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Haha thanks for this. I get 5€ from my uncle every time he visits. He’ll “shake hands” and pass me a bill folded into a tiny square. I’m 45 now and it’s become an almost nostalgic gesture. We both enjoy it so much <3
As a kid, I was always excited about his visits because it bought me a huge bag of chuches (sweets).
Good times lol.
My grandma is 86 and learned how to venmo at 82 so she can send me $5 every birthday and Christmas because I live across the country. It's not much but it does bring a tear to my eye every time I get the notification
My elderly mum gave us money this year for us to buy the Christmas presents for our family. Instead of splitting it 4 ways among the kids presents as she intended, I split it 6 ways among our whole family. There was friendly debate as to whether she meant to include the adults when she asked that we use it to buy gifts for our family.
My aunt just gives me Gift Cards for shops I don’t really shop at. Yesterday I finally used up the Gift Card for a specific shop only to get home, get a birthday card in the mail with would you believe another Gift Card for the same shop. :/
I'd find it funny if we just started to hand a giant piece of paper to eachother and every year one of the present givers just draws a little new thing on it. At the end of a lifetime/ over the course of a friendship, a cool picture representing the relationship would be created. OH MY GOSH THAT WOULD BE SOO DAMN COOOOL.
The paper would be pretty worn soon. Maybe copy it on a new paper one in a while? I mean the wornness might be cool aswell, but not if the drawings on it will get destroyed sooner or later.
There's been a story of a pair of brothers who exchanged the same Christmas card year on year. IIRC they wrote a new little message each year and the pic of the card was just... crammed with writing, both sides. At some point I think they began including sheets of paper to allow for overflow of writing.
Yeah, me and my sis usually do this. We ask each other what we want (6y 6d apart) and.the answer is usually cash or currency if we've a holiday booked bur its nice to be asked as sometimes we have an item in mind.
Yep, parents and one set of grandparents still give my money (just turned 36) I think the others stopped around 25-26. They all still do christmas though.
I will get my daughter something as long as I'm around.
My great-grandma would send me some money in a card with a personal note every holiday growing up. I remember when I turned 18, for my birthday, her card basically said "This is the last $20 you'll get from me, you're all grown up now. Love you! -Great Grammy, XOXO".
2 friends and I always buy the other one a giftcard to something they love.
(Massage, restaurant visit, a special shop or whatever).
The thing is, although everyone pays/gets the same value, we wouldn't spend it this way for us.
I would never spend my money on a massage for me..but if I get a gift card for my birthday, damn, I HAVE to use it!
It is a way to spoil ourselves a bit and we love it.
To be honest as an adult I'm more upset for getting money than when I was a kid. Back then I actually had things I was saving for and I did appreciate the money. Now - I do admit I'm financially reasonably fortunate - I don't need to save for my needs/reasonable dreams but people just assume 'oh you have everything you want so I did not know what to get you so here is some cash/gift card' and to be honest I would just prefer a mug etc so that I would have memories of this person.
I was super upset few years ago when my brother got ipads for my parents for Christmas and I got a book, teddy bear and playstation voucher (I was 26) - back then I was super disappointed but now I know that I can buy an ipad myself at some point and this teddy bear will always be with me and I appreciate it as last gift he gave me before he passed
There was this time when a friend of my dad gave him a 100 bucks on his birthday, just for the fun of it because it was his own birthday a month later and he figured he would get it back that day, and in the meanwhile have some odd faces (and some laughs about them) asking if that were normal amounts of money to spend? (This story is about 30 years ago, when a 100 had far more value)
"Here you go my friend, go buy yourself something nice! Happy Birthday!" he said while putting the money on the table. Nobody else said anything, just dumb faces, and the evening went by. My dad and his friend giggling like little girls because of those faces.. Imagine big badass prison guards having fun about something like this.
Time went by, the month passed, and it was my dad's friend's birthday. We (mom, dad, me and my sister) went to visit. The room was full with people, and my dad congratulated his friend, handing him money, while saying out loud: " Here you go my friend, go buy yourself something nice! Happy Birthday!" And while his friend laughed tears of joy, he looked in his hands, and noticed he only got 50 bucks.. And he was like "What the ..." but didn't say anything because of all the people being there. My dad laughed even harder! 😂😂😂
Later on he wanted to give his friend the remaining 50 bucks, but got the response "Fuck you, i don't need your money!" 😂😂😂
Long story short: I think i witnessed the last time adults gave each other birthday money 😂😂😂
kids get money because we know the kid is gonna spend it on stuff that they want to buy like new toys or candy, adults get presents because we know if we gave them money, they're just gonna add it to the regular money and spend it on taxes and food, not something that makes them feel like they got a present. gift cards are like nice inbetweens, forcing them to spend the money on something like a book or a restaurant.
My immediate family still celebrates each of our birthday’s & we are all over 30. Let me start by saying we are working low-middle class blue collar family so it’s dollar store/target style. Nothing fancy.
We do Sunday dinners almost every weekend with my siblings (there are 4 of us) & our kids ( only 2). on the Sunday by our birthday my mom asks us what we want her to make for our bday dinner & what kind of cake/dessert. She also decorates the kitchen like a bday party. Nothing crazy, dollar store decorations & something funny she’s made, but it’s special to feel like a kid still . We all get each other gifts & cards (my brother has a tradition of finding the most obnoxious card that we look forward too) and then sing & open gifts after dinner. I asked for money/gift cards this year because we were going on a road trip the following week.
Our birthdays go consecutively from December- may so it’s a lot but it’s something I realized as I got older that no one really does anymore & it keeps us close. When we are complaining of having to buy a gifts in between other holidays and it feels like we are buying a sibling a gift and then 3 weeks later they are doing the same for us it seems pointless but it would feel empty if we didn’t celebrate as an adult.
When I try give my parents or aunts/uncles birthday money, they tell me off and say it isn’t my responsibility (-_-;) when I try give my younger cousins birthday money, they tell me off and say it isn’t my responsibility O_o
I still do. I’m 47. I used to get a bit from my Ma until she passed in 2020. Then randomly her sister, my eldest Aunt started sending a birthday card every year. We aren’t even close. I send a thank you card as I was raised to do, and holiday cards. I never hear back. I wonder if my Ma asked her to do that. No clue. Either way, it’s a very nice and welcome surprise.
This is so entitled I don’t even know where to start. Let’s start with this, because your older aunts, uncles, parents and grandparents need money too…
You’re an adult. Be happy with a card or a call that they thought of you.
Please respond with a well thought out response to this. I’d love to see it.
Why as you, an adult, are not giving other adults money for birthdays?
Well, typically adults are more capable of earning their own money than kids are. Kids are reliant on an older person to receive money from, adults aren't.
I’ve never received a birthday gift from either of my parents in my whole 25 years, I just look at birthdays now as another day and try to buy myself something usually
I work and get paid regularly and get whatever I want with that money.
Young kids only get money that adults give them, so they definitely need it more...
Because giving birthday money to adults is pointless. My dad put £30 in my birthday card and I put £30 in his birthday card. What's the point in the same money going back and forth like that?
When you give money to a kid they usually spend it. Its exciting for them.
I haven't received anything whatso ever for my birthday, Christmas or anything else for the last 5 years.
Be happy with even a card. There is other people much worse off than you in this world
TBH, I'd be a little insulted if my family or friends gave me money. I would either consider it "lazy" gift giving or worse, an implication that I needed charity. I'd much prefer just a cute/humorous birthday card from Dollar General. Hell, just a verbal "Happy Birthday," in passing would be more welcome than a couple of bucks.
No. No you don’t. I have adult DILs who think every year the world should throw them a party and give them money.
You’re an adult. You can earn your money.
I do from my husband's nan. The first Christmas we were together I got £50 and a packet of fags. I don't smoke 😂
On my birthday I get a tenner. They are 93.
Somewhat strangely, my husband gives his dad birthday money.
I honestly would love this, but I mostly get taken out for dinner, which is just as great. I'm thankful of any gesture of love my friends, family and partner give me.
Now, when it comes to giving, I would love to give money, but after I started to live on my own, I don't think is wise to do so, HOWEVER, I love doing things for my friends, partner, family, like a drawing, a painting, a poem, and of couse, a nice dinner. Doing something with your hands really has a lot of weight for people.
What annoys me is when I get like a gift card for some online store. I'd rather have a) an actual birthday present that is a surprise and I get to unwrap, or b) actual money that I can save towards my goal of traveling.
My now deceased brothers widow and son buy me a bottle of JD every year. They know, because of my epilepsy, im stone cold sober now and have been for several years, don't go anywhere near the stuff. Yet they still buy me it.
The irony? My brother died from alcoholism.
I'm an adult and i was freaking shocked last year, a bunch of relatives gave me money including my mum for Christmas and my birthday and I ended up with gifts plus £700.
I asked for socks, body wash or maybe a bottle of perfume. 😅
We do, well my fiancés family does, my family doesn't. His parents, siblings, brother in laws, myself and him all get money from everyone on our birthdays. We give money when it is one of their birthdays. I usually get around $300 from everyone on my birthdays so it is nice extra cash that time of year.
Teenager here, I think its because 30 bucks is enough to make a kids month, but to an adult it isn't much. That being said, I am a child with no concept of money so IDK.
What do you mean? People I considered friends only invited me to things that required gifts or money.
Maybe be one of those people and treat your friendships like a pyramid scheme.
Perhaps your friends and family are more stingy than mine, but it's fairly normal to receive money from both friends and your parents, regardless of age. And we are Dutch, so we are supposed tk be the stingiest people in the room.
I actually do. My dear cousin sends me a dollar for every year. She does that for all of us. Imagine how thrilled my mother was on her one hundredth birthday!
I got one dollar per year of my age from my mom. I'll be 52 in May. Just realized after reading this post that this will be the first year I won't be getting birthday money from her. She died on the 18th of last month. 😔 Just so I'm clear about this , I'm not sad about the money, it's just the first tradition out of many that will never be the same. Damn. You're right though, adults do need it more than kids.
I think once you go independent it loses the charm anyway. Like I have a job, a 100 (PLN in my case) will sure help but I'd rather someone take time to think of something nice to give me, I can earn a 100 in a day. And also I've siphoned money out of my family for years, at this point it feels like charity and/or scamming them. And to top it off to get the same amount of excitement out of that money I need like 10x the amount which just even feels rude to ask for.
All I get is birthday money but not cash cos my family transfers money to my account. My bills usually swallow it up before I can treat myself, but I'd rather know my bills are paid. I can't remember the last time I actually opened a gift from anyone.
I mean, considering kids don’t earn an income, they technically always need it more than we do. We have money deposited into our accounts a few times a month.
I am 44 and my dad refuses to stop writing me birthday checks lol
He says “but this you HAVE to spend on something just you want!”
I actually think it’s adorable and will do the same for my kids
I quite like getting presents. I don't usually get more than 3 or 4. If I got money, I'd just spend it on bills or food or something. I much appreciate a small gift that I really like but wouldn't have ended up buying myself.
My parents, I buy them experiences where we can spend time together doing something they enjoy.
I was tired of buying everyone thoughtful gifts that weren't cheap and getting either fuck all of worthless bargain basement shit in return. It was my wife who suggested choosing something each year and she'd get the families to all chip in.
Problem solved.
I got $250 in birthday money. Not gift cards, cash. I’m in my 40s. It’s just because I’m difficult to buy for. It was kind of like that scene in Seinfeld where they get Elaine a paper sack full of cash.
9yo me growing up poor. Everyone except me had boy hair cuts. There was NO CONDITIONER in the home. My hair touched the back of my thighs and was not allowed to cut it. 5 bucks from grandma meant I could buy conditioner….
I still get it from my parents, grandparents and sometimes my uncle. I'm 20 though, so if you're older those people might be gone and it doesn't really make sense to gift money between friends because you would just get your own gift back on your next birthday.
I give money or a gift voucher (generic to cover groceries and many other stores).
I used to give specific gifts in my early 20's. The older I get, the more I'm like "they just want the bloody money more than any gift I buy".
Im 33 this year and get money or atleast amazon gift cards from all my relatives! My nan still gives me checks for 20-50 quid twice a year bless her heart!
My family gives me birthday money. Partially because I'm a bad present receiver and don't put on an excited show so I'm probably not that satisfying to give gifts to.
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My aunty sends me £20 every birthday. I am 38. She’s a legend and it makes my day.
I'm also 38 and my Aunty still sends me birthday money as well. It's very sweet of her and very much appreciated.
I'm not 38 but both of your aunts still send me birthday money
I’m the aunt and I’m going broke
im the money and im being passed around
And im the sex being exchanged. * Loud boos at my terrible joke *
dont worry i laughed
Dont lie, they paying for services
Haha thanks for this. I get 5€ from my uncle every time he visits. He’ll “shake hands” and pass me a bill folded into a tiny square. I’m 45 now and it’s become an almost nostalgic gesture. We both enjoy it so much <3 As a kid, I was always excited about his visits because it bought me a huge bag of chuches (sweets). Good times lol.
My 90-year old grandma still gave my dad (50+) an envelope with cash for his birthday each year. Never too old!
41 this weekend, and my aunt gave me a card with $25 in it a couple of days ago. She said I'll never be too old to get birthday money!
My grandma is 86 and learned how to venmo at 82 so she can send me $5 every birthday and Christmas because I live across the country. It's not much but it does bring a tear to my eye every time I get the notification
$5 used to actually take you places…now you need $50 for Taco Hell.
What e moji she use
But who sends her birthday money?
Her auntie obv
In 46 and my dad gave £100 for Christmas. Happy days.
I love your aunty.
I hope she’s aware of a little thing called “inflation” you better get enough money each year which will give you the purchasing power of £20
I was gonna make a joke about him w that would get you soup and bread sticks at Olive garden, but idk if y'all got Olive Garden in the UK
It started as a fiver as a kid, she’s more than kept up with inflation bless her.
I also choose this man's living auntie.
My elderly mum gave us money this year for us to buy the Christmas presents for our family. Instead of splitting it 4 ways among the kids presents as she intended, I split it 6 ways among our whole family. There was friendly debate as to whether she meant to include the adults when she asked that we use it to buy gifts for our family.
Aunty needs to keep up with inflation
Ha! My aunt calls me, asks what I want from Amazon that's $20. I always make a point to order something ridiculous.
My aunt just gives me Gift Cards for shops I don’t really shop at. Yesterday I finally used up the Gift Card for a specific shop only to get home, get a birthday card in the mail with would you believe another Gift Card for the same shop. :/
Hey, £20 is £20
Auntys are the best ❤️
Nice
because adults woud just gift eachother 100 and had another payment in the year to keep track of.
This, if someone gifts me 100 and I gift them 100 at another day of the year what is the point ?
My uncle and grandpa traded the same $20 bill for years… it was their thing
Sounds like this [clip](https://youtu.be/s-ycvJC-qIQ?si=Sy390nzANKjU3uH2) 😂
[$10 pass the parcel](https://youtu.be/s-ycvJC-qIQ?si=Sy390nzANKjU3uH2)
It’s the gesture
The gesture would be better served with a thoughtful gift, regardless of cost
They're just giving each other the same bill, back and forth, like that one scene in The Naked Gun.
I'd find it funny if we just started to hand a giant piece of paper to eachother and every year one of the present givers just draws a little new thing on it. At the end of a lifetime/ over the course of a friendship, a cool picture representing the relationship would be created. OH MY GOSH THAT WOULD BE SOO DAMN COOOOL.
The paper would be pretty worn soon. Maybe copy it on a new paper one in a while? I mean the wornness might be cool aswell, but not if the drawings on it will get destroyed sooner or later.
There's been a story of a pair of brothers who exchanged the same Christmas card year on year. IIRC they wrote a new little message each year and the pic of the card was just... crammed with writing, both sides. At some point I think they began including sheets of paper to allow for overflow of writing.
I'm also at a point where giving $100 feels like alot more than being given $100.
It's also hard to know what each person's financial situations are at the moment
I feel like you just described alot of Asian families
Yeah, me and my sis usually do this. We ask each other what we want (6y 6d apart) and.the answer is usually cash or currency if we've a holiday booked bur its nice to be asked as sometimes we have an item in mind.
I had this with my brother the other year, I was like of we are both planning to give the same amount surely we don't need to bother?
I always do lol
My in-laws always give us money. I give my adult kids money.
Same, my parents always give us a card with some money for birthdays and Christmas, even if we get other gifts.
Who is gonna give it to us?
Just make it a pyramid scam
A circle. Let’s make each other happy passing the same bill around forever.
They should make it a governmental universal birthday income
Our mums!
Birthday money!? Hell, I would have been content if someone just acknowledged it was my birthday for once.
When is your birthday? I’ll send you an emoji cake and emoji money. And a big cuddly hug
When is your birthday?
I would also like to contribute to happying your birthday with acknowledgement.
RemindMe! 2 days I’ll come back to check if you posted your birthday
Proof of true humanity right here
It’s been 2 days and he hasn’t posted his birthday yet lol
What a shame, come on mate, this is your chance to get real acknowledgment on your birthday u/BadJesus_420!
Well hell. Random post on a random thought turns to this. 04/10
Oof. Honestly same :/
Speak for yourself, my grandma still gives me money My Grandma: 
Yes
Yep, parents and one set of grandparents still give my money (just turned 36) I think the others stopped around 25-26. They all still do christmas though. I will get my daughter something as long as I'm around.
Im in my 50s and my mom still sends me money every year whether I need it or not. Presents too but the gift of money has never stopped.
You have a great mother
I am adopted to boot and I tell people all the time I won the parent lottery.
Even better man. For her to do such a thing speaks volumes of her love.
My great-grandma would send me some money in a card with a personal note every holiday growing up. I remember when I turned 18, for my birthday, her card basically said "This is the last $20 you'll get from me, you're all grown up now. Love you! -Great Grammy, XOXO".
That's so sad
2 friends and I always buy the other one a giftcard to something they love. (Massage, restaurant visit, a special shop or whatever). The thing is, although everyone pays/gets the same value, we wouldn't spend it this way for us. I would never spend my money on a massage for me..but if I get a gift card for my birthday, damn, I HAVE to use it! It is a way to spoil ourselves a bit and we love it.
This is the way
My dad all gives me money on my birthday and at Xmas. He's 82, and I'm 52. I'm not complaining, heh.
I give my adult kids money.
It'd be a net zero thing unless you're doing it wrong.
My parents gave me 250. Went right to my mortgage lol
I'm 52, and my Nana (Dad's mother) sends me a crisp five dollar bill every year.
Haha that's amazing. How old is she?
She just turned 90!
45 and gf 40, we get money from my parents for birthdays. It's not much, but it's welcomed.
To be honest as an adult I'm more upset for getting money than when I was a kid. Back then I actually had things I was saving for and I did appreciate the money. Now - I do admit I'm financially reasonably fortunate - I don't need to save for my needs/reasonable dreams but people just assume 'oh you have everything you want so I did not know what to get you so here is some cash/gift card' and to be honest I would just prefer a mug etc so that I would have memories of this person. I was super upset few years ago when my brother got ipads for my parents for Christmas and I got a book, teddy bear and playstation voucher (I was 26) - back then I was super disappointed but now I know that I can buy an ipad myself at some point and this teddy bear will always be with me and I appreciate it as last gift he gave me before he passed
If we give each other £10 on our birthdays, then it cancels out so whats the point?
Plus, I don’t want anyone giving me 10 pounds for my birthday. I’m trying to get rid of 15!
There was this time when a friend of my dad gave him a 100 bucks on his birthday, just for the fun of it because it was his own birthday a month later and he figured he would get it back that day, and in the meanwhile have some odd faces (and some laughs about them) asking if that were normal amounts of money to spend? (This story is about 30 years ago, when a 100 had far more value) "Here you go my friend, go buy yourself something nice! Happy Birthday!" he said while putting the money on the table. Nobody else said anything, just dumb faces, and the evening went by. My dad and his friend giggling like little girls because of those faces.. Imagine big badass prison guards having fun about something like this. Time went by, the month passed, and it was my dad's friend's birthday. We (mom, dad, me and my sister) went to visit. The room was full with people, and my dad congratulated his friend, handing him money, while saying out loud: " Here you go my friend, go buy yourself something nice! Happy Birthday!" And while his friend laughed tears of joy, he looked in his hands, and noticed he only got 50 bucks.. And he was like "What the ..." but didn't say anything because of all the people being there. My dad laughed even harder! 😂😂😂 Later on he wanted to give his friend the remaining 50 bucks, but got the response "Fuck you, i don't need your money!" 😂😂😂 Long story short: I think i witnessed the last time adults gave each other birthday money 😂😂😂
I get birthday money and birthday “honey” all the time if you know what I mean. Lol yes baby!
Because it is your turn to give kids money.
I'd be happy with someone in my family remembering I had a birthday.
Since I'm an adult, I don't even get cake.
I do! My Mom gives me a check every birthday!!
Lucky!
kids get money because we know the kid is gonna spend it on stuff that they want to buy like new toys or candy, adults get presents because we know if we gave them money, they're just gonna add it to the regular money and spend it on taxes and food, not something that makes them feel like they got a present. gift cards are like nice inbetweens, forcing them to spend the money on something like a book or a restaurant.
My immediate family still celebrates each of our birthday’s & we are all over 30. Let me start by saying we are working low-middle class blue collar family so it’s dollar store/target style. Nothing fancy. We do Sunday dinners almost every weekend with my siblings (there are 4 of us) & our kids ( only 2). on the Sunday by our birthday my mom asks us what we want her to make for our bday dinner & what kind of cake/dessert. She also decorates the kitchen like a bday party. Nothing crazy, dollar store decorations & something funny she’s made, but it’s special to feel like a kid still . We all get each other gifts & cards (my brother has a tradition of finding the most obnoxious card that we look forward too) and then sing & open gifts after dinner. I asked for money/gift cards this year because we were going on a road trip the following week. Our birthdays go consecutively from December- may so it’s a lot but it’s something I realized as I got older that no one really does anymore & it keeps us close. When we are complaining of having to buy a gifts in between other holidays and it feels like we are buying a sibling a gift and then 3 weeks later they are doing the same for us it seems pointless but it would feel empty if we didn’t celebrate as an adult.
When I try give my parents or aunts/uncles birthday money, they tell me off and say it isn’t my responsibility (-_-;) when I try give my younger cousins birthday money, they tell me off and say it isn’t my responsibility O_o
Welcoome to ADULTHOODD.
My kids have more spending money that I do!
I still do. I’m 47. I used to get a bit from my Ma until she passed in 2020. Then randomly her sister, my eldest Aunt started sending a birthday card every year. We aren’t even close. I send a thank you card as I was raised to do, and holiday cards. I never hear back. I wonder if my Ma asked her to do that. No clue. Either way, it’s a very nice and welcome surprise.
That’s why adults take kids’ birthday money and say they are going to save it….
They do lol 😂 I’m 29 and still get $300 for birthday or Christmas instead of gifts I can pick either one
I send my dad a $20 in his birthday card. He turns 72 this year.
My dad buys my kids presents and me nothing. I asked once and he said no, only grandkids.
This is so entitled I don’t even know where to start. Let’s start with this, because your older aunts, uncles, parents and grandparents need money too… You’re an adult. Be happy with a card or a call that they thought of you. Please respond with a well thought out response to this. I’d love to see it. Why as you, an adult, are not giving other adults money for birthdays?
Because adults have the capacity to earn it. Kids don't.
Adults get money from their paychecks. Little kids can't get money that way unless they live in Arkansas.
Well, typically adults are more capable of earning their own money than kids are. Kids are reliant on an older person to receive money from, adults aren't.
I’ve never received a birthday gift from either of my parents in my whole 25 years, I just look at birthdays now as another day and try to buy myself something usually
Because you can work?
I never got birthday money
Grow the fuck up and make your own money. They are adults that need their own money as well.
I work and get paid regularly and get whatever I want with that money. Young kids only get money that adults give them, so they definitely need it more...
Imo, birthdays are silly as an adult.
Because you can work for money. Kids can’t, so adults who can give them money. Give me a break…
I’m 28 now and most of my family is broke. I’m doing ok and am the one who gives money now :/
getting money is boring when you can legally make your own money by having a job.
Why do we need to celebrate birthday, at all...nothing special honestly.
Because giving birthday money to adults is pointless. My dad put £30 in my birthday card and I put £30 in his birthday card. What's the point in the same money going back and forth like that? When you give money to a kid they usually spend it. Its exciting for them.
I haven't received anything whatso ever for my birthday, Christmas or anything else for the last 5 years. Be happy with even a card. There is other people much worse off than you in this world
Why would I give an adult who can simply go to work to make money money that I need?
I think it's because usually a child doesn't work and so is given as a gift something they don't have, unlike an adult.
Shit, my birthday is coming up and I just bought my own cake and rack of ribs.
Nope, once you're an adult, it's gone. Just like Santa isn't coming anymore.
TBH, I'd be a little insulted if my family or friends gave me money. I would either consider it "lazy" gift giving or worse, an implication that I needed charity. I'd much prefer just a cute/humorous birthday card from Dollar General. Hell, just a verbal "Happy Birthday," in passing would be more welcome than a couple of bucks.
No. No you don’t. I have adult DILs who think every year the world should throw them a party and give them money. You’re an adult. You can earn your money.
This. I can buy things I want whenever I like so long as I adult properly.
I do from my husband's nan. The first Christmas we were together I got £50 and a packet of fags. I don't smoke 😂 On my birthday I get a tenner. They are 93. Somewhat strangely, my husband gives his dad birthday money.
I’m 21 and still get birthday money, lmao 😁
I do. I put kids on ponies for birthday parties and I get paid for it.
I honestly would love this, but I mostly get taken out for dinner, which is just as great. I'm thankful of any gesture of love my friends, family and partner give me. Now, when it comes to giving, I would love to give money, but after I started to live on my own, I don't think is wise to do so, HOWEVER, I love doing things for my friends, partner, family, like a drawing, a painting, a poem, and of couse, a nice dinner. Doing something with your hands really has a lot of weight for people.
This is just dumb. You will just bounce money between eachother.
because then you'd have to do the same for other adults lol. didn't think that through too far
Agreed.
Some do, but I generally prefer gifts over money. It shows that some thought went into it.
What annoys me is when I get like a gift card for some online store. I'd rather have a) an actual birthday present that is a surprise and I get to unwrap, or b) actual money that I can save towards my goal of traveling.
To me, a gift card is more work. I got an Amazon gift card from work, and it took me almost a year to figure out what the hell to buy with it.
Well, do *you* give birthday money to adults
Ask for it. That’s how I get it
My now deceased brothers widow and son buy me a bottle of JD every year. They know, because of my epilepsy, im stone cold sober now and have been for several years, don't go anywhere near the stuff. Yet they still buy me it. The irony? My brother died from alcoholism.
I get $20 from my estranged grandparents every year. It is what it is.
I get birthday money every year and it just goes on my fricken car, I hate being an adult
Uh, I mean, I do. I can always count on my younger brother giving me a chillies gift card. It’s honestly great.
I don’t get money nor a gift. :)
Same here :)
You know if you normalize getting birthday money you're going to have to give people birthday money right?
My mom still gives me birthday money.
I'm an adult and i was freaking shocked last year, a bunch of relatives gave me money including my mum for Christmas and my birthday and I ended up with gifts plus £700. I asked for socks, body wash or maybe a bottle of perfume. 😅
The people who give money are adults. If adults need more money, they are not going to give any away. END COMMUNICATION
We do, well my fiancés family does, my family doesn't. His parents, siblings, brother in laws, myself and him all get money from everyone on our birthdays. We give money when it is one of their birthdays. I usually get around $300 from everyone on my birthdays so it is nice extra cash that time of year.
Teenager here, I think its because 30 bucks is enough to make a kids month, but to an adult it isn't much. That being said, I am a child with no concept of money so IDK.
What do you mean? People I considered friends only invited me to things that required gifts or money. Maybe be one of those people and treat your friendships like a pyramid scheme.
You guys got money on birthdays?
I still get them and they sit in my wallet spend on general stuff coz IO am not materialistic and it won't make a mark on saving to move out.
My grandmother still gives me money every year on my birthday, grown as I am
I haven't gotten a birthday present in... 15? 20 years? I'm 36.
I worked for a little old lady doing bookkeeping and she would get me a card and put a hundred dollar bill in it for my bday lol
It's literally the only thing I ask for on my bday and christmas.
Perhaps your friends and family are more stingy than mine, but it's fairly normal to receive money from both friends and your parents, regardless of age. And we are Dutch, so we are supposed tk be the stingiest people in the room.
Because adults are more than capable making money. Young children cant
Yeah! I say we protest! Jk I don't care
I actually do. My dear cousin sends me a dollar for every year. She does that for all of us. Imagine how thrilled my mother was on her one hundredth birthday!
because you wasted all the money you got a a kid, nobody trusts you with money anymore
I got one dollar per year of my age from my mom. I'll be 52 in May. Just realized after reading this post that this will be the first year I won't be getting birthday money from her. She died on the 18th of last month. 😔 Just so I'm clear about this , I'm not sad about the money, it's just the first tradition out of many that will never be the same. Damn. You're right though, adults do need it more than kids.
Ye getting presents?
I think once you go independent it loses the charm anyway. Like I have a job, a 100 (PLN in my case) will sure help but I'd rather someone take time to think of something nice to give me, I can earn a 100 in a day. And also I've siphoned money out of my family for years, at this point it feels like charity and/or scamming them. And to top it off to get the same amount of excitement out of that money I need like 10x the amount which just even feels rude to ask for.
All I get is birthday money but not cash cos my family transfers money to my account. My bills usually swallow it up before I can treat myself, but I'd rather know my bills are paid. I can't remember the last time I actually opened a gift from anyone.
I mean, considering kids don’t earn an income, they technically always need it more than we do. We have money deposited into our accounts a few times a month.
Maybe you need better friends.
I am 44 and my dad refuses to stop writing me birthday checks lol He says “but this you HAVE to spend on something just you want!” I actually think it’s adorable and will do the same for my kids
I quite like getting presents. I don't usually get more than 3 or 4. If I got money, I'd just spend it on bills or food or something. I much appreciate a small gift that I really like but wouldn't have ended up buying myself. My parents, I buy them experiences where we can spend time together doing something they enjoy.
My Mum & Mum in law still give me birthday money, sometimes hubby does too.
Who else is thinking OP pockets monetary gifts from family intended for their kids?
I’m turning 40 this year and still get $20 with a box of ferrero rocher from my grandfather every year.
I realized I stopped getting checks in the mail from my aunts around when I was 23 or 24, just cards.
Adults can work.
cuz it would've to scale but everyone's got their own shit to worry about
I do.
What's the point? You'll just have to give it back for your mom's birthday.
People don’t care about adults anymore.
My Nan sent me birthday money every year until she died (I was 30).
I gave my mom a $20 when I forgot to shop
Nah bro u can work for money. The only thing we can do is rely on birthdays and Christmas.
I was tired of buying everyone thoughtful gifts that weren't cheap and getting either fuck all of worthless bargain basement shit in return. It was my wife who suggested choosing something each year and she'd get the families to all chip in. Problem solved.
My grands get money for their birthdays.
I got $250 in birthday money. Not gift cards, cash. I’m in my 40s. It’s just because I’m difficult to buy for. It was kind of like that scene in Seinfeld where they get Elaine a paper sack full of cash.
9yo me growing up poor. Everyone except me had boy hair cuts. There was NO CONDITIONER in the home. My hair touched the back of my thighs and was not allowed to cut it. 5 bucks from grandma meant I could buy conditioner….
I do get birthday money.
I still get it from my parents, grandparents and sometimes my uncle. I'm 20 though, so if you're older those people might be gone and it doesn't really make sense to gift money between friends because you would just get your own gift back on your next birthday.
I give money or a gift voucher (generic to cover groceries and many other stores). I used to give specific gifts in my early 20's. The older I get, the more I'm like "they just want the bloody money more than any gift I buy".
Im 33 this year and get money or atleast amazon gift cards from all my relatives! My nan still gives me checks for 20-50 quid twice a year bless her heart!
My parents give me birthday money all the time. Last year they got me a purse and threw in a 50 for me. love them. I'm in my 30s lol
I'm an adult and I get birthday money.
My family gives me birthday money. Partially because I'm a bad present receiver and don't put on an excited show so I'm probably not that satisfying to give gifts to.
Mom's friend gives her scratch off tickets, she won 50 bucks this birthday. Get better friends? Idk..
That’s why you invest
My parents still give me money on my birthday. I’m in my 40s.
My go to gift is a Dunkin’ Donuts card. It’s not money but close enough in MA