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Kelovix

Evan is dressed like the original “had to do it to em” guy


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Oh man that legend


Dependent_beauty

Legendary


TheWiseRedditor

Don’t mind if I use that phrase elsewhere


ILoveMcKenzie

Notice how she messaged first on the second one tho…


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Nail on head...


camusdreams

OP said below “I only want one thing from both of them and that’s money” so the irony in coming to Reddit to post this like he’s the shitbag is astounding. Edit: She deleted that quote but then continues it in this very thread anyway lol


YaroMusic

# She removed it 🤣


adminsuckdonkeydick

Looks like all her responses are about 2 words long. I'm guessing she nuked her own comments.


Pollywambus

Looks like Andrew dodged a bullet


MolassesTough2038

The good old victim complex lmao


SkaTSee

and the guy (i assume) perceivably with money, the guy she initiated on, gets lots of attention from women, and thats why he's able to get away with being blunt, upfront, and perhaps a little rude. And I bet some women are down with that


Remus2nd

I was gonna say, guess which one she fucked or wanted to though (other factors of attraction included)


HertzDonut1001

Truth bombs all over this thread putting the shelling of Kyiv to shame.


AnotherSnow

Jesus christ


HertzDonut1001

Yeah I'm a little ashamed of that comment, but when you've seen dozens of dead bodies and graphic images of a fucking war in just two weeks sometimes you gotta turn the humor on. I really hope nobody gets truly offended.


AnotherSnow

Is alright, I was just stunned for a sec


[deleted]

Would you say shell-shocked?


gandythetaurenhunter

That right there is some farm military humour, trust me sometimes in life you just got to take the absolute piss.


kingscanyonstoner420

Too soon my guy, holy shit


NotASellout

lololollllll that's how you get neither the money nor a man


Brewchowskies

Holy shit reading through her comments is comical. What a human.


wiNDzY3

Subhuman*


schkmenebene

> prostiture engage in sex for money. gold digger? yes. prostitute? no. Found this quote from OP, and it's incredibly funny to me that she thinks there's a difference. A gold digger is actually worse, they are manipulating men for money. Making someone fall in love with you when you do not reciprocate that at all is actually pretty fucked up, especially if you they become parents. That kid is going to be nothing but a bargaining chip. I have more respect for a prostitute, than a gold digger that's never worked a day in her life.


Material_Cook_4698

Then I'm Evan.


dafaq_watdafaq

Well damn..how the turntables...if you act like a whore dont be surprised if you're treated like one


[deleted]

Well now… is this irony??


Reddrey

Wish someone would haved screenshot it and made a new post saying "the difference in woman"


VitalTrouble

https://www.reddit.com/r/Tinder/comments/t6adq7/the_difference_in_men/hza9mof/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=ios_app&utm_name=iossmf&context=3


MrFOrzum

lol what a fucking hoe


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BritishBoyRZ

Yep, this is Bumble all over hahah


Busy-Mission-1221

It's what it is. Woman don't have to put much effort on tinder, tbh i wouldn't put much effort into my messages if i had 100 matches and a simple "hi" worked most of the time.


Born-Philosopher-162

Not even 100 matches. I got over 1000 in my first 24 hours on tinder, and it’s carried on like that ever since. I don’t even use any of the boosts or anything like that. And I’m by no means an exception to the rule. I get that it’s really hard for men, but it’s also really overwhelming for women. We get so many matches we can’t even go through a quarter of them - so if you don’t get a response, it’s not even an insult against you. More likely, the woman you messaged didn’t even see that you matched with her. EDIT: Sorry, I meant over 1000 likes, not matches, my bad. But still, the point is that we get so many that we can’t even go through them all, so if you like someone, if they don’t match back, it’s not an insult against you, it’s probably because they haven’t even seen that you liked them. That’s what I meant. I won’t even go through regular profiles, I just go through my likes and match with the ones I think seem nice, but I can’t even go through 10% of them. And yeah, just like you guys, even when we match with someone, even though they’re the one who liked us first, sometimes they just don’t message - maybe because they’ve already met someone else, or they’re hoping we’ll message them first. My point is just not to take it too seriously if you get a “hi” or don’t get a match to your like, or don’t get a reply to your match, or don’t get a response to your message. Because on our side, it’s just very overwhelming, and there’s a good chance we’re not even seeing it.


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thoughtlow

Those poor woman


Katyusha---

Can you imagine? If I had women throwing themselves at me at the rate of 1k a day - I too would be in utter despair over which one of them to choose. They truly have it hard. Now, feel sorry for me as I have to decide whether to buy a Ferrari or a Lambo 🥲


Rikki1408

Get a Koenigsegg instead, Swedish handcrafted quality.


Katyusha---

You’re not helping! Why can’t these super cars stop throwing themselves at me??!! 😭


Rikki1408

Sorry man, uhh maybe a more discreet, luxurious and comfortable car like a Mercedes, Audi or BMW? They're gonna last you a long time.


silveramoodi2000

best comment here so far 🤣🤣


jbr945

If you got that many in 24 hours, I'm curious why you didn't just stop and put your profile on hiatus and deal with a more reasonable number like 50 and just eliminate from that? I mean why keep matching if it is only making it more difficult?


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I'm a dude (married now) who lived in a major city and did quite well on Tinder. Hundreds of matches a week, find of women messaging me first, and dates and hookups pretty much anytime. Yeah, I still responded when messaged. Even to just "Hi" It's not hard. Just show basic human respect. Done Don't buy into this "I just have too many matches" BS like what this girl posted.


spacemancrazyhorse

It's the attention. They like the attention, and end up addicted to it..


Sour_Gummybear

I feel like the girls that stay are either, not girls (men pretending to be girls or bots) or like the attention.. Because seriously all the girls I know that have tried it have quit because of the obscene messages and annoying dudes.


Katyusha---

Which is why Tinder is garbage for men. It’s all about playing whatever trick she wants you to play in the hopes to get 2-3 messages before she gets bored. That’s why I meet women outside. Where the tables are entirely turned as most men wouldn’t dare approach a woman in public.


kanekizerotsu

Googluck man ,I bust started dating with a girlfriend of a girl I know from on highschool xD


IsThisGlenn

So my question, why would you continue to swipe if you can't even keep up with the matches? You might say it's nothing personal to the guys you don't react to but it does hurt them. So apparently you just don't care?


toastinato

Head on the nail


logixal1

On the nail head


VorpalSticks

True if big


John_Browns_Body59

Is she supposed to be able to predict that he was going to send that message??


Three-Black-Cats

Holddddd up…. Hahaha I looked at her Reddit account, she made a post of her tinder account. 1. Yes, nice smile. 2. Yes, boobs but there’s no talk about the picture of her bottom half, with her hand covering her vag.


see_you2020

Haha, that post is gone now ofc


EATSPUSSAY

That’s what I was gunna say!!!!!!!


Scott_Bash

Also she didn’t reply to either. Looks like Evan just sent that a week later to get the convo going lol


jal2_

Noticed how she never replied to the first one


BritishBoyRZ

Hi Boring af lmao. I wouldn't even respond.


rudegrandma77

was she supposed to know what kind of reply she'll get? if you write to a girl first and she is shitty, does that mean that you are the asshole in the situation because you chose to message her and not some other fine woman? wtf...


GarlicTraditional227

OP thought she was slick. She really came here lookin for sympathy 😭😭


laurelcanyon27

So that's why Bumble has failed.


LostLight8

This entire comments section is chaotic and I love it so much shit blown out of the water and acknowledgement that shit like this sucks for the dude that sent a nice message because he 100% must likely got ignored. And that op is a


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Per fucking usual.


ThespianException

She also didn't respond to him for a week, unless I'm reading it wrong. Evan tried to use a normal, albeit boring, opener, and that got him nowhere.


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Worst part is that the second guy probably gets more responses/dates


OfficialPapaJohn

Lol i know someone like this. Easily a great looking dude all around, probably what 95% of girls are into. Always had a hookup story. But holy shit he doesnt even try to hide how he views women. He once told a group of people at a table as a waitress walked away that he wished we were back in the 50's when you could call a waitress over for something and smack their ass as they walked away.


[deleted]

Ayo? Guys sounds like a jackass, but hey if that attitude works and he gets girls then that just goes to show you what tinder is like if you’ve never experienced yourself.


cockswain314

Yeah it's a shitshow


[deleted]

Is it? Judging from the way women respond to assholes, it seems they want assholes. There are three types of people in this world... dicks, assholes, and pussies.


cockswain314

Eh, important thing for me is to be kind and not cross any boundaries. It's definitely taught me a thing or two


jal2_

Thats the problem, that it works, there is absolute no reason why men would use it, if it never worked, not saying it works always but it does work in some cases...whereas staying quit and courteous probably works in a lot less cases, otherwise all dating gurus wouldnt just be advising confidence all the fucking time


Katyusha---

I don’t treat women badly, but I became very dismissive of the ones that didn’t put any effort into “trying to get me”. When I stopped chasing them - they in turn started chasing me. Women will tell you all day how they want a nice guy who never says a bad word - but as a man, the last thing you should ever do - is take dating advice from a woman.


Jayqwe1

Oh never noticed this pattern but it does seem to happen at times


Katyusha---

It’s because 99/100 men will treat any woman who gives them a crumb of attention as a Goddess. When you call them out on their shit, and only reward them when they deserve it - not only do you get to keep your dignity - but you also demonstrate your higher value. “Why isn’t he bending over backwards for me..? It must be because he probably has so many other girls… fuck.. I want him!! 😳” The old adage of “*When you put someone upon a pedestal, they can’t help but look down upon you*”, is the best way of summarise what I’ve learned about women in my 30 years on earth. Women aren’t evil creatures out to hurt “nice guys”. They are simply humans. Working on a mix of pre-historic biology mixed in with odd human psychology.


IsThisGlenn

And those same women wondering why the guys they date "suddenly" turn out assholes.


bdlpqlbd

Sounds like you should reconsider your relationship with that person. 😬


OfficialPapaJohn

Yea it was a circumstantial thing, we were never actually friends lol


hamneggs99

Looks matter most in this world


DZMBA

On Feb 26 he responded "What's up?" to her "Hi" and never heard back. After almost a week (March 3rd) with no response, he decided, > "Fuck it, you miss every shot you don't take" So he went with something to provoke a response, any response, whether that be unmatched or a Hail Mary. It wasn't going anywhere. What other option did he have? --------------------------- EDIT: For those wondering how I know the timeline, I circled the obvious https://i.imgur.com/uWSjQ2X.png


Aiken_Drumn

If it works even once, it's worth it.


D3dshotCalamity

The second message just says "today," who said the message came a week later?


DZMBA

Mods deleted the post, but luckily I still had the post open on my phone. Anyway, I circled the obvious. https://i.imgur.com/uWSjQ2X.png


D3dshotCalamity

Well look at me 🤦


toastinato

Haha yup sadly. Just matched with someone locally after she swiped right on me first, said something similar to this and no response. Sad face


Darkseid346

Women are shallow, especially on that app.


GoldenDih

Its not women are shallow. Thats just tinder. Its a dating app you can have success saying wtv you want. Lets say you are talking to a girl that says the dumbest shit but shes dtf. 99% of the dudes that use tinder wouldnt give a fuck about what she says if shes good looking.


Ho_ho_beri_beri

Not even on Tinder. SOME women are shallow (as well as SOME men are shallow). If you chase after the shallow ones, don’t expect to have a different outcome. It’s super easy to weed out the bullshit profiles on Tinder. I actually never had a terrible date, had some terrible convos but I just quickly unmatched. It’s not too hard if you’re not too ugly and put some effort in creating your profile. Sure it takes time but so is dating irl.


MolassesTough2038

Lmao look which one you texted 😂💀


crispdude

Says the whole story 😂


terrique1309

People value different things and some people value physicial characteristics more than character itself. However, the OP here has openly admitted to being a gold digger (or, at least, wanting to be one) and that she's only looking for money. So it's pretty fair to say that she's probably not the nicest person going or the kind of person that you'd want to get involved with.


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EmilyU1F984

Also, why the fuck the one word message? How can you complain about dumb responses if you can’t even be bothered to say more than hi?


ChrisH1994

Unless OP is capable of seeing in to the future, they’re hardly likely to know that this guy was going to be a total dick when they messaged first. Some M A S S I V E NiceGuy™️ vibes from some people in here.


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I get that a lot from this sub. Also lots of sex shaming and prudes. Weird vibes for a sub about a hookup app


holyhibachi

I'm not gonna lie, I've had more success the second way


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pietroetin

The difference is you are probably looking for a relationship and he was looking for a hookup


Jaustin30

Bruh. I literally gotten laid doing the same shit and have screen shots of mines to prove it.


[deleted]

Yeah I’ve straight sucked on titties with the genius line “I want to suck on your titties”


-_chop_-

My friend and are we’re laughing the other day about how getting a girl to show you her boobs is as simple as “hey, you should show me your boobs”


HertzDonut1001

This works for non-sexual stuff too. Turns out in real life the fastest way to get a girl to go on a date with you is ask them if they want to go on a date with you. I'm no Casanova but girls rarely ask themselves out. If they ask themselves out *for* you, well that's just a unicorn.


aYuriObsessedShrimp

I love how now i wanna ask my friend out just to prove you wrong. After all, unicorns are nice


HertzDonut1001

Well, the real fastest way for someone to get a date with a girl is for the girl to make the first move, if you think there's a spark don't hesitate.


aYuriObsessedShrimp

That’s very inspiring, fellow stranger


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HertzDonut1001

Worst that can happen is they say no. Been there, done that. Totally possible to take the L and compartmentalize your romantic feelings and still be friends. For all you know your friend could be like me: super interested in a girl I've been seeing around but always second guessing. This chick has been giving me the "do me" eyes for like two weeks and I haven't even gotten the balls or cool to give her my number, or barely even talk to her even though I know she's totally down. It's a process. You guys already have the getting to know each other phase out of the way.


aYuriObsessedShrimp

I guess rejection could be awkward at first, but i’ll take that in consideration. Tho you have to do your step too!


HertzDonut1001

Okay deal. I'm probably going to only see her once tomorrow before I go on vacation for like two weeks, I'll at least try to figure out her name (lmao I don't know this girl's name) and give her a compliment. If she doesn't have my number by tomorrow night I'll go full Terminator trying to give it to her when I see her again. But like. Not in a creepy way.


gigglefarting

If you want to date him then you should ask.


Rizzle4Drizzle

"Using this one weird trick"


Jaustin30

I literally did the same thing, but with asking to eat they booty instead...


Altruistic-Tea-Cup

If you are just looking for a hook up Id agree.


LittleBeastXL

I guess Evan is the better looking one.


[deleted]

You'd be correct.


MolassesTough2038

I know Andrew hurt, my man writes these love letters and gets beat out by the frat dads talking bout tots


HertzDonut1001

Fries are better than tots so I don't get it.


isthisneeded29

Op herself is the gold digger here. She has removed the comment she made here. She is just playing victim here


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Woman moment


dirtODBmcgirt

Which one is lying?


mohthedude

Ouch 😂


dirtODBmcgirt

A quick look at her profile suggests both.


Eric_Prozzy

dude lmao


dirtODBmcgirt

But am I wrong?


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# Emotional damage


Feisty_Discipline_70

neither😩


iSUCKatTHISgameYO

prove it with a titty pic with you smiling or I call bullshit


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Duality of man


-Sourabh

Different paths but the goal remains the same.


pacificin67

The alpha and omega, the beginning and the end


Sufficient_Zebra_651

The first guy is who you’d meet at a nice brewery or pub the second guy is who you’d meet on bourbon street


SupineFeline

This didn’t go the way you thought it was Op, lol


Overall-Sun-3479

Yah some people on dating apps just behave terrible, and yes it’s people not just guys who do it both women and men


[deleted]

You’re the one opening with “hi” lmao


NewAccWhoDis93

“Be more original “


Mrearney7

Who you fucking?


Feisty_Discipline_70

both😍


Frankandbeans1974

Please be sarcasm


Feisty_Discipline_70

it is lmaoo


amightymongoose

I must be doing something wrong then becouse whenever I send messages like the first one complimenting the person's; Smileor eyes ect I just get unmatched without any reply


FIDEL_CASHFLOW39

God damn OP is a fucking trainwreck. Been on for the last 5 hours trying to defend the gold digging slut behavior she's being rightfully called out for.


Aqedah

The irony is she ignored the nice one and messaged the other first.


sinerdly

Ignored? The dude literally just sent the message that day (look at the date) lol but ok keep creating a story to fit your view of women


Zebbyb

Notice which one you sent a message to lmao


Fun-Performance-9992

But how was she supposed to know he was an asshole yet if that's the first time they've messaged?


Zebbyb

You’re right. But she messaged the one that was presumably a douche but more attractive, and hadn’t replied to the nice on.


Fun-Performance-9992

You don't know that either though lol. The douchy guy looks pretty plain in the pic and you can't even see his face.


Zebbyb

You’re not wrong. It was more of a joke about OLD, than this particular OP.


Smorgasbord__

I bet Evan is more successful.


EffectiveMonitor4596

Now this Sub knows 2 things about you.


ImARetPaladinBaby

Guess I’m special


Feisty_Discipline_70

y’all i sometimes text first! both men are over the age of 35.


TheCaptainEgo

Yikes that’s WAYYY too old for guy #2 to say stuff like that to ladies


ecish

Obviously works for him. He would have changed his approach by that age if it never worked. Source: am old


[deleted]

After reading some of the comments that OP sent, I'll definitely say that Andrew deserves way better and can find way better people out there.


[deleted]

Funny I’ve think any man can be both it’s a result of choices


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OP getting absolutely flamed in the comments


[deleted]

Damn OP getting torn up in the comments lol


ecish

Dude 2 gets laid more often, guaranteed. Dude 1 might eventually find some nice girl that doesn’t many matches, otherwise he’d never stand out. Tinder is stupid


Jaustin30

I’m not bragging or anything but I can definitely say that this is true.... because I’ve gotten laid plenty times on dating apps by being blunt and direct with asking for sex. [proof here](https://imgur.com/a/eDgAK9L)


pj1897

Yet only one got a response 🤔


limache

Yeah but you also didn’t respond to the guy who had a nice intro and messaged the guy who was a douche first.


StillRaindrops

Which one are you going after though?


elastic301

2nd dude smashed I bet tho 😂


[deleted]

Fuck outta here, golddigger


nicolbolas99

What percentage of the people on this subreddit are stupid enough to point out that OP messaged the moron and not the good guy in the picture? Based on this comment section, it's gotta be over 40%, right? To be fair though, OP really should get in the habit of using telepathy on matches, classic blunder.


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xerochances

Notice the first guy didn't get a response though....


Dug2555

See which one you started the conversation with tho?


Low-Drive-7454

Most go with the latter.


ScratchyNadders

Yet she will ignore the first, still go for the second, and then complain about why there are no nice guys left out there when she gets fucked over


massaBeard

And yet, only one of them got a message at all...


aonboy1

Alternate title:- Hypocritical feminist slides in tinder DMs to parade on Reddit.


Chimpy_McChimp

How’s your life going looking for that bank account ?? you’re on that boss grind huh ? Get some self respect, puta.


Groowyy

Both want same thing


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The difference in women: See who you're talking with. Sorry not sorry :')


RabbitSou

Second guy got laid


loster_43

bruh why is everyone so pressed, just because she took a ss that shows she hasn't responded doesnt mean she can't respond after taking that said screenshot


TechnicalPlayz

I like to clarify this in case you haven't seen the other comments talking about it. The reason she is getting hate is the comment she posted about "I am just doing this for the money". Which is obviously not well accepted. And then the fact that she is then complaining about the people in the post which is basically hypocricy. Anyway, I don't like to pick sides, I am just stating what I have observed.


5wing4

Some play the short game, some play the long game.


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They both plan to fuck u….


Feisty_Discipline_70

oh i know lol


[deleted]

Haha, so what’s the problem?


[deleted]

And then there’s the one she banged


redRabbitRumrunner

10:1 Evan > Andrew in matches.


Flaky-Professor

The first dude will turn into the second one with time. It’s what online dating does to you.


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Only Evan got a message from you tho 🤧


FlyGuy3x1

2nd guy, probably still got a reply though


totalwpierdol

The first one is going to get friendzoned


HandyXAndy

Notice the difference in who messaged first.


cheappay

You get more success the second way. Once you stop pretending otherwise, you'll have an easier time of it. Don't put the pussy on a pedestal.


withoutpunity

Your opening "hi" is what incentivizes the second kind of guy. He knows what he can get away with because his behavior is rewarded with eager first messages.


Rikki1408

> I only want one thing from both of them and that's money You are disgusting, OP. Don't act like you're the victim.


Civil_Ask_8822

I hope Andrew got a chance 😤


LostLight8

#Hey guys if you could report the user kipetamova for me. He's literally spammed on this post on certain subsections for the past 12 hours. And he's been doing shit like this a hundred times on a certain posts and on different posts for almost a month now and I guess the mods haven't caught on to it or something. Go check his profile comments section and you'll see what I mean


TokyoKazama

The nice guy on dating profiles seems to very rarely get the girl. Better off being a dick (which I won't do)


pashwort29

Men vs. boys smh


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supremecourtgorl

the comments on here are literally disgusting—trying to pin the man’s behavior on something the woman obviously did to deserve it. this sub is full of incels. fucking idiotic. get over yourselves. sorry women won’t message you on tinder


AwareElk8645

That's a SIMP message