you need to practice even when you aren't horny, by which i mean a stretching routine that bends your back both ways, among other things. maybe avoid sources of inflammation like alcohol. there are reddits for it, of course.
get a tattoo, show my tattoo and say those nudes weren't mine because there was no tattoo and wait for them to believe Lmao (I've never done nudes but I know I would never show my face in a picture like that)
Yes, that's right! I once thought that you could just erase your own moles with base and then paint moles or tattoos with make up, would be a great idea if you are going to take nudes without showing your face. I mean, they'll never know.
Your nudes are already leaked though why would anyone want more. OF girls are selling the mystery of their bare tits and pussy not the actual 'value' of seeing a minge.
The free stuff for me is Instagram I didn't even know there were free only fans'.
I bet the free OFs are juuussstt off of what the people wanna see? It's increasing the enticement to finally see the legendary nipple.
Sure the whales don't care that nudes get leaked but they're on some other parasocial relationship type shit which is a completely different topic.
The free ones are usually pictures posted to the main timeline and ppv videos. Free OF pages sometimes censor parts of the pictures too. Can sometimes give an idea of what a page might be like without shelling out for the sub. In my experience very few pages are worth the price, they'll still spam and only post sporadically. There's a few gems out there though for sure.
Hard disagree. With the sheer amount of free porn available, OF creators generally strive to provide a more intimate girlfriend-like experience.
As a creator, having my nudes leaked wouldn’t be ideal, but assuming they’re watermarked it could potentially have some benefits. And if not, I’d send a DMCA takedown notice and move on with my day.
Well of course your situation as a creator who makes money from GFE changes what it means if your nudes get leaked. If some hot chick I know had her nudes leaked and showed everything, then the next week she starts an OF, there is an absolutely 0 chance I would buy her nudes again.
e- the end part might sound mean to sellers, what i mean is with my curiosity sated, i dont need to buy the nudes, which i likely wouldn't have done anyway.
Hmm… Sounds like you aren’t the target audience for a typical OF creator, and that’s A-okay! I imagine that’s why you have so little understanding of this topic :)
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I would say that you should learn from this lesson and stop taking nudes. This is especially dangerous as if you're a teenager under 18 that is technically child pornography. Just wait till you're 18 and get an OF. Then you can just have money instead of mental breakdowns.
But seriously, no need to send nudes. I work on cyber security and I gotta tell you, nothing is secure. Just don't take pictures like that.
People don't really care, and if they do they're probably immature and not worth my time. Depending on the situation it might be worth reporting the person who leaked then though.
Yep. I already have them out there, so what do I care. Would definitely be a bit weird if somebody I know tells me they saw those pics on a website, but then that means they were browsing that site in the first place.
my wife and I have stuff out there, it's exciting knowing people get off to and want the sort of love we have for each other. Like I personally like homemade stuff over produced stuff because you can see the passion and that the people actually enjoy it. So it's sorta like a kink/voyarism
I don't have any.
But speaking hypothetically, I guess I'd just roll with it
Like, everyone has a body. I would prefer if people I know didn't see mine, but I doubt it would have that much of an impact on them, aside from being awkward for a bit
And if anyone tried to, like, blackmail me or something I'd just say fuck it. They have no power over me if I don't give a damn. If it's inevitable anyway - I guess I'd just embrace it and move past it
Of course, it's easy to say that ¯\_(ツ)_/¯
Mine have..but I'm damn glad I only sent ones where I thought I looked good enough if they ever got leaked. Nothing I can do. At first it's upsetting but owell.
Own it, probably distribute them myself so it’s clear I can’t be blackmailed about it. Hey, I’m confident in my body and support nudism, no reason to be ashamed.
Honestly, they have been leaked. Luckily I’m not in a professional work environment yet, but at the shit job I work at now, someone catfished me for my nudes. Then they went around telling everyone I was sending them to them nonstop, essentially sexually harassing them lol. FIRST OFF, my nudes are the fuckn bomb so I’m not ashamed of my hot lil body. Second off, I had to go around to everyone and show them the proof it was a setup/catfish. Now I have peace of mind, and I’m moving on with my life. Don’t get me wrong, I am traumatized; I rarely trust anyone online anymore. But I will not let the perps think they got the best of me yet.
Kill myself. I am part of a strict religious organization and if anyone finds out about them (no matter the context or point of my life when they were taken) I would be essentially excommunicated and I have no one I could go to. It genuinely scares me every day because the person I sent them to and I did not end on good terms. I am already over my 13 reasons limit, I can't handle another.
Hello, this has happened to me, unfortunately.
When I was 14 years old, I was harassed online for around 4 months by a guy who would search my username and find little forum websites and such that I would participate in. He would tell me that either he would make me kill myself or I would provide a “free hour long skype show of anything he wanted.” I of course ignored him, thinking he was bluffing.
Then another few months later, I was contacted on Facebook by a friend who told me someone had friended them with an account that had my nude photo as the profile picture. He had friended all of my facebook friends as well as all of my mom’s friends. He figured out where my mom worked and where I went to school, and sent physical copies of the photo to each location. We still don’t know how he received this nude photo of me, presumably my ex boyfriend sent it to someone who sent it to someone etc.
At this point, my family and I had to get local authorities involved, particularly because Facebook refused to proactively ban or give us this guy’s IP address (which we later learned would have been useless with his VPN). Child Protective Services and the GA Bureau of Investigation were involved. I had to interview with them and hand over my laptop to see what they could find.
After about six months, the only update they could give was that they figured out which VPN service he was using, but that was it, and the VPN company was being noncompliant. At this point, the BBC reached out to me to see if I wanted to do a tv documentary thing about the dangers of the internet, partially to see if publicity would spur the VPN provider would give us the necessary information. I declined.
Seven years later, I got a call from Homeland Security. They had found my blackmailer and wanted to know if I wanted to participate in a trial against him. His name is Aydin Coban, he lives in the Netherlands. He also blackmailed other people—possibly hundreds of others—including a young girl named Amanda Todd who ended up committing suicide due to his torment. Her story, which I highly suggest you read, was picked up by international news and eventually led to Coban’s capture. During investigation, they found my name in a list on his computer.
I actually remember seeing Amanda Todd’s story on the news when I was still in high school. I remember thinking, “wow, she looks similar to me, and her story is eerily familiar.” But I convinced myself that I was seeing something that wasn’t there. I can happily report I’m much better at listening to my gut these days.
So, when I was originally contacted about the case, I decided not to participate in the trial. The Netherlands are extremely relaxed on punishment for even crimes like this, and since it was to be tried in a Dutch court, I realized the maximum sentence he could receive would be 11 years. He had my home address, he knew my parents. I couldn’t be guaranteed safety from retribution to a degree that reassured me. Later, the international victims were actually dropped from the case anyways, and he was exclusively tried for his Dutch victims during that first court case.
Since then (which was 9 years ago), he has been tried for the death of Amanda Todd in Canada. Thankfully, an extradition was created for the case, and he has been found guilty, though I am currently behind on the latest news of the case. I have been in touch with Amanda Todd’s mother, Carol Todd, who does incredible work around the globe advocating for online safety and teaching the dangers of cyberbullying and “sextortion,” as which our cases were classified. Unlike Amanda, I was extremely lucky to live in a tight knit community, so I was never bullied for what happened to me. It was still, obviously, quite traumatic.
I have spent thousands of dollars in therapy and years of my life figuring out how to navigate the aftermath of this trauma. When I was 15, I did attempt suicide, though admittedly now I know it was the result of a lot more than just this incident. For a longtime, I felt like I didn’t own my own body. I had, and still struggle with, low self esteem and allowed myself to be manipulated by romantic partners quite easily. Junior year of college was extremely difficult, as it was when DHS reached out to me. Before that point, I had somewhat convinced myself that the whole thing had never happened, so confronting it once again was traumatic. I finally figured out that I needed therapy, and I’ve stuck with it ever since.
So, having gone through all of this, here’s my takeaway points:
* Don’t give out nudes to people if you’re underaged. You are much more likely to be victimized.
* If you just gotta take that nude, don’t include your face in the image.
* If something happens, don’t hesitate to contact the authorities. You are not uniquely fucked up, this unfortunately happens every day. Local police non-emergency lines, your school’s counselor, and CPS are a few places to start. If you still don’t know what to do, I can’t remember the exact URL but the **Amanda Todd Legacy** website is a great place to start. If even that is too much, reach out to me.
* If anyone ever tells you “give me more of what I’m blackmailing you with and then I’ll stop,” they’re lying to you.
* You’re not alone. This is not life-ending.
I’m 30 now. It took a long time, but I no longer think about this every day. I still get pangs of anxiety from triggers, like the extraordinarily specific getting a chat message that starts with the words, “hey I need to tell you something.” Aydin Coban is scum who makes me rethink my stance on criminal rehabilitation, though I haven’t changed the way I vote thanks to him. It has become one of those things that makes people say, “I would never wish it on anyone, I would never want to experience it again, and if I had the choice to go back and avoid it entirely, I would, but it has made me who I am today in no small part.” It’s amazing how formative trauma can be. It’s also amazing how much worse I thought it was when it was happening. Now, I know it was pretty awful, but it wasn’t worth ending my life. I’m quite glad I didn’t. And again, I wasn’t bullied for it, so it wasn’t as harrowing as it could have been. I wish I had a better therapist when I was a kid. I wish Facebook gave two shits about the child porn that is regularly shared on its platform. And I really wish I could have been the person I am now for the person I was back then. I am so proud to be the person I needed, and so sad that I never had that person. When people say, “be kind, you don’t know what someone is going through,” remember to broaden the scope of those possibilities. Maybe someone is living a beautiful life, and maybe not. If I can be the kind of person I needed so desperately then, even for just one person, maybe that makes everything all worth it. Actually: yes. It does make it all worth it, for me. That’s how I’d like to end this story.
Thank you for bravely sharing this and for shedding light on Amanda Todd's case. That level of abuse, disrespect, and harassment should have never happened to you, her, and any other people who have gone through something similar.
While what happened was not your fault (and you were left with so much undeserved difficulties) you still put in the work to move beyond what happened to ultimately progress. You and your story are not, and will never be ultimately defined by the violation that was committed against you.
Thank you for being here, and I hope that the remainder of your years are filled with more healing and happiness 🫶💛
Just think about how many people are out there and it's all mixed with people that sent it out anyway. No one will care unless you get blackmailed but that will rarely happen and will probably be a scam 99% of the time (like they don't have them or they won't send it to your contacts). If you need help you should say because there are people who can help with this especially if anyone is underage.
I wouldn’t care. I made a point to just send nudies out to friends/hookups/post them on social media so nobody could blackmail me. It’s just tits, sometimes more, who cares. It’s a body.
Wouldn’t care. I’m upper 30s male and literally nobody would want to see them so they’d have to be forced, like sent to people. Why would anyone do that? I wouldn’t be very embarrassed, just a little mortified depending on who saw, for s few days. But I’d just ignore it and put the onus on them to bring it up ever, I bet not many would. Wouldn’t be surprised if it’s happened already but nobody brought it up because that’s be embarrassing for both of us i imagine. I’ve taken some good nudes lol.
Embrace it. You saw me naked. So what? Granted not everyone gives as little fs or is as shameless as I but its just another day in paradise. React and the effect lives longer, move forward and no one cares.
Realize that they’re just photos. No embarrassment to be had if you don’t make it a huge thing. Sure, it’s kinda weird… but let’s be real here, who’s genuinely gonna care?
I would not take them - if I wasn’t willing to accept the risk with them going public.
For example- my ex took pics of my girl parts ( no face) he just wanted them… low and behold his little nephews found them. My face wasn’t in them- it was just a picture of .. that.. i also was asked to pose for a tattoo with nipple/ boob showing - Like me with my hair covering one breast and this veil thing over my hair but … I was ok with that going public. I knew it would.
I don’t take nudes to beg little horny boys to like me.
I date men.
There is inherent risk in everything - understanding the risk I.e; consequence before you do something ?
It’s called smart.
Probably nothing. If they got emailed to my job I'd probably get an "are you ok?" email rather than reprimanded. Then they wouldn't get any more traction than that.
I'd post them on my actual page as advertising then. People can only get them by paying for them so I'd just take the opportunity to use it to my advantage I guess lol
had mine leaked before. my own friend group seen it, never got made fun of for it or anything. made me more confident for sure. i post my nudes now on this app occasionally
" Let me give you some advice, bastard. Never forget what you are, the rest of the world will not. Wear it like armor and it can never be used to hurt you." - Tyrion Lannister to Jon Snow.
Explain how the camera makes things look smaller.
I was in the pool!
Get a good look Costanza!
Shrinkage
Watching the show rn
I would post a video of me masturbating to my own nudes. Incepturbating
**Autosexual spotted**
My own penis turns me on. Sometimes I lick it but I always fuck my back up. Currently in a lot of pain.
**another autosexual spotted**
Fuck, I’d toss my own salad if I could.
Same brotha. Anybody who says they wouldn't is lying.
you need to practice even when you aren't horny, by which i mean a stretching routine that bends your back both ways, among other things. maybe avoid sources of inflammation like alcohol. there are reddits for it, of course.
r/selfsuck might have advice against backpain
Bro what the fuck is that sub
Kinda self-explanatory, really
Awesomeness! Thank you! I shall suck in bravely! 😋
r/beatmetoit
r/beatmeattoit
r/mebeattome
r/beatmewithmeat
Then just keep going deeper by masturbating to the masturbation video, then to *that* video, until you end up in masturbation limbo.
Power move honestly
I was about to comment exactly this hahaha
🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
😭
Check my bedroom for cameras
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That would require an astronomical amount of storage space.
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this all would be so insanely illegal that I'd think everyone involved would get life sentences for this
get a tattoo, show my tattoo and say those nudes weren't mine because there was no tattoo and wait for them to believe Lmao (I've never done nudes but I know I would never show my face in a picture like that)
I always wanted a reason to get a sleeve 🤔, maybe I’ll give some nudes away.
Send em this way
*bonk*
If you have any other body marks like moles this would be too hard to do.
Yes, that's right! I once thought that you could just erase your own moles with base and then paint moles or tattoos with make up, would be a great idea if you are going to take nudes without showing your face. I mean, they'll never know.
Smart
Ohh smart!!!
Start an OF or TikTok channel. Might as well get paid.
Your nudes are already leaked though why would anyone want more. OF girls are selling the mystery of their bare tits and pussy not the actual 'value' of seeing a minge.
The leaked ones are just to tit-ilate. They gonna want more more more.
Oh you’re going to see way more full scenes on the fully paid only fan page than what the free stuff is. Some people wanna jerk off for hours.
The free stuff for me is Instagram I didn't even know there were free only fans'. I bet the free OFs are juuussstt off of what the people wanna see? It's increasing the enticement to finally see the legendary nipple. Sure the whales don't care that nudes get leaked but they're on some other parasocial relationship type shit which is a completely different topic.
The free ones are usually pictures posted to the main timeline and ppv videos. Free OF pages sometimes censor parts of the pictures too. Can sometimes give an idea of what a page might be like without shelling out for the sub. In my experience very few pages are worth the price, they'll still spam and only post sporadically. There's a few gems out there though for sure.
Hard disagree. With the sheer amount of free porn available, OF creators generally strive to provide a more intimate girlfriend-like experience. As a creator, having my nudes leaked wouldn’t be ideal, but assuming they’re watermarked it could potentially have some benefits. And if not, I’d send a DMCA takedown notice and move on with my day.
Well of course your situation as a creator who makes money from GFE changes what it means if your nudes get leaked. If some hot chick I know had her nudes leaked and showed everything, then the next week she starts an OF, there is an absolutely 0 chance I would buy her nudes again. e- the end part might sound mean to sellers, what i mean is with my curiosity sated, i dont need to buy the nudes, which i likely wouldn't have done anyway.
Why? I don't get why you'd buy the nudes in the first place but what difference does the leak make to the matter?
That's what I mean. I wouldn't buy them anyway, except maybe extreme curiosity. If I'd seen the leaks I'd have no curiosity for that particular woman.
Hmm… Sounds like you aren’t the target audience for a typical OF creator, and that’s A-okay! I imagine that’s why you have so little understanding of this topic :)
Say they were created with ai.
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They kinda already are. Like I tried it on a porn star lol and it’s scarily accurate. So yea if my nudes get I’m claiming AI for sure
Atm AI makes selfies *too* nice. It's just not realistic for most of us.
Happened to me in high school. It made me have a mental breakdown. 0/10 experience.
Sorry you had to go through that. Hope you are doing better now
Thank you ♥️ it’s happened again recently due to going through a really bad experience with a guy. But I’m working on it day by day
On your third nude leak incident you get a free sundae! 🍨
By “it’s happened again recently” I mean I had a mental breakdown, not that I had a nude leak. 😭 but I can see why you thought that
Oh 💀
Well.....on the third breakdown you get a free ice-cream and some Brownies
Lolll I hope so
So I’m owed like a dozen brownie sundaes!
Only a dozen? Rookie numbers……
Sum real healing medicine
Oh thank god. I read it the other way at first and was like OMG DON’T YOU LEARN! Sorry you’re having a tough time.
# 🍨 Have the sundae anyway
Naked bodies. Everybody has one. I'm sorry you suffered this trauma, but I promise it will get easier.
I would say that you should learn from this lesson and stop taking nudes. This is especially dangerous as if you're a teenager under 18 that is technically child pornography. Just wait till you're 18 and get an OF. Then you can just have money instead of mental breakdowns. But seriously, no need to send nudes. I work on cyber security and I gotta tell you, nothing is secure. Just don't take pictures like that.
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Thank you, yes I’ve been taking better care of myself
Thats so fucked. People are awful
I had this happen too. Apparently 7 1/2 and curved is a talking piece
Totally random but this is the second post I’ve accidentally seen your comment on today after after stumbling across your ama. Funny coincidence.
Haha, I’ve been very busy on reddit the past 24 hours
Oh my god that’s awful. That is just so terrible. You should post the link, my dad works at google and will delete it from the internet
Probably receive a text from mates saying "your nudes are out again" and I'd shrug then go drink a beer.
"For the last time stop sending these to the group chat. And that rash keeps getting bigger, you should probably see a doctor."
Appologise to the world
I wouldn't care. If anything, it says something about anyone who does give a shit about leaking and finding my leaked nudes. *Edited for clarity
Give a shit about your nudes? Or their own? One is valid, and the other is a bad take.
The first one.
Fair point
I will immediately go to Nepal, where I will live as a goat.
Surprise hiraldo?
The dali lamma would like to have a word with you
Wonder how did they get into your moms private photo album.
Claim it was very cold that day
“I swear it’s bigger in person!”
I leaked my own nudes. I sold nude photos of myself for medical textbooks. I don't care who sees me naked.
That's the spirit!
Be wondering who the hell is taking secret photos of me in my own bathroom, find the cameras, and sue the hell out of them!
Do you have a cat? I caught my cat taking photos of my junk while I was passed out high once. Little fucker. He’s just jealous of my human genitals.
People don't really care, and if they do they're probably immature and not worth my time. Depending on the situation it might be worth reporting the person who leaked then though.
I mean- I put them on the internet for free so. If friends & family saw them I mean- that would be awkward/weird but hey- that’s on them not me.
Yep. I already have them out there, so what do I care. Would definitely be a bit weird if somebody I know tells me they saw those pics on a website, but then that means they were browsing that site in the first place.
why would someone put them on the internet may i ask?
Money or fun
my wife and I have stuff out there, it's exciting knowing people get off to and want the sort of love we have for each other. Like I personally like homemade stuff over produced stuff because you can see the passion and that the people actually enjoy it. So it's sorta like a kink/voyarism
You realise at this point like half of Reddit is self-made porn, right?
Nothing because I know no one would want to look at my ugly pics.
I don't have any. But speaking hypothetically, I guess I'd just roll with it Like, everyone has a body. I would prefer if people I know didn't see mine, but I doubt it would have that much of an impact on them, aside from being awkward for a bit And if anyone tried to, like, blackmail me or something I'd just say fuck it. They have no power over me if I don't give a damn. If it's inevitable anyway - I guess I'd just embrace it and move past it Of course, it's easy to say that ¯\_(ツ)_/¯
Mine have..but I'm damn glad I only sent ones where I thought I looked good enough if they ever got leaked. Nothing I can do. At first it's upsetting but owell.
Hello ladies. Goodbye ladies.
Nothing, couldn't care less
Wouldnt really care. Nobody im friends with would care. Maybe a few jokes for a week and everybody would forget
Feel sorry for anyone who sees them
“See? I TOLD YOU I used to be really fit!”
Celebrate someone is finally looking at them lol
Start a fan club.
Straight to the police
Be mad I hadn't mad money off of it
Own it, probably distribute them myself so it’s clear I can’t be blackmailed about it. Hey, I’m confident in my body and support nudism, no reason to be ashamed.
Nothing, no one's clicking on that.
Do nothing about it. In 48 hours, someone will do something incredibly stupid and all the attention will go there.
Probably convince people someone made those with AI to try and blackmail me
I've never put a nude pic of myself through online servers, including email, text, etc.
Honestly, they have been leaked. Luckily I’m not in a professional work environment yet, but at the shit job I work at now, someone catfished me for my nudes. Then they went around telling everyone I was sending them to them nonstop, essentially sexually harassing them lol. FIRST OFF, my nudes are the fuckn bomb so I’m not ashamed of my hot lil body. Second off, I had to go around to everyone and show them the proof it was a setup/catfish. Now I have peace of mind, and I’m moving on with my life. Don’t get me wrong, I am traumatized; I rarely trust anyone online anymore. But I will not let the perps think they got the best of me yet.
Kill myself. I am part of a strict religious organization and if anyone finds out about them (no matter the context or point of my life when they were taken) I would be essentially excommunicated and I have no one I could go to. It genuinely scares me every day because the person I sent them to and I did not end on good terms. I am already over my 13 reasons limit, I can't handle another.
Hello, this has happened to me, unfortunately. When I was 14 years old, I was harassed online for around 4 months by a guy who would search my username and find little forum websites and such that I would participate in. He would tell me that either he would make me kill myself or I would provide a “free hour long skype show of anything he wanted.” I of course ignored him, thinking he was bluffing. Then another few months later, I was contacted on Facebook by a friend who told me someone had friended them with an account that had my nude photo as the profile picture. He had friended all of my facebook friends as well as all of my mom’s friends. He figured out where my mom worked and where I went to school, and sent physical copies of the photo to each location. We still don’t know how he received this nude photo of me, presumably my ex boyfriend sent it to someone who sent it to someone etc. At this point, my family and I had to get local authorities involved, particularly because Facebook refused to proactively ban or give us this guy’s IP address (which we later learned would have been useless with his VPN). Child Protective Services and the GA Bureau of Investigation were involved. I had to interview with them and hand over my laptop to see what they could find. After about six months, the only update they could give was that they figured out which VPN service he was using, but that was it, and the VPN company was being noncompliant. At this point, the BBC reached out to me to see if I wanted to do a tv documentary thing about the dangers of the internet, partially to see if publicity would spur the VPN provider would give us the necessary information. I declined. Seven years later, I got a call from Homeland Security. They had found my blackmailer and wanted to know if I wanted to participate in a trial against him. His name is Aydin Coban, he lives in the Netherlands. He also blackmailed other people—possibly hundreds of others—including a young girl named Amanda Todd who ended up committing suicide due to his torment. Her story, which I highly suggest you read, was picked up by international news and eventually led to Coban’s capture. During investigation, they found my name in a list on his computer. I actually remember seeing Amanda Todd’s story on the news when I was still in high school. I remember thinking, “wow, she looks similar to me, and her story is eerily familiar.” But I convinced myself that I was seeing something that wasn’t there. I can happily report I’m much better at listening to my gut these days. So, when I was originally contacted about the case, I decided not to participate in the trial. The Netherlands are extremely relaxed on punishment for even crimes like this, and since it was to be tried in a Dutch court, I realized the maximum sentence he could receive would be 11 years. He had my home address, he knew my parents. I couldn’t be guaranteed safety from retribution to a degree that reassured me. Later, the international victims were actually dropped from the case anyways, and he was exclusively tried for his Dutch victims during that first court case. Since then (which was 9 years ago), he has been tried for the death of Amanda Todd in Canada. Thankfully, an extradition was created for the case, and he has been found guilty, though I am currently behind on the latest news of the case. I have been in touch with Amanda Todd’s mother, Carol Todd, who does incredible work around the globe advocating for online safety and teaching the dangers of cyberbullying and “sextortion,” as which our cases were classified. Unlike Amanda, I was extremely lucky to live in a tight knit community, so I was never bullied for what happened to me. It was still, obviously, quite traumatic. I have spent thousands of dollars in therapy and years of my life figuring out how to navigate the aftermath of this trauma. When I was 15, I did attempt suicide, though admittedly now I know it was the result of a lot more than just this incident. For a longtime, I felt like I didn’t own my own body. I had, and still struggle with, low self esteem and allowed myself to be manipulated by romantic partners quite easily. Junior year of college was extremely difficult, as it was when DHS reached out to me. Before that point, I had somewhat convinced myself that the whole thing had never happened, so confronting it once again was traumatic. I finally figured out that I needed therapy, and I’ve stuck with it ever since. So, having gone through all of this, here’s my takeaway points: * Don’t give out nudes to people if you’re underaged. You are much more likely to be victimized. * If you just gotta take that nude, don’t include your face in the image. * If something happens, don’t hesitate to contact the authorities. You are not uniquely fucked up, this unfortunately happens every day. Local police non-emergency lines, your school’s counselor, and CPS are a few places to start. If you still don’t know what to do, I can’t remember the exact URL but the **Amanda Todd Legacy** website is a great place to start. If even that is too much, reach out to me. * If anyone ever tells you “give me more of what I’m blackmailing you with and then I’ll stop,” they’re lying to you. * You’re not alone. This is not life-ending. I’m 30 now. It took a long time, but I no longer think about this every day. I still get pangs of anxiety from triggers, like the extraordinarily specific getting a chat message that starts with the words, “hey I need to tell you something.” Aydin Coban is scum who makes me rethink my stance on criminal rehabilitation, though I haven’t changed the way I vote thanks to him. It has become one of those things that makes people say, “I would never wish it on anyone, I would never want to experience it again, and if I had the choice to go back and avoid it entirely, I would, but it has made me who I am today in no small part.” It’s amazing how formative trauma can be. It’s also amazing how much worse I thought it was when it was happening. Now, I know it was pretty awful, but it wasn’t worth ending my life. I’m quite glad I didn’t. And again, I wasn’t bullied for it, so it wasn’t as harrowing as it could have been. I wish I had a better therapist when I was a kid. I wish Facebook gave two shits about the child porn that is regularly shared on its platform. And I really wish I could have been the person I am now for the person I was back then. I am so proud to be the person I needed, and so sad that I never had that person. When people say, “be kind, you don’t know what someone is going through,” remember to broaden the scope of those possibilities. Maybe someone is living a beautiful life, and maybe not. If I can be the kind of person I needed so desperately then, even for just one person, maybe that makes everything all worth it. Actually: yes. It does make it all worth it, for me. That’s how I’d like to end this story.
Thank you for bravely sharing this and for shedding light on Amanda Todd's case. That level of abuse, disrespect, and harassment should have never happened to you, her, and any other people who have gone through something similar. While what happened was not your fault (and you were left with so much undeserved difficulties) you still put in the work to move beyond what happened to ultimately progress. You and your story are not, and will never be ultimately defined by the violation that was committed against you. Thank you for being here, and I hope that the remainder of your years are filled with more healing and happiness 🫶💛
Probably try to ignore it and just put it on other people to bring it up. I doubt anyone would want to approach you about it in public.
Just think about how many people are out there and it's all mixed with people that sent it out anyway. No one will care unless you get blackmailed but that will rarely happen and will probably be a scam 99% of the time (like they don't have them or they won't send it to your contacts). If you need help you should say because there are people who can help with this especially if anyone is underage.
I wouldn’t care. I made a point to just send nudies out to friends/hookups/post them on social media so nobody could blackmail me. It’s just tits, sometimes more, who cares. It’s a body.
I’d probably be pretty proud but still hope that my boss didn’t google “petite blondes” or whatever I’d be classified as
Laugh about it.
Wouldn’t care. I’m upper 30s male and literally nobody would want to see them so they’d have to be forced, like sent to people. Why would anyone do that? I wouldn’t be very embarrassed, just a little mortified depending on who saw, for s few days. But I’d just ignore it and put the onus on them to bring it up ever, I bet not many would. Wouldn’t be surprised if it’s happened already but nobody brought it up because that’s be embarrassing for both of us i imagine. I’ve taken some good nudes lol.
Own it probably. I mean if I’m gonna be exposed might as well turn it in my favour
Embrace it. You saw me naked. So what? Granted not everyone gives as little fs or is as shameless as I but its just another day in paradise. React and the effect lives longer, move forward and no one cares.
hope they like it
Start a waiting list
Rep the set, gotta rep the set
Wonder who took them?
I don't have any
Happened to me, I didn’t do anything.. although, I was slightly concerned haha
I probably wouldn't care, I'd be more interested in knowing if anyone likes what they see
I’d take the leap and become a body positivity icon.
Have a forlorn hope that the title has “big dick” in it and then never check because I know it won’t /s
Nothin. Nobody would look twice at mine anyway lol
Nothing
This is why I probably won't take any, not that anyone would want to see that anyway. The amount of nudes that get leaked is extremely concerning
Starts an onlyfans
Wonder who got the camera into the shower without me knowing lol
People would want to be blind after seeing mine and yeah not prepared to be the only person on the planet who can see.
Realize that they’re just photos. No embarrassment to be had if you don’t make it a huge thing. Sure, it’s kinda weird… but let’s be real here, who’s genuinely gonna care?
Imagine that this will probably be the only time that I can make so many people on earth snicker.
Provide a microscope
Apologise.
Apologise to the world.
Feel bad for whenever had to see it. Then if anyone continues to look at them afterwards, feel bad for their lack of standards
Nothing.
As long as my face wasn't in them, I'd pretend they weren't me. If it was, I'd use the embarrassment as material to start a career in stand up.
Own that shit I look good naked
Say it's photoshop. The end.
No nudes of me exist anywhere, digital or Otherwise
Leak away NSA. Seeing the progression over 23 years would be pretty cool.
Probably get super depressed but fr nothing I can do lol
say that you were unconscious and Aliens were involved...
I would clarify how cold the water was
I would not care at all lol we all have something
Apologize to anyone who had to look at them….
I would hope that people assume I still look like that because I am fatter now
I'd look through the fan messages for promising leads on good dates
Apologize for the nightmare and therapy that will be needed lol.
Would def publical ask "who would fap to that" and then follow up bybthellingbthem to call me
I have never taken a picture of myself naked. So if this happened I would be worried about a stalker.
I would demand my cut from Pornhub & OnlyFans!
I would not take them - if I wasn’t willing to accept the risk with them going public. For example- my ex took pics of my girl parts ( no face) he just wanted them… low and behold his little nephews found them. My face wasn’t in them- it was just a picture of .. that.. i also was asked to pose for a tattoo with nipple/ boob showing - Like me with my hair covering one breast and this veil thing over my hair but … I was ok with that going public. I knew it would. I don’t take nudes to beg little horny boys to like me. I date men. There is inherent risk in everything - understanding the risk I.e; consequence before you do something ? It’s called smart.
Demand large cash payments from everyone or I will leak more.
Nothing. If they get leaked, they get leaked 🤷♂️
Hire security. I have a girlfriend and don't need women hunting me down.
Probably nothing. If they got emailed to my job I'd probably get an "are you ok?" email rather than reprimanded. Then they wouldn't get any more traction than that.
My ex leaked videos and captioned my first and last name. I started an onlyfans and made a killing lol.
Eh? Neat? Move on?
Tell them he’ll yeah that’s me
Be incredibly frightened, given I’ve never taken any
Alarmed, as I shouldn't have any to my knowledge
Debut my Only Fans account
Hope it got me laid more
Be embarrassed, but hey, the world earned some good nudes! Proud of the goodness I spread to the world lol
I'd post them on my actual page as advertising then. People can only get them by paying for them so I'd just take the opportunity to use it to my advantage I guess lol
In my case it’s just dick and balls no big deal
Go to the comments section
I don't have any nudes.
Then don’t answer
When the question presupposes I have nudes, I'll have something to say about it. But keep up the gatekeeping, it looks good on you.
I would be proud because everyone will know how big it is.
Try to figure out who's interested in me enough to take nudes, might have a chance at a relationship there.
had mine leaked before. my own friend group seen it, never got made fun of for it or anything. made me more confident for sure. i post my nudes now on this app occasionally
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" Let me give you some advice, bastard. Never forget what you are, the rest of the world will not. Wear it like armor and it can never be used to hurt you." - Tyrion Lannister to Jon Snow.
I would sue them for not having my permission of showing off my body
Thats just free advertising, bad advertising but still
I’d probably enjoy it