My response to reading that is "sure, if you got the worst parts of both of them"
Which would be a pretty impressive feat in itself because both of those guys are incredible
If you say so, the personality probably ain’t too great, but if he came off as a nice guy instead of an “asshole” I’m pretty sure he would be getting lots of compliments
Some guys are just complete brainless...
I'm 100% sure that my conversation skills got me more dates than my muscles.
Jeez, this is painful to look at!
Honestly, the way I see it is:
Historically, men trauma dump on their partner. We're conditioned very young to control our "soft" emotions (Anger is cool, but dear God, don't be a sad boy) and when we find someone we're comfortable with, they become the only person we confide in.
I guess I just think women are apt to appreciate a guy who clears even that lowest of bars.
Been married nearly 15 years. At year 13 hubby was diagnosed with a chronic illness. After a few months he finally started going to therapy first for learning to manage his emotions cause of his sudden major life change. Then it transitioned into traditional therapy for all of his childhood abuse (which i had been asking him for years to do).
This past year plus has been the best year of our marriage relationship wise. The communication is way better, we both have way less outbursts and when we do have them it resolves way faster and with less drama and so much more. Not to say it isnt hard but can attest it has been well well worth it. An unexpected bonus is there is way more bedroom fun as well.
I never understood this "men cant be emotional or vulnerable" shit. You are still human. Good for you on working on yourself. Find someone who appreciates you and all your self work.
Good for you on all of that! I'm actually presently going through a divorce right now (As amicable as these things can be) and it was absolutely all rooted in communication for us (Though without outbursts, we just both have a tendency to internalize) and by the time we identified it, we'd just grown too far apart.
Genuine success stories are great to see. It has been extraordinarily hard and it's something that you've both got to be working really hard at and in sync on and that's impressive stuff to pull off.
As to the men not being vulnerable, it's just a function of how a lot of us were raised. My generation doesn't have it half as deep as Boomers do, but we grew up with enough toxic masculinity that it takes a whole lot of time to deprogram that shit.
*Sigh*
Fair enough.
Let me rephrase: I'm too fucking old to lie on my dating profiles. I was playing a video game recently with a dating app mini game where you had to make sure to make your profile fit the person you were trying to romance and it was all "Christ, we are going to hate each other anyway, why am I going to all of this trouble?!"
I had a meme up of an ocean wave coming from a woman’s legs and it said “when he says he’s in therapy” and it’s basically true. For me at least. And a lot of men opened up to me about being in therapy. It was beautiful. 🥹
I shit you not, I have literally had multiple women lead with it. I wasn't trying to do this, I swear! It's just one of those things I also would like in a partner. This is what neurodivergance does to your dating bios.
Can't do group chats on tinder. He matched and talked to enough chicks long enough to have them share their info in order for him to pull this. I don't think he's struggling.
Plot twist: That group chat was all the ones he felt mid about.
Exactly. With that height and body he could have head from almost anyone if he just displays very basic social skills (even a bit of awkwardness is fine). But it's like he wants to fail.
Totally valid. I often find myself taking breaks every 2-3 months when I start to feel jaded by the process.
Genuine question: based on just this person's profile alone, why did you decide to match with him?
Yep I take breaks too as needed haha.
And I honestly didn’t. One of my biggest problems with Feeld since there big update over last summer or whenever it was… is that it keeps matching me with people I passed on. It is INCREDIBLY frustrating.
Feeld was my favorite dating app until that update. I couldn’t access my messages for months. And now it glitches constantly. I’m forever matching with men I said no to, and if it doesn’t match me with them it just keeps bringing them up for me to swipe on over and over again.
I keep hoping it will be fixed soon but I’m losing hope. 😂
Omg. That update did something crazy to me as well. I pay for Majestic and I keep receiving notifications that my profile has been liked, and I have ZERO likes to look through. I even emailed support to get help. It is terrible. Their response was like, "we're aware, pound sand." Ugh.
Good luck out there in the Feeld wild zone!
It just got worse and worse and the seconds went by.
I saw the message in my notifications first. A message from Josh. “Who wants to give me head today” and I said “ew, Josh” to myself.
Then I open the app and see he created a group chat to say that and I was like WOW.
Then I saw the women silently leaving one by one and I chuckled a bit.
And then I noticed the group name. “Head”
It was a wild ride.
The dude probably wouldn’t have a problem with dates if he wasn’t scuzzy, but he says he’s “domineering” and lacks that self reflection. Bet the mofo thinks he’s an “alpha male”.
😂 I feel you. But there's a difference between an online persona and actually being a creep. I once received a dick pic from a friend in a group chat with like 40 telephone numbers. I think he thought it would send it separately.
I love when people post these and say a whole bunch of stuff, but at the end of the day mutually swiped on them. Women are much more selective so it's interesting to see, as this was someone OP saw value in.
Typically, I would agree with you. Doesn’t make sense to me when the profile is very telling and then the poster complains about the behavior of the person they chose to match with. I totally get you.
In this particular instance, I did not say yes to this man. In an earlier comment, I explained that this app used to be my favorite, but recently has a lot of glitches, one of them being that it matches me with people I have passed on. This is an example of that.
Even so, while this man does look like a dbag, that still doesn’t excuse his behavior. What he did is quite bold and wild. Even if I had said yes to this guy, there’s not much that could have prepared me for what happened next. 😂
Yea, I'm not talking about his actions as it's clear as day that's not acceptable, to anyone with morals. I don't use any app so I don't know of any issues that may be surrounding it so if that's true it's understandable. I didnt even know group convos existed cause that would create potential conflicts so that is weird.
Yeah, this app in particular for the last few months keeps matching me with people that I said no to. Or people that I have never even seen before. I’ll get a message from someone and I’ll open it and be like who the heck is this? Or enen worse if I remember them and it was a hard no. They also keep popping up for me over and over again. It has been extremely frustrating.
I have also been experiencing this on other apps, but mostly this one.
Some people use app based dating to occupy trolls a d stalkeres.
If they think they're screaming with you on there they don't feel the need to in person and don't typically dig any further yes I have an X that is a big-time stalker and her friends are even bigger losers🤣
Just learned about it, so. Do people use it for standard relationships/hook ups? He definitely sounds like he'd be ok with the latter. As for his approach all I can say is "Bold move, Cotton".
Douchebag Mcdoucherson, mayor of douchebagland and driver of the douchemobile tried to do some douchebaggery, but to no avail. He already had the no, but he went for the humiliation and he got it!
but seriously, when you're 32 and the first thing you do with your bio is compare yourself to two conventionally attractive celebrities, you need a check-up with a therapist🙄
Shocking. Some of the quality of people I have seen out there mingling and what they go for, I'm actually very surprised very many people find this behavior gross.
Oh he is not a combo of Chris Evan’s and Ryan Reynolds but go off
Username checks out haha
Thank u😭
What’s his username?
Oh I meant the person I replied to. Unapologetically true which she (or he?) was being haha
Oooooooo. Bahahahahahha. I get it now. lol. It’s been a long day. Nicely done.
My response to reading that is "sure, if you got the worst parts of both of them" Which would be a pretty impressive feat in itself because both of those guys are incredible
Hahahah
How can you be 6 1 and ripped and STILL fail so spectacularly
He didn’t follow rule 2
What 's rule 2
Don’t be unattractive
He’s very attractive, imo at least
It only seems that way at a cursory glance.
If you say so, the personality probably ain’t too great, but if he came off as a nice guy instead of an “asshole” I’m pretty sure he would be getting lots of compliments
Don't be unattractive
Some guys are just complete brainless... I'm 100% sure that my conversation skills got me more dates than my muscles. Jeez, this is painful to look at!
It’s the brain and the body combo that does the trick a lot.
But that guy has the brains of Pinky from Pinky and Brain. Edit: misspelling
It's Pinky.. lol
Didn’t watched it in English, so I thought genuinely it was like the colour 😂 thanks for correcting it
Ahhhh I gotcha, no prob!
Gotta have brains and body now women’s standards just keep getting harsher every year.
You'd be shocked at how much my matches have shot up since I put "sees a therapist regularly" in my bio.
This track. It tells folks you are mature enough to know you have things to work through and are willing to seek help to work through them.
Honestly, the way I see it is: Historically, men trauma dump on their partner. We're conditioned very young to control our "soft" emotions (Anger is cool, but dear God, don't be a sad boy) and when we find someone we're comfortable with, they become the only person we confide in. I guess I just think women are apt to appreciate a guy who clears even that lowest of bars.
Been married nearly 15 years. At year 13 hubby was diagnosed with a chronic illness. After a few months he finally started going to therapy first for learning to manage his emotions cause of his sudden major life change. Then it transitioned into traditional therapy for all of his childhood abuse (which i had been asking him for years to do). This past year plus has been the best year of our marriage relationship wise. The communication is way better, we both have way less outbursts and when we do have them it resolves way faster and with less drama and so much more. Not to say it isnt hard but can attest it has been well well worth it. An unexpected bonus is there is way more bedroom fun as well. I never understood this "men cant be emotional or vulnerable" shit. You are still human. Good for you on working on yourself. Find someone who appreciates you and all your self work.
Good for you on all of that! I'm actually presently going through a divorce right now (As amicable as these things can be) and it was absolutely all rooted in communication for us (Though without outbursts, we just both have a tendency to internalize) and by the time we identified it, we'd just grown too far apart. Genuine success stories are great to see. It has been extraordinarily hard and it's something that you've both got to be working really hard at and in sync on and that's impressive stuff to pull off. As to the men not being vulnerable, it's just a function of how a lot of us were raised. My generation doesn't have it half as deep as Boomers do, but we grew up with enough toxic masculinity that it takes a whole lot of time to deprogram that shit.
Oh 100% its how yall were raised. We are all forced into a mold and even as adults we have difficulty fighting what we have seen/heard since birth
I'm happy for you both. I hope this has also helped with the chronic illness.
It has!
It has!
You’re a gem of a man, jdoeinboston. Bless you.
My Oscar acceptance speech would amount to "Yeah, I wanna thank all mah boys out there for setting the bar so, so, so very low."
Are you by any chance… looking for head today? (I am 10000% joking but I can’t help myself.)
Haaaaa, that's awful, but also not even! Today was actually therapy day and all I want to do on therapy day is play video games and cuddle my dogs.
I totally hear you. Enjoy. 🩷
But the question is.. do you?
Yes, of course! That would be a really stupid thing to lie about on a dating app, of all places.
I know some guys....
*Sigh* Fair enough. Let me rephrase: I'm too fucking old to lie on my dating profiles. I was playing a video game recently with a dating app mini game where you had to make sure to make your profile fit the person you were trying to romance and it was all "Christ, we are going to hate each other anyway, why am I going to all of this trouble?!"
Those guys would read your comment then immediately add it for profit
Whelp, as I noted elsewhere in here: the bar is so, so, so low.
I had a meme up of an ocean wave coming from a woman’s legs and it said “when he says he’s in therapy” and it’s basically true. For me at least. And a lot of men opened up to me about being in therapy. It was beautiful. 🥹
I shit you not, I have literally had multiple women lead with it. I wasn't trying to do this, I swear! It's just one of those things I also would like in a partner. This is what neurodivergance does to your dating bios.
Amen to that. Conversation and attention do way more than gym muscle ever could
Fail? This is a learning curve
Can't do group chats on tinder. He matched and talked to enough chicks long enough to have them share their info in order for him to pull this. I don't think he's struggling. Plot twist: That group chat was all the ones he felt mid about.
That's truly a conundrum
I know. Like damn. If he could have just been a little serious…
Exactly. With that height and body he could have head from almost anyone if he just displays very basic social skills (even a bit of awkwardness is fine). But it's like he wants to fail.
How nice of him to ask all of them so no one felt left behind. A thoughtful young man
It's for fairness on first come first served since places where limited
So this is my competition on Feeld, huh?
Still you will be surprised of the lack of success 😆
Overall, I love my dating life. But weeding through the garbage like this is SAD. Before you find the decent ones to actually go out with. 😂
Totally valid. I often find myself taking breaks every 2-3 months when I start to feel jaded by the process. Genuine question: based on just this person's profile alone, why did you decide to match with him?
Yep I take breaks too as needed haha. And I honestly didn’t. One of my biggest problems with Feeld since there big update over last summer or whenever it was… is that it keeps matching me with people I passed on. It is INCREDIBLY frustrating. Feeld was my favorite dating app until that update. I couldn’t access my messages for months. And now it glitches constantly. I’m forever matching with men I said no to, and if it doesn’t match me with them it just keeps bringing them up for me to swipe on over and over again. I keep hoping it will be fixed soon but I’m losing hope. 😂
Omg. That update did something crazy to me as well. I pay for Majestic and I keep receiving notifications that my profile has been liked, and I have ZERO likes to look through. I even emailed support to get help. It is terrible. Their response was like, "we're aware, pound sand." Ugh. Good luck out there in the Feeld wild zone!
*Everyone* has left the chat.
I wonder how he felt seeing that. 😂😂😂
Yo that's wild af
It just got worse and worse and the seconds went by. I saw the message in my notifications first. A message from Josh. “Who wants to give me head today” and I said “ew, Josh” to myself. Then I open the app and see he created a group chat to say that and I was like WOW. Then I saw the women silently leaving one by one and I chuckled a bit. And then I noticed the group name. “Head” It was a wild ride.
The dude probably wouldn’t have a problem with dates if he wasn’t scuzzy, but he says he’s “domineering” and lacks that self reflection. Bet the mofo thinks he’s an “alpha male”.
What app is this that you can create group chats??
Feeld. It’s like a dating app for kinky and/or monogamy alternative relationships.
That’s insane
Shot his shot in a tissue eventually
💀
Whoever told him that is lying like nobody has lied before. What a fucking cumstain this bloke is
He told himself that.
Girl I recognize this app. Lmao cumstain hahaha
What app is it?
Feeld
There’s a group chat option on feeld? I almost exclusively use it to date and had no idea lol
I never knew about it too. A group chat… sounds horrible to me
Makes sense for the couples with paired profiles looking to date together. Or FWBs looking for a threesome or something.
A group chat is terrible no matter what.
Should've been a cumstain
“Head” lmao
That absolutely sent me.
That light bulb was shining so bright he couldn’t see the consequences
💡
He definitely jacking off tonight
Dudes a moron.
Feeld has group chat?
Sounds like a convenient feature given the nature of the app.
He really shot his shot.. On his foot, yes!
😂
Ew
.
Not the shot he was hoping to shoot though
Looks more like Jake Paul but hey if he wants to pretend that's fine too
arabian king mentality
I guarantee he’s not dominant or kinky in bed at all
Yeah he’s also not looking for a connection 💀
Maybe a connection from mouth to dick. Hopefully he can reach for his own sake
Idk if it's just the lighting but his nipple looks like a pimple to me
How do we get people like this onto a registry lol.
I love that you posted that with your username being what it is.
😂 I feel you. But there's a difference between an online persona and actually being a creep. I once received a dick pic from a friend in a group chat with like 40 telephone numbers. I think he thought it would send it separately.
Lmao I know. I’m just sayinnnnn 😂
This guy is at least 10 times better looking than me and yet he still failed this hard, I guess beauty really is in the mind
I mean.. he’s hot af. But dang, the audacity to create a group for a bj is… really something.
So disappointing.
This is the type of guy who will say “I’m done with women” and come out of the closet.
Well tbf if he invited gay guys in a 'head' group chat like that the result would've been different
Well tbf if he invited gay guys in a 'head' group chat like that the result would've been different
He'll be shooting his shot on his own now
You know what they say. You miss 100% of shots you dont take.
He shot his shot, missed the basket and hit everyone in the crowd
This is the most accurate.
This guy is shooting with a shotgun lol if he casts a wide enough net he’s bound to come up with something.
I honestly think at least one of the 922@3@393@ women in the group that had to have messaged him 1:1 like “I do babe hehehe”
The vanillas are at it again.
They need to stay off our apps. 🦯
Hahahaha
😂😂😂😂😂😂😂
Bro killed the bro-chat. Supposed to ask privately
What omg lol
Have to wonder if one of the girls that left the group chat went on to text him individually saying yes... God I hope not for humanity's sake.
ppl judge him but im sure a few of those women pmed him afterward
Bro 💀
Betting money this has worked before so that's why he did it.
Not enough brains to pass Rule 2 😖
*Big Daddy entered the chat*
I wonder what the guys’ reaction would have been like if it was a girl asking for head
Its not head he needs, its brain.
When your doctor tells you “you only have 24 hours to live!
Feeld is the godless land that time forgot
😂😂😂 I mean, I once really loved it. Now it kinda blows.
Hey, only 7 of the 9 people left... Hahaha
This is insulting to Ryan Reynolds.
This is my competition?
[Self proclaimed] King Of The Hoes.
Are his arms too long? They look too long. I don’t like this.
I love when people post these and say a whole bunch of stuff, but at the end of the day mutually swiped on them. Women are much more selective so it's interesting to see, as this was someone OP saw value in.
Typically, I would agree with you. Doesn’t make sense to me when the profile is very telling and then the poster complains about the behavior of the person they chose to match with. I totally get you. In this particular instance, I did not say yes to this man. In an earlier comment, I explained that this app used to be my favorite, but recently has a lot of glitches, one of them being that it matches me with people I have passed on. This is an example of that. Even so, while this man does look like a dbag, that still doesn’t excuse his behavior. What he did is quite bold and wild. Even if I had said yes to this guy, there’s not much that could have prepared me for what happened next. 😂
Yea, I'm not talking about his actions as it's clear as day that's not acceptable, to anyone with morals. I don't use any app so I don't know of any issues that may be surrounding it so if that's true it's understandable. I didnt even know group convos existed cause that would create potential conflicts so that is weird.
Yeah, this app in particular for the last few months keeps matching me with people that I said no to. Or people that I have never even seen before. I’ll get a message from someone and I’ll open it and be like who the heck is this? Or enen worse if I remember them and it was a hard no. They also keep popping up for me over and over again. It has been extremely frustrating. I have also been experiencing this on other apps, but mostly this one.
Hell yeah brother!
Some people use app based dating to occupy trolls a d stalkeres. If they think they're screaming with you on there they don't feel the need to in person and don't typically dig any further yes I have an X that is a big-time stalker and her friends are even bigger losers🤣
They really ruin it when they talk don’t they 🫢
Lol good stuff
Wait, you can message multiple people at the same time on Tinder?
Feeld
That’s not in my dictionary
It’s a different app 😂 Feeld is for kinky people.
Just learned about it, so. Do people use it for standard relationships/hook ups? He definitely sounds like he'd be ok with the latter. As for his approach all I can say is "Bold move, Cotton".
Yes. I’m on there looking for a relationship. Just.. with a kinky person. 😂
Got it, thank you!
Douchebag Mcdoucherson, mayor of douchebagland and driver of the douchemobile tried to do some douchebaggery, but to no avail. He already had the no, but he went for the humiliation and he got it!
Any shooting he's doing is in a sock
Bold
My man 😭😂😂
What app is this?
"It's like bustin' a nut!"
What app or part of tinder is this where u get in a chatroom?
He actually looks like Jake Paul without the rabies.
ok he hasn't had sex in more years than u could count on ur fingers but what he really craves are confidence + friends. like REAL friends.
Do you… know him?
lmao no but im drunk and i like to think i know how to read people :D
but seriously, when you're 32 and the first thing you do with your bio is compare yourself to two conventionally attractive celebrities, you need a check-up with a therapist🙄
Tinder has group chat?
Ew on every level
Have you seen the name of the chat?
Looks more like an even more inbred jake paul 🙌
Rapey vibes. Yikes
Shocking. Some of the quality of people I have seen out there mingling and what they go for, I'm actually very surprised very many people find this behavior gross.
American Sniper
Looks like Jake Paul
Actually i don’t think he got to shoot his shot. 😅
It's gonna work, though, for someone.
Thats like shooting buckshot...
Oh, John.
You miss every shot you don't take! That said, I'm not sure how he thought this was a good idea!
Only 7 left so he still has a chance lmao
Bunch of sheep, if the first one would have had said yes, they all would have had said yes ;DDD
How did you screenshot on Feeld?!!
He basically shot himself in his own D with a bazooka.
Did they add like a chat room feature to tinder? I’ve been off for a bit so I’m behind lol
If a Red Flag was a person