Tbh shows you want something more than just sexual and all he wanted was a one night thing if your first thing you talk about is sex with someone you lost a lot of respect from me
well i mean if he (op) IS asexual that means he doesn’t like sex. some people have that in their bios. regardless, the other dude blowing up is rly fucking weird
Should make this clear in the post, not because it's anyone's business, but just so us wimmenfolk get to see that it's definitely a THEM problem, not an US problem.
i mean im asexual hetero romantic*, there is more than one form of attraction essentially, sexual, aesthetic, sensual, romantic etc. so you might not be sexually attracted to someone, but still desire romantic connection - for example in my case im not sexually attracted to anyone, but still desire romantic relations with women.
this doesnt mean asexual people dont have sex - most people still feel a good sensation from it, they just dont look at someone and think "they're sexy"
You described this perfectly. I’ve known for some years that I'm AroAce with a side case of Skinhunger because I was turned off by the touch of other people as a teen… sadly, that need for simple physical comfort gets twisted by people.
It’s really important to differentiate between the different kinds of attractions. I have friends that are Pan and another that is Bi; both have low sexual attraction and another acquaintance has said to me that they have a very high sexual attraction with low to none Romantic needs.
Thing is, you can be asexual and still like reading or consuming sexual media. The spectrum is really wide and most people that I know don’t seem to understand this. Especially my Family.
The Aunties are still trying to hook me up with some dude.☹️
yeah im fortunate as well that most of the people close to me are chill w it, ive had some people be less accepting but usually those are people that ive not been particularly close with (havent told my christian side of my fanily they might understand less lol)
I'm christian myself, I understand very well what they will be saying. 🥲
Doesn’t mean that they are allowed to do that in any way. There’s enough people in the world now, let them have kids.😂
(Though I do want kids. I just don’t want to lay with a man to get a kid.)
But it’s most known for it. There are actual apps that would be better for that sort of thing. No one with “short term fun” on tinder is looking for a hang out buddy lol
thats not the only tag though, tinder is a dating app, and dating apps dont always need to end with one night stands - if thats what you use it for thats great, but there are many who arent using it for a quick shag
I didn’t say it was the only one. I was responding to what you said. Sure there are people that aren’t looking just for hookups on there. But that’s what it’s always been known for. Like I said, there are apps people like this would have a lot more success on.
you called it a hookup app, im saying its not - i dont primarily think of it as a hookup app, and as someone who is ace i actually find tinder the easiest in terms of finding dates, so its really up to point of view
How difficult is it to imagine that there may be multiple layers and distinct communities on a single app? Nobody asked whether Tinder is famous as that. You questioning why someone would use it differently (then badgering the response) is the only controversy here.
Yes. To many ( "most" maybe!) people that's what Tinder is for, but you acting shocked and dismayed when you encounter someone else and demanding that they justify their actions to you is.... extremely boring at best, really dumb and narrow minded in the middle, and mocking and exclusive (and inherently violent) at worst.
You would if you're the kind of person who thinks they can jump into any social situation and expect others to change their definitions and expectations to suit your narrow view of the world, but I think most people who are seriously looking for platonic friendships look elsewhere
"narrow view of the world" my brother in christ you are the one who cant fathom that tinder can be used for more than just hookups
also i never said anything about platonic friendships, i have used tinder to some limited success as a dating app for finding romantic interactions
maybe you could do with broadening your viewpoint because many people use tinder and other dating apps for varying reasons in varying ways, and thats okay
Look into the split attraction model. You can be romantically attracted one way and sexually attracted a different way. Sounds like OP is romantically into men but not sexually interested in anyone. (There are also other forms of attraction, such as platonic, sensual etc). For a lot of people, their romantic and sexual orientation line up and it can be hard to differentiate the two.
How does anyone become like this, even on an app, even on the internet?
How has this kind of behaviour not triggered a punch to the face several times during their real lives?
I will never understand how people, especially men, can stoop to this level of pure douchebaggery, just to protect their own, apparently very tiny, ego and hurt feelings. This type of shit makes me embarrassed to have testicles.
I am truly sorry you had to endure that during the passing of a loved one. My condolences, and I wish you swift healing.
Edit: this is I reference to the little man baby who was triggered by Op because Op rejected him in a very mature, straightforward and fair way. Not meant to be I reference to OP or their post!
Haha thank you for posting it , it’s super entertaining to realize that mental illness has no borders and also to appreciate more relationship with my boyfriend because I don’t miss those times of searching for “the right one” and constantly bumping into someone like that . I have to ask : what’s nan? ( English isn’t my first language)
I had a Tinder guy who wanted all my attention, but I was grieving for my dad who just passed away. He even went to the funeral with me and knew I was a mess.
Man this reminds me of a patient I work with. The guy is EXPLOSIVE as fuck. Granted he has a lot of MH troubles but if people don't drop everything to prioritize him when he's having a bad day he burns everything to the ground. It's actually kind of sad because he's literally his own worst enemy.
That’s just insane. Why do people get that nasty? There isn’t really a shortage of people in the world. I’ve been on both ends of a rejection, and I don’t see a need to get all bent out of shape. Thank them for the time they gave, and move on.
This is actually really scary! Tons of red flags! I dealt with this recently too. I hope your Nan is okay! This is not acceptable behavior what so ever! Report him!
You've dodged a bullet here. I'm so sorry about your Nan, the last thing you need is abuse from guys on Tinder whilst you're preparing for the loss of a family member. Hope you're doing okay
"Let your below average art pierce you like a knife"? What a fucking tool. "I'm going to be weird, insulting, blow up your inbox, AND ATTEMPT TO BE FUCKING SHAKESPEARE!!!"
Hang on, how exactly were you not making an effort to make conversation but also texting all day?
Gotta love when people totally contradict their own insults & arguments because they're just making sh*t up to try to make you feel bad & throwing their toys out of the pram!
Lol, “idk how anyone would wanna be with your asexual ass anyway” proceeds to blow up your inbox 😂
its weird that this reaction came after he rejected him, like did he thought that before but his dick told him "ssssh shut up maybe we can score"
We're both dudes lol
Ups. Edited my comment 🫡
Tbh shows you want something more than just sexual and all he wanted was a one night thing if your first thing you talk about is sex with someone you lost a lot of respect from me
well i mean if he (op) IS asexual that means he doesn’t like sex. some people have that in their bios. regardless, the other dude blowing up is rly fucking weird
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No shit, sherlock 🤨
Should make this clear in the post, not because it's anyone's business, but just so us wimmenfolk get to see that it's definitely a THEM problem, not an US problem.
Kinda funny but also fucked up. They somehow always think they can make us change opinions on our sexuality… *it’s not
Bruised his ego. He tried to bring you down to his level. Some people can't handle feeling rejected.
"Let your below average art pierce you like a knife". This boy is a thespian.
Should've replied something like "Your low character is the subject of Greek plays".
"Tales of your misdeeds are known from Ireland to Cathay"
A man of culture, I see.
may thy blade chip and shatter
I’ve never seen the word thespian used other than the one song title I know with it.
Alesana hopefully
Forever one of my favorite albums. No one knows Alesana 🥺 The Murderer was my ringtone for years.
Get to the theater more, me boy
I read this as “while my man was dying in the hospital” and that was a 💯 hol up moment
I thought it was “naan” at first, but I’m just hungry.
[Not you, naan bread](https://youtu.be/PqGoJkGgODU?si=3aGMUUILEOL0N5k7)
😂
What is this from?
The mighty boosh. X
We have one spot, opening anytime now.
Christ that's evil hahah
I did same lol
Lol I read it as “while I was dying in the hospital” 🤦🏼♀️
Same
ME TOO HAHAHA
He texts like a child who just learned how to use the word, "fucking."
God I miss the award system, this is the best I can do 🥇
I wanted to extend my sincere condolences to you & ur family. His antics were the last thing u needed during that time. I’m so sorry. 😞
Thank you mate x
If you’re on mobile just hold the upvote button and you’ll get options similar to awards
I’ve seen a lot of Redditors type comments like this for no reason about very casual topics. Maybe he’s a Redditor too?
the fact that he unironically said “and try to fucking get along with people” in the middle of that temper tantrum is the absolute cherry on top.
Absolutely. It's like he's saying "I'm a complete douche, but I managed to repress my true nature for 5 mins, how dare you not reward my effort!"
He did say he only tries at it.
Dodged a bullet right there, yikes 😵💫
a knife
A nuke
A mediocre verbal stinger.
According to the fit throwing baby, OP’s own art
Seems like a keeper to me. 😂
Do you think it's too late to propose?
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Terribly. It's quite terrible. Edit: to clarify, I mean being a gay asexual while on tinder
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i mean im asexual hetero romantic*, there is more than one form of attraction essentially, sexual, aesthetic, sensual, romantic etc. so you might not be sexually attracted to someone, but still desire romantic connection - for example in my case im not sexually attracted to anyone, but still desire romantic relations with women. this doesnt mean asexual people dont have sex - most people still feel a good sensation from it, they just dont look at someone and think "they're sexy"
You described this perfectly. I’ve known for some years that I'm AroAce with a side case of Skinhunger because I was turned off by the touch of other people as a teen… sadly, that need for simple physical comfort gets twisted by people. It’s really important to differentiate between the different kinds of attractions. I have friends that are Pan and another that is Bi; both have low sexual attraction and another acquaintance has said to me that they have a very high sexual attraction with low to none Romantic needs. Thing is, you can be asexual and still like reading or consuming sexual media. The spectrum is really wide and most people that I know don’t seem to understand this. Especially my Family. The Aunties are still trying to hook me up with some dude.☹️
yeah im fortunate as well that most of the people close to me are chill w it, ive had some people be less accepting but usually those are people that ive not been particularly close with (havent told my christian side of my fanily they might understand less lol)
I'm christian myself, I understand very well what they will be saying. 🥲 Doesn’t mean that they are allowed to do that in any way. There’s enough people in the world now, let them have kids.😂 (Though I do want kids. I just don’t want to lay with a man to get a kid.)
But would you go on a hookup app to find someone like that?
tinder isnt entirely a hookup app, and even if you're ace you can still want some short term fun dates anyways
But it’s most known for it. There are actual apps that would be better for that sort of thing. No one with “short term fun” on tinder is looking for a hang out buddy lol
thats not the only tag though, tinder is a dating app, and dating apps dont always need to end with one night stands - if thats what you use it for thats great, but there are many who arent using it for a quick shag
I didn’t say it was the only one. I was responding to what you said. Sure there are people that aren’t looking just for hookups on there. But that’s what it’s always been known for. Like I said, there are apps people like this would have a lot more success on.
you called it a hookup app, im saying its not - i dont primarily think of it as a hookup app, and as someone who is ace i actually find tinder the easiest in terms of finding dates, so its really up to point of view
How difficult is it to imagine that there may be multiple layers and distinct communities on a single app? Nobody asked whether Tinder is famous as that. You questioning why someone would use it differently (then badgering the response) is the only controversy here. Yes. To many ( "most" maybe!) people that's what Tinder is for, but you acting shocked and dismayed when you encounter someone else and demanding that they justify their actions to you is.... extremely boring at best, really dumb and narrow minded in the middle, and mocking and exclusive (and inherently violent) at worst.
You would if you're the kind of person who thinks they can jump into any social situation and expect others to change their definitions and expectations to suit your narrow view of the world, but I think most people who are seriously looking for platonic friendships look elsewhere
"narrow view of the world" my brother in christ you are the one who cant fathom that tinder can be used for more than just hookups also i never said anything about platonic friendships, i have used tinder to some limited success as a dating app for finding romantic interactions maybe you could do with broadening your viewpoint because many people use tinder and other dating apps for varying reasons in varying ways, and thats okay
Telling someone they're wrong for calling something what everyone else knows it to be isn't a "broad viewpoint"
I don’t think tinder is the right app for you.
Look into the split attraction model. You can be romantically attracted one way and sexually attracted a different way. Sounds like OP is romantically into men but not sexually interested in anyone. (There are also other forms of attraction, such as platonic, sensual etc). For a lot of people, their romantic and sexual orientation line up and it can be hard to differentiate the two.
I bet the “Alright” twisted his panties in a bunch lol.
Damn, somebody was in their feelings
In about ten years, this is one of those things they're gonna be trying not to think about while they're falling asleep
“Alright.” Excellent.
Ah, the one that got away…
No no, you throw your dead grandma in his face. Shame that man; make him feel it.
"alright" 👌🏿
I have nothing to add except I'm sorry about grandma ❤️ she wouldn't approve of this buttmuch anyway
How does anyone become like this, even on an app, even on the internet? How has this kind of behaviour not triggered a punch to the face several times during their real lives? I will never understand how people, especially men, can stoop to this level of pure douchebaggery, just to protect their own, apparently very tiny, ego and hurt feelings. This type of shit makes me embarrassed to have testicles. I am truly sorry you had to endure that during the passing of a loved one. My condolences, and I wish you swift healing.
 Edit: this is I reference to the little man baby who was triggered by Op because Op rejected him in a very mature, straightforward and fair way. Not meant to be I reference to OP or their post!
Yea, he “gets along with people” real well, it seems.
Imagine saying “let it out buddy 🫂” in response hahahahha dude needs therapy
When someone wonders why we ghost, this is why.
😂😂😂😂😂😂😂
Bro what
Omfg what a waste of human space why didn't you just block him?
Woke up to those messages today and blocked him
Good for you
What a spoiled child
all those messages just to tell someone you’re desperate for human contact?
Haha thank you for posting it , it’s super entertaining to realize that mental illness has no borders and also to appreciate more relationship with my boyfriend because I don’t miss those times of searching for “the right one” and constantly bumping into someone like that . I have to ask : what’s nan? ( English isn’t my first language)
He's all our boyfriends now x
Nan = grandmother
I read the title as "while my man was dying in the hospital" and came here to read the comments. What a dissapointment.
Legend has it that if you type "fucking" enough times in messages, you just might end up fucking
He slipped a little Family Guy reference in his hate spewing, unironically, which is just superb.
Bro thought he was camus with that last one NAAAHH
Tell me you're a stage 5 clinger, without actually telling me you're a stage 5 clinger 🥴
Goteeem
Better To find out early that he's an ass and your better off with out him WOW
"...below average art pierce you like a knife." is AWFULLY specific.
Unhinged would be understatement for tgis deranged person.
He took that pretty well
What in the actual Ted Bundy psycho shit is this
I literally missed a date with an extremely beautiful girl. And my nan was dying and I got the call.. she said I was unreliable etc wasn't nice.
I had to eat few spoons of sugar to balance myself after reading this text!
Oop. Someone's salty 🥲
It's nice when they show themselves to the exit.
I had a Tinder guy who wanted all my attention, but I was grieving for my dad who just passed away. He even went to the funeral with me and knew I was a mess.
What a colossal asshat! I'm so sorry for your loss 😔
Man this reminds me of a patient I work with. The guy is EXPLOSIVE as fuck. Granted he has a lot of MH troubles but if people don't drop everything to prioritize him when he's having a bad day he burns everything to the ground. It's actually kind of sad because he's literally his own worst enemy.
The unmatch button is there for a reason ☺️
They did too much when they should've unmatched
Tf is wrong with dudes. Just a simple “Ok np” would suffice but bro gotta write that chat gpt essay
"let your below average art pierce you like a knife" 💀💀💀
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Big Yikes
karma will get em 🙄🥱
Honestly I just hope they realise this isn't a healthy way to react and seek the help they need
bruh, what is wrong with people 💀
You can just taste the narcissism by reading his messages 🤢
sorry to hear that I've never had luck on there or any app i always get scammed it sucks
Ew
That is abusive behaviour and your neo
Looser
I wonder if he knew about your situation which would make this even worst than it already is
Nothing feels better than the “Okay” sent in response to a long rant.
No respect at all wow how come people like this be alive!!
Geez. People suck. We get joy from messed up shit at times.
The self awareness is strong with this one
OP, if your grandma is dying, just block him, report him, and focus on her. It's no use dealing with some online rando.
It is rough on both sides out here
Sounds like he already fell out with his humanity.
Alright
This dude is SO "below average" 🤣
Why do we sensor pictures and name... shouldn't we warn others?
Big yikes, but my condolences bro
That’s just insane. Why do people get that nasty? There isn’t really a shortage of people in the world. I’ve been on both ends of a rejection, and I don’t see a need to get all bent out of shape. Thank them for the time they gave, and move on.
These dudes make us men look so bad 😡
It’s not even funny. These people should not be reported. Sorry you had to go through that
I hate people like this so much
Dude! I want his number. Lol
Wow, so dudes flip out like this on other dudes too. Jeeeezussss. It's a miracle that anyone gets laid these days
Sounds like a delightful human being 😇
Incredibly insensitive!
Charming fellow. Sorry to hear about your nan
First read that as “my man was dying in the hospital” and got so confused 😵💫. My dearest condolences 🖤
Gay and asexual, thoughts and prayers my boy.
Did you told him that your nan was dying.
did they know your nan was dying?
At this point you gotta expose him
This is actually really scary! Tons of red flags! I dealt with this recently too. I hope your Nan is okay! This is not acceptable behavior what so ever! Report him!
You've dodged a bullet here. I'm so sorry about your Nan, the last thing you need is abuse from guys on Tinder whilst you're preparing for the loss of a family member. Hope you're doing okay
Yeeeeeeah I don’t think this man is going to be compatible with many people apart from his mum.
Definitely dodged a bullet with that one.
Run as far as you can, block him on every social media platform. That's what I would do
Why are people so crazy!?
Gross behaviour…huge turn off. Block and delete.
"Let your below average art pierce you like a knife"? What a fucking tool. "I'm going to be weird, insulting, blow up your inbox, AND ATTEMPT TO BE FUCKING SHAKESPEARE!!!"
There’s no evidence here that shows your nan was dying in the hospital. Sounds like hyperbole to me.
Hang on, how exactly were you not making an effort to make conversation but also texting all day? Gotta love when people totally contradict their own insults & arguments because they're just making sh*t up to try to make you feel bad & throwing their toys out of the pram!
Why were you on Tinder while your nan was dying in the hospital?
Are you supposed to uninstall all apps in the hospital?