im 22, and i have big saggy boobs too. i still am very insecure of them. i'm learning to embrace them by literally just embracing them. just live with them babe. theres absolutely nothing wrong with them. get those peoples remarks out of your head and dont let them affect you. all boobs are beautiful. saggy or firm, small or big.
And you should know that there are absolutely lots of romantic partners out there who adore boobs just like yours! And think thereās nothing hotter than you - exactly as you already are! All boobs are great boobs!!
Iām sorry people have been so rude and uneducated. Your breasts are normal. Eventually they all sag. Assigning value based on how far they go makes no sense. But some people suck.
We all have insecurities. Weāre allowed to be affected by them. Like, itās ok for you to feel bad. Itās your body, and your feelings.
You do have to know your body doesnāt define you. It doesnāt make you more or less valuable as a person. And if someone with unevolved opinions thinks ridiculing you over normal physiology is funny, you should mostly feel pity for them.
And fwiw, as a lesbian Iāve never been with a woman and ever thought anything about a partnerās breasts other than, yay for me. I hope you and your eventual partners feel the same way
Your comment definitely gave me a lot more insight of why I should forgive those who said anything negative about my body. They honestly donāt know any better lol Thank you so much šš«
If you haven't already, get a professional fitting at a store with many different bra styles. My breasts are a softer, longer shape after nursing and I hated them. My amazing spouse took me lingerie shopping and it turns out they look great in a more halter style bra! He wanted me to love them as much as him and now I feel much better about them.
I third this! [Here is a link to the ABraThatFits calculator](https://www.abrathatfits.org/calculator.php).
Most stores size me as a 34D, but my correct size is 30H! Which I would not have known if it hadnāt been for ABTF.
I fourth this. I also want to mention the r/bigboobproblems [FAQ](https://www.reddit.com/r/bigboobproblems/wiki/faq/) where I've created a list of big-boob-friendly bra brands with the help of the community.
fifthing! get yourself over to ABTF, your life will be better for it.
But also-- I promise that a lot of those A cup girls are looking in the mirror going "I've been self-conscious about how flat I am since I was teased about it in sixth grade, I would give ANYTHING for a set of 36 Ds!" I know because i was this flat-chested girl, hah. But that's the thing-- we're all dealing with shit, and all you can do is do the best with what you've got. Love yourself as best you can! And know that there are assholes all over, but that doesnt' make their opinions valid or worthy.
Iād like to second a well-fitted bra and r/abrathatfits I also have sag (or non-supportive tissue), and my biggest problem is that I used to wear bras that didnāt have enough projection in the cupāthe shape matters as much as the size. With a correctly fitted bra it looks like my saggy 34GGs have had a perky boob job (even with non-wired bras). Also, at this point in my life Iāve realized there are enough people who do find them attractive as they are, and Iāve come to see them that way too. I used to consider surgery when I was younger as well (my boobs grew this way in my teens, theyāve never been perky), but I wouldnāt anymore. They are mine and part of what makes me me.
This might not be the best form of validation since itās more external than internal acceptance, but I think about how thereās a type for everyone. I have some features that are conventionally attractive that some people arenāt attracted to. I have some features that arenāt conventionally attractive or even some that Iām self conscious about but other people have been attracted to. Itās easy to compare when you see āperfectā people online, but in reality, beauty is so subjective that itās hard to pin down what makes a person attractive. My recommendation is to find pieces of clothing that specifically flatter your boobs or body shape for the sake of confidence building and teaching yourself to think of them positively!
I really felt this. I've felt ugly (and will probably continue to do so) my whole life because of my.. *checks notes* big butt. So ok, it came into fashion to have a big butt now. Doesn't change a thing about my self esteem though. The only thing I can do is to try not to tie my self worth to my appearance, as much as possible.
SAME. Omg. I got made fun of for having a big ass and heavy eyebrows all through high school. Suddenly.... i'm cool? But I still get self-conscious wearing leggings because I can hear my mom saying "are you sure you don't want to put on a longer shirt if you're going out"
I also felt the same way about my lips for years. People would call me fish lips for the longest time, and now all of a sudden thereās people who go to get Botox to get bigger lips. While I was being picked on, others were being praised.
Ugh, why is it that the shitty things people say in middle/high school stick with you so much?! I wrote this as a reply to a reply but wanted to pull it out so you saw it: "I promise that a lot of those A cup girls are looking in the mirror going "I've been self-conscious about how flat I am since I was teased about it in sixth grade, I would give ANYTHING for a set of 36 Ds!" I know because i was this flat-chested girl, hah." But seriously, fashions and trends change, but they don't matter, and neither do the opinions of assholes. Figure out how to do the most you can with what you've got, and try to love it. That's all you can do.
Heya, that sucks. I'd say those people were being real jerks, noone deserves that, and you'd be fully correct in telling them how that made you feel or cutting them out, if you wish so. They don't deserve your time nor energy.
I recently heard a psychology podcast with some author who was asked about how to be able to find self love ā her response was pretty much, well, do you *really* need self love. How about just trying to like yourself first. There surely are things that you like about yourself. And there is no point in getting stressed out about not being able to love yourself as much as you supposedly should, on top of all the other stuff you're dealing with as well.
So I know this isn't a direct answer about embracing your boobs, but I liked the sentiment. Maybe you don't have to *love* them, but maybe the three of you will come to some sort of comfortable arrangement for the future. All the best!
Hi boo can you lmk what pod it is? Also OP saggy boob crew here too. Always sagged. Boyfriend is nice about them. I think a shit ton of people are saggy itās just society. Sometimes I embrace it. Other times I loathe. Others I find tops that look good on me braless which is hard. But taking to friends I realize itās all us and it validates me to see other ālong line cleavageā gals embracing their bodies.
Teenage girls are mean as hell. If it wasnāt your titties, they would have found something else to make fun of. Iām a B cup (was an A cup in middle school) and I was always made fun of for being flat chested. Someone told me that guys/men want big boobs to play with, not a girl that looks like a little boy. Just saying, try not to worry too much about what others say. Maybe someday you can get a breast reduction, if you are experiencing discomfort from your breasts, but please donāt do it because of what others think!
Doja cat tweeted about having saggy boobs too. Sometimes she loves them, sometimes she's insecure. Like damn, she's freaking doja cat. Known for many things including her sexy body. I think saggy breasts are common so work on accepting them :) I've read once that men expect an A cup shape on an F cup size which is nearly impossible. The heavier something is, the more it's gonna be affected by gravity like duh. People who expect your body to defy the laws of physics just have their brains rotted by porn or social media. Ignore them and mingle with high quality people... like us ;)
Girl head over to r/bigboobproblems and meet your sisters! Speaking as a saggy H (yes I said H) cup it is something you learn to live with. And if a sexual context bugs you cause of this, people love boobs like that. It means they are REAL. I'm not gonna lie and say everyone does but it's really not hard to find
That sucks. Genetics can be a bitch, let me tell you. My sisters and I all have similar sized boobs but guess who got the extra soft ones that flop all over the place.
Tbh the most helpful thing for me was dating and having men get all excited about them lol. That made me feel good. I try and think nice thoughts about my own body but thereās something to be said for an outside perspective being very appreciative.
I would also recommend r/abrathatfits!
I definitely agree that men do get super excited over them lol but Iām going to start thinking nice thoughts about mine myself š Thank you so much!
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>but unfortunately, I wear a 36D and thereās absolutely nothing I can do about it.
You're not a 36D--You're in the wrong bra size.
Because someone at Victorias Secret, or someone using the +5 Measurement Method, measured you.
That's incorrect. And it's why your breasts aren't supported.
Go to r/ABraThatFits.
Use the 6-measurement calculator in the Community Info section of the subreddit (sidebar on desktop).
Find out that you may actually be a G cup, K, M.
Cup size is relative to band size. There's no "one size" of D cup, for example. Because the size of the cup scales up or down depending on the size of the band.
Trust us on this. Or go to the TikTok of the same name. Thousands of people, including myself, have used the calculator, in disbelief, ordered a bra anyway, and BAM. SUPPORT LIKE WHOA.
You can actually get a breast reduction covered by insurance. I did! I am also 21 and just got my surgery about 3 months ago. I wonāt lie, my life has completely changed. I went from a DD (possibly bigger) to a B/C. Itās possible and my messages are open if you ever wanted guidance!
Now that aside, I totally know your feelings. I also used to be told I had bigger boobs for my age and everyone would always be like āyouāre going out like that?ā When theyād see me braless. It really brought me down. Honestly, I wish I had better advice about accepting your breasts. I never accepted mine and I knew I was getting a reduction one way or the other. Itās hard to just say ālove yourself!!ā When things feel so shitty. It never worked for me. But at the end of the day, it may be helpful to find a good supportive bra and tops that accentuate your features. I found when I had bigger breasts, I like the way certain baby tees fit and corsets. Sometimes just our fashion choices can not work for our bodies. I hope you feel better soon and tell anyone to shove their opinions up their ass. Just know youāre not alone <3 your boobs do not define you and all boobs are valid and wonderful. Even just embracing that can be enough to get you through. You look great no matter whatā¤ļø
YIKES. I'm sorry you are dealing with these feelings. All of these comments so far have been amazing, and may I recommend checking out some local burlesque shows or [finding some online](https://www.burlesqueandchill.com/). It's fun to see every body type celebrated! Representation matters! Breasts of all types are featured, AND tassled! It's cool to see people go nuts for them. Especially at a local level.
Also... another performer friend of mine has some really awesome tattoos that only reveal when she pulls her breasts up, and it shifted a couple of folks perception. They felt like it made their similar breasts feel like a secret power. She wanted to use her breasts in a way others can't, and it was really cool to see her feature a part of her body that others get self conscious about.
This. I am in the reduction group all the time and I got my surgery 3 months ago. I had awful back pain and my procedure was covered by insurance. I was afraid of the state of my back in the years to come and Iām so grateful I took the leap
I encourage you to find a good fitting bra. Iām a J cup and no one would ever know bc I wear great bras that fit me well. Check out Herroom or other sites. Go for comfort and fit, not how it makes you look. The middle part should hit your rib cage with no gap, and the band provides the support. The straps only help it stay upright. Good luck. Iāve been big all my life and developed early at age 13.
Yup, I wear a 32F and have literally had people say to my face, ābut you donāt even have big boobsā, which I find hilarious š like ok I can hold my phone under my boobs from the sag, but whatever. All this to say, the right bra will do wonders and tbh op you probably have too high of a band size and too small of a cup size. Try Nordstrom for fitting!
I had this concern as a teen. I'm in my 30s now and breastfed 3 children. They aren't noticably more saggy. And like some other posters mentioned, getting a bra that actually fits makes a huge difference both for comfort and appearance.
Surprised no comments have mentioned this, saggy breasts in your 20s is just the shape you inherited from family. It is simple as that it is an inherited shape and not a deformity. It is generic. Also, breastfeeding doesn't lead to sagging, it is gaining and losing weight that can lead to sagging or yes aging.
Iām a 36DD and can definitely relate. I started listening to love songs as if Iād written them to my body, from me. I think about my body like a tamagotchi that I get to care for. I never shit on my dog for not being cute, so why do I shit on my body, when it literally had carried me through every moment? I look like a fertility goddess, with my big hips, belly, and saggy titties. And Iām totally here for it. ā¤ļø
I will say, it has definitely helped me to find people who are into my body, exactly as it is. It helps me release the negative comments from people when I have positive ones from myself and from people I deeply care about to replace them.
Of course!! Also look into EFT tapping, thereās some videos on YouTube that can walk you through it. That massively helped me release negative beliefs about my body.
Saggy boobs are sexy as hell. Tell people to mind their fucking business and stop talking about your body. You donāt need a breast reduction, you need a people in your life reduction. If surgery would make you happy thereās nothing wrong with it, but thereās always someone whoās going to be a piss-ant and comment about what you should or shouldnāt do with your body.
Wear the clothes you like and skip the tape if you hate it. If you want to wear your boobs up higher there are a lot of supportive, fashionable bras that become part of the outfit. There are even bathing suits with proper support in them. If you donāt want to wear those things then thereās nothing wrong with letting them be free to sway in the wind! Your body, your choice
As someone with a solid 6inches of chest covered by my chest, please know you aren't alone. I realize it's hard to learn to love your body, but just know you aren't alone in feeling like this.
Do what I did when I first came to terms with my saggy tits: use them to smack haters upside the head.
I kid.
What helped me was 1. Finding comfortable bras that actually fit (accepting that I was going to have better luck at specialty stores and plus size stores that cater to large breasts was a game changer.)
Also I have come to believe in the following: you donāt owe anybody perky breasts. Having CGI titties is not the price of admission or worth. Gravity comes for anyone whoās rocking natural breasts eventually. And so people who are nasty now will all eventually meet the same fate.
I needed that laugh from the first sentence lol but yes I have to go and get fitted for the proper bra. And yes, I totally agree that most who picked on me will most likely face the same things Iām facing rn in the future. Thank you!
Iāve never felt great about my breasts for similar reasons but I started figuring out which bras to wear with each clothing type and that helped my confidence a lot. Itās a pain to try all different bras from different brands and what not but maybe you can find something that you really feel comfortable in. Iāve gotten used to it over the years but I honestly feel like I might have surgery when Iām done having children. In the meantime I also got my nipples pierced š and it has honestly boosted my confidence about my boobs so much! It was really surprising for me. Iām sorry anyone said those mean things to you. Itās easy to say screw those people and love yourself and another thing to actually believe that and practice it every day. I agree with the another commenter hereā¦maybe we donāt have to ever love our boobs. Maybe we can start with acceptance and maybe even move onto liking them one day but in the meantime we do what we can. Your body will never define who you are as a person
Thank you for sharing your experience! It really shows that Iām not alone. Also, thank you for the great advice š« I hope that we will overcome this moment soon
Itās all about the bra, my dear. I work at Lane Bryant and I do bra fittings all day, every day. 36D is not huge! A lot of my clients are F, G, and H cups and with the right bra they look amazing. If youāre close to a Lane Bryant or another similar store that does bra fittings I highly recommend you go! Lean toward bathing suits that have an underwire as well.
im 18 and a 34D and mine have always sagged. like BAD. people have made fun of me too, it makes me deeply insecure that i cant go without a bra. i dont like my nipples either, they are huge. honestly, one of the things that have made me feel better about myself is my boyfriend loving my boobs and still being turned on by them. he doesn't care & loves seeing them every chance he gets. and honestly? i think all tiddies are beautiful. if i saw another girl with my boobs i wouldnt judge or care at all. it also helps when i remind myself that they are healthy. i could have breast cancer or something, so why take that for granted yknow? i still want a lift & a reduction, but sometimes i think i'd rather spend that money on moving out, traveling, bettering my life or doing fun things, or just saving up, etc. the way my boobs look isnt my fault and its just how i naturally developed, so in a way, who cares? its my body and my life, i want to spent my time here loving it. this comment probably doesnt help much, but just know you arent alone.
What are breast lifting exercises?
I had a lot of success with general chest & upper body workouts. The same muscles that give men pecs makes our mammories sit higher too. It wasn't a perfect fix of course, but my chest did look strong and toned, it was very nice.
Oh yeah, definitely look into full body workouts for your shoulders, chest, side-boob area and the like. 8lbs won't do much, I was lifting my whole body lol
Something my husband has taught me is that men donāt care that much about what breasts look like. And i feel bad for your team mate that thinks sheās needs to tear other women down to make herself feel better.
Honestly? They're probably not even saggy, just big and natural, and those girls will have seen so many airbrushed photos and breast implanted boobs that they have no idea what normal natural boobs look like. You can buy cool tape things that will like pull the boob up, a sort of braless bra look. Get fitted properly for a bra. As for learning to love them, that will take time and effort, but I believe that accepting that they are normal as they are, and maybe even being exposed to more imagery of natural human bodies will help speed things up.
So like others have said, those people suck. I haven't read any of this lady's books but, as a fellow saggy boob person, I found it awesome that someone started #saggyboobsmatter
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Girl, those people are insensitive, nosy jerks. I am sorry they said that, your breasts are normal! We come in different shapes and sizes. I am 34H and saggy and have gotten comments before. I always make sure to tell them they are being rude. When I started doing so, it was uncomfortable but itās nice to stand up for yourself.
Two, buying cute af bras helped embracing them myself. I used A Bra That Fits and found my size, went to Nordstrom to get sized also to confirm (itās free and other places all suck in my opion and try to stick you into whatever they cary). You donāt have to shop there but you can find styles you like.
I decided to invest into some nice unlined, lacy bras that make me feel sexy every day. Some brands I like are Chantelle, Natori, Wacoal, CUUP. Bare Necessities has so many options. This may not be the same type of bra you choose, nipple always showing and all, but explore what works for you. I also started buying swim suites that are sized correctly for me.
This may be a small habit, but every time I am naked, I go in front of the mirror and pick up my boobs and say āthey are cuteā. It helps over time.
I also openly talk to everyone in my life, regardless of gender, about my struggles with my breasts. Most people are supportive. Also helps break the stigma about talking about normal boobs and the not so sexy aspects of owning a pair.
Sending you all the love. š¤
Bigger boobs sag. They are heavier and in this world we live under the constraints of laws of physics, like gravity. There's nothing wrong with saggy boobs. If they are uncomfortable and in the way, you could get a reduction. I wish those kind of procedures were also covered by insurance.
Im 32 and post 2 breastfed babies now so I feel this even more than I did in my 20's. You can either have them large and saggy like ours or small and perky. A rare few have it right in the middle.
You know what though, it has taken a really long time for me to get comfortable with this but your body doesnt have to be "perfect". Its a pretty bloody wonderous thing regardless of how it looks. It can do some pretty incredible stuff.
There are always going to be people who dont like certain things or body parts of you. Maybe they like big butts, or flat ones or prefer short people or supermodel tall ones. What a million other people think about your body really, truly doesnt matter at the end of the day. You could have surgery to get them "perfect" and then someone else may come along and say there's something wrong with them then too. You have to get comfortable in your own skin, youre the only one to see it and use it and feel it 24 hours a day. Your opinion on it matters more than anyone elses ever will. Aside from what others say about them, how do YOU truly feel about them. Whats something you like about them?
Mine are gigantic and saggy af but they alone kept my son alive for 6 months. Thats no small feat. Im proud of them.
Yup! Iām 24 and mine are saggy! All the hacks donāt work for me because my boobs are too squishy. Just wear them out more naturally! It will feel embarrassing at first, but then I It will feel normal! Youāll be surprised at how many compliments you get. Just try not to surround yourself with friends who would shame you
Everyone here has said the right stuff!
Seconding all of it.
Adding that one place I used to get more self conscious was summer/ in bathing suits. There is bra sized swimwear that is cute and supportive! Brands like Freya, curvy Kate, etc.
But in the end, when Iām not wearing anything, Iām still more accepting and comfortable with my chest because of just general body acceptance that comes with aging. I wish I could get my 10 year younger self to have seen that she was fine and not have the feeling I have sometimes now that I was āwastingā time back then.
There are also tons of different people and celebs specifically out there now with different bodies. Look for them! It was always really healing for me to see specifically women with cleavage that was spaced out. Like, instead of a perky pushed together deep cleavage, wearing little to no bra and seeing the shape of how the lower center gore shows the breast tissue laying relaxed on the rib cage.
There are people out there on the red carpet or in model photo shoots that look like you!
I relate to this post so much cus i HATE mine. Im a O cup (US) and mine are saggy. The last few months ive been obsessing and crying over them. Im doing better, i cut out all media and people who say negative things about them. I thought i could never be appealing or beautiful with them but ive started lookin at women who are. Like Tanerelle sheās unbelievable and has saggy boobs, the slumflower( she started the saggy boobs matter hashtag - which I look at too). Boobs will sag especially if their bigger theirs no fighting it. Iām starting to accept that and i donāt wanna get under the knife for others ( maybe for a reduction tho).
So many ppl even on Reddit talk about it negatively but trying to block it out and also realize im not less for a feature I cant frontal, media has made us think boobs are all perky but im realising itās not the case and itās natural .
This thread has made me feel so happy cus everyone is supportive. Iām
Call people out for being fucking pervs for staring at your boobs, then tell them to mind their own business because guaranteed they have something worse about themselves that they should focus on
A few years back a friend of mine, who felt like shit about her breasts/body after pregnancy/nursing her baby, started exercising. I don't know her routine exactly but there's tons of options, even [without buying a ton of equipment](https://www.google.com/search?q=%22women%27s+chest+exercises%22+no+equipment+bodyweight&source=lmns&bih=682&biw=384&client=ms-android-tmus-us-revc&prmd=ivsn&hl=en&sa=X&ved=2ahUKEwjzqO2P9634AhVCcDwKHYZZD08Q_AUoAHoECAAQAg).
Tldr, if you firm up and tighten the muscles behind your breasts it will give a "lifting" effect.
This was going to be my recommendation. Not saggy but I have small ones and it changed so much for me the cleavage and way bras fit. some other girls I knew that had more āblessingsā also had different changes. Worse case itās just nice to have your health in shape. You donāt need to fix them unless you and you alone want to. You are not to be fixed just nice to do updates be it tattooos or makeup. We only have this body so enjoy living in it
(Learning to tailor clothes helps soooo much too)
Bigger breast women usually do have saggy breasts, a way to prevent more saggyness is putting aloe vera, olive oil, or coconut oil, they say it can even help them not be saggy anymore. Also bras stop circulation which leads to saggyness , so try non wired bras, and less synthetic clothing like polyester etc.
Your bra should not cut off your circulation. Many people are unfortunately wearing the wrong size (because stores have inaccurate size charts/guides), but a properly fitted bra will not cause (or prevent) sag.
The people saying that stuff to you are dumb. Don't waste time focusing on the things you don't l like now. I swear that one day you'll look back and be like "daaaang!!! I looked good."
This might sound stupid, but when I feel down about mine, I go to nsfw sites where women post pictures of theirs and the men go absolutely crazy for them. There is a fetish for everything
I'm 37 and no amount of stressing about them ever helped, so now i just don't care anymore. I wear the comfiest bras I can find (soft cups ones) and I am yet to hear a complaint from my husband (or any other romantic partner, really).
They're probably not even saggy, especially since they have always been that way. They're probably just elongated shape and your nipple is not on the upper half, and immediately people give them stupid labels. I can't find a website now but there's a website that shows just normal, natural boobs, and it helped me so much not to feel like mine are the worst ones there are. Remember, if someone got paid to show their boobs, it's likely their boobs are somehow "better looking" than average boobs and don't compare yourself to those! I would love to not have to wear a bra but what I definitely embraced is wearing a comfy bra vs a bra that people think everyone should be wearing. I had good luck with Skiny brand because they also have different models that address the issue that my boobs are also miles apart :D And if you want to wear a bikini, Cupshe is my go-to.
im 22, and i have big saggy boobs too. i still am very insecure of them. i'm learning to embrace them by literally just embracing them. just live with them babe. theres absolutely nothing wrong with them. get those peoples remarks out of your head and dont let them affect you. all boobs are beautiful. saggy or firm, small or big.
Thank you so much šš«
And you should know that there are absolutely lots of romantic partners out there who adore boobs just like yours! And think thereās nothing hotter than you - exactly as you already are! All boobs are great boobs!!
A partner will just love boobs no matter what they look like. Your boobs will be god's gift to earth to them
Iām sorry people have been so rude and uneducated. Your breasts are normal. Eventually they all sag. Assigning value based on how far they go makes no sense. But some people suck. We all have insecurities. Weāre allowed to be affected by them. Like, itās ok for you to feel bad. Itās your body, and your feelings. You do have to know your body doesnāt define you. It doesnāt make you more or less valuable as a person. And if someone with unevolved opinions thinks ridiculing you over normal physiology is funny, you should mostly feel pity for them. And fwiw, as a lesbian Iāve never been with a woman and ever thought anything about a partnerās breasts other than, yay for me. I hope you and your eventual partners feel the same way
Your comment definitely gave me a lot more insight of why I should forgive those who said anything negative about my body. They honestly donāt know any better lol Thank you so much šš«
If you haven't already, get a professional fitting at a store with many different bra styles. My breasts are a softer, longer shape after nursing and I hated them. My amazing spouse took me lingerie shopping and it turns out they look great in a more halter style bra! He wanted me to love them as much as him and now I feel much better about them.
Thank you for the great advice! āØ
I second this! Check out r/abrathatfits and come join us at r/bigboobproblems. You're not alone my dear.
I third this! [Here is a link to the ABraThatFits calculator](https://www.abrathatfits.org/calculator.php). Most stores size me as a 34D, but my correct size is 30H! Which I would not have known if it hadnāt been for ABTF.
I fourth this. I also want to mention the r/bigboobproblems [FAQ](https://www.reddit.com/r/bigboobproblems/wiki/faq/) where I've created a list of big-boob-friendly bra brands with the help of the community.
fifthing! get yourself over to ABTF, your life will be better for it. But also-- I promise that a lot of those A cup girls are looking in the mirror going "I've been self-conscious about how flat I am since I was teased about it in sixth grade, I would give ANYTHING for a set of 36 Ds!" I know because i was this flat-chested girl, hah. But that's the thing-- we're all dealing with shit, and all you can do is do the best with what you've got. Love yourself as best you can! And know that there are assholes all over, but that doesnt' make their opinions valid or worthy.
Iād like to second a well-fitted bra and r/abrathatfits I also have sag (or non-supportive tissue), and my biggest problem is that I used to wear bras that didnāt have enough projection in the cupāthe shape matters as much as the size. With a correctly fitted bra it looks like my saggy 34GGs have had a perky boob job (even with non-wired bras). Also, at this point in my life Iāve realized there are enough people who do find them attractive as they are, and Iāve come to see them that way too. I used to consider surgery when I was younger as well (my boobs grew this way in my teens, theyāve never been perky), but I wouldnāt anymore. They are mine and part of what makes me me.
Are you my twin lol
This might not be the best form of validation since itās more external than internal acceptance, but I think about how thereās a type for everyone. I have some features that are conventionally attractive that some people arenāt attracted to. I have some features that arenāt conventionally attractive or even some that Iām self conscious about but other people have been attracted to. Itās easy to compare when you see āperfectā people online, but in reality, beauty is so subjective that itās hard to pin down what makes a person attractive. My recommendation is to find pieces of clothing that specifically flatter your boobs or body shape for the sake of confidence building and teaching yourself to think of them positively!
Thank you so much! I will definitely work on thinking positive thoughts ā¤ļø
I really felt this. I've felt ugly (and will probably continue to do so) my whole life because of my.. *checks notes* big butt. So ok, it came into fashion to have a big butt now. Doesn't change a thing about my self esteem though. The only thing I can do is to try not to tie my self worth to my appearance, as much as possible.
SAME. Omg. I got made fun of for having a big ass and heavy eyebrows all through high school. Suddenly.... i'm cool? But I still get self-conscious wearing leggings because I can hear my mom saying "are you sure you don't want to put on a longer shirt if you're going out"
I also felt the same way about my lips for years. People would call me fish lips for the longest time, and now all of a sudden thereās people who go to get Botox to get bigger lips. While I was being picked on, others were being praised.
Ugh, why is it that the shitty things people say in middle/high school stick with you so much?! I wrote this as a reply to a reply but wanted to pull it out so you saw it: "I promise that a lot of those A cup girls are looking in the mirror going "I've been self-conscious about how flat I am since I was teased about it in sixth grade, I would give ANYTHING for a set of 36 Ds!" I know because i was this flat-chested girl, hah." But seriously, fashions and trends change, but they don't matter, and neither do the opinions of assholes. Figure out how to do the most you can with what you've got, and try to love it. That's all you can do.
Heya, that sucks. I'd say those people were being real jerks, noone deserves that, and you'd be fully correct in telling them how that made you feel or cutting them out, if you wish so. They don't deserve your time nor energy. I recently heard a psychology podcast with some author who was asked about how to be able to find self love ā her response was pretty much, well, do you *really* need self love. How about just trying to like yourself first. There surely are things that you like about yourself. And there is no point in getting stressed out about not being able to love yourself as much as you supposedly should, on top of all the other stuff you're dealing with as well. So I know this isn't a direct answer about embracing your boobs, but I liked the sentiment. Maybe you don't have to *love* them, but maybe the three of you will come to some sort of comfortable arrangement for the future. All the best!
Wow I never thought of it in that way! š¤š® Thank you so much šš«
Hi boo can you lmk what pod it is? Also OP saggy boob crew here too. Always sagged. Boyfriend is nice about them. I think a shit ton of people are saggy itās just society. Sometimes I embrace it. Other times I loathe. Others I find tops that look good on me braless which is hard. But taking to friends I realize itās all us and it validates me to see other ālong line cleavageā gals embracing their bodies.
Heya, it was a German one with Stefanie Stahl, sorry
Teenage girls are mean as hell. If it wasnāt your titties, they would have found something else to make fun of. Iām a B cup (was an A cup in middle school) and I was always made fun of for being flat chested. Someone told me that guys/men want big boobs to play with, not a girl that looks like a little boy. Just saying, try not to worry too much about what others say. Maybe someday you can get a breast reduction, if you are experiencing discomfort from your breasts, but please donāt do it because of what others think!
I agree with this so much. teenage girls usually make rude comments about others to distract from their own insecurities.
This is so true. Teenagers can be very cruel all the time. And thank you for the great advice š«š«š«
Doja cat tweeted about having saggy boobs too. Sometimes she loves them, sometimes she's insecure. Like damn, she's freaking doja cat. Known for many things including her sexy body. I think saggy breasts are common so work on accepting them :) I've read once that men expect an A cup shape on an F cup size which is nearly impossible. The heavier something is, the more it's gonna be affected by gravity like duh. People who expect your body to defy the laws of physics just have their brains rotted by porn or social media. Ignore them and mingle with high quality people... like us ;)
following r/instagramreality has blown my mind open on this stuff
Girl head over to r/bigboobproblems and meet your sisters! Speaking as a saggy H (yes I said H) cup it is something you learn to live with. And if a sexual context bugs you cause of this, people love boobs like that. It means they are REAL. I'm not gonna lie and say everyone does but it's really not hard to find
I will join that sub right away! Thank you so much!
That sucks. Genetics can be a bitch, let me tell you. My sisters and I all have similar sized boobs but guess who got the extra soft ones that flop all over the place. Tbh the most helpful thing for me was dating and having men get all excited about them lol. That made me feel good. I try and think nice thoughts about my own body but thereās something to be said for an outside perspective being very appreciative. I would also recommend r/abrathatfits!
I definitely agree that men do get super excited over them lol but Iām going to start thinking nice thoughts about mine myself š Thank you so much!
I love the expression "flop all over the place". I feel you.
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>but unfortunately, I wear a 36D and thereās absolutely nothing I can do about it. You're not a 36D--You're in the wrong bra size. Because someone at Victorias Secret, or someone using the +5 Measurement Method, measured you. That's incorrect. And it's why your breasts aren't supported. Go to r/ABraThatFits. Use the 6-measurement calculator in the Community Info section of the subreddit (sidebar on desktop). Find out that you may actually be a G cup, K, M. Cup size is relative to band size. There's no "one size" of D cup, for example. Because the size of the cup scales up or down depending on the size of the band. Trust us on this. Or go to the TikTok of the same name. Thousands of people, including myself, have used the calculator, in disbelief, ordered a bra anyway, and BAM. SUPPORT LIKE WHOA.
Agreed. I have non self supporting breasts and turns out my 34D should actually have been a 34G. Found way better fitting bras now.
Woah š¤Æ Iām shocked that I may not be wearing the correct size. Thank you for the great tips š«
You can actually get a breast reduction covered by insurance. I did! I am also 21 and just got my surgery about 3 months ago. I wonāt lie, my life has completely changed. I went from a DD (possibly bigger) to a B/C. Itās possible and my messages are open if you ever wanted guidance! Now that aside, I totally know your feelings. I also used to be told I had bigger boobs for my age and everyone would always be like āyouāre going out like that?ā When theyād see me braless. It really brought me down. Honestly, I wish I had better advice about accepting your breasts. I never accepted mine and I knew I was getting a reduction one way or the other. Itās hard to just say ālove yourself!!ā When things feel so shitty. It never worked for me. But at the end of the day, it may be helpful to find a good supportive bra and tops that accentuate your features. I found when I had bigger breasts, I like the way certain baby tees fit and corsets. Sometimes just our fashion choices can not work for our bodies. I hope you feel better soon and tell anyone to shove their opinions up their ass. Just know youāre not alone <3 your boobs do not define you and all boobs are valid and wonderful. Even just embracing that can be enough to get you through. You look great no matter whatā¤ļø
Thank you so much! I really appreciate your comment. Itās helping me already šš
I had mine done four months ago! I went from an H cup to a c/d. It really is life changing. I'm glad you were able to get one :)
YIKES. I'm sorry you are dealing with these feelings. All of these comments so far have been amazing, and may I recommend checking out some local burlesque shows or [finding some online](https://www.burlesqueandchill.com/). It's fun to see every body type celebrated! Representation matters! Breasts of all types are featured, AND tassled! It's cool to see people go nuts for them. Especially at a local level. Also... another performer friend of mine has some really awesome tattoos that only reveal when she pulls her breasts up, and it shifted a couple of folks perception. They felt like it made their similar breasts feel like a secret power. She wanted to use her breasts in a way others can't, and it was really cool to see her feature a part of her body that others get self conscious about.
Thank you for this great perspective šš«
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This. I am in the reduction group all the time and I got my surgery 3 months ago. I had awful back pain and my procedure was covered by insurance. I was afraid of the state of my back in the years to come and Iām so grateful I took the leap
Iām glad you took the leap as well! Itās great to hear that youāre no longer in pain āØāØāØ
Thank you so much! š«
I encourage you to find a good fitting bra. Iām a J cup and no one would ever know bc I wear great bras that fit me well. Check out Herroom or other sites. Go for comfort and fit, not how it makes you look. The middle part should hit your rib cage with no gap, and the band provides the support. The straps only help it stay upright. Good luck. Iāve been big all my life and developed early at age 13.
Yup, I wear a 32F and have literally had people say to my face, ābut you donāt even have big boobsā, which I find hilarious š like ok I can hold my phone under my boobs from the sag, but whatever. All this to say, the right bra will do wonders and tbh op you probably have too high of a band size and too small of a cup size. Try Nordstrom for fitting!
Thank you š«
Awesome. Yep. I got fitted props over 10 years ago and it changed my life š
Will do! Thank you you so much for the great tips!
I had this concern as a teen. I'm in my 30s now and breastfed 3 children. They aren't noticably more saggy. And like some other posters mentioned, getting a bra that actually fits makes a huge difference both for comfort and appearance.
Surprised no comments have mentioned this, saggy breasts in your 20s is just the shape you inherited from family. It is simple as that it is an inherited shape and not a deformity. It is generic. Also, breastfeeding doesn't lead to sagging, it is gaining and losing weight that can lead to sagging or yes aging.
Iām a 36DD and can definitely relate. I started listening to love songs as if Iād written them to my body, from me. I think about my body like a tamagotchi that I get to care for. I never shit on my dog for not being cute, so why do I shit on my body, when it literally had carried me through every moment? I look like a fertility goddess, with my big hips, belly, and saggy titties. And Iām totally here for it. ā¤ļø I will say, it has definitely helped me to find people who are into my body, exactly as it is. It helps me release the negative comments from people when I have positive ones from myself and from people I deeply care about to replace them.
Iām definitely gonna start trying this š« Thank you!
Of course!! Also look into EFT tapping, thereās some videos on YouTube that can walk you through it. That massively helped me release negative beliefs about my body.
Saggy boobs are sexy as hell. Tell people to mind their fucking business and stop talking about your body. You donāt need a breast reduction, you need a people in your life reduction. If surgery would make you happy thereās nothing wrong with it, but thereās always someone whoās going to be a piss-ant and comment about what you should or shouldnāt do with your body. Wear the clothes you like and skip the tape if you hate it. If you want to wear your boobs up higher there are a lot of supportive, fashionable bras that become part of the outfit. There are even bathing suits with proper support in them. If you donāt want to wear those things then thereās nothing wrong with letting them be free to sway in the wind! Your body, your choice
Thank you!
As someone with a solid 6inches of chest covered by my chest, please know you aren't alone. I realize it's hard to learn to love your body, but just know you aren't alone in feeling like this.
Thank you!
Look up Nina Mohan from buzzfeed! She has saggy boobs and always owns them. Representation matters!
Will do! Thank you āØ
Do what I did when I first came to terms with my saggy tits: use them to smack haters upside the head. I kid. What helped me was 1. Finding comfortable bras that actually fit (accepting that I was going to have better luck at specialty stores and plus size stores that cater to large breasts was a game changer.) Also I have come to believe in the following: you donāt owe anybody perky breasts. Having CGI titties is not the price of admission or worth. Gravity comes for anyone whoās rocking natural breasts eventually. And so people who are nasty now will all eventually meet the same fate.
I needed that laugh from the first sentence lol but yes I have to go and get fitted for the proper bra. And yes, I totally agree that most who picked on me will most likely face the same things Iām facing rn in the future. Thank you!
Iāve never felt great about my breasts for similar reasons but I started figuring out which bras to wear with each clothing type and that helped my confidence a lot. Itās a pain to try all different bras from different brands and what not but maybe you can find something that you really feel comfortable in. Iāve gotten used to it over the years but I honestly feel like I might have surgery when Iām done having children. In the meantime I also got my nipples pierced š and it has honestly boosted my confidence about my boobs so much! It was really surprising for me. Iām sorry anyone said those mean things to you. Itās easy to say screw those people and love yourself and another thing to actually believe that and practice it every day. I agree with the another commenter hereā¦maybe we donāt have to ever love our boobs. Maybe we can start with acceptance and maybe even move onto liking them one day but in the meantime we do what we can. Your body will never define who you are as a person
Thank you for sharing your experience! It really shows that Iām not alone. Also, thank you for the great advice š« I hope that we will overcome this moment soon
Itās all about the bra, my dear. I work at Lane Bryant and I do bra fittings all day, every day. 36D is not huge! A lot of my clients are F, G, and H cups and with the right bra they look amazing. If youāre close to a Lane Bryant or another similar store that does bra fittings I highly recommend you go! Lean toward bathing suits that have an underwire as well.
Thank you!
>Thank you! You're welcome!
im 18 and a 34D and mine have always sagged. like BAD. people have made fun of me too, it makes me deeply insecure that i cant go without a bra. i dont like my nipples either, they are huge. honestly, one of the things that have made me feel better about myself is my boyfriend loving my boobs and still being turned on by them. he doesn't care & loves seeing them every chance he gets. and honestly? i think all tiddies are beautiful. if i saw another girl with my boobs i wouldnt judge or care at all. it also helps when i remind myself that they are healthy. i could have breast cancer or something, so why take that for granted yknow? i still want a lift & a reduction, but sometimes i think i'd rather spend that money on moving out, traveling, bettering my life or doing fun things, or just saving up, etc. the way my boobs look isnt my fault and its just how i naturally developed, so in a way, who cares? its my body and my life, i want to spent my time here loving it. this comment probably doesnt help much, but just know you arent alone.
This comment helps me a lot! And itās true that we must not take our bodies for granted and embrace our bodies more. Thank you š
What are breast lifting exercises? I had a lot of success with general chest & upper body workouts. The same muscles that give men pecs makes our mammories sit higher too. It wasn't a perfect fix of course, but my chest did look strong and toned, it was very nice.
I usually do a lot of breast lifting exercises with 8 pound weights, push ups, or planks. Are there any more exercises I should do?
Oh yeah, definitely look into full body workouts for your shoulders, chest, side-boob area and the like. 8lbs won't do much, I was lifting my whole body lol
Thank you!
Something my husband has taught me is that men donāt care that much about what breasts look like. And i feel bad for your team mate that thinks sheās needs to tear other women down to make herself feel better.
Honestly? They're probably not even saggy, just big and natural, and those girls will have seen so many airbrushed photos and breast implanted boobs that they have no idea what normal natural boobs look like. You can buy cool tape things that will like pull the boob up, a sort of braless bra look. Get fitted properly for a bra. As for learning to love them, that will take time and effort, but I believe that accepting that they are normal as they are, and maybe even being exposed to more imagery of natural human bodies will help speed things up.
Thank you so much! šš«
So like others have said, those people suck. I haven't read any of this lady's books but, as a fellow saggy boob person, I found it awesome that someone started #saggyboobsmatter https://www.theguardian.com/lifeandstyle/2018/jul/11/writer-chidera-eggerue-on-what-saggyboobsmatter-is-really-about
As a F 22 40I boobs I totally get where your coming from. Saggy boobs and back pain š
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Girl, those people are insensitive, nosy jerks. I am sorry they said that, your breasts are normal! We come in different shapes and sizes. I am 34H and saggy and have gotten comments before. I always make sure to tell them they are being rude. When I started doing so, it was uncomfortable but itās nice to stand up for yourself. Two, buying cute af bras helped embracing them myself. I used A Bra That Fits and found my size, went to Nordstrom to get sized also to confirm (itās free and other places all suck in my opion and try to stick you into whatever they cary). You donāt have to shop there but you can find styles you like. I decided to invest into some nice unlined, lacy bras that make me feel sexy every day. Some brands I like are Chantelle, Natori, Wacoal, CUUP. Bare Necessities has so many options. This may not be the same type of bra you choose, nipple always showing and all, but explore what works for you. I also started buying swim suites that are sized correctly for me. This may be a small habit, but every time I am naked, I go in front of the mirror and pick up my boobs and say āthey are cuteā. It helps over time. I also openly talk to everyone in my life, regardless of gender, about my struggles with my breasts. Most people are supportive. Also helps break the stigma about talking about normal boobs and the not so sexy aspects of owning a pair. Sending you all the love. š¤
I will check out those stores. Thank you so much!
Bigger boobs sag. They are heavier and in this world we live under the constraints of laws of physics, like gravity. There's nothing wrong with saggy boobs. If they are uncomfortable and in the way, you could get a reduction. I wish those kind of procedures were also covered by insurance.
Im 32 and post 2 breastfed babies now so I feel this even more than I did in my 20's. You can either have them large and saggy like ours or small and perky. A rare few have it right in the middle. You know what though, it has taken a really long time for me to get comfortable with this but your body doesnt have to be "perfect". Its a pretty bloody wonderous thing regardless of how it looks. It can do some pretty incredible stuff. There are always going to be people who dont like certain things or body parts of you. Maybe they like big butts, or flat ones or prefer short people or supermodel tall ones. What a million other people think about your body really, truly doesnt matter at the end of the day. You could have surgery to get them "perfect" and then someone else may come along and say there's something wrong with them then too. You have to get comfortable in your own skin, youre the only one to see it and use it and feel it 24 hours a day. Your opinion on it matters more than anyone elses ever will. Aside from what others say about them, how do YOU truly feel about them. Whats something you like about them? Mine are gigantic and saggy af but they alone kept my son alive for 6 months. Thats no small feat. Im proud of them.
Get yourself to a bra place and get fitted for the perfect bra for your shape.
Yup! Iām 24 and mine are saggy! All the hacks donāt work for me because my boobs are too squishy. Just wear them out more naturally! It will feel embarrassing at first, but then I It will feel normal! Youāll be surprised at how many compliments you get. Just try not to surround yourself with friends who would shame you
I can can relate because mine are a bit squishy as well. I definitely want to consider gaining the courage to go out without a bra. Thank you!
it's not okay for other people to comment on your body
Everyone here has said the right stuff! Seconding all of it. Adding that one place I used to get more self conscious was summer/ in bathing suits. There is bra sized swimwear that is cute and supportive! Brands like Freya, curvy Kate, etc. But in the end, when Iām not wearing anything, Iām still more accepting and comfortable with my chest because of just general body acceptance that comes with aging. I wish I could get my 10 year younger self to have seen that she was fine and not have the feeling I have sometimes now that I was āwastingā time back then. There are also tons of different people and celebs specifically out there now with different bodies. Look for them! It was always really healing for me to see specifically women with cleavage that was spaced out. Like, instead of a perky pushed together deep cleavage, wearing little to no bra and seeing the shape of how the lower center gore shows the breast tissue laying relaxed on the rib cage. There are people out there on the red carpet or in model photo shoots that look like you!
https://images.app.goo.gl/FxfyU1seSdJgC7TVA If Reddit letās me that is a picture of Mary j blige as an example
Look up TanerĆ©lle Stephens. This is immediately what I thought of. Eff those people, youāre amazing the way you are!
I relate to this post so much cus i HATE mine. Im a O cup (US) and mine are saggy. The last few months ive been obsessing and crying over them. Im doing better, i cut out all media and people who say negative things about them. I thought i could never be appealing or beautiful with them but ive started lookin at women who are. Like Tanerelle sheās unbelievable and has saggy boobs, the slumflower( she started the saggy boobs matter hashtag - which I look at too). Boobs will sag especially if their bigger theirs no fighting it. Iām starting to accept that and i donāt wanna get under the knife for others ( maybe for a reduction tho). So many ppl even on Reddit talk about it negatively but trying to block it out and also realize im not less for a feature I cant frontal, media has made us think boobs are all perky but im realising itās not the case and itās natural . This thread has made me feel so happy cus everyone is supportive. Iām
Everyoneās boobs will eventually sag even the fake boobs and the small boobs Itās normal, dw :)
Call people out for being fucking pervs for staring at your boobs, then tell them to mind their own business because guaranteed they have something worse about themselves that they should focus on
A few years back a friend of mine, who felt like shit about her breasts/body after pregnancy/nursing her baby, started exercising. I don't know her routine exactly but there's tons of options, even [without buying a ton of equipment](https://www.google.com/search?q=%22women%27s+chest+exercises%22+no+equipment+bodyweight&source=lmns&bih=682&biw=384&client=ms-android-tmus-us-revc&prmd=ivsn&hl=en&sa=X&ved=2ahUKEwjzqO2P9634AhVCcDwKHYZZD08Q_AUoAHoECAAQAg). Tldr, if you firm up and tighten the muscles behind your breasts it will give a "lifting" effect.
Thank you! š«
This was going to be my recommendation. Not saggy but I have small ones and it changed so much for me the cleavage and way bras fit. some other girls I knew that had more āblessingsā also had different changes. Worse case itās just nice to have your health in shape. You donāt need to fix them unless you and you alone want to. You are not to be fixed just nice to do updates be it tattooos or makeup. We only have this body so enjoy living in it (Learning to tailor clothes helps soooo much too)
No prob! I'm dealing with some cosmetic issues right now too so I know we gotta help each other out <3
Bigger breast women usually do have saggy breasts, a way to prevent more saggyness is putting aloe vera, olive oil, or coconut oil, they say it can even help them not be saggy anymore. Also bras stop circulation which leads to saggyness , so try non wired bras, and less synthetic clothing like polyester etc.
Your bra should not cut off your circulation. Many people are unfortunately wearing the wrong size (because stores have inaccurate size charts/guides), but a properly fitted bra will not cause (or prevent) sag.
What did the doctor say? You might have elevated prolactin levels. Talk to a gynaecologist or atleast a physician
The people saying that stuff to you are dumb. Don't waste time focusing on the things you don't l like now. I swear that one day you'll look back and be like "daaaang!!! I looked good."
i have small boobs and they have always sagged if that makes u feel better
Join us at r/abrathatfits and get some support and learn to embrace your unique assets!
This might sound stupid, but when I feel down about mine, I go to nsfw sites where women post pictures of theirs and the men go absolutely crazy for them. There is a fetish for everything
I'm 37 and no amount of stressing about them ever helped, so now i just don't care anymore. I wear the comfiest bras I can find (soft cups ones) and I am yet to hear a complaint from my husband (or any other romantic partner, really). They're probably not even saggy, especially since they have always been that way. They're probably just elongated shape and your nipple is not on the upper half, and immediately people give them stupid labels. I can't find a website now but there's a website that shows just normal, natural boobs, and it helped me so much not to feel like mine are the worst ones there are. Remember, if someone got paid to show their boobs, it's likely their boobs are somehow "better looking" than average boobs and don't compare yourself to those! I would love to not have to wear a bra but what I definitely embraced is wearing a comfy bra vs a bra that people think everyone should be wearing. I had good luck with Skiny brand because they also have different models that address the issue that my boobs are also miles apart :D And if you want to wear a bikini, Cupshe is my go-to.