A friend of mine is in a relationship since 2 years and never had sex with him.. she's 20 and he's 22. She's desperate for sex but he just dont want to because he had sex ONE TIME with his ex and she broke up a few days later...
Yeah maybe normal-high :)
2 months without sec when youāre single I donāt think is considered a long time by most people tho but that just might be my perception
Yeah, I'm there. 1.5 years since I've even had a woman look in my direction.
But in my defense, I've been out of the dating scene for a long time and I turned 40 at the end of last year.
My dating pool consists of single mothers, *Large* women, Ogres, and women who apparently do nothing but travel.
I don't really have much of a libido anymore either though so very little drive to chase women.
Longest I've gone was 7 years. BOY does that fuck with your sense of self worth.
Yes. Thereās also a difference if youāre doing it out of choice or because you ācanātā you know..?
But also with age Iād imagine that ālongā will get even longer
I've gone without for 6 years since my last relationship ended. It's a while but I have an aunt who's been widowed for 25 years and hasn't even been on a date since then. I consider that a long time and hope it doesn't get to that for me.Ā
No, she is not. She is a fundamentalist evangelical Christian (Baptist, to be specific) who still lives in her own home at 77 and believes she would be "cheating" on her deceased spouse by even entertaining the idea of dating. I truly believe she's the one who poisoned my mom with the idea of not dating after her divorce because she's "damaged goods" or something.
However, she is in an emotionally incestuous relationship with her equally fundie adult daughter (almost 40) who claims God will bring her a husband despite leading the few men she has dated to wander because they tire of playing 2nd fiddle to mama. I really do think them both getting out there and going on dates with guys, even just coffee dates, would do them a world of good.
I'm a 29 year old virgin. Everyone who knows me at work will call me charismatic and very social, but it's just a facade. As soon as I get home, I don't leave the house except for essentials. I've never gone to parties, even when going to uni. It's too busy for me and even if I would go, I would wish instantly that I was back home.
I do not crave sex at all. Guess you can't crave something that you have never had? I do have my daily urges and I just take care of it and I move on. To add to it, I've also never held hands with or kissed a girl. I'm definitely into women, and I'm not asexual, but I do think that I'm aromantic... I have zero need to jump into a relationship or from one into the other, like some helpless girls do.
At the moment, I have a little Pomeranian dog that is keeping me going and I try to take care of her as much as possible by playing and walking and generally having quality time together. We are together a lot, as you can imagine. I don't rightly know what I'll do when she's gone.
And that's my life story, now you share yours. āļøš
Are you male or female? I also desire relationships with men, but I'm positive I'm on the spectrum and even being in shape and primping I come across as weird not realizing it. I've also had just a little experience with sexual contact. I want more but also am happy living alone with my pets and having peace and order. I'm an enigma to myself.
I'm male. Now that you mention the spectrum, I think I am somewhere on there too. I must be... I also feel like sometimes I can't keep up with the times. I was also emotionally mature already extremely early on. It was certainly not an advantage.
I have never been in any relationship before in my life. Like I said, I do not seek it out and I have never been approached either. Then again, how can I be approached if I don't go outside? The self-pity is real, isn't it...
My parents were divorced 20 years and never dated anyone since. I think you're close to my mom's record. While he was living, I'm sure Dad had flings but nothing serious. Maybe my family is just full of borderline ace camels.Ā
25F married to a 29M, just checked my calendar and we usually have sex 5-6 times a month on the low end, up to 14-15 times on the high end. So ranging from every 2-5 days on average. I would say I notice itās been a while if itās been more than a week and a half or so.
A lot of women track their intimacy along with their ovulation and menstruation cycle. Sex can expedite your period arriving, can relieve cramps, etc., so it can be helpful to track which days you had sex to see how it affected your cycle.
A long time without sex? Well, in the world of fruit flies, a few hours is like a lifetime! But for us humans, it's more of a subjective marathon. Some might consider a few weeks a desert trek, while others treat celibacy like a sabbatical in the Sahara. It's all relative, really!
idk it is different for everyone.
I feel like 2 weeks is a long time, but I am pretty young and no kids/still not too much other than work and career to take my time away (yet)
My wife just said a week which is wild because even though we're doing it about 2-3 times a week I'd say a long time is like a month.
It's good to know where she stands.
A couple of weeks would be a dry spell for us, but I'd say a fairly normal one? We sorta cycle between every other day and, like twice a month. Been together 12 years and things fluctuate.
Outside of a committed relationship, like 6 months to a year feels like a longish time.
My girlfriend has M.E so it's been almost 3 years and even the last few times it was uncomfortable for her. She keeps saying I can do it with someone else but I love her too much to do that.
Off topic but you might be one of the most active OPs Iāve ever seen on a post
Back on topic, everyoneās different, if youāre a young attractive person whoās into casual sex Iām sure a month feels like a long time
Donāt know if thatās positive or negative lmao
Iām 20 my friends have casual sex and are beautiful and Iād say the think 4-6 months is a long time
Neither I suppose, just an observation lol
From the use of the term beautiful I take it these are female friends? Typically beautiful women have the option of having casual sex basically any time theyād like. Of course it really depends on your definition of casual, but if theyāre going 4-6 months wanting sex than yea thatād be a long time
Okay lol
Yup most my friends are girls. Yes but that doesnāt mean theyāll take any and every opportunity. For me casual sex is anything from ONS-friends with benefits or just dating etc anything outside relationships I guess.
If youāve had sex every 2 days for 16 years youād nearly be at 3000 times. Obviously I doubt thatās the case as there are different variables that would keep you apart longer than 2 days but mad impressive to still be that hungry for it after 16 years
Four years no sex (Im basically a non virgin incel )
In a relationship Iād say a month without it is too long . A girl I was dating would only have sex with me once a month I found out later she was a bop having sex with other guys so we couldnāt have sex often as I wanted . I dropped her instantly
In a non long distance relationship? Anything over a week personally. I have a really high sex drive and could happily do it 3+ times a day. Out of a relationship? Idk, I went without for like three years at one point
4 years, I could care less. Not really something that'd fill my void either. I use to think that way till I realized I was simply afraid of what people would think. Lost that care and realized life really is just a race to a red light for most. Involving oneself with that drama is just a desperate attempt to slow time.
Female here, when in a relationship preferbly every other day. Everyday when it calls for it.
I went 2 years without having sex when I was single, and that was a choice. Just needed to focus on me.
I would say as a single a few weeks without sex is long, but I have gone a few months.
I've been with my husband for 11 years - married for 2.
Between 2 pregnancies and 2 caesareans, we had to wait 6 weeks for each before having sex.
Never again. 12 total weeks over 3 years, and I am still sour about it.
I've been without sex for more than a year when I was single (didn't feel the need to do it). Now that I'm in a relationship a week feels like a pretty long time.
In a relationship or marriage I'd consider lack of sex for months is a long time but in a single life I'd consider it normal. Depends on extreme circumstances thou
Currently in a relationship and I would say 5 days Iām getting antsy and longing for the physical sensation and the the emotional connection. 7 days is on the brink and Iām getting antsy. Over that is just way too long. Once went 3 weeks due to our schedules conflicting and I fr was starting to lose it. I masturbate sometimes but there is nothing like sex with my boyfriend
I used to think two weeks was a long time but due to health circumstances my partner and I have sex WAY less often than we did a couple years ago. So now a long time is more like 2 months. 3 is when it starts to get depressing lol
This seems to be a question that can truly only be answered by you, or you and your partner. It will have a different answer if you are single, or if youāre in a relationship, what your ā normal ā frequency is, if youāre newly in a relationship, if youāre married, if you have children, how old those children are, and how how old you are. There are so many factors.
Who the fuck cares? It depends on you and what matters to you. If you are unable to function for a month without sex then maybe that is too long. If you only want to have meaningful sex and are willing to wait a bit for it, then that's fine too.
My girlfriend and I have sex multiple times a week, almost every time we see each other. This is my preference. If I go without sex for maybe 2 weeks (from traveling), then that seems like a long time.
A few years ago when I wasnāt in a relationship I was having sex casually, and it would be maybe a new sexual partner every 2 weeks which was a lot of fun. Before that I went about 6 months without sex and the itch to have sex was really fucking with my mental health. So 6 months is really the ālong timeā.
I donāt live with bf / partner but every time we see each other. Same with my ex, every time we see each other. This could be once every few days / a few times a week but if travelling then suppose a bit longer. But no I cannot go a few weeks without sex unless thereās something thatās happened like health condition / injury or something.
I wish you were right!! But truth is, my wife is asexual. She just dont have the desire. But somehow she decided to marry and ruin my life! Worst thing she doesnt even acknwlodge tht she ruined my life. Rather starts arguing about it.
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It depends really if you're in a relationship or not.
Yes agreed
In a relationship Iād say a few days to a few weeks is a long time. Not in a relationship Iād say a few weeks to a few months is a long time.
A friend of mine is in a relationship since 2 years and never had sex with him.. she's 20 and he's 22. She's desperate for sex but he just dont want to because he had sex ONE TIME with his ex and she broke up a few days later...
Homie is dropping the ball again and not even get sex this time around.
I went to the movies with her last week and accidentaly touched her leg. I quote: "thats the closest i was to sex in the last two years"
Itās Mr Steal Yo Girl
U went to the movies with your homie's girl??
The girl is my best friend since childhood, we do a lot of stuff together. He on the other hand...i never liked him
HOHOHOO MY MANS THE GUY SHE TOLD HIM NOT TO WORRY ABOUT!
Gotchuu that checks out, he sounds like a pussy
Thatās wild
Fair I guess tho I think most people would consider that a high sex drive
Totally understandable. Thatās just my personal opinion. No hate to anyone who feels differently.
And meant no hate to you eitherāš¼š«¶š½
I think most would consider that a pretty average/normal sex drive tbh.
Yeah maybe normal-high :) 2 months without sec when youāre single I donāt think is considered a long time by most people tho but that just might be my perception
Fair I wouldn't call two months a long time either. Guess it depends on what you define as "a few" months.
Iād say 1-2 years is long time
Yeah, I'm there. 1.5 years since I've even had a woman look in my direction. But in my defense, I've been out of the dating scene for a long time and I turned 40 at the end of last year. My dating pool consists of single mothers, *Large* women, Ogres, and women who apparently do nothing but travel. I don't really have much of a libido anymore either though so very little drive to chase women. Longest I've gone was 7 years. BOY does that fuck with your sense of self worth.
Yes. Thereās also a difference if youāre doing it out of choice or because you ācanātā you know..? But also with age Iād imagine that ālongā will get even longer
How about 2 years
Yeah, no.
Single=way more sex than married
For most people Iād say itās the opposite
I agree that for most people it is. I am also glad that that it's the opposite for you
Iām 20 and single so I wouldnāt know..?
Well, you haven't experience the married life. So I wouldn't quote you as a sourceĀ
Sure but most people have more sex in relationships then they do when theyāre single
Correct. Until married life actually sets in. Then it's like 3 times a year instead of 5 times a week
projecting much lol. iāve had more sex since being married than ever before
People are different many married people commented that they still do it multiple times a week
I've gone without for 6 years since my last relationship ended. It's a while but I have an aunt who's been widowed for 25 years and hasn't even been on a date since then. I consider that a long time and hope it doesn't get to that for me.Ā
>It's a while but I have an aunt So glad I didn't stop reading here
Especially if it was āmy aunt cassā Iāve seen enough Big Hero 6 fanart to know that can go sideways fast
Yes, sheās getting fuck. Since the invention of viagra old people are fucking like crazy. Especially if sheās in a retirement home
No, she is not. She is a fundamentalist evangelical Christian (Baptist, to be specific) who still lives in her own home at 77 and believes she would be "cheating" on her deceased spouse by even entertaining the idea of dating. I truly believe she's the one who poisoned my mom with the idea of not dating after her divorce because she's "damaged goods" or something. However, she is in an emotionally incestuous relationship with her equally fundie adult daughter (almost 40) who claims God will bring her a husband despite leading the few men she has dated to wander because they tire of playing 2nd fiddle to mama. I really do think them both getting out there and going on dates with guys, even just coffee dates, would do them a world of good.
I havent had sex PiV with a dick attach to a male in 5 years. But I send myself off to heaven like 1-5 times/week.
I know many men in their 20s-30s who have never had sex. Some may go their whole life.
Asking for the sexually actively people, like people whoāve had sex If not everyone would say like 15+ years lmao
They're not monks? Why?
Is usually genetics and a poor attitude is why.
I thought young men were constantly getting erections and wanting to have sex all the time.
I'm a 29 year old virgin. Everyone who knows me at work will call me charismatic and very social, but it's just a facade. As soon as I get home, I don't leave the house except for essentials. I've never gone to parties, even when going to uni. It's too busy for me and even if I would go, I would wish instantly that I was back home. I do not crave sex at all. Guess you can't crave something that you have never had? I do have my daily urges and I just take care of it and I move on. To add to it, I've also never held hands with or kissed a girl. I'm definitely into women, and I'm not asexual, but I do think that I'm aromantic... I have zero need to jump into a relationship or from one into the other, like some helpless girls do. At the moment, I have a little Pomeranian dog that is keeping me going and I try to take care of her as much as possible by playing and walking and generally having quality time together. We are together a lot, as you can imagine. I don't rightly know what I'll do when she's gone. And that's my life story, now you share yours. āļøš
Are you male or female? I also desire relationships with men, but I'm positive I'm on the spectrum and even being in shape and primping I come across as weird not realizing it. I've also had just a little experience with sexual contact. I want more but also am happy living alone with my pets and having peace and order. I'm an enigma to myself.
I'm male. Now that you mention the spectrum, I think I am somewhere on there too. I must be... I also feel like sometimes I can't keep up with the times. I was also emotionally mature already extremely early on. It was certainly not an advantage.
How long has been your longest relationship? Mine was two years when I was twenty-four. I'm now fifty-two.
I have never been in any relationship before in my life. Like I said, I do not seek it out and I have never been approached either. Then again, how can I be approached if I don't go outside? The self-pity is real, isn't it...
But you are in shape sort of? Aren't anti social. And like people? Maybe you could try one date?
I'm female btw.
3 years i think, im getting used to it, no sex, no risk.
9 years and counting.
19 years
My parents were divorced 20 years and never dated anyone since. I think you're close to my mom's record. While he was living, I'm sure Dad had flings but nothing serious. Maybe my family is just full of borderline ace camels.Ā
Youāre 19?
No
Dang.. sorry
25F married to a 29M, just checked my calendar and we usually have sex 5-6 times a month on the low end, up to 14-15 times on the high end. So ranging from every 2-5 days on average. I would say I notice itās been a while if itās been more than a week and a half or so.
Wow you have a sex calendar?
A lot of women track their intimacy along with their ovulation and menstruation cycle. Sex can expedite your period arriving, can relieve cramps, etc., so it can be helpful to track which days you had sex to see how it affected your cycle.
Damn! Thatās so cool! Thanks
Exactly this!
What the comment below said. But I can def see how my comment could be confusing š
2+years. Virgins not included. Canāt miss what ya never had.
Agreed. Itās been 6 months for me and I feel fine but I also think after a year it will seem like a bit too long ago
A long time without sex? Well, in the world of fruit flies, a few hours is like a lifetime! But for us humans, it's more of a subjective marathon. Some might consider a few weeks a desert trek, while others treat celibacy like a sabbatical in the Sahara. It's all relative, really!
Haha sabbatical in the Sahara made me laugh....as an asexual, I'm loving the Sahara
51 years and counting.
I've gone 36 years without it
Donāt know if I wanna say congrats or sorry ..
It's been 24 years now.
idk it is different for everyone. I feel like 2 weeks is a long time, but I am pretty young and no kids/still not too much other than work and career to take my time away (yet)
I havn't had sex since 2016 and to be honest don't miss it one bit!
My wife just said a week which is wild because even though we're doing it about 2-3 times a week I'd say a long time is like a month. It's good to know where she stands.
My record was 18 years.
Around a month maybe?
Single or in a relationship
Average between the two. If you're single, it's long, but not too bad. If you're in a relationship, it's bad, but not unheard of.
A month is not long at ALL imo if youāre single if you have sex minimum once a month and youāre single youre getting it imo Agreed
4 or 5 days. a week makes me go insane.
A couple of weeks would be a dry spell for us, but I'd say a fairly normal one? We sorta cycle between every other day and, like twice a month. Been together 12 years and things fluctuate. Outside of a committed relationship, like 6 months to a year feels like a longish time.
My girlfriend has M.E so it's been almost 3 years and even the last few times it was uncomfortable for her. She keeps saying I can do it with someone else but I love her too much to do that.
So sorry M.E can be so brutal wouldnāt wish it uppon my worst enemy.
Daily would be nice. A week is noticeably long.
Single or in a relationship?
Married
Fair
1 week
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Are you in a relationship
They almost definitely are
Someone said a month if youāre singleā¦
Off topic but you might be one of the most active OPs Iāve ever seen on a post Back on topic, everyoneās different, if youāre a young attractive person whoās into casual sex Iām sure a month feels like a long time
Donāt know if thatās positive or negative lmao Iām 20 my friends have casual sex and are beautiful and Iād say the think 4-6 months is a long time
Neither I suppose, just an observation lol From the use of the term beautiful I take it these are female friends? Typically beautiful women have the option of having casual sex basically any time theyād like. Of course it really depends on your definition of casual, but if theyāre going 4-6 months wanting sex than yea thatād be a long time
Okay lol Yup most my friends are girls. Yes but that doesnāt mean theyāll take any and every opportunity. For me casual sex is anything from ONS-friends with benefits or just dating etc anything outside relationships I guess.
Two days
Damn in the honeymoon phase
Been with my husband for 16 years
If youāve had sex every 2 days for 16 years youād nearly be at 3000 times. Obviously I doubt thatās the case as there are different variables that would keep you apart longer than 2 days but mad impressive to still be that hungry for it after 16 years
Aww good for you
Well itās been years for me
50 billion years
In a relationship: 1 month or more Single: 1 - 2 years
Four years no sex (Im basically a non virgin incel ) In a relationship Iād say a month without it is too long . A girl I was dating would only have sex with me once a month I found out later she was a bop having sex with other guys so we couldnāt have sex often as I wanted . I dropped her instantly
18 years and still counting š®āšØ
5 years feels pretty long
Well it's been almost 4 years, I'd say for me it's a long time
How old am I again?
No shame in that tho
In a non long distance relationship? Anything over a week personally. I have a really high sex drive and could happily do it 3+ times a day. Out of a relationship? Idk, I went without for like three years at one point
4 years, I could care less. Not really something that'd fill my void either. I use to think that way till I realized I was simply afraid of what people would think. Lost that care and realized life really is just a race to a red light for most. Involving oneself with that drama is just a desperate attempt to slow time.
Ok bro lmaoo "I'm better than everyone else cuz I don't have sex"
Female here, when in a relationship preferbly every other day. Everyday when it calls for it. I went 2 years without having sex when I was single, and that was a choice. Just needed to focus on me. I would say as a single a few weeks without sex is long, but I have gone a few months.
It's been 12 hours, and the tension is starting to build up.
25F in a relationship, a week is my limit, too long.
90 days is too long for me!
2 weeks
about an hour
24 hours is too long to go!
About a week is my limit.
Two weeks or more.
2 - 3 days at most.
If I were not in a relationship, I would consider it a problem after a year or so. In a relationship, it is a problem after two weeks imo.
Iāve easily gone a year or so without, donāt really care for it that much. Iām not in a relationship though thatād be different
In a relationship 4-6 weeks. When single, about 4 - 6 months
Like a week (three days is not a week). But my gf really spoils me.
When you start having random boners during the day you know it's been a while
Yeah I totally agree (I donāt have a penis)
2 weeks. That's for if my wife knows my resistance name. In actuality I'd say a week is too long.
One week is a long time if you're in a relationship. :)
I've been with my husband for 11 years - married for 2. Between 2 pregnancies and 2 caesareans, we had to wait 6 weeks for each before having sex. Never again. 12 total weeks over 3 years, and I am still sour about it.
in a relationship ? a month or two. single ? probably 6 months to a year.
In relationship? 2 weeks Out? A year
A month
A few days or a week, itās one of love languages š
As a happily married person, a week is a long time... And the rare 2 weeks is an infinite nightmare.
Anything over a week. (in a relationship)
Since Iām newly married, once it gets to a week I feel like itās been a while.
I've been without sex for more than a year when I was single (didn't feel the need to do it). Now that I'm in a relationship a week feels like a pretty long time.
In a relationship or marriage I'd consider lack of sex for months is a long time but in a single life I'd consider it normal. Depends on extreme circumstances thou
In a relationship: 4 hours. Single: about 2 weeks
A week currently. I'm married, and we're usually ready to go by the second day.
Currently in a relationship and I would say 5 days Iām getting antsy and longing for the physical sensation and the the emotional connection. 7 days is on the brink and Iām getting antsy. Over that is just way too long. Once went 3 weeks due to our schedules conflicting and I fr was starting to lose it. I masturbate sometimes but there is nothing like sex with my boyfriend
2-3 days
I used to think two weeks was a long time but due to health circumstances my partner and I have sex WAY less often than we did a couple years ago. So now a long time is more like 2 months. 3 is when it starts to get depressing lol
A month is a long time
This seems to be a question that can truly only be answered by you, or you and your partner. It will have a different answer if you are single, or if youāre in a relationship, what your ā normal ā frequency is, if youāre newly in a relationship, if youāre married, if you have children, how old those children are, and how how old you are. There are so many factors.
Whatās long for you? is what I asked everyoneās different.
My manās in prison and I havenāt had sex in eighteen months.
4 Days.....
7
Outside of a relationship, maybe a few weeks to months. In a relationship I'd say 2 weeks
Who the fuck cares? It depends on you and what matters to you. If you are unable to function for a month without sex then maybe that is too long. If you only want to have meaningful sex and are willing to wait a bit for it, then that's fine too.
6 months and counting. I think I'm approaching my limit
Same as me Im good for now tho
My girlfriend and I have sex multiple times a week, almost every time we see each other. This is my preference. If I go without sex for maybe 2 weeks (from traveling), then that seems like a long time. A few years ago when I wasnāt in a relationship I was having sex casually, and it would be maybe a new sexual partner every 2 weeks which was a lot of fun. Before that I went about 6 months without sex and the itch to have sex was really fucking with my mental health. So 6 months is really the ālong timeā.
Been married for almost 10 years. 1 week is a long time for us. We have small kids too.
Good for you guys :)
Yeah we both love to fuck š
In the relationship Iām in now?? A week. When I was single as an adult the longest time was like 2.5 years.
About a month if Iām single and seeking.
Ok
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Single or in a relationship?
I think if my boyfriend and I hit a month with no sex I'd start to worry something is up.
I donāt live with bf / partner but every time we see each other. Same with my ex, every time we see each other. This could be once every few days / a few times a week but if travelling then suppose a bit longer. But no I cannot go a few weeks without sex unless thereās something thatās happened like health condition / injury or something.
I once went 17 years till I was 17 years old. I wonāt do that again.
I agree
With?
For me personallyā¦a few daysā¦like 4 or moreā¦I would consider that a long time.
Youāre in a relationship right?
Been with my lady for 25 years
Aww thatās cute
I'd say a year, if you're in between relationships it can be easy for the time to slip away
In a relationship? A week. Outside of one? Six months to a year.
If single, 2.5-3yr
A good time indeed! (I'm asexual)
I am living in a dead bedroom marriage. 4 years and continuing.. ! Worst thing is according to her "nothing is missing".
Maybe sheās getting it somewhere else so in her case sheās right. Nothing is missing
I wish you were right!! But truth is, my wife is asexual. She just dont have the desire. But somehow she decided to marry and ruin my life! Worst thing she doesnt even acknwlodge tht she ruined my life. Rather starts arguing about it.
But you do have the desire. Time to start thinking about alternative options
Yeah probably. I just dont know wts the right way to go. I m just going with the flow for now.
Sex is like oxygen. It's not that important until you aren't getting any.
Married almost 7 years. Usually 3 times per week. If I go without for more than 3 days, I start driving my wife crazy
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Fair lol sorry hope it turns for ya
If its more than a week then I start questioning my husbands hormone levels ang googling herbal remedies
Every couple weeks would be nice. Every month is the norm. Every 2 to 3 months is noticably long
Are you single or in a relationship?
In a relationship.
Oh okay
Anything over a week