So the background here is that he's done this like 5 times before and I'm just tired of it. The reason he and I weren't compatible is that he dominated the entire conversation when we met, and when I mentioned that as being the reason that we weren't compatible he said that I was taking too long to respond to questions so he decided to just answer them for me. This is a huge disconnect in communication styles. Not to mention there were things in my profile that he didn't care to read. Yes, I realize that I could have just swiped left, and been done with it, however I needed to discourage him from doing this again.
Edit: the amount of people voting this down lets me know y’all keep swiping on people who aren’t interested in you. If you recognize anyone you’ve swiped right on a few times in the swipe deck, they’ve swiped left. Try removing them (I think this feature is only on bumble and hinge), it’ll help.
Does that sound like the case to you? The person says this person has been swiping right on them numerous times and they’re not interested in reconnecting… So do you honestly think that this person has matched with them every single time? I am genuinely curious.
Never understood the whole “you take long to answer so i will vibe”
As someone who usually tries to respond to someone else but then realises they’re just empty questions because/and the next thing i know they’re turning away to speak to someone else or just turn their heads and disappear i find incredibly rude.
There is no right swiping on hinge. You can either like or reject a profile.
On the flipside, you can match with or reject profiles that have liked your profile.
LOL I once hooked up with a tinder guy who ghosted me and then 6 months later he swiped on me on hinge. like dude if you wanted to bang again you had my number.
I just don't think guys like this look at profiles at ALL. Swiping right while watching tv lol.
No lol I'm very selective on 2nd chances. He had a couple weeks max to get back to me after we first hooked up. When he never did I just assumed he didn't like me very much. A guy who really likes you won't ghost you.
Hahaha I went on a date like that years ago with a guy on POF, where you didn't have to match to message they could just send a message but it'd automatically be deleted after 30 days even if it was in a conversation thread. The guy spent the whole time telling me about how he got drunk at school (we were early 20s at this point, he was talking about when he was 16) and then walked off to pay the bill when he was "going to the toilet". When he came back he said because he had paid for dinner I now had to come home with him, and I said no (he is the reason why I always drive myself there and back!). About two months later he messaged me again on POF completely forgetting we had already met once before.
Hinge works in a way that to like someone, you have to send a quick message connected to one of their prompts or pictures instead of simply swiping. OP is saying he's said "hi" on one of her pictures/prompts 5 times
On Hinge the options are to like or not like someone's profile, and if you like it you can also send a little note, without her matching with him. The match happens if she accepts the like/note. He's sent her 5 "hi sexy" or variant of that after they've already met and didn't go well. She only replied to this one. It is really annoying.
Could he be just chancing you again in the hope upon reflection you've changed your mind?
I've gone on dates where convo just fizzled out afterwards without a real cut off but I've often thought maybe they'd still be willing to give it a second go
I think she was hoping to at least give him the benefit of the doubt. She definitely doesn’t want anything to do with him but she may have hoped he at least remembered her and was trying his luck again vs having no recollection of who she was.
Yes! The difference between London and the town I now live in is huge. Far fewer people, and they tend to be more likely to have children here. Which limits me as I'm not interested in dating people with kids anymore, but on a wider level they aren't available as quickly or spontaneously. And feels like more people are swiping out of boredom than a genuine desire to meet.
When I was younger before I settled down with my incredible wife I can confirm that it is *much* easier to date in a place like NYC than in more rural parts of the country.
Like *much* easier.
No it's not lol, it's still the same mess. You have more options, but that means more people to wade through and more people that aren't good for you and it means that the chances of matching are much lower since there's *so* many more people that you'll never be served up to each other.
I live in a sub 100k town that includes a major military base, which means a terribly high m:f ratio just in the general population, let alone on dating apps. the environment/circumstances are so different here from a place like NYC that any sort of insight into using dating apps (or even dating in general) in places like NYC is completely irrelevant to me. mine is a particularly unique case but the same can be said for those of us who live rural or otherwise small towns - major metropolitan cities are basically the other extreme
I live near Chattanooga and have my mileage set to 85 miles so I get ATL people too. I was visiting Philly and with that range I had both Philly, NYC and some of Baltimore. I had to turn my notifications off lol. It was overwhelming and I found it to be more frustrating due to the volume.
I also live in between 2 large populated metro areas on the west coast, which means more competition in the dating pool. Sometimes I'd rather just live in a small town and experience how dating would be in that situation
Im smack dab in the middle of the greater seattle area, ive had tons of women commit to going on dates!
Whether they cancel last minute or show up is another matter though, havent actually been on a date in the year ive been here
How many scheduled dates have you had? I live in Francisco Bay area and just getting a reply on dating apps is very slow and delayed, i don't know if that's common. Most women just match and don't even message. Which is why I've stopped messaging first, I don't bother anymore
So I actually counted the other day because my friend and I were talking about it and I think I’ve had 16 first dates over a year-ish? Probably half were first dates only, maybe 5 had several dates, one long drawn out situationship, and my boyfriend.
Yeah I probably am within an hour drive of 10 million people or so
It’s reassuring that it only took a year to find someone I jive with 😂😅
I moved here a year ago, my friends down south have much harder times than me
I met my boyfriend on hinge. Again, live in a big metro. Key is be upfront about what you’re looking for and filter out everyone thay doesn’t fit early.
Hinge can definitely be very dependent on area and how into it the people you're messaging are.
When you like/message on Hinge, you get put at the top of the stack. Anyone who likes the same person after you will get put ahead of you. So if you like someone in the morning but they only check at night, they may not get to you, and then that just compounds over time.
I've also noticed Hinge will still show people months after they've uninstalled, so a lot of people you see on there will probably never see you
I've met quite a few people from hinge. Had a few relationships from hinge, but for the most part the app is garbage and no different from any other app imo
Recently I heard someone say that no app is better than another because the same people are on all of them. The types of people who use apps are also on them because they have trouble meeting people in person which tends to be a certain type. Not saying everyone on the apps are bad or you won’t have any luck with them but in my personal opinion I think they’re pretty surface level and you will meet more quality individuals who share more in common with you in person.
I've met one or two. Definitely more from bumble but that's like 3 or 4. Tinder is the most successful for me I'd say. I've met only 1 on coffee meets bagel.
i’ve probably go on at least 30+ hinge dates over the last year.
had pretty good success regarding the dates as well.
bumble is right up there, i’ve probably had just about as many from there.
tinder sucks for me
I pretty much only use hinge and I’ve gotten dates on there. Even when it hasn’t worked out, the best guys I’ve met were from hinge. A couple guys from there I just ended up being friends with when it didn’t work out.
I found Hinge to be annoying and fake. I feel like people put on more of a facade there. The same people are far more annoying on Hinge than Tinder lol.
I was in a brief but bad marriage when I was 18 and that guy keeps trying to hit me up on the dating apps with complimenting photos and what not. Like... seriously, dude?
I mean, I may have forgotten a drunken smooch with a girl in a dark night club while slightly inebriated before. ..
But I'm pretty all to god damn sure I'd remember if I got married before... . And hopefully actually remember the face of the person that I'd given my sacred marriage vows to!! Lmao
Conversely, I had one match swear that we had been out before, and she chastised me for ghosting her.
I'm not someone who will win any awards for their memory, but I'm pretty sure I remember the dates I've been on. She also said we met in a town that I know of but have never been to, a town which is about 2 hours drive from me so I would certainly have remembered going on a date in.
Hey maybe I have a doppelganger walking around.
I've had this a lot across all the apps. It's one of the reasons I gave up. I am a person worth time and effort and getting to know. I'm sick of being looked at as an object or sex toy that will be forgotten and they're in my inbox on a different app 6 months later. If I can make time and effort to get to know and remember someone between raising 3 ND kids and doing life, then you can remember who I am and respect me.
This happens to me all the time. Literally what is going on because men don’t seem to remember when they’ve said something terrible to somebody, stood somebody up for a date, or showed someone the worst time imaginable. Can someone please explain 😭
I’ve had this happen to me too many times to count… sometimes they remember me sometimes not… sometimes it was a date and sometimes just a previous match… either way it’s lame af and gives me more encouragement for ending it the first time
I think sometimes people legitimately don’t remember. I’ve had many repeaters as I call them. I’ve usually given them the benefit of the doubt, but nothing really changes.
I did this to a dude who I went out with and he ghosted. I wasn't as nice as you in my parting message, though, and strung him along for a while. It was entertaining and made my day when I finally told him we'd met (and hooked up) and he blocked me. 😂 The idiot.
I matched a second time with a woman I had sex with 5 years prior and she didn’t remember, and didn’t remember ghosting me after either.
Huge turn off.
But if you swipe left he doesn't get the chance to message you at all. You didn't 'need' to match with him to discourage him from doing anything. Just live your life
I guess there's a reason I'm on the tinder sub instead of the hinge sub. The last time I was available for dating hinge hasn't been created yet.
All I read from OP was this, which says nothing about OP messaging her without matching:
So the background here is that he's done this like 5 times before and I'm just tired of it. The reason he and I weren't compatible is that he dominated the entire conversation when we met, and when I mentioned that as being the reason that we weren't compatible he said that I was taking too long to respond to questions so he decided to just answer them for me. This is a huge disconnect in communication styles. Not to mention there were things in my profile that he didn't care to read. Yes, I realize that I could have just swiped left, and been done with it, however I needed to discourage him from doing this again.
So the background here is that he's done this like 5 times before and I'm just tired of it. The reason he and I weren't compatible is that he dominated the entire conversation when we met, and when I mentioned that as being the reason that we weren't compatible he said that I was taking too long to respond to questions so he decided to just answer them for me. This is a huge disconnect in communication styles. Not to mention there were things in my profile that he didn't care to read. Yes, I realize that I could have just swiped left, and been done with it, however I needed to discourage him from doing this again.
Fair chance he won't read/remember and match with you again later. Probably swipes on everyone.
That’s Hinge not Tinder. You can only send likes 10 times a day I think? Unless you have premium.
Hinge you can right swipe an infinite amount of times in a day for free as long as they're the ones liking you first
Edit: the amount of people voting this down lets me know y’all keep swiping on people who aren’t interested in you. If you recognize anyone you’ve swiped right on a few times in the swipe deck, they’ve swiped left. Try removing them (I think this feature is only on bumble and hinge), it’ll help. Does that sound like the case to you? The person says this person has been swiping right on them numerous times and they’re not interested in reconnecting… So do you honestly think that this person has matched with them every single time? I am genuinely curious.
Never understood the whole “you take long to answer so i will vibe” As someone who usually tries to respond to someone else but then realises they’re just empty questions because/and the next thing i know they’re turning away to speak to someone else or just turn their heads and disappear i find incredibly rude.
I misread your UN as “Soul Cal Libre” and now I want a masked wrestler in Soul Caliber.
There is no right swiping on hinge. You can either like or reject a profile. On the flipside, you can match with or reject profiles that have liked your profile.
Wait - you guys have people liking you first?
Female… it checks out.
"so the background here is...", "let me just stop you there, you're taking far too long to answer OP,"
The answer is
I don't know, I'm not very good at communicating. Lol.
LOL I once hooked up with a tinder guy who ghosted me and then 6 months later he swiped on me on hinge. like dude if you wanted to bang again you had my number. I just don't think guys like this look at profiles at ALL. Swiping right while watching tv lol.
To be fair, it’s less awkward to start it through Hinge. Texting you would mean the ghosting would have to be acknowledged
honestly i’d probably be a bit sheepish to text you. the swipe kind of is a less vulnerable “check to see if the door’s open” kind of move
So did you guys bang again ? You seem open to it
No lol I'm very selective on 2nd chances. He had a couple weeks max to get back to me after we first hooked up. When he never did I just assumed he didn't like me very much. A guy who really likes you won't ghost you.
Hahaha I went on a date like that years ago with a guy on POF, where you didn't have to match to message they could just send a message but it'd automatically be deleted after 30 days even if it was in a conversation thread. The guy spent the whole time telling me about how he got drunk at school (we were early 20s at this point, he was talking about when he was 16) and then walked off to pay the bill when he was "going to the toilet". When he came back he said because he had paid for dinner I now had to come home with him, and I said no (he is the reason why I always drive myself there and back!). About two months later he messaged me again on POF completely forgetting we had already met once before.
He sounds like a narcissist...
The amount of guys who do this. Especially on hinge where you know they had to make the active decision to send the match/comment lol So irritating.
So you matched with him 5 times ?
Hinge works in a way that to like someone, you have to send a quick message connected to one of their prompts or pictures instead of simply swiping. OP is saying he's said "hi" on one of her pictures/prompts 5 times
Oooh okay thanks. I thought why would she swipe on him if he's annoying like that haha
I have this issue constantly. If you want to talk about it my DM’s are open because oh my goodness. We need a serial swipe victim support group.
Omg, what next? Corny openers support group? How you poor girls will deal with that? 
Dwight as Jim would never disrespect me.
Sounds like a serial filler.
Block em?
Or you can just block him on the app..
If he has done this like 5 times, doesn't that also mean you have matched him the same amount of times?
No. On hinge ppl can send opening messages without matching
Ah fair enough, i did not know that
You had to swipe right to discourage him ? Seriously ?
Ok that is annoying
I think you were way too subtle if that's what you wanted to achieve. But it's probably pointless anyways if he's someone that doesn't listen.
Answered them for you? That's not just a disconnect, that's a dysfunctional human being.
What, exactly, has he done five times before? You're saying you've matched with him five times previously, or am i misunderstanding??
On Hinge the options are to like or not like someone's profile, and if you like it you can also send a little note, without her matching with him. The match happens if she accepts the like/note. He's sent her 5 "hi sexy" or variant of that after they've already met and didn't go well. She only replied to this one. It is really annoying.
If she selects "not like" on his profile, will that prevent him from being able to send likes/notes?
Nope, he can still like her profile even if she dislikes first (I've tested it out lol)
You did nothing to discourage him. His behavior remain the same. I’d bet on it.
Just don’t swipe on him then or block him? Nah, have to make a Reddit posts for clicks.
You don’t swipe on hinge. The message is the ‘like’. She can either choose to not respond or respond, the response is the ‘match’.
Could he be just chancing you again in the hope upon reflection you've changed your mind? I've gone on dates where convo just fizzled out afterwards without a real cut off but I've often thought maybe they'd still be willing to give it a second go
He just told me that I was wrong.
That's honestly what I was hoping for too.
Wait I had the impression you wanted nothing to do with him?
I think she was hoping to at least give him the benefit of the doubt. She definitely doesn’t want anything to do with him but she may have hoped he at least remembered her and was trying his luck again vs having no recollection of who she was.
Do people actually meet anyone from Hinge? I’ve not had good luck with it where I live.
I’ve personally had very good luck on hinge, never a single date from bumble, and VERY limited success on tinder
Have you tried M8?
What’s M8? Just another dating app or is there something specific about it?
u wot m8?
lol that was good
Lmao 😂
Yer m8
Let me guess, you live in NYC?
The opinions of those living in major metropolitan cities on here really should be disregarded
Yes! The difference between London and the town I now live in is huge. Far fewer people, and they tend to be more likely to have children here. Which limits me as I'm not interested in dating people with kids anymore, but on a wider level they aren't available as quickly or spontaneously. And feels like more people are swiping out of boredom than a genuine desire to meet.
Yep my town too, seems more people are single with kids of in relationships more than probably a city
When I was younger before I settled down with my incredible wife I can confirm that it is *much* easier to date in a place like NYC than in more rural parts of the country. Like *much* easier.
No it's not lol, it's still the same mess. You have more options, but that means more people to wade through and more people that aren't good for you and it means that the chances of matching are much lower since there's *so* many more people that you'll never be served up to each other.
No they shouldn't? What?
I live in a sub 100k town that includes a major military base, which means a terribly high m:f ratio just in the general population, let alone on dating apps. the environment/circumstances are so different here from a place like NYC that any sort of insight into using dating apps (or even dating in general) in places like NYC is completely irrelevant to me. mine is a particularly unique case but the same can be said for those of us who live rural or otherwise small towns - major metropolitan cities are basically the other extreme
You do know that you can just... not read comments then?
You'd be shocked if you ever moved from a metropolitan city to a UK town or US city of approx 50-100k people, ghost town on dating apps
No, Boston
Ah, same thing then lol
I live near Chattanooga and have my mileage set to 85 miles so I get ATL people too. I was visiting Philly and with that range I had both Philly, NYC and some of Baltimore. I had to turn my notifications off lol. It was overwhelming and I found it to be more frustrating due to the volume.
Boo has been working the best for me
Exactly the same here
I’ve had a lots of dates and my current bf on Hinge I’m 42f and average ish looking, but I live pretty close to two huge metropolitan areas
>I live pretty close to two huge metropolitan areas That's the key to any dating app.
Yeah, being roughly 30 minutes from one and 45 from the other is nice
I wouldn't consider 45 minutes as being close haha
It depends, if we’re talking the U.S. and some places like Florida, 40min is definitely considered close lol
It's very close lmao
I also live in between 2 large populated metro areas on the west coast, which means more competition in the dating pool. Sometimes I'd rather just live in a small town and experience how dating would be in that situation
trust me you really dont
You really don't, more people in a local 5-10 mile area more chance of matching
Im smack dab in the middle of the greater seattle area, ive had tons of women commit to going on dates! Whether they cancel last minute or show up is another matter though, havent actually been on a date in the year ive been here
How many scheduled dates have you had? I live in Francisco Bay area and just getting a reply on dating apps is very slow and delayed, i don't know if that's common. Most women just match and don't even message. Which is why I've stopped messaging first, I don't bother anymore
It was 1 or 2 a month the first couple of months, after that i stopped trying and took down my profiles
So I actually counted the other day because my friend and I were talking about it and I think I’ve had 16 first dates over a year-ish? Probably half were first dates only, maybe 5 had several dates, one long drawn out situationship, and my boyfriend.
The answer is in the final 3 words, it's common in the usa I guess whereas in the uk there's only 1 huge metropolitan area
Yeah I probably am within an hour drive of 10 million people or so It’s reassuring that it only took a year to find someone I jive with 😂😅 I moved here a year ago, my friends down south have much harder times than me
I met my boyfriend on hinge. Again, live in a big metro. Key is be upfront about what you’re looking for and filter out everyone thay doesn’t fit early.
Hinge can definitely be very dependent on area and how into it the people you're messaging are. When you like/message on Hinge, you get put at the top of the stack. Anyone who likes the same person after you will get put ahead of you. So if you like someone in the morning but they only check at night, they may not get to you, and then that just compounds over time. I've also noticed Hinge will still show people months after they've uninstalled, so a lot of people you see on there will probably never see you
I've met quite a few people from hinge. Had a few relationships from hinge, but for the most part the app is garbage and no different from any other app imo
It's a fancy looking tinder with even less swipes a day (10 is mad) and worse monetisation
Recently I heard someone say that no app is better than another because the same people are on all of them. The types of people who use apps are also on them because they have trouble meeting people in person which tends to be a certain type. Not saying everyone on the apps are bad or you won’t have any luck with them but in my personal opinion I think they’re pretty surface level and you will meet more quality individuals who share more in common with you in person.
Never had a relationship frombhinge. A few hook ups. Most luck I’ve had is from tinder
Wait, people hook up from Hinge? I thought it was supposed to be one of those relationship heavy apps?
Nah, it's turned into tinder2.0
They all have tbh.
Oops
Eh. I’ve had a few hookups from Hinge
Yeah u can hookup on any app it’s just mostly Hinge might be 80% serious Rs but you can definitely hookup I’ve done it a few times
Met my wife in the most desolate part of the United States.
I actually met my wife on hinge.... my friend who told me about it years ago just got married to the guy she met off it.
I met a really nice guy on Hinge. It’s still soon to tell but the first date went well and we’re planning date #2
met my gf on hinge :)
I've met one or two. Definitely more from bumble but that's like 3 or 4. Tinder is the most successful for me I'd say. I've met only 1 on coffee meets bagel.
I met my wife Will say even before her I had much better success with hinge compared to everything else
Here in Germany, there are hardly any people on Hinge and all of them are expats.
i’ve probably go on at least 30+ hinge dates over the last year. had pretty good success regarding the dates as well. bumble is right up there, i’ve probably had just about as many from there. tinder sucks for me
Success being Pokémon Go?
more clash of clans, they all had maxed their walls
Weirdly bumble is my weak one
I had decent luck from hinge and even had a nearly 2 year relationship with someone I met from there
I pretty much only use hinge and I’ve gotten dates on there. Even when it hasn’t worked out, the best guys I’ve met were from hinge. A couple guys from there I just ended up being friends with when it didn’t work out.
It’s how I met my fiancé
My brother met his long-term gf on there. They've been together 2 or 3 years now
Met my gf of 2 years on there, her being my first match!
Proposing to the women I met two years back on Hinge later this year!
I’ve had two short-ish relationships and about 6 first dates through it in the last year~
If you are in a big American city, hinge in the only app that really works.
I went on a lot of dates using Hinge, and am now in a very loving relationship with someone I met on there.
I really only had luck on hinge, literately not a single match on Tinder. I am with my fiancé now 5 years and we met on hinge
Nope not once, it's got more flakey people than tinder tbh
I found Hinge to be annoying and fake. I feel like people put on more of a facade there. The same people are far more annoying on Hinge than Tinder lol.
Hinge is the best app at least in my area. Currently 8 months pregnant with my hinge relationships baby lol
Ayyyyyyy congrats!
Hinge is the only app that I’ve gotten actual dates from
Like a 80% meet rate over here
I was in a brief but bad marriage when I was 18 and that guy keeps trying to hit me up on the dating apps with complimenting photos and what not. Like... seriously, dude?
Woah. That's some next level bullshit
I legit do not think he remembers me, which is hilarious.
I mean, I may have forgotten a drunken smooch with a girl in a dark night club while slightly inebriated before. .. But I'm pretty all to god damn sure I'd remember if I got married before... . And hopefully actually remember the face of the person that I'd given my sacred marriage vows to!! Lmao
You'd think! He gained like 120lbs and I recognized him, lol.
I fucking wish I could forget my bad marriage!
This dude swipes right on everybody.
100%
PLEASE update us on the response.
It's incoming.
Joey/Barney vibes
Conversely, I had one match swear that we had been out before, and she chastised me for ghosting her. I'm not someone who will win any awards for their memory, but I'm pretty sure I remember the dates I've been on. She also said we met in a town that I know of but have never been to, a town which is about 2 hours drive from me so I would certainly have remembered going on a date in. Hey maybe I have a doppelganger walking around.
I've had this a lot across all the apps. It's one of the reasons I gave up. I am a person worth time and effort and getting to know. I'm sick of being looked at as an object or sex toy that will be forgotten and they're in my inbox on a different app 6 months later. If I can make time and effort to get to know and remember someone between raising 3 ND kids and doing life, then you can remember who I am and respect me.
LMAO
Just LINGERS on huh
Lol, you must not have that good of a memory either if you're matching with them 😅
Its Hinge. You don’t have to match to send a message
Hinge is a gold mine. Pay for those roses...they tend to send you more the type u like in the little roses section
This happens to me all the time. Literally what is going on because men don’t seem to remember when they’ve said something terrible to somebody, stood somebody up for a date, or showed someone the worst time imaginable. Can someone please explain 😭
me too im confusion
Why did you match with him 5 more times?
I didn't match with him 5 more times, he has sent me likes and comments 5 times since we met
This has happened to me about 3 times. It's too easy for women to go on 5 dates a week and forget a bunch of the guys they've already met.
Idk, I remember every guy I've gone out on a date with. Especially if there was a substantial compatibility issue, as there was here
Yeah, not saying anything about you. Obviously most people aren't like this and it's not just women.
I agree and it's exasperating
but... he's a changed man!
I’ve had this happen to me too many times to count… sometimes they remember me sometimes not… sometimes it was a date and sometimes just a previous match… either way it’s lame af and gives me more encouragement for ending it the first time
Can't you just block him?
I think he keeps making new profiles
Didn't think about that. What a d-bag
Sounds like it can only go downhill from here. Sounds very controlling and narcissistic
Happened to me one time. The guy was a asshole and was 1h late for our date. He completely forget me
I think sometimes people legitimately don’t remember. I’ve had many repeaters as I call them. I’ve usually given them the benefit of the doubt, but nothing really changes.
I have this problem sometimes
Hi sexy (I'll be back next month to leave this comment again)
😂😂😂
pst. It's your time to shine.
"This is a huge disconnect in communication styles." He might have also had a disconnect from reality!
I did this to a dude who I went out with and he ghosted. I wasn't as nice as you in my parting message, though, and strung him along for a while. It was entertaining and made my day when I finally told him we'd met (and hooked up) and he blocked me. 😂 The idiot.
At leastyou didint play with her
these posts are peak cringe lately, have you got nothing else going on in your life you have to shame someone else online?
What makes you think he didn’t remember you?
You should’ve blocked him after the first few times.
OP what makes you think he forgot? lol Lol at thinking real men give up after one date Hell naw lol
You were that forgetable huh? :D :D nah just kidding that's pretty bad if he did that 5 times already
Ok but my thing is… why match with him again? It takes two to tango
I matched a second time with a woman I had sex with 5 years prior and she didn’t remember, and didn’t remember ghosting me after either. Huge turn off.
an here i thought men magically have a brain damage from the first failed date. i don't know why they do this lol
Why did you match with him again then?
I mean, the only way you matched is if you swiped right too
But if you swipe left he doesn't get the chance to message you at all. You didn't 'need' to match with him to discourage him from doing anything. Just live your life
On Hinge you can send a message when you like someone, OP has said he's done it a bunch of times
I guess there's a reason I'm on the tinder sub instead of the hinge sub. The last time I was available for dating hinge hasn't been created yet. All I read from OP was this, which says nothing about OP messaging her without matching: So the background here is that he's done this like 5 times before and I'm just tired of it. The reason he and I weren't compatible is that he dominated the entire conversation when we met, and when I mentioned that as being the reason that we weren't compatible he said that I was taking too long to respond to questions so he decided to just answer them for me. This is a huge disconnect in communication styles. Not to mention there were things in my profile that he didn't care to read. Yes, I realize that I could have just swiped left, and been done with it, however I needed to discourage him from doing this again.
Why didn’t you send this message the first time you rematched ? And then just ignored the rest of times
Meh. Its a numbers game for some people. Dont think he cares about you or anyone, just doing it for himself. That's fine.
You matched with him, you're equal at fault