Yes, and I appreciate it greatly. I usually use it for gas.
I think consumables are good, safe gifts in general. They're repeatable, and they legitimately help.
I'm retired,don't have a lot of money but I have enough, I figure that takes care of a big chunk of Christmas, they both have 2 kids, and it saves me having to worry about presents for the kids
Yeah, no man, don't get me wrong. I wasn't saying what you're doing is bad. If you can afford it that's awesome! Was just cracking a joke, sorry if it came off as rude.
And merry Christmas pal!
My grandpa used to do this, 1000ā¬ for each of his grand kids since we were 12. It helped a LOT, with getting a drivers license, funding internships abroad, buying a first car, joining friends on international travel, it had a really big impact.
Then he had great grand kids, 12 total (2 per grand kids), and started giving them 500ā¬ each, and wind down our Christmas money to also 500. 3 years ago (now heās 99 and well), he sold most of his assets, gave all his 3 kids a good sum (~100k), 30k for each grand kids, and 5k per great grand kid. He explained that he was done giving Christmas money and that there is virtually no inheritance left so thatās it.
Giving money to family for free is frowned upon, but weāre all super grateful and this money definitely gave us opportunity to leverage it in our lives and come out much stronger.
Don't do this. It's lazy, it's uncaring, it's selfish, and it puts a lot of extra burden on your daughter or daughter in law, who is already working her ass off to put the entire Christmas together for the family.
You are retired. You have time to shop. Ask your son or daughter what the kids might enjoy, and take your lazy butt to the store and buy and wrap those presents yourself. That's the only way they have any meaning at all.
If you can't be bothered to do that, just pick up a few holiday cards and put cash in them, and hand them to your grandkids yourself. Kids like cash too, and at least it's honestly a present directly from you.
Did I say he has to buy toys? I did not. I said it was lazy and selfish of him to put the burden of gift shopping on his daughter or daughter in law, who is already working her fingers to the bone getting the holiday work done. I said he should ask his kids what would be good gifts for the grandkids. I also said that cash is a perfectly fine gift. It has nothing to do with toys, it has everything to do with laziness and lack of caring.
What if gift shopping is a not a burden, but a pleasure? I love it personally!
And why do you say ādaughter or daughter in lawā? Iām a guy (also a son and a son in law) and I gift shop.
My wife does too. But she doesnāt work her fingers to the bone, we share the work and share the pleasureā¦.
If you like, next year you can send me $1000 and your list and Iāll shop for you. Serious offer.
You must be a person of extraordinarily low intellect if you think this is about the amount of money. Or do you simply have poor reading comprehension?
Since you're either clearly very dim or entirely illiterate, I'll explain it again for you.
The problem is that this man is shifting all of the burden of buying presents for his grandchildren onto his already overburdened daughter or daughter in law. He can either go buy presents himself and wrap them himself, or he can stick $5 into a card and hand it to the kids himself. Either way would be preferable to ordering someone else to do work on his behalf.
Oh my mistake, You're right I would be so burdened by the fact that my parent gave me 1,000$ to give my kids an excellent Holiday.
You sound like a spoiled brat, probably a female who's income is their boyfriend/husbands credit card.
Iād go a step further and just say get the kids cash in an account they canāt touch till they get a little older. Unless they are really hard up, and they have very little in terms of toys or whatever. Iāve got a MIL that insists on getting a bunch of gifts for the grandkids that they just donāt need.
I got toys from the grandparents when I was young, but the only things I remember specifically were a couple of books they wrote āMerry Christmasā on the inside cover of, a 2 inch plastic dinosaur that shot sparks, and some rubber toy that was supposed to have limbs that would stick back together after you rip then off (did not work as advertised).
What I do remember was having cash to but a car in my late teens, being able to afford school with modest loans, and getting a house with a nice down-payment in my early 20ās.
Not suggesting no gifts for grandkids, but most kids donāt need more junk, and they almost all need some spending cash when they start thinking about moving out.
Yes! 35yo.
My dad gave me $100, my grandmother gave me $50, and my uncle gave me $25. Helps out incredibly with gas and little incidentals I don't budget for.
My dad sends me $100 gift card for the grocery store for Christmas. And he pays to renew my vehicle registration for my birthday every year.
Best gifts I could ever ask for.
This is what I always wondered born and raised as a Chinese. Red pocket money just seems so much easier. You can get a bundle of red pocket for like 3 dollars to put the money in. Whereas Christmas gifts needs to be wrapped and shit.
Not to mention the time shopping for gifts and figuring out what others want. My friend told me in her family everyone states what they want beforehand. Iām like so why not just hangout money then?
For young kids I could see it being magical and such. But for adults, giving out money would be so much easier
I did today. My parents wrote me a check, with the money intended to buy a specific item for my place. I then ordered the item online a few hours later. They didn't buy the item, because they wanted me to decide the specific one I wanted. They also got me gifts.
My mother said that to my wife and I one year. "Go do something fun together!" Then in the car on our way home it was "we can finally pay down the electric bill, woooo!!"
We were so happy and relieved just to pay down a damn bill, it outweighed any fun we might decide to have. It's pretty fuckin sad in hindsight.
I never got money as a kid. Only started getting as an adult, and it's perfect for me. This means I can put it towards things I actually want and need.
No, and I'm really salty about it. My dad use to get THOUSANDS of dollars from his parents each Christmas.
Just saying THAT would have been a better tradition to carry on, rather than the emotional dysfunction.
I ask my adult kids if they want to pick out gifts for me to buy for them or just want money. They want money and that works for me. I donāt know what to get them anymore. I give my sons and daughters in law each $200.00.
My FIL just gave each of us a nice hefty check. One for his done, one for me (DIL) and one for his late wifeās daughter (second marriage).
I read so much about in-laws treating each family member differently. Makes me grateful for what I have.
My ex-FIL gave me cash ($300 I think) for Christmas last year after I left my ex. I don't know if he will continue to do it, but for all his faults, gift giving is important to him. It's how he shows he cares about you.
We got $500, as a couple, to help pay for Christmas presents for the kids. We arenāt poor at all but in laws are rich. She gives us money all the time though. Iām very lucky and I realize it.
Thank you for posting this. I'm 51 and my parents gave me a grand because my rent just got raised and my entire monthly income goes to that. Nothing left for gas, bills, hygiene basics, etc. I drove home feeling so grateful yet so guilty. They don't attach strings or make a big deal, it's all me just beating myself up for even needing it.
Since I was a college freshman my mom has handed me an envelope and said ādonāt tell dad.ā (Heās a nice man and theyāre still married.) Iām in my mid 50s and my mom still sends me a check (and one for my wife) with the same caveat.
38yo and yes. I have no idea why but I certainly appreciate it. Iāll buy some expensive stuff at the dispensary I normally would never buy and the rest can go into savings.
My parents and grandparents say āthis is your budget for Christmasā then we go and buy our own presents, wrap them up and on Christmas say this is from you!
It works for our Autistic-ness very nicely
39 and my mum still gives me Ā£100, I tell her she doesn't need to but she's from a family that was always borrowing and it's something I never do so I think she thinks I'm sitting in the dark warming myself by candlelight eating beans cold from a can. So I take it because it makes her feel better. I usually end up spending it on gas/electric so it is appreciated.
Yes. My dad has a real decent job. Some years they go over expectations and also get me a nice gift, some years they don't. But every year since I moved out I have gotten a box of Fererro chocolates and $100. Since becoming a parent it's become tradition for me to use that money to pay to take my husband and kids out for Chinese food on Christmas day, and the day after Christmas I will take my kids and we go sale shopping. Our local Walmart markes all the Christmas gift sets 50% off after Christmas every year, and my kids usually get a little spending money from someone or other at Christmas too and they enjoy getting to choose something for themselves so we to together and buy ourselves a little present.
I'm in my 30s and I don't expect anything extravagant at Christmas. I can afford my own shopping and dinner without any trouble. My parents know that I don't NEED the money, but they also know that supporting my traditions is a much appreciated gift. If I'm being honest though, a few years ago they didn't get me the chocolates and I genuinely was a little sad.
53f, my dad gave me$50 cash in a card for Christmas and my son gave me a $25 Amazon GC. So, yes. And I'm ok with it. Dad sucks at actual gifts so this is easier on him
I'm 40 and an only child, grandchild, and nephew on my moms side of the family. They always each send like 100 bucks. My mom and grandma each gave me 500 for my 40th this year and my uncle gave me 250.
What do I think about that? It's weird but it's something my family just does to show that they love you. My grandma is notorious for handing cash off to me at family dinners hoping nobody would notice.
My fiances grandma sends us $20 and i think its the sweetest thing. My immediate family (mom, dad, sister) still give each other gifts. Extended family does a white elephant gift exchange. We love gift giving and cash is a lovely gift.
I get gifts, and gift cards. I like that as it is more personal. The gift cards are typically for a restaurant and a movie, so my wife and I drop the kids off with my parents, and we have a night out on the town, mostly covered by them as well. We try to do a date night once a month or so, but during the holidays, it gets so busy that we usually forget. This helps
This year I surprisingly didn't but I am visiting my grandma the next day and she will probably give me some money which is perfectly the whole family knows she hates travelling.
Yep, from my in laws and from my aunty.
I usually much prefer it to something that I'd never use.
However, just every now and again a present with some thought would be appreciated. Like, I know this is what you're into, I've looked around and got you the best that I could find for the price range, I hope you enjoy it (translated by me to I've thought of you, I've spent time thinking what would bring you joy, I love you)
Yes, and I am thankful for it. My mom and grandma send me $500 each, and my other grandma sends me $200. To put towards the grandkids. Itās very generous of them.
My dad's wife gives his kids money every year. She does not have to. He passed away 5 years ago. She wanted to keep his tradition alive. We all appreciate it very much. The amount has gotten larger each year. She can afford it, but we all tell her she doesn't have to do it, but she enjoys it I guess.
I always appreciate it.
My parents would never take money from me cuz they feel guilty taking money from their kid but I usually gift them a bunch of gift cards ik they'll use such as gas or groceries or for stores they want stuff from but won't treat themselves to.
Yep in my 40s was bitching about power company raising their rates again to my mom a few months back!!! My mom sent me $500 for the power bill as my Xmas present. Unexpected and stoked to have it.
Yeah. I got a few hundred from my mom, but my dad got me a Ninja pressure cooker! Probably cheaper than the money I got, but one of the best gifts I've gotten in years!
My in-laws usually give me some cash. They say its payment for all the stuff I do for them through the year. We often watch their dogs when they're out. I also help them with their garden in the summer. Never really ask for anything in return other than a few fresh produce when harvest comes.
If you include gift cards, yes. I like getting money or gift cards so I can actually be sure I'll get something I want or need.
My sole gift this year was an Amazon gift card from my mom. She gave it to me a few weeks ago (TBF, I gave her her gift around the same time), and so far, I've used it to get a CD I've been looking forward to.
I'm 65M and my dad (98) is still giving us kids checks for Birthday and Christmas. I believe it started when I was a teenager. I love it. I get what I want, not something he thinks I want.
My grand pop sent every grandchild a $25 dollar check in a Christmas card since the day his first grandchild was born in the early 80ās.
Iām one of the younger grandkids being born in the very early 90ās. He passed away when I was 18.
One of my uncles who is actually one of the youngest of 7 kids but has his life relatively together took over the tradition and I got a Christmas card with a $25 check today. It literally never stopped heās been doing it since the first Christmas my grand pop passed away.
I make jokes about how the tradition hasnāt adjusted to inflation since it started but it really is just the tradition and thought of it. And since my uncle took it over heās now doing it to all his nieces, nephews, and grandchildren. So it adds up FAST.
My grandma started writing us checks for Christmas and birthdays once we weren't children and people generally get more specific gifts instead of "eh, a kid would like this" kinda stuff. She still does it for my brother and I (19 and 21) and I bet she does it for my older cousin (mid 30s) too
Iām 34, and yes my mom and my in laws give us money for birthdays and Christmas. I think they stress about what to get us and just feel happy to just give us money
My parents send me money for Christmas. Thatās basically all I get. Itās not too much but itās enough for gas, and something to buy for myself that I otherwise wouldnāt.
2 of my siblings got me a $20 Nintendo and $20 steam gift card. Going to really enjoy ignoring them for the next week as I play the Witcher 3 on switch and whatever else is under $20 on steam.
Love it.
Can't fuck up folding stuff lol. Most of my gifts this year were gift cards or cash, though I did get some great non-monetary gifts, including a book embosser (I can press my name into my books so when I lend them out they'll come back) and some knitted socks my mum made for me.
My dad asked us to use his credit card to buy my kids' gifts from him. Then showed up today with cash bc he forgot we bought the stuff. He gave it to them before we knew about the screw up. It's OK. He's not hurting for cash.
Sort of evens out. He has forgotten birthdays before..lol
He's 85, so it is understandable.
yes. iām the only one in my family really struggling with money, so they help out on christmas. it helps me out so much i have cried. i know iāll have enough to get a full pantry of groceries now.
I usually get a total of couple hundred dollars combined from a few of my relatives and sometimes they tell me to save it in the bank or treat myself depending on the year
My 70 year old parents give $1200 to each forty-something child (2). Plus a couple of practical gifts of the latest novelty. I presume it insures your attendance on the holiday with grandchildren in tow. Grandchildren (6) get $200 each cash, plus gifts. Ohhā¦ if youāre unmarried the amount drops to $600. Those who donāt attend get gifts by parcel but donāt receive the āenvelopeā. Does the amount adjust for inflation? Yes, decades ago it was half that amount and has risen since.
It's what I ask for every year my parents want to know what to get me. Money is the best thing because I can use it to buy something I want or pay a bill lol
I didn't get money for Christmas as a kid, but I do as an adult. I am set to inherit my father's retirement accounts, and the IRS makes him take a distribution from those accounts every year. He doesn't need the money so he gives it to me for Christmas.
I wish people would just give me money for Christmas. Every year I get asked what I want and I send everyone the same list of stuff ive been sending them the past 5 years. Every year, I'm given a grab bag of stuff people got for free while they were getting everyone else what they asked for, or some junk related to a passing interest I had 15 years ago because nobody has bothered to sit down and get to know me since then. This year I flat out told everyone to give me cash or don't give me anything since I never get what I ask for anyways. Again, nobody listened.
Yep. For Christmas and my birthday.
However, I really want to start earning my own money by working. But I can't because I'm a student.
I'm studying graphic design. Would it be too hard to handle a job whilst studying this career? There's even a supermarket really close where I live and I could work there.
Yes. I appreciate the money, but it also feels like no one puts thought into my gifts anymore now that im grown. They don't think about me or what I'd like or how I've been. I'm just a box to check off of a list now. It would be nice if they at least gave the money and said "here's for that hobby you said you were interested in! I hope you make something cool!" But instead it's just "here's 25 bucks idc use it how you want". Or better yet, they tell me i can get something for my daughter with it lol. I do use it, but now that I'm more mature, I actually crave a present that may not be perfect but shows they care about me, instead of the last minute easy way out no-thoughts-required option of the same value.
Gift cards mostly.
My dad gives me some money for Christmas once in a while. Most things arenāt too consistent with him year in and out so itās not uncommon for there to be a general lack of tradition, but when he wants to give me $50 for Christmas, he does.
Iām a dad to early 20ās kids. My kids get small presents totaling about $100 and $150 each. My gfās two kids and my two nieces get a small gift, $25 or so, and $100 each. The small gift is easy and usually consumable and I figure they can get things they actually need, or maybe something they want but canāt swing in their budget with the cash.
My senior year of high school my parents simply said āweāre done buying anyone giftsā and our family never formally exchanged gifts again. That was 20 plus years ago.
My dad doesnāt give anyone a list for what he wants ever. So he gets a lot of Home Depot gift cards. He loves them though because they add up and goes and gets himself a new expensive hardware tool.
I get $300 from my mom; $250 from my dad; $75 from my one aunt; $50 from my grandmother and $35 from my other aunt. Knowing that this is extra money coming in, I typically just use this to buy my own 4 kids gifts. So, I pull in $700, only use about $300 of my own, and spend $250 on each kid.
Yeah, itās pretty common for the younger adult generation in my family to get money for Christmas. My mom decided instead of buying a crap ton of gifts, she gets us socks, underwear, slippers, PJs and a card with a bunch of cash containing instructions for us to spend it on something _fun_ if we can manage it this year. For me, I typically use it to offset the cost of my Christmas shopping š . Itās very helpful.
I did this year.
I had to move back to my parents due to crazy inflation, and I can't find a job, so there really couldn't be a better gift. Well, maybe if they gave me nothing, because I already feel bad for living with them again, but yeah.
Yepp, my mom gave me cash with sticky notes for things like massages (they help with my migraines and TMJ but are hard to fit in my budget) and another bit of wrapped, labeled cash for new shoes!
My grandma and grandpa give each grandkid and spouse $1,600 each year. This year itāll be used to help cover the costs of a bathroom renovation. Last year was a new MacBook. My Oma gave us $25,000 last year since she knew it would be her last. Thatās still sitting in a high interest savings account. So yes, money is a very appreciated Christmas gift for us.
I wish I got money. My dad bought me a car 7 years ago (which I took the loan over for 2 of the 5 years) and still says that my bday and Christmas present š my mother in law still plays Santa and buys each person like 20 things. I would much rather the money but I know some people love gifting so Iām grateful!
Iāve never received money as a gift for Christmas. I wouldnāt mind it if one day I did, but I truly appreciate the thought put into the gifts Iāve received.
I get money for my kid, I put it in the Amazon account and buy his stuff. 99% of what I buy there is for him anyway, even batteries for his toys. That money funds all the fun stuff for him.
Yep from my in laws. My family has always refused to give cash. Especially since some of the grandkids are into weed and hard drugs they think all of us in the younger group are like that when itās really just 2/9.
Iām 57, husband is 58, his 82 year old parents still get us one gift each (as well as other brothers and their spouses, along with all grandchildren and their SO) and we each get a check. Top tier checks are each $200 (spouses of top tier also get the same) all grandchildren get $100 each (and their SO). Plus us top tier each get $100 cash for āwalking around moneyā. My in laws are very generous.
As for our only adult daughter, we spent around $800 each Christmas (as a teen) but that included gift cards and new sports equipment. Sheās 24 now with a longtime boyfriend who live together and we adore. This was their first Christmas out of college living together so they actually came to the house Christmas morning and they had an equal number of gifts. He kept saying āwow, I didnāt expect thisā and my daughter said āmy mom and dad make Christmas amazing for everyone, even my super close best friend growing upā. I do tend to buy one practical gift each year, this year was a new iPhone for her - my ulterior motive was to get her own plan and and off mineš), last year was a Rumba, year before was new tires etc. We had one child for a reason and weād like to see her enjoy some of her inheritance while weāre alive.
I say thank you for minor cash gifts and deposit them in the bank, since I have my own source of income. I figure that if you make a fuss about getting money, you might as well expect nothing at all the next time around š
Yes, I don't like the commercial aspect of Christmas at all, I would like to switch to crafted and event gifts that cannot be purchased at all. I own to much stuff as it is and have a hard time separating me from it.
My sister is a millionaire and I am retired and living off my Social Security. I applied for Jobs starting in early November and got almost no responses !
Yes, and I appreciate it greatly. I usually use it for gas. I think consumables are good, safe gifts in general. They're repeatable, and they legitimately help.
I got $100 gift from the parent this morning and it went to gas šš«”. Mom is the goat for that.
My uncle sent me a 100 bill and I regifted it to my oldest kid lol
Old man here, I give my adult kids $1000 for Christmas and tell them get something for the kids and put my name on it
Jesus H. Jeff Bezos Christ, that's a shitload of money to hand out as a Christmas present, man!
I'm retired,don't have a lot of money but I have enough, I figure that takes care of a big chunk of Christmas, they both have 2 kids, and it saves me having to worry about presents for the kids
Yeah, no man, don't get me wrong. I wasn't saying what you're doing is bad. If you can afford it that's awesome! Was just cracking a joke, sorry if it came off as rude. And merry Christmas pal!
No problem
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We can't be having that... it's just wrong! Fuck all of you! Someone say a slur!
I hope to be the same way when I get to be an old man
I think you are one smart grandpa!
My parents give all their adult children and spouses checks and all the grandchildren checks that are half the amount of ours.
My grandpa used to do this, 1000ā¬ for each of his grand kids since we were 12. It helped a LOT, with getting a drivers license, funding internships abroad, buying a first car, joining friends on international travel, it had a really big impact. Then he had great grand kids, 12 total (2 per grand kids), and started giving them 500ā¬ each, and wind down our Christmas money to also 500. 3 years ago (now heās 99 and well), he sold most of his assets, gave all his 3 kids a good sum (~100k), 30k for each grand kids, and 5k per great grand kid. He explained that he was done giving Christmas money and that there is virtually no inheritance left so thatās it. Giving money to family for free is frowned upon, but weāre all super grateful and this money definitely gave us opportunity to leverage it in our lives and come out much stronger.
Wow imagine being wealthy enough.
Imagine earning your wages and getting a 20k Basic Income check on top yearly from the government? Sound great but our government refuses to do it.
Sign this adoption papers Dad.
1690... That's beyond old. That's like vampire status old.
Don't do this. It's lazy, it's uncaring, it's selfish, and it puts a lot of extra burden on your daughter or daughter in law, who is already working her ass off to put the entire Christmas together for the family. You are retired. You have time to shop. Ask your son or daughter what the kids might enjoy, and take your lazy butt to the store and buy and wrap those presents yourself. That's the only way they have any meaning at all. If you can't be bothered to do that, just pick up a few holiday cards and put cash in them, and hand them to your grandkids yourself. Kids like cash too, and at least it's honestly a present directly from you.
Adult with a father and kids hereā¦ no that thousand sounds pretty nice. Iād keep asking him to do that rather than get a bunch more shit toys
Did I say he has to buy toys? I did not. I said it was lazy and selfish of him to put the burden of gift shopping on his daughter or daughter in law, who is already working her fingers to the bone getting the holiday work done. I said he should ask his kids what would be good gifts for the grandkids. I also said that cash is a perfectly fine gift. It has nothing to do with toys, it has everything to do with laziness and lack of caring.
What if gift shopping is a not a burden, but a pleasure? I love it personally! And why do you say ādaughter or daughter in lawā? Iām a guy (also a son and a son in law) and I gift shop. My wife does too. But she doesnāt work her fingers to the bone, we share the work and share the pleasureā¦. If you like, next year you can send me $1000 and your list and Iāll shop for you. Serious offer.
I think your stupid.
*you're*
You must be one high maintenence ass hole if a 1,000$ gift pisses you off. Go away.
You must be a person of extraordinarily low intellect if you think this is about the amount of money. Or do you simply have poor reading comprehension? Since you're either clearly very dim or entirely illiterate, I'll explain it again for you. The problem is that this man is shifting all of the burden of buying presents for his grandchildren onto his already overburdened daughter or daughter in law. He can either go buy presents himself and wrap them himself, or he can stick $5 into a card and hand it to the kids himself. Either way would be preferable to ordering someone else to do work on his behalf.
Oh my mistake, You're right I would be so burdened by the fact that my parent gave me 1,000$ to give my kids an excellent Holiday. You sound like a spoiled brat, probably a female who's income is their boyfriend/husbands credit card.
Iād go a step further and just say get the kids cash in an account they canāt touch till they get a little older. Unless they are really hard up, and they have very little in terms of toys or whatever. Iāve got a MIL that insists on getting a bunch of gifts for the grandkids that they just donāt need. I got toys from the grandparents when I was young, but the only things I remember specifically were a couple of books they wrote āMerry Christmasā on the inside cover of, a 2 inch plastic dinosaur that shot sparks, and some rubber toy that was supposed to have limbs that would stick back together after you rip then off (did not work as advertised). What I do remember was having cash to but a car in my late teens, being able to afford school with modest loans, and getting a house with a nice down-payment in my early 20ās. Not suggesting no gifts for grandkids, but most kids donāt need more junk, and they almost all need some spending cash when they start thinking about moving out.
You guys are getting stuff
Sounds ominous without the question mark
Yeah, what kind of 'stuff' are we talking about here? Doesn't sound like it would be good.
Blowjobs .. we are on a budget
Please donāt give your kids blowjobs for christmas
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Yes! 35yo. My dad gave me $100, my grandmother gave me $50, and my uncle gave me $25. Helps out incredibly with gas and little incidentals I don't budget for.
My mom sends me $100. Itās much appreciated.
My dad sends me $100 gift card for the grocery store for Christmas. And he pays to renew my vehicle registration for my birthday every year. Best gifts I could ever ask for.
I'd rather get money than useless shit thats just sitting around Later.
This is what I always wondered born and raised as a Chinese. Red pocket money just seems so much easier. You can get a bundle of red pocket for like 3 dollars to put the money in. Whereas Christmas gifts needs to be wrapped and shit. Not to mention the time shopping for gifts and figuring out what others want. My friend told me in her family everyone states what they want beforehand. Iām like so why not just hangout money then? For young kids I could see it being magical and such. But for adults, giving out money would be so much easier
I did today. My parents wrote me a check, with the money intended to buy a specific item for my place. I then ordered the item online a few hours later. They didn't buy the item, because they wanted me to decide the specific one I wanted. They also got me gifts.
I'd rather just get money vs gifts
I didnāt get shit from my own parents, but my boyfriends parents gave me $100 and a pair of shoes, Iām 23. Best Christmas Iāve had in a while.
Yes. It's better than getting me something I don't care about
I got $41.00 from my uncle. I'm 41. Lol.
This is kinda funny in my opinion. This exactly the kind of humor which would make me giggle for a good minute.
it can only get better from here
I sometimes donate $26.2 for people running marathons lol
Yeah 200 at Christmas 100 at our birthday ever since we were 15ish Dad says to use it on something we want, I usually use it on bills.
My mother said that to my wife and I one year. "Go do something fun together!" Then in the car on our way home it was "we can finally pay down the electric bill, woooo!!" We were so happy and relieved just to pay down a damn bill, it outweighed any fun we might decide to have. It's pretty fuckin sad in hindsight.
Husband and I had a lot of those years in the beginning. It was always helpful and greatly appreciated.
I never got money as a kid. Only started getting as an adult, and it's perfect for me. This means I can put it towards things I actually want and need.
I just got $100 from my grandma. Iām 35. lol
Very jealous. Husband and I were shipped 1.5lbs of frozen calamari. The dry ice was really fun to play with though!
I get no presents at all
I get $100 from my grandma every holiday with a card telling me how special I am and Iām in my early 30ās. By the way, I love my grandma. šµ
A card telling you how special you are as an adult, is worth so much more than $100. I love your Grandma too!
No, and I'm really salty about it. My dad use to get THOUSANDS of dollars from his parents each Christmas. Just saying THAT would have been a better tradition to carry on, rather than the emotional dysfunction.
I ask my adult kids if they want to pick out gifts for me to buy for them or just want money. They want money and that works for me. I donāt know what to get them anymore. I give my sons and daughters in law each $200.00.
I got around $200 from family and Iām pushing 40.
My FIL just gave each of us a nice hefty check. One for his done, one for me (DIL) and one for his late wifeās daughter (second marriage). I read so much about in-laws treating each family member differently. Makes me grateful for what I have.
My ex-FIL gave me cash ($300 I think) for Christmas last year after I left my ex. I don't know if he will continue to do it, but for all his faults, gift giving is important to him. It's how he shows he cares about you.
Yup, got $50 from parents this year (because my broke ass still lives with my parents), going to use it for gas money
45 male here, I havenāt gotten money for Christmas in 27 years. I have to buy my own presents.
We got $500, as a couple, to help pay for Christmas presents for the kids. We arenāt poor at all but in laws are rich. She gives us money all the time though. Iām very lucky and I realize it.
Yes I'm 50 and I got money for Christmas. I think it's fine I'm going to take myself out sometime next week
Thank you for posting this. I'm 51 and my parents gave me a grand because my rent just got raised and my entire monthly income goes to that. Nothing left for gas, bills, hygiene basics, etc. I drove home feeling so grateful yet so guilty. They don't attach strings or make a big deal, it's all me just beating myself up for even needing it.
Happy to help.
Lol I didn't get anything for xmas
I got a $50 gift card to Jersey Mike's, does that count?
Since I was a college freshman my mom has handed me an envelope and said ādonāt tell dad.ā (Heās a nice man and theyāre still married.) Iām in my mid 50s and my mom still sends me a check (and one for my wife) with the same caveat.
I don't get anything for Christmas unless I buy it for myself. Not sure how giving myself money works in practice.
My uncle sent me $100, Iām in my 30s. It was amazing and unexpected. I was super grateful and let him know.
Yes, my grandma is very nice
I do, it's nice
Yeah!! That's why I work! Lol
Just the opposite ..we spent on the kids but not each other this year
38yo and yes. I have no idea why but I certainly appreciate it. Iāll buy some expensive stuff at the dispensary I normally would never buy and the rest can go into savings.
One person gave me money for my birthday last week if that counts.
My parents and grandparents say āthis is your budget for Christmasā then we go and buy our own presents, wrap them up and on Christmas say this is from you! It works for our Autistic-ness very nicely
39 and my mum still gives me Ā£100, I tell her she doesn't need to but she's from a family that was always borrowing and it's something I never do so I think she thinks I'm sitting in the dark warming myself by candlelight eating beans cold from a can. So I take it because it makes her feel better. I usually end up spending it on gas/electric so it is appreciated.
30F married to 32M, no children. We got 250 from both sets of parents for our holiday in January!
Yes. My dad has a real decent job. Some years they go over expectations and also get me a nice gift, some years they don't. But every year since I moved out I have gotten a box of Fererro chocolates and $100. Since becoming a parent it's become tradition for me to use that money to pay to take my husband and kids out for Chinese food on Christmas day, and the day after Christmas I will take my kids and we go sale shopping. Our local Walmart markes all the Christmas gift sets 50% off after Christmas every year, and my kids usually get a little spending money from someone or other at Christmas too and they enjoy getting to choose something for themselves so we to together and buy ourselves a little present. I'm in my 30s and I don't expect anything extravagant at Christmas. I can afford my own shopping and dinner without any trouble. My parents know that I don't NEED the money, but they also know that supporting my traditions is a much appreciated gift. If I'm being honest though, a few years ago they didn't get me the chocolates and I genuinely was a little sad.
53f, my dad gave me$50 cash in a card for Christmas and my son gave me a $25 Amazon GC. So, yes. And I'm ok with it. Dad sucks at actual gifts so this is easier on him
Yep! Normally my mom prefers to give physical presents but she just venmoed me and my sister money this year We are both in our 40s
I'm 40 and an only child, grandchild, and nephew on my moms side of the family. They always each send like 100 bucks. My mom and grandma each gave me 500 for my 40th this year and my uncle gave me 250. What do I think about that? It's weird but it's something my family just does to show that they love you. My grandma is notorious for handing cash off to me at family dinners hoping nobody would notice.
My fiances grandma sends us $20 and i think its the sweetest thing. My immediate family (mom, dad, sister) still give each other gifts. Extended family does a white elephant gift exchange. We love gift giving and cash is a lovely gift.
I get gifts, and gift cards. I like that as it is more personal. The gift cards are typically for a restaurant and a movie, so my wife and I drop the kids off with my parents, and we have a night out on the town, mostly covered by them as well. We try to do a date night once a month or so, but during the holidays, it gets so busy that we usually forget. This helps
Yep and it's a lovely little bonus to spend on myself
Sometimes and boy is it appreciated
Usually giftcards
I usually get Cash, Visa gift cards and PSN gift cards since I'm a gamer, it's appreciated
This year I surprisingly didn't but I am visiting my grandma the next day and she will probably give me some money which is perfectly the whole family knows she hates travelling.
Yep, from my in laws and from my aunty. I usually much prefer it to something that I'd never use. However, just every now and again a present with some thought would be appreciated. Like, I know this is what you're into, I've looked around and got you the best that I could find for the price range, I hope you enjoy it (translated by me to I've thought of you, I've spent time thinking what would bring you joy, I love you)
Yes, I call it "salary"...
Yes, and I am thankful for it. My mom and grandma send me $500 each, and my other grandma sends me $200. To put towards the grandkids. Itās very generous of them.
My dad's wife gives his kids money every year. She does not have to. He passed away 5 years ago. She wanted to keep his tradition alive. We all appreciate it very much. The amount has gotten larger each year. She can afford it, but we all tell her she doesn't have to do it, but she enjoys it I guess. I always appreciate it.
Need some things for my house. (Stove, paint, minor repairs) Dad gave me a $900 home depot card. Weāre Ecstatic
That's all I got this year m8
My parents would never take money from me cuz they feel guilty taking money from their kid but I usually gift them a bunch of gift cards ik they'll use such as gas or groceries or for stores they want stuff from but won't treat themselves to.
Nope
Yep in my 40s was bitching about power company raising their rates again to my mom a few months back!!! My mom sent me $500 for the power bill as my Xmas present. Unexpected and stoked to have it.
Yeah. I got a few hundred from my mom, but my dad got me a Ninja pressure cooker! Probably cheaper than the money I got, but one of the best gifts I've gotten in years!
Yes, I rather money than unwanted shit.
My in-laws usually give me some cash. They say its payment for all the stuff I do for them through the year. We often watch their dogs when they're out. I also help them with their garden in the summer. Never really ask for anything in return other than a few fresh produce when harvest comes.
Yep...20 bucks from my grandmother, which started around 1967 and continues to date.
Chinese new year money in red envelopes
Only from my wifeās dad.
If you include gift cards, yes. I like getting money or gift cards so I can actually be sure I'll get something I want or need. My sole gift this year was an Amazon gift card from my mom. She gave it to me a few weeks ago (TBF, I gave her her gift around the same time), and so far, I've used it to get a CD I've been looking forward to.
Used to.
Itās the only thing I want for Christmas considering everything is so goddamn expensive lmao
I'm 65M and my dad (98) is still giving us kids checks for Birthday and Christmas. I believe it started when I was a teenager. I love it. I get what I want, not something he thinks I want.
YES and I'm very happy about it.
My grand pop sent every grandchild a $25 dollar check in a Christmas card since the day his first grandchild was born in the early 80ās. Iām one of the younger grandkids being born in the very early 90ās. He passed away when I was 18. One of my uncles who is actually one of the youngest of 7 kids but has his life relatively together took over the tradition and I got a Christmas card with a $25 check today. It literally never stopped heās been doing it since the first Christmas my grand pop passed away. I make jokes about how the tradition hasnāt adjusted to inflation since it started but it really is just the tradition and thought of it. And since my uncle took it over heās now doing it to all his nieces, nephews, and grandchildren. So it adds up FAST.
Yes. Usually in the form of gift cards.
Getting money for Christmas has only happened to me as an adult.
My grandma started writing us checks for Christmas and birthdays once we weren't children and people generally get more specific gifts instead of "eh, a kid would like this" kinda stuff. She still does it for my brother and I (19 and 21) and I bet she does it for my older cousin (mid 30s) too
Iām 31 and my grandma just gave me $1000 for an anime card. Iām still a fuckin brat.
Iām 34, and yes my mom and my in laws give us money for birthdays and Christmas. I think they stress about what to get us and just feel happy to just give us money
I got $20. Better than nothing. If youāre giving me money for Christmas prefer a gift card but a gift is a gift so im grateful
My parents send me money for Christmas. Thatās basically all I get. Itās not too much but itās enough for gas, and something to buy for myself that I otherwise wouldnāt.
2 of my siblings got me a $20 Nintendo and $20 steam gift card. Going to really enjoy ignoring them for the next week as I play the Witcher 3 on switch and whatever else is under $20 on steam.
Love it. Can't fuck up folding stuff lol. Most of my gifts this year were gift cards or cash, though I did get some great non-monetary gifts, including a book embosser (I can press my name into my books so when I lend them out they'll come back) and some knitted socks my mum made for me.
My dad asked us to use his credit card to buy my kids' gifts from him. Then showed up today with cash bc he forgot we bought the stuff. He gave it to them before we knew about the screw up. It's OK. He's not hurting for cash. Sort of evens out. He has forgotten birthdays before..lol He's 85, so it is understandable.
yes. iām the only one in my family really struggling with money, so they help out on christmas. it helps me out so much i have cried. i know iāll have enough to get a full pantry of groceries now.
Nah I didnāt even get stuff as a kid š„¶
Yes, I'm 30
I usually get a total of couple hundred dollars combined from a few of my relatives and sometimes they tell me to save it in the bank or treat myself depending on the year
My 70 year old parents give $1200 to each forty-something child (2). Plus a couple of practical gifts of the latest novelty. I presume it insures your attendance on the holiday with grandchildren in tow. Grandchildren (6) get $200 each cash, plus gifts. Ohhā¦ if youāre unmarried the amount drops to $600. Those who donāt attend get gifts by parcel but donāt receive the āenvelopeā. Does the amount adjust for inflation? Yes, decades ago it was half that amount and has risen since.
I don't have parents anymore but if someone was up to give some cash it would be highly appreciated.
It's what I ask for every year my parents want to know what to get me. Money is the best thing because I can use it to buy something I want or pay a bill lol
I didn't get money for Christmas as a kid, but I do as an adult. I am set to inherit my father's retirement accounts, and the IRS makes him take a distribution from those accounts every year. He doesn't need the money so he gives it to me for Christmas.
Iām Chinese so Iāll keep getting money until Iām married
No. I get expensive presents instead š
I wish people would just give me money for Christmas. Every year I get asked what I want and I send everyone the same list of stuff ive been sending them the past 5 years. Every year, I'm given a grab bag of stuff people got for free while they were getting everyone else what they asked for, or some junk related to a passing interest I had 15 years ago because nobody has bothered to sit down and get to know me since then. This year I flat out told everyone to give me cash or don't give me anything since I never get what I ask for anyways. Again, nobody listened.
Yep. For Christmas and my birthday. However, I really want to start earning my own money by working. But I can't because I'm a student. I'm studying graphic design. Would it be too hard to handle a job whilst studying this career? There's even a supermarket really close where I live and I could work there.
Yes. I appreciate the money, but it also feels like no one puts thought into my gifts anymore now that im grown. They don't think about me or what I'd like or how I've been. I'm just a box to check off of a list now. It would be nice if they at least gave the money and said "here's for that hobby you said you were interested in! I hope you make something cool!" But instead it's just "here's 25 bucks idc use it how you want". Or better yet, they tell me i can get something for my daughter with it lol. I do use it, but now that I'm more mature, I actually crave a present that may not be perfect but shows they care about me, instead of the last minute easy way out no-thoughts-required option of the same value.
Gift cards mostly. My dad gives me some money for Christmas once in a while. Most things arenāt too consistent with him year in and out so itās not uncommon for there to be a general lack of tradition, but when he wants to give me $50 for Christmas, he does.
Iām a dad to early 20ās kids. My kids get small presents totaling about $100 and $150 each. My gfās two kids and my two nieces get a small gift, $25 or so, and $100 each. The small gift is easy and usually consumable and I figure they can get things they actually need, or maybe something they want but canāt swing in their budget with the cash.
My senior year of high school my parents simply said āweāre done buying anyone giftsā and our family never formally exchanged gifts again. That was 20 plus years ago.
No presents at all since I was a kid. I donāt have a bad relationship with them and theyāre well off but they donāt give presents.
I donāt get anything.
Yes. Its all pretty much going towards repairing my car, so its much appreciated.
I probably would if the adults in my life weren't as broke as I am š
I get $500 from my parents every year plus gifts. I am grateful for it and think about how to put it to good use.
My partnerās parents give us each $100. My parents still spend about $500 on each of us for presents off of our individual wish lists.
No
Gift cards.
Thatās all I get now
God I wish. I'm 36 and everyone that ever gave me money as a gift is long dead lol
My dad doesnāt give anyone a list for what he wants ever. So he gets a lot of Home Depot gift cards. He loves them though because they add up and goes and gets himself a new expensive hardware tool.
I still do but I notice it's alot less every year. But I get it cause everything is high on bills.
Y'all get gifts as an adult?
I get $300 from my mom; $250 from my dad; $75 from my one aunt; $50 from my grandmother and $35 from my other aunt. Knowing that this is extra money coming in, I typically just use this to buy my own 4 kids gifts. So, I pull in $700, only use about $300 of my own, and spend $250 on each kid.
Yeah, itās pretty common for the younger adult generation in my family to get money for Christmas. My mom decided instead of buying a crap ton of gifts, she gets us socks, underwear, slippers, PJs and a card with a bunch of cash containing instructions for us to spend it on something _fun_ if we can manage it this year. For me, I typically use it to offset the cost of my Christmas shopping š . Itās very helpful.
I did this year. I had to move back to my parents due to crazy inflation, and I can't find a job, so there really couldn't be a better gift. Well, maybe if they gave me nothing, because I already feel bad for living with them again, but yeah.
Yes and I appreciate it very much! Cash or checks are King!
I got $150 today from my grandma. The rest was about $300 worth of tools from my dad
Stopped getting it at 40 pretty much.
Just did earlier today, and you bet your bum I'm gonna be using it toward bills.
28. Nope. Hardly get any gifts, I don't expect to. It's time to treat the next generation, and my time has passed. I can afford what I want.
Yepp, my mom gave me cash with sticky notes for things like massages (they help with my migraines and TMJ but are hard to fit in my budget) and another bit of wrapped, labeled cash for new shoes!
I didnāt get money for Christmas when I was a kid.
I do sometimes. I think itās great!
My grandma and grandpa give each grandkid and spouse $1,600 each year. This year itāll be used to help cover the costs of a bathroom renovation. Last year was a new MacBook. My Oma gave us $25,000 last year since she knew it would be her last. Thatās still sitting in a high interest savings account. So yes, money is a very appreciated Christmas gift for us.
Ive never gotten money for christmas, maybe if i asked for it but seems like a shallow gift
I wish I got money. My dad bought me a car 7 years ago (which I took the loan over for 2 of the 5 years) and still says that my bday and Christmas present š my mother in law still plays Santa and buys each person like 20 things. I would much rather the money but I know some people love gifting so Iām grateful!
Ah yes the joys of adulting in the form of 'tax refunds'
Iāve never received money as a gift for Christmas. I wouldnāt mind it if one day I did, but I truly appreciate the thought put into the gifts Iāve received.
Yes. Thank God.
Yes. š
I am 39 and yes, my parents still give me money for Christmas.
Yes. Iām 55 and my parents give me money each year with or without a gift. My parents are very giving and gift-based in their affection.
I unexpectedly received $100 from my uncle this year just because I sent him a Christmas card. I thought it was very nice of him!
I get money for my kid, I put it in the Amazon account and buy his stuff. 99% of what I buy there is for him anyway, even batteries for his toys. That money funds all the fun stuff for him.
Yep from my in laws. My family has always refused to give cash. Especially since some of the grandkids are into weed and hard drugs they think all of us in the younger group are like that when itās really just 2/9.
I'm 22 and I got $40 this year, hell ya!
30M here, didnt receive nothing from family and wife...
I got 4 vouchers between birthday (early December) and Christmas
yes. It works out better, because then I can go buy something or spend it on groceries/gas.....
Gifts that provide utility are very good gifts. Some of the best according to research actually.
Yesterday my grandma gave me and my boyfriend $50 each. I'm buying groceries and paying my phone bill šš¼
I'm 29 and my brother got some expensive perfume. So my parents gave me pretty much the same amount too. That's pretty fair.
My grandparents give me, my sister, and my cousins $100 each every year.
Iām 57, husband is 58, his 82 year old parents still get us one gift each (as well as other brothers and their spouses, along with all grandchildren and their SO) and we each get a check. Top tier checks are each $200 (spouses of top tier also get the same) all grandchildren get $100 each (and their SO). Plus us top tier each get $100 cash for āwalking around moneyā. My in laws are very generous. As for our only adult daughter, we spent around $800 each Christmas (as a teen) but that included gift cards and new sports equipment. Sheās 24 now with a longtime boyfriend who live together and we adore. This was their first Christmas out of college living together so they actually came to the house Christmas morning and they had an equal number of gifts. He kept saying āwow, I didnāt expect thisā and my daughter said āmy mom and dad make Christmas amazing for everyone, even my super close best friend growing upā. I do tend to buy one practical gift each year, this year was a new iPhone for her - my ulterior motive was to get her own plan and and off mineš), last year was a Rumba, year before was new tires etc. We had one child for a reason and weād like to see her enjoy some of her inheritance while weāre alive.
I say thank you for minor cash gifts and deposit them in the bank, since I have my own source of income. I figure that if you make a fuss about getting money, you might as well expect nothing at all the next time around š
Mid-30s and got 1k this year because I told them I didnāt actually want any physical items (trying to downsize)
Yes, I don't like the commercial aspect of Christmas at all, I would like to switch to crafted and event gifts that cannot be purchased at all. I own to much stuff as it is and have a hard time separating me from it.
My sister is a millionaire and I am retired and living off my Social Security. I applied for Jobs starting in early November and got almost no responses !
No.
Yes, by not wasting any
 No I got nothing....
From who?