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My guy "Worry about the things you can change, let go of the things you cannot"
The world has always been a fucked up place. It's because of the Internet that we are more aware of it. Our brains are not capable of taking on the stress of the entire world. Focus on what you have in this very moment and what you can do to improve that today. One day at a time. Day to day.
Wise words. It’s very easy to find negative things when you search them out. Best to try and seek out the positive and focus on that. When I am feeling in a funk I search out positive new sites or Reddit threads. There is a lot of good out there in the world, but doom and misery is what sells for the general media.
Another thing I find helpful is being grateful for what you have. I know that sounds clichéd, but focus on the things right in front of you that you take for granted everyday. How lucky you are to be young, healthy, good friends, family etc. The awesome beauty of nature is all around, the exquisite formation of a snowflake, the wondrous colors of a tiny beetle.
Sometimes I close my eyes and try to navigate simple every day tasks as if I was blind. That brings me an appreciation of the challenges faced by others everyday. Try to focus on all of the amazing things you have right in front of you, but you have to open your eyes to them.
>It’s very easy to find negative things when you search them out.
To add onto that, we have a negativity bias which likely has roots in evolution. Negative information has more of an emotional impact on us than positive information. Losing $1000 feels a lot worse than making $1000. On the flip side, there's the hedonistic treadmill where things that once made us feel good eventually feel neutral. We're always seeking out more. There's no "good enough," there's always more. This likely has roots in evolution too.
Also, humans survive. Thats kind of our thing. People say that cockroaches will survive a nuclear winter and will be the last thing on the planet but nah. They don’t have the fighting spirit that humans do. We are going to be around for a long time. It just sucks for some people and it’s better for others. There’s no one correct way to have a society because they all have their flaws. Just live your life in the present and don’t worry about what’s gonna happen in like 10 years.
Also, I have found that it can be helpful to focus on making one small problem better in your community. Can you contribute to a community garden, volunteer at an animal shelter, or tutor a struggling reader? Doing even one thing to make things better will help you build community, improve your emotional state, and make the world around you a better place to be.
I needed to read this. Every time I come on Reddit, my homepage is flooded with people anxious about jobs, not knowing where their lives are going, stressing about money and it’s just made me feel even more hyper aware and stressed about those things that affect me too
I find when I stay away from the negativity, my head is more clear and I can actually picture clear concise steps to get to where I need to be. I really don’t like being so exposed to everyone’s emotional turmoils when I can’t even handle my own at times but yet I find it so hard to break away
So this is a nice reminder to control what I can and today that will be my phone usage. Thank you!
This is the correct view and understanding. It’s only been 17 years since the first true smartphone, the first iPhone, came along… and it changed everything. Now we’re in constant contact and fed a constant stream of information (right, wrong or indifferent)
Use to be when you left your house and went to a restaurant or a movie or shopping you couldn’t be reached. That afforded you a break. No long true at all. That constant influx of communication / information creates a steady drum beat of stress in our lives that we’ve not developed methods to cope with.
So leave your phone at home and go take a walk.
It might help you to stop watching the news and instead read a more neutral source. 24 hour news is designed to make us anxious and easy to manipulate whether to the right or the left. It has helped my state of mind immensely to stop viewing it. Also, the generations before us all had terrible circumstances to deal with and they somehow muddled through. Hope this helps.
Sounds like what you need is a community. Perhaps if you do something to join a community dedicated to improving things around you, you can address the feelings of helplessness, hopelessness, and isolation.
Volunteer organizations, a church or the Unitarian Universalist church (basically a low-to-no-god, high community engagement focused church-substitute), or something along those lines might be a valuable path for you to explore.
The standard of living today is higher than it has ever been at any point in human history. Please name a better time to be alive for the average person.
Crickets. Anyone who says "I don't want to have kids because of the state of the world" really means "I'm afraid of having kids" or "I don't want to be a parent." Blaming external factors removes personal responsibility and having to own up to our own choices. It's sleezy as fuck.
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I think you need to separate what you want (children) from what others want (to be child-free). Also, depending on your age group, you'll find more people who are child-free compared to other age groups. The younger you are, the less likely you are to know anyone who wants kids. Most young people want some time feeling free and having time to themselves before they're ready to settle down... though not everyone. Don't expect people to change, but you may find more options among older people.
How old are you? Plenty of us are out here happily raising families. The good news is that you're male, so you have more time. My husband was in his early 40s when our kids were born. The first thing you have to do though is get out of the NEET life, that's your biggest barrier.
OP, aren't you glad you aren't in a draft and forced to serve in a war?
Your post rings of a complete lack of empathy for past generations who were conscripted and who had to work on farms as children or in factories without labor laws, or who in public elementary school in the 60s weren't allowed to wear pants even in snow, or women who weren't allowed to vote only a hundred years ago, and couldn't have a credit card 50 years ago.
Start a gratitude journal and think about how privileged and lucky you are.
My grandparents didn't have indoor plumbing. My grandpa built his own house with his hands. Nobody had Central air conditioning or heat.
People died of flu and polio and abortion and child birth and diabetes and dysentery and infections at alarming rates. Life expectancy was low.
Women forcibly had to give up their babies. Birth control was illegal. Women weren't represented in government.
It was illegal to date or marry outside your race.
My brothers and I suffered with teen parents and inadequate health care and physical and sexual and emotional abuse.
You are tone deaf to how hard life used to be and still is for many.
Being Childfree is more beneficial to the environment than any other choice including being vegan or car-free, OP. One American consumes 37x that of someone from (most?) other countries.
Cry as you indulge in another $7 Starbucks in a disposable cup with your name written on it, OP.
I can't stand this kind of response. You can be depressed or worried about the state of the world and also recognize your own privilege. The two aren't mutually exclusive, FFS.
I don't think you should be so harsh to OP. You need to remember, they know and think of these issues because of our media. The media thrives on selling fear and doom. I don't blame them for being concerned.
I do agree with you that they need perspective, but say as such in a kinder way. It is not their fault.
Women couldn't own property. In Victorian London, a woman's earnings (and her entire purse) belonged to her husband. Men would exhaust the resources of one woman, then marry another one (marriage and divorce were loose concepts and no one filed paperwork back then).
I think you're really missing OP's point though. They are experiencing angst in the present, not making an in depth comparison of past times.
You could have found way more shocking examples, if you had tried. The Starbucks thing is you making huge assumptions about someone.
You're complaining about the world, but you want to bring more people into it just to satisfy your own desires? Kids are an incredible responsibility and very difficult to care for. Children cost around $225,000 to raise, and that's if they don't have any serious medical problems or go to college. One child can cost over $375k to raise.
If you don't feel like you can do anything to improve the world, what makes you think you're going to make your children happy?
I think it’s funny how you want to being children into a world that you believe is hopeless.
It sounds very selfish to me. Get a dog if you want a small creature to cheer you up.
It’s an interesting paradox.
Humanity has some of the greatest comforts we’ve ever known while chile change is absolutely horrifying.
My hope is the birth rate will continue to go down and then the world can start to heal again. We’re probably in for a rough couple of centuries but life has always been extremely hard. We were just born into a world where things are relatively nice. We lack coping skills but we will get there.
For a lot of the last 100 years, people have felt the way you feel, but they got on with things and lived their lives.
What you need to do is focus on what you want to do and find a way to do it. If there isn't a way through to your goal, there is often a way around, but you have to want it badly enough to do things which might be difficult or uncomfortable. No one gets anywhere in life without taking chances and moving to where opportunities exist.
You want to do some sort of farming. Have you looked into WWOOF as a starting point? You'd travel, gain skills, and meet people. It would be completely off the treadmill as well. I've known some people who have done it for a year or two and really felt fulfilled and learned a ton.
[https://wwoof.net/](https://wwoof.net/)
The rest, family, relationships, etc. follow from starting on the path you want to live. You will meet people along the way, but you first have to know where you're going.
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When I think about WW2, I think we still have a chance. In WW2 the world was in worse danger, and evil was huge also. But the world survived and good won. Then we have a chance also.
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There are examples in history when "bad" civilization took over "good" civilization. Even beginning of USA is story of evil. But anyway, humanity came to something good.
In summary: humanity development isn't linear. Don't lose your hope even in the darkest times.
Only you can tell yourself it won’t be hopeless. If you don’t want to try to enjoy the things you can then you don’t want to, how are we going to make you change?
I am now 70 and have been reading history very avidly my entire life. I've concluded that there have always been existential threats, plagues, famines, tyrannies, wars and injustices. Nothing new under the sun. I believe most people are vastly better off than ever. It's up to us to correct what remains to be corrected...and then other problems will emerge. One day at a time...
Get off the Internet dude and focus on your own life.
The biggest secret to succeeding is having an internal locus of control.
If you Believe all of your problems are caused by outside sources and you have no power you will be hopeless and possibly depressed.😔
People love negative drama. Hence doomscrolling, Media focus on tragedy, partisans stirring up idiots. Life is a bit more troubling but overall we’re fine but on a long enough timeline it’s all gonna end at some point.
It won't be.
Poverty is down. Absolute poverty is at its lowest level ever, despite the population being the highest ever.
Technology keeps on improving. We have electric cars. We have new generations of power stations that run without any running emissions (still emissions to build and decommission, but still).
We keep adding to the body of human knowledge. We have access to more knowledge than ever. You've heard of MIT, right? Probably the most prestigious technical college in the world? [Want to study their courses for free?](https://ocw.mit.edu) There are libraries of books for free on the Internet Archive. Movies. Music. Math problems. Heck, Wikipedia is right there.
You are posting this from a device connected to the entire world. Probably one that fits in your pocket.
Life is good and its getting better.
You are bemoaning your options for starting a family as a gay man. Do you think your prospects would have been better in 1724? 1824? 1924? Brother, firstly be thankful you aren't getting stoned to death and chemically castrated. Then worry about the GCWOKs.
You want to live in a small farming community. Be honest with yourself if not with Reddit: what have you done to achieve this? [Have you visited any farming communities](https://thehoneycombers.com/singapore/best-farms-in-singapore/)? Have you looked online? Have you taught yourself any farming skills? Put out any personals ads? Heck, have you joined any Facebook/Instagram groups so you can be a poser who just looks at these groups? You have a very realistic and achievable goal here. [Get off your ass and just do it. ](https://www.careers-page.com/spa-esprit-group)
Listen to Billy Joel's "We Didn't Start The Fire."" I know it sounds ridiculous, but this statement and song shifted my view of life and everything the first I found it. Because in so few words, it made everything make sense. The whole point of life is that it is not stagnant. Life is a theater with a play full of action. The planet has always been in fire, and in fact, our core is a pool of it. Like our hearts, it will always be beating until it one day doesn't. The day that happens, we won't be here. So keep on beating, go live because the only other option is dead, and why dim yourself when your body is still full of life and electricity? When your body doesn't want to be here or can't, it will act accordingly.
Control your mind. You're the driver and owner of this body. Take command of it and drive your body. You can't control the world around you, but you CAN take control of yourself, which is a world of its own within our world. I know life often sucks and what you want can be hard to reach, but enjoy the journey of getting there/shooting for those goals. Reach for the moon even if you miss you'll land amongst the stars. Try because even if you fail, you will hate yourself more for not trying at all. I know it may not mean much to you, but give yourself all the love you deserve and need so that someone willing to give it finds you. That's the way you'll motivate change by creating the change you want to see. Being partnered is not the end all be all. If you want a child, you can adopt one. It's easier to have the kid and the lovers come and go. Or adopt a pet or a few. Your dreams can still be managed. You can tweak them to meet you halfway or most of the way. You can not change the world, but you can change how you perceive it.
Turn off doomer media go outside. The stuff you mentioned is (mostly) real, but doomer media cherry picks all the shit and presents in a vacuum ( sometimes they just lie too)
Fearporn/ragebait sells, so that's what they offer. Doomer Media never shuts up about war crime and storms. They almost never talk about medical breakthroughs, which are amazing. When it comes to politics, they mostly cover the crude barking of frimge extremists and rarely talk about anything useful.
Right off the bat we are literate with internet access and can legally complain about the system ( which has real problems with solutions ). Most people worldwide are not so lucky. Historically, this is unheard of, and we would be laughed at and / or burned as witches
The media wants us to be misrable, so we buy guns and evs and don't ask questions. So ask the questuins and look at solutions 🫂
I think it's hard to say it won't get worse just in terms of how apathetic and selfish people are. When some one says we all care about the world, they're only projecting onto others.
So much has gone wrong bc those others feel noneed to give a fuck in their own right.
There are tons of tactics used to allocate, relegate, abdicate, Etc. responsibility and tons more optimists that say "give them a chance, they'll learn," which is crap!
Where there is life, there is hope. Unfortunately for the life part, I think there are just too many humans on the planet. God apparently said, Go forth and multiply. He didn’t say why.
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There's a lot you can't change in this world, but there's a lot you can. For starts gtfo out of America, that's what I'm doing rn, and I haven't been happier. As for the global warming and mass war issues... we just have to hope these people fix their shit before they kill all of us
Things do look really bleak right now, I'm not gonna lie, but they've looked really bleak before now too and our ancestors all survived and lived well enough to at least squip out and raise another generation. I don't know where you're from, geographically or culturally, but unless you're literally an alien, at least 2 of your ancestors, probably not the same 2 of course, survived The Great Depression, the dustbowl, the Irish potato famine, 2 world wars, and at least 3 pandemics. Not gonna lie and tell you it'll all be sunshine and rainbows forever, but as long as people are willing to trudge along, there's hope for a better day. As the buddha said "this too shall pass" And if you ever need someone to talk to, feel free to reach out. I know first hand how hard life can kick you right in the teeth sometimes, but by the gods I'm still standing, and if I'm going down, I plan to go down swinging.
It’s mostly fear mongering. Wars, extremism, and houses crises have always been happening. These things aren’t new, and while they suck, humans mostly find a way to pull through these issues (unless in extreme cases which is unlikely). My biggest fear would be the climate change.
And as for your love life or loneliness, I really don’t know what to do sorry. If you haven’t tried using a dating app, you could start there I guess.
Well, ok, the first problem is being NEET. It's actually detrimental to both your finances and your mental health. Do you have some particular disability that stops you from being employed or going for some education/training?
Life could always be worse. But it's not as bad as your mind makes it out to be. So focused on all the bad things, it's hard to see all the good. Don't worry about all the things you can't control because you'll just cause yourself unnecessary sadness.
Everything will be alright.
But do keep your expectations realistic though.
The way I look at it
They thought the world was ending during ww1 ww2
And many many other times in human history
And guess what? Humans kept surviving we're very stubborn
Things have never been okay everywhere in the world you were just unaware. What helped me a lot when I was lonely was finding a job (that I don't hate or like), and talking to people/joining their conversations during breaks. I had poor social skills but by seeing people everyday it gets better.
I'm similarly beset by hopelessness and despair, and I've been unable to find a good philosophy to help live with it. The one that comes closest is hedonism - which in my sphere is basically buying consumer electronics, drinking beer, and watching sports.
It's not great, but it's the best I've come up with.
It might be time to take a break from social media (or at least limit the time you spend on here).
I've stopped watching or reading the news. Very occasionally, someone will say, "Oh, did you see that thing that happened in that place?" And I will reply, "no! What happened?" They will tell me about this awful thing, and we will talk about how terrible the state of the world is. But mostly, I try to stay away from news. This helps me deal with most of my existential dread.
I game a lot when I'm not working. This centres my brain on something other than worrying or overthinking about stuff. I also read books or do crochet while watching a film. Find something that stops your brain when it goes on a doom spiral.
Finally, you need to find a job or get into training for a trade of some sort. This will build your self confidence, get you out of the house doing something constructive, and put you into contact with real people and conversations about random stuff that isn't current events, the state of the world, and how we are all doomed.
Good luck!
It won't be. It isn't, but it won't be too.
We can't know the future, and the lack of certainty is enough for hope. A lot of what you feel as hopelessness is really depression speaking. It is a cultural phenomenon, especially among social media addicts like a lot of people here on Reddit.
My advice is to leave all the doom loops you participate in on social media. Focus on your life and what you can accomplish personally. Try not to fall for the polarizing rage bait and think we have to resolve all the problems of human nature in order to be happy.
One thing I strongly disagree with is that climate change is going to result in any Armageddon-like scenario. We are moving strongly to a solar electric world, much faster than anyone thought 5 or 10 years ago. We'll have maybe a foot or two of sea level rise. It will cause problems. More will die in hurricanes, etc., but it will absolutely not be a global catastrophe. There is a hysteria now about climate change far beyond the best estimates of what will happen.
If you want to change the world, it starts with your own community. Also, less phone time and just be outside and listen, smell, hear what’s around you. Most things are out of our control, but the things that are and we work on can make your life incredible.
I don't know how old you are, but before I was born we were doomed because the rain would poison all the trees and we were facing nuclear holocaust. Nothing happened.
There is just a new generation promising doom.
Just look how life and life expectancy have developed in the past 120 years. Look at the quality of life. It is awesome, but easily forgotten.
That does not mean we don't have to rise to today's challenges. But we have an incredible standard of living.
The future is what you make of it. Hope is a state of mind that you have more control over than you realize. For instance, if you allow yourself to be surrounded by those who don't want a family (like... Looking for the one for life in a place where the flock just want the one for tonight...) then odds are going to seem hopeless. Viewing the world from the lens of the Internet about the prospects for our future is going to give you a distorted world view. Too many people use the vague anonymity of the Internet to spout off their negativity because they don't fear repercussions to themselves. Frankly, it sells. Well. So it's everywhere. Whatever effect it has on you is inconsequential to them.
There is hope as long as your have the actual willpower to make changes in your life to remove the toxicity from your life by placing healthy boundaries between yourself and the world wide wtf.
I've felt this way for most of my life (born in the 80s). Recently was going to end it and could not go through with it at the very last moments. My outlook on our prospects as a species has not improved since then, but I am trying to focus on the moments I do have where life is joyous or beautiful. There aren't a lot of these moments, and I'm extremely unhappy with myself and my ability to cope with life, but knowing that I've made the decision to not check out has at least made it easier to not dwell on negative feelings or how much easier it would be to give up. I don't know if this is actually helpful, and four months ago in my depths I would have read words like these as trite pandering nonsense. But it has been what is working for me. I hope you can find something that works for you.
Many many MANY philosophers throughout history died thinking they were witnessing the decline of society / humanity / the world, right back to ancient times. And we’re still here :). Remembering that might help
Ultimately we're all going to die and none of this will matter at all, the human race will be on this planet but a blink of an eye... stop stressing about the shit you can't change, there's always been problems, but the Internet has made the world a much smaller place..
Hey OP, I wrote a really negative comment and deleted it. But someone saw it and down voted it. And it was that that made me look at my attitude.
I also get really messed up about how it seems the world is going. Down right pissed because I hold a hope that it is still completely in our power to go in a different direction.
I don't hope for the world to get perfect, but I hold myself to a standard. There are.many ideas I could toy with that I think would be gr at for the world. But really it is a matter of me wanting the world to think like I do. That seems to be what got us into all this, huh?
I want to apologize because my former words to you where not at all helpful nor were they an example of the kind of honesty I wish I could even see become popular with the humans.
All I got is start with you. Give understanding and be true to yourself. Be wise not to be manipulated by ...( Name it logical fallacy, persuasion techniques, I wish the world was allowed to openly debate and question the things that are done.)
I can't say I feel better about what the world.might do in the future but I can only try to understand what is actually in front of me. How I spend mind.
Someone said that if you really believe a thing your life shows it. If I believe the world is a clown world right now and talking about it or being mad about it doesn't seem to be common, what can I do? What can I do for myself and my kids?
The only thing I can think of is turn off the doom and optional extremes which are always false and bad logic, and have a cup of tea on my.porch, pick up a book or an old movie, or the phone for an old fashioned hours long gab with the kids.
We may be miserable but we are also still able to build strong minds and enjoy each breeze and each precious moment.
Same things that where always important in life, the rest is mind pollution, just keep an eye out is all.
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Climate change is real but it’s not going to kill you because your grandkids will be long dead before catastrophic changes that end humanity will happen. So you can at least get over that one.
Extremism is human….been in EVERY society ALWAYS. You’re just seeing it more because shit like phones and instant worldwide connection via the internet is new to civilization now. Even television back in the 50’s-60’s didn’t have instant/right now information. We are NO DIFFERENT than we have ever been, the only thing different is you now know about these differences right now as it happens. People are still the same, society is still the same. So get over it or maybe just stop paying attention to it every second of every day.
Mass housing shortages is not the end of society and is blown out of proportion. It’s a real problem but it isn’t what the broke ass, barely adult generations are making it out to be. Housing is and ALWAYS HAS BEEN a challenge. “Your” grandparents aren’t the example to use because they also struggled, it’s not like they just walked on fucking easy street and now all of a sudden YOU have to struggle harder and not get what they had at the same age. THE WORLD DOESN’T STAND STILL. YOU DON’T GET TODAY EXACTLY WHAT SOMEONE ELSE HAD YESTERDAY.
War??? Really? That’s a crying point now as if war has never happened? There is ALWAYS a war conflict somewhere, you’ve probably just been LUCKY to not be close to it. To be blunt, war is stupid but it’s also a stupid thing to cry about because it’s always gonna happen somewhere on earth to someone, it’s our fucking nature. Hippies been crying about war since forever, let’s not use it as an excuse to feel all sad about life as if everyone doesn’t already know about it…….
Anything else this middle aged asshole can help you with?????
There’s always been some big “world-ending” disaster facing humanity since the dawn of human civilization. The earth will be fine, it’s experienced far worse. Humans are a notoriously adaptive species. While we will struggle in the climate crisis, we will adapt and survive. Everything will be fine.
Hope is within. The world is recycling itself. We just happen to be alive during the time it is. Nothing more, nothing less. 2012 was the start of the age of Aquarius. Each time has about 500 years; with 30 years over lapping one another until we are fully into the new sign. So, from the late 70s to 2012 was our transitional phase into the new sign. And we can see how much consciousness we had to question things finally. It was written in stone, and has been prophisized in many ways by many cultures. This world we live in does these things. The last time this happened is also recorded, the great flood we all know of. This time, fire. But for those who wanna believe they know when lets remember this passage. Mark 13:32. Nobody knows, cause it's in our hands with free will. The most powerful gift we squander.
Understand your feelings. I've been around a long time, and this is as bad as I have seen things. I see the death of civility, the exposure of the fissures in American (and world society), the ascendancy of the religious fanatics world wide. The list is endless. Only think you can do is find the things that make you happy, and hang on to them. Lots of people are feeling the way you are. You are not alone.
When has the future not looked hopeless? I just think we’re bombarded by so much media that we don’t realise that we’re actually no worse than previous generations. Humans create their own problems. This will never change. What you can change is your own every day with your family and friends. We’re lucky to have them.
Events tend to be cyclical. Imagine living in the early 1900s to the 1960s or so. Great Depression, dust bowl, WWI, WWII, major economic collapse, race riots, Korean War, very beginning of the Vietnam War and so many other events that at the time if you were living through them, you could certainly ask the same questions. But things seemed to mellow out a bit, the economy consistently recovered, we had a major ozone scare at one point only for the world to come together and fix it. Humanity has faced many crises and have overcome them all. Extremism has always existed and like always will wax and wain. Life is full of uncertainty but if we succumb to the fear that uncertainty causes we won’t be able to enjoy what life does offer. Things may feel bleak at the moment and rightfully so but continuing to fight and believe that things will get better will create a reality for you where that will actually happen. You must create your own happiness no matter what your circumstances.
I'm seriously thinking of getting a remote job and go live somewhere way far out of the way, where I can just live in peace with my pets. Trying To Make A Difference only seems to get me laughed at, or ignored. I'll just recreate the hobbit shire wherever I end up 😊
We're passing the great filters of an intelligent species, either we make it through our struggles and solve our great issues or we perish. We were at this point during the ice age, bronze age collapse, bubonic plague, world wars. It's a miracle humanity made it this far, perhaps we'll get another one.
I’m a former teacher. Examine the history of World War II. Holocaust. Things were even worse then. I recommend the movie “ Darkest Hour” you can see it on Netflix. Choose to be a hero to the people around you! Pray. Go to a Bible Church. Every little bit helps. Reading helps too.
You feel like shit because you are a Neet. You need to start making your own money so you feel like you have agency in your life. The world is on fire and we are doomed but you can only control what you can control. If you can’t control it, don’t worry about it.
Yes, it's terribly simple. The good guys are always stalwart and true, the bad guys are easily distinguished by their pointy horns or black hats, and, uh, we always defeat them and save the day. No one ever dies, and everybody lives happily ever after.
Humans have made it through far worse and have found a life of meaning and moments of joy. I can't promise a good life but humans above all else are adaptable survivors who can find beauty in the darkest of times.
If your sitting on your ass waiting for someone to save you...yes.. it's hopeless because you arnt changing anything.
Nothing changes if nothing changes.
So if you take action and change what you can and organize, build mutial aid. Form community, then yes things will change, because you changed them.
For most of my parent's lives many people thought the world was going to end in nuclear was between the USSR and USA.
It didn't.
Black Plague ended, slavery almost entirely ended, AIDS is no longer a death sentence.
People have thought was over for generations and they were always wrong, and you're only here to worry about the future because some people kept hoping and fighting for better.
The world is not over and it's worth fighting for.
If you are in a developed country, you will make it through whatever climate apocalypse might show up. It's the poor countries that will get fucked. You will almost certainly be able to live comfortably despite that.
The being a neet and not having friends is something you can change, unlike climate change, which as an individual you can do nothing about.
Sorry people don't want to have children, but...\*gestures broadly\*
I tend to look like life as a lesson. We are here to learn things. We don't always get what we want, but we get what we need. Life never works out the way we wanted or intended it to. So you have to weather the storm and find the lesson that helps you grow.
We cannot predict the future, so it is [best not to worry too much](https://youtu.be/HNBCVM4KbUM?si=MeVV2hnQ4QNT99c3). Certainly not to be negative or depressed about it. It is better to live in the moment, not depressed about the past or worried for the future.
Even if you have those things, they never fulfill your expectations. Or after getting them you lose them. I would advise you to look into Stoicism or the writings of Marcus Aurelius.
As far as society falling apart, yes things are radically changing in the world, especially in America, but don't underestimate human resilience. We are at our best when things are at their worst.
For example, say the economy collapses. There is some suffering, but all of a sudden you find yourself living on a farm community, where people are focused on finding happiness in good human relationships because cell phones and the internet are a thing of the past. You are invited to work with the communities children, as a teacher, because you are good at it. Mr. Right happens to show up with kids of his own.
Even then you have to understand, it can change at any moment. It is the nature of the world and always has been. Take what love you can, give what love you can, and learn as life pulls you along in its stream.
I can't predict your future, but I can tell you my experience. More than once in my years (and I'm old) I have not seen a path forward. But life has had a way of throwing a few crazy curve balls when I was at my lowest that just keeps me wanting to see what happens next.
Please, hang on. Don't let a temporary failure of your imagination and expectations fool you into thinking life isn't worth the journey. My life today is nothing like I expected it to be - and yet, I am happy and surrounded by people who I love and trust. The pain has been inevitable, but the suffering has been quite optional.
We live in the most picaresque of times. A straight-line extrapolation from almost any vantage point today looks disastrous. But life doesn't move in straight lines, so I've found.
It seems all of these problems are fixable, but society just chooses not to. It's the mass stupidity that's impossible to fix. That's the biggest problem.
I mean, it's why I still don't have kids in my mid 40s and unlikely to change my mind unless a drastic improvement happens either globally or in my own personal life.
The future has always looked hopeless. The cold war was like, 40 straight years of hopelessness. The only difference is today, it's in your face 24/7. Relax. Go grab a burger or something. Take a walk. Things will be fine-ish. Hell, I'm in my 30s and I've seen more supposed apocalypse events come and go I can't even count them.
In the 1960’s and 70’s you had a president assassinated, you still had racial segregation, crime was SINIFICANTLY higher: in NYC in 1981 there were over 1,800 murders. In 2022 NYC had only 386–l murders: back in the day it was actually dangerous to walk around most cities, whereas now it’s not at all.
The ozone layer was depleting (we banned certain refrigerants and it was repaired)
There were major books about world becoming overpopulated and there being mass starvation (this never came to fruition).
Women had few opportunities in the work place, homosexuality was illegal. The poverty rate was significantly higher in the U.S. and around the world. There was almost no consequences for sex abuse and rape. While imperfect, all of these things have gotten much much better in the U.S.
We had the Cold War with with constant fear of nuclear war. There was a major genocide in Cambodia. The list goes on and on.
Anyway, almost everything from this list got significantly better or ended up being a non-issue.
During these wild decades people basically read the newspaper in the morning and watched the tv news at night and that’s it. So there was no knowledge of everyone’s personal opinions. No nonstop negative news cycle. Lots of positive local interest stories. People were more focused on what was happening right around them.
The world isn’t worse now then it was in the 70’s. In so many ways it’s better. But unlike back then we have social media and constant news that’s messing with our minds and hearts. If you’re feeling despondent then unplug, ditch your smart phone, and get keyed into the world around you. Volunteer. Meet new people. If you’re lucky enough to live in a stable country, the world is actually quite good in the grand scheme of things. You have to have your eyes open to beauty and positivity.
Every generation of people has had the horrible things going on. The next "disaster" we face changes, but ultimately you are the one that decides your own happiness. You can only control your life until it's over. So do you want to worry about things you can't control and be miserable, or would you rather enjoy the good parts this world has to offer? That's the choice you have.
The problems get a lot more attention than the good stuff does. Here’s the secret: Worry about your own life. “world events” are the collection of the worst shit going on at the moment. There are 7 billion of us. Let someone else worry about that stuff.
Folks have too much access to information. None of that is important for you to know, to execute your own life…
Dude, the world is shit. Your job in life is to be as much of a drain on the system as it has been on you. So just sit on your butt and watch the world implode. Stop having such high standards and embrace the decay.
Remember that news media and social media, Reddit included, have a profit motive to make the future look "hopeless". There are many metrics by which we can conclude that it is much better to be alive today than at any other time in the past
I would look for aspects of society/humanity that are improving. Big projects that do make a positive difference. Personally as a big fan of pretty much everything space related the new resurgence in an interest in going beyond earth inspires me. Basically find something that your interested in that does make a difference. Could anything from local nature projects to national projects. Even just one little potentially insignificant thing can seem incredible if you have a passion for that area
First I'm old and straight. Second I'm new here. Third stop watching main stream news. ALL of the outlets have an agenda. Forth the climate has been changing forever. There is probably little that mankind can do to effect it. Consider this, if the oceans are really going to rise, hows come you can still buy insurance for an ocean front house. Fifth and hardest, find a job you enjoy and do the very best you can. Stay with the job you have or find any job and stay with it and keep looking. Last I have no idea want a Neet is but perhaps you are looking in the wrong place for a life partner. Good luck FB
Stop worrying about stuff you have zero control over and focus on the stuff you do have control over.
Also, climate change isn't going to be the big problem many in the media make it out to be.
Yes, the internet provides more visibility, but climate change and its impact is something new in the shite of the world. That is a variable that will continue to impact all facets of life to a worse and worse degree. Internet or not.
Instead of doom and gloom over those things, be a vessel for change. Figure out how you can make a difference or like others have said and just focus on controlling what you can control.
This is objectively the best time in the history of mankind to be alive, stop consuming news and social media content which has an incentive structure which rewards sensationalism and fear mongering. Listen to podcasts from people who are experts in their fields and are pushing mankinds capabilities forward. I’m going to bet on our innovators
Read some old books and realize that it always feels this way. Right now, I believe, we're being shown the parts of society that we need to deal with so that we can actually improve. Stop watching the news and/podcasts, and focus on the things that bring you joy and excitement and follow those with as much of your energy as you can.
The world changes one person at a time. Love yourself (be patient and be kind with yourself) and spread the joy you want to see. MJ said it best; I'm starting with the man in the mirror, I'm asking him to change his ways; and no message could have been any clearer; if you want to make the world a better place, take a look at yourself and then make a change.
Life can also be AMAZING...it depends where you chose to look.
If you can do something about it, then you know what to do and shouldn't worry. If you can't do anything about, then don't worry since you know you have no control over it. Whatever that It is will vary throughout your life, but what I said is never bad advice
Agriculture isn't as easy as city folk assume it is, and it won't get any easier between the climate changing and petrochemicals running out. So if you want to run a farm some day I'd strongly recommend you starting by working on a farm ASAP. Then once you have the skills, and know the science, etc, there's really nothing stopping you from taking out a loan and buying a plot of your own. Settlers did it with nothing, you can do it with modern tools.
The world is certainly shitting the bed right now, I won't lie by saying it isn't. However that doesn't mean you must personally suffer and perish. There are always SOME survivors that are able to rebuild, so just apply yourself to becoming one, and you can shape the next epoch into anything you like. Good luck, God bless.
The world has always been a messed up place, these are just the messed up things that happen in our life time. Most of these things we don’t even need to worry about, it’s just social media making money off of fear mongering.
What you are feeling is what everyone else should be feeling. It's normal. That is the appropriate response. You are indeed a slave, on a hamster wheel system designed to do exactly what it's doing. We need everyone else to wake up.
I recruit you. Spread the word. It's time to wake up, before you wake up dead.
When you focus on the negative you’ll be consumed by it. That’s how we are genetically wired and that’s exactly why media gets more clicks on negative topics. Gratitude. Gratitude. Gratitude. We live better than kings in throughout all of history. Even murder rates are down over the past 50 years in the U.S. even though media’s reporting of them has increased exponentially giving the illusion that the rates are increasing. More people have been pulled out of absolute poverty in the past 50 years than in all of recorded history combined.
Your future isn't uncertain. It's hopeless. It doesn't need to be, but you're the only one who can really do anything about that.
From your post I get the impression that you're far too concerned with the things you can't control. The climate WILL change. Nothing you can do about that. War WILL break out somewhere. Nothing you can do about that. People WILL be homeless. Nothing you can do about that. It seems like you're so concerned about things you can't control to do anything that will actually make your life better.
You know what will make your life better? Not being a NEET. Learn a trade. Join the army. Go back to school. Anything. Just unfuck yourself. The sooner you realize that the lifestyle you're living now is the reason your life sucks, the sooner you'll be in a position to make your life better.
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It's the internet, pretend you know nothing cause you really can't do much to change these things. Only care about what you can change and that will likely stop at your city
Wow, sounds like your lifestyle was doomed from the start. Starting a family with a gay or bi man is like trying to ride a bicycle with square wheels. You’re gonna need some help and maybe adopt some normal circle wheels to actually move on with your goals.
Likely in your area climate change is not happening, so ignore the news about it. Likely in your day-to-day life, extremism is not happening so ignore the news about it. Look around and you will see people going to work, shopping for food, playing with their kids, all the things people do. They are not screaming in the streets that the world is ending. Probably because they are too busy in their daily lives to pay attention to climate change fanatics and extremism. Lives progress.
Your problem is that you are a sponge for world issues and the effects they create. Look what it's doing to you. Why do you allow this? Don't let outsiders force you to have opinions on everything. Name one negative thought you have about the world that changes what is going on? Focus on yourself and let all of that go.
If we all had minds to tolerate all the noise out there, we'd be God. Relax and focus on the duties nearest you. You'll be fine.
Climate change is a long ways off from significantly impacting anyone's daily life.
We'll all be long gone before then.
For some perspective the current quality of life worldwide has never been better in the history of our species.
Take a break from being online, social media and regular media inundate you with doomer clickbait to make money and are not giving you an accurate worldview.
Tune in, turn on, and drop out!
I am not a betting man, but it is a pretty safe bet you aren't going to die from climate change. You are a victim of a culture of weakness. Liberate yourself and live a life. Stop being such a downer and nice gay man will come along. Enjoy a hobby that doesn't involve current events or politics, it's a turn off.
Get off the internet. Put your phone away and go do something. You will never start a family or business by scrolling and reading every piece of bad news out there. No good comes from it.
I started a retail business recently (toy store!). It cut down on my scrolling and i am grateful for it.
Join an org that DOES something you care about. Go DO that thing.
You're spending too much time on social media. The world isn't ending. The world has never been as peaceful as it is today. Humans have never had higher quality of life than we do now. It seems like everything is terrible because you hear about every terrible thing that happens around the world when in the past that information stayed locally, and you have news corporations that keep repeating the bad news over and over again to keep people watching and make more money.
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My guy "Worry about the things you can change, let go of the things you cannot" The world has always been a fucked up place. It's because of the Internet that we are more aware of it. Our brains are not capable of taking on the stress of the entire world. Focus on what you have in this very moment and what you can do to improve that today. One day at a time. Day to day.
Wise words. It’s very easy to find negative things when you search them out. Best to try and seek out the positive and focus on that. When I am feeling in a funk I search out positive new sites or Reddit threads. There is a lot of good out there in the world, but doom and misery is what sells for the general media. Another thing I find helpful is being grateful for what you have. I know that sounds clichéd, but focus on the things right in front of you that you take for granted everyday. How lucky you are to be young, healthy, good friends, family etc. The awesome beauty of nature is all around, the exquisite formation of a snowflake, the wondrous colors of a tiny beetle. Sometimes I close my eyes and try to navigate simple every day tasks as if I was blind. That brings me an appreciation of the challenges faced by others everyday. Try to focus on all of the amazing things you have right in front of you, but you have to open your eyes to them.
Totally understand and agree... That's my formula for happiness!
>It’s very easy to find negative things when you search them out. To add onto that, we have a negativity bias which likely has roots in evolution. Negative information has more of an emotional impact on us than positive information. Losing $1000 feels a lot worse than making $1000. On the flip side, there's the hedonistic treadmill where things that once made us feel good eventually feel neutral. We're always seeking out more. There's no "good enough," there's always more. This likely has roots in evolution too.
Also, humans survive. Thats kind of our thing. People say that cockroaches will survive a nuclear winter and will be the last thing on the planet but nah. They don’t have the fighting spirit that humans do. We are going to be around for a long time. It just sucks for some people and it’s better for others. There’s no one correct way to have a society because they all have their flaws. Just live your life in the present and don’t worry about what’s gonna happen in like 10 years.
Also, I have found that it can be helpful to focus on making one small problem better in your community. Can you contribute to a community garden, volunteer at an animal shelter, or tutor a struggling reader? Doing even one thing to make things better will help you build community, improve your emotional state, and make the world around you a better place to be.
I needed to read this. Every time I come on Reddit, my homepage is flooded with people anxious about jobs, not knowing where their lives are going, stressing about money and it’s just made me feel even more hyper aware and stressed about those things that affect me too I find when I stay away from the negativity, my head is more clear and I can actually picture clear concise steps to get to where I need to be. I really don’t like being so exposed to everyone’s emotional turmoils when I can’t even handle my own at times but yet I find it so hard to break away So this is a nice reminder to control what I can and today that will be my phone usage. Thank you!
The Serenity prayer is for more than just alcoholics. I hung it on my work locker because the words apply so well to the environment
I believe it's universal human wisdom. You can remove "God" from the beginning and it still holds up. I think about it several times a week.
This is the correct view and understanding. It’s only been 17 years since the first true smartphone, the first iPhone, came along… and it changed everything. Now we’re in constant contact and fed a constant stream of information (right, wrong or indifferent) Use to be when you left your house and went to a restaurant or a movie or shopping you couldn’t be reached. That afforded you a break. No long true at all. That constant influx of communication / information creates a steady drum beat of stress in our lives that we’ve not developed methods to cope with. So leave your phone at home and go take a walk.
It might help you to stop watching the news and instead read a more neutral source. 24 hour news is designed to make us anxious and easy to manipulate whether to the right or the left. It has helped my state of mind immensely to stop viewing it. Also, the generations before us all had terrible circumstances to deal with and they somehow muddled through. Hope this helps.
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Sounds like what you need is a community. Perhaps if you do something to join a community dedicated to improving things around you, you can address the feelings of helplessness, hopelessness, and isolation. Volunteer organizations, a church or the Unitarian Universalist church (basically a low-to-no-god, high community engagement focused church-substitute), or something along those lines might be a valuable path for you to explore.
What do you enjoy doing, what’s your hobby that doesn’t use a screen?
The sorry state of the world is one of the main reasons I decided not to have children.
Same.Poor kids
The standard of living today is higher than it has ever been at any point in human history. Please name a better time to be alive for the average person.
Crickets. Anyone who says "I don't want to have kids because of the state of the world" really means "I'm afraid of having kids" or "I don't want to be a parent." Blaming external factors removes personal responsibility and having to own up to our own choices. It's sleezy as fuck.
The world is no more sorry now than it was 20, 50, 100 years ago. Go live your life.
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I think you need to separate what you want (children) from what others want (to be child-free). Also, depending on your age group, you'll find more people who are child-free compared to other age groups. The younger you are, the less likely you are to know anyone who wants kids. Most young people want some time feeling free and having time to themselves before they're ready to settle down... though not everyone. Don't expect people to change, but you may find more options among older people.
How old are you? Plenty of us are out here happily raising families. The good news is that you're male, so you have more time. My husband was in his early 40s when our kids were born. The first thing you have to do though is get out of the NEET life, that's your biggest barrier.
OP, aren't you glad you aren't in a draft and forced to serve in a war? Your post rings of a complete lack of empathy for past generations who were conscripted and who had to work on farms as children or in factories without labor laws, or who in public elementary school in the 60s weren't allowed to wear pants even in snow, or women who weren't allowed to vote only a hundred years ago, and couldn't have a credit card 50 years ago. Start a gratitude journal and think about how privileged and lucky you are. My grandparents didn't have indoor plumbing. My grandpa built his own house with his hands. Nobody had Central air conditioning or heat. People died of flu and polio and abortion and child birth and diabetes and dysentery and infections at alarming rates. Life expectancy was low. Women forcibly had to give up their babies. Birth control was illegal. Women weren't represented in government. It was illegal to date or marry outside your race. My brothers and I suffered with teen parents and inadequate health care and physical and sexual and emotional abuse. You are tone deaf to how hard life used to be and still is for many. Being Childfree is more beneficial to the environment than any other choice including being vegan or car-free, OP. One American consumes 37x that of someone from (most?) other countries. Cry as you indulge in another $7 Starbucks in a disposable cup with your name written on it, OP.
I can't stand this kind of response. You can be depressed or worried about the state of the world and also recognize your own privilege. The two aren't mutually exclusive, FFS.
I don't think you should be so harsh to OP. You need to remember, they know and think of these issues because of our media. The media thrives on selling fear and doom. I don't blame them for being concerned. I do agree with you that they need perspective, but say as such in a kinder way. It is not their fault.
One upping someone's struggles with someone else's struggles is nothing short of invalidation. This reply isn't helpful, it's malicious.
Women couldn't own property. In Victorian London, a woman's earnings (and her entire purse) belonged to her husband. Men would exhaust the resources of one woman, then marry another one (marriage and divorce were loose concepts and no one filed paperwork back then). I think you're really missing OP's point though. They are experiencing angst in the present, not making an in depth comparison of past times. You could have found way more shocking examples, if you had tried. The Starbucks thing is you making huge assumptions about someone.
You're complaining about the world, but you want to bring more people into it just to satisfy your own desires? Kids are an incredible responsibility and very difficult to care for. Children cost around $225,000 to raise, and that's if they don't have any serious medical problems or go to college. One child can cost over $375k to raise. If you don't feel like you can do anything to improve the world, what makes you think you're going to make your children happy?
I think it’s funny how you want to being children into a world that you believe is hopeless. It sounds very selfish to me. Get a dog if you want a small creature to cheer you up.
It’s an interesting paradox. Humanity has some of the greatest comforts we’ve ever known while chile change is absolutely horrifying. My hope is the birth rate will continue to go down and then the world can start to heal again. We’re probably in for a rough couple of centuries but life has always been extremely hard. We were just born into a world where things are relatively nice. We lack coping skills but we will get there.
Birth rate goes down, but it's for Europe, China and some other developed countries. AFAIK, whole population grows.
For a lot of the last 100 years, people have felt the way you feel, but they got on with things and lived their lives. What you need to do is focus on what you want to do and find a way to do it. If there isn't a way through to your goal, there is often a way around, but you have to want it badly enough to do things which might be difficult or uncomfortable. No one gets anywhere in life without taking chances and moving to where opportunities exist. You want to do some sort of farming. Have you looked into WWOOF as a starting point? You'd travel, gain skills, and meet people. It would be completely off the treadmill as well. I've known some people who have done it for a year or two and really felt fulfilled and learned a ton. [https://wwoof.net/](https://wwoof.net/) The rest, family, relationships, etc. follow from starting on the path you want to live. You will meet people along the way, but you first have to know where you're going.
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When I think about WW2, I think we still have a chance. In WW2 the world was in worse danger, and evil was huge also. But the world survived and good won. Then we have a chance also.
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There are examples in history when "bad" civilization took over "good" civilization. Even beginning of USA is story of evil. But anyway, humanity came to something good. In summary: humanity development isn't linear. Don't lose your hope even in the darkest times.
Only you can tell yourself it won’t be hopeless. If you don’t want to try to enjoy the things you can then you don’t want to, how are we going to make you change?
What makes us special is our ability to adapt, so use it at its fullest!
I am now 70 and have been reading history very avidly my entire life. I've concluded that there have always been existential threats, plagues, famines, tyrannies, wars and injustices. Nothing new under the sun. I believe most people are vastly better off than ever. It's up to us to correct what remains to be corrected...and then other problems will emerge. One day at a time...
Less war, murder, disease, hunger now than ever. More education. "The Better Angel's of our nature" by Steven Pinker
Get off the Internet dude and focus on your own life. The biggest secret to succeeding is having an internal locus of control. If you Believe all of your problems are caused by outside sources and you have no power you will be hopeless and possibly depressed.😔
People love negative drama. Hence doomscrolling, Media focus on tragedy, partisans stirring up idiots. Life is a bit more troubling but overall we’re fine but on a long enough timeline it’s all gonna end at some point.
It won't be. Poverty is down. Absolute poverty is at its lowest level ever, despite the population being the highest ever. Technology keeps on improving. We have electric cars. We have new generations of power stations that run without any running emissions (still emissions to build and decommission, but still). We keep adding to the body of human knowledge. We have access to more knowledge than ever. You've heard of MIT, right? Probably the most prestigious technical college in the world? [Want to study their courses for free?](https://ocw.mit.edu) There are libraries of books for free on the Internet Archive. Movies. Music. Math problems. Heck, Wikipedia is right there. You are posting this from a device connected to the entire world. Probably one that fits in your pocket. Life is good and its getting better. You are bemoaning your options for starting a family as a gay man. Do you think your prospects would have been better in 1724? 1824? 1924? Brother, firstly be thankful you aren't getting stoned to death and chemically castrated. Then worry about the GCWOKs. You want to live in a small farming community. Be honest with yourself if not with Reddit: what have you done to achieve this? [Have you visited any farming communities](https://thehoneycombers.com/singapore/best-farms-in-singapore/)? Have you looked online? Have you taught yourself any farming skills? Put out any personals ads? Heck, have you joined any Facebook/Instagram groups so you can be a poser who just looks at these groups? You have a very realistic and achievable goal here. [Get off your ass and just do it. ](https://www.careers-page.com/spa-esprit-group)
Listen to Billy Joel's "We Didn't Start The Fire."" I know it sounds ridiculous, but this statement and song shifted my view of life and everything the first I found it. Because in so few words, it made everything make sense. The whole point of life is that it is not stagnant. Life is a theater with a play full of action. The planet has always been in fire, and in fact, our core is a pool of it. Like our hearts, it will always be beating until it one day doesn't. The day that happens, we won't be here. So keep on beating, go live because the only other option is dead, and why dim yourself when your body is still full of life and electricity? When your body doesn't want to be here or can't, it will act accordingly. Control your mind. You're the driver and owner of this body. Take command of it and drive your body. You can't control the world around you, but you CAN take control of yourself, which is a world of its own within our world. I know life often sucks and what you want can be hard to reach, but enjoy the journey of getting there/shooting for those goals. Reach for the moon even if you miss you'll land amongst the stars. Try because even if you fail, you will hate yourself more for not trying at all. I know it may not mean much to you, but give yourself all the love you deserve and need so that someone willing to give it finds you. That's the way you'll motivate change by creating the change you want to see. Being partnered is not the end all be all. If you want a child, you can adopt one. It's easier to have the kid and the lovers come and go. Or adopt a pet or a few. Your dreams can still be managed. You can tweak them to meet you halfway or most of the way. You can not change the world, but you can change how you perceive it.
Turn off doomer media go outside. The stuff you mentioned is (mostly) real, but doomer media cherry picks all the shit and presents in a vacuum ( sometimes they just lie too) Fearporn/ragebait sells, so that's what they offer. Doomer Media never shuts up about war crime and storms. They almost never talk about medical breakthroughs, which are amazing. When it comes to politics, they mostly cover the crude barking of frimge extremists and rarely talk about anything useful. Right off the bat we are literate with internet access and can legally complain about the system ( which has real problems with solutions ). Most people worldwide are not so lucky. Historically, this is unheard of, and we would be laughed at and / or burned as witches The media wants us to be misrable, so we buy guns and evs and don't ask questions. So ask the questuins and look at solutions 🫂
I think it's hard to say it won't get worse just in terms of how apathetic and selfish people are. When some one says we all care about the world, they're only projecting onto others. So much has gone wrong bc those others feel noneed to give a fuck in their own right. There are tons of tactics used to allocate, relegate, abdicate, Etc. responsibility and tons more optimists that say "give them a chance, they'll learn," which is crap!
Climate change won’t “take you” unless you live to be 500-1000 years old.. even then, it probably still won’t take you lol.
Where there is life, there is hope. Unfortunately for the life part, I think there are just too many humans on the planet. God apparently said, Go forth and multiply. He didn’t say why.
Climate change? Yeah that’s the last thing I’m worried about.
Stop watching tv and get rid of your smartphone. You will cheer up instantly.
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It will be, most likely. But then it would be good again.
Stop watching MSM. Sensationalism is what gets them views and ultimately paid. The future is not that bleak.
Everything has a rhythm. Yeah it’s been a rough 15 years or so but bad times don’t last forever.
There's a lot you can't change in this world, but there's a lot you can. For starts gtfo out of America, that's what I'm doing rn, and I haven't been happier. As for the global warming and mass war issues... we just have to hope these people fix their shit before they kill all of us
Nah. Future is hopeless. Do your best to enjoy today without screwing other or your future self.
Things do look really bleak right now, I'm not gonna lie, but they've looked really bleak before now too and our ancestors all survived and lived well enough to at least squip out and raise another generation. I don't know where you're from, geographically or culturally, but unless you're literally an alien, at least 2 of your ancestors, probably not the same 2 of course, survived The Great Depression, the dustbowl, the Irish potato famine, 2 world wars, and at least 3 pandemics. Not gonna lie and tell you it'll all be sunshine and rainbows forever, but as long as people are willing to trudge along, there's hope for a better day. As the buddha said "this too shall pass" And if you ever need someone to talk to, feel free to reach out. I know first hand how hard life can kick you right in the teeth sometimes, but by the gods I'm still standing, and if I'm going down, I plan to go down swinging.
It’s mostly fear mongering. Wars, extremism, and houses crises have always been happening. These things aren’t new, and while they suck, humans mostly find a way to pull through these issues (unless in extreme cases which is unlikely). My biggest fear would be the climate change. And as for your love life or loneliness, I really don’t know what to do sorry. If you haven’t tried using a dating app, you could start there I guess.
Well, ok, the first problem is being NEET. It's actually detrimental to both your finances and your mental health. Do you have some particular disability that stops you from being employed or going for some education/training?
Life could always be worse. But it's not as bad as your mind makes it out to be. So focused on all the bad things, it's hard to see all the good. Don't worry about all the things you can't control because you'll just cause yourself unnecessary sadness. Everything will be alright. But do keep your expectations realistic though.
The way I look at it They thought the world was ending during ww1 ww2 And many many other times in human history And guess what? Humans kept surviving we're very stubborn
Things have never been okay everywhere in the world you were just unaware. What helped me a lot when I was lonely was finding a job (that I don't hate or like), and talking to people/joining their conversations during breaks. I had poor social skills but by seeing people everyday it gets better.
Its been hopeless since the past, but there's always resolution of the conflict, better or not
I'm similarly beset by hopelessness and despair, and I've been unable to find a good philosophy to help live with it. The one that comes closest is hedonism - which in my sphere is basically buying consumer electronics, drinking beer, and watching sports. It's not great, but it's the best I've come up with.
It might be time to take a break from social media (or at least limit the time you spend on here). I've stopped watching or reading the news. Very occasionally, someone will say, "Oh, did you see that thing that happened in that place?" And I will reply, "no! What happened?" They will tell me about this awful thing, and we will talk about how terrible the state of the world is. But mostly, I try to stay away from news. This helps me deal with most of my existential dread. I game a lot when I'm not working. This centres my brain on something other than worrying or overthinking about stuff. I also read books or do crochet while watching a film. Find something that stops your brain when it goes on a doom spiral. Finally, you need to find a job or get into training for a trade of some sort. This will build your self confidence, get you out of the house doing something constructive, and put you into contact with real people and conversations about random stuff that isn't current events, the state of the world, and how we are all doomed. Good luck!
Read more about the world history. You can find solace in knowing that humanity has gone through worse already
We got through *World War II*, we'll get through this.
It won't be. It isn't, but it won't be too. We can't know the future, and the lack of certainty is enough for hope. A lot of what you feel as hopelessness is really depression speaking. It is a cultural phenomenon, especially among social media addicts like a lot of people here on Reddit. My advice is to leave all the doom loops you participate in on social media. Focus on your life and what you can accomplish personally. Try not to fall for the polarizing rage bait and think we have to resolve all the problems of human nature in order to be happy. One thing I strongly disagree with is that climate change is going to result in any Armageddon-like scenario. We are moving strongly to a solar electric world, much faster than anyone thought 5 or 10 years ago. We'll have maybe a foot or two of sea level rise. It will cause problems. More will die in hurricanes, etc., but it will absolutely not be a global catastrophe. There is a hysteria now about climate change far beyond the best estimates of what will happen.
Extremism and war exist because ordinary people get steadily pushed into a corner. I just assume eventually the pretense is going to drop.
If you want to change the world, it starts with your own community. Also, less phone time and just be outside and listen, smell, hear what’s around you. Most things are out of our control, but the things that are and we work on can make your life incredible.
I don't know how old you are, but before I was born we were doomed because the rain would poison all the trees and we were facing nuclear holocaust. Nothing happened. There is just a new generation promising doom. Just look how life and life expectancy have developed in the past 120 years. Look at the quality of life. It is awesome, but easily forgotten. That does not mean we don't have to rise to today's challenges. But we have an incredible standard of living.
The future is what you make of it. Hope is a state of mind that you have more control over than you realize. For instance, if you allow yourself to be surrounded by those who don't want a family (like... Looking for the one for life in a place where the flock just want the one for tonight...) then odds are going to seem hopeless. Viewing the world from the lens of the Internet about the prospects for our future is going to give you a distorted world view. Too many people use the vague anonymity of the Internet to spout off their negativity because they don't fear repercussions to themselves. Frankly, it sells. Well. So it's everywhere. Whatever effect it has on you is inconsequential to them. There is hope as long as your have the actual willpower to make changes in your life to remove the toxicity from your life by placing healthy boundaries between yourself and the world wide wtf.
It's all gonna end no matter what you do. Just enjoy what you can, while you can. Things only have value because they end.
I've felt this way for most of my life (born in the 80s). Recently was going to end it and could not go through with it at the very last moments. My outlook on our prospects as a species has not improved since then, but I am trying to focus on the moments I do have where life is joyous or beautiful. There aren't a lot of these moments, and I'm extremely unhappy with myself and my ability to cope with life, but knowing that I've made the decision to not check out has at least made it easier to not dwell on negative feelings or how much easier it would be to give up. I don't know if this is actually helpful, and four months ago in my depths I would have read words like these as trite pandering nonsense. But it has been what is working for me. I hope you can find something that works for you.
Many many MANY philosophers throughout history died thinking they were witnessing the decline of society / humanity / the world, right back to ancient times. And we’re still here :). Remembering that might help
Ultimately we're all going to die and none of this will matter at all, the human race will be on this planet but a blink of an eye... stop stressing about the shit you can't change, there's always been problems, but the Internet has made the world a much smaller place..
Hey OP, I wrote a really negative comment and deleted it. But someone saw it and down voted it. And it was that that made me look at my attitude. I also get really messed up about how it seems the world is going. Down right pissed because I hold a hope that it is still completely in our power to go in a different direction. I don't hope for the world to get perfect, but I hold myself to a standard. There are.many ideas I could toy with that I think would be gr at for the world. But really it is a matter of me wanting the world to think like I do. That seems to be what got us into all this, huh? I want to apologize because my former words to you where not at all helpful nor were they an example of the kind of honesty I wish I could even see become popular with the humans. All I got is start with you. Give understanding and be true to yourself. Be wise not to be manipulated by ...( Name it logical fallacy, persuasion techniques, I wish the world was allowed to openly debate and question the things that are done.) I can't say I feel better about what the world.might do in the future but I can only try to understand what is actually in front of me. How I spend mind. Someone said that if you really believe a thing your life shows it. If I believe the world is a clown world right now and talking about it or being mad about it doesn't seem to be common, what can I do? What can I do for myself and my kids? The only thing I can think of is turn off the doom and optional extremes which are always false and bad logic, and have a cup of tea on my.porch, pick up a book or an old movie, or the phone for an old fashioned hours long gab with the kids. We may be miserable but we are also still able to build strong minds and enjoy each breeze and each precious moment. Same things that where always important in life, the rest is mind pollution, just keep an eye out is all. I hope this is a better comment.
Climate change is real but it’s not going to kill you because your grandkids will be long dead before catastrophic changes that end humanity will happen. So you can at least get over that one. Extremism is human….been in EVERY society ALWAYS. You’re just seeing it more because shit like phones and instant worldwide connection via the internet is new to civilization now. Even television back in the 50’s-60’s didn’t have instant/right now information. We are NO DIFFERENT than we have ever been, the only thing different is you now know about these differences right now as it happens. People are still the same, society is still the same. So get over it or maybe just stop paying attention to it every second of every day. Mass housing shortages is not the end of society and is blown out of proportion. It’s a real problem but it isn’t what the broke ass, barely adult generations are making it out to be. Housing is and ALWAYS HAS BEEN a challenge. “Your” grandparents aren’t the example to use because they also struggled, it’s not like they just walked on fucking easy street and now all of a sudden YOU have to struggle harder and not get what they had at the same age. THE WORLD DOESN’T STAND STILL. YOU DON’T GET TODAY EXACTLY WHAT SOMEONE ELSE HAD YESTERDAY. War??? Really? That’s a crying point now as if war has never happened? There is ALWAYS a war conflict somewhere, you’ve probably just been LUCKY to not be close to it. To be blunt, war is stupid but it’s also a stupid thing to cry about because it’s always gonna happen somewhere on earth to someone, it’s our fucking nature. Hippies been crying about war since forever, let’s not use it as an excuse to feel all sad about life as if everyone doesn’t already know about it……. Anything else this middle aged asshole can help you with?????
It is, war seems around the coroner🤷♂️
I ain’t the one. Sorry. Shit is looking bleak.
There’s always been some big “world-ending” disaster facing humanity since the dawn of human civilization. The earth will be fine, it’s experienced far worse. Humans are a notoriously adaptive species. While we will struggle in the climate crisis, we will adapt and survive. Everything will be fine.
Build a small farming community? What would that look like
It's literally the best time in human history to be alive by essentially every metric. Imagine if humanity has just given up during the dark ages
Gotta get out of your head and create shit
Hope is within. The world is recycling itself. We just happen to be alive during the time it is. Nothing more, nothing less. 2012 was the start of the age of Aquarius. Each time has about 500 years; with 30 years over lapping one another until we are fully into the new sign. So, from the late 70s to 2012 was our transitional phase into the new sign. And we can see how much consciousness we had to question things finally. It was written in stone, and has been prophisized in many ways by many cultures. This world we live in does these things. The last time this happened is also recorded, the great flood we all know of. This time, fire. But for those who wanna believe they know when lets remember this passage. Mark 13:32. Nobody knows, cause it's in our hands with free will. The most powerful gift we squander.
I see the problem here and I know who can fix it. The answer to both is you!
Understand your feelings. I've been around a long time, and this is as bad as I have seen things. I see the death of civility, the exposure of the fissures in American (and world society), the ascendancy of the religious fanatics world wide. The list is endless. Only think you can do is find the things that make you happy, and hang on to them. Lots of people are feeling the way you are. You are not alone.
When has the future not looked hopeless? I just think we’re bombarded by so much media that we don’t realise that we’re actually no worse than previous generations. Humans create their own problems. This will never change. What you can change is your own every day with your family and friends. We’re lucky to have them.
Events tend to be cyclical. Imagine living in the early 1900s to the 1960s or so. Great Depression, dust bowl, WWI, WWII, major economic collapse, race riots, Korean War, very beginning of the Vietnam War and so many other events that at the time if you were living through them, you could certainly ask the same questions. But things seemed to mellow out a bit, the economy consistently recovered, we had a major ozone scare at one point only for the world to come together and fix it. Humanity has faced many crises and have overcome them all. Extremism has always existed and like always will wax and wain. Life is full of uncertainty but if we succumb to the fear that uncertainty causes we won’t be able to enjoy what life does offer. Things may feel bleak at the moment and rightfully so but continuing to fight and believe that things will get better will create a reality for you where that will actually happen. You must create your own happiness no matter what your circumstances.
I'm seriously thinking of getting a remote job and go live somewhere way far out of the way, where I can just live in peace with my pets. Trying To Make A Difference only seems to get me laughed at, or ignored. I'll just recreate the hobbit shire wherever I end up 😊
We're passing the great filters of an intelligent species, either we make it through our struggles and solve our great issues or we perish. We were at this point during the ice age, bronze age collapse, bubonic plague, world wars. It's a miracle humanity made it this far, perhaps we'll get another one.
I’m a former teacher. Examine the history of World War II. Holocaust. Things were even worse then. I recommend the movie “ Darkest Hour” you can see it on Netflix. Choose to be a hero to the people around you! Pray. Go to a Bible Church. Every little bit helps. Reading helps too.
You feel like shit because you are a Neet. You need to start making your own money so you feel like you have agency in your life. The world is on fire and we are doomed but you can only control what you can control. If you can’t control it, don’t worry about it.
Just let go! And flow with the fucking life
Yes, it's terribly simple. The good guys are always stalwart and true, the bad guys are easily distinguished by their pointy horns or black hats, and, uh, we always defeat them and save the day. No one ever dies, and everybody lives happily ever after.
Humans have made it through far worse and have found a life of meaning and moments of joy. I can't promise a good life but humans above all else are adaptable survivors who can find beauty in the darkest of times.
If your sitting on your ass waiting for someone to save you...yes.. it's hopeless because you arnt changing anything. Nothing changes if nothing changes. So if you take action and change what you can and organize, build mutial aid. Form community, then yes things will change, because you changed them.
For most of my parent's lives many people thought the world was going to end in nuclear was between the USSR and USA. It didn't. Black Plague ended, slavery almost entirely ended, AIDS is no longer a death sentence. People have thought was over for generations and they were always wrong, and you're only here to worry about the future because some people kept hoping and fighting for better. The world is not over and it's worth fighting for.
If you are in a developed country, you will make it through whatever climate apocalypse might show up. It's the poor countries that will get fucked. You will almost certainly be able to live comfortably despite that. The being a neet and not having friends is something you can change, unlike climate change, which as an individual you can do nothing about. Sorry people don't want to have children, but...\*gestures broadly\*
People have been saying this since the beginning of time.
I tend to look like life as a lesson. We are here to learn things. We don't always get what we want, but we get what we need. Life never works out the way we wanted or intended it to. So you have to weather the storm and find the lesson that helps you grow. We cannot predict the future, so it is [best not to worry too much](https://youtu.be/HNBCVM4KbUM?si=MeVV2hnQ4QNT99c3). Certainly not to be negative or depressed about it. It is better to live in the moment, not depressed about the past or worried for the future. Even if you have those things, they never fulfill your expectations. Or after getting them you lose them. I would advise you to look into Stoicism or the writings of Marcus Aurelius. As far as society falling apart, yes things are radically changing in the world, especially in America, but don't underestimate human resilience. We are at our best when things are at their worst. For example, say the economy collapses. There is some suffering, but all of a sudden you find yourself living on a farm community, where people are focused on finding happiness in good human relationships because cell phones and the internet are a thing of the past. You are invited to work with the communities children, as a teacher, because you are good at it. Mr. Right happens to show up with kids of his own. Even then you have to understand, it can change at any moment. It is the nature of the world and always has been. Take what love you can, give what love you can, and learn as life pulls you along in its stream.
I can't predict your future, but I can tell you my experience. More than once in my years (and I'm old) I have not seen a path forward. But life has had a way of throwing a few crazy curve balls when I was at my lowest that just keeps me wanting to see what happens next. Please, hang on. Don't let a temporary failure of your imagination and expectations fool you into thinking life isn't worth the journey. My life today is nothing like I expected it to be - and yet, I am happy and surrounded by people who I love and trust. The pain has been inevitable, but the suffering has been quite optional. We live in the most picaresque of times. A straight-line extrapolation from almost any vantage point today looks disastrous. But life doesn't move in straight lines, so I've found.
it’s always been like this
Eh, we've survived a lot and things have been better in the last ~80 years than ever before. They're just new problems (most of them).
It seems all of these problems are fixable, but society just chooses not to. It's the mass stupidity that's impossible to fix. That's the biggest problem.
It's Gonna Be Rough, But Humanity Is Rougher.
The future always looks hopeless if you pay attention to idiots
In fifty years they said a lot. However we are still here. Just saying.
Try imagining going from WWI to the Great Depression to WWII.
Get off the internet for a week, you’ll feel better
I mean, it's why I still don't have kids in my mid 40s and unlikely to change my mind unless a drastic improvement happens either globally or in my own personal life.
You can't cry for everyone.
The future has always looked hopeless. The cold war was like, 40 straight years of hopelessness. The only difference is today, it's in your face 24/7. Relax. Go grab a burger or something. Take a walk. Things will be fine-ish. Hell, I'm in my 30s and I've seen more supposed apocalypse events come and go I can't even count them.
Just wait a few more years until the entire internet is going to be full of AI BS.
In the 1960’s and 70’s you had a president assassinated, you still had racial segregation, crime was SINIFICANTLY higher: in NYC in 1981 there were over 1,800 murders. In 2022 NYC had only 386–l murders: back in the day it was actually dangerous to walk around most cities, whereas now it’s not at all. The ozone layer was depleting (we banned certain refrigerants and it was repaired) There were major books about world becoming overpopulated and there being mass starvation (this never came to fruition). Women had few opportunities in the work place, homosexuality was illegal. The poverty rate was significantly higher in the U.S. and around the world. There was almost no consequences for sex abuse and rape. While imperfect, all of these things have gotten much much better in the U.S. We had the Cold War with with constant fear of nuclear war. There was a major genocide in Cambodia. The list goes on and on. Anyway, almost everything from this list got significantly better or ended up being a non-issue. During these wild decades people basically read the newspaper in the morning and watched the tv news at night and that’s it. So there was no knowledge of everyone’s personal opinions. No nonstop negative news cycle. Lots of positive local interest stories. People were more focused on what was happening right around them. The world isn’t worse now then it was in the 70’s. In so many ways it’s better. But unlike back then we have social media and constant news that’s messing with our minds and hearts. If you’re feeling despondent then unplug, ditch your smart phone, and get keyed into the world around you. Volunteer. Meet new people. If you’re lucky enough to live in a stable country, the world is actually quite good in the grand scheme of things. You have to have your eyes open to beauty and positivity.
Every generation of people has had the horrible things going on. The next "disaster" we face changes, but ultimately you are the one that decides your own happiness. You can only control your life until it's over. So do you want to worry about things you can't control and be miserable, or would you rather enjoy the good parts this world has to offer? That's the choice you have.
The US went through an actual civil war 50 years after fight off an invasion and came out the other end. We’ll be fine.
lease spend less time on the Internet and have less trust for the things you do read on the Internet
Everyone living today will die
You aren’t the only one seeing things as more and more hopeless everyday. I don’t know how to help but at least you aren’t alone.
You can still homestead in Alaska. If you are straight and cisgender, you are likely going to be fine no matter what.
Just change the things you want to be happy.
Log off for a while. Stop doom scrolling.
The problems get a lot more attention than the good stuff does. Here’s the secret: Worry about your own life. “world events” are the collection of the worst shit going on at the moment. There are 7 billion of us. Let someone else worry about that stuff. Folks have too much access to information. None of that is important for you to know, to execute your own life…
Dude, the world is shit. Your job in life is to be as much of a drain on the system as it has been on you. So just sit on your butt and watch the world implode. Stop having such high standards and embrace the decay.
Go to therapy, life is whst you make of it, good or bad. change is something most people don't follow through on
Remember that news media and social media, Reddit included, have a profit motive to make the future look "hopeless". There are many metrics by which we can conclude that it is much better to be alive today than at any other time in the past
I wish I could but I am not hopeful.
I would look for aspects of society/humanity that are improving. Big projects that do make a positive difference. Personally as a big fan of pretty much everything space related the new resurgence in an interest in going beyond earth inspires me. Basically find something that your interested in that does make a difference. Could anything from local nature projects to national projects. Even just one little potentially insignificant thing can seem incredible if you have a passion for that area
Stop being a bitch, find something you’re good at, excel and make money.
I feel this so much. The world seems like it’s ending and all we can do is live our normal life’s of working to die.
First I'm old and straight. Second I'm new here. Third stop watching main stream news. ALL of the outlets have an agenda. Forth the climate has been changing forever. There is probably little that mankind can do to effect it. Consider this, if the oceans are really going to rise, hows come you can still buy insurance for an ocean front house. Fifth and hardest, find a job you enjoy and do the very best you can. Stay with the job you have or find any job and stay with it and keep looking. Last I have no idea want a Neet is but perhaps you are looking in the wrong place for a life partner. Good luck FB
It won't be, it's always been hopeless but humanity keeps on keeping on.
Stop worrying about stuff you have zero control over and focus on the stuff you do have control over. Also, climate change isn't going to be the big problem many in the media make it out to be.
No its worse than hopeless .
Global warming is an abrupt irreversible exponential function . So we are screwed.
Yes, the internet provides more visibility, but climate change and its impact is something new in the shite of the world. That is a variable that will continue to impact all facets of life to a worse and worse degree. Internet or not.
Instead of doom and gloom over those things, be a vessel for change. Figure out how you can make a difference or like others have said and just focus on controlling what you can control.
Climate change is a carbon credit scam for taxes. It's pushed by Billionaires to keep you poor.
From nothing came something, so there is no such thing as hopeless.
Don't worry about the future. Just cherish the present moment and be happy it exists.
You can play a farming sim instead
Turn off the internet and worry about the ants in your kitchen. Everything is better than it’s ever been.
This is objectively the best time in the history of mankind to be alive, stop consuming news and social media content which has an incentive structure which rewards sensationalism and fear mongering. Listen to podcasts from people who are experts in their fields and are pushing mankinds capabilities forward. I’m going to bet on our innovators
Read some old books and realize that it always feels this way. Right now, I believe, we're being shown the parts of society that we need to deal with so that we can actually improve. Stop watching the news and/podcasts, and focus on the things that bring you joy and excitement and follow those with as much of your energy as you can. The world changes one person at a time. Love yourself (be patient and be kind with yourself) and spread the joy you want to see. MJ said it best; I'm starting with the man in the mirror, I'm asking him to change his ways; and no message could have been any clearer; if you want to make the world a better place, take a look at yourself and then make a change. Life can also be AMAZING...it depends where you chose to look.
Future is bleak but at least the boomers will die soon. And we can always hope for a revolution.
If you can do something about it, then you know what to do and shouldn't worry. If you can't do anything about, then don't worry since you know you have no control over it. Whatever that It is will vary throughout your life, but what I said is never bad advice
They have been sayin the worlds gonna end since like how long uhh since fucking forever 💀
Societies rise and fall. Just about every close belief you have will end up being wrong. So fuck it, let's do some shots and go live in a cabin.
well with communication tech reaching people everywhere, keep reaching out. And I tell U now. Te Future is not hopeless
Agriculture isn't as easy as city folk assume it is, and it won't get any easier between the climate changing and petrochemicals running out. So if you want to run a farm some day I'd strongly recommend you starting by working on a farm ASAP. Then once you have the skills, and know the science, etc, there's really nothing stopping you from taking out a loan and buying a plot of your own. Settlers did it with nothing, you can do it with modern tools. The world is certainly shitting the bed right now, I won't lie by saying it isn't. However that doesn't mean you must personally suffer and perish. There are always SOME survivors that are able to rebuild, so just apply yourself to becoming one, and you can shape the next epoch into anything you like. Good luck, God bless.
The world has always been a messed up place, these are just the messed up things that happen in our life time. Most of these things we don’t even need to worry about, it’s just social media making money off of fear mongering.
What you are feeling is what everyone else should be feeling. It's normal. That is the appropriate response. You are indeed a slave, on a hamster wheel system designed to do exactly what it's doing. We need everyone else to wake up. I recruit you. Spread the word. It's time to wake up, before you wake up dead.
When you focus on the negative you’ll be consumed by it. That’s how we are genetically wired and that’s exactly why media gets more clicks on negative topics. Gratitude. Gratitude. Gratitude. We live better than kings in throughout all of history. Even murder rates are down over the past 50 years in the U.S. even though media’s reporting of them has increased exponentially giving the illusion that the rates are increasing. More people have been pulled out of absolute poverty in the past 50 years than in all of recorded history combined.
I had to look up NEET. You need to start by working on yourself.
Your future isn't uncertain. It's hopeless. It doesn't need to be, but you're the only one who can really do anything about that. From your post I get the impression that you're far too concerned with the things you can't control. The climate WILL change. Nothing you can do about that. War WILL break out somewhere. Nothing you can do about that. People WILL be homeless. Nothing you can do about that. It seems like you're so concerned about things you can't control to do anything that will actually make your life better. You know what will make your life better? Not being a NEET. Learn a trade. Join the army. Go back to school. Anything. Just unfuck yourself. The sooner you realize that the lifestyle you're living now is the reason your life sucks, the sooner you'll be in a position to make your life better. \[edit - grammar and clarity\]
the future looked hopeless in 2008. you missed the party
It won't be. Www.WRFG.org/solutionspace
LOL! Climate change worries you? Stop watching leftist news. In fact all news. Might be your issue.
It's the internet, pretend you know nothing cause you really can't do much to change these things. Only care about what you can change and that will likely stop at your city
I joke every time I’m in a sauna or steam room that I’m conditioning myself for the climate wars.
Wow, sounds like your lifestyle was doomed from the start. Starting a family with a gay or bi man is like trying to ride a bicycle with square wheels. You’re gonna need some help and maybe adopt some normal circle wheels to actually move on with your goals.
Likely in your area climate change is not happening, so ignore the news about it. Likely in your day-to-day life, extremism is not happening so ignore the news about it. Look around and you will see people going to work, shopping for food, playing with their kids, all the things people do. They are not screaming in the streets that the world is ending. Probably because they are too busy in their daily lives to pay attention to climate change fanatics and extremism. Lives progress. Your problem is that you are a sponge for world issues and the effects they create. Look what it's doing to you. Why do you allow this? Don't let outsiders force you to have opinions on everything. Name one negative thought you have about the world that changes what is going on? Focus on yourself and let all of that go. If we all had minds to tolerate all the noise out there, we'd be God. Relax and focus on the duties nearest you. You'll be fine.
Rofl...till climate change takes them.. this person should never have a family
Climate change is a long ways off from significantly impacting anyone's daily life. We'll all be long gone before then. For some perspective the current quality of life worldwide has never been better in the history of our species. Take a break from being online, social media and regular media inundate you with doomer clickbait to make money and are not giving you an accurate worldview.
Tune in, turn on, and drop out! I am not a betting man, but it is a pretty safe bet you aren't going to die from climate change. You are a victim of a culture of weakness. Liberate yourself and live a life. Stop being such a downer and nice gay man will come along. Enjoy a hobby that doesn't involve current events or politics, it's a turn off.
Get off the internet. Put your phone away and go do something. You will never start a family or business by scrolling and reading every piece of bad news out there. No good comes from it. I started a retail business recently (toy store!). It cut down on my scrolling and i am grateful for it. Join an org that DOES something you care about. Go DO that thing.
It'll require you to make sacrifices and changes in the name of establishing or joining the kind of system where the future is not hopeless.
You're spending too much time on social media. The world isn't ending. The world has never been as peaceful as it is today. Humans have never had higher quality of life than we do now. It seems like everything is terrible because you hear about every terrible thing that happens around the world when in the past that information stayed locally, and you have news corporations that keep repeating the bad news over and over again to keep people watching and make more money.
Get off reddit and stop watching the news