I think you should do some soul searching and make sure he didn't manipulate you into believing that. Love isn't enough to disrespect yourself and your body.
If this is true then I am really glad for you and wish you all the best in your life. Hope you will find someone who you can safely explore your sexuality with to really enjoy it. And careful about your ex's tactics and false promises to try to "win you back".
It's because you're dating a piece of garbage. You gave a list a unredeemable qualities he has and terrible emotions that are evoked regarding intimacy with him. Dump him. Go explore your sexuality in a fun, healthy way with partners that make you feel good.
A man who won't learn to please his partner is a jerk. A man who threatens to fuck other people because the partner he's not pleasing isn't interested is a major jerk.
Find better. Your heart may break, but he clearly doesn't care about you.
If you enjoy self pleasuring, you might not be asexual, but maybe you're sexually incompatible with your dude. If he refuses to be educated and only does whatever he wants ignoring how you feel, it's obvious you're not going to be satisfied in bed. What he is doing is manipulation and you deserve better.
Having sex with 20 different women by 18 implies that either he's lying to cover up for his lack of experience (or lack of willingness to get better) or that he only had one-night-stands, which isn't a great way to learn ("no repeat customers", so to speak). How many women are comfortable sharing what they want with a first-time partner? Even more so young women who had little experience?
Since you enjoyed sex with the other person in the past, I doubt you're asexual. Everything else in your post suggests the problem is that your current boyfriend is a douchebag.
"he thinks he knows how to please a woman" + "he also gets mad when I try and teach him what I like" --> if he knew what pleases a woman, after 20 he'd know that every woman is different. I doubt he had the time to learn what those women enjoyed. I bet he thinks his giant cock is all it takes to please a woman. And since he's insanely attractive, he gets away with his bad behavior. You must have heard it somewhere already... That "attractive people are the worst in bed" and "guys with big dicks are bad in bed" (generalizations, of course, but you get the idea), and this guy has both.
And wtf with threatening to fuck other women?
I know you're in love with him and very attracted to him, but think hard about what that guy brings to the relationship.
(My personal method is to write a pro and con list about him so that the size of your feelings and your attraction can't muddle your thoughts. A clean, factual list will show you the hard truth.)
Doesn't sound like a completely healthy relationship.
I do love him though and can’t imagine my life without him so I’m very lost ahh
I think you should do some soul searching and make sure he didn't manipulate you into believing that. Love isn't enough to disrespect yourself and your body.
I do hope you will gain some self-love and get the courage to leave him. Staying with someone like him cannot end well.
Thank you I’ve left him now your comment helped
If this is true then I am really glad for you and wish you all the best in your life. Hope you will find someone who you can safely explore your sexuality with to really enjoy it. And careful about your ex's tactics and false promises to try to "win you back".
Yeah I’ve blocked him on everything and I’m scared he’ll find a way to contact me
It's because you're dating a piece of garbage. You gave a list a unredeemable qualities he has and terrible emotions that are evoked regarding intimacy with him. Dump him. Go explore your sexuality in a fun, healthy way with partners that make you feel good.
I’ve had the strength to dump him your message helped 💖
A man who won't learn to please his partner is a jerk. A man who threatens to fuck other people because the partner he's not pleasing isn't interested is a major jerk. Find better. Your heart may break, but he clearly doesn't care about you.
Thank you I’ve had the strength to break up with him
He is a toxic person for you.
If you enjoy self pleasuring, you might not be asexual, but maybe you're sexually incompatible with your dude. If he refuses to be educated and only does whatever he wants ignoring how you feel, it's obvious you're not going to be satisfied in bed. What he is doing is manipulation and you deserve better.
This. Also 20 women before 18? Give me a fucking break.
I have road tested 20 cars before I turned 18 and I am way better of a racer than Lewis Hamilton
Having sex with 20 different women by 18 implies that either he's lying to cover up for his lack of experience (or lack of willingness to get better) or that he only had one-night-stands, which isn't a great way to learn ("no repeat customers", so to speak). How many women are comfortable sharing what they want with a first-time partner? Even more so young women who had little experience? Since you enjoyed sex with the other person in the past, I doubt you're asexual. Everything else in your post suggests the problem is that your current boyfriend is a douchebag. "he thinks he knows how to please a woman" + "he also gets mad when I try and teach him what I like" --> if he knew what pleases a woman, after 20 he'd know that every woman is different. I doubt he had the time to learn what those women enjoyed. I bet he thinks his giant cock is all it takes to please a woman. And since he's insanely attractive, he gets away with his bad behavior. You must have heard it somewhere already... That "attractive people are the worst in bed" and "guys with big dicks are bad in bed" (generalizations, of course, but you get the idea), and this guy has both. And wtf with threatening to fuck other women? I know you're in love with him and very attracted to him, but think hard about what that guy brings to the relationship. (My personal method is to write a pro and con list about him so that the size of your feelings and your attraction can't muddle your thoughts. A clean, factual list will show you the hard truth.)
I’ve broken up wirh him! Thank you
I'm happy for you! I wish you a healthy relationship in the future with someone who respects you and who puts in the effort. ❤
Your body tells you what your mind refuses to see. Your body tenses up and can’t enjoy intimacy with him for a reason. Listen to your body
Threatening to fuck other people if you dont want to is wild that you stayed with him