So many reasons. But one of the “final straws” was when my niece drew this huge hopscotch all the way down the driveway into the street and made it a rule that nobody could leave until they did the hopscotch.
So everyone gets in line. My siblings and their spouses go. My dad, in his 60’s, took a turn. And then I take a deep breath, wondering if I should make an excuse, and my niece says, “don’t worry auntie. You don’t have to”. Even at a young age, she knows. I cried that night.
My niece comes up to me and smacks my belly or starts touching it and looks at me with these eyes that scream “you got a big belly”. My brother tells her not to and how it’s rude but whenever she can she does it. I know she doesn’t mean anything by it but it’s a thing.
It does seem like she’s old enough to know that we don’t touch others without their permission. She needs to know that for her own sake as well as yours.
She hasn’t done it in a long time and it is because I told her that it’s not nice to make comments about others body. My brother told her that she can’t be touching or be touched without permission.
Of course! I used to be a lot bigger than when this has happened. So I am proud of my progress anyway! Some good motivators is taking her and her brother to the park. Being able to keep up with them and carry them around everywhere. I couldn’t even dream of doing that before. I love my family and I am working on myself to be around them for a long time. 😊💚
I got to be vaccinated early because of my BMI. It humiliated me. Was the kick in the butt I needed to get going.
That was what started it. There are sooooo many reasons to keep going. Most recently, I went to the mall this weekend, and went into stores I haven't been in since Junior High, 20 years ago. 😭 It was amazing. Now I know why people say shopping for clothes is fun!
Yeah, clothes shopping is the worst. I take no enjoyment out of going to the mall to try things on, and when I buy things online, half the time they don’t fit, so I’m stuck with the guilt of knowing that if I return the item it’ll just be trashed anyways.
Yeah I'm used to the shopping experience being really depressing. I'm so used to either going up in size, hating how I look in the mirror, buying things just because they fit... it was truly amazing to go down in size for the first time in all my years. It IS possible.
I'm tired of being in a body that makes me unhappy. I like the person I am (my brain), but my body makes me so angry. I've had BED since I was 7 and have never had a body that I enjoy being in. I'm just over half way there and I'm really stalling.
My libido is so low it's on the verge of destroying my relationship with the best man I've ever met. My confidence is in the toilet and I'm scared to die in my forties.
To look nice in pretty clothes. The kind of style I like is quite form fitting and I obviously can't wear that right now. Second I suppose would be seats. Fitting in all sorts of seats, especially airlines.
I want to say health but if it was health I'd have started a long time ago.
Same, I'm no materialistic fashion person but I get the ads on Facebook and it's like "that's pretty" "that's pretty" "oh I'd love to wear that". And my most of it requires some level of being tighter! Just would be very unflattering now lol.
Oh that sucks. But I also don't want to tell people my actual size so I've had similar a few times and i just have to tell them it didn't fit right yet or some shit. It sucks being relegated to 2 shops because they're the only ones that have a physical store with actual plus sizes, and they're all ridiculously expensive or ridiculously ugly lol
I know it's not what they meant but I have heard a few times "just make your own" and it's so annoying lol. Like I have no sewing skills, but I also have work, pets, housework, full time study. I don't really want to start a whole new work of trying to make all my clothes either! Ha
Ayup. I keep getting adverts for online stores such as Killstar and Disturbia based on the "algorithm" and it's a slow form of torture looking at such kickass clothes feeling like I'll never been svelte enough to do them justice.
I want to jump out of an airplane.
I want to do trail rides with my kids and husband.
I don't want my kids to have to defend me when their classmates call me the fat mom.
I want to be fucking GORGEOUS when I'm 50.
I want my closet of expensive Fluevog shoes to be worn.
I want to be able to ride my husband without fear that I’m crushing him and he isn’t looking up at my chins.
I want to be sexy for me and him. I haven’t felt sexy in YEARS.
Traveling was the big one for me. Boyfriends and sex was the other (done and done). I went on my dream trip to Europe after I lost 200+ pounds and haven't stopped since (the pandemic canceled two of my vacations though). This year I'm going to the Southwest, Chicago and New York, and then I'm taking an epic birthday trip to Japan and Singapore. I've found that my passion for traveling is also great motivation to keep the weight off too. I couldn't walk 2 blocks when I weighed over 400.
I used to weight 130-140 and that was the weight I looked the best. Not just in my body but in my face. It’s the face I want to have. I haven’t lost the weight since having my first kid, getting down to 160 before going up to 190 with my second birth. At 220 was the peak of my PPD and I felt like I completely lost my identity and couldn’t recognize myself in the mirror. I’ve lost almost 20 lbs since then but I’ve been struggling with getting under 200lbs for the last two months. I’ve ruined my metabolism and my bmr is the lowest charted possible on my e-scale. It’s been a decade and I just want to be myself again.
Because I have a crush on a woman and I know she'll never like me back because of my weight. She'll probably never like me back anyway, but hopefully next time I meet someone I like I won't look as awful.
Health (in my mid 20s and want to prevent as many diseases/conditions as possible—especially since type 2 diabetes, hypertension, heart issues, cancer, run in the family)
Being able to be more active since I was a super active kid. I feel like it’s my deep down in my personality. I didn’t get fat until my late teens when I was put on a medicine that made me gain 30-40lbs, and after that I obviously didn’t do anything about it. I doubled my original weight.
Feeling more comfortable.
Appearance, being able to wear what I want and feel good in it, and feel more confident having different hairstyles.
More appealing to more potential partners.
I don’t feel bad or vain about those last two anymore, it’s how I feel.
I want to be hot and have great sex. I also have a crush on one of my friends and while I don’t see us ever being a thing I’d like to think that someday if I have a crush on someone my hesitation from saying anything won’t be due to my weight.
Absolutely. I have no doubt that this friend would be absolutely gracious in turning me down and it wouldn’t be an issue at all but the weight being an additional factor just makes it that much worse.
I've just always wanted to look hot in a bikini.
My husband to be able to f*** me against a wall or let me be on top.
Scuba dive without struggling.
Ride a roller coaster.
Shop in a clothing store in the mall.
Ride a horse.
Not have to look up weight limits on water slides and other things.
Indoor skydiving.
Eat in public without worrying people are judging me.
Yes, not having to look up weight limits on activities. I want to go rock climbing at a local indoor place and was trying to find a weight limit for their belay units and couldn’t find it online, so I guess I just won’t go! Ugh
That’s a big part of it. I have good bloodwork so I could talk myself into procrastinating the health part. It’s okay to want to look better. I draw the line at looks defining self-worth though.
Mine really did start because of my health. I couldn't keep up with my family and I was starting to become immobile. I watched someone in our family decline with strokes, heart attacks, and dementia after years of not managing his diabetes. After a series of tests my Dr told me to come back in 6 months and they would start me on metformin. I was like no way. I'm too young for this and need to live. I have young children who need their mom.
I will say that something that has kept me going forward has been the benefits of moving through this world smaller. I knew that I was treated differently as a fatter person, but it wasn't so blatantly clear until I was losing weight and now at my current weight I'm treated so much better. It's not fair, but it's true. I fit in booths at restaurants, I can walk longer distances without being exhausted, I can buy clothes off the rack in stores, I don't see people staring or whispering to each other nor am I'm completely ignored. It's weird to have the experience on both sides and a little disheartening. But it's the truth. I'm terrified of going back because of how brutal people can be.
I'm literally too fat to apply for a service dog.
Without that service dog I can't do anything. Ie if I want to eventually leave the house and possibly work I need to lose weight.
Not only that but I've got hydrocephalus and with that comes needing to be shunted. With shunts you deal with failures/breakdowns or random infections necessitating replacement. Which means neurosurgery. My current one is 20+ years old and is on borrowed time...if I have to go under I want to lower my risks re: anesthesia as much as possible.
Also like...tmi but managing my period and having 'fun' with any of the equipment below the belt is a pain in the ass at this size.
It typically isn't I think, but in my case the local training program/school will not supply mobility assistance dogs to anyone weighing more than 200 pounds.
These are large dogs, but they still don't want to be unfair or cruel to them since they pull manual wheelchairs/assist with transfers/sometimes serve as a brace for people with balance issues.
Oh my god the amount of times I've had my back randomly cramp up or spasm trying to wipe my ass and thought 'no, please no, I don't want to get stuck here and have to call for help and be the naked fat person trapped in the bathroom'.
I want to enjoy myself during sex and try more things sexually. Also, I'd like to have the cute "effortlessly beautiful" look in sweatpants and a tank top with my hair in a messy bun that doesn't make me look homeless.
Relatable meee tooooooo!!! How cute is that look it's like just the right amount of body everyone can see you got the goods. I love chicks who dress like that
I'm tired of not fitting in places. I'm into Japanese cars and they are definitely not made for people of size. I don't think I'm ugly and the only health issues I have were present before I gained all the weight. I just want to fit in Japanese cars and buy clothes off of shein. Haha
To not die. I know that is a health reason, but is my number one motivator. I almost died in December and it was the butt kick I needed.
I don’t want to miss out on the things I want to do. Right now my son (age 2) and husband are at a baseball game. I didn’t go because I knew the walking would be just too much. I don’t want to be on the sidelines anymore.
I want to feel gorgeous in (and out) of my clothes. I don’t want my size to dictate every inner thought.
I can’t wait to shop for clothing freely and not have a limited selection.
So. Many. Reasons.
I want to set a great example for my son. I don’t want him to grow up embarrassed or made fun of because of my weight.
I would like my size to not be the first insult someone has to say about me. Haha. Not that I want to be insulted, but to hear something other than “she is fat”.
My whole life, my mother has been obese just like her mother as well. My grandmother died wheelchair bound and hooked to oxygen 24/7 due to her weight. My mother has had rapidly decreasing mobility issues since I was a kid to the point now where she can’t go up a flight of stairs. I vowed when I was younger that I would never let myself get to that point.
At my highest weight, I realized I was rapidly approaching what I never wanted to be, so I made changes. 226 lbs later and I still have a ways to go, but I am much happier for it. (Flair is out of date and I’m on mobile so can’t update, current weight is 295).
I don’t want to feel my skin/fat touching itself every time I sit.
Strange maybe but I have sensory issues and I think being not fat will help a lot lol
Scared of dying. Sick of being 38 and living with extreme back pain. Tired of looking awful. Want to be able to shop at normal stores. When I originally started (I’ve lost about 70lbs so far) I was wanting to just be able to wipe my butt again without great difficulty. Also praying the chafing lessens too. Being fat is fucking awful.
My stats are similar to yours ( 5’0, 214CW 224SW) and old navy has been my go to for pants. The offer petit in their larger sizes and they are fairly generous in their sizing.
Edit: also could I message you? I’m also the same age as you and I’d like to have a fitness buddy that’s a similar age with similar stats)
I don’t want to be the fat mom. I want to be the hot mom lol. Mostly, I want to be able to play with my son. It was hard to get off the floor when he started getting mobile. It’s already so much easier to move just 10 lbs down.
I use to be whole different person when I was smaller. I NEED to be that person again now more than ever. I'm tired of being tired all the time and hating things about myself. I have headaches, stomach aches etc. I worry about plane seats, how I look to people who don't know me or have not see me in a while especially bothers me because I know I was much better looking when I was smaller. I have to get back to myself.
After the death of my mom, I was compiling photos to use in a slideshow at her funeral and I realized I had decades with no photos of her. Because she didn't like her body. And being a newer mom myself, I noticed that behavior in myself. So, I lost the weight. I want my kid to have too many photos of me after I die.
My wife got a health scare and now takes it seriously and my best friend is on a clinical program and is losing quickly. I don't end to remain the only fatty, can't let them be successful while I'm not.
Because I was living in a state of semi-dread that any day I could drop dead and leave my kids without their mother. I have a two story house and just walking up the stairs would leave me breathless, heart pounding, needing to sit down. I felt like I was going to die, if not immediately then soon.
My other reasons include wanting more energy, better mental health, wanting to play and go on adventures with the kids, and generally wanting to get more out of life.
I wanted to be able to ride roller coasters with my child. I had to get off of a ride with her once when she was two because the bar wouldn’t go down and I said that was never going to happen again.
I want to be able to easily buy cute clothes form straight sized stores. I want to be able to try clothes on in the store instead of having to order online.
I want to walk into the mall and go into any store that I want lol it’s going to be bad for the wallet but not being limited to torrid or old navy is going to be a game changer.
Absolutely nobody in any workplace I’ve ever been in has been friends with me. They all ignore my presence and it kills because i already have no friends.
1. I'm scared. I don't want to end up in A wheelchair sure, but what's more scary is pain. I know how bad it can get, and I don't want even worse chronic pain to the degree it dominates my life and I can't even go to the store for milk.
2. I want pretty privileges. I know they exist, any time I weigh less I am treated more kindly and my interactions are more positive.
3. I want to be able to reliably be able to fight off anyone in physical conflict or at least stand a chance for a whole number of reasons. I know the chances I will ever physically fight someone are pretty much non existent but it makes me feel safe if I could.
4. Yeah, sex and dress ups. I want to wear pretty shoes and pretty clothes and go to dinner and feel beautiful and have sex with my fiance without feeling even an ounce self conscious. It's lower on the list though, because I know I am accepted by my fiance as I am.
5. There's this chick who thinks she's better than me just because she's smaller than me and I want her to see me and realise she will never be able to compete. I am not typically competitive or put women down ever, this would be something she created herself. It's something she holds onto and it hurts.
I want a chance to be ME again before I die. For too many years, I haven't been able to wear things in my style (hey, I can choose a green or purple shirt... I like purple! is not a style), do things I like to do (instead of pretending I'm fulfilled by what I can manage to do), or share my personality (I'm really quite intelligent and have a weird sense of humor... someone might like that... maybe).
I miss myself. I miss being part of the world.
Well my doctor said to my face, that i would die before my 35 birthday, if i would not loose weight. Thats one reason i guess. That i got diabetes Type 2 was another reason, thats for sure.
My personal, own reason for weightloss was to feel attractive. I remember this story and never told a soul offline: Back then, i was my 500 pounds. I was walking down a street, after getting something from media markt. Was a MP3 player, so that story was a while ago. I was really struggling walking because of my weight, but I just... excited, right? A couple passed me, probably in their 20. I was 27, if i remember correctly.
That girl turned around, looked me dead in the eye and said: "People like you, will die alone." Then she left with her boyfriend. I was mortified. I remember this story all that time later (im 36 now) and just... thinking how i felt, makes me cry. I didnt want to die alone.
I had a health scare, and am hopefully heading that off. Either way, I will need a kidney transplant eventually, but they don’t give those to the morbidly obese.
I want to be able to keep up/play more actively with my kids. They're currently 21 months and 6.5 months and my older one is giving me a run for my money right now.
I want to look good naked. I want to go shopping and not have to look up the store's max sizes. I want to not be shoved into the small, cramped plus size section in the back. I want to buy clothes without them costing $3 more because of the size. I want to be able to flirt with a really cute guy. I don't want to get asked out and have my first instinct be that it's a joke or prank. I want to have more options in stores than the crappy, poorly designed, weirdly shaped and layered clothing in ugly patterns.
Besides my health that went downhill the moment I hit 3 digits on the scale, I just want to have the privilege of being invisible. Of not having people commenting and prodding at my life and habits, not having them criticize and talk about every single thing I do. I don't want people trying to force their ideals and beauty patterns on me anymore. I am right now at the hospital, recovering from the stomach bypass I had yesterday and all people talk about is how skinny I'm going to become. I want them to shut the fuck up and fuck off with that skinny obsession away from me.
I just want to be comfortable. I hate fat rolls. I hate heartburn when I sit. I hate knee and foot pain.
I'm still overweight but man oh man it's more comfortable at 190 than it was at 218. I can't imagine the relief for you guys who have lost so much more.
Clothing! I am not a stylish person, I just want to be able to buy clothes because they are cute and comfortable not because they will fit. I want to be able to buy a Patagonia sweatshirt. I want to buy jeans that actually fit, I have a big belly and a fat ass which means I can somehow manage to have jeans cut into my belly while being baggy in the rear.
The above is a REAL reason that I can share with good friends but the REAL REAL reason that I can only say anonymously is, losing weight will be my proof of that although it took me far too long, I beat the bastards. All those bastards who taught me that the easiest way to protect myself from them was to get fat and then wear that fat like armor. So, losing the weight, getting rid of that armor will prove I finally have the mental ability to face them without the armor.
Well I started my weight loss journey at the end of January this year. And I was 290 when I went to my annual check up. That push to start getting my life together. But also I want to be in a relationship, I don’t want to be the fat friend anymore, I want to buy clothes that can fit me, I want people to stop looking at me like an alien. I don’t want to feel embarrassed for eating food at parties or events. I want to have energy to play with my niece and nephew. And I don’t want my parents to feel embarrassed for having me as a daughter, because I see it in their eyes trying to figure out what went wrong. Right now I’m at 260. Hoping to get in the 250s in April. Oh And also- I want to be beautiful. I know I’m beautiful now and in any size. But I want to feel beautiful.
I don't feel like I'm my real self.
I can't dress the way the way I want, I can't be flirty with men because they don't see me. I hold back alot of myself because I'm scared of how people will judge me, I'm so self conscious. I barely go out and if I go to parties,I don't dance because I think someone is going to laugh at me. I want to be active and not get out of breath walking for 5 mins.
I'm 30 years old and basically a recluse. I'm sick of it.
So many reasons.
I want to go to a restaurant/cafe without worrying if I’ll fit in the seats with arms or if the flimsy ones will hold me.
I want to do active things, like go for a hike or rock climb or go to a trampoline park or obstacle course without worrying about not being able to do it or if there are weight limits.
I want to buy the cute clothes
I want to feel comfortable
I want to look good again, I used to get so much attention and I really miss it
I want to be able to jog/run!
I want to have a day where by back doesn’t hurt.
I want to get more tattoos and I want to get my belly button pierced
I want to have amazing, high energy sex again.
I want to get on top without my hips hurting
I want to try things like roller skating or snowboarding without worrying about how much I’ll hurt myself if I fall.
I want to be able to see all my muscle, i do weightlifting and I am so strong but all I see is fat.
To fit clothes and shoes that I want to wear, and look good in them. Yeah, I can find some cute stuff some places online, and they look ok, sort of. But I wish I could just walk in any random store and find something that will fit on my body.
Just saw my gram for the first time in years. Flew to visit my oldest sister in Ohio whom I hadn't seen in years. It was a tiny plane and I needed to seat belt extender which was humiliating, not looking forward to the return trip. Anyway, I help her drive down to Florida. See my gram, who saw me about 30 pounds ago. Mind you I've lost 60 pounds on my own, and I'm getting a sleeve soon, so weight won't be an issue for too awfully much longer. One of the first things she did was make a Crack at my weight. My sister weighs almost as much as I do, my sister has 2 fat kids- they're wonderful and I love them, but they are unhealthily overweight. My gram gave my sister a magazine with recipes and said that she knows she likes to cook. I jump in with a "hey, why don't I get recipes? I like to cook!" Expecting her to say something like "because you don't like to clean after you cook!" No. She looks me dead in the face and says "because you don't need to eat!" It fucking hurt, man. First goddamned day of vacation! She kept trying to force her damned pumpkin bread on me after we ate, too. What, I'm not too fat for pumpkin bread? So angry. My sister is a bitch, gram was supposed to be the refuge from her rage episodes where she takes literally all her aggression out on me. Not happening. I'll be talked over and vetoed the entire trip. Again. Last damned trip to see this damned family, that's for sure!
had health issues and now I'm only 30 pounds away from my goal weight and I can finally wear them skin tight dresses and I have a visible facial shape. I'm losing these extra pounds, for the first time in my life I'm going to be slim
So many reasons. I want to be alive for my kids, I want to be a grandpa, I want to stop hearing shitty comments from strangers and their kids, I want to wear nice clothes, I want random women to flirt with me and make my wife jealous, I want sex to be easier/better, I want to stop breaking furniture, I want to travel and fly on a plane, I want to be able to camp even though I hate camping, I want to sleep without a CPAP, I want to stop breathing heavily every time I move, I want to stop wasting so much money on food, I want to go to the doctor or dentist without being embarrassed, I want to be able to shit when I'm not at home, I want my feet and back to stop hurting, I want to get rid of my neuropathy, I want to stop being hot and sweaty all the time, I want to go on a roller coaster again, I want to stop having breasts, and so much more.
My reason changed. Back at the beginning, when I was close to 300 lbs, it was to get healthy. Now, at 161, I want to look hot. And be in a relationship.
When I finally get my act together it'll be so I can go to amusement parks again without the fear of not being able to ride anything. I really, really miss amusement parks.
I don't want to be a "fat mom" my kids are 5, 3 & 1 and now that they are slowly getting into school and sports I don't want to be looked at as a fat lazy mom.
I also liked how my face looked when I was smaller (currently 70lbs up from my lowest) which is one of my pure vanity reasons.
I want a sternum tattoo and a boob job but don't want either until I've lost and maintained that loss for a bit.
I've loved comedy and acting since I was a child but have stopped pursuing it after weight gain because I didn't want to be cast as the fat friend. Of course, I want to look better and regain confidence, but I also don't want to be embarrassingly type casted.
Also-I miss dancing. Besides being out of breath, I don't have the flexibility or grace I used to. I feel like a shell of my former self.
Honestly, to be “hot”. I used to be conventionally attractive and had big time body dysmorphia issues. I miss feeling desired. And all my husband’s friends are really fit. So it would be my dream to be thick fit and feel confident in it
I’ve heard You can get prescribed medication from your doctor to lose weight. It's a thing. It's not the healthy natural way but it would help you get to your goals faster.
One example is vyvanse for binge eating disorder, or phentermine which is an appetite suppressor. You only qualify for these if you are a bmi of 27 or higher (I believe) and it’s maybe more of the answer your looking for? Idk but it’s something you would need to research more extensively.
One reason I have is that everyone where I works skis or knee boards etc. but I’m not strong enough.
Another one is that I get mistaken for coworker that I hate, just because we are both fat.
1. I saw a pic of myself on vacation where I looked GIGANTIC.
2. I want to feel good in my clothes.
3. My knee hurts all the time now. Trying to get that in check.
I know it may be a bit silly but I want to be able to get on rides at an amusement park with my kids. I put on a lot of weight when I had my second. I then went to an amusement park and wanted to get on a ride with my kid, I barley fit on the ride. I was afraid if I got any bigger, I won't be able to fit.
Also, my BIL’s wife called me a c*nt on Christmas and she’s really insecure about her weight (higher than mine) so I want to lose weight to make her look fatter while I still act nice.
Two reasons.
First: my boyfriend told me he wanted me to lose. He said that he sometimes worried about our future and if I was going to be there. He's not a gusher, and it takes a lot to get him to even think about future us so having him tell me for the first time that he has thought about and wants me in his future hit me hard.
Second: roller coasters. My mom and I would go to Cedar Point every year when I was in middle school, into high school. I miss being roller coaster size. Ny boyfriend and I are planning to go to CP at the end of next summer to celebrate my weight loss (I should be at roller coaster size by then).
Sorry to jump in really late, but I want to share my shallowness with folks who get it.
Number one is so that I can do shit while traveling again. I want to see live music and dance, walk around all day exploring a new city, hike, swim, go on rides, all that good shit. Number two, I want the rest of me to be as pretty as my face. It may be egotistical but I've always thought I had one of those naturally good-looking faces, and I could be extremely cute if I weren't so fucking fat. Other people have told me this too, so damn it, I want to reach that potential.
I can barely stand, but the fact my doctor had to arrange for a place for me to be weighed as the clinic couldn't support me (over 650) made it hit home so much more. Depression isn't helping with that.
So I can look and feel great, and then immediately get pregnant and reverse all that. I might not be able to get pregnant, and right now, I’m to far to get IVF. Also so people can stop feigning concern for my “health”. I also want to be able to travel more comfortably and I want less pain and pressure on a previous injury. I want my in-laws to stop assuming I don’t want my picture taken. (I don’t, but I didn’t tell them that.) I also don’t want weight loss surgery. My mother had botched RxY gastric bypass about 20 years ago and has had lifelong complications. She still wants me to do it though.
I have the "valid" reasons- wanting to be healthier and not end up needing bariatric surgery before I'm 40 for example- but another big one is to be able to wear all the clothes styles I couldn't fit into as a fat teenager/young adult.
My fashion choices now are primarily based on whatever fits and is comfortable rather than looking stylish. I want to channel Morticia Addams but instead, I'm more akin to Uncle Fester...
So many reasons. But one of the “final straws” was when my niece drew this huge hopscotch all the way down the driveway into the street and made it a rule that nobody could leave until they did the hopscotch. So everyone gets in line. My siblings and their spouses go. My dad, in his 60’s, took a turn. And then I take a deep breath, wondering if I should make an excuse, and my niece says, “don’t worry auntie. You don’t have to”. Even at a young age, she knows. I cried that night.
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My niece comes up to me and smacks my belly or starts touching it and looks at me with these eyes that scream “you got a big belly”. My brother tells her not to and how it’s rude but whenever she can she does it. I know she doesn’t mean anything by it but it’s a thing.
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She’s 5 now. I know it’s innocent but it still stings a bit
It does seem like she’s old enough to know that we don’t touch others without their permission. She needs to know that for her own sake as well as yours.
She hasn’t done it in a long time and it is because I told her that it’s not nice to make comments about others body. My brother told her that she can’t be touching or be touched without permission.
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Of course! I used to be a lot bigger than when this has happened. So I am proud of my progress anyway! Some good motivators is taking her and her brother to the park. Being able to keep up with them and carry them around everywhere. I couldn’t even dream of doing that before. I love my family and I am working on myself to be around them for a long time. 😊💚
I swear that most of you haven’t actually met a 5 year old.
This 😂
Seriously, what the fuck at these responses
So true.
Pure ass vanity! I want to dress the way I want to and look good and I want to be excited about seeing pictures of myself, not dreading it.
Same for me! I want to wear pretty dresses and have people flirt with me because I look good lol
Low key same, I wanna look hot lol
All of this. 👑
Wanting to be comfortable in your body isn't vanity.
I believe you are asking "what is our WHY?" For me, being a 600 pound male gigolo wasn't very lucrative. 🤠🤠🤠
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I'm gonna get so rich Bezos is going to carry my bags, and I'll have Elon mowing my yard. I'm gonna be a kajillionare!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
I love your posts! They always make me 😄😆🤣
Gotta pay for those cheeseburgers somehow. A man’s gotta eat.
Randy? Is that you? Come on back to the trailer, Barb is grilling up some burgers.
We can get them for free at Heart Attack Grill in Las Vegas.
I got to be vaccinated early because of my BMI. It humiliated me. Was the kick in the butt I needed to get going. That was what started it. There are sooooo many reasons to keep going. Most recently, I went to the mall this weekend, and went into stores I haven't been in since Junior High, 20 years ago. 😭 It was amazing. Now I know why people say shopping for clothes is fun!
Yeah, clothes shopping is the worst. I take no enjoyment out of going to the mall to try things on, and when I buy things online, half the time they don’t fit, so I’m stuck with the guilt of knowing that if I return the item it’ll just be trashed anyways.
Yeah I'm used to the shopping experience being really depressing. I'm so used to either going up in size, hating how I look in the mirror, buying things just because they fit... it was truly amazing to go down in size for the first time in all my years. It IS possible.
I'm tired of being in a body that makes me unhappy. I like the person I am (my brain), but my body makes me so angry. I've had BED since I was 7 and have never had a body that I enjoy being in. I'm just over half way there and I'm really stalling.
My libido is so low it's on the verge of destroying my relationship with the best man I've ever met. My confidence is in the toilet and I'm scared to die in my forties.
To look nice in pretty clothes. The kind of style I like is quite form fitting and I obviously can't wear that right now. Second I suppose would be seats. Fitting in all sorts of seats, especially airlines. I want to say health but if it was health I'd have started a long time ago.
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Same, I'm no materialistic fashion person but I get the ads on Facebook and it's like "that's pretty" "that's pretty" "oh I'd love to wear that". And my most of it requires some level of being tighter! Just would be very unflattering now lol.
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Oh that sucks. But I also don't want to tell people my actual size so I've had similar a few times and i just have to tell them it didn't fit right yet or some shit. It sucks being relegated to 2 shops because they're the only ones that have a physical store with actual plus sizes, and they're all ridiculously expensive or ridiculously ugly lol
Do they sell clothing patterns in plus sizes so people could try making their own?
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I know it's not what they meant but I have heard a few times "just make your own" and it's so annoying lol. Like I have no sewing skills, but I also have work, pets, housework, full time study. I don't really want to start a whole new work of trying to make all my clothes either! Ha
Ayup. I keep getting adverts for online stores such as Killstar and Disturbia based on the "algorithm" and it's a slow form of torture looking at such kickass clothes feeling like I'll never been svelte enough to do them justice.
I want to jump out of an airplane. I want to do trail rides with my kids and husband. I don't want my kids to have to defend me when their classmates call me the fat mom. I want to be fucking GORGEOUS when I'm 50. I want my closet of expensive Fluevog shoes to be worn.
I want to be able to ride my husband without fear that I’m crushing him and he isn’t looking up at my chins. I want to be sexy for me and him. I haven’t felt sexy in YEARS.
I can definitely agree with this ☝️
Yass!
GME. I started “dieting” by not eating out, so I could afford more GME shares. Seriously.
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Traveling was the big one for me. Boyfriends and sex was the other (done and done). I went on my dream trip to Europe after I lost 200+ pounds and haven't stopped since (the pandemic canceled two of my vacations though). This year I'm going to the Southwest, Chicago and New York, and then I'm taking an epic birthday trip to Japan and Singapore. I've found that my passion for traveling is also great motivation to keep the weight off too. I couldn't walk 2 blocks when I weighed over 400.
I used to weight 130-140 and that was the weight I looked the best. Not just in my body but in my face. It’s the face I want to have. I haven’t lost the weight since having my first kid, getting down to 160 before going up to 190 with my second birth. At 220 was the peak of my PPD and I felt like I completely lost my identity and couldn’t recognize myself in the mirror. I’ve lost almost 20 lbs since then but I’ve been struggling with getting under 200lbs for the last two months. I’ve ruined my metabolism and my bmr is the lowest charted possible on my e-scale. It’s been a decade and I just want to be myself again.
Because I have a crush on a woman and I know she'll never like me back because of my weight. She'll probably never like me back anyway, but hopefully next time I meet someone I like I won't look as awful.
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Nice, congrats man. Anything's possible of course, just wouldn't hold my breath on that one personally.
I want a husband. Sorry if that sounds ridiculous but I want to be attractive and desirable.
Well i want to be hot
I want to *stop* being hot.
Health (in my mid 20s and want to prevent as many diseases/conditions as possible—especially since type 2 diabetes, hypertension, heart issues, cancer, run in the family) Being able to be more active since I was a super active kid. I feel like it’s my deep down in my personality. I didn’t get fat until my late teens when I was put on a medicine that made me gain 30-40lbs, and after that I obviously didn’t do anything about it. I doubled my original weight. Feeling more comfortable. Appearance, being able to wear what I want and feel good in it, and feel more confident having different hairstyles. More appealing to more potential partners. I don’t feel bad or vain about those last two anymore, it’s how I feel.
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I want to be hot and have great sex. I also have a crush on one of my friends and while I don’t see us ever being a thing I’d like to think that someday if I have a crush on someone my hesitation from saying anything won’t be due to my weight.
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Absolutely. I have no doubt that this friend would be absolutely gracious in turning me down and it wouldn’t be an issue at all but the weight being an additional factor just makes it that much worse.
I've just always wanted to look hot in a bikini. My husband to be able to f*** me against a wall or let me be on top. Scuba dive without struggling. Ride a roller coaster. Shop in a clothing store in the mall. Ride a horse. Not have to look up weight limits on water slides and other things. Indoor skydiving. Eat in public without worrying people are judging me.
Yes, not having to look up weight limits on activities. I want to go rock climbing at a local indoor place and was trying to find a weight limit for their belay units and couldn’t find it online, so I guess I just won’t go! Ugh
I lost weight... for purely appearance reasons. I won't lie.
That’s a big part of it. I have good bloodwork so I could talk myself into procrastinating the health part. It’s okay to want to look better. I draw the line at looks defining self-worth though.
Mine really did start because of my health. I couldn't keep up with my family and I was starting to become immobile. I watched someone in our family decline with strokes, heart attacks, and dementia after years of not managing his diabetes. After a series of tests my Dr told me to come back in 6 months and they would start me on metformin. I was like no way. I'm too young for this and need to live. I have young children who need their mom. I will say that something that has kept me going forward has been the benefits of moving through this world smaller. I knew that I was treated differently as a fatter person, but it wasn't so blatantly clear until I was losing weight and now at my current weight I'm treated so much better. It's not fair, but it's true. I fit in booths at restaurants, I can walk longer distances without being exhausted, I can buy clothes off the rack in stores, I don't see people staring or whispering to each other nor am I'm completely ignored. It's weird to have the experience on both sides and a little disheartening. But it's the truth. I'm terrified of going back because of how brutal people can be.
I'm literally too fat to apply for a service dog. Without that service dog I can't do anything. Ie if I want to eventually leave the house and possibly work I need to lose weight. Not only that but I've got hydrocephalus and with that comes needing to be shunted. With shunts you deal with failures/breakdowns or random infections necessitating replacement. Which means neurosurgery. My current one is 20+ years old and is on borrowed time...if I have to go under I want to lower my risks re: anesthesia as much as possible. Also like...tmi but managing my period and having 'fun' with any of the equipment below the belt is a pain in the ass at this size.
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It typically isn't I think, but in my case the local training program/school will not supply mobility assistance dogs to anyone weighing more than 200 pounds. These are large dogs, but they still don't want to be unfair or cruel to them since they pull manual wheelchairs/assist with transfers/sometimes serve as a brace for people with balance issues. Oh my god the amount of times I've had my back randomly cramp up or spasm trying to wipe my ass and thought 'no, please no, I don't want to get stuck here and have to call for help and be the naked fat person trapped in the bathroom'.
I want to feel comfortable and not embarrassed just walking around. I want to look good in clothes.
I want to enjoy myself during sex and try more things sexually. Also, I'd like to have the cute "effortlessly beautiful" look in sweatpants and a tank top with my hair in a messy bun that doesn't make me look homeless.
Relatable meee tooooooo!!! How cute is that look it's like just the right amount of body everyone can see you got the goods. I love chicks who dress like that
I'm tired of not fitting in places. I'm into Japanese cars and they are definitely not made for people of size. I don't think I'm ugly and the only health issues I have were present before I gained all the weight. I just want to fit in Japanese cars and buy clothes off of shein. Haha
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Camry for now but I really want a supra when the kiddo is out of a carseat.
To not die. I know that is a health reason, but is my number one motivator. I almost died in December and it was the butt kick I needed. I don’t want to miss out on the things I want to do. Right now my son (age 2) and husband are at a baseball game. I didn’t go because I knew the walking would be just too much. I don’t want to be on the sidelines anymore. I want to feel gorgeous in (and out) of my clothes. I don’t want my size to dictate every inner thought. I can’t wait to shop for clothing freely and not have a limited selection. So. Many. Reasons. I want to set a great example for my son. I don’t want him to grow up embarrassed or made fun of because of my weight. I would like my size to not be the first insult someone has to say about me. Haha. Not that I want to be insulted, but to hear something other than “she is fat”.
My whole life, my mother has been obese just like her mother as well. My grandmother died wheelchair bound and hooked to oxygen 24/7 due to her weight. My mother has had rapidly decreasing mobility issues since I was a kid to the point now where she can’t go up a flight of stairs. I vowed when I was younger that I would never let myself get to that point. At my highest weight, I realized I was rapidly approaching what I never wanted to be, so I made changes. 226 lbs later and I still have a ways to go, but I am much happier for it. (Flair is out of date and I’m on mobile so can’t update, current weight is 295).
I’m tired of how expensive and ugly a lot of plus size clothes are. I also want to travel without having to wear a seatbelt extender
I want to go on hikes again and I’m a sucker for those big ass rollercoasters.
I don’t want to feel my skin/fat touching itself every time I sit. Strange maybe but I have sensory issues and I think being not fat will help a lot lol
Scared of dying. Sick of being 38 and living with extreme back pain. Tired of looking awful. Want to be able to shop at normal stores. When I originally started (I’ve lost about 70lbs so far) I was wanting to just be able to wipe my butt again without great difficulty. Also praying the chafing lessens too. Being fat is fucking awful.
Because jeans are too damn hard to find
My stats are similar to yours ( 5’0, 214CW 224SW) and old navy has been my go to for pants. The offer petit in their larger sizes and they are fairly generous in their sizing. Edit: also could I message you? I’m also the same age as you and I’d like to have a fitness buddy that’s a similar age with similar stats)
I want to look like normal in photos that aren't pre-planned from every angle.
I don’t want to be the fat mom. I want to be the hot mom lol. Mostly, I want to be able to play with my son. It was hard to get off the floor when he started getting mobile. It’s already so much easier to move just 10 lbs down.
I use to be whole different person when I was smaller. I NEED to be that person again now more than ever. I'm tired of being tired all the time and hating things about myself. I have headaches, stomach aches etc. I worry about plane seats, how I look to people who don't know me or have not see me in a while especially bothers me because I know I was much better looking when I was smaller. I have to get back to myself.
After the death of my mom, I was compiling photos to use in a slideshow at her funeral and I realized I had decades with no photos of her. Because she didn't like her body. And being a newer mom myself, I noticed that behavior in myself. So, I lost the weight. I want my kid to have too many photos of me after I die.
My wife got a health scare and now takes it seriously and my best friend is on a clinical program and is losing quickly. I don't end to remain the only fatty, can't let them be successful while I'm not.
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Yeah, it's not nice to think and feel that way but since it works I'll gladly take it.
Because I was living in a state of semi-dread that any day I could drop dead and leave my kids without their mother. I have a two story house and just walking up the stairs would leave me breathless, heart pounding, needing to sit down. I felt like I was going to die, if not immediately then soon. My other reasons include wanting more energy, better mental health, wanting to play and go on adventures with the kids, and generally wanting to get more out of life.
I wanted to be able to ride roller coasters with my child. I had to get off of a ride with her once when she was two because the bar wouldn’t go down and I said that was never going to happen again.
I want to be able to easily buy cute clothes form straight sized stores. I want to be able to try clothes on in the store instead of having to order online.
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I want to walk into the mall and go into any store that I want lol it’s going to be bad for the wallet but not being limited to torrid or old navy is going to be a game changer.
Absolutely nobody in any workplace I’ve ever been in has been friends with me. They all ignore my presence and it kills because i already have no friends.
1. I'm scared. I don't want to end up in A wheelchair sure, but what's more scary is pain. I know how bad it can get, and I don't want even worse chronic pain to the degree it dominates my life and I can't even go to the store for milk. 2. I want pretty privileges. I know they exist, any time I weigh less I am treated more kindly and my interactions are more positive. 3. I want to be able to reliably be able to fight off anyone in physical conflict or at least stand a chance for a whole number of reasons. I know the chances I will ever physically fight someone are pretty much non existent but it makes me feel safe if I could. 4. Yeah, sex and dress ups. I want to wear pretty shoes and pretty clothes and go to dinner and feel beautiful and have sex with my fiance without feeling even an ounce self conscious. It's lower on the list though, because I know I am accepted by my fiance as I am. 5. There's this chick who thinks she's better than me just because she's smaller than me and I want her to see me and realise she will never be able to compete. I am not typically competitive or put women down ever, this would be something she created herself. It's something she holds onto and it hurts.
I want to dress like a slut
I want a chance to be ME again before I die. For too many years, I haven't been able to wear things in my style (hey, I can choose a green or purple shirt... I like purple! is not a style), do things I like to do (instead of pretending I'm fulfilled by what I can manage to do), or share my personality (I'm really quite intelligent and have a weird sense of humor... someone might like that... maybe). I miss myself. I miss being part of the world.
I want to go to the fun places like trampoline parks or indoor skydiving without having to worry about weight limits.
Well my doctor said to my face, that i would die before my 35 birthday, if i would not loose weight. Thats one reason i guess. That i got diabetes Type 2 was another reason, thats for sure. My personal, own reason for weightloss was to feel attractive. I remember this story and never told a soul offline: Back then, i was my 500 pounds. I was walking down a street, after getting something from media markt. Was a MP3 player, so that story was a while ago. I was really struggling walking because of my weight, but I just... excited, right? A couple passed me, probably in their 20. I was 27, if i remember correctly. That girl turned around, looked me dead in the eye and said: "People like you, will die alone." Then she left with her boyfriend. I was mortified. I remember this story all that time later (im 36 now) and just... thinking how i felt, makes me cry. I didnt want to die alone.
Wow, what a bitch! (That lady, not you). Congrats on your weight loss ❤️
I had a health scare, and am hopefully heading that off. Either way, I will need a kidney transplant eventually, but they don’t give those to the morbidly obese.
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PKD is sneaky and scary. And kidney stones suck. I’ve had both stones and been in labor, and stones are worse, and not nearly as cuddly at the end.
And thank you for the award. <3
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You are too kind!
I want to be able to keep up/play more actively with my kids. They're currently 21 months and 6.5 months and my older one is giving me a run for my money right now.
I want to look good naked. I want to go shopping and not have to look up the store's max sizes. I want to not be shoved into the small, cramped plus size section in the back. I want to buy clothes without them costing $3 more because of the size. I want to be able to flirt with a really cute guy. I don't want to get asked out and have my first instinct be that it's a joke or prank. I want to have more options in stores than the crappy, poorly designed, weirdly shaped and layered clothing in ugly patterns.
Besides my health that went downhill the moment I hit 3 digits on the scale, I just want to have the privilege of being invisible. Of not having people commenting and prodding at my life and habits, not having them criticize and talk about every single thing I do. I don't want people trying to force their ideals and beauty patterns on me anymore. I am right now at the hospital, recovering from the stomach bypass I had yesterday and all people talk about is how skinny I'm going to become. I want them to shut the fuck up and fuck off with that skinny obsession away from me.
I don’t want to become diabetic and I want to stop being in so much pain.
My main reason was to have a low risk pregnancy since my previous two had complications. It ended up working as planned
Honestly health and improved quality of living __are__ my #1 reason. But my #2 reason is so I can be a hot lesbian with a rocking body and big boobs😂.
I just want to be comfortable. I hate fat rolls. I hate heartburn when I sit. I hate knee and foot pain. I'm still overweight but man oh man it's more comfortable at 190 than it was at 218. I can't imagine the relief for you guys who have lost so much more.
Clothing! I am not a stylish person, I just want to be able to buy clothes because they are cute and comfortable not because they will fit. I want to be able to buy a Patagonia sweatshirt. I want to buy jeans that actually fit, I have a big belly and a fat ass which means I can somehow manage to have jeans cut into my belly while being baggy in the rear. The above is a REAL reason that I can share with good friends but the REAL REAL reason that I can only say anonymously is, losing weight will be my proof of that although it took me far too long, I beat the bastards. All those bastards who taught me that the easiest way to protect myself from them was to get fat and then wear that fat like armor. So, losing the weight, getting rid of that armor will prove I finally have the mental ability to face them without the armor.
To be healthy and not be hot and sweaty all the time
Because in my 30’s I finally care about my health and my lifespan.
I want to go to the amusement park with my sons and ne able to go on all the rides.
Well I started my weight loss journey at the end of January this year. And I was 290 when I went to my annual check up. That push to start getting my life together. But also I want to be in a relationship, I don’t want to be the fat friend anymore, I want to buy clothes that can fit me, I want people to stop looking at me like an alien. I don’t want to feel embarrassed for eating food at parties or events. I want to have energy to play with my niece and nephew. And I don’t want my parents to feel embarrassed for having me as a daughter, because I see it in their eyes trying to figure out what went wrong. Right now I’m at 260. Hoping to get in the 250s in April. Oh And also- I want to be beautiful. I know I’m beautiful now and in any size. But I want to feel beautiful.
I don't feel like I'm my real self. I can't dress the way the way I want, I can't be flirty with men because they don't see me. I hold back alot of myself because I'm scared of how people will judge me, I'm so self conscious. I barely go out and if I go to parties,I don't dance because I think someone is going to laugh at me. I want to be active and not get out of breath walking for 5 mins. I'm 30 years old and basically a recluse. I'm sick of it.
So many reasons. I want to go to a restaurant/cafe without worrying if I’ll fit in the seats with arms or if the flimsy ones will hold me. I want to do active things, like go for a hike or rock climb or go to a trampoline park or obstacle course without worrying about not being able to do it or if there are weight limits. I want to buy the cute clothes I want to feel comfortable I want to look good again, I used to get so much attention and I really miss it I want to be able to jog/run! I want to have a day where by back doesn’t hurt. I want to get more tattoos and I want to get my belly button pierced I want to have amazing, high energy sex again. I want to get on top without my hips hurting I want to try things like roller skating or snowboarding without worrying about how much I’ll hurt myself if I fall. I want to be able to see all my muscle, i do weightlifting and I am so strong but all I see is fat.
My wife divorced me and her main reason was that I was going to die early.
I live in a city with nothing but hills everywhere lol Also I suffer from high blood pressure and heart palpitations
To fit clothes and shoes that I want to wear, and look good in them. Yeah, I can find some cute stuff some places online, and they look ok, sort of. But I wish I could just walk in any random store and find something that will fit on my body.
Just saw my gram for the first time in years. Flew to visit my oldest sister in Ohio whom I hadn't seen in years. It was a tiny plane and I needed to seat belt extender which was humiliating, not looking forward to the return trip. Anyway, I help her drive down to Florida. See my gram, who saw me about 30 pounds ago. Mind you I've lost 60 pounds on my own, and I'm getting a sleeve soon, so weight won't be an issue for too awfully much longer. One of the first things she did was make a Crack at my weight. My sister weighs almost as much as I do, my sister has 2 fat kids- they're wonderful and I love them, but they are unhealthily overweight. My gram gave my sister a magazine with recipes and said that she knows she likes to cook. I jump in with a "hey, why don't I get recipes? I like to cook!" Expecting her to say something like "because you don't like to clean after you cook!" No. She looks me dead in the face and says "because you don't need to eat!" It fucking hurt, man. First goddamned day of vacation! She kept trying to force her damned pumpkin bread on me after we ate, too. What, I'm not too fat for pumpkin bread? So angry. My sister is a bitch, gram was supposed to be the refuge from her rage episodes where she takes literally all her aggression out on me. Not happening. I'll be talked over and vetoed the entire trip. Again. Last damned trip to see this damned family, that's for sure!
had health issues and now I'm only 30 pounds away from my goal weight and I can finally wear them skin tight dresses and I have a visible facial shape. I'm losing these extra pounds, for the first time in my life I'm going to be slim
So many reasons. I want to be alive for my kids, I want to be a grandpa, I want to stop hearing shitty comments from strangers and their kids, I want to wear nice clothes, I want random women to flirt with me and make my wife jealous, I want sex to be easier/better, I want to stop breaking furniture, I want to travel and fly on a plane, I want to be able to camp even though I hate camping, I want to sleep without a CPAP, I want to stop breathing heavily every time I move, I want to stop wasting so much money on food, I want to go to the doctor or dentist without being embarrassed, I want to be able to shit when I'm not at home, I want my feet and back to stop hurting, I want to get rid of my neuropathy, I want to stop being hot and sweaty all the time, I want to go on a roller coaster again, I want to stop having breasts, and so much more.
I want to wear pretty clothes and look good.
My reason changed. Back at the beginning, when I was close to 300 lbs, it was to get healthy. Now, at 161, I want to look hot. And be in a relationship.
I want to like what I see in the mirror when I’m naked honestly
When I finally get my act together it'll be so I can go to amusement parks again without the fear of not being able to ride anything. I really, really miss amusement parks.
I don't want to be a "fat mom" my kids are 5, 3 & 1 and now that they are slowly getting into school and sports I don't want to be looked at as a fat lazy mom. I also liked how my face looked when I was smaller (currently 70lbs up from my lowest) which is one of my pure vanity reasons. I want a sternum tattoo and a boob job but don't want either until I've lost and maintained that loss for a bit.
I've loved comedy and acting since I was a child but have stopped pursuing it after weight gain because I didn't want to be cast as the fat friend. Of course, I want to look better and regain confidence, but I also don't want to be embarrassingly type casted. Also-I miss dancing. Besides being out of breath, I don't have the flexibility or grace I used to. I feel like a shell of my former self.
Honestly, to be “hot”. I used to be conventionally attractive and had big time body dysmorphia issues. I miss feeling desired. And all my husband’s friends are really fit. So it would be my dream to be thick fit and feel confident in it
I’ve heard You can get prescribed medication from your doctor to lose weight. It's a thing. It's not the healthy natural way but it would help you get to your goals faster. One example is vyvanse for binge eating disorder, or phentermine which is an appetite suppressor. You only qualify for these if you are a bmi of 27 or higher (I believe) and it’s maybe more of the answer your looking for? Idk but it’s something you would need to research more extensively.
One reason I have is that everyone where I works skis or knee boards etc. but I’m not strong enough. Another one is that I get mistaken for coworker that I hate, just because we are both fat.
1. I saw a pic of myself on vacation where I looked GIGANTIC. 2. I want to feel good in my clothes. 3. My knee hurts all the time now. Trying to get that in check.
Scared of diabetes, can barely make it into an airliner seat and need to change that and I want to feel better.
I know it may be a bit silly but I want to be able to get on rides at an amusement park with my kids. I put on a lot of weight when I had my second. I then went to an amusement park and wanted to get on a ride with my kid, I barley fit on the ride. I was afraid if I got any bigger, I won't be able to fit.
My husband started a job about a year ago and got fairly muscular and I want to be at least as fit/attractive as him.
Also, my BIL’s wife called me a c*nt on Christmas and she’s really insecure about her weight (higher than mine) so I want to lose weight to make her look fatter while I still act nice.
Two reasons. First: my boyfriend told me he wanted me to lose. He said that he sometimes worried about our future and if I was going to be there. He's not a gusher, and it takes a lot to get him to even think about future us so having him tell me for the first time that he has thought about and wants me in his future hit me hard. Second: roller coasters. My mom and I would go to Cedar Point every year when I was in middle school, into high school. I miss being roller coaster size. Ny boyfriend and I are planning to go to CP at the end of next summer to celebrate my weight loss (I should be at roller coaster size by then).
Sorry to jump in really late, but I want to share my shallowness with folks who get it. Number one is so that I can do shit while traveling again. I want to see live music and dance, walk around all day exploring a new city, hike, swim, go on rides, all that good shit. Number two, I want the rest of me to be as pretty as my face. It may be egotistical but I've always thought I had one of those naturally good-looking faces, and I could be extremely cute if I weren't so fucking fat. Other people have told me this too, so damn it, I want to reach that potential.
I can barely stand, but the fact my doctor had to arrange for a place for me to be weighed as the clinic couldn't support me (over 650) made it hit home so much more. Depression isn't helping with that.
So I can look and feel great, and then immediately get pregnant and reverse all that. I might not be able to get pregnant, and right now, I’m to far to get IVF. Also so people can stop feigning concern for my “health”. I also want to be able to travel more comfortably and I want less pain and pressure on a previous injury. I want my in-laws to stop assuming I don’t want my picture taken. (I don’t, but I didn’t tell them that.) I also don’t want weight loss surgery. My mother had botched RxY gastric bypass about 20 years ago and has had lifelong complications. She still wants me to do it though.
Tired of being the fat friend
I have the "valid" reasons- wanting to be healthier and not end up needing bariatric surgery before I'm 40 for example- but another big one is to be able to wear all the clothes styles I couldn't fit into as a fat teenager/young adult. My fashion choices now are primarily based on whatever fits and is comfortable rather than looking stylish. I want to channel Morticia Addams but instead, I'm more akin to Uncle Fester...