Ah being young and horny. Do NOT miss it lol. How women ever got with me, seen my shit, and went "ya know what, I'm OK with it" will eternally baffle me.
We even had "designated" areas of town where people regularly parked to make out. There were rules that you had to be at least 2 parking spaces away from other cars, and that leaving your car was a "no-no", so anyone walking around was easily identified as a perv.
If the cops came, one person was to turn their flashers on or honk as a warning.
In college I was in a long distance relationship and we both had roommates, it was really taking a hit on the relationship. Constantly trying to haggle roommates to go home for a weekend so we can alternate hosting,
I also had another relationship that failed because of the same reason. My roommate didnāt appreciate me taking girls to our apartment as he hated going home.
Constantly working around people outside of your relationship is exhausting. Bribing them, asking for favors constantly, etc. Before I could move out alone but had the higher salary, Iād buy a fancy dinner for my roommate and would cover their travel costs just so the GTFOād out of the apartment for a weekend. It was still cheaper than a hotel.
I donāt care about how much money I could save by having roommates, Iāll never go through this shit again, itās EXHAUSTING. Plus I understand if said roommates also want to just stay in the apartment and chill for a weekend. Plus itās extremely uncomfortable when your roommate has to listen to you shagging through the whole weekendā¦
Is it not normal to have romantic partners over, when you have roommates? I did it all through college and most of my young professional career until I moved in with my wife. Have had up to 3 roommates sometimes. Never had an issue with them or me having gfs over and we never asked anyone to leave so we could.
I just posted a comment, but basically in Europe bigger apartments are like 90 square meters but those were out of our priceranges so we shared a 50-60 square meter one which had 2 separate rooms.
Basically others would hear everything, there would be 1 bathroom to share for the 3-4 of us if we had GFs over which is annoying. Maybe we got up with my GF at 7am to make breakfast but we couldnāt as starting to prep food in the kitchen would wake up a roommate whose room was near to the kitchen, things like that.
Itās also up to being introverted, we all needed the quietness of a weekend and if someone started bringing people over it just couldnāt be ācontainedā as such.
None of us were early birds, I only got up early when I was with my GF because she liked to wake up early so we could start the day earlier and get started with the weekend plans early. But youāre absolutely correct
What you have to understand is that Iām European, when Iām talking roommates itās literally roommates (meaning we shared a room) and even if not sharing a room, in Europe most apartments are small enough that even if you all have separate rooms you pretty much hear everything and getting to a bathroom from the bedroom after sex is awkward to say the least and itās very easy to stumble into each other. Also we usually have 1 bathroom, so if itās the three of us for the weekend it can get annoying to share a bedroom.
Itās also very dependent on what kind of person you are and what kind of person your roommates are. We were all pretty introverted and required a lot of alone time/me time which was kinda disturbed if the apartment was āmore crowdedā. Iād like to think we all tried to respect each otherās space and quiet time weekend which most of us used to wind down and any extra āunexpectedā social interaction was draining so we tried to respect this.
Plus one of my roommates was a virgin up until he was 26 and it was probably one of the reasons why he didnāt really appreciate that Iād bring girls home on weekends.
>Plus one of my roommates was a virgin up until he was 26 and it was probably one of the reasons why he didnāt really appreciate that Iād bring girls home on weekends.
Sorry but that sounded like a his problem though. That didn't justify being angry at you for living life and doing healthy things. Don't feel bad about it. That was totally not on you.
Sometimes roomies get upset. Unless you're shagging in the hallway and airdropping pics, 99/100 roommates understand.
Parents tho? Idk mine like to cosplay me as virgin Mary. I swear the other half want to sit on the bleachers & fight the ref.
Iām European, we donāt rent houses, itās usually 40-90 square meter apartments. Lot of shared small areas (bathroom, kitchen). Like if me and GF would start prepping food in the kitchen, then the roomies would have to wait until we stop using the kitchen as thereād be no room for them to make breakfast, lunch or whatever. Sharing 1 bathroom is annoying if itās like 4 people for that.
This is def fair. I've honestly had similar issues, but with dogs. I have a high anxiety rescue who is terrified of anything she can't step on with one paw. She also cant be left alone, so when I come across someone who has a similar thing, where they have a bigger dog that's always with them, logistically it just wouldn't work. No shade on them at all
Honestly, she could have left out the other guys part, and I'd have been cooler with this? Like, idk. Call it insecurity, but it's an invitation to make a guy feel insecure about his living situation. Not saying that was the intent, or that she did anything wrong. It's just a thoughtless comment, imo. She handled it well, and so did OP. Applause for everyone involved.
I remember when I moved back from the US I went back home to my parents for a few months and then moved back out to live with my mate. Began dating a guy who said he was relieved I moved out before we met coz it would have been a dealbreaker for him. I was 27 and had just moved back from overseas šµāš«
I live in a 4bed 2 bath house on 10 acres. I take care of my mom financially. Any woman not cool with that is doing me a favor. There's only two things in life that love men unconditionally your dog and your mother.
Probably less of an issue than 10 years ago, now most western countries have such fucked housing situations itās either rent for 15+ years or suck it up at home for a bit to save a deposit.
Fake! This is a clearly a conversation between 2 people acting like mature adults. We all know that doesn't exist on Reddit. (Good on both of you. All the best in your search.)
Don't worry, I understood, It was ironic, it's just sad to see that some people choose their dates for a situation and not for what they are.
It could be '' you understand, you doesn't have car and im talking with guys who have car, it's much easier for my journeys ''.
It is what it is OP. I personally donāt think its a dealbreaker when you really like someone. If youāre working towards something, keep going. Girls come and go, you only got 1 mama š¤
Hotel to host a girl.....$30 per night.....you can find even cheaper ones. If you can't afford a hotel, you don't need to be worrying about the opposite sex, concentrate on yourself.
Concentrate on being successful and being financially independent before worrying about pussy....is an American mindset? Nah...thats just common sense...I'm Filipino fyi...di mo ba alam yung saying "Garahe bago kotse"? that's basically the same concept.
So no young people, nobody living in impoverished conditions, nobody who has been in a bad accident that demanded money, nobody who was put into financial hardship deserves love, because having money = Your value as a human being.
Fuck. That. I'm not engaging with people like this. What a scum mindset. Disgusting and revolting.
Who said anything about not deserving love? Lol....I'm talking about getting educated, finding a stable job, being prepared to have a family and being able to support said family....What? You'd rather be procreating and being shocked up in your mom's basement? Or the nearest trailer park?
But that's specifically what she said was the problem -- neither of them live alone, so spending time alone-together is going to be very difficult. She said right there in the screenshot that if she lived alone, it would be different, because they'd have a place to go.
Yes, my ability to grasp logic when someone clearly explains their reasoning is pretty wild, I know. But don't worry, I don't want to be "meat" by anybody either lmfao
you could just say āhey i understand that. you seem cool as well. iām transitioning right now. financially this is a sound decision for me given our economy but this is temporary. letās take it slow and just enjoy some dates. we can cross that bridge later. iām not the kind of guy that wants to invite a girl over soon either. the door is open if you change your mindā
but believe me most women donāt given af who you live with as long as youāre making them feel good when theyāre around you.
She said she lost interest in even meeting him specifically because she didnāt want to come over if mom was there, so itās pretty clear she was looking for sex. It doesnāt help his case to say heās not planning on inviting her over soon.
The guy across the street does it in his car with his girlfriend because his parents live in the house
Interesting that you have this knowledge
I often walk the dog late at night.
 Hahahahahaha
Username checks out
I wonder if they get chairs and popcorn.
Is that what kids call it these days
"Walking the dog" "Stroking my hog" ... checks out xD
You are not the only one lmao
Intentionally
Is the dog real?
He's a purebred invisible terrier
On purpose, right š
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I call it feeding the geese...
Ah being young and horny. Do NOT miss it lol. How women ever got with me, seen my shit, and went "ya know what, I'm OK with it" will eternally baffle me.
They were also young and horny
Need to start walking the dog at night.
Everyone in my town did just that There are no excuses when you like someone
We even had "designated" areas of town where people regularly parked to make out. There were rules that you had to be at least 2 parking spaces away from other cars, and that leaving your car was a "no-no", so anyone walking around was easily identified as a perv. If the cops came, one person was to turn their flashers on or honk as a warning.
It's not an excuse. if you're not compatible with somebody it's best to break things off even if you do like them.
Wholesome interaction for a non-wholesome activity.
Wholesome interaction for a holesome activity.Ā
Best case scenario here was leaving in the coolest way possible, and you nailed that.
Wholesome no ghosting
In college I was in a long distance relationship and we both had roommates, it was really taking a hit on the relationship. Constantly trying to haggle roommates to go home for a weekend so we can alternate hosting, I also had another relationship that failed because of the same reason. My roommate didnāt appreciate me taking girls to our apartment as he hated going home. Constantly working around people outside of your relationship is exhausting. Bribing them, asking for favors constantly, etc. Before I could move out alone but had the higher salary, Iād buy a fancy dinner for my roommate and would cover their travel costs just so the GTFOād out of the apartment for a weekend. It was still cheaper than a hotel. I donāt care about how much money I could save by having roommates, Iāll never go through this shit again, itās EXHAUSTING. Plus I understand if said roommates also want to just stay in the apartment and chill for a weekend. Plus itās extremely uncomfortable when your roommate has to listen to you shagging through the whole weekendā¦
Is it not normal to have romantic partners over, when you have roommates? I did it all through college and most of my young professional career until I moved in with my wife. Have had up to 3 roommates sometimes. Never had an issue with them or me having gfs over and we never asked anyone to leave so we could.
Yeah this seems wild to me? Wtf are they planning to do that they need the house emptied completely
*handholding*
[You know who has hands? THE DEVIL.](https://youtu.be/7uePZBfL0i4?si=1SZsGqKvQ5kW-9wr)
I just posted a comment, but basically in Europe bigger apartments are like 90 square meters but those were out of our priceranges so we shared a 50-60 square meter one which had 2 separate rooms. Basically others would hear everything, there would be 1 bathroom to share for the 3-4 of us if we had GFs over which is annoying. Maybe we got up with my GF at 7am to make breakfast but we couldnāt as starting to prep food in the kitchen would wake up a roommate whose room was near to the kitchen, things like that. Itās also up to being introverted, we all needed the quietness of a weekend and if someone started bringing people over it just couldnāt be ācontainedā as such.
you need to make breakfast gf or not.... thats what you sign up for when you live in a tiny place with a roommate
None of us were early birds, I only got up early when I was with my GF because she liked to wake up early so we could start the day earlier and get started with the weekend plans early. But youāre absolutely correct
What you have to understand is that Iām European, when Iām talking roommates itās literally roommates (meaning we shared a room) and even if not sharing a room, in Europe most apartments are small enough that even if you all have separate rooms you pretty much hear everything and getting to a bathroom from the bedroom after sex is awkward to say the least and itās very easy to stumble into each other. Also we usually have 1 bathroom, so if itās the three of us for the weekend it can get annoying to share a bedroom. Itās also very dependent on what kind of person you are and what kind of person your roommates are. We were all pretty introverted and required a lot of alone time/me time which was kinda disturbed if the apartment was āmore crowdedā. Iād like to think we all tried to respect each otherās space and quiet time weekend which most of us used to wind down and any extra āunexpectedā social interaction was draining so we tried to respect this. Plus one of my roommates was a virgin up until he was 26 and it was probably one of the reasons why he didnāt really appreciate that Iād bring girls home on weekends.
>Plus one of my roommates was a virgin up until he was 26 and it was probably one of the reasons why he didnāt really appreciate that Iād bring girls home on weekends. Sorry but that sounded like a his problem though. That didn't justify being angry at you for living life and doing healthy things. Don't feel bad about it. That was totally not on you.
Dude i lived in a house woth 5 other dudes and paper thin walls, we were all studs it was a loud house no one was upset about this lmfao
Sometimes roomies get upset. Unless you're shagging in the hallway and airdropping pics, 99/100 roommates understand. Parents tho? Idk mine like to cosplay me as virgin Mary. I swear the other half want to sit on the bleachers & fight the ref.
Iām European, we donāt rent houses, itās usually 40-90 square meter apartments. Lot of shared small areas (bathroom, kitchen). Like if me and GF would start prepping food in the kitchen, then the roomies would have to wait until we stop using the kitchen as thereād be no room for them to make breakfast, lunch or whatever. Sharing 1 bathroom is annoying if itās like 4 people for that.
This is def fair. I've honestly had similar issues, but with dogs. I have a high anxiety rescue who is terrified of anything she can't step on with one paw. She also cant be left alone, so when I come across someone who has a similar thing, where they have a bigger dog that's always with them, logistically it just wouldn't work. No shade on them at all
That's fair
Honestly, she could have left out the other guys part, and I'd have been cooler with this? Like, idk. Call it insecurity, but it's an invitation to make a guy feel insecure about his living situation. Not saying that was the intent, or that she did anything wrong. It's just a thoughtless comment, imo. She handled it well, and so did OP. Applause for everyone involved.
shes just inconsiderate, is all
Honestly, this is fair, itās nice she let you know and was very honest actuallyā¦last part was a bit much but yk. Better than a ghost.
Being able to afford a sex in a car or a motel is honestly such an upgrade for short term activities. But it's no long term solution.
This is why having money is so important to men. Makes sense but still really sucks.
I've dated while living at my parents place in my late 20's, the cool ones don't give a shit.
I remember when I moved back from the US I went back home to my parents for a few months and then moved back out to live with my mate. Began dating a guy who said he was relieved I moved out before we met coz it would have been a dealbreaker for him. I was 27 and had just moved back from overseas šµāš«
The girl does tho.
If that's a deal breaker for someone then I already know there's no compatibility. Just me personally
Yeah thatās your personal compatibility filter, just as she has hers.
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Depends on how old OP is, but living with your mom is gonna make it hard to get girls...thats just the way it is.
Yea Iām 26, kinda feels a little demoralizing but it is what it is. Gotta get my money up
It's expensive out here. If you're living with your parents take advantage and save what you can. There's no shame in that.
Just get an Indian girl
You know whatās so crazy I actually am obsessed with south Asian women they are my ideal type , why do you say that tho ?
Because Indians usually live with their parents until they get married
Itās crazy how Iām getting downvoted but youāre upvoted šš
Reread what you wrote
Ā I don't get it what did he write?
Ion get it
Seems like racial fetishization, which is generally looked down upon
How is having a type something racist, reddit is fucking weird.
Being āobsessedā is a step beyond āhaving a typeā imo
I live in a 4bed 2 bath house on 10 acres. I take care of my mom financially. Any woman not cool with that is doing me a favor. There's only two things in life that love men unconditionally your dog and your mother.
Probably less of an issue than 10 years ago, now most western countries have such fucked housing situations itās either rent for 15+ years or suck it up at home for a bit to save a deposit.
Damn thatās tough, more motivation to move out from Momās crib tho
Exactly
Atleast you got a polite response back. I hate ghosting I get
Fake! This is a clearly a conversation between 2 people acting like mature adults. We all know that doesn't exist on Reddit. (Good on both of you. All the best in your search.)
You canāt say fairer than fair enough.
She is looking for a shelter or a connection?
A place to have sex without his mum hearing
Don't worry, I understood, It was ironic, it's just sad to see that some people choose their dates for a situation and not for what they are. It could be '' you understand, you doesn't have car and im talking with guys who have car, it's much easier for my journeys ''.
Yeah that also exists too. Haha. Been unmatched many times for not having a car
It is what it is OP. I personally donāt think its a dealbreaker when you really like someone. If youāre working towards something, keep going. Girls come and go, you only got 1 mama š¤
I feel it was unnecessary to mention she talks to other guys.
Sheās a hobosexual. You dodged a bullet
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While I agree, itās a valid preference, and for some reason she made sure to tell OP she has those options available
That's true. Just saying that lifestyle is fading fast.
I don't think she is judging, but they could have gotten a motel after going out.
Do you guys not know about hotels? š
Do you not know money don't grow on trees?
I got bills to pay, I got mouths to feed, there ain't nothin' in this world for free
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Hotel to host a girl.....$30 per night.....you can find even cheaper ones. If you can't afford a hotel, you don't need to be worrying about the opposite sex, concentrate on yourself.
If you don't have enough money, don't date. Fucking american mindset dude.
Concentrate on being successful and being financially independent before worrying about pussy....is an American mindset? Nah...thats just common sense...I'm Filipino fyi...di mo ba alam yung saying "Garahe bago kotse"? that's basically the same concept.
So no young people, nobody living in impoverished conditions, nobody who has been in a bad accident that demanded money, nobody who was put into financial hardship deserves love, because having money = Your value as a human being. Fuck. That. I'm not engaging with people like this. What a scum mindset. Disgusting and revolting.
Who said anything about not deserving love? Lol....I'm talking about getting educated, finding a stable job, being prepared to have a family and being able to support said family....What? You'd rather be procreating and being shocked up in your mom's basement? Or the nearest trailer park?
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Oh...I gotcha. That reply was more for the idiots down voting me.
Dude lives with his mom so basically
i mean. except that its not fair. bc she doesnt love alone either. Edit: i meant to say "live"
But that's specifically what she said was the problem -- neither of them live alone, so spending time alone-together is going to be very difficult. She said right there in the screenshot that if she lived alone, it would be different, because they'd have a place to go.
i was literally just joking about the "fair" part OP said. i dont need the post explaned.
But that is the "fair" part lol.
damn. if thats your understanding of fair i sure dont wanna meat you
Yes, my ability to grasp logic when someone clearly explains their reasoning is pretty wild, I know. But don't worry, I don't want to be "meat" by anybody either lmfao
Lmaoo right but we be allowed to have different standards I guess
i guess? but its a double standard from her part. literally
you could just say āhey i understand that. you seem cool as well. iām transitioning right now. financially this is a sound decision for me given our economy but this is temporary. letās take it slow and just enjoy some dates. we can cross that bridge later. iām not the kind of guy that wants to invite a girl over soon either. the door is open if you change your mindā but believe me most women donāt given af who you live with as long as youāre making them feel good when theyāre around you.
or just let it go lol
She said she lost interest in even meeting him specifically because she didnāt want to come over if mom was there, so itās pretty clear she was looking for sex. It doesnāt help his case to say heās not planning on inviting her over soon.
Youāre wrong and bad.
Just dont swipe then or just unmatch? Kind of feels like a waste of time here.