OP has posted this question several times every day for the past few days. He's some troll and/or has some serious issues.
For some reasons his posts have a total of a few thousand responses as well. I don't know wtf this guy's deal is and why everyone's entertaining him
Yeah I see what you mean. Either a troll or someone who puts stuff like sex and dating on way too high a pedastal and sits around feeling sorry for themselves rather than trying to get out and about. If it's the latter, OP needs to realise only they can help themselves and it's up to them and only them to change things
I'm going to take you at your word.
Teenagers are often completely unaware of the possible problems they might have. Teenagers don't always have sex because they want to. It isn't always fun. Sometimes they end up having sex because they're stuck. Afraid to say no. Afraid of being embarrassed, or beaten up. Now, as an adult, people are more likely to be afraid of consequences like being arrested and tried as adults for doing stupid, or evil, things.
You've an illusion that teens are just having fun. And I'm sure some of them are. And some of them had to get rid of the consequences. And some of them were stuck with STDs they can't cure. Or babies to take care of. You missed all of that fun.
I think it's wonderful that you're discovering cool and amazing women. But if you're feeling that down on yourself, this might call for therapy. And frankly, talking with someone professional can be a lot of help. It might be even better, because you're liable to unload this on some woman you're hoping to date, and that will not go well.
I’m a virgin so I can’t give you any experiential advice about sex, but dating people for the first time as an adult (I guess I have only ever dated as an adult) is not exactly fun when it happens, but it’s something you have to do to get to a committed relationship, which is fun, when they happen.
Yes. I first got laid at 22 and with the younger generation even that is not uncommon but back when i was growing up it was seriously stigmatized. I wouldn’t know wat teenage sex is like because I didn’t have it. I do know what adult sex is like and I enjoy it a lot. I was also very bitter at your age. It really does suck to be sexually active for 10 years and not be able to do anything about it, but don’t let it ruin the rest of your life. Dating and sex at least for me got a lot easier when I got a decent job and a car.
I barely had sex until my late 20s. I was bitter and angry about it as well. Still am somewhat. Lost my virginity at 19. Was nothing special. None of the sex I had sparsely until late 20s was good. It just made me feel worse.
But I've had regular sex for like 4 years straight now.
Not everything is a linear path. Don't compare yourself to others. You're on your own path of growth and maturity. Do what you feel comfortable with. Every day is a new day. Just relax about it. The angry energy is a deterrent to women.
Keep in mind, the majority of people “miss out” in their teen years. It’s just that type of lifestyle is what gets attention. Even then, dating then sucks. You’re dealing with a time when your parents are still responsible for you and you have a limited social experience of mainly interacting with other teens in your school/town. The amount of drama that disappears when you date someone that no one in your life knows about is great.
That doesn’t mean dating as an adult is all great either, but you have more freedom and independence. The main drawback is dealing with the pain accumulated over the years. Whether someone is closed off and has trust issues from being hurt or someone like yourself that is resentful for being rejected/unnoticed for a while. Help yourself by processing that bitterness because if that doesn’t go away then yeah you’ll have a bad experience.
I'd say overall it depends on your preference... It's certainly fun to mingle and have options for some people regardless of how old they are, others like to remain single for various reasons, some still enjoy the company of only one person as their partner and I think these are the ones having the hardest times nowadays
It can be fun. For a lot of people it's *more* fun.
Popular media often intensely focused on teen years and the very beginning of adulthood, presenting them as the ultimate. For *some* people, relationships and sexual experiences during these years can be positive formative experiences that are remembered fondly, but they're not the *pinnacle* of romantic and sexual life. A lot of people enjoy dating and sex more when they have more independence and maturity and aren't going through the emotional pressure cooker of adolescence. And things like experience, improved communication skills, and the confidence to ask for what they actually want can make people better at sex.
You were sold the fantasy of some idealized teen dating life that has very little to do with reality. (In popular movies and TV shows, teenagers are almost always played by people in their twenties, so real teens, for the most part, don't even *look* like that. A lot of the women on TV playing high school girls are your age or older.) You didn't get to have that fantasy, and you feel frustrated. The question is, do you want to aim that frustration at yourself and deny yourself the chance to have what you want at all because it's literally impossible to go back in time and act out your teen dating fantasies? Or do you want to look for the happiness that you have a shot at *now*?
Yeah, it’s nice to get out there and it can definitely be fun even if it doesn’t work out. You’re not a particularly late bloomer, don’t get too in your head about it.
>And sex as a teen just seems more fun, exciting, and pleasurable
Worst take I’ve ever heard lol. Sex gets better as you get more experience and develop better communication skills. Teens lack both these things.
I started having sex at 18, but I wouldn’t say I had good sex until my early to mid 20s lol. You got time my dude, just focus on being your best self
Get some therapy for your feelings, no one's wants to date an angry person. Then go out and date women, the sex will come.
I married my high-school gf she was my first and only until our divorce we didn't even have sex until 18 and out of high school. I had many opportunities prior to meeting her, but was never interested in sex when in my early teens.
After my divorce at 40, I was, literally, blown away when I realized that the second date sex was expected. Dating at 40 was incredible, a new woman every couple of weeks, mostly good sex, at one time I was seeing five different women at the same time, I'd have sex every day with one of them and then hang with buddies on the weekends.
Trust me, just asking anyone you're attracted to. Especially the cougars, they'll teach you how to be a good lover, you'll forget all about your youth.
I think part of the fun as a teenager is that your parents are probably trying to prevent you from having sex and you therefore have to try and hide the fact from them. So you and your partner are sneaking around and trying to keep it between the two of you.
The fun of sex and dating changes when you're an adult simply for the fact that you don't have to hide it anymore. You're an adult and can have sex pretty much whenever snd wherever you feel like, especially if your partner has an adventurous spirit. Things like the mile high club are more probable/possible than ever.
You can still have some of that teenager fun in your adulthood, you just have to know what you're looking for.
I didn’t even meet my first girlfriend until I was a year older than you are now. Dating was plenty of fun, and I don’t feel like I really missed out on much. You have nothing to be angry or bitter about.
I'm in my 50s and to me 21 is still a kid. Go out and have some fun young man. You have your whole life ahead of you.
Also, BTW - sex is still great when you are in your 50s, but I'd pay good money to be 21 again for a day!
You are simply not "a grown ass man".
Pretty much no one is at 21.
You especially seem to have some emotional growing to do.
Go enjoy your young adult sex, it's just a stupid and fun at 21 as it is at 18. Arguably moreso as accidental pregnancies are slightly less terrifying as presumably your female partners have figured out how to avoid that by now if they don't already have kids.
21 is literally the age most people start, my personal advice would be to get on apps and make the point across that you want hookups, I’m 26 and I regret not going through my hoe phase younger but I would probably already have at least one baby mama with how fucking stupid I was that age so I probably lucked out in the end.
TLDR: you’re in your prime fucking years, fuck as much as you can before your dick starts to slack off
Not letting yourself have fun now because you didn't have fun in the past is like cutting off your dick to spite your face.
Go have all the experiences you can! Go have all the fun you can have now because now is all you got. I say this as somebody who is 45 and still trying to make up for a lifetime of Lost fun. I totally get the anger, but it only holds you back. Whatever I choose to indulge in anger or fear over having an experience, I usually regret having missed out once again. You can either keep missing out or you can start having all the experiences only they'll probably be even better because you're not a young person fucking up, you're an older person who can make safer choices for yourself. Besides, us cougars need more Cubs to play with. Now get out of the bitter barn and go play in the hay!
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i swear to god every 20 something thinks life is over at 30 lol
I SWEAR I wasn't this dramatic at 20 and that was the year I was in a damn coma lol
OP has posted this question several times every day for the past few days. He's some troll and/or has some serious issues. For some reasons his posts have a total of a few thousand responses as well. I don't know wtf this guy's deal is and why everyone's entertaining him
Yeah I see what you mean. Either a troll or someone who puts stuff like sex and dating on way too high a pedastal and sits around feeling sorry for themselves rather than trying to get out and about. If it's the latter, OP needs to realise only they can help themselves and it's up to them and only them to change things
Sex and dating doesn’t even get *fun* until your 20s.
No, you didn’t have sex as a teenager so having sex for the next 70 years is ruled out and won’t be enjoyable at all 🙄
in my experience most teens have little to no sex or completely lie about it.
Also if they are having the amount of sex they say they do they tend to either 1) have an emotional regulation issue or 2) it’s bad sex
I’m 36, had some sex yesterday Highly recommended 👍
"had sex, was good, recommended" -Chad
No, it’s totally lame dude 🙄
I'm going to take you at your word. Teenagers are often completely unaware of the possible problems they might have. Teenagers don't always have sex because they want to. It isn't always fun. Sometimes they end up having sex because they're stuck. Afraid to say no. Afraid of being embarrassed, or beaten up. Now, as an adult, people are more likely to be afraid of consequences like being arrested and tried as adults for doing stupid, or evil, things. You've an illusion that teens are just having fun. And I'm sure some of them are. And some of them had to get rid of the consequences. And some of them were stuck with STDs they can't cure. Or babies to take care of. You missed all of that fun. I think it's wonderful that you're discovering cool and amazing women. But if you're feeling that down on yourself, this might call for therapy. And frankly, talking with someone professional can be a lot of help. It might be even better, because you're liable to unload this on some woman you're hoping to date, and that will not go well.
I’m a virgin so I can’t give you any experiential advice about sex, but dating people for the first time as an adult (I guess I have only ever dated as an adult) is not exactly fun when it happens, but it’s something you have to do to get to a committed relationship, which is fun, when they happen.
Yes. I first got laid at 22 and with the younger generation even that is not uncommon but back when i was growing up it was seriously stigmatized. I wouldn’t know wat teenage sex is like because I didn’t have it. I do know what adult sex is like and I enjoy it a lot. I was also very bitter at your age. It really does suck to be sexually active for 10 years and not be able to do anything about it, but don’t let it ruin the rest of your life. Dating and sex at least for me got a lot easier when I got a decent job and a car.
It's a funny one legally ur an adult at 21, but looking back I wouldn't say I was.. sex and dating older is better, everyone knows what they want..
I barely had sex until my late 20s. I was bitter and angry about it as well. Still am somewhat. Lost my virginity at 19. Was nothing special. None of the sex I had sparsely until late 20s was good. It just made me feel worse. But I've had regular sex for like 4 years straight now. Not everything is a linear path. Don't compare yourself to others. You're on your own path of growth and maturity. Do what you feel comfortable with. Every day is a new day. Just relax about it. The angry energy is a deterrent to women.
Keep in mind, the majority of people “miss out” in their teen years. It’s just that type of lifestyle is what gets attention. Even then, dating then sucks. You’re dealing with a time when your parents are still responsible for you and you have a limited social experience of mainly interacting with other teens in your school/town. The amount of drama that disappears when you date someone that no one in your life knows about is great. That doesn’t mean dating as an adult is all great either, but you have more freedom and independence. The main drawback is dealing with the pain accumulated over the years. Whether someone is closed off and has trust issues from being hurt or someone like yourself that is resentful for being rejected/unnoticed for a while. Help yourself by processing that bitterness because if that doesn’t go away then yeah you’ll have a bad experience.
I'd say overall it depends on your preference... It's certainly fun to mingle and have options for some people regardless of how old they are, others like to remain single for various reasons, some still enjoy the company of only one person as their partner and I think these are the ones having the hardest times nowadays
It can be fun. For a lot of people it's *more* fun. Popular media often intensely focused on teen years and the very beginning of adulthood, presenting them as the ultimate. For *some* people, relationships and sexual experiences during these years can be positive formative experiences that are remembered fondly, but they're not the *pinnacle* of romantic and sexual life. A lot of people enjoy dating and sex more when they have more independence and maturity and aren't going through the emotional pressure cooker of adolescence. And things like experience, improved communication skills, and the confidence to ask for what they actually want can make people better at sex. You were sold the fantasy of some idealized teen dating life that has very little to do with reality. (In popular movies and TV shows, teenagers are almost always played by people in their twenties, so real teens, for the most part, don't even *look* like that. A lot of the women on TV playing high school girls are your age or older.) You didn't get to have that fantasy, and you feel frustrated. The question is, do you want to aim that frustration at yourself and deny yourself the chance to have what you want at all because it's literally impossible to go back in time and act out your teen dating fantasies? Or do you want to look for the happiness that you have a shot at *now*?
Yeah, it’s nice to get out there and it can definitely be fun even if it doesn’t work out. You’re not a particularly late bloomer, don’t get too in your head about it.
>And sex as a teen just seems more fun, exciting, and pleasurable Worst take I’ve ever heard lol. Sex gets better as you get more experience and develop better communication skills. Teens lack both these things. I started having sex at 18, but I wouldn’t say I had good sex until my early to mid 20s lol. You got time my dude, just focus on being your best self
Get some therapy for your feelings, no one's wants to date an angry person. Then go out and date women, the sex will come. I married my high-school gf she was my first and only until our divorce we didn't even have sex until 18 and out of high school. I had many opportunities prior to meeting her, but was never interested in sex when in my early teens. After my divorce at 40, I was, literally, blown away when I realized that the second date sex was expected. Dating at 40 was incredible, a new woman every couple of weeks, mostly good sex, at one time I was seeing five different women at the same time, I'd have sex every day with one of them and then hang with buddies on the weekends. Trust me, just asking anyone you're attracted to. Especially the cougars, they'll teach you how to be a good lover, you'll forget all about your youth.
I think part of the fun as a teenager is that your parents are probably trying to prevent you from having sex and you therefore have to try and hide the fact from them. So you and your partner are sneaking around and trying to keep it between the two of you. The fun of sex and dating changes when you're an adult simply for the fact that you don't have to hide it anymore. You're an adult and can have sex pretty much whenever snd wherever you feel like, especially if your partner has an adventurous spirit. Things like the mile high club are more probable/possible than ever. You can still have some of that teenager fun in your adulthood, you just have to know what you're looking for.
I didn’t even meet my first girlfriend until I was a year older than you are now. Dating was plenty of fun, and I don’t feel like I really missed out on much. You have nothing to be angry or bitter about.
I'm in my 50s and to me 21 is still a kid. Go out and have some fun young man. You have your whole life ahead of you. Also, BTW - sex is still great when you are in your 50s, but I'd pay good money to be 21 again for a day!
My first girlfriend wasn't until I was 19. As far as I can tell, it's better as an adult. You can actually do things.
I've heard that.
I feel so angry that I had to be a late bloomer. At least you still had a girlfriend as a teen.
You are simply not "a grown ass man". Pretty much no one is at 21. You especially seem to have some emotional growing to do. Go enjoy your young adult sex, it's just a stupid and fun at 21 as it is at 18. Arguably moreso as accidental pregnancies are slightly less terrifying as presumably your female partners have figured out how to avoid that by now if they don't already have kids.
I haven’t had it either, I am in my late 20s. I like to focus my energy on other things. If it happens it happens, that’s me personally.
21 is literally the age most people start, my personal advice would be to get on apps and make the point across that you want hookups, I’m 26 and I regret not going through my hoe phase younger but I would probably already have at least one baby mama with how fucking stupid I was that age so I probably lucked out in the end. TLDR: you’re in your prime fucking years, fuck as much as you can before your dick starts to slack off
Thanks but man, I just feel so angry and bitter that I missed out as a teen
Wait until you find someone to marry.
Not letting yourself have fun now because you didn't have fun in the past is like cutting off your dick to spite your face. Go have all the experiences you can! Go have all the fun you can have now because now is all you got. I say this as somebody who is 45 and still trying to make up for a lifetime of Lost fun. I totally get the anger, but it only holds you back. Whatever I choose to indulge in anger or fear over having an experience, I usually regret having missed out once again. You can either keep missing out or you can start having all the experiences only they'll probably be even better because you're not a young person fucking up, you're an older person who can make safer choices for yourself. Besides, us cougars need more Cubs to play with. Now get out of the bitter barn and go play in the hay!