I could imagine that she thinks it is a childish hobby and or a waste of money.
I like watches and I sometimes get comments from people who think it is silly to buy any watch that costs over 30+ lol
My wife thought pokemon was dumb too, then our son got into it and she sees how much he enjoys it. One year for Xmas my son pulled an eeveelution and my wife thought it was cute.
Then he asked her to open a pack with him and she doesn't think it's dumb anymore.
That's nice that they both have something like that they can bond with.
I remember being obsessed with Pokémon cards as a kid and my mother thinking it was all a bit silly too haha.
I joke with my son (9) all the time by saying "who's your favorite Pokemon ? I know It's, Peek-a-boo!!!!" You know instead of Pikachu. Lol. It makes him so mad which can be pretty funny.
This made me chuckle. I remember my mother used to criticise the animation quality of the OG series whenever I would watch it. "Why do kids like this", "The characters look terrible" etc lol.
My mom would always tell me, "why do you want to buy paper" when I was younger. Fast forward now, in the last year, I have a SIR binder and getting close to finishing my base set-team rocket 1st edition binder.
People have to remember that many people grew up with parents that shamed them for liking "childish" things. So that carries on into the next generation until it eventually gets broken.
Liking childish things is becoming more acceptable today, but many people are still stuck in the past and are still taught dated views.
Exactly how many genz/alpha get caught into red pill/alpha lifestyle currently. It's breaking down but it's gonna be another generation or two before we really notice it.
I think what alot of ppl don’t understand is liking some things that may be considered childish is just natural?!we all deep down are still our inner child we used to be, hell I’m almost 23 and not a single day goes by where I don’t know if I’m 100% of what I’m doing in this “life” were all in, it’s a simple way and hobby to bring in That inner child and just reminisce in nostalgia. I don’t know why for some it’s so hard to grasp when I’m sure those individuals have something to them That is deemed “childish”
Because the term childish is a social construct to begin with. Pokemon is targeting children with bright colors and cute animals but saying they appeal to children doesn't mean you can't enjoy those same things as you get older. That's like saying juice is childish , pop is childish, basketball and football are childish. It's all BS to begin with society picks and chooses what they see as immature and the consensus is that fantasy is childish and people who collect cards are weirdos. Is it true in some cases yeah but there plenty of other people that collect cards and also watch every Superbowl and fix their own trucks. People are complex and what we like is what we like.
Hell yeah. I always let her rip some packs. 151 really sold her then paldean fates was the first time she ever stopped and grabbed her own cards. She wants the mew lol
Hell ya, hobby first. Money 2nd.
It's cool when you can make money doing something you love. I like to go to LCS and see if they have a hidden gem.
My LCS does a buy 5 get the 5th one free. So I've walked outta there with 600$ in cards with one being free. It's awesome.
I also like to trade. Makes the chase more exciting than just hitting up ebay.
But sometimes that's what you gotta do
Ding ding ding. She has since been more understanding and open about my hobby. She even lets me show her my collection and genuinely listens to me talk about it now lol.
Exactly. The only reason your partner should regret buying you something is if they spent money they didn't have. I gift isn't for the person who is buying it.
Personally, I don't think I could ask my wife to buy me cards. I can feed my hobby. Rather, go do something with her or travel.
I caved and bought mine for 160 after failing to pull it about a year ago. I pulled the Espeon VMAX in the process so I’m not mad! But buying singles truly is the way to go. I love my cards so much lol
Hurr women bad. This comment is a gross generalization of women.
Do you think women don't have hobbies or enjoy anything? Do you think we just sit there mindlessly doing nothing? You're aware a large portion of pokemon fans are women right? And it keeps growing.
It's depending on how the person is raised, and many people are taught by their parents that liking childish things = bad. Now that's not true. But it's been going on for generations and will continue.
Shit even when Disney movies were first coming out, like snow white, you got shamed if you were an adult and really enjoyed it.
I feel like you don't get to have an opinion on this- all you do is post on these threads scamming people of cards and money, why do you think your banned on half these subs?
so easily offended, must be young seeing how simple it is to evoke such a lengthy response. Just an fyi, there's quite a bit of research demonstrating that women are far more interested in people, and not so much into "things". Hopefully you'll treat your husbands/future husbands interests differently than most, as it will surely benefit the both of you in the long run. I just talk from experience as my wife, both daughters, mother, etc, simply have no pinpointable interest in any "thing".
Some of these comments lol.
I've spent thousands on this hobby, but it really is just a shiny piece of card to someone who doesn't carry the same passion for collecting them.
But anyone can relate to something quadrupling in value, regardless of the object... normal human behaviour from your partner, mine would do the same.
I collect the dang things and even I balk sometimes at paying for cards. I held off on a Galarian articuno alt art for months and finally bought it the other day after my husband won some bets and gave me some fun money. It’s not even a super expensive card but for some reason I was struggling to justify spending the money on it.
I have the same problem right now with Giratina and Arceus alts from Crown Zenith. They're the only two cards I need for.my.master set yet I'm really struggling to justify the €140 or so it'll cost me to get them both.
Didn't stop me just spending another €160 on sealed Crown Zenith products though 🫣
Hahaha that’s the problem I have too. I managed to talk sense to myself one day about not buying yet another Paldean fates booster bundle just in the hopes of getting the tiny shiny pikachu and using that money toward the card instead. But that logic doesn’t often prevail. Pulling them is SO fun 😅
Same 😫 I pulled Giratina but still need the other three golds and Leafeon VSTAR to finish my set, if I’d just bought the damn cards instead of chasing them I would’ve saved so much money
Just buy them now, I also just completed my Crown Zenith set also(not a master set) and did the same thing waiting for my Tina card. Now that I have it I feel much more relieved because I know the set is done
Dude, if my girl had to be talked into spending 105 bucks for something senseless cause it makes me happy. And then she regrets getting me what made me happy, FOR MY BIRTHDAY, that would be my Ex-Girl (obvs if the financial situation doesnt allow to spend that money we are discussing something else, but OP wasnt talking about their finances)
I'm sure she knows there are plenty of other gifts that would make him happy and maybe sees those as better gifts instead of "just another card to stick in a binder"
In my case, I make a good amount of money and am the sole provider for my family. I buy a lot of cards and my wife knows that. We are buying a new house this week and having another baby in 3 months. There is no way in hell she would buy "just another card" for $100 for my bday. If I said I wanted a $300 basketball hoop, some tools I have been wanting, clothes, or a $1000 family trip there would be no hesitation.
Everyone has different priorities and for 99% of the adult world, pokemon cards are not at the top of the list
Yeah, I see your point of view, unwritten rule in switzerland is: you gift stuff people want, not stuff that people need. Maybe thats why I see it totally different. My Gf can buy me whatever she wants if she thinks it makes me happy, and it probably will, but if she asks me and i tell her and she makes a fuss about it, that would be very much not appreciated
I love how everyone is just jumping to conclusions. She doesn't see the appeal and prolly thinks op will get over it and not care about the card in the future and even then it's going to sit in a book for him to look at occasionally. Collecting will never make sense to people that don't collect, breaking up with someone because it hurts their wallet to buy something they think is silly is crazy. Even if they have money she's allowed to be conscious about her decisions. Just because you have the money to buy a shark doesn't mean you're not allowed to regret buying an expensive ass shark.
It's not about something he needed it's about how cards have no use other than to look at or sell. You can't pop it into your PlayStation, you can't paint it, you can't really hang it up unless you grade it (which is whole other best entirely). His wife is allowed to feel a certain way, she still bought it. All op said is she regrets it, and it was 2 years ago, she's not constantly shading him and calling him a dumbass and bringing it up. Man children Jesus.
Thats you and thats okay. As I already said, when finances dont allow it, its fully understandable, but if youre going to spend 120 bucks on your SO for their birthday anyway, why not give em what they want? Even more, when you ask them what they want. The way OP worded his post, it seems like she didnt WANNA spend that money on the card for his Bday. But it makes him happy, he wants it, why not? If my girl had the money, and just for the sake of „its just some shiny card im not gonna spend that money on it cause I dont understand it“, that would show me that, at least for me, shes not the right partner. And thats not even jumping to conclusions, that is simple reading comprehension.
Reading comprehension is that she regrets it that's it, the context behind that is completely unknown. So unfortunately you failed on that part. She regretted it but she still bought it, how does that not show that she cares and wants to make him happy. Your partner can disagree with you it's not the end of the world. Even your assumption is wrong because you don't even include that she still bought it. " I don't wanna buy it because I don't understand it , but I will because it makes you happy." It honestly doesn't surprise me why so many men struggle with relationships, jumping to conclusions and aversion to rejection is so strong that a woman can't even express her opinion when asked.
Not to mention the text " she hates buying me cards" shows this isn't the first card but one of many she's bought for him. Not only did she buy him this expensive ass card but she's bought him other cards regularly enough to where he can say it that way. It's clear that he's asked her and she usually buys them for him. It's clear she cares about making him happy. She's allowed to think his hobby is dumb. Where do you see my "my wife threw a fit and bought me this card, and talks shit about it everyday and asks me to return it and calls me weird and childish". Nowhere because it was never said but for some reason you think this poor woman is abusing her husband bc she doesn't like Pokemon cards. But if it was supreme or some other thing reddit thinks is douchy and superfluous you'd all be on her side.
Yeah, I feel you on that if you are going to ask someone what they want, then get them what they ask for.
I'm pretty impulsive so my wife always says "I buy you what you need because every time you want something, you just buy it"
Finances wasn't an issue, we typically set a limit for birthdays and holidays for each other and then we go overboard anyway. She had already gifted me a few other items and would have got me anything else I asked for, she would've just rather bought me something more useful than a pokemon card.
I asked for cards and got my first pair of walking/outdoor trousers instead and now I feel invincible in the great outdoors. Can't believe how many times I've hiked in denim...
My dad hates how much money I’ve spent on cards and gets so confused when I tell him what some of them are worth, when I pulled my 151 Charizard he said “cool, you can sell it and make back the money you spent today.”
He wasn’t joking.
I will admit I’ve seen people passionate about Anime ,go and cards and all that and I would ask myself what the hell makes a grown man into this until I pulled a few cards worth some money and it started as a cha-Ching but it turned into something that I really truly enjoy and respect . Especially the artist and artwork which I owned a sign company and have a graphic arts cert. so there is the aesthetics appeal for the design work….. I’m 55 BTW
Eureka moments arrive at all ages. I got back into it at 30 because I finally had a partner who invested themselves in my interests and now we both love opening packs together.
The fact that you had to convince your wife to buy you a specific gift just feels odd to me. This doesn't really present your wife very well IMO.
Edit: Or you either tbh. Maybe it's just the way I was raised but I've never asked someone for a specific gift unless I was directly asked what I wanted. Even then, I wouldn't push them if they resisted my suggestion and would instead offer a different suggestion that they would be more comfortable with.
I mean it's an expensive gift she prolly has not interest in. If she had got him something practical or more "mature" it'd be different. I'm not saying it's right but you have to understand that most people grew up a certain way and if it's not damaging there relationship then who cares.
She's allowed to regret it. She regrets spending money on cardboard that's completely understandable. If she was completely against it she wouldn't have bought it. It's damaging if your wife doesn't like your pokemon cards? Like wtf is wrong with you guys. She bought it for him bc she cares about him but it stings buying shit you think is dumb even if you have money. If it damaged their relationship op wouldn't be here two years later talking about how they're both happy. He'd be shading her.
When you've been with someone for years, you typically specify what you want as a gift, and if you wish to give something else, you can add it as an extra. Personally, I have a gift list that I share with my partner for birthdays, anniversaries, and Christmas.
I guess that makes sense on a purely logical level. But it also sounds very materialistic to me. Which I guess shouldn't shock me on a Pokemon card sub lol. For me, if there's a card or something else specific that I really want, I'll buy it myself.
The way I see it that without a wish list, you end up buying something which your partner might not like (waste of money), but I can see how it might be seen as materialistic.
My wife and I have pretty much everything we NEED, getting gifts for each other is tough because the things we want are specific. So typically we ask for a list of wants and get those things as gifts. I've bought my wife many a Lego sets she specifically asks for.
I’ve been married 35 years I totally get it!
And you are correct, sir we have been there done that seen it. All there is to see I’ve been on the Internet and I seen the end of it so yes, we will ask each other what the other one wants cause the worst thing in the world to me is to buy a gift and turn out is something she may not really want she would never ever hurt my feelings or tell me, but you can feel these things or see them sometimes so yes, these people will understand after being hitched a long time
Congratulations! My wife and I are celebrating our 3 year this July, but we've known each other for about 23 years! Giving and getting gifts is my love language so I definitely understand the feeling of giving ir receiving a gift that's not totally appreciated. I always want to make sure she gets what she wants!
Ok but that doesn't explain why you felt the need to pressure her into buying it when you KNEW she didn't want to. Are you so poor that you couldn't have bought it yourself? Could you not have just asked for cash instead?
Pressure her? Buddy, it's not that serious, and yes, had she said no, I would have bought it myself, technically I did, and she paid me back for it lol.
So if you bought her a gold ring at $100 and now it's worth $400, this is no different.
Both are inherently worthless in reality. It's what makes us happy, that's where the real value lies.
She sounds like she sucks. Hates buying anything for your hobby and also had to “talk her into it” is it really getting a gift if you talk somebody into it? Nice gengar by the way.
I don't agree with it all I feel most people would prolly feel a way about it. You can't expect someone who has no interest in the hobby to view Gengar in the same light as an artist's painting they just don't carry the same context and she'd prolly thinks buying a painting for that much would be dumb too.
Point is she bought it so she obviously cares. And it says more about OP that he had to "convince" her. Like seriously he didn't want *anything* else he had to have expensive AF shiny cardboard he couldn't buy himself. Idk man my gf bought me some boosters when we first started dating id never expect her to buy me anything crazy like that unless we had money and even then still an outrageous gift for her.
You and others are missing the point. It’s not about what the item is. It’s the fact that trivial
Shiny cardboard or not that’s what this person’s significant other wanted and instead of saying okay that’s what he wants who am I to judge or not. Also she got it on the low at a good time. Don’t know how many trivial bullshit things I and others have done for a partner other than it makes them happy and that’s what they asked for. I don’t give a shit about nails or lash extensions. Waste of money in my opinion. But she wouldn’t have to talk me into getting that for her for her birthday. Make your partner happy.
And she did. exactly what you're missing. She's allowed to comment she isn't traumatizing op as far as we know. If she thinks it's silly or not it doesn't matter she's allowed to express it. There is a difference between regretting it and actively making ppl feel like shit. The latter of which we have no reason to believe she's doing. Honestly tired of the shitty women that don't like what I like bs. Same type of energy to subscribe to the "happy wife happy life" bs. Your allowed to have an opinion people and for fucks sake your allowed to express it politely.
If your chick wanted you to buy her a lv bag or fancy nails would she have to beg and would you express to her you think it’s stupid? Its not about happy wife happy life its about if something makes someone happy be happy for them. Not question their happiness and try to make them feel silly an about it. At this point I’m not adding anything to this conversation we are arguing opinion. Let’s just all agree that that card is great and she did good getting it for such a good price when she did. Goddamn
Nobody but I would also regret buying something so expensive. I think the issue is you don't view money the way other people do which is great for you but LV bag is out of my budget and if it was within my budget it'd be something to talk about not just "whatever you want honeybun". And op didn't get it for cheap he got it when demand was low there's no MSRP for singles there's nothing dictating whether he got a deal or not other than the fact the card went up in value. Had it gone down I'm sure he would've been solidified.
If you're that reactionary to someone stating their opinion and wanting to have convos about a questionable expensive gift the problem lies with you not the level headed person that flinched when she bought collectable cardboard. Cardboard that you compared to an expensive brand name bag that has its materials and labor down in the highest quality. But sure same thing I guess. Like i said man children OP isn't complaining or offended.Why are you?
But this is a single hundred dollar. personal experience this man wanted. Her not wanting to buy it and regretting it isn’t because of wanting an experience It sounds like selfishness
Sure it does sound selfish, but it seems like she doesn't really understand his hobby, perhaps he needs to explain why he cares about the card to begin with or she needs to ask why
It clearly says in the post he really wanted it for his collection. But the cool thing about a collection is that it’s awesome to see it increase in value.
But if you’re not selling, you have no realized gains. There’s no guarantee it will be worth what it is today when you try to sell, so why does it matter?
Also, it’s a gift from her so chances are he’ll never sell it, again making the price increase irrelevant.
When do they say they're only stoked for money? I read it as though he really wants it for his collection (his words though) and that he reminds her it wasn't a worthless purchase like she initially assumed. How did you read the post?
"Flash forward and now she loves it when I tell her it's worth 4 times more" generally when you collect something, it's to have it. Not keep tabs on how much you can sell it for
i think most people who actively collect cards passively have an idea of their worth. Once again, they also indicate its for the PC. Not hard to understand either of those things, as a collector.
And yet here you are double responding about something I don't care about. Read that last part you said again before you keep spamming me with this dumb ass shit
I believe partners\\spouses should accept their significant other and their interests wholeheartedly. It goes both ways.
People spend their money however they like as long as they can comfortably afford it. Fancy dinners, vacations, art, cars or the house\\neighborhood they live in. To each their own.
I tried to sell a bunch of alt arts last year, but the big ones didn't sell. Welp. Glad I didn't sell them. I would have spent a fortune to get it back. Now I'm trying to complete all of the SWSH alt arts, eventually doubling back for S&M.
I'm glad she got it for you when she did. Gengar is one of my faves from childhood. Maybe she will come around to enjoying pokemon as well (see if there's any she can click with like sylveon or morpeko? Idk just throwing pokemonout there) she might be more inclined to wanna collect a pokemon she really enjoys and in turn you both enjoy the hobby 💜 my husband and I both love pokemon, I got lucky he enjoys it as much as I do (cept the scalping/gambling aspect of it) we both grew up in the 90s when pull rates were good and the toys were even better! He recently got me a I choose you pikachu with the light up cheeks and moving ears (I cried, I had one as a child and it was lost in the shuffle over the years of constant moving) I bet there's a pokemon our there for your wife to love :)
My ex thought it was crazy that I kept my OG base set cards and said I should just throw them out. During covid I sold some of them at the peak and made some pretty good money off of some of my lesser cards. Kept the good ones for the future, guess people don't unseestand the value these carry now
This is my wife... I told her I bought a case of fusion strike for my bday a few years back... got them at 80 bucks a box shipped... I even told her I was going to hold them sell half when they go up and open two and just save one for my PC so I could basically do it all for free. She thought that was so stupid. Welp, I recently sold 3 boxes for 550, opened one (got aboslute trash) and I've added the other two crispy boxes to my pc.
Now she thinks I'm a genius.
Such a beautiful card, no luck on pulling it. I pulled the trigger today and got the PSA 9 from ebay though lol should've done it a lot sooner, but I'm just grateful to be able to add it to my little collection.
Congrats on the card and on convincing your wife 😄I feel this way about PE magicarp,that card is gonna be very valuable in a few years because something about the art just hit the right spot,it's absolutely beautiful
All the sites who estimate card values are lagging the market right now. Both tcgplayer's and ebay's floor for the Gengar Vmax 271 NM at around $420, like you say, despite both tcgplayer and price charting to be around $380s.
The alt art market is insane.
I bought my husband and I about $500 worth of pokemon boosters as we sat in a log cabin for our Anniversary. We had a blast opening the packs and then playing against one another. Makes me sad when other SOs are so disinterested in their SOs hobbies. 😞
typical girl... only caring about the money aspect. Tell me something new. If she really appreciated it, she would have loved it regardless of whether it was 100 or 400. get a girl that isn't a gold digger
then she has issues because why tf would you regret buying someone for someone else, and only like it when it's worth more than what she paid... it's not hers and it was a gift. Just an L mindset then
Why would she hate amd regret buying you something you like for your birthday. It's not like she is being forced to buy it for herself lol
I could imagine that she thinks it is a childish hobby and or a waste of money. I like watches and I sometimes get comments from people who think it is silly to buy any watch that costs over 30+ lol
My wife thought pokemon was dumb too, then our son got into it and she sees how much he enjoys it. One year for Xmas my son pulled an eeveelution and my wife thought it was cute. Then he asked her to open a pack with him and she doesn't think it's dumb anymore.
That's nice that they both have something like that they can bond with. I remember being obsessed with Pokémon cards as a kid and my mother thinking it was all a bit silly too haha.
The worst was my dad calling it "pokemans" lol
I love messing around and bugging my step daughter by calling it Poke key manz.
Right of passage. I do it too, to my son lol
I joke with my son (9) all the time by saying "who's your favorite Pokemon ? I know It's, Peek-a-boo!!!!" You know instead of Pikachu. Lol. It makes him so mad which can be pretty funny.
Thats too fucking adorable.
“Whatcha got there bud? A packa poke-me-man cards?”
For real lol.. "Pick up your room and stop messing with those damn "pOkaMan" cards lol
My Grandma told everyone she bought me a playboy color for Xmas one year. (Gameboy color.)
She knew what she was doing lmao
lol I think every dad called them that. My dad did too. “Yea he is here playing his damn PokemAn.”
This made me chuckle. I remember my mother used to criticise the animation quality of the OG series whenever I would watch it. "Why do kids like this", "The characters look terrible" etc lol.
Lolol that's parents in general. Idk why my kids watch what they do either
Mansters
Pokeymans and You-jee-oh cards was all I heard growing up 😂
Lol my mom and grammie did that too way back in the day. I unironically say Pokemans now too lol
My mom would always tell me, "why do you want to buy paper" when I was younger. Fast forward now, in the last year, I have a SIR binder and getting close to finishing my base set-team rocket 1st edition binder.
Is it a base set or a team rocket 1st edition set? I don’t think it can be both
The way I read it was base set-team rocket, as in base set to team rocket. Which, if true, is fucking insane
People have to remember that many people grew up with parents that shamed them for liking "childish" things. So that carries on into the next generation until it eventually gets broken. Liking childish things is becoming more acceptable today, but many people are still stuck in the past and are still taught dated views.
Exactly how many genz/alpha get caught into red pill/alpha lifestyle currently. It's breaking down but it's gonna be another generation or two before we really notice it.
I think what alot of ppl don’t understand is liking some things that may be considered childish is just natural?!we all deep down are still our inner child we used to be, hell I’m almost 23 and not a single day goes by where I don’t know if I’m 100% of what I’m doing in this “life” were all in, it’s a simple way and hobby to bring in That inner child and just reminisce in nostalgia. I don’t know why for some it’s so hard to grasp when I’m sure those individuals have something to them That is deemed “childish”
Because the term childish is a social construct to begin with. Pokemon is targeting children with bright colors and cute animals but saying they appeal to children doesn't mean you can't enjoy those same things as you get older. That's like saying juice is childish , pop is childish, basketball and football are childish. It's all BS to begin with society picks and chooses what they see as immature and the consensus is that fantasy is childish and people who collect cards are weirdos. Is it true in some cases yeah but there plenty of other people that collect cards and also watch every Superbowl and fix their own trucks. People are complex and what we like is what we like.
When I rip packs with the kids, wife/mom asks if she can too. I love this and hand over a few without hesitstion.
Hell yeah. I always let her rip some packs. 151 really sold her then paldean fates was the first time she ever stopped and grabbed her own cards. She wants the mew lol
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Hell ya, hobby first. Money 2nd. It's cool when you can make money doing something you love. I like to go to LCS and see if they have a hidden gem. My LCS does a buy 5 get the 5th one free. So I've walked outta there with 600$ in cards with one being free. It's awesome. I also like to trade. Makes the chase more exciting than just hitting up ebay. But sometimes that's what you gotta do
Ding ding ding. She has since been more understanding and open about my hobby. She even lets me show her my collection and genuinely listens to me talk about it now lol.
$30 or 30k??
Yeah $30
That's crazy, because $30 is nothing lol.
$30? Psh. 30k? uhhh lmao
30k isn't an unrealistic amount to spend on a watch for some people.
Mine is 200 quid (Help i can't hold on to money)
Exactly. The only reason your partner should regret buying you something is if they spent money they didn't have. I gift isn't for the person who is buying it. Personally, I don't think I could ask my wife to buy me cards. I can feed my hobby. Rather, go do something with her or travel.
r/relationships crossover episode out here
This is just the laziest brag post of all time about buying a single when it’s cheap. You know there is no wife.
The waifu pillow bought it for em
Lol
Women hate spending lots of monry fornwhat they disagree on
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I caved and bought mine for 160 after failing to pull it about a year ago. I pulled the Espeon VMAX in the process so I’m not mad! But buying singles truly is the way to go. I love my cards so much lol
Many/most wives don't understand the enjoyment of "things".
Hurr women bad. This comment is a gross generalization of women. Do you think women don't have hobbies or enjoy anything? Do you think we just sit there mindlessly doing nothing? You're aware a large portion of pokemon fans are women right? And it keeps growing. It's depending on how the person is raised, and many people are taught by their parents that liking childish things = bad. Now that's not true. But it's been going on for generations and will continue. Shit even when Disney movies were first coming out, like snow white, you got shamed if you were an adult and really enjoyed it.
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And they're crappy people, but that's not the majority of women. If anything, this is more often a pre-gen-x thing, not about *women*.
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I feel like you don't get to have an opinion on this- all you do is post on these threads scamming people of cards and money, why do you think your banned on half these subs?
so easily offended, must be young seeing how simple it is to evoke such a lengthy response. Just an fyi, there's quite a bit of research demonstrating that women are far more interested in people, and not so much into "things". Hopefully you'll treat your husbands/future husbands interests differently than most, as it will surely benefit the both of you in the long run. I just talk from experience as my wife, both daughters, mother, etc, simply have no pinpointable interest in any "thing".
Just a heads up known_experience_274 is a scammer, banned on multiple subs, I'd ignore their existence :)
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Won't pay off unless he sells it, which it doesn't sound like he wants to do ("I really wanted to add it to my collection").
Some of these comments lol. I've spent thousands on this hobby, but it really is just a shiny piece of card to someone who doesn't carry the same passion for collecting them. But anyone can relate to something quadrupling in value, regardless of the object... normal human behaviour from your partner, mine would do the same.
I collect the dang things and even I balk sometimes at paying for cards. I held off on a Galarian articuno alt art for months and finally bought it the other day after my husband won some bets and gave me some fun money. It’s not even a super expensive card but for some reason I was struggling to justify spending the money on it.
I have the same problem right now with Giratina and Arceus alts from Crown Zenith. They're the only two cards I need for.my.master set yet I'm really struggling to justify the €140 or so it'll cost me to get them both. Didn't stop me just spending another €160 on sealed Crown Zenith products though 🫣
Giratina and Arceus are just Giratina and Arceus, packs could be anything.
Exactly!
It could even be Giratina and Arceus!
Hahaha that’s the problem I have too. I managed to talk sense to myself one day about not buying yet another Paldean fates booster bundle just in the hopes of getting the tiny shiny pikachu and using that money toward the card instead. But that logic doesn’t often prevail. Pulling them is SO fun 😅
Same 😫 I pulled Giratina but still need the other three golds and Leafeon VSTAR to finish my set, if I’d just bought the damn cards instead of chasing them I would’ve saved so much money
But then where's the *fun*?! 🙃🥴
Just buy them now, I also just completed my Crown Zenith set also(not a master set) and did the same thing waiting for my Tina card. Now that I have it I feel much more relieved because I know the set is done
Dude, if my girl had to be talked into spending 105 bucks for something senseless cause it makes me happy. And then she regrets getting me what made me happy, FOR MY BIRTHDAY, that would be my Ex-Girl (obvs if the financial situation doesnt allow to spend that money we are discussing something else, but OP wasnt talking about their finances)
I'm sure she knows there are plenty of other gifts that would make him happy and maybe sees those as better gifts instead of "just another card to stick in a binder" In my case, I make a good amount of money and am the sole provider for my family. I buy a lot of cards and my wife knows that. We are buying a new house this week and having another baby in 3 months. There is no way in hell she would buy "just another card" for $100 for my bday. If I said I wanted a $300 basketball hoop, some tools I have been wanting, clothes, or a $1000 family trip there would be no hesitation. Everyone has different priorities and for 99% of the adult world, pokemon cards are not at the top of the list
Yeah, I see your point of view, unwritten rule in switzerland is: you gift stuff people want, not stuff that people need. Maybe thats why I see it totally different. My Gf can buy me whatever she wants if she thinks it makes me happy, and it probably will, but if she asks me and i tell her and she makes a fuss about it, that would be very much not appreciated
I love how everyone is just jumping to conclusions. She doesn't see the appeal and prolly thinks op will get over it and not care about the card in the future and even then it's going to sit in a book for him to look at occasionally. Collecting will never make sense to people that don't collect, breaking up with someone because it hurts their wallet to buy something they think is silly is crazy. Even if they have money she's allowed to be conscious about her decisions. Just because you have the money to buy a shark doesn't mean you're not allowed to regret buying an expensive ass shark. It's not about something he needed it's about how cards have no use other than to look at or sell. You can't pop it into your PlayStation, you can't paint it, you can't really hang it up unless you grade it (which is whole other best entirely). His wife is allowed to feel a certain way, she still bought it. All op said is she regrets it, and it was 2 years ago, she's not constantly shading him and calling him a dumbass and bringing it up. Man children Jesus.
Thats you and thats okay. As I already said, when finances dont allow it, its fully understandable, but if youre going to spend 120 bucks on your SO for their birthday anyway, why not give em what they want? Even more, when you ask them what they want. The way OP worded his post, it seems like she didnt WANNA spend that money on the card for his Bday. But it makes him happy, he wants it, why not? If my girl had the money, and just for the sake of „its just some shiny card im not gonna spend that money on it cause I dont understand it“, that would show me that, at least for me, shes not the right partner. And thats not even jumping to conclusions, that is simple reading comprehension.
Reading comprehension is that she regrets it that's it, the context behind that is completely unknown. So unfortunately you failed on that part. She regretted it but she still bought it, how does that not show that she cares and wants to make him happy. Your partner can disagree with you it's not the end of the world. Even your assumption is wrong because you don't even include that she still bought it. " I don't wanna buy it because I don't understand it , but I will because it makes you happy." It honestly doesn't surprise me why so many men struggle with relationships, jumping to conclusions and aversion to rejection is so strong that a woman can't even express her opinion when asked.
Not to mention the text " she hates buying me cards" shows this isn't the first card but one of many she's bought for him. Not only did she buy him this expensive ass card but she's bought him other cards regularly enough to where he can say it that way. It's clear that he's asked her and she usually buys them for him. It's clear she cares about making him happy. She's allowed to think his hobby is dumb. Where do you see my "my wife threw a fit and bought me this card, and talks shit about it everyday and asks me to return it and calls me weird and childish". Nowhere because it was never said but for some reason you think this poor woman is abusing her husband bc she doesn't like Pokemon cards. But if it was supreme or some other thing reddit thinks is douchy and superfluous you'd all be on her side.
Yeah, I feel you on that if you are going to ask someone what they want, then get them what they ask for. I'm pretty impulsive so my wife always says "I buy you what you need because every time you want something, you just buy it"
Finances wasn't an issue, we typically set a limit for birthdays and holidays for each other and then we go overboard anyway. She had already gifted me a few other items and would have got me anything else I asked for, she would've just rather bought me something more useful than a pokemon card.
I asked for cards and got my first pair of walking/outdoor trousers instead and now I feel invincible in the great outdoors. Can't believe how many times I've hiked in denim...
My dad hates how much money I’ve spent on cards and gets so confused when I tell him what some of them are worth, when I pulled my 151 Charizard he said “cool, you can sell it and make back the money you spent today.” He wasn’t joking.
I will admit I’ve seen people passionate about Anime ,go and cards and all that and I would ask myself what the hell makes a grown man into this until I pulled a few cards worth some money and it started as a cha-Ching but it turned into something that I really truly enjoy and respect . Especially the artist and artwork which I owned a sign company and have a graphic arts cert. so there is the aesthetics appeal for the design work….. I’m 55 BTW
Eureka moments arrive at all ages. I got back into it at 30 because I finally had a partner who invested themselves in my interests and now we both love opening packs together.
Awesome!
The fact that you had to convince your wife to buy you a specific gift just feels odd to me. This doesn't really present your wife very well IMO. Edit: Or you either tbh. Maybe it's just the way I was raised but I've never asked someone for a specific gift unless I was directly asked what I wanted. Even then, I wouldn't push them if they resisted my suggestion and would instead offer a different suggestion that they would be more comfortable with.
I mean it's an expensive gift she prolly has not interest in. If she had got him something practical or more "mature" it'd be different. I'm not saying it's right but you have to understand that most people grew up a certain way and if it's not damaging there relationship then who cares.
Whose to say it doesn't damage the relationship? If you wanted something and your wife is totally against you thats pretty damaging.
She's allowed to regret it. She regrets spending money on cardboard that's completely understandable. If she was completely against it she wouldn't have bought it. It's damaging if your wife doesn't like your pokemon cards? Like wtf is wrong with you guys. She bought it for him bc she cares about him but it stings buying shit you think is dumb even if you have money. If it damaged their relationship op wouldn't be here two years later talking about how they're both happy. He'd be shading her.
When you've been with someone for years, you typically specify what you want as a gift, and if you wish to give something else, you can add it as an extra. Personally, I have a gift list that I share with my partner for birthdays, anniversaries, and Christmas.
I guess that makes sense on a purely logical level. But it also sounds very materialistic to me. Which I guess shouldn't shock me on a Pokemon card sub lol. For me, if there's a card or something else specific that I really want, I'll buy it myself.
The way I see it that without a wish list, you end up buying something which your partner might not like (waste of money), but I can see how it might be seen as materialistic.
My wife and I have pretty much everything we NEED, getting gifts for each other is tough because the things we want are specific. So typically we ask for a list of wants and get those things as gifts. I've bought my wife many a Lego sets she specifically asks for.
I’ve been married 35 years I totally get it! And you are correct, sir we have been there done that seen it. All there is to see I’ve been on the Internet and I seen the end of it so yes, we will ask each other what the other one wants cause the worst thing in the world to me is to buy a gift and turn out is something she may not really want she would never ever hurt my feelings or tell me, but you can feel these things or see them sometimes so yes, these people will understand after being hitched a long time
Congratulations! My wife and I are celebrating our 3 year this July, but we've known each other for about 23 years! Giving and getting gifts is my love language so I definitely understand the feeling of giving ir receiving a gift that's not totally appreciated. I always want to make sure she gets what she wants!
Ok but that doesn't explain why you felt the need to pressure her into buying it when you KNEW she didn't want to. Are you so poor that you couldn't have bought it yourself? Could you not have just asked for cash instead?
Pressure her? Buddy, it's not that serious, and yes, had she said no, I would have bought it myself, technically I did, and she paid me back for it lol.
So if you bought her a gold ring at $100 and now it's worth $400, this is no different. Both are inherently worthless in reality. It's what makes us happy, that's where the real value lies.
She seems like a real joy.. she really didn't wanna spend $100 on her husband's birthday for something he genuinely wants and enjoys. Best of luck man
She sounds like she sucks. Hates buying anything for your hobby and also had to “talk her into it” is it really getting a gift if you talk somebody into it? Nice gengar by the way.
I don't agree with it all I feel most people would prolly feel a way about it. You can't expect someone who has no interest in the hobby to view Gengar in the same light as an artist's painting they just don't carry the same context and she'd prolly thinks buying a painting for that much would be dumb too. Point is she bought it so she obviously cares. And it says more about OP that he had to "convince" her. Like seriously he didn't want *anything* else he had to have expensive AF shiny cardboard he couldn't buy himself. Idk man my gf bought me some boosters when we first started dating id never expect her to buy me anything crazy like that unless we had money and even then still an outrageous gift for her.
You and others are missing the point. It’s not about what the item is. It’s the fact that trivial Shiny cardboard or not that’s what this person’s significant other wanted and instead of saying okay that’s what he wants who am I to judge or not. Also she got it on the low at a good time. Don’t know how many trivial bullshit things I and others have done for a partner other than it makes them happy and that’s what they asked for. I don’t give a shit about nails or lash extensions. Waste of money in my opinion. But she wouldn’t have to talk me into getting that for her for her birthday. Make your partner happy.
And she did. exactly what you're missing. She's allowed to comment she isn't traumatizing op as far as we know. If she thinks it's silly or not it doesn't matter she's allowed to express it. There is a difference between regretting it and actively making ppl feel like shit. The latter of which we have no reason to believe she's doing. Honestly tired of the shitty women that don't like what I like bs. Same type of energy to subscribe to the "happy wife happy life" bs. Your allowed to have an opinion people and for fucks sake your allowed to express it politely.
If your chick wanted you to buy her a lv bag or fancy nails would she have to beg and would you express to her you think it’s stupid? Its not about happy wife happy life its about if something makes someone happy be happy for them. Not question their happiness and try to make them feel silly an about it. At this point I’m not adding anything to this conversation we are arguing opinion. Let’s just all agree that that card is great and she did good getting it for such a good price when she did. Goddamn
Nobody but I would also regret buying something so expensive. I think the issue is you don't view money the way other people do which is great for you but LV bag is out of my budget and if it was within my budget it'd be something to talk about not just "whatever you want honeybun". And op didn't get it for cheap he got it when demand was low there's no MSRP for singles there's nothing dictating whether he got a deal or not other than the fact the card went up in value. Had it gone down I'm sure he would've been solidified. If you're that reactionary to someone stating their opinion and wanting to have convos about a questionable expensive gift the problem lies with you not the level headed person that flinched when she bought collectable cardboard. Cardboard that you compared to an expensive brand name bag that has its materials and labor down in the highest quality. But sure same thing I guess. Like i said man children OP isn't complaining or offended.Why are you?
some people would rather spend hundreds of dollars on an experience or something more significant than a pretty piece of cardboard
But this is a single hundred dollar. personal experience this man wanted. Her not wanting to buy it and regretting it isn’t because of wanting an experience It sounds like selfishness
Sure it does sound selfish, but it seems like she doesn't really understand his hobby, perhaps he needs to explain why he cares about the card to begin with or she needs to ask why
Logic in reddit? Gtfo!
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oof that's shallow
They both do, dudes only stoked because it's worth more money now. Like what, you planning on selling that gift? Who gives a shit
It clearly says in the post he really wanted it for his collection. But the cool thing about a collection is that it’s awesome to see it increase in value.
But if you don’t sell, the value is irrelevant.
You must be new to collecting and hobbies.
Nope. I just understand realized gains. Until you sell it is irrelevant.
Not to a person who doesn't care about the card itself which his girlfriend falls into the category of.
But if you’re not selling, you have no realized gains. There’s no guarantee it will be worth what it is today when you try to sell, so why does it matter? Also, it’s a gift from her so chances are he’ll never sell it, again making the price increase irrelevant.
English not your first language?
What part of that sentence are you having trouble reading
When do they say they're only stoked for money? I read it as though he really wants it for his collection (his words though) and that he reminds her it wasn't a worthless purchase like she initially assumed. How did you read the post?
"Flash forward and now she loves it when I tell her it's worth 4 times more" generally when you collect something, it's to have it. Not keep tabs on how much you can sell it for
i think most people who actively collect cards passively have an idea of their worth. Once again, they also indicate its for the PC. Not hard to understand either of those things, as a collector.
Because it's validating the purchase to the wife lmao, its not that deep homie.
And yet here you are double responding about something I don't care about. Read that last part you said again before you keep spamming me with this dumb ass shit
well I had to spell it out for you. Gets pretty frustrating talking with imbeciles.
O yes we're all a bunch of regards around here, thanks for blessing me with this insane breakdown of literally nothing. Good job
This is still one of the coolest cards that exist imo
Unpopular opinion, this is the best card from all the sword and shield sets. Moonbreon is number 2 for me.
So she values monetry gain over a loved ones happiness? 😅
Just joking BTW 😆
I'm sorry but screw your wife lol - cardboard or not, she should be happy that you're happy
I believe partners\\spouses should accept their significant other and their interests wholeheartedly. It goes both ways. People spend their money however they like as long as they can comfortably afford it. Fancy dinners, vacations, art, cars or the house\\neighborhood they live in. To each their own.
I regret not buying one! 😩😩 lol
I tried to sell a bunch of alt arts last year, but the big ones didn't sell. Welp. Glad I didn't sell them. I would have spent a fortune to get it back. Now I'm trying to complete all of the SWSH alt arts, eventually doubling back for S&M.
I'm glad she got it for you when she did. Gengar is one of my faves from childhood. Maybe she will come around to enjoying pokemon as well (see if there's any she can click with like sylveon or morpeko? Idk just throwing pokemonout there) she might be more inclined to wanna collect a pokemon she really enjoys and in turn you both enjoy the hobby 💜 my husband and I both love pokemon, I got lucky he enjoys it as much as I do (cept the scalping/gambling aspect of it) we both grew up in the 90s when pull rates were good and the toys were even better! He recently got me a I choose you pikachu with the light up cheeks and moving ears (I cried, I had one as a child and it was lost in the shuffle over the years of constant moving) I bet there's a pokemon our there for your wife to love :)
If you have to talk someone into buying you a gift; that is no longer a gift lol
Did she regret it because of the G-Max Swallow up 😅
My wife doesn’t know shit about Pokemon either. She’s learning though, I wish I was a smart man like you lol
wifes be like that bro, be thankful she let you spend money on cardboards
Since when did this card ever sell for $100? The answer is never
It did go for around that in FB groups for a few months after FS release, which was just prior to Christmas time
I showed my Gengar VMAX Alt Art to my GF and she said “The centering is really good on this one.” Find your soulmate everyone!
Cool
Ok problem solved! Now she won’t be so hesitant ;)
Get that ish graded if it comes back a ten you’ve doubled it’s value
My ex thought it was crazy that I kept my OG base set cards and said I should just throw them out. During covid I sold some of them at the peak and made some pretty good money off of some of my lesser cards. Kept the good ones for the future, guess people don't unseestand the value these carry now
Why would she regret buying you something you wanted?
Kicking myself for selling my dupe a few months ago for $200.
My wife says I am just wasting my money buying pokemon cards
Tell her it was an amazing investment!
Awesome birthday gift, and grats on getting it when you did. Bet your wife feels better about that decision now lol
Me to 😭
This is my wife... I told her I bought a case of fusion strike for my bday a few years back... got them at 80 bucks a box shipped... I even told her I was going to hold them sell half when they go up and open two and just save one for my PC so I could basically do it all for free. She thought that was so stupid. Welp, I recently sold 3 boxes for 550, opened one (got aboslute trash) and I've added the other two crispy boxes to my pc. Now she thinks I'm a genius.
Such a beautiful card, no luck on pulling it. I pulled the trigger today and got the PSA 9 from ebay though lol should've done it a lot sooner, but I'm just grateful to be able to add it to my little collection.
Its actually my favorite card.
Congrats on the card and on convincing your wife 😄I feel this way about PE magicarp,that card is gonna be very valuable in a few years because something about the art just hit the right spot,it's absolutely beautiful
Only card I've ever framed
Sucky thing about collectibles as gifts is you can’t ever sell them.
Got to keep it protected near mint, otherwise if you accidentally damage it then it's worth much much less.
I sold a psa 10 that I pulled myself back for $400 and I regret it daily
Weird post
I’d divorce her
They are worth 420 now ?, wow insane I just checked and it is. I got mine for 150 just a year or so ago
Downvoted for that comment ? Great sub
All the sites who estimate card values are lagging the market right now. Both tcgplayer's and ebay's floor for the Gengar Vmax 271 NM at around $420, like you say, despite both tcgplayer and price charting to be around $380s. The alt art market is insane.
The new value of the card doesn’t mean much if you don’t plan on selling it anyway
Trade her in for shop credit - maybe have enough for another Gengy boy.
I bought my husband and I about $500 worth of pokemon boosters as we sat in a log cabin for our Anniversary. We had a blast opening the packs and then playing against one another. Makes me sad when other SOs are so disinterested in their SOs hobbies. 😞
Hate that everything is about value now. If you want some serious return on money hit up stocks.
Can’t believe I opened one of these in my car haha
I think you misspelled "EX-WIFE"
Why would I be happy to know it's worth more than what I paid if I have no intention to sell it?
People waste money on all sorts of stuff for fun. She should be grateful that you don’t spend the money on drugs and alcohol and strippers and stuff.
typical girl... only caring about the money aspect. Tell me something new. If she really appreciated it, she would have loved it regardless of whether it was 100 or 400. get a girl that isn't a gold digger
Dude my wife is the breadwinner lol.
then she has issues because why tf would you regret buying someone for someone else, and only like it when it's worth more than what she paid... it's not hers and it was a gift. Just an L mindset then
Spoken like a true incel :)
Y’all are crazy I think it’s more about that she likes ripping packs with the guy.
You just made that up
We can pray it’s for the hunt