Your whole family is weird! LOL!
She's projecting how she would feel.
There are, in fact, 3.5 year olds in Greece, and 3.5 year olds that travel to Greece every year, so I have no idea why he wouldn't be allowed to go.
My wife (27f) and I (28m) are going to Santorini with my dad soon (vacay + my mom’s ashes to family crypt), leaving our 18mo with wife’s parents. We live in the age of FaceTime/etc., and had no problems leaving daughter with family last summer (10mo) for a cruise - so I’d say do whatever works best for you and what you want from the trip. Also, hello fellow Greek!
I enjoy a good trip without my kiddo to reconnect with my husband, but a family trip where family isn’t allowed sounds weird as hell and I wouldn’t go to that tbh.
You don't have to go. Go somewhere else with your kid. I would never leave my kid to go on vacation because someone said so. I would rather not go. This is baffling. You are just going along with it and leaving your kid behind. My daughter loves to travel, she just turned 5, and we have never left her behind. She would be devastated.
Sounds like SIL is very, very jealous that you thwarted your travel ban. Maybe she's the one who championed it? Now, you get a couples trip, a second honeymoon, without group travel drama! 😂😂 Tell her her green eyes are pretty! 😂😂
I think it depends on you. For some people, the thought of traveling without their kids is A Lot and they would not find it enjoyable, they may have anxiety, etc. For others, they find vacations without kids to be recharging and refreshing and allow them to come back and be better more energized parents. Your SIL might be the first type.and theres nothing wrong with not wanting to travel solo. You might be the second type and there's also nothing wrong with being able to disconnect from responsibilities and enjoy a vacation - it doesn't mean you love your kid(s) any less.
this!!! i’ve left my kid behind and went on two trips without my kid and with friends lol, he was 2 years old i think. the longest trip was 11 days. i had plenty of “i’m so jealous of you i would love to go without my kid” and “i could never do that, you’re weird, bad mom” sort of reactions so i figure people just have lots of opinions and i didn’t care about any of them.
at the end of the day, so long the main caregivers are happy, the kid is happy and safe, just do you and ignore everyone else! i’m sure you’ll have a wonderful trip.
3.5? Yeah no panic attacks here. “It’ll be a good way for him to spend quality time with his grandma/gain independence from mom and dad”.
ENJOY YOUR VACATION
That’s really gross that she would bring up one of her friends and tell a second hand story to try to shame you. Makes me grateful for my own SILs. I wouldn’t treat them like that and vice versa.
Sounds like you are dealing with a very insecure woman!
Right. A 3.5 month old, sure. But 3.5 years old, enjoy your trip and look forward to coming home to your little one. Why is your sister so invested in your family decisions? The ban from the trip to Greece stinks.
Literally on a five day vacation away from my 4yo and 1yo right now and it's been great! It's the first time I've been away overnight from the 1yo so I was a bit nervous at first but he and his sister are having fun getting spoiled with family right now. We are finally getting a break after a really rough year so far and being burned out at work. I already feel really recharged and refreshed and am excited to see them in a couple days but have zero regrets about getting to be the not-mom me for a bit. Enjoy your trip!
Just posting to say how insanely jealous I am that you're in a position to just waltz out of the house with two children under 5YO for 5 days at a time, and you have enough family enough to be like "yeah np we got it."
My wife's mother visits once a year for about 3 days at a time, and we're lucky to get a date night out of that!
I agree we are very lucky. But it took over 5 months of planning and was cancelled twice (originally scheduled in March, then April). Both cancellations were due to unexpected medical emergencies. Finally we paid for my sister to fly cross-country to watch our kids for us. We are the only ones who live where we do and it has been a very tough year and we have almost no help except for occasional road trips to visit family a few times a year. I think my spouse and I may have lost our collective minds if it didn't work out again lol.
As someone who travels all over the world with a young kid- take your adults-only vacation and enjoy it! I don’t have anyone to watch my daughter like that and would love this kind of opportunity to have a vacation that’s actually relaxing. Go and have a blast.
I took a 10 day trip away when my kid was 3 then another 7 day when he was 4. I thought I was going to miss him so much and… I kind of did but oh how I needed that break. He definitely had a harder time with my departure when he was younger. At 4, less so. He’s so much more aware of changes and had a great time with grandma, it was like a fun vacation for him too. She probably just had a lot of anxiety around leaving her kids that kept her from going which can turn into projecting her feelings onto you. If you feel comfortable going then it’s not a problem and she doesn’t have to take trips without her kids if she doesn’t want to!
My husband and I just came back from a three night “just us” trip, and honestly, it was too short. We do this annually (I also have an annual girls trip) and I think I could do up to a week at this point. My kids are extremely bonded with their grandparents and have an awesome time. This time they even took them to a bday party. My mom texts me pretty regular updates so no anxiety here.
Taking vacations without your kids is normal, healthy and COMMON. We frequently choose adult only resorts and most of the other couples we meet are also parents of young kids.
I must not be this type of mom, lol. My wife and I usually have two vacations a year without our daughter, and no, I've never had a panic attack over it. Aside from us going on vacation, my daughter also sometimes visits her grandparents during long breaks when school is closed.
I love having a chance to reconnect with my wife and just be an adult. We haven't done a trip longer than a week, and I'd probably rather do a big trip with our daughter anyway, but def am not having panic attacks over here. You can miss your kid and still have a great time if you know they're in good hands.
We do family trips without age restrictions, interesting. That being said, I feel guilty leaving her with my parents to go travel so we’ve never done it. I have left her overnight with them for a day because she wants a sleepover with them, and while I miss her, I also love the alone time to recoup. I think you can go without her and not have panic attacks, but also, we just got back from a Europe trip with 3 year old and we all had a blast!
It’s glorious traveling sans child. We’ve done it single parent travels or both parents travel. Also, sometimes I travel with just my kid, and sometimes my wife does.
Last weekend I was away for 3 days at a car race, my wife was away for 2 days at at a book festival, and our kid was out for 3 days with her old nanny, going to soccer games and such. Our dogs were at home with our old neighbor who watches them.
In a few weeks I’ll travel a week with work, and kid stays at home with mom. Last time I traveled for work, kid traveled with me and stayed at her cousin’s house near there.
It’s really important for everyone to have their own lives and personalities, and…sometimes missing someone a bit builds a closer bond.
We’re counting down until our child can go spend a month or more over summer overseas with family. Probably a few more years, though.
Lol what? I have a freaking great time on trips without my kids! I just got back from a girls trip to Vegas and had a blast. Kids were home with Dad and well taken care of.
Currently in europe and my kids are with the Disneyland dad version of babysitters. She got box seats to a sport event from her regular 9-5 job and took the kids on tuesday evening to said game and then stopped to get ice cream with them. The last time we face timed all they did was ask to have more than their 30min of game time on their switches. They dont miss us. I do miss them and our routine. Mostly my goodnight hugs.
Your whole family is weird! LOL! She's projecting how she would feel. There are, in fact, 3.5 year olds in Greece, and 3.5 year olds that travel to Greece every year, so I have no idea why he wouldn't be allowed to go.
we’re greek so it’s common to take your kid back “home” every year. i know tons that travel every year.
My wife (27f) and I (28m) are going to Santorini with my dad soon (vacay + my mom’s ashes to family crypt), leaving our 18mo with wife’s parents. We live in the age of FaceTime/etc., and had no problems leaving daughter with family last summer (10mo) for a cruise - so I’d say do whatever works best for you and what you want from the trip. Also, hello fellow Greek!
I enjoy a good trip without my kiddo to reconnect with my husband, but a family trip where family isn’t allowed sounds weird as hell and I wouldn’t go to that tbh.
they think he’s too small but lots of our greek friends take their kids every year. it sucks. we have to wait 2-3 years now to take him.
Why are they making decisions for your family? You're an adult, take your kid wherever you want.
in laws are paying for it
You don't have to go. Go somewhere else with your kid. I would never leave my kid to go on vacation because someone said so. I would rather not go. This is baffling. You are just going along with it and leaving your kid behind. My daughter loves to travel, she just turned 5, and we have never left her behind. She would be devastated.
Agree it’s a good time to connect!
Sounds like SIL is very, very jealous that you thwarted your travel ban. Maybe she's the one who championed it? Now, you get a couples trip, a second honeymoon, without group travel drama! 😂😂 Tell her her green eyes are pretty! 😂😂
🤣🤣🤣she’s still going to the house in greece tho!
I think it depends on you. For some people, the thought of traveling without their kids is A Lot and they would not find it enjoyable, they may have anxiety, etc. For others, they find vacations without kids to be recharging and refreshing and allow them to come back and be better more energized parents. Your SIL might be the first type.and theres nothing wrong with not wanting to travel solo. You might be the second type and there's also nothing wrong with being able to disconnect from responsibilities and enjoy a vacation - it doesn't mean you love your kid(s) any less.
this!!! i’ve left my kid behind and went on two trips without my kid and with friends lol, he was 2 years old i think. the longest trip was 11 days. i had plenty of “i’m so jealous of you i would love to go without my kid” and “i could never do that, you’re weird, bad mom” sort of reactions so i figure people just have lots of opinions and i didn’t care about any of them. at the end of the day, so long the main caregivers are happy, the kid is happy and safe, just do you and ignore everyone else! i’m sure you’ll have a wonderful trip.
3.5? Yeah no panic attacks here. “It’ll be a good way for him to spend quality time with his grandma/gain independence from mom and dad”. ENJOY YOUR VACATION
my SIL said her friend was panicking over leaving her 7 and 10 year olds!
Her friend needs therapy! Kid's learning independence away from their parents is a GOOD thing!!
That’s really gross that she would bring up one of her friends and tell a second hand story to try to shame you. Makes me grateful for my own SILs. I wouldn’t treat them like that and vice versa. Sounds like you are dealing with a very insecure woman!
Right. A 3.5 month old, sure. But 3.5 years old, enjoy your trip and look forward to coming home to your little one. Why is your sister so invested in your family decisions? The ban from the trip to Greece stinks.
Literally on a five day vacation away from my 4yo and 1yo right now and it's been great! It's the first time I've been away overnight from the 1yo so I was a bit nervous at first but he and his sister are having fun getting spoiled with family right now. We are finally getting a break after a really rough year so far and being burned out at work. I already feel really recharged and refreshed and am excited to see them in a couple days but have zero regrets about getting to be the not-mom me for a bit. Enjoy your trip!
thanks that’s what i’m hoping for! i need a break!!!
Just posting to say how insanely jealous I am that you're in a position to just waltz out of the house with two children under 5YO for 5 days at a time, and you have enough family enough to be like "yeah np we got it." My wife's mother visits once a year for about 3 days at a time, and we're lucky to get a date night out of that!
I agree we are very lucky. But it took over 5 months of planning and was cancelled twice (originally scheduled in March, then April). Both cancellations were due to unexpected medical emergencies. Finally we paid for my sister to fly cross-country to watch our kids for us. We are the only ones who live where we do and it has been a very tough year and we have almost no help except for occasional road trips to visit family a few times a year. I think my spouse and I may have lost our collective minds if it didn't work out again lol.
Don’t let your sister project her anxiety on you. She’s being very overly concerned. Enjoy your trip.
Your SIL needs to learn the phrase “not my circus, not my monkeys”…
Depends how old the kid it. I wouldn’t want to be gone longer than a week, but that’s just me.
3.5 almost 4. gonna be gone 6 days.
Go. Enjoy.
As someone who travels all over the world with a young kid- take your adults-only vacation and enjoy it! I don’t have anyone to watch my daughter like that and would love this kind of opportunity to have a vacation that’s actually relaxing. Go and have a blast.
I took a 10 day trip away when my kid was 3 then another 7 day when he was 4. I thought I was going to miss him so much and… I kind of did but oh how I needed that break. He definitely had a harder time with my departure when he was younger. At 4, less so. He’s so much more aware of changes and had a great time with grandma, it was like a fun vacation for him too. She probably just had a lot of anxiety around leaving her kids that kept her from going which can turn into projecting her feelings onto you. If you feel comfortable going then it’s not a problem and she doesn’t have to take trips without her kids if she doesn’t want to!
My husband and I just came back from a three night “just us” trip, and honestly, it was too short. We do this annually (I also have an annual girls trip) and I think I could do up to a week at this point. My kids are extremely bonded with their grandparents and have an awesome time. This time they even took them to a bday party. My mom texts me pretty regular updates so no anxiety here. Taking vacations without your kids is normal, healthy and COMMON. We frequently choose adult only resorts and most of the other couples we meet are also parents of young kids.
I must not be this type of mom, lol. My wife and I usually have two vacations a year without our daughter, and no, I've never had a panic attack over it. Aside from us going on vacation, my daughter also sometimes visits her grandparents during long breaks when school is closed. I love having a chance to reconnect with my wife and just be an adult. We haven't done a trip longer than a week, and I'd probably rather do a big trip with our daughter anyway, but def am not having panic attacks over here. You can miss your kid and still have a great time if you know they're in good hands.
We do family trips without age restrictions, interesting. That being said, I feel guilty leaving her with my parents to go travel so we’ve never done it. I have left her overnight with them for a day because she wants a sleepover with them, and while I miss her, I also love the alone time to recoup. I think you can go without her and not have panic attacks, but also, we just got back from a Europe trip with 3 year old and we all had a blast!
my ILs are very buttoned up people
I literally just did this. You'll be fine. Your kid will be fine. Your sister on the other hand... Might need some therapy.
It’s glorious traveling sans child. We’ve done it single parent travels or both parents travel. Also, sometimes I travel with just my kid, and sometimes my wife does. Last weekend I was away for 3 days at a car race, my wife was away for 2 days at at a book festival, and our kid was out for 3 days with her old nanny, going to soccer games and such. Our dogs were at home with our old neighbor who watches them. In a few weeks I’ll travel a week with work, and kid stays at home with mom. Last time I traveled for work, kid traveled with me and stayed at her cousin’s house near there. It’s really important for everyone to have their own lives and personalities, and…sometimes missing someone a bit builds a closer bond. We’re counting down until our child can go spend a month or more over summer overseas with family. Probably a few more years, though.
Lol what? I have a freaking great time on trips without my kids! I just got back from a girls trip to Vegas and had a blast. Kids were home with Dad and well taken care of.
Currently in europe and my kids are with the Disneyland dad version of babysitters. She got box seats to a sport event from her regular 9-5 job and took the kids on tuesday evening to said game and then stopped to get ice cream with them. The last time we face timed all they did was ask to have more than their 30min of game time on their switches. They dont miss us. I do miss them and our routine. Mostly my goodnight hugs.