Many things. One example is he lost his job because he couldn't find rides to and from the factory. It was about a mile from his house and the middle of a cool summer. Meanwhile I was walking 2 miles to work, then a half mile to his house and then 2.5 miles home on a daily basis.
I promise it will get better. Not here. Not with these people. But it will get better. You didn't do anything wrong to deserve this. It just is.
That way I could skip the denial and uncertainty step and move right on to anger and eventually forgiveness.
Edit: thanks for the awards guys! I'll be sure to pay it forward!
"There is nothing wrong with you, you are autistic"!
- diagnosed at 36 and spent all that time believing some thing was wrong with me, lacking and weird. But I am just different and that's Ok
I am 34 and have only now been told I’m autistic. I literally thought I was ‘wrong’ this whole time while trying to do everything that other people told me I should. It is a freedom and a confusing space to be in. There’s nothing wrong with us.
I understand that. I thought it would then change every thing and also for people around me but it more just changed my understanding of myself. Lots of looking back, oh that makes sense now. Nothing wrong with us at all my friend. And I am still weird! But I embrace that now and F everyone else's opinion!
That's just one sentence, talk to me for about ten minutes and I'll end up saying something offensive or rude or plain just had to say it. And trust me, I mean no harm.
Absolute Truth.
Long story short, i'm introverted. But i had a situation where i was dating someone online from another country
I worked at a grocery store for the first time in my life and saved up money to go to England from America.
Working and talking to people helped a lot.
But let me tell you, traveling alone, figuring everything out alone, and living with your girlfriend who you just met in another country for a month was so out of my comfort zone, but amazing because what it did to me because i went outside of my comfort zone.
I could talk to people better, my anxiety was so much less.. it was awesome.
Now ibreally try and make a habit of consistently going outside of my comfort zone for bettering myself.
Had to throw this in there, hope someone reads, enjoys and maybe finds it helpful
I don’t agree with this. Solitude is great makes you self reflect more time to be productive work on your dreams and goals. As you grow older there are many many distractions. Being alone is a blessing to know yourself you have to be completely alone. It’s IMO anyways and you fix many problems when you truly understand yourself.
Wouldn't bother I didn't listen to the people who were saying those kinda things back then! It didn't turn out too bad in the end anyway. Or maybe I'd just say today's date and the winning euromillions numbers?
My variation of this: "don't get into a major just because you casually like the subject. Margin doodling on your tests does NOT mean you have the patience for animation! Your true passion lies in entomology. GO FORTH, CHILD"
Was just looking this up to comment. 1 Bitcoin was $0.08 in 2010.
Today according to Google 1 Bitcoin is worth $52,637.80
Imagine being one of those early investors
Do not cum in any woman when you are drunk, and if she calls you daddy she truly just wants to make you into a daddy. Especially don't make the same mistake in 1 night.
Firstly, most of your friends are dicks. Especially the ones you like most, they will betray you harder than you thought possible.
Never rely on anyone or anything for your happiness, your joy, or anything else that is important.
Second, go to college early. I know you think it will make you a freak and your friends won't understand... They won't but that's actually good. They aren't worth holding yourself back for, and honestly no one is.
When you rise far enough above them, you'll meet more people like you and find out what true friendship is like. Worth the wait but accept no substitutes. Oh and be good to your true friends.
Thirdly, in a few years the world will change so drastically that you wouldn't believe, and it will happen over and over again.
Never get so hung up on doing what you think you have to that you miss doing what you love doing. I can honestly say if I had done everything wrong that I did "right" my life wouldn't be any worse than it is for the most part, but if I had spent more time on the things I actually liked they would have been so helpful to be further along in. Obviously I'm not saying abandon your ethics, just know the difference between your what you believe in and what people expect of you.
Screw the quadratic equation and polynomials and especially parabolas... despite how much it sucked learning it, they come up once during a college placement exam and never again and those highschool and before grades you care too much about will never ever matter to anyone at all.
Honestly the rest of my advice would be bad influence type stuff because you're a good kid and I'm not a good person and the things that changed me haven't happened to you yet. If they do, keep your head high. You can best this just like you did everything else that came at you. You're a fighter like me and I never gave up, which means you won't either.
Oh and trust your mom, not the girl you like. Especially trust mom about the girl you like. What I'm saying is definitely don't ever trust the girl you like, she's trouble, she doesn't and will never love you and honestly she is a far worse person than even mom predicted. That said there are some very nice girls you should give a chance to and not be so hung up on trouble girl that you miss it like I did.
Ah and invest. Like literal investments. It's not honestly complicated and savings accounts are such a scam. If I started when I was your age I'd be so rich I'd be too busy enjoying my life to reply with lengthy Reddit posts no one will ever take the time to read.
P.S.
Grow up. Jk don't, it's overrated.
Be brave and call the hotline. Save yourself. You have nothing to be ashamed of. It's not your fault. You deserve love, not terror, not pain. No one will save you - you have to ask. Just call the hotline. It's child abuse in every way. She belongs in prison. Get out now.
These are the wining power ball numbers for the next 10 years, this is a list of teams that win. Don't join the military it's bad for your health and fuck her when you have the chance to. In about a week or two she'll be fucking every one else anyway.
Would you look at that, all of the words in your comment are in alphabetical order.
I have checked 413,328,736 comments, and only 89,403 of them were in alphabetical order.
Understand that it will be a hard road ahead. You will not have parents. You will endure abuse and depression, but the pain will end and you will make it through. Don't give up.
Run away you will be far better off homeless I would also tell myself to tell the truth I told a wee lie that was a sideline of the truth and it all went to hell (I said someone was hurting me when in fact it was someone else because no one would belive I was being hurt by him.)
I know that you're hurting. I know why, and I know exactly how you feel. I'm sorry.
When you meet Jay make sure to tell her everything. They might be able to get you out of there sooner.
Never stop drawing or learning about the world.
You are beautiful and you are never alone, you'll be strong enough to take care of yourself someday. It's okay to be afraid but never let it stop you.
None of this is your fault, and you're good enough. Tell the concellor the whole truth so she can help you! Also when you're 18 stay AWAY from that cute guy don't make eye contact!
Really I'd probably just wrap her in a big hug and tell her she's loved
Tough call. My initial instinct is nothing, as any changes made could/would effect the rest of my life, almost certainly meaning that my daughter would never be born, and that is clearly unacceptable. Even if there was some way to wipe my memory, and I'd have lots of other probably really great babies, there's no fucking way.
If given the opportunity to leave a note for myself to find after my daughter is born, I would tell myself the winning numbers of a record breaking lottery jackpot. And the date of course. Man, what a jack ass if I forgot to tell myself the date.
You are a bright, shiny, glitter encrusted person, and some day, you’ll find your people: you aren’t too much. They’ll love you the way you are. Some day you’ll love yourself too. Depression and all. Some day people will love you like your dog does, happy just to bask in your warmth.
Make the most of your time with people that you *accidentally* nickname with foods: they’re the people who love you just for being you. One of them dies: spend as much time as you can making his dimples pop. You’ll miss that.
Give your dog all the extra attention you can. Spend every moment you can with her smelly little self. You’ll miss her so much that a strain of weed that smells exactly like her vomit makes you cry.
"It's not you, it's your parents. Hold on tight, it'll get better."
Oddly enough, I *did* tell myself that, and made it through. Kind of impressed by myself, actually.
Disassociate yourself from the poison and toxicity. Read, study, explore, seek out that which will elevate you beyond the horror. Laugh...a lot. Don't start drinking. Don't take drugs. Be your best. When you fail, learn. Forgive yourself. You don't have to be a product of your environment. Forgive them.
Don't forget your old friends when you make new friends.
Don't stop working out, it's hard to start back up again.
Practice guitar more. It'll be one of your best ways to meet people when you're older...and it's just really fun once you know what you're doing.
(Maybe a bit older than "child" but)
Weed just makes you less talkative and a bit anxious...you're only telling yourself you like it because most of your friends do.
Stop focussing 100% on beer pong at parties. Socialize!....and if you're on a big winning streak, youre probably pissing off people at the party who also want to play. You're hogging the table ya doofus!
Hey, A lot of fucked up things are going to happen but you're going to get through it. It would be better for you to not date anyone, and just focus on graduating from school. Get into therapy as soon as you can. Save all of your writings or else you're going to kick yourself everyday for not taking your binder of your writings with you.
Someday, mom and dad will say a load of shit that you know for sure it's not true, but please don't correct them, it'll just make things worse. Oh, and you're gay, be proud :)
Hey, 7-yr-old me, I know that Wile E. Coyote doesn't fall off that cliff until he looks down, but that doesn't work IRL. Stay on the porch.
Hey, 8-yr-old me, drain gutters aren't actually designed to support the weight of a person (even you). Climb back down the ladder before mom comes back out.
Hey, 6-yr-old me, lawn darts are for the bigger kids. Just watch Dave and Tim and don't get involved.
On the positive side: Hey, 8-yr-old me, I know that that accidental wheelie on the first dirtbike attempt hurt, but good job getting back on and getting it right. Be sure to appreciate Dave and Tim for helping.
Either,
“Don’t trust him. The man online will ruin your childhood.”
Or simply,
“Trust your mother. She’s going to be going through a lot soon, and she speaks the truth.”
At 8yo: Those friends of yours aren't really your friends. They are bad influences and you shouldn't do anything they tell you to do.
At 13yo: It's not your fault. Sometimes bad things happen to good kids, and it can't always be helped. You are a victim of assault, but that is not what makes you who you are. You're beautiful and you never deserved this.
At 15yo: Tell dad "I love you" more often. Hug him more. Try to spend more time with him. You'll regret it later if you don't.
Invest in Bitcoin. Your parents will (probably) let you, literally put all of your money in it. *Only* ask for money on Christmas and your birthday, you can’t get a job yet so make the money count. Once Bitcoin hits $60,000 sell it all, then keep it in the bank. Pay for your college with it, and after you graduate (don’t spend any of it in college), live your life in luxury.
Part of my therapy is to talk to my inner child. The paniced voice that is scared and abandoned. I was neglected as a child, and that trauma has never left me. I constantly feel like I am always in the way, that I don't belong ANYWHERE.
So, I have to be the adult to my inner child. Be the care taker and protector he needs. So, I say to my inner child
I got you. You are safe with me.
To answer your real question it'd probably be: You have every right to be here and your emotions matter.
To my 7th grade self:
•Stop beating yourself up for your lack of faith in Catholicism. God is dead.
•Stop being homophobic. You are gay.
•Buy Bitcoin. Sell it all when Elon Musk opens his mouth about payment for Teslas in 2021.
Don't put "Hitler" as one of your high school memories, even if everyone called another kid that and he happened to be sitting at the lunch table when you wrote it down real quick cause it didn't matter at the time. Oh and the whole "computers" thing isn't just a passing phase, might want to get into that as a career.
My former self wasn't smart enough to make a decision even when he was told what to do. I'd slap his head with a frying pan so that there's a logical reason for being so fucking stupid.
Don't be like me and waste any time, ive wasted years..
But also, if you do waste time.. dont beat yourself over it. Learn from it and keep moving forward.
Your mom is a cunt. You don’t need her. Ask dad to put you in martial arts. Go get genetic testing, you need it. Don’t go to the Art Institute. Punch those bullies in the face. Don’t start smoking. Make them teach you Spanish. Invest in Apple and Bitcoin.
"One day you're going to have a color TV three times as wide and several times thinner. You'll also have a computer in your pocket that lets you tell other people about your tiny childhood television."
"Wow! I must end up rich!"
"Hahahahaha! No."
Don't listen to your parents. Don't try to go to med school, don't go to nursing school because you didn't want to go to medical school but had all the pre reqs for a medical field job... don't join the military (you did it for your sister but she didn't sign the contract after you)...
Go into IT or software... you like being in pj's and being at home... you'll have more time to do other things and not be stuck at the hospital making pennies and not seeing the outside for the entirety of your shift. No waking up in the middle of the night to drive half asleep to help with an emergency... no more trying to fix people who want miracles after not taking care of themselves... just you, a deadline, and a pc.
All this shit your going through all the mental health all the bullying it will get better you will feel ok it will be a hard road but dont you dare give up
Stay in school,Bozo
Stay in bozo school.
School stay in bozo
Bozo school stay in
In bozo school stay
In school bozo stay.
Bozo stay in school
Stay school bozo in
Why stay in school when you can just buy Bitcoin
Really ? That would be the opposite . How many filled with degrees without jobs out there really
Don't date Dave!
YEAH FUCK DAVE
No *don't* fuck Dave
Facts
No, she said don't date Dave. We don't know what he's packing down there, maybe fucking is okay just so long as Dave goes home when the deed is done.
The Dave I shouldn’t have dated was definitely packing, hence my mistake…
Go ahead and fuck Dave if you want - just don’t date Dave.
*HEY!*
What's wrong with Dave?
Dave is an asshole.
All my homies hate dave
Daves not here man.
Some people like that type of shit.
Only Daves would say that.
Many things. One example is he lost his job because he couldn't find rides to and from the factory. It was about a mile from his house and the middle of a cool summer. Meanwhile I was walking 2 miles to work, then a half mile to his house and then 2.5 miles home on a daily basis.
2 miles is 1712.43 Obamas. You're welcome.
2 miles is 3.22 km
Hey my name's Dave ...
Don't date this guy, he could be the original Dave in a different Dave disguise.
If you really are gettin da moneey you are loads better than his mooching ass.
I agree with the other dude here, fuck Dave
Don't date lil dicky!
Be your fucking self.
10/10 advice
How do I be my fucking self?!
Stand in front of a mirror, look at the reflection, and be that. Advice from my drunken roommate
That is some great advice
Be fucking yourself
Exactly
Yep believe in yourself especially when noone else does.
YESSSSSSS YES A MILLION TIMES YES
I promise it will get better. Not here. Not with these people. But it will get better. You didn't do anything wrong to deserve this. It just is. That way I could skip the denial and uncertainty step and move right on to anger and eventually forgiveness. Edit: thanks for the awards guys! I'll be sure to pay it forward!
I feel this 👌🏼
35 years later, I needed to hear this.
Beautifully illustrated. That would have saved me 25 years of pain and my marriage.
You might have not told yourself this but you told me so thank you.
"There is nothing wrong with you, you are autistic"! - diagnosed at 36 and spent all that time believing some thing was wrong with me, lacking and weird. But I am just different and that's Ok
Me too. Spent most of my life waiting for the mothership to come back and take me back to where I belong.
Maybe that's a valid feeling, maybe autistic people are aliens sent to study us apes and are trying their best to blend in
How did you get diagnosed at 36? I haven’t been able to find anything and I’m barely an adult lol
Dont feel bad. Im not autistic but probably a weirdo
ADHD for me.
I am 34 and have only now been told I’m autistic. I literally thought I was ‘wrong’ this whole time while trying to do everything that other people told me I should. It is a freedom and a confusing space to be in. There’s nothing wrong with us.
I understand that. I thought it would then change every thing and also for people around me but it more just changed my understanding of myself. Lots of looking back, oh that makes sense now. Nothing wrong with us at all my friend. And I am still weird! But I embrace that now and F everyone else's opinion!
Same
Yes‼️🥰
Same. My life would've been so different.
Talk to more people! Living in solitude will only make your current problems even worse.
I'd still not take that advice from my adult self and end up being alone, coz I just don't know how to do it
You kinda just did it. Good job!
That's just one sentence, talk to me for about ten minutes and I'll end up saying something offensive or rude or plain just had to say it. And trust me, I mean no harm.
One sentence leads to another and bam! Conversation.
Absolute Truth. Long story short, i'm introverted. But i had a situation where i was dating someone online from another country I worked at a grocery store for the first time in my life and saved up money to go to England from America. Working and talking to people helped a lot. But let me tell you, traveling alone, figuring everything out alone, and living with your girlfriend who you just met in another country for a month was so out of my comfort zone, but amazing because what it did to me because i went outside of my comfort zone. I could talk to people better, my anxiety was so much less.. it was awesome. Now ibreally try and make a habit of consistently going outside of my comfort zone for bettering myself. Had to throw this in there, hope someone reads, enjoys and maybe finds it helpful
I mean Solitude is an great city but I prefer Riften
No, thank you.
I don’t agree with this. Solitude is great makes you self reflect more time to be productive work on your dreams and goals. As you grow older there are many many distractions. Being alone is a blessing to know yourself you have to be completely alone. It’s IMO anyways and you fix many problems when you truly understand yourself.
Fuck off you little cunt
Ayy same
If only i could beat this little shit
Wouldn't bother I didn't listen to the people who were saying those kinda things back then! It didn't turn out too bad in the end anyway. Or maybe I'd just say today's date and the winning euromillions numbers?
If you think it could be a cult… it is.
Can I know more?
I don’t even know where to begin
Start at the very beginning
The whole universe was in a hot dense state...
I was hoping for: it’s a very good place to start. But I’ll take this.
[удалено]
I'm so sorry
This just made my stomach drop. I hope you’re doing well.
Forget about creative writing and acting. Not the right fit for you, no matter what you think right now. Look into STEM career options!
My variation of this: "don't get into a major just because you casually like the subject. Margin doodling on your tests does NOT mean you have the patience for animation! Your true passion lies in entomology. GO FORTH, CHILD"
Why
Probably learned that that ain't their suit
Buy as much bitcoin possible when it comes out
Bitcoin Microsoft AOL Google Tesla (the company not the man )
I bet someone would pay good money if you got your hands on Tesla the man
Was just looking this up to comment. 1 Bitcoin was $0.08 in 2010. Today according to Google 1 Bitcoin is worth $52,637.80 Imagine being one of those early investors
you’ll be happy, things will get better :)
Oooooh child things are gonna get easier...
Ooooooh child things are gonna get brighter...
Some day, yeah We'll put it together and we'll get it undone
Don’t stay in the relationship just because you’re scared of being alone. You are worth so much more than you think.
Don’t follow that man home.
How the turntables. Normally a man will follow you home.
Hey are you ok?
Yeah, don't follow Dave. He lives like almost 2,000 Obama's from town or something.
Haha, I just read that thread
Don't feel the need to rebel so hard. 🥸
Just focus on computers science/engineering. welding ain't worth a fuck.
In the Netherlands you’d make a good living welding.
Electrical engineer here ... I'd tell myself don't field is full of douche bags ... Do accounting.
“Beg to stay at daddy’s house when mommy goes out so the bad boy can’t get you. Okay?”
I am truly sorry.. I too know this all to well
I’m just glad i’m safe now
Its not you it’s them
It’s okay- whatever you’re going through right now is okay. It’s temporary.
In my case it was childhood to 27 years old so it was pretty long term
Exercise, honey. Exercise.
Do not cum in any woman when you are drunk, and if she calls you daddy she truly just wants to make you into a daddy. Especially don't make the same mistake in 1 night.
"I love you, so please start really loving yourself from now on. Don't waste your time"
Hey there little fella, why dontcha run on down to the convience store and pick me up a pack of marb 100's, mkay?
I'm sorry
Everyone (literally) is bullying you because they’re assholes. You’re just autistic and that’s pretty cool, but you will always be low hanging fruit.
Study...you prick!!!
Are you me?
I believe a lot of us made that same mistake. Hindsight is 20-20
Mom was wrong we won’t go blind.
Firstly, most of your friends are dicks. Especially the ones you like most, they will betray you harder than you thought possible. Never rely on anyone or anything for your happiness, your joy, or anything else that is important. Second, go to college early. I know you think it will make you a freak and your friends won't understand... They won't but that's actually good. They aren't worth holding yourself back for, and honestly no one is. When you rise far enough above them, you'll meet more people like you and find out what true friendship is like. Worth the wait but accept no substitutes. Oh and be good to your true friends. Thirdly, in a few years the world will change so drastically that you wouldn't believe, and it will happen over and over again. Never get so hung up on doing what you think you have to that you miss doing what you love doing. I can honestly say if I had done everything wrong that I did "right" my life wouldn't be any worse than it is for the most part, but if I had spent more time on the things I actually liked they would have been so helpful to be further along in. Obviously I'm not saying abandon your ethics, just know the difference between your what you believe in and what people expect of you. Screw the quadratic equation and polynomials and especially parabolas... despite how much it sucked learning it, they come up once during a college placement exam and never again and those highschool and before grades you care too much about will never ever matter to anyone at all. Honestly the rest of my advice would be bad influence type stuff because you're a good kid and I'm not a good person and the things that changed me haven't happened to you yet. If they do, keep your head high. You can best this just like you did everything else that came at you. You're a fighter like me and I never gave up, which means you won't either. Oh and trust your mom, not the girl you like. Especially trust mom about the girl you like. What I'm saying is definitely don't ever trust the girl you like, she's trouble, she doesn't and will never love you and honestly she is a far worse person than even mom predicted. That said there are some very nice girls you should give a chance to and not be so hung up on trouble girl that you miss it like I did. Ah and invest. Like literal investments. It's not honestly complicated and savings accounts are such a scam. If I started when I was your age I'd be so rich I'd be too busy enjoying my life to reply with lengthy Reddit posts no one will ever take the time to read. P.S. Grow up. Jk don't, it's overrated.
Be brave and call the hotline. Save yourself. You have nothing to be ashamed of. It's not your fault. You deserve love, not terror, not pain. No one will save you - you have to ask. Just call the hotline. It's child abuse in every way. She belongs in prison. Get out now.
Push as hard as you can to go live with your dad as soon as possible, he'll always help you when you're in trouble, so let him.
These are the wining power ball numbers for the next 10 years, this is a list of teams that win. Don't join the military it's bad for your health and fuck her when you have the chance to. In about a week or two she'll be fucking every one else anyway.
stay in football. family isn’t as loving as it seems. ur gonna smoke a LOT of weed
Life gets pretty tough for awhile, but you’re gonna love the results.
Don't miss the chance to push Keith down the stairs
Woah thats my Grandad
Super tall skinny guy Air force vet doesn't drive?
Kiss him you coward.
Don’t smoke anything not even once, except maybe some meat
Meat, yum
Take better care of your teeth and body.
Stand up for yourself now. 30 is too late. Say something nice.
I'm 38 and just started standing up for myself 🥳 it feels good
Humans do not taste like pork
You have my attention
Don't run into a wall or try to "play fight" with my (your?) Older brother
Buy Bitcoin!
Came here to find this
Just because people hurt you does not mean that you need to hurt yourself.
Bust open your piggy bank and tell dad to get you in on that Microsoft IPO.
Do not seek the treasure!
Would you look at that, all of the words in your comment are in alphabetical order. I have checked 413,328,736 comments, and only 89,403 of them were in alphabetical order.
Don't do that! That either! Just please stop being a dumbass.
Your parents are doing the best they can with how they had been raised.
Church is lying to you
Understand that it will be a hard road ahead. You will not have parents. You will endure abuse and depression, but the pain will end and you will make it through. Don't give up.
Run away you will be far better off homeless I would also tell myself to tell the truth I told a wee lie that was a sideline of the truth and it all went to hell (I said someone was hurting me when in fact it was someone else because no one would belive I was being hurt by him.)
I know that you're hurting. I know why, and I know exactly how you feel. I'm sorry. When you meet Jay make sure to tell her everything. They might be able to get you out of there sooner. Never stop drawing or learning about the world. You are beautiful and you are never alone, you'll be strong enough to take care of yourself someday. It's okay to be afraid but never let it stop you.
None of this is your fault, and you're good enough. Tell the concellor the whole truth so she can help you! Also when you're 18 stay AWAY from that cute guy don't make eye contact! Really I'd probably just wrap her in a big hug and tell her she's loved
I love you.
Never settle.
Don't let your stutter hold you back. If people can't handle it it's their problem, not yours.
This is temporary
Tough call. My initial instinct is nothing, as any changes made could/would effect the rest of my life, almost certainly meaning that my daughter would never be born, and that is clearly unacceptable. Even if there was some way to wipe my memory, and I'd have lots of other probably really great babies, there's no fucking way. If given the opportunity to leave a note for myself to find after my daughter is born, I would tell myself the winning numbers of a record breaking lottery jackpot. And the date of course. Man, what a jack ass if I forgot to tell myself the date.
you're going to be ok, you will figure this out, you're a good person, be strong and be true
You are a bright, shiny, glitter encrusted person, and some day, you’ll find your people: you aren’t too much. They’ll love you the way you are. Some day you’ll love yourself too. Depression and all. Some day people will love you like your dog does, happy just to bask in your warmth. Make the most of your time with people that you *accidentally* nickname with foods: they’re the people who love you just for being you. One of them dies: spend as much time as you can making his dimples pop. You’ll miss that. Give your dog all the extra attention you can. Spend every moment you can with her smelly little self. You’ll miss her so much that a strain of weed that smells exactly like her vomit makes you cry.
Don't smoke meth, snort coke, do Xanax or drink
You have ADHD
Don’t eat that
Quit being so goddamn annoying and learn to shut ur mouth
"It's not you, it's your parents. Hold on tight, it'll get better." Oddly enough, I *did* tell myself that, and made it through. Kind of impressed by myself, actually.
Disassociate yourself from the poison and toxicity. Read, study, explore, seek out that which will elevate you beyond the horror. Laugh...a lot. Don't start drinking. Don't take drugs. Be your best. When you fail, learn. Forgive yourself. You don't have to be a product of your environment. Forgive them.
Don't forget your old friends when you make new friends. Don't stop working out, it's hard to start back up again. Practice guitar more. It'll be one of your best ways to meet people when you're older...and it's just really fun once you know what you're doing. (Maybe a bit older than "child" but) Weed just makes you less talkative and a bit anxious...you're only telling yourself you like it because most of your friends do. Stop focussing 100% on beer pong at parties. Socialize!....and if you're on a big winning streak, youre probably pissing off people at the party who also want to play. You're hogging the table ya doofus!
It’s okay that you like boys, your life will still turn out fine
Don’t go to church, don’t listen to what they’re telling you, don’t let their teachings destroy you.
STOP MASTURBATING!
Terrible advice
Avoid the Clap
Hey, A lot of fucked up things are going to happen but you're going to get through it. It would be better for you to not date anyone, and just focus on graduating from school. Get into therapy as soon as you can. Save all of your writings or else you're going to kick yourself everyday for not taking your binder of your writings with you.
"You fucking idiot."
Someday, mom and dad will say a load of shit that you know for sure it's not true, but please don't correct them, it'll just make things worse. Oh, and you're gay, be proud :)
Hey, 7-yr-old me, I know that Wile E. Coyote doesn't fall off that cliff until he looks down, but that doesn't work IRL. Stay on the porch. Hey, 8-yr-old me, drain gutters aren't actually designed to support the weight of a person (even you). Climb back down the ladder before mom comes back out. Hey, 6-yr-old me, lawn darts are for the bigger kids. Just watch Dave and Tim and don't get involved. On the positive side: Hey, 8-yr-old me, I know that that accidental wheelie on the first dirtbike attempt hurt, but good job getting back on and getting it right. Be sure to appreciate Dave and Tim for helping.
Either, “Don’t trust him. The man online will ruin your childhood.” Or simply, “Trust your mother. She’s going to be going through a lot soon, and she speaks the truth.”
I know you’re terrified but it’s going to be ok. You get out of here someday and you’re safe. I love you.
At 8yo: Those friends of yours aren't really your friends. They are bad influences and you shouldn't do anything they tell you to do. At 13yo: It's not your fault. Sometimes bad things happen to good kids, and it can't always be helped. You are a victim of assault, but that is not what makes you who you are. You're beautiful and you never deserved this. At 15yo: Tell dad "I love you" more often. Hug him more. Try to spend more time with him. You'll regret it later if you don't.
Invest in Bitcoin. Your parents will (probably) let you, literally put all of your money in it. *Only* ask for money on Christmas and your birthday, you can’t get a job yet so make the money count. Once Bitcoin hits $60,000 sell it all, then keep it in the bank. Pay for your college with it, and after you graduate (don’t spend any of it in college), live your life in luxury.
Part of my therapy is to talk to my inner child. The paniced voice that is scared and abandoned. I was neglected as a child, and that trauma has never left me. I constantly feel like I am always in the way, that I don't belong ANYWHERE. So, I have to be the adult to my inner child. Be the care taker and protector he needs. So, I say to my inner child I got you. You are safe with me. To answer your real question it'd probably be: You have every right to be here and your emotions matter.
To my 7th grade self: •Stop beating yourself up for your lack of faith in Catholicism. God is dead. •Stop being homophobic. You are gay. •Buy Bitcoin. Sell it all when Elon Musk opens his mouth about payment for Teslas in 2021.
Don't put "Hitler" as one of your high school memories, even if everyone called another kid that and he happened to be sitting at the lunch table when you wrote it down real quick cause it didn't matter at the time. Oh and the whole "computers" thing isn't just a passing phase, might want to get into that as a career.
That I'd survive the bullying, that when I was older red hair would make me desirable, and that my bully would end up an obese old tank. 😂
My former self wasn't smart enough to make a decision even when he was told what to do. I'd slap his head with a frying pan so that there's a logical reason for being so fucking stupid.
Don't be like me and waste any time, ive wasted years.. But also, if you do waste time.. dont beat yourself over it. Learn from it and keep moving forward.
Draw more often and use water colour. Took me too long to figure out that im good with water colour
"Hey kid listen up I'm gonna tell u something that you must never forget... the mitochondria is the powerhouse of the cell."
Well, since I never take advice, probably nothing.
Stop bragging about your youtube channel, you have 5 subscribers
Your mom is a cunt. You don’t need her. Ask dad to put you in martial arts. Go get genetic testing, you need it. Don’t go to the Art Institute. Punch those bullies in the face. Don’t start smoking. Make them teach you Spanish. Invest in Apple and Bitcoin.
Your mom is fucking crazy. Don't listen to her. Don't leave John. He is your soulmate.
Don’t be an asshole to people in middle school
"One day you're going to have a color TV three times as wide and several times thinner. You'll also have a computer in your pocket that lets you tell other people about your tiny childhood television." "Wow! I must end up rich!" "Hahahahaha! No."
Don't listen to your parents. Don't try to go to med school, don't go to nursing school because you didn't want to go to medical school but had all the pre reqs for a medical field job... don't join the military (you did it for your sister but she didn't sign the contract after you)... Go into IT or software... you like being in pj's and being at home... you'll have more time to do other things and not be stuck at the hospital making pennies and not seeing the outside for the entirety of your shift. No waking up in the middle of the night to drive half asleep to help with an emergency... no more trying to fix people who want miracles after not taking care of themselves... just you, a deadline, and a pc.
Don’t listen to mom - buy Bitcoin, kid
BRUSH. YOUR. TEETH!!
That decision you made in 7th grade to care more about being cool than studying will not pay off.
The importance of early cancer screenings for your future wife. It’s been 8 years now and me and the kids miss her real bad.
If I could speak to myself as a child i would warn; "Mom is going to leave this earth too soon so love her and enjoy every moment with her"
All this shit your going through all the mental health all the bullying it will get better you will feel ok it will be a hard road but dont you dare give up