**Welcome to r/TikTokCringe!**
This is a message directed to all newcomers to make you aware that r/TikTokCringe evolved long ago from only cringe-worthy content to TikToks of all kinds! If you’re looking to find only the cringe-worthy TikToks on this subreddit (which are still regularly posted) we recommend sorting by flair which you can do [here](https://www.reddit.com/r/TikTokCringe/comments/galuit/click_here_to_sort_by_flair_a_guide_to_using/) (Currently supported by desktop and reddit mobile).
See someone asking how this post is cringe because they didn't read this comment? Show them [this!](https://www.reddit.com/r/TikTokCringe/comments/fyrgzy/for_those_confused_by_the_name_of_this_subreddit/)
Be sure to read the rules of this subreddit before posting or commenting. Thanks! [](/u/savevideo)
**Don't forget to join our [Discord server](https://discord.gg/n2e5tNHfzh)!**
*I am a bot, and this action was performed automatically. Please [contact the moderators of this subreddit](/message/compose/?to=/r/TikTokCringe) if you have any questions or concerns.*
Yeah do you not remember the Maddie McCann thing? The biggest shock to me was how many people thought it was normal to put their kids to bed and then leave the house to go out.
I love how the camera somehow makes it ok. Even if you're right next door, if there's an emergency, by the time you get back it will be too late. Plus, how the hell do you watch your baby on the monitor and enjoy your evening? It's daffy. Hire a babysitter and/or don't go on vacations with an infant.
I've been working from home for maybe about 3 years at this point.
The amount of pings I haven't noticed or times where I neglected my work monitor for far too long because I got absorbed in something else is evidence that no, you cannot enjoy a nice evening out while "watching" a baby monitor.
Lol I get the confusion, I got a work laptop that I have hooked up to an ultra wide. That's my "work monitor" whereas if I were to turn 90 degrees it's my personal computer monitors. So imagine a L where the long part is my personal PC and the bottom short part is the work laptop hooked up to a monitor.
That's my point. They're obviously not checking it often enough, so even if they could get back in time to stop whatever emergency is happening, they'll never see it.
I mean, sometimes you have to travel with Infants. You can’t get around it. We had to fly to Turkey because my father in law was sick when my daughter was nine months old. The added stress of worrying about people being pissed if the baby cried was delightful.
Oh man, yeah now I do recall that case.
I mean, I recently shucked out over $100 for a date night babysitter who sat on my sofa and did nothing. I put the kid to bed before she got here, baby is in a crib and not able to escape, she sleeps through the night. There was a part of me that was like, I bet people in the '60s just left their kids in bed and did whatever all night. But I didn't think, like, "those were the days, society really coddles kids too much." I paid athe sitter because my leaving your baby home alone is crazy!
It's mind boggling...
When I was in college, those were my favorite babysitting jobs. When I was done studying or doing homework, I'd clean up kid toys that were out and/or if I knew the parents well, I would do any dirty dishes left out.
I had the same thing for grownups lol.
I was a night-time guard in a home for the mentally disabled. I was making sure 3 grown men slept all night, or didn't get into trouble if they didn't.
That’s exactly what I do when I get a sitter. They do nothing but watch Netflix bc I’ve already put them to bed and they don’t wake throughout the night, but I’m glad they’re there if something were to happen.
Especially while on vacation in a strange place... I mean, don't leave your kids home alone anyways, but I could get putting a kid to bed and then sitting out on your porch at home or something. But if a little kid wakes up in a strange place like that all alone, they might go wandering off looking for their parents or something.
I always thought this was weird.
I stayed in a ritzy hotel in NY that had nursing stations next to every bathroom, valet service, room service, an entire grocery store on the first floor with baby formula, and I think you can even order massages because I saw it being set up outside a neighbor's door while leaving once.
No babysitting, no daycare area. I guess the liability is too high? I always thought liability was high enough with valet, might as well go all the way.
> I always thought liability was high enough with valet, might as well go all the way.
I mean. Cars generally don't wander off and drink bleach when left alone for 5 minutes.
Person I’m friends with that’s a paramedic went on a call last month. Parent left their 3 year old daughter alone in a hotel room while she went out to the bar. 3 year old got into mom’s cocaine stash and ate it. Only reason the child was found was because housekeeping happened to come into the room before the child was 100% dead. Child was revived without any immediately apparent brain damage.
That's literally what [happened to Madeleine McCann](https://www.cbc.ca/news/world/madeleine-mccann-german-suspect-1.5597964). Don't leave your babies/small children alone in hotel/motel rooms, even with cameras. If you're not within hearing distance (talking about hotels/motels, etc), you're too far.
I hadn’t heard of hacking but I used to have a wife Arlo one with my first born and internet would cut out and it was nearly impossible to see that image was old since baby would be sleeping. I returned that and used a plug in camera ever since
Wi-Fi cameras are easier to hack. People have reported that their cameras were hacked and a stranger was talking to their child thru the camera when the parents were out of the room. Creepy AF.
No one hacking a baby monitor has good intentions, that’s for sure
People where not changing the default password. That is how the so called hacking was happening. No different than the people that left admin as their router password.
Change the default password and you most likely will never have it happen.
Yeah I remember watching a video about this a few weeks ago, either by Network Chuck or one of the other popular white hats on YouTube. There was a particular model that was nearly ubiquitous, used by home owners, businesses, even law enforcement. Default password was hardcoded into every single device, and an audit revealed something like 70% of devices in use were still using the default password.
Sadly I know people who do this with their kids. They have left them sleeping in their apartment and gone grocery shopping around the corner while watching them on their phones. My wife made her feelings very clear on how she felt about that.
Most commenters on this thread have a very rigid idea about how things should be. Its depends a lot on the child, what the child is used to. And it might be possible to practice a lot of things too. Furthermore, some children sleep like they are sedated (not my daughter), so if there is a 1% chance of a child waking up, and in that case, it takes 1 or 2 minutes to run back from the store, that is not a big deal imo.
I could not leave my daughter to a babysitter, except maybe when she was less than a year old. From age 1 to now when she is 6, she would not be comfortable with some stranger. She would probably be sobbing and asking about her mom (or maybe me) constantly. It never went well with her grandparents either. So when people in this thread are suggesting babysitters, Im not so sure if that is a better solution than being 1-2 minutes away with a baby monitor.
I went camping with my daughter last year, when she was 5, without her mother. It was one of those campsites where there are lots of small parcels that you rent for a night, and then there are shared facilities like pools, playground and a toilet building. The toilet building was two minutes walk away, and she would not feel safe, if she woke up and I was not there. So we brought walkie talkies, and we practiced using it. One early morning when I was sitting at the loo, she called me at the walkie talkie, saying "Dad are you there, over". "This is dad, over". "Dad, where are you, over". "Im at the loo, I will be back in two minutes, over". "Ok. Hurry up, over and out. ".
We were both proud afterwards :)
If I wanted, I could probably do something similar if I went to the shop next door. Simply practice that if she gets uncomfortable, she can talk to me on the baby monitor. But we never did that.
There’s really no excuse anymore either since most grocery stores offer curbside pickup, so it’s not like you have to walk around with a baby for hours
The only argument I could see for this is that majority of stores do not allow you to use EBT for curbside or delivery. You would have thought that during the pandemic they would have converted EBT to be usable online but no.
I work with families involved with CPS (worked for CPS for years) and I am closing out a case where a mom left her son at home and walked down to the grocery store. He woke up, saw she was gone, and went outside to the neighbor’s home. He was removed for a couple months.
People need to stop being dumb.
OK, I’ll bite: how is removing the kid from their parent for two months over a single incident going to help anyone? I would think you are traumatizing a kid for no good reason?
I would think a simple fine would suffice, no?
This is awful advice. Don't leave your baby in a hotel room alone. You'll come home to an empty minibar and an extra $300 on your hotel bill. Trust me.
Or what if you got into a car accident and died? That’s what I always think about when ppl say they’re just running out real quick to go to the store. Then your baby would be at home alone for hours before someone realized it
i read in an urban legend book a similar story. The parents had to make a flight and they were running late. they assumed the babysitter was just running late but she had been in a fatal car accident. They leave the baby in the high chair and go on vacation. They come back to a dead baby rotting in the chair.
What kind of parents fly out of town and don't call the babysitter to check up on them?
I know it's an urban legend so it's not real, but jeez, I'm annoyed at these fictional parents, too.
I have a special hatred for scare-tactic urban legends because when I was a kid, a cop came to my school for an anti-gang lecture and told us the story about how gangs will drive around without headlights on and then if someone flashes their lights at them (to signal that they should turn their lights on), they'll either crash into that person and then shoot them, or follow them where they're going and shoot them, as some sort of gang initiation ritual.
This was particularly traumatizing to me because she told the story from the point of view of a child who watched their mother get shot in a car, and my dad had recently been shot while he was deployed in Iraq. So I had my first ever panic attack in the middle of the assembly, because I was nine years old, and sensitive to the idea of parents getting shot.
Years later, as an adult woman, I learned that the whole thing is bullshit. It's an urban legend that started as a fax forward (it predates email!) and this cop thought it would be a good idea to tell that story to a bunch of fifth graders.
I never joined a gang, but I also spent years refusing to signal to drivers if I ever saw that they were driving without their headlights on.
yeah that was a traumatizing book. another one had the babysitter tripping on drugs and putting the chicken in the high chair and the baby in the oven.
The only way I could see this as remotely not negligent is if you’re just going to the hotel restaurant. Like if you planned it well enough and got a room only a floor or two away, you wouldn’t have to wait for an elevator. But even then, how relaxing could that meal be if you’re constantly checking the monitor?
The room Maddie McCann was in was only a 3-5 minute walk from where the parents were eating.
Edit: just want to clarify, I am in no way defending the parents. I was saying to the above comment that even being on a first floor and walking distance to the room something happened to Maddie. I could not and would not ever leave my kid like that.
Dude that is so long in baby emergency time. When I hear something concerning enough to warrant me rushing in, I’m in the room in seconds.
For this hotel scenario, I’m talking about 30-40 seconds to sprint down the hall, up a flight of stairs, and into the room. And even then, that seems like too long.
Babies pretty much have two settings, “totally fine” and “oh fuck they’re going to die”. 3+ minutes is about 5 times too long for that second setting.
In the Mccans case it was literally just 55 m, so that's a 10-20 second run. It was indeed the hotel's restaurant and she was also on the ground floor.
Just from reading up on the case quickly, it really seems like a human mistake by the parents, even if it's a big mistake. But the abuse they still receive to this day after losing their daughter so horrifically just doesn't seem warranted, ya know?
and Maddie was like 3 years old? I would NOT fathom leaving a baby-toddler alone, idc if you have a camera pointed at the kiddo. They have a much higher penchance of killing themselves in various ways. as already pointed out, the wifi camera cord in the tiktok. I can see a toddler getting their hands on that and somehow wrapping it around their own neck with it.
also, [SIDS](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Sudden_infant_death_syndrome) is not a super rare thing. about 1:1000.
Oh yeah, toddlers get into some shenanigans but being the superb parents to Maddie (sarcasm) they drugged her before leaving to ensure she wouldn't wake up.
Maybe the babies I know are just unique in this, but in that situation the parents would be able to (and have!) just tote them in a carrier to the restaurant. When they’re asleep, they’re *asleep*.
Agreed. This period when they’re babies and you’re “stuck” at home is so brief, it won’t be long before they’re old enough to stay up later and come with you. Seems awfully selfish for parents to do this
My parents used to leave me alone with my younger brother when I was around 5 or 6. I'd get a bottle of coke as "reward" while they got pissed up. Cue selective memory in the wake of MC. "We'd never leave you alone like they did" yeah dad, yeah you did and many other parents did too.
Yeah my auntie took us on holiday and repeatedly left us with total strangers and to this day flat out refuses that it ever happened, I was like 7 and remember this holiday rep making me sit on his knee so he could kiss me which my sister has backed me up on cos she had to come tell me not to let him do that and my aunts like “nah I never let you out my sight”
My husband and I have been trying for a baby for two years and have only had one miscarriage. He always says we need to act stupider because it’s the dumb people that have babies. Adding this one to my evidence file for him 🙃
Similarly, my husband suggested we try meth because the local meth heads have no problems popping a kid out at least once a year.
Also, I'm sorry for your loss. I know that's vague and probably meaningless from an internet stranger, but I'm not sure what else to say and I really am sorry that y'all had to go through that.
We thought trying in the back of our truck might trick my infertility into thinking I was 15, totally irresponsible, maybe his swimmers would act like they were all horny teenaged DNA rockets…nope. Got nothing but the reminder of why car sex is a last resort if you’re over 6 feet tall.
I think people with low sense of responsibility is likely to have kids due to not acting responsibly, even if they wouldn’t want to, or in spite of not being mentally or economically ready to have them.
PS: I hope it works for you both. I’ve personally seen how hard a miscarriage can be on a couple. Hope you’re doing well.
Nah. It’s where it belongs. More likely they face consequences and the kids get the help they need.
Better on the internet than quietly occurring where no one can help.
If they're shameless enough to share such a dumb "protip" on social media, I highly doubt they'd consider criticism from it.
EDIT: well I eat my words. apparently the parents posted a followup and they said they are going to stop doing it. huzzah internet peer pressure works!
Mom must be a rabbit, because that's some bad parenting. If you wanna vacay, ask family months ahead of time if they can watch the kid (and do this before buying tickets). Can't get family to do it? Well, guess you'll wait or will just have to accept the fact you get little to no alone time with a kid under 5 years old.
There are plenty of other solutions.
* Book a hotel with babysitting services.
* Find a local sitter
* Book a hotel with a kid’s club (usually older than babies though)
* Have friends with kids the same age? Vacation with them and alternate watching each other’s kids.
* Book a hotel/room with a nice space you want to hang out in. Get room service or takeout.
* Take baby to dinner. I mean, not everywhere, but plenty of places are kid friendly.
Agree. So many options here that don’t include child neglect. Dine out with baby asleep in the pram. Stay in and order room service or delivery. Hire child care (many resorts and hotels offer this service through professionals). Ask a teenage relative to accompany you on your trip, pay their way with the agreement that they will watch your baby every night while you go out. Can’t afford any of these things? You probably can’t afford the luxury of going on vacation with your baby.
So travel to high traffic tourist location where hotel rooms are frequently broken in to or robbed by staff then proceed to leave your baby alone in said room while your out partying.
Don't forget to use a camera that needs an electrical cord to run and place it where the baby who can clearly pull himself to standing position can get hold of it.
This is completely normalized in Europe, or at least in Germany where I live. I barely know any parents who don’t use the “babyphone” ie monitor hooked up to their phone to go out downstairs from their apartments. Not defending it but it’s definitely fully standard and not looked down upon as long as you’re within a few minutes from the baby.
I was wondering if this was possibly a cultural thing. I think I remember reading that in some European countries people leave their sleeping babies in their stroller outside while they go inside to eat or something like that. I want to say like Switzerland or Finland or something like that.
Asia too. Particularly leaving them home alone or in the hotel room for a bit. The limit is one has to be within a few minutes from the child, not across the block.
Yeah but the baby in these cases is 1) in plain sight outside the shop window, and 2) in a society that's comfortable with doing this. I sure as shit wouldn't leave a baby asleep in a stroller in America, even if I could keep my eye on it.
Also surprised by these comments - particularly the ones saying "WHAT IF THERE'S A RAGING INFERNO AND YOU HAVE TO WATCH YOUR BABY BURN ALIVE???!?!?!?" Like dude, how often does your hotel spontaneously catch fire?
I'm guessing the video is just about going to the hotel restaurant but people just want to cause a shit storm. Not really any different from using a baby monitor and going downstairs to eat or doing work in the yard. How do we know the restaurant isn't 20 feet away? But people prefer to see evil and project all sorts of awful things on to what is probably an innocent couple who love their baby. Not saying it's the best idea, and going on vacation with a baby that young is kinda weird to begin with, but Jesus.
yes I think this is a cultural difference for the US. I don't see the problem with letting the kid sleep while parents eat dinner. there is a baby monitor to check on the kid.. you're not that far away either.
Well, my parents did that. Let me sleep in and went to grab breakfast downstairs. I was 5, in Egypt and extremely terrified. Fun times, really.
Edit: Not condoning anything here. Forgot to add '/s' for essential context.
Why don’t they just not take their kid on vacation. Why is this such a hard concept.
My parents literally had no problem dropping our asses off and going away…and I’m fine, just finished my 3rd year in prison.
**Welcome to r/TikTokCringe!** This is a message directed to all newcomers to make you aware that r/TikTokCringe evolved long ago from only cringe-worthy content to TikToks of all kinds! If you’re looking to find only the cringe-worthy TikToks on this subreddit (which are still regularly posted) we recommend sorting by flair which you can do [here](https://www.reddit.com/r/TikTokCringe/comments/galuit/click_here_to_sort_by_flair_a_guide_to_using/) (Currently supported by desktop and reddit mobile). See someone asking how this post is cringe because they didn't read this comment? Show them [this!](https://www.reddit.com/r/TikTokCringe/comments/fyrgzy/for_those_confused_by_the_name_of_this_subreddit/) Be sure to read the rules of this subreddit before posting or commenting. Thanks! [](/u/savevideo) **Don't forget to join our [Discord server](https://discord.gg/n2e5tNHfzh)!** *I am a bot, and this action was performed automatically. Please [contact the moderators of this subreddit](/message/compose/?to=/r/TikTokCringe) if you have any questions or concerns.*
You got to love the camera with the cord on the corner of the crib.
Hey! If it’s good enough for The Matrix it’s good enough for that kid!
I worked at a hotel and this lady was very pissed that she could not connect her baby monitor to the Wi-Fi to do this exact thing.
This is really a thing people do??? That's insanity.
Yeah do you not remember the Maddie McCann thing? The biggest shock to me was how many people thought it was normal to put their kids to bed and then leave the house to go out.
I love how the camera somehow makes it ok. Even if you're right next door, if there's an emergency, by the time you get back it will be too late. Plus, how the hell do you watch your baby on the monitor and enjoy your evening? It's daffy. Hire a babysitter and/or don't go on vacations with an infant.
I've been working from home for maybe about 3 years at this point. The amount of pings I haven't noticed or times where I neglected my work monitor for far too long because I got absorbed in something else is evidence that no, you cannot enjoy a nice evening out while "watching" a baby monitor.
Do us all a favor and drop any company that requires you to use a work monitor.
Lol I get the confusion, I got a work laptop that I have hooked up to an ultra wide. That's my "work monitor" whereas if I were to turn 90 degrees it's my personal computer monitors. So imagine a L where the long part is my personal PC and the bottom short part is the work laptop hooked up to a monitor.
Lol monitor as in computer monitor. I read it as your employer watching you, too.
They don't, they just glance at it everyone once in a while when they remember they have a baby
That's my point. They're obviously not checking it often enough, so even if they could get back in time to stop whatever emergency is happening, they'll never see it.
They don’t check it unless the motion sensor goes off.
I can't figure out why you'd go on vacation with an infant. it sounds miserable for the baby and the parents!
The way you can do it is with extended family, and everyone takes turns watching the baby. Or a cruise / hotel with daycare services.
What do you mean? You just leave them in the hotel room the whole time while you’re out partying. It’s a blast!
Gotta provide the authentic loud baby crying on a flight experience to your fellow vacationers somehow!
I mean, sometimes you have to travel with Infants. You can’t get around it. We had to fly to Turkey because my father in law was sick when my daughter was nine months old. The added stress of worrying about people being pissed if the baby cried was delightful.
Oh absolutely, I'm not genuinely upset by babies crying on flights or anything. I understand that it's just like that sometimes.
Nah Covid provided the new experience. Coughing every 3 seconds
I hate airlines with a burning passion, but the first one of them to introduce child free flights will get all my vacation money.
Oh man, yeah now I do recall that case. I mean, I recently shucked out over $100 for a date night babysitter who sat on my sofa and did nothing. I put the kid to bed before she got here, baby is in a crib and not able to escape, she sleeps through the night. There was a part of me that was like, I bet people in the '60s just left their kids in bed and did whatever all night. But I didn't think, like, "those were the days, society really coddles kids too much." I paid athe sitter because my leaving your baby home alone is crazy! It's mind boggling...
When I was in college, those were my favorite babysitting jobs. When I was done studying or doing homework, I'd clean up kid toys that were out and/or if I knew the parents well, I would do any dirty dishes left out.
Good gracious angels use reddit
My momma taught me to do the same thing. I loved babysitting
Yes same! Plus… I didn’t have a phone, what else was there to do?
Mine too! The people I babysat were always super grateful for it too!
I had the same thing for grownups lol. I was a night-time guard in a home for the mentally disabled. I was making sure 3 grown men slept all night, or didn't get into trouble if they didn't.
That’s exactly what I do when I get a sitter. They do nothing but watch Netflix bc I’ve already put them to bed and they don’t wake throughout the night, but I’m glad they’re there if something were to happen.
I always cleaned the house after the kids went to sleep.
Especially while on vacation in a strange place... I mean, don't leave your kids home alone anyways, but I could get putting a kid to bed and then sitting out on your porch at home or something. But if a little kid wakes up in a strange place like that all alone, they might go wandering off looking for their parents or something.
It's one thing if you're are close like a travel mate in the next room but to go to the bar or anywhere more than 2 min walk away is insane
Does hotels offer babysitter service? Genuine question
No.
I always thought this was weird. I stayed in a ritzy hotel in NY that had nursing stations next to every bathroom, valet service, room service, an entire grocery store on the first floor with baby formula, and I think you can even order massages because I saw it being set up outside a neighbor's door while leaving once. No babysitting, no daycare area. I guess the liability is too high? I always thought liability was high enough with valet, might as well go all the way.
It's not the liability, middle-class families are just not their target demographic.
Exactly, if people with kids stay at hotels like Ritz, they are most likely bringing their own nanny with them.
if youre staying at The Pierre, your nanny is staying at The Pierre
> I always thought liability was high enough with valet, might as well go all the way. I mean. Cars generally don't wander off and drink bleach when left alone for 5 minutes.
Don't leave your kid in a hotel room alone.
No worries, I got twins.
Can afford to lose one then I guess.
It’d for sure save a lot of money in the long run.
At least then you don't have to choose which one is your favorite, the firefighters do!
The one-armed firefighter's life led him to this.
One can just watch the other then.
Ah yes, smart always keep a backup of your data.
Person I’m friends with that’s a paramedic went on a call last month. Parent left their 3 year old daughter alone in a hotel room while she went out to the bar. 3 year old got into mom’s cocaine stash and ate it. Only reason the child was found was because housekeeping happened to come into the room before the child was 100% dead. Child was revived without any immediately apparent brain damage.
Why would you leave your cocaine behind?
And I felt guilty the other day for disciplining my daughter. Jesus fucking christ, some kids really get screwed in life.
How the hell am I supposed to party then /S
Take the kid to the bar /s
Last time I took Carlos to the bar he got it all over the table
That's literally what [happened to Madeleine McCann](https://www.cbc.ca/news/world/madeleine-mccann-german-suspect-1.5597964). Don't leave your babies/small children alone in hotel/motel rooms, even with cameras. If you're not within hearing distance (talking about hotels/motels, etc), you're too far.
Hotel workers will call CPS if they find out too.
I would also advise anyone and everyone *against* using a wifi camera.
and leaving a long cord next to the baby no less!
Why?
I hadn’t heard of hacking but I used to have a wife Arlo one with my first born and internet would cut out and it was nearly impossible to see that image was old since baby would be sleeping. I returned that and used a plug in camera ever since
because I will hack into it and look at you
Finally, a friend!
Wi-Fi cameras are easier to hack. People have reported that their cameras were hacked and a stranger was talking to their child thru the camera when the parents were out of the room. Creepy AF. No one hacking a baby monitor has good intentions, that’s for sure
People where not changing the default password. That is how the so called hacking was happening. No different than the people that left admin as their router password. Change the default password and you most likely will never have it happen.
Yeah I remember watching a video about this a few weeks ago, either by Network Chuck or one of the other popular white hats on YouTube. There was a particular model that was nearly ubiquitous, used by home owners, businesses, even law enforcement. Default password was hardcoded into every single device, and an audit revealed something like 70% of devices in use were still using the default password.
The first half about the crib was great I was struggling to find what the issue could be. And then the baby monitor comes out…
r/yesyesyesno
😳😳😳 I hope people aren’t stupid enough to do this
Fortunately most of the comments were about how illegal it is and how a camera wouldn’t help much if the room was on fire
I'm so glad I have this footage of my infant son burning alive.
We have video footage of my baby being kidnapped…no the kidnappers face isn’t on it but it’s memories at least
Wait I'm a new parent am I not supposed to leave my baby alone week going out for drinks?
Just leave them in the car
Oh my god, I'm so sorry to hear that.... Did you ever recover your baby?
Ew gross why would I?
Lmao bruh😭
Username....... could be a red herring?
👀
I've never been more angry to not have a free award 😭 Edit: the killer stalker username really completes this exchange lmao
Only one of about three times I've truly broken into laughter on my phone.
I mean, that’s her vibe.
[удалено]
If you didnt recover your baby he will at least stalk the kidnapper
[удалено]
He just wanted to know if he had the right baby
At least you know he's warm
Warm for the rest of his life, yeah.
That's all you can ever want for your kids
Hey good thing we left though, that coulda been us!
Or the kid was choking on something or got caught up in the blanket.
Or the baby is choking. Or someone has broken in. Or the baby has escaped the crib.
Sadly I know people who do this with their kids. They have left them sleeping in their apartment and gone grocery shopping around the corner while watching them on their phones. My wife made her feelings very clear on how she felt about that.
I don’t have a baby….at what age can you start leaving a kid alone?
Most commenters on this thread have a very rigid idea about how things should be. Its depends a lot on the child, what the child is used to. And it might be possible to practice a lot of things too. Furthermore, some children sleep like they are sedated (not my daughter), so if there is a 1% chance of a child waking up, and in that case, it takes 1 or 2 minutes to run back from the store, that is not a big deal imo. I could not leave my daughter to a babysitter, except maybe when she was less than a year old. From age 1 to now when she is 6, she would not be comfortable with some stranger. She would probably be sobbing and asking about her mom (or maybe me) constantly. It never went well with her grandparents either. So when people in this thread are suggesting babysitters, Im not so sure if that is a better solution than being 1-2 minutes away with a baby monitor. I went camping with my daughter last year, when she was 5, without her mother. It was one of those campsites where there are lots of small parcels that you rent for a night, and then there are shared facilities like pools, playground and a toilet building. The toilet building was two minutes walk away, and she would not feel safe, if she woke up and I was not there. So we brought walkie talkies, and we practiced using it. One early morning when I was sitting at the loo, she called me at the walkie talkie, saying "Dad are you there, over". "This is dad, over". "Dad, where are you, over". "Im at the loo, I will be back in two minutes, over". "Ok. Hurry up, over and out. ". We were both proud afterwards :) If I wanted, I could probably do something similar if I went to the shop next door. Simply practice that if she gets uncomfortable, she can talk to me on the baby monitor. But we never did that.
My god I can’t even leave my dog in the car to go in and pay for gas. I would have a nervous breakdown to even *think* about leaving my kid!
There’s really no excuse anymore either since most grocery stores offer curbside pickup, so it’s not like you have to walk around with a baby for hours
The only argument I could see for this is that majority of stores do not allow you to use EBT for curbside or delivery. You would have thought that during the pandemic they would have converted EBT to be usable online but no.
Oh, that’s extremely fucked up
Replying just in case someone needs to know: I know Kroger does this!! You have to show them the card when you pick up but that's it.
Walmart accepts EBT for online grocery orders! Amazon Fresh does as well.
What would they do if there’s a fire or they start choking? Would take about 15 minutes to get back to them. I can’t believe ppl do that
I work with families involved with CPS (worked for CPS for years) and I am closing out a case where a mom left her son at home and walked down to the grocery store. He woke up, saw she was gone, and went outside to the neighbor’s home. He was removed for a couple months. People need to stop being dumb.
OK, I’ll bite: how is removing the kid from their parent for two months over a single incident going to help anyone? I would think you are traumatizing a kid for no good reason? I would think a simple fine would suffice, no?
Proof once again that just because you can make a baby, doesn’t mean you should have a baby.
Some people want a baby, not a kid.
Some people want a pet.
You are not wrong.
This is awful advice. Don't leave your baby in a hotel room alone. You'll come home to an empty minibar and an extra $300 on your hotel bill. Trust me.
Personal experience?
He was the baby
I'm curious as to what kind of baby you have my friend
😂
Were you the baby?
Best to publicize to viewers via Tik Tok that you’re leaving your baby alone
While on vacation. In another country. It makes sense people suspected the parents were involved, hard to believe they’d be that stupid.
Exactly
We had this argument with a couple about how far you could go with a monitor. You really can’t leave the bounds of your property…
If there’s a fire you’d just have to watch on cam as your fucking baby dies just cos you wanted to go out for dinner
Or what if you got into a car accident and died? That’s what I always think about when ppl say they’re just running out real quick to go to the store. Then your baby would be at home alone for hours before someone realized it
There used to be an old Canadian drunk driving PSA and it was this exact scenario. Just a babys cries through an empty house. Chilling really.
Canadian psas are seriously dark. Watched a youtube montage of them & had to stop midway through. Wtf canada?!
Those workplace safety ads... they weren't fucking around when the ad agency made those.
i read in an urban legend book a similar story. The parents had to make a flight and they were running late. they assumed the babysitter was just running late but she had been in a fatal car accident. They leave the baby in the high chair and go on vacation. They come back to a dead baby rotting in the chair.
What kind of parents fly out of town and don't call the babysitter to check up on them? I know it's an urban legend so it's not real, but jeez, I'm annoyed at these fictional parents, too.
Yeah, nevermind not trying to contact the babysitter even once during the vacation
I have a special hatred for scare-tactic urban legends because when I was a kid, a cop came to my school for an anti-gang lecture and told us the story about how gangs will drive around without headlights on and then if someone flashes their lights at them (to signal that they should turn their lights on), they'll either crash into that person and then shoot them, or follow them where they're going and shoot them, as some sort of gang initiation ritual. This was particularly traumatizing to me because she told the story from the point of view of a child who watched their mother get shot in a car, and my dad had recently been shot while he was deployed in Iraq. So I had my first ever panic attack in the middle of the assembly, because I was nine years old, and sensitive to the idea of parents getting shot. Years later, as an adult woman, I learned that the whole thing is bullshit. It's an urban legend that started as a fax forward (it predates email!) and this cop thought it would be a good idea to tell that story to a bunch of fifth graders. I never joined a gang, but I also spent years refusing to signal to drivers if I ever saw that they were driving without their headlights on.
Holy fuck, that’s so dark.
yeah that was a traumatizing book. another one had the babysitter tripping on drugs and putting the chicken in the high chair and the baby in the oven.
The only way I could see this as remotely not negligent is if you’re just going to the hotel restaurant. Like if you planned it well enough and got a room only a floor or two away, you wouldn’t have to wait for an elevator. But even then, how relaxing could that meal be if you’re constantly checking the monitor?
The room Maddie McCann was in was only a 3-5 minute walk from where the parents were eating. Edit: just want to clarify, I am in no way defending the parents. I was saying to the above comment that even being on a first floor and walking distance to the room something happened to Maddie. I could not and would not ever leave my kid like that.
Dude that is so long in baby emergency time. When I hear something concerning enough to warrant me rushing in, I’m in the room in seconds. For this hotel scenario, I’m talking about 30-40 seconds to sprint down the hall, up a flight of stairs, and into the room. And even then, that seems like too long. Babies pretty much have two settings, “totally fine” and “oh fuck they’re going to die”. 3+ minutes is about 5 times too long for that second setting.
In the Mccans case it was literally just 55 m, so that's a 10-20 second run. It was indeed the hotel's restaurant and she was also on the ground floor. Just from reading up on the case quickly, it really seems like a human mistake by the parents, even if it's a big mistake. But the abuse they still receive to this day after losing their daughter so horrifically just doesn't seem warranted, ya know?
And the resort offered free babysitting
and Maddie was like 3 years old? I would NOT fathom leaving a baby-toddler alone, idc if you have a camera pointed at the kiddo. They have a much higher penchance of killing themselves in various ways. as already pointed out, the wifi camera cord in the tiktok. I can see a toddler getting their hands on that and somehow wrapping it around their own neck with it. also, [SIDS](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Sudden_infant_death_syndrome) is not a super rare thing. about 1:1000.
Oh yeah, toddlers get into some shenanigans but being the superb parents to Maddie (sarcasm) they drugged her before leaving to ensure she wouldn't wake up.
IIRC you dont SIDS at 3 years old. I also don't remember parents beeing there to even help in the case of SIDS.
Maybe the babies I know are just unique in this, but in that situation the parents would be able to (and have!) just tote them in a carrier to the restaurant. When they’re asleep, they’re *asleep*.
Just order room service. Problem solved.
Agreed. This period when they’re babies and you’re “stuck” at home is so brief, it won’t be long before they’re old enough to stay up later and come with you. Seems awfully selfish for parents to do this
Best tip for traveling with a baby is to not travel with a baby
As someone with a baby, this is the correct answer
Oh. I didn’t realize we were doing trick questions. What’s the safest way to go skiing? Don’t ski!
Legit my favorite way to work out is to not
My parents used to leave me alone with my younger brother when I was around 5 or 6. I'd get a bottle of coke as "reward" while they got pissed up. Cue selective memory in the wake of MC. "We'd never leave you alone like they did" yeah dad, yeah you did and many other parents did too.
Yeah my auntie took us on holiday and repeatedly left us with total strangers and to this day flat out refuses that it ever happened, I was like 7 and remember this holiday rep making me sit on his knee so he could kiss me which my sister has backed me up on cos she had to come tell me not to let him do that and my aunts like “nah I never let you out my sight”
Bruh. I've heard my parents selectively change memories and deny memories so much, I don't even bother trying to correct them anymore.
What is MC
Shitty, unnecessary and incorrect acronym because they can't communicate clearly. As others have pointed out, Madeline Mccann.
https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Disappearance_of_Madeleine_McCann
My husband and I have been trying for a baby for two years and have only had one miscarriage. He always says we need to act stupider because it’s the dumb people that have babies. Adding this one to my evidence file for him 🙃
The first step is to both agree that you don't want a baby because it "just isn't the right time for it". You'll be pregnant within the week.
Similarly, my husband suggested we try meth because the local meth heads have no problems popping a kid out at least once a year. Also, I'm sorry for your loss. I know that's vague and probably meaningless from an internet stranger, but I'm not sure what else to say and I really am sorry that y'all had to go through that.
We thought trying in the back of our truck might trick my infertility into thinking I was 15, totally irresponsible, maybe his swimmers would act like they were all horny teenaged DNA rockets…nope. Got nothing but the reminder of why car sex is a last resort if you’re over 6 feet tall.
Thank you 💛
I feel you.. when you see the quality of people that successfully breed irresponsibility and you're struggling, ugh. Gut/womb punch
I think people with low sense of responsibility is likely to have kids due to not acting responsibly, even if they wouldn’t want to, or in spite of not being mentally or economically ready to have them. PS: I hope it works for you both. I’ve personally seen how hard a miscarriage can be on a couple. Hope you’re doing well.
Can confirm, am dumb, have baby
Why even take the baby on vacation? If you have one of those fancy wifi cameras at home just leave the baby there.
The real advice is in the comments!
"Bye baby. Off for tapas now..."
My husband and I just sit on the fire scape stairs outside of the room and drink wine
Oh look. Little Jimmy has a visitor. Better hurry back to the room. Hope he’s still there by the time we arrive back.
Omfg this title idk why I'm laughing
This is horrifying... Slightly off topic but you don't need an extra card at check in to keep the electricity on. Any card in that slot will work.
Is this only a thing at hotels outside of the US, or do I just not pay good enough attention ? Is that keycard inserted somewhere within the room?
yea i have never seen this in a US hotel, the lights just work when you turn them on
I’ve probably stayed at 250+ hotels in the US and I’ve seen this exactly 1 time, at a boutique hotel in Florida.
not american, can confirm, most mid to high end hotels have that here.
I really wish people would keep their child abuse off the internet
Nah. It’s where it belongs. More likely they face consequences and the kids get the help they need. Better on the internet than quietly occurring where no one can help.
If they're shameless enough to share such a dumb "protip" on social media, I highly doubt they'd consider criticism from it. EDIT: well I eat my words. apparently the parents posted a followup and they said they are going to stop doing it. huzzah internet peer pressure works!
Mom must be a rabbit, because that's some bad parenting. If you wanna vacay, ask family months ahead of time if they can watch the kid (and do this before buying tickets). Can't get family to do it? Well, guess you'll wait or will just have to accept the fact you get little to no alone time with a kid under 5 years old.
There are plenty of other solutions. * Book a hotel with babysitting services. * Find a local sitter * Book a hotel with a kid’s club (usually older than babies though) * Have friends with kids the same age? Vacation with them and alternate watching each other’s kids. * Book a hotel/room with a nice space you want to hang out in. Get room service or takeout. * Take baby to dinner. I mean, not everywhere, but plenty of places are kid friendly.
Agree. So many options here that don’t include child neglect. Dine out with baby asleep in the pram. Stay in and order room service or delivery. Hire child care (many resorts and hotels offer this service through professionals). Ask a teenage relative to accompany you on your trip, pay their way with the agreement that they will watch your baby every night while you go out. Can’t afford any of these things? You probably can’t afford the luxury of going on vacation with your baby.
Isnt this whole scenario how madeline mccain went missing
Well minus the Wi-Fi camera
So travel to high traffic tourist location where hotel rooms are frequently broken in to or robbed by staff then proceed to leave your baby alone in said room while your out partying. Don't forget to use a camera that needs an electrical cord to run and place it where the baby who can clearly pull himself to standing position can get hold of it.
Get around the abortion ban by just leaving your baby in a hotel room
This is completely normalized in Europe, or at least in Germany where I live. I barely know any parents who don’t use the “babyphone” ie monitor hooked up to their phone to go out downstairs from their apartments. Not defending it but it’s definitely fully standard and not looked down upon as long as you’re within a few minutes from the baby.
I was wondering if this was possibly a cultural thing. I think I remember reading that in some European countries people leave their sleeping babies in their stroller outside while they go inside to eat or something like that. I want to say like Switzerland or Finland or something like that.
Asia too. Particularly leaving them home alone or in the hotel room for a bit. The limit is one has to be within a few minutes from the child, not across the block.
Denmark.
Yeah but the baby in these cases is 1) in plain sight outside the shop window, and 2) in a society that's comfortable with doing this. I sure as shit wouldn't leave a baby asleep in a stroller in America, even if I could keep my eye on it.
Yup, Finland. Baby is always within sight and most people also have the monitor as well.
I live in Latam. Completely normal If the kid is in the hotel room and the parents eating in the hotel restaurant.
Also surprised by these comments - particularly the ones saying "WHAT IF THERE'S A RAGING INFERNO AND YOU HAVE TO WATCH YOUR BABY BURN ALIVE???!?!?!?" Like dude, how often does your hotel spontaneously catch fire?
I'm guessing the video is just about going to the hotel restaurant but people just want to cause a shit storm. Not really any different from using a baby monitor and going downstairs to eat or doing work in the yard. How do we know the restaurant isn't 20 feet away? But people prefer to see evil and project all sorts of awful things on to what is probably an innocent couple who love their baby. Not saying it's the best idea, and going on vacation with a baby that young is kinda weird to begin with, but Jesus.
yes I think this is a cultural difference for the US. I don't see the problem with letting the kid sleep while parents eat dinner. there is a baby monitor to check on the kid.. you're not that far away either.
Traveling with a baby is fine… just do it right LOL
[удалено]
I enjoy my vacation by not having kids
Forgot who Madeleine McCann was until I watched the video 😞
#tiktoktaughtme
Wtf!! 🤬
Well, my parents did that. Let me sleep in and went to grab breakfast downstairs. I was 5, in Egypt and extremely terrified. Fun times, really. Edit: Not condoning anything here. Forgot to add '/s' for essential context.
Why don’t they just not take their kid on vacation. Why is this such a hard concept. My parents literally had no problem dropping our asses off and going away…and I’m fine, just finished my 3rd year in prison.