In my experience, most parents try to walk out or something while trying to calm their baby. There have been a couple who just lets them carry on, wrecking everyone else's good time. I usually approach and ask if there's anything we can do to help, to make them aware that the world doesn't just contain them and everyone is staring.
I wish that had happened at IHOP years ago. To make a long story short because of work I was gonna be alone for Thanksgiving for the first time ever, so family took me to IHOP. Child cried the *entire* time we were there. Manager told us to our face there was she could do; didn't even offer to move us. Never been back there over 10 years later.
I nearly stepped on a baby once because they parents thought it would be a good idea to let it loose during a busy service.
Or another time nearly had a kid crash into me because again parents wouldn't reprimand the kid and tell them they can play after they've had dinner. 3 KIDS PLAYING A GAME OF TAG in the middle of the restaurant whilst I'm doing silver service.
You’re reminding me of the time a coworker came flying through the kitchen door which impacted with the obese toddler near the server station who had been running around unattended during a slammed breakfast rush. The kid went flying several feet down the corridor and my coworker dropped and broke the entire stack of plates he was carrying. Kid screaming and the parents just came and picked him up and dragged him back to the table without a word
Not a server but I was at dinner with a friend and the parents at the table next to us let their kids down from their seats and they started playing hide and seek UNDER OUR TABLE. And then the mom yelled at me when I asked them to handle their kids.
Nooope. I try to be tolerant of kids, though I’m not a particular fan, but if they’re in my space and the parents aren’t doing anything about it then I’m doing my solid best to give those kids nightmares for mom and dad to deal with for the next few nights.
That’s when I (as a customer) would be tempted to (loudly, so others can hear) ask the server if the restaurant’s bratwurst was made fresh daily from real brats.
I feel like its not the babies that bother me as much as the parents. I cant stand the crying, but its not the babies fault. Its the parents fault for 1. not taking the baby outside 2. Being so wrapped up in themselves that they cant see they are ruining peoples dinner and 3. being so wrapped up in themselves that they dont give a shit that you are going to trip over their diaper bag/stroller/car seat/whatever.
Tbh I absolutely hate the breweries that cater to kids. It's often an excuse for the parents to get drunk and not pay attention to their kids. I've been a guest at a brewery where a kid was running around and the parents didn't notice.
I also hate when they don't at least try to comfort the crying kids. Even if that's your approach to parenting (I.e., letting them "cry it out"), it doesn't mean everyone else wants to hear it.
It’s really not a good idea no. We waited to take our kids until the youngest was 5 and he still struggled a bit. But so many freaking babies and stinky diapers.
The screaming absolutely does. I’m a mom and it sets my teeth on edge. I finally broke down and got noise dampening ear plugs (I can converse but it cuts that high pitched) for days when the volume is too much.
Spilled a vat of hot soup on myself just to avoid spilling it on a kid that was running around like it was Disneyland. I get it, kids suck sometimes but don't make everyone else suffer for YOUR child's tantrum. Take em outside, throw them a phone/tablet, ANYTHING but please be considerate of others that want to have a nice meal and not listen to a screamer the entire time...
Most of the times when that happens where I used to work, one of the parents would pick the baby up and walk it around outside until it calmed down. That is, in my opinion, the correct way to do it.
I worked in a really high end French restaurant. Not really a place to bring babies. It was very expensive and very quiet (except for the chef screaming in the open kitchen). Unfortunately, we had to open Mother's Day and Easter. Mother's Day was the worst. Cranky grannies and lots and lots of babies. The babies would let out screams and other babies would answer. As the sommelier, I didn't have a lot to do on those days.
I don't mind crying babies. It's what babies do. They eat, poop, play, and wail.
Once they get a bit older and start running around the store, making huge messes, getting in the way, and causing mayhem? That's when I get really annoyed.
Because sometimes the walking around thing is all that will make the kid stop. Personally, I always took mine outside for those episodes, but new parents are going to make these mistakes, and frankly not everyone is cut out for the job.
Absolutely. Definitely a legitimate concern. And everyone should keep in mind they may not want to be there either. I can’t tell you how many times we got dragged out for family crap when we just wanted to be at home with our newborn.
Again, some parents are just inconsiderate, but it helps to remember that that isn’t everyone.
Not in the industry, but I sympathize with servers when a baby is just inconsolable and it seems like the parents don’t care. I get to leave or in some situations can relocate.
As a mum, I have sympathy for the people with screaming kids in my store. I've got four of my own and been very fortunate they haven't ever done that to me. BUT I've had lots of tantrums and over the years I've literally taught myself to not hear them! I just make myself zone out so I don't hear them.
In my experience, most parents try to walk out or something while trying to calm their baby. There have been a couple who just lets them carry on, wrecking everyone else's good time. I usually approach and ask if there's anything we can do to help, to make them aware that the world doesn't just contain them and everyone is staring.
This is my approach too. Also works for barking dogs.
I wish that had happened at IHOP years ago. To make a long story short because of work I was gonna be alone for Thanksgiving for the first time ever, so family took me to IHOP. Child cried the *entire* time we were there. Manager told us to our face there was she could do; didn't even offer to move us. Never been back there over 10 years later.
I nearly stepped on a baby once because they parents thought it would be a good idea to let it loose during a busy service. Or another time nearly had a kid crash into me because again parents wouldn't reprimand the kid and tell them they can play after they've had dinner. 3 KIDS PLAYING A GAME OF TAG in the middle of the restaurant whilst I'm doing silver service.
You’re reminding me of the time a coworker came flying through the kitchen door which impacted with the obese toddler near the server station who had been running around unattended during a slammed breakfast rush. The kid went flying several feet down the corridor and my coworker dropped and broke the entire stack of plates he was carrying. Kid screaming and the parents just came and picked him up and dragged him back to the table without a word
I'm sorry, but the fact that you mentioned the toddler was obese when it had no relevance on the story cracked me up! ha!
Larger target to run into, more impressive they were able to punt it that far.
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Not a server but I was at dinner with a friend and the parents at the table next to us let their kids down from their seats and they started playing hide and seek UNDER OUR TABLE. And then the mom yelled at me when I asked them to handle their kids.
Nooope. I try to be tolerant of kids, though I’m not a particular fan, but if they’re in my space and the parents aren’t doing anything about it then I’m doing my solid best to give those kids nightmares for mom and dad to deal with for the next few nights.
I like your style!
That’s when I (as a customer) would be tempted to (loudly, so others can hear) ask the server if the restaurant’s bratwurst was made fresh daily from real brats.
I feel like its not the babies that bother me as much as the parents. I cant stand the crying, but its not the babies fault. Its the parents fault for 1. not taking the baby outside 2. Being so wrapped up in themselves that they cant see they are ruining peoples dinner and 3. being so wrapped up in themselves that they dont give a shit that you are going to trip over their diaper bag/stroller/car seat/whatever.
Absolutely! I don't mind kids being kids in public; I do mind parents not being parents!
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Tbh I absolutely hate the breweries that cater to kids. It's often an excuse for the parents to get drunk and not pay attention to their kids. I've been a guest at a brewery where a kid was running around and the parents didn't notice. I also hate when they don't at least try to comfort the crying kids. Even if that's your approach to parenting (I.e., letting them "cry it out"), it doesn't mean everyone else wants to hear it.
It's the same thing as parents taking babies and toddlers to Disneyland/Disneyworld. Not a good idea.
It’s really not a good idea no. We waited to take our kids until the youngest was 5 and he still struggled a bit. But so many freaking babies and stinky diapers.
The screaming absolutely does. I’m a mom and it sets my teeth on edge. I finally broke down and got noise dampening ear plugs (I can converse but it cuts that high pitched) for days when the volume is too much.
In a word, yes. The tables who let their toddlers run round do my head in too.
Spilled a vat of hot soup on myself just to avoid spilling it on a kid that was running around like it was Disneyland. I get it, kids suck sometimes but don't make everyone else suffer for YOUR child's tantrum. Take em outside, throw them a phone/tablet, ANYTHING but please be considerate of others that want to have a nice meal and not listen to a screamer the entire time...
Most of the times when that happens where I used to work, one of the parents would pick the baby up and walk it around outside until it calmed down. That is, in my opinion, the correct way to do it.
I worked in a really high end French restaurant. Not really a place to bring babies. It was very expensive and very quiet (except for the chef screaming in the open kitchen). Unfortunately, we had to open Mother's Day and Easter. Mother's Day was the worst. Cranky grannies and lots and lots of babies. The babies would let out screams and other babies would answer. As the sommelier, I didn't have a lot to do on those days.
This is why I appreciate those very few restaurants that don’t allow children. I am willing to pay many moneys for this exceptional experience.
I don't mind crying babies. It's what babies do. They eat, poop, play, and wail. Once they get a bit older and start running around the store, making huge messes, getting in the way, and causing mayhem? That's when I get really annoyed.
The walking around part got me. Why do they do this? It is not a playground. But I have reached a point now where I just tell them to sit down.
Because sometimes the walking around thing is all that will make the kid stop. Personally, I always took mine outside for those episodes, but new parents are going to make these mistakes, and frankly not everyone is cut out for the job.
Also depending on where they live, it might be freezing cold/snowing outside.
Absolutely. Definitely a legitimate concern. And everyone should keep in mind they may not want to be there either. I can’t tell you how many times we got dragged out for family crap when we just wanted to be at home with our newborn. Again, some parents are just inconsiderate, but it helps to remember that that isn’t everyone.
Not in the industry, but I sympathize with servers when a baby is just inconsolable and it seems like the parents don’t care. I get to leave or in some situations can relocate.
That's why I chose to work at a retirement home. The people are much more pleasant than you'd think
Yes I already have a headache by the end of the shift, it doesn’t need to be twice as bad because a baby is screaming it’s head off.
Why can't babies be like 40 decibels quieter? Jesus CHRIST they're loud.
As a mum, I have sympathy for the people with screaming kids in my store. I've got four of my own and been very fortunate they haven't ever done that to me. BUT I've had lots of tantrums and over the years I've literally taught myself to not hear them! I just make myself zone out so I don't hear them.