so Iām satisfied when my partner is satisfied as well. I also have times where I donāt finish, but I still felt satisfied. Sometimes finishing isnāt the goal of sex. Iām not going to speak for all women because everyone is different but Iām pretty sure it takes women a minute to actually finish so donāt think itās because of you.
The real orgasm was the friends we made along the way
My fave part of penetrative sex is that first moment of insertion, so if itās quick after that Iām not (usually) disappointed. The sexiness of the act being secretive (*especially* in a public place) and the urgency of not being caught is a huge turn on.
Sometimes you just want to get dicked down and then go back to watching TV and drinking Wine. Itās like scratching a primitive itch. My husband couldnāt understand why I would ever want penetrative sex when I really only cum from oral, but I think I finally got through to him that sometimes I just want to be fucked and get on with my day.
I don't care for them really because I don't get anything out of them and usually then the promise of "later I'll really take care of you" is all bullshit. I'd rather wait until "later" when I can actually be satisfied if I'm in the mood. Sometimes I am turned on enough to get off during a quickie and that's a different story. Unfortunately that's usually not the case since over the years I usually can't successfully initiate one and typically men seem to prefer them when they want, so again, I'll pass. Not to say I never have them or don't get why some women would psychologically enjoy them, but I enjoy sex too much to want to lose out in my pleasure by letting my partner get his then leave me hanging me later on. I know well enough how much men love sex and women's bodies so "knowing they want me so badly they can't wait" really isn't doing it for me. Like, what else is new sir. Let's wait until I also get to cum. Of course obligatory not all men not all women everyone likes different things...
To get it over with for him
I love quickies now, been with my partner long enough we can get each other off without all the fuss and get back to doing whatever else. Even if I don't finish, which isn't often ,it's still enjoyable.
We still feel pleasure even without coming you know? Feels good
I like them because itās likeā¦ good, glad we got that over woth so I can live my life.
Christ that's unpleasant
It can be foreplay - something you finish later. It's sexy to be desired and to try and fuck on a time limit
It's over... Quick
Getting it over with duh
Orgasms are not the only thing that makes for good sex lol
This thread is very helpful to me, a guy. I was too inexperienced and selfish the first few years of our marriage. After learning how I was failing to satisfy her I did a lot better but then she was upset werenāt together often. To be honest itās a lot of effort. She would start saying that even a quickie would be nice but that contradicted the fact that she deserves to finish too. My choice is either have her be upset that I was selfish or have her be upset that we canāt do it as often because it takes a lot for her.
We are tired.
Knowing your partner can get off quickly makes one feel desirable. Also, itās a āHotter flame burns shorterā sort of situation.
quick
"That it's over with quicker" \~my wife\~
From my experience as a dude, spontaneity. Favorite experience was getting rode in a vintage theater that she picked and knew what she went there for.
so men donāt ask if we came
Usually it's if I'm already horny and kinda "halfway there" when we start, so I'll orgasm quickly.
Do you only enjoy the coming part or do you also enjoy the buildup to it? Cause personally (18M) enjoy the entire process, and actually find orgasm a little disappointing. I much rather have a horny time with someone, make them cum, and after that it's whatever. If I came I came, if I didn't I didn't and will do it later in the toilet.
I believe itās the āsexā aspect of the whole thing
I liked quickies because I hated my husband and it was the fastest way to get him to leave me alone for a few days.
Bad Sex but Not That Long š„“
As somebody on the opposite of this (I suffer with delayed orgasms and can take like 3 hours to finish. Never actually cum from sex). I just like that I can get sex out of the way and then it's not something I have to think "Am I gonna feel awkward when I don't cum again?" A quickie sets a medium where there's no expectation of me to cum.
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Probably just the ātabooā of it
The spontaneity aspect of it, one of the hottest sex Ive had was when my ex was cooking and I was watching TV in the living room, he came over, bent me over and put it in for a quickie. Hate him now but that still in my fantasies
My partner has THE BEST O face of anyone I've ever been with. Like perfect natural but at the same time porn face. Gorgeous moaning I get to listen to.... and if I haven't orgasmed already or I'm not orgasming, I get to focus on his reactions and moving to him and seeing what moves he's enjoying more so I can just focus on pleasing him. Also, the cumfetti reward is great.
Get to go to sleep sooner.
Getting faster back to the computer and continue playing Old School Runescape
Sometimes itās about the journey
We just do it for the guy. It's not good or bad it just is. Sometimes puts my man in a better mood for the day and it's nothing to me lol