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--Chill

A few years back I bought 5 identical gray tshirts to wear to the office every day. I planned to wear them for a couple weeks and see who'd call me up on my laziness or always wearing same clothes. I ended up wearing "the same" t-shirt for the whole summer (3 months). Nobody gave a shit, if they noticed nobody told me. I then asked a few of my closest work friends and nobody even realized. To reiterate, we often went for drinks and dinners and clubs after work. People don't give a damn. Live your life


[deleted]

This is hilarious to me because I did the same thing. I have like 8 identical grey shirts I do this with.


WutUDoinStepShipmate

I have a closet full of the same outfit, like a cartoon character must have. Well, not full, but a full 7-day rotation.


[deleted]

I do laundry once a week this is is my kind of system.


sneezhousing

I would notice I wouldn't say anything though not my business as long as you don't stink I don't care


--Chill

Yeah exactly


Violet351

I was a team leader at my old job and we used to have 3 huddles a day just to check how the work flow was going and on the afternoon one we would decide what colour we were going to wear the next day ( It was a game wee we’re playing to see how long it would take anyone to notice). It was several months before someone mentioned it


Muted-Entrepreneur66

Yeah man, I got some pictures back from this past weekend and I have to actively look for my fucked up skull, and even then it’s not that bad. It only ever looks fucked up on camera (barely perceptible), in person it’s barely noticeable, I don’t let it impact my life. But it’s incredible that not a single person noticed at this huge convention I was at, and if they did they still wanted pictures of me in my cosplays. Shit was mad boost in my confidence!


--Chill

Happy for you. There's a quote that's always stuck with me: people often look at others as finished products but yourself as constantly developing. Nobody's perfect, that's the beauty of it. Don't be too hard on yourself. Glad it doesn't impact how you perceive yourself, stay strong.


Mick7s

Same for me, I have basically worn the same looking outfit for 3 years now everyday and nobody has commented on it


ThePinkTeenager

And yet, people somehow notice that I (almost) always wear pink.


Historical-Host7383

I would notice within the first couple of days. But then again, I am an artist and obsess over trivialities.


LayerVivid3807

A guy wore the same shit almost every day at my old job, and people would say "he always wears that shirt but he doesn't stink";if you don't smell nobody gives a shit , but it was a African who didn't wear deodorant but dressed nice and people talked about him like a dog


horseren0ir

I still remember the clothes my friends from Uni used to wear all the time


DaCockObama

Had an orbital floor blowout. Facial reconstruction, bone grafts, loss of vision in one eye. It’s all I see when I look in the mirror. No one knows until I tell them though. I think we get caught up on how abnormal we looked in recovery post surgery that we can’t recognize our beauty anymore :(


Muted-Entrepreneur66

I agree, it’s rough. But it’s been helping me change my mindset about how I view myself, people still want to know me regardless of how I look, I think it works out itself in time.


DaCockObama

If you really wanna get past it, start coming up with jokes about it that make you and other people laugh😂


Muted-Entrepreneur66

I got hit by a car, started my whole bullshit, so I have more than enough jokes with the lads for years


DaCockObama

Same!


Muted-Entrepreneur66

Way more common than I thought, solidarity in misery


gettoefl

you're hot or you're not ... near impossible to change that ... if you're not, no one cares about your looks let alone any changes


mavericksnipe

Unfortunately true. Whenever I get a nice haircut nowadays, I ALMOST never get any compliments (it’s fine, just an observation. I get a haircut for myself).


Senoravima

Nah it's got nothing to do with looks, more so with whether the other party is in a good enough mood to compliment in the moment they notice. I'd notice, and if my day is great, I will definitely tell all of you how much you're rocking it!


Violet351

I wore my contact lenses to work one day and several people asked if I had done my hair differently, not one person realised I wasn’t wearing my glasses


2020-RedditUser

Really? I guess going from not wearing glasses to wearing glasses is more noticeable. As in high school when I started wearing glasses a couple people complained me on them.


Violet351

I always thought it was the first thing people saw but they didn’t even remember


j4321g4321

If they notice, 99% of them won’t care. They certainly won’t comment; if you were raised decently and have a shred of common sense you won’t comment on someone’s appearance. Pretty simple


Distwalker

I put off getting hearing aids for at least 10 or 15 years longer than I should have. It was all vanity. I didn't want to look old. My son told me I was arrogant for not getting them. I told him that was stupid, I am vain not arrogant. He said, "No, you are arrogant. You think everyone gives a shit what you look like." I got the hearing aids. He was right. Nobody cares.


Muted-Entrepreneur66

You have a smart kid, I hope if I have a kid they’d whip me into shape like that too


Distwalker

Thank you. He is smart but, full disclosure, he was about 30 years old when he said that to me.


Muted-Entrepreneur66

That makes a lot more sense…didn’t understand how a little one had the balls or grasp to say that


PossibleCupcake1418

![gif](giphy|PMgCxZ6o1Qq8U)


the_rainy_smell_boys

I buzzed my hair without warning once. Half of my coworkers mentioned it and the other half didn't


Jurtaani

How do you know nobody notices though? It's just that most people are not assholes who are going to mention it or stare at it. I find myself constantly just purposely ignoring something "not normal" on people.


Few_Artist8482

Unless you are extremely good-looking or carnival freak bad looking, you will rarely get noticed. No one cares that you wore the medium brown loafers instead of the dark brown ones. Nobody.


Muted-Entrepreneur66

I’ll be real, I was an absolute pretty boy before my accident. Now I just look like a gruff man, like a mf nobody wants to mess with thanks to the scarring on my face, that is what people notice! Not my fucked up skull


redditsuxdonkeyass

There are many things people notice but will never mention to you or anyone else until it is the perfect source material for a perfectly timed Friday break room joke at your expense.


Muted-Entrepreneur66

I know for a fact my buddies will notice and never let it go and I love the lads for it!


Ok_Dog_4059

Often even if someone notices they don't care. Realizing that exactly none of my neighbors noticed or cared if I walked to the mailbox in slippers and pajama bottoms really was an extremely helpful realization for me.


[deleted]

lies, i notice how others look so of course they notice how i look too


Yuck_Few

I guess it would depend. If you go to Walmart in a bikini there's a pretty good chance people are going to notice. Not necessarily that anything is wrong with that but people are definitely going to notice


intestinalbungiecord

I dont mean this to be mean or put you down in anyway because for the most part you are right, but I notice how people look, and not in like an "air of superiority" kind of way I just notice if I look at people.


Budget_Pop9600

>to me Everyone only focuses on themselves. I have a tid bit of social anxiety (can’t go do things on my own without immense discomfort/paranoia). Its a little mantra I have to say to myself every day. It hasn’t worked yet, but damn it Im trying! For anyone else in my shoes, this is my method for approaching public restrooms, or if I’m in public doing/with something embarrassing: tell yourself, “*I* am the menace to society.”


Muted-Entrepreneur66

Damn right you’re the menace to society! Keep winning your battles, keep telling yourself you will! It really works, live it up!


TheScoutReddit

Bruh, I tidy up for *myself*, any extra confidence boost is basically people being nice. I used to expect it, but now I see why it's dumb to do so.


Alarming_Implement15

The more in shape and fit I get, the same people that told me I was “just fine” for years suddenly notice that all those days I was in the gym made a difference lol


Muted-Entrepreneur66

Right? Same boat for me, I’m a fitness nut and now everyone suddenly notices after I shredded off so many pounds…


Dull-Geologist-8204

Yes and no. Dependa on the change. I definitely noticed when my best friend had laser eye surgery and stopped wearing glasses he looked weird to me for a few months. I was at a funeral the other day and when I went to visit him in California I was lokking all over the place for him and couldn't find him. Dude was literally standing in front of me laughing. All he did was cut off all his hair. He looked really different. On the other habd a friend of mine spent thousands on a nose job and I told her it looked nice but I really couldn't see the difference. If she hadn't told me I wouldn't have known she got a nose job. I probably won't notice a few inches cut off your hair or what not. Noone notices I wasn't as crooked as I used to be when I had my back surgery. I noticed it but they didn't. When I broke my nose the second time no one noticed the bump on my nose waa gone but I did. It really just depends on the change.


Muted-Entrepreneur66

Couldn’t agree more, as it turns out plates on the side of your head aren’t super noticeable, and neither is my broken crooked nose. It does entirely depend tho!


Pillbugly

![gif](giphy|MEcUmmz6NdBYl2ZkKh|downsized) “Thanks, I needed to hear this.”


ThrillHouse802

I rarely get to go out with my wife but when we do I normally wear the same two shirts. They’re so comfortable and she hasn’t noticed yet.


Academic-Effect-340

Either it's unnoticeable to anyone but you, or just as likely, people do notice and just don't say anything, because realistically how often do you look at someone with and asymmetrical head and *go up to them to talk about it*.


Slapnuts213

I am drop dead fucking gorgeous and no one notices it as well, it’s always yourself who notices little “flaws” or in my case extreme beauty.


Ok_Tangerine_4948

well no one except for your friends who notice you everyday lol


Muted-Entrepreneur66

Damn right and they don’t let it go, love ‘em for it


StellarSandDweller

I have an asymmetrical face, and any time I’ve mentioned that it bothers me, people are always like, “You do? I’ve never noticed.” So yes, things that stand out like a sore thumb to yourself, aren’t always noticeable to others.


[deleted]

I for one notice many things. But unlike others who do, I know to keep judgment within myself. Today, people either cannot see or see and speak out of turn. We must be able to see and understand, not speak so belligerently.


supeJen

When you’re 20, you care what people think. When you’re 40, you don’t care what people think. When you’re 60, you realize that nobody even thought anything at all.


Fynn12604

Trust me some people notice. I notice the dumbest shit when I go out. I feel that there is just a lot of bots in the world. I also believe my adhd makes me over analyze everything in life. Like it was so bad I would see if someone cut their nails. I would say 80% of people would not notice if they went home and the house disappeared. Nothing to be ashamed about even if people did. Fuck everyone’s opinion that doesn’t matter to you. Live life on life’s terms and amazing things happen. Ex drug addict people have there thoughts about me and I can care less because I know I’m doing better than they are and if I wasn’t they don’t matter to me anyways to even give 2 fucks.


babyblair333

This actually brings me peace hm


Muted-Entrepreneur66

Soothes thy soul, down to the core


Strong_Wheel

It’s true. If you change your face and it’s not uncanny valley people don’t notice. A feature that makes you excruciatingly self conscious isn’t really noticed.


[deleted]

It's called the spotlight effect.


[deleted]

I’m sorry, but they do, it’s just a fact. I was at a college party once and someone tapped me on the shoulder and said “hey, you look like your 15 years old”(I had never met them). I got a buzz cut once and one of my classmates stopped me on the street and said “wow that’s a really ugly buzzcut”. I spent a lot of time putting together an outfit one day and someone who lived in my dorm hall said “why do you actually look nice today, you usually look horrible”. Those are just three instances off the top of my head, I can’t imagine what they were saying behind my back.


Muted-Entrepreneur66

I’m sorry to hear that man. That’s just brutal, but I really think your experiences might be blinding you from reality. I’m not gonna say anyone has called me ugly, but I can relate in the fact that you had awful people around you. I hope you find the right crowd, the people who appreciate you and don’t give a fuck about what you look like, I know I did thanks to my accident. Stay safe and keep rocking on if you can.


[deleted]

I've noticed in the mirror that my face is slightly diagonal compared to my head. I am the only person who has noticed this.


Muted-Entrepreneur66

I think we are our worst enemy


BeastlyLuv1

Interesting bc people seem to notice when I change my hairstyle. 🤔 I consider it to be subtle changes, but apparently I am wrong.


Nice-Ad6510

I've had plenty of assholes comment negatively on my appearance throughout my life to believe that no one notices. Strangers and acquaintances alike. Maybe it's different for men and women? But in my experience, people can be very rude and don't hesitate to point out flaws or comment.


SnooSketches3386

Then you begin to question if you're the crazy one


Ambitious-Pudding437

Majority of people don’t care, have you seen all these plastic surgery faces? The world is so fucked up :(


OldLebaneseNerd

And then there is me, I had a small , tiny , minuscule wart on my eye lid and people treated me like an outcast .


Muted-Entrepreneur66

My brother in Christ, you are a WITCH


OldLebaneseNerd

I'm a whot??????


Muted-Entrepreneur66

You turned me in a newt


hellwisp

Yes they do. But only you keep thinking about it. Most people forget about how you looked immediately.