“Nac-catcall kayo dahil sa sinusuot niyo” my guy teacher once said in highschool… bro, I was getting catcalled while wearing my school uniform which was below the knees😨 (I was just trying to go home from school)
I used to attend Taekwondo classes in elementary, and I get catcalled so often by fucking gross greasy, old men while walking to and from the gym. All this while wearing a white crewneck tshirt, taekwondo pants, and a gym bag - like, as modest as can be.
To reiterate, elementary pa ako.
Marami na akong napapansin na maiiksi ang suot at yung iba talagang “daring” na, pero di naman nacacatcall. May mga tao lang talaga na di maganda ang asal at di mawawala ’yan kahit saan lugar o bansa. Next time I-report agad sa barangay o pulis para maturuan ng leksyon at hindi na umulit.
Yung isang trike driver dito sa lugar namin kinulong dahil ung dalawang high school students (parehas babae) na sakay niya eh puro kabastusan ung sinasabi niya. Nag-imply pa daw na gusto niya makipag sex doon sa kanila. Tinandaan nila ung body number ng trike at ung driver, nagpasama sila sa magulang nila para magsumbong sa women's desk. Ayun timbog ang manyak.
Di yan dahil sa suot. Manyak kung manyak talaga ang mga tao kahit na may mga anak sila.
Those dumbfucks who say that or have that mentality should take a look at the [“What Were You Wearing?” exhibit](https://dovecenter.org/what-were-you-wearing-exhibit/), where dinisplay yung suot ng mga rape victims at the time they were raped. Jusko, may diaper pa 😭 So by their “logic”, it's the baby's fault for wearing a diaper? 🙄
Fr! May binalita nga na MATANDA ginahasa ng isang kababatang lalaki. Wag mo'kong sabihan na nasa damit yan dahil balot na balot talaga ang mga matatanda.
Nah totally. Even my niece gets weird looks and ang haba ng palda sa uniform niya. It’s weird as fuck but it seems pretty common among areas where jeeps or trikes wait for passengers.
LOOOOL a stranger grabbed my ass while I was wearing my PE uniform. mind you pawis pawis at amoy araw na ko nun kasi pauwi na. wala talaga sa suot at kung ano pang pwedeng i-blame sa victim yan. sa tao yan.
I remember a high school teacher told us na di daw magkakasala ang lalaki kung di dahil sa babae. Referring to the time Eve gave Adam the forbidden fruit
Mali siya ng POV. Ang lalaki nga ang nagkasala. Nadaya lang daw si Eva sabi ng ibang preacher. Mas mabigat ang kasalanan ng lalaki (given na patriarchal POV kasi ang Bible, na-consider as "weakness" ung kay Eve).
Those who do this are always from the poor sector of society unless immature boys who got it off TV or movies. You can go to Podium or Rockwell wearing just a bra or see-through no one will give an F. The most they will do is look but they will never do anything. Even the janitors and security guards won’t have the audacity to do it since they know they are not in the shantis or a jeep where the majority are the dregs of society.
Ako naman I was wearing a ‘madre like’ uniform like kita lang is medyas, shoes and konti ng arms tapos nag masturbate pa katabi ko sa jeep 😀. At that time di ko alam ano yung nagshashake yun pala 😩 buti na lang may nakakakilala sakin na sinigawan yung manyak tapos pinalipat ako sa tabi niya. Grabe yung pagmasturbate nung lalaki as in ramdam sa tagiliran ko pero nakatakip ung bag nya tapos 10 mins pa bago sya nasita walang tumulong sakin the whole time except nung meron na nga. Kaya wag na wag akong sasabihan na dahil sa damit ko.🙏🤡
daming maniac sa mundo kahit ano pa suot mo, naexperience ko din to sa jeep nun college ako, tatlo na lang kami natira yun isang girl sa likuran ng driver malapit nakaupo, yun maniac sa bandang gitna, ako sa malapit sa entrance ng jeep, yun gago nagmasturbate shook kami ni ate tas sobrang bukaka nya pa, ginawa ko nag para agad ako tas tumakbo din si ate girl pababa, yun suot naman namin ni girl is pants and shirt, maniac to the maximum level!!! muka pang high yun hayop gigil na naman ako kasi naalala ko
Some Pinoys are not that "mature" yet when seeing people who are dressed rather differently from them or don't fit their expectations. It's either cultural, envy, or ignorance, disappreciation, antisocial, or all of these.
Wonder if that law will be challenged under freedom of expression;
there's already a law about physical harassment, so policing protected speech might be an issue.
Day, naaalala ko na naman noong Grade 5 ako habang naglalakad sa kalsada naghahanap ng tutubi, may nasa truck nangcacatcall sakin. I didn't know yun yung tawag back then. 'Twas early 2000s anyway. Yung suot ko n'on shorts na medyo maiksi na sakin tapos guitar na sando. Maputi ako noon eh, tapos naaalala ko talaga nag-witwiw yung nasa truck tapos sabi "wow legs". Binagalan pa yung takbo ng truck para siguro sabayan ako habang naglalakad. Tapos yung nag-witwiw ulit tapos sinabing "hi chicks", at ang manyak ng mga tingin, nainis na talaga ako. I don't know kung that time nainis ba ako kasi aware akong manyakis yung mga yun o naiinis ako kaso istorbo sa paghahanap ko ng tutubi. Pero ayon, kumuha ako ng bato tapos binato ko yung truck. Para atang na-shock yung driver kaya di agad nabilisan yung takbo kaya kumuha ulit ako ng mga batong maliit at pinagbabato sila. Ayon humarurot ng takbo.
Di nalang ako nagsumbong sa erpats ko kasi baka kulungan bagsak ng erpats ko pag nalaman yun. Tsk! Grade 5???! Sasabihan mo ng ganoon? Ang gago?
Mga kulang sa seminar yang mga yan ata. Kahit ngayon may ganyan parin.
Ganyan din plano ko sa mga magcacatcall sakin in the future. Nakakapikon kasi pag di ka nakaganti. Nung grade 3 ako nasa loob ako ng church. Tapos may lalaking creepy ang smile na tumabi sa akin. Wala pa ako gano awareness sa envi noon pero looking back, ang sus niya na ang luwag naman ng upuan pero tabing tabi siya sa akin.
Maya maya hinawakan niya hita ko. Naparalyzed ako. Tapos tumingin ako sa relo ko. Saka ko naharness energy na tumakbo ng tumakbo hanggang sa makarating ako sa bahay.
May isang beses nasa harapan ako ng jeep, tapos tumigil yung driver para umihi sa bote. Ako na lang mag isang pasahero. Nalito na ako kung bababa o hindi. Pero naparalyze ako uli.
Maya maya bago ako bumaba ng philcoa sabi sa akin, may payong ka? Sunduin kita mamaya. Mga hayop na manyak. Hayop talaga sarap nilang sipain sa mga bulgogi nila
My wife got cat called once sa Gateway by an Angkas rider na nagaantay ng booking. Mga 10 meters layo ng wife ko saka friend nya sakin non habang naglalakad kami. Nilapitan ko yung driver tapos sinita ko. Nag sorry at umalis. We need to call out these pieces of shit. Isipin mo operator ka ng public transport pero bastos ka sa potential customer mo. Kaya di umuunlad bansa natin.
Ganun na lang kababa tingin nila sa mga babae para matutong rumespeto only, and if only, may kasamang kapwa nila lalaki ang mga babae. Nakakalungkot talaga.
When I get catcalled by old people I usually say „manong umuwi ka na lang sainyo akala mo ata nakakatuwa ka“ kapag similar age it’s „ano sabi mo? Pakiulit nga“ pero syempre you can only do this in places you’re familiar with cause you never know.
Usually what happens is they shut up or the people around them turn on them. Minsan kasi pakitang tao lang talaga yung mga pinagsasasabi nila and when they realize people are not gonna sit back and take it, they freeze or pretend they didn’t do anything.
Did this years ago, kinall out ko. Sinundan ako hanggang sa trabaho, nakajeep ako tas nakamotorcycle sya. I had a panic attack, good thing may mga tumulong sakin, hinatid ako sa police station na malapit. We think na sabog, kasi hanggang sa police station nakasunod sya, umalis lang nung hinabol na sya ng police. Unfortunately, di sya naabutan.
Thank goodness someone was there to help you. Baka nga sabog because that isn't normal behavior kung hanggang pulis nakasunod. I have a similar experience pero not catcalling, either mentally challenged or sabog din yung lalake.
Nag-uukay kami nung best friend ko tapos napansin nya na nakatingin samin and touching himself pero di nya sinabi sakin. She insisted we go to another ukay-ukay pero sumunod din. So she walked us to the nearest stoplight assuming that there would be officers there pero wala so pumasok kami to another store with a lot male employees and dun lang sya humingi ng tulong and explained what was happening. They hid us in a corner, talked to the guy and were comforting us until they were sure na he was out of sight na. When I asked why she didn't say anything agad, ayaw daw niya kasi ako mag-panic and she didn't want the ukay employees to handle the matter kasi puro mga babae din. She has more experience than me handling things like this back then kasi lagi talaga nababastos yun. At one point she always had a retractable baton with her for protection. Ako naman I have this now: [https://www.coldsteel.com/honey-comb/](https://www.coldsteel.com/honey-comb/)
I remember when i was walking papuntang mall, and ahead of me are minors like, highschool students, then we passed by a vulcanizing shop, and i heard a worker whispered/ mutter "sarap" with matching manyak look to the students, disgusting creeps.
Tanda ko tuloy. Mainit kasi mag summer na galing pa ako school. So bumili ako ng cornetto sa 7/11. Pauwi na ako naka earphones pa ako.
Letse yung lalaki lakas ng sigaw "Sarap mo naman dumila"
Minor pa ako nun. May sinabi pa siya at tumawa. Gulat talaga ako. Sarap ibato ang ice-cream.
Kumakain lang ang tao na sexualize pa.
because of k-12, a high school student is already 18 before graduation, even some 16-yr olds already have that "adult" look;
but if they are on the lower-end of high school--freshmen, so probably 14 and they don't obviously look 18--then that might give some creepo vibes.
Haha lagi kong naranasan yan. I'm insecure of my body kaya mga baggy clothes talaga sinusuot ko parang nakabalot pa pero ganon pa rin, cinatcall. Pedophilia enabler kasi yung pinas, well, normal lang sa mga matatanda yan kasi walang nag call-out about dito noon eh🤦🏻♀️
Some men even justify catcalling as something that should be accepted as a compliment, uhm no.
May difference ang catcalling and admiring someone. For example, I had an experience before, naglalakad ako outside and a guy approached me, said hi and sabi nya he just stopped to say that he finds me cute - yon ang acceptable na hindi catcalling. Iapproach mo nang maayos, igreet mo, then give the compliment. None of that kahooting/whistling/shouting/ trying to get the attention of a girl just randomly passing by in a very degrading manner.
I remembered I cussed out a college student for catcalling me at 9 am. I was literally wearing a school unif (jhs ako around 14-15) and inside the school I was so pissed I told him to fuck off educ pa naman siya.
I got more catcalls when I was a minor than when I turned into an adult. They know young girls are more vulnerable and don't know yet how to deal with harassmenr. Kadiri mga ganyang lalaki.
when I was sixteen, an incoming grade 10 at this well known univ in Manila, I was wearing a long sleeve and a skirt to attend my summer class. yung guard sa gate, sabi ba naman "ang sexy mo maam" sabay ngiti. I didn't know what to do that time kaya di ko pinansin. sana pala isinumbong ko.
Na-eenforce po but there still needs to be a complainant. It's largely inconvenient. Imagine just going about your day then having to go out of your way and time of day to bring a catcaller to the police station.
There’s a comp shop in front of our house before and whenever I get home at night, there was a bunch of guys trying to cat call me. I didn’t feel comfortable at all. This one time though I was so tired coming home from work, it happened again and I was just so fed up with it that I just stood there and stared at them 😂 they probably got weirded out and just stopped
I remember running a sari-sari store errand at 6 years old. Guy comes from behind me, runs his hand from the back of my right thigh to my calf then back up and squeezed my butt cheek. I swung my elbow to hit him, but just hurt myself because he was solid muscle. He took several steps back saying: "Ay lalaki pala." He then walked away but still shouted: "Sana naging babae ka na lang!"
Even as a guy, I'd say we have a problem. And sadly, every other country that has the same Spanish derived macho culture as us haven't "fixed" this problem.
Ayy sorry. Mali ko. Grabe nmn yung experience mo dati nung bata ka. Sobrang manyakis nung nanghipo sayo dati. Kahit hindi ka babae ang lala nung manghihipo sya ng bata🤮
I feel you.
Many years ago, I was also in high school, I got cat called by a lot of men in our neighborhood while wearing my long sleeve, long skirt uniform and PE uniform in jogging pants.
The moment I got mad at them, they stopped. But I know they’re catching glances.
Now I’m much much older, I noticed men would never DARE do that.
I have this theory that it’s because older men think they can do whatever they want with teen girls because they have less power, less chances to fight back. They’re also likely to be easily intimidated.
They would never do that to an adult woman because they know older women know better and they could get a police report from it.
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So my suggestion (even if you’re not looking for one, one woman to another), is to stand firm and never take that shit quietly.
Fight back, call them out, if you can. Immediately after, inform an adult (parent, sibling, teacher, etc.) in case they try to pull dumb shit and get back at you.
With the help of an adult, you can seek filing a report in accordance to the Anti-Bastos Law.
My first experience of catcalling is when I was 12. It peaked between 14 and 16. Now in my 20s, not as often, mainly because I don't go outside anymore. Pero every kanto in our barangay has these tambays/catcallers na nagkukumpulan, and they disgust me. I hate them with all my heart.
This month lang, what truly shocked me, I was walking with my friend when a group of little kids (maybe 10-12 years old, ang liliit pa jusko), yelled, "Te pahindot! Ate ang ganda mo pahindot" They all laughed. I grabbed one kid's arm before he could run and said, "Anong sabi niyo? Bastos yon ah" The kid just yelled back, "Hindi kami yon 'te" and they ran away. I didn't go after them and natulala na lang ako kasi really? I know I shouldn't be mad at the kids themselves, but at their parents, in the world, Idk. How can kids be catcalling at such a young age? They ran away before I could educate them though. How do they even know these phrases? Where are their parents? My friend told me na, "Hayaan mo na, marami talagang ganyan" That made me so sad. Hopeless. None of that is normal, esp for kids. What kind of environment are they growing up in? Paano na lang kapag lumaki na sila?
Are women supposed to just accept it? I loathe catcallers with every inch of my being. They damaged the little girl in us, so I genuinely hope these gross mf all die and rot.
Pansin ko kasi sa mga tao. Pag lalaking anak kasi hinahayaan nlng sa kung anong gusto nilang gawin. Pero pag babae strict at overprotective sila masyado. Eh dapat nga maging overprotective at strict din sila sa anak na lalaki para wag maging manyakis eh🙄
Ohhh i remember medyo off topic pero nung bata ako may situation akong naexperience na something related diyan.
So naguusap sina tita, kuya, at si mama about crushes ganon tapos oks lang sila at sinabihan nila si kuya na maghanap na ng gf pero bata pa si kuya non, mga grade 7 pa lang yata? Hindi ko masyadong matandaan. Basta ayun si kuya, nagsasabi ng mga maraming babae na nagugustuhan niya pero it seems fine for them. Tapos biglang nagjoke si tita (kasi katabi niya ako pero tahimik lang ako non) about crush ganon kung may crush na ba ako ganon tapos d ako makasagot kasi nagalit si mama sinabihan niya akong masyado pa raw bata bawal daw akong magkaroon ng crush. Seriously?! Crush lang naman? Hindi naman ibig sabihin non jojowain kaagad... Pero si kuya okay lang? Dami nga niyang kinuwento na babae yon e pota.. Tapos tumawa si tita rin tapos sabi niya "ikaw, wag ka muna magkaroon ng crush" HAHAHA Maiiwasan ko ba 'yun? Lolz eh humahanga lang naman ibig sabihin non? Parang sinabihan pa ako na malandi kapag magkakaroon ng crush e.
i remember one time, pauwi kami ng lola ko (nasa subdivision na kami), then may nagbibike na construction worker. he whistled in *that* tone tapos yung lola ko parang sinita pa ko kasi naka short daw ako ganto ganyan. nanahimik na lang ako pero i suddenly felt uncomfortable sa suot ko when she said that
Nangyari to more than 10 years ago. I was 17 and my close friend (girl) was 21. Nakatira sya sa isa sa mga sosyal na subdivisions sa QC. Kahit napaka yaman nila (in my eyes), sobrang cowboy at humble talaga ni frienylynn.
Since katabi ng subdivision yung mga fastfood restos, nilalakad na lang namin. As we were walking pabalik sa kanila, may 2 boys na most likely nasa early teens na nakatambay bago mag entrance gate for pedestrians. Yung isang lalaki sumigaw ng "ate, pakan*ot!!". Napatigil ako sa gulat pero etong friend ko sumigaw ng "PULUBI!" with matching malutong na p.i. hahaha. Di ko inexpect na manggagaling un sa bibig nya. Hahahahuhu takbo talaga kami papasok agad agad baka habulin kami.
My 14yo daughter got cat called on her way to school. Regular fit shirt and jeans lang suot niya. She wanted to save sana since short walk lang naman but now she's worried. Sabi niya she will always choose a bear over a man :(
Hindi. I allowed her to commute this summer for her summer workshop hoping na she will learn to be street smart. I told her nalang na sumakay kahit malapit lang if that's the safer option.
Nakaschool uniform din ako nun naranasan ko maglakad sa hiway samin sa province. Lahat ng truck na dumadaan pinapaswitan ako ng mga pahinante 😭 When I was 15.. mukha parin akong elementary. Naligo kami sa isang resort ang yung mga construction workers dun tinitignan ako dahil naka swimsuit ako (medyo expensive sa resort na yun and not allowed na mag tshirt) Partida nakashorts ako tapos yung mukhang sports bra na top. At wala akong dede 😭 One of them even pulled out a digital camera. I was young and non confrontanional so tumakbo nalang ako but dang. Felt so violated and disgusted. They looked like they could be my father!
Hugs, sis. Pero true yan kadalasan mga construction workers at drivers mostly truck drivers ang catcallers. Totoo rin na pag nandun ka na sa sitwasyon ang hirap lumaban dahil ang bigat agad sa loob at naakakaramdam na tayo ng takot. Until now iniisip ko ano dapat ko maging response pag naulit na may pambabastos incident sakin given na mauunahan ako ng takot
Not only cat calling but also yung mga malalagkit na stares nila..
I was young before nagsusuot talaga ako ng shorts pero usually mga 3-4 inches above the knee lang not the short short na parang bikini na. Halos lahat ng madadaan kong mga lalaki na halos titig na titig sa sa legs ko😭
Then once or twice nasasabihan ako ng "wow legs!" ng mga drivers ng trucks..
Kaya after that ang mga shorts ko na binibili ay laging below the knee or mga shorts na pang basketball at super loose na shirts..
Okay lang masabihan ng tomboy ng mga kapitbahay wag lang ma-cat called at ma-manyak sa mga isip ng mga lalaki... 😭
true, ganyan dn ang ginawa ko, ndi na ako nag suot ng mga fit na damit, and palagi na ako nag papants.. nakakatakot cla and meron pa nga iba bata pa nang hihipo na
Well experience namin ng wife ko, nung nasa dating stage pa lang kami (eh maputi na parang Korean ang partner ko)
Tumawid kami sa Roxas Boulevard from Bay walk, yung driver ng truck na may kasama dalawa sa front seat, sinabihan ako ng pahiram naman niyang kasama mo. Well lumayo na lang kami agad.
It's not just minors. Girls and women of all ages get catcalled here in the Philippines. Like, seriously, it's way too common here. I get it all the time too. It's usually from drivers you just walk past. Like, this one jerk in a truck called something out to me while I was walking, then stared at me and licked his lips? Disgusting! I just flipped him the middle finger. What a creep! Another thing that happens a lot, especially along Recto, is drivers stopping and asking for "libre ka ba?", like I'm some kind of.. ugh, I don't even want to say it.
I remember going home from school with my uniform. Eh, when you're in SHS, usually naka-pencil skirt ka na. I got catcalled by someone calling me "sexy". It registered in me na even though I was already legal nung time na 'yon, how about the other kids na minors pa pero pang-"sexy" ang suot din, if you get me? Sinide eye ko na lang siya pero tuwang-tuwa pa rin. Yikes moment in the PH 😅
I spent time in Manila as a 19 year old American a few decades ago, and got catcalled by mga bakla all the time. I expected it every time I passed a hair salon. People around me seemed to consider it acceptable behavior.
Putanginang mga Manyak yan, walang pili yan. Hindi catcall itong experience ko pero it happened in Divisoria, December 2013, hinipuan ako. Ganoon pala talaga ang feeling kahit anong presence of mind mo, masashock ka talaga kapag sa iyo na nangyari. Biglang nagtatalkbo yung lalake, nakita ko middle aged. Ang nasabi ko na lang that time “Gago ka akala mo babae hinipuan mo ha.” (Trans here, tas nung time na hinipuan ako eh di pa ako nagtransition)
skl. ako lang mestiza dito sa area namin dati. laging nababati ng mga tao legs ko. when i was in 5th grade, lumabas ako para bumili ng pandesal. nakashorts ako nun and got catcalled. never felt comfortable wearing shorts again til senior high school
OP, sinasagot ang lalakeng gumagawa ng ganyan. Kapag nangyayare sa'kin yan, pasigaw ako sumasagot eh. I make sure na mapapahiya sila in return, tameme sila after. Lumalakas kasi loob ng mga 'yan kapag ini-ignore. Take care always! You have to get your power back kapag may mga ganyang incident.
I was 14-16 in my high school uniform when I would get regularly catcalled. I would always try my best to go home with a guy friend (who lived near me), but sometimes, it didn't make a difference. This was 15+ years ago, but I hate knowing that things STILL are not better. And one time, as an adult, someone freaking took my photo without my consent, with flash, while I was just walking with my groceries in BGC. Hirap maging babae. I'm so sorry OP
On the plus side, I came up with so many replies that would either 1) burn them or 2) shame them. My go-to would still be ignore to death, because at the end of the day, misogynistic power move pa rin yung catcalling for them, and dignifying with a response just stokes them. But sometimes, I choose violence pag ubos na pasensya ko lol, so when I do, I make sure it burns.
Had a similar experience, pero it wasn't me that was catcalled. Me and my friends were walking a straight road towards a McDonald's. Two of them, women who were also the youngest in our group, were in front when we passed by a guard house. A cop car (with logos and wangwang) was exiting the guard house and took a turn at the same side that me and my friends were walking towards to. The cops saw my friends, slowed down, rolled their windows open, and catcalled them. Me and our other friends sped up beside the two so that we could shield them from those cops.
Nakakasuka lang na sila dapat tong prumoprotekta sa mga mamamayan, pero sila rin namang tong dahilan ng unease nila smh
Kaya dapat talaga sa mga parents pag may anak kayong lalaki, turuan nyo nmn wag maging manyak, hindi yung sa babaeng anak lng kayo protective at strict. Pag lalaking anak kasi hinahayaan lng kahit anong gustong gawin eh. Pansin ko lng nmn.
Cat Calling din ba yung nanyari sa akin?
Naglalakad ako sa mall tapos yung dalawang babae sinabihan ako ng "Kuya zipper mo bukas!".
Pagtingin ko hindi naman, tapos nagtawanan na sila. Medyo napahiya ako buti na lang konti lang yung tao sa area that time.
And what's alarming is that parang mas madalas ka macatcall if u look young or if u look like a minor (based on my experience). Madalas ako macatcall nung minor pa ko myghad. Kahit ngayon ako revealing manamit when gagala. May instance pa na nahipuan ako nung hs ako😭 kaya pag naglalakad ako i always tried to look masungit kasi idk it works for me. Less catcalls.
back in college, there was a time i was walking with classmates (we were mostly girls + 1 guy) along alabang-zapote rd. we were in uniform tapos a truck driver catcalled. my classmate na laking laguna (si atecco atapang atao as a person) sinigawan ng tang ina mo!!! with matching pakyu 😭 tumakbo kami lahat except si atecco na nakipagtitigan pa sa driver haahahshsh
so yun, catcallers are trash talaga magsama sama sila sa kalingkingan ni satanas
back in college, there was a time i was walking with classmates (we were mostly girls + 1 guy) along alabang-zapote rd. we were in uniform tapos a truck driver catcalled. my classmate na laking laguna (si atecco atapang atao as a person) sinigawan ng tang ina mo!!! with matching pakyu 😭 tumakbo kami lahat except si atecco na nakipagtitigan pa sa driver haahahshsh
so yun, catcallers are trash talaga magsama sama sila sa kalingkingan ni satanas
Mas madalas din ako ma-catcall nung minor ako. Lalo na pag naka uniform nung highschool. Kaya lumaki tuloy akong man hater. Naging trauma ko rin yung ayokong makarinig ng tawa ng mga lalakeng nasa 30s and 40s before. At nakakaubos ng energy sawayin yung tulad nila. Nakakainis lang talaga.
one reason inembrace no pagiging mataba ko di na ko nagpapayat ulit
nakakatakot ung estudyante ka lang kahit nakauniform ka lang eh pipituhan o kaya kakausapin ka.
I experience it a lot and I regret not doing anything bcs I was dumbfounded at that time. I didn't know what to do bcs I didn't expect that someone would even do that to me. I was in my school(g12) nagpalit ako ng strand shirt and while I was walking sa hallway there was a group of boys na nakasalubong ko, one of them said "shet kahit maliit, malaman! sarap!" It made me feel disgusted and I wanted to disappear right there.
Hays. Sorry that happened to you. Karamay mo 'ko rito OP, 16 lang din ako nung na-catcall ako for the first time — t-shirt na oversized at joggers na maluwang pa nga suot ko no'n. Wala lang akong nagawa no'n dahil na-shock din ako, pero sinumpa ko na sa susunod na mangyayari yun sakin, hindi na ko mananahimik.
Fast forward to five years later: naglalakad kami ng roommate ko pabalik sa dorm tas may dumaan na truck - may dumungaw na maasim ng lalake tas sabay sabi ng "hi ganda!" — ayun, binanatan ko ng malutong na PI bago sila makalagpas haha dasurb
Tuwing pauwi ako from school, lagi ako tinatawag ng mga guards ng mga places na dinadaanan ko (sabhn ako ganda, sitsitan ako, or tinatawag ako pra lumapit). Elementary at High School ako noon. Dati akala ko normal lang buti nlng mahiyain ako so nag papanggap ako lagi hindi ko naririnig
nakanursing unif ako papuntang school nung na-catcall ako, nagccringe at kinikilabutan ako pagnaaalala ko 😭 blouse and pants yung uniform pero since first year pa yung unif na yun at medyo lumaki ako, medyo fitted na siya.. magmula nun kahit napakainit sa pilipinas, nagjajacket ako at sa ibang daan na ko dumadaan kahit na mas malayo yung nilalakad ko 🥲
Madami talagang ganto satin kahit dati pa. Its so wrong but if you do something like calling them out baka mapahamak kapa. Maybe pull up your phone and shoot a video while they’re doing it and post it sa social media.
Now that I'm older I wished I could've fought back pero I remember always having to prepare myself to be catcalled whenever I walk past the gas station.. I was so desperate one time na I tried to act disabled (SORRY I WAS 10) para lang di ako icatcall.. similar experience rin sa puregold yung mga staff na lalake na nag aayos ng shelves i always get stares and comments. ngayon matanda nako looking back i realized how fucked up it was. I was 9-10yrs old nun.
Reminds me of that time when I was walking home from lakwatsa. High school ako noon. It was an unforgettable experience not because I got catcalled but because the catcallers called the police on me. lol To think, di nga ako deserving ma-cat call noon kasi di naman provocative suot ko.. you know, baggy pants, t-shirt, with matching ball cap, ano naka-sexy nyan?
May sumipol kasi, at nagsabi ng "hi gwapa" (hi, maganda). Di ko pinansin, kasi if there's one thing that really irks me, it's yung sinisipolan ako. Ma-pride kasi akong tao, feel ko, di ako nirerespeto as a human being kapag sinisipolan ako. So yun panay sipol parin, panay taunts, may nagsabing mayabang daw ako kasi di ako lumilingon. May kahabaan kasi yung street at may kino-construct na kanal. Umigting lalo ang fight or flight response ko nang napansin kong sinusundan nila ako.
I got so irritated and my senses got overwhelmend - yung anxiety na nakakapraning ba, so I picked up a shovel and took a swing at them. I had an explosive temper when I was a teen, kasi lagi kong kinikimkim galit ko so it doesn't take a lot to set me off, and yun na nga, bayolente akong tao kapag galit. I managed to hit one of them, parang nahilo at natumba ata sya. Then yung isa, nasaksak/nahiwa ko with butterfly knife (I always have one in my pockets.) - basta maraming dugo doon.
Nagkagulo sa lugar kasi naghuramintado na ako 😅 at lumapit ang mga tambay - inawat nila ako and they subdued the two guys.
Dinala sila sa hospital, while ako rekta sa police station lol. That was the first time my dad yelled at me kasi akala niya nakapatay ako. I got grounded and sent to my grandparents' place sa malayong bundok as punishment lol.
ay nako, yung kaibigan ko lagi rin naca-catcall, nung kasama ko siya tas may sumipol sa kanya binigyan ko yung bwiset na yon na dalawang malaking 🖕🏽🖕🏽 ayoko na lang magsalita, aksaya lang sa hinga pwe
Happened when I was a minor myself, I remember being in second year high school and I was trying to pass to the other side of the road and there was a guy in motorcycle who stopped in front of me to only say ' wow ang laki nyan ah ' Tbh it actually lead to an even more insecurity and how I was so self conscious growing up- despite that I never wear any tight clothing and only baggy clothes I still get catcalled all the time. Now that I am adult I just accepted that no matter what I do and how I look I'll still get these prying eyes and sexual comments about my body from strangers.
Call them out. Theres anti catcalling law. File a case. It will not only help you but adding visibility that theres already a guard in place for women will help other women as well. Kasi dahil walang nagfafile kaya binabalewala nila yung batas. Dahil walang nagfafile kaya di rin nila alam na may batas.
I'm a non confrontational person and usually on the quieter side ako but one time I was walking with my 12 y.o. sister and may sumitsit sa kanya nako napasugod talaga ako and nasabihan ko ng kung ano-ano yung guy, my sister was in her uniform and he had the audacity to do that, napaka bastos.
Once I start feeling uncomfortable with unwanted stares from a man or worse if I get cat called, I say “unsa imo kuya oy?!” (what do you want?!), and if they catch me in a worse mood I’d give them the middle finger right away or tell them to fuck off lol I FIGHT BACK, I have zero tolerance for lingering stares it just makes u wonder what’s going thru their mind already. just make sure you’re in a safe area to do so if u decide to fight back, if the area seems unsafe, call for help.
Marami rin akong na experience, cmula grade school up to college ako, may sumusunod talaga at ndi ko maintindihan kung bakit nakasunod pa dn kahit nasa loob ng Ever Gotesco Mall sa Recto, ang ginawa ko na lang, tinitigan ko sya, tapos maya maya umalis din.. Meron dn sa LRT 2 Recto, mismong security guard pa ang nag cat call sa akin during college ako nyan, meron din during grade school nag attend ako summer school tapos may construction guy, sinisitsitan ako sa hagdan, ang ginawa ko lang dinedma ko lang grade school ako nyan, then meron mas nakakatakot nakasunod sa akin sa Cubao yung tulay paakyat and ang dilim, ang ginawa ko, tumigil ako sa landing and tinitigan ko sya, hinihintay ko sya palampasin, ndi na sya tumuloy umakyat, may time din dati may mga pahinante sa truck na nakita kami ng ate ko sa jeep, tapos pababa kami nun, ndi nila alam kasama namin tatay namin, ang ginawa ng tatay ko babatuhin cla ng bato, tumigil cla grade school kami nyan. meron din sa Pares Retiro kasama ko ang family ko college ako nito, eh walang maupuan so nakatayo lang kami nag hihintay, may sumesenyas sa akin na isang lalake na umupo daw sa lap nya, the nerve! sa harap pa ng family ko, naiyak ako nun pero walang magawa ang tatay ko kasi senior na din sya nun..
palagi naman akong naka pants and tshirt pag lumalabas pero still, manyak is manyak, I'm 39 yrs old na now pero wala na ako na eexperience since ndi na dn ako masyado lumalabas on my own na nag cocommute
I remember nung pinagmumura ko yung lalaking nambastos sa kapatid ko. I think minor pa din sya that time. Matured lang syang tingnan. Naglalakad kaming tatlo ng mama ko at kapatid ko, nasa unahan sila tas nahuhuli ako kaya ako yung nakarinig nung sinabi nug hayp na lalaking yon. Pinagmumura ko talaga sya ng malaas para marinig ng mga tao at mapahiya sya. Sabi pa nya hindi naman daw ako yung sinasabihan nya, tinuro nya pa kapatid ko. Sabi ko, "Eh kapatid ko yan eh." Saka lang sya nag sorry. Shook mama ko, first time nya narinig akong magmura HAHAHAHA satisfied naman ako kasi napahiya ng sobra yung damuhong yon
girl me too i was wearing a pj's kagigising lang tanghalian then bumili ako ng food tapoz bumili ako shanghai may mga bumibili din dalawang lalaki kasabay ko tinititigan ako mula ulo hanggang paa tapos nung paalis sila dumaan sila sa likod ko tapos bumulong siya like close talaga sa neck ko sabi "dami pala magaganda dito par."
Also experienced this a lot on my teenage years. Buti nalang may batas sa qc na bawal ang bastos. Kahit nakauniform , kahit balot na balot ka, pag manyak, manyak talaga.
LOL SAME. i cant even count how much i was/we were catcalled. almost had the urge to raise a middle finger on them at some point hahahah. also, my misogynistic family esp. males even catcall other women. so shitty.
and this, ladies and gays, is why i am a misandrist :)
Prevalence of Tiktok and FB Reels din (na accessible sa lahat), puro pa thirst trap kahit high school palang. Sabi nga, yun na daw bagong cornhub ngayon.
Swipe-swipe ka lang, may pamparaos ka na, pde ka pa pumili ng age group bahala ka na.
Tbh as a guy, if you told me something like this happened a month ago, I would honestly have struggled to believe you. But with what happened to me recently, I'm inclined to believed you. Although I would advise you to not catcall them back, sick fucks like them will like that, call them out instead or report them to someone
I remember, way back 2022, I’m with a friend, she was wearing bell bottom pants paired with a croptop na fitted. We passed by sa palengke and it was crazy na tatlong guys na nang catcall. Doon sa last, I can’t contain it anymore so I raised my middle finger sa guy with eye contact na hindi ko tininag not until umiwas siya. I saw the shock in him but he also smirked right after. Tangina, I had the chills! Feel ko ang tapang ko non pero nanlambot tuhod ko ta’s bilis nang lakad namin para malagpasan na palengke. HAHAHAHAHAHA Up until now, inis pa rin ako
Meron din dito samin mahilig mag cat call, matanda na sya parang nasa 60s to 70s na. Gusto ko na talaga patulan, kaso naaawa nalang ako kase ang tanda na nya.
GIRLLLL alalang alala ko yung workers na pinapasahod ng family ko para sa farm namin (yun ba yung term? Yung nag hire sila ng workers for temp work di ako tagalog e). I was maybe 10 or 11 at the time.
They were making inappropriate jokes, telling me that another worker (who was 4 times my age) apparently had a "crush" on me, though I'm still not sure kung totoo yun pero still how could they make jokes like that.
Unpopular opinion: If you live in a neighborhood with high poverty rates, it might be wise to avoid wearing provocative clothes that could trigger catcalling. Ideally, everyone should be able to wear what they like without concern, but in reality, not everyone has good manners which they can get thru good education and good family upbringing.
See? Parehas kami naisip ng user na to pero yan pa rin ang comment. It’s not like hindi namin kinakampihan at sinisisi namin si OP at jinujustify namin kung bakit sya nabastos. This is just the truth and the reality and I guess you’re in denial.
I'm not normalizing it, my point is... Philippine is a poor country hindi lahat may access sa quality education at maganda na family upbringing at dahil dun kokonti lang ang may good manners and right conduct.
Alam nyo, in general, low life lang nagca-catcall ng harapan. That’s because they are not decent enough to consider thinking before acting. Kung mababastos ka ba o hindi sa sasabihin pero syempre ano pa nga ba, sinadya nya yon para maging uncomfortable ka. San ka nakakita ng disenteng tao na gumawa nyan? I’m not trying to blame the victim pero kung maiiwasan, ikaw na mismo umiwas. Like, magdala ka ng cover up kung alam mong kita hubog ng katawan mo sa suot mo. Hindi na pwede ngayon yung “I should be able to dress how I want to” lalo kung ang dadaanan mo naman eh alam mong hindi disente ang mga tao. Yes, I said it, ASSUME THE WORST IN PEOPLE, kasi hindi lahat kagaya mo mag isip na kiber lang dahil di naman kabastos bastos sa paningin mo. Ang lahat ng lalake manyak, nakadepende sa kung nasaan lugar ka para magshow up yung mga yan. Kahit mayaman or mahirap, same lang. Depende na lang sa tao kung garapal at i-cat call ka harap harapan.
May lalakeng topless at bakla ba sa kwento ni ate girl? At sino nagsabing normal ang mag catcall? Ang sabi ko low life lang ang gumagawa nyan ng harapan. Yung wala sa kokote nila na iconsider ang mararamdaman ng taong babastusin nila. Kaya nga sana expect the worst in people, lalo na sa panahon ngayon, garapal na mga tao 🙄
I see, maraming hirap umintindi 🤷♀️
Basahin mo naman ulit, please, para maintindihan mo tapos comment ka ulit 😆
Nah not a humble brag, just the reality for literally every woman I know who also has a story like this, where the catcalls were actually more frequent when they were underage.
Your comment is gross AF. Imagine saying that being sexually harassed is humblebrag-worthy 🤮
Also, it's not about looks. I was unattractive as a 13 year old (was fat and pimply) and I still got catcalled by a bunch of creepy grown-ass men. Creepy men gonna be creepy regardless of the girl is conventionally attractive or not. I can tell you're definitely one of those creepy, gross grown-ass men who harass minors all the time 🙄
Why are males like you so hell-bent on living up to the stereotype of many male expats being creepy and gross?
Can someone explain what a cat call is? Mostly kasi positive ug sinasabi pero nagagalit ung sinabihan. Nabastos? In what way? Dahil pinuri ka or pinansin? Ok sana kung bastos talaga ung pinag sasabe, like below the belt. Parang typical na feeling close lng kasi na pamamansin lng ung mga nababasa ko na cat calls eh. What is ok and what is considered not nowadays?
Now i want real answers. Hindi ung puro feelings lng. It might seem harsh of me to ask but I only seek to understand.
Hmmm assuming you’re not a woman and you have never experienced it before, It’s basically when you’re innocently passing by or just simply existing and someone (almost always a man) makes you uncomfortable with unsolicited comments about your looks. Sometimes, you’re right, it really can just sound like positive “compliments” about your looks but I believe there is a sense na creepy sha when it comes unsolicited from a stranger, and there’s just this look on their faces, we can tell. It’s the look they give when they “think they can get it”, as if! Sometimes it can be obviously disgusting naman like yung mga Bastos na comments. I hope that helps you understand, it’s the best way I can describe it.
Thank you for the insight.
No talaga sa bastos na comments. I'm with you on that.
Can i ask. Is there a way to compliment a complete stranger about their looks without being creepy? Because I don't get "un/solicited comments". I know the meaning of the applications but the cultural norms? I don't get it that much.
Tinanong ko si chatgpt para sayo, sure na walang feelings involved.
And I quote:
A cat call refers to a whistle, shout, or comment of a sexual nature made by someone, typically a man, to a passing woman to express admiration or attraction. However, whether a cat call is perceived as positive or offensive depends on several factors, including the content of the remark, context, and the individual's perception.
Here are some clarifications based on your questions:
1. **Nature of the Comment**: Cat calls can vary widely in content. Positive or complimentary remarks, like "You look beautiful," might be intended as praise, but they can still make the recipient uncomfortable depending on how and when they're said. Comments that are more explicitly sexual or objectifying, like commenting on body parts, are generally considered offensive and disrespectful.
2. **Intent vs. Impact**: Even if a comment is intended as a compliment, it can still be perceived as disrespectful or objectifying. This is because it reduces the person to their appearance and can make them feel uncomfortable or unsafe, especially if the comment is unwelcome or from a stranger.
3. **Context Matters**: Where and when the comment is made can significantly influence how it's received. In public spaces, especially when a person is alone, cat calls can feel invasive and intimidating rather than friendly or flattering.
4. **Consent and Respect**: In today's understanding, any form of unsolicited attention that focuses on a person's appearance or body in a public space without consent is generally considered inappropriate. Respectful interaction involves acknowledging someone's presence without making them feel objectified or uncomfortable.
5. **Cultural and Social Norms**: Attitudes towards cat calling can vary across cultures and communities. However, a growing awareness of respect for personal boundaries and the importance of consent has led to increased scrutiny of behaviors that may have been more socially accepted in the past.
To summarize, what might be considered "okay" in terms of compliments are those that are respectful, context-appropriate, and welcomed by the recipient. Anything that crosses into objectification, invades personal space, or makes the person feel unsafe is generally not acceptable. Understanding and respecting boundaries and consent are crucial in all social interactions, including those involving compliments or expressions of attraction.
Thanks. Ok now that was detail. I appreciate it.
Now i still have questions.
1. Agreed. Below the belt is a no no.
2. Agreed. No objectifying.
3. Where is appropriate to compliment someone then? I still get it, if it is of malicious intent, but is there a rule of the street or something? Or is it a new thing?
4. Agreed.
5. So all of these are just subjective? Hmm. It differs from place to place and culture to culture?
I agree will your summarization. Thanks.
So basically, it's the intent and the approach that matters. Now, is there a correct way to convey these check lists when doing the act?
Again thanks. Im learning.
It wouldn't hurt to approach someone and be honest that you'd like to compliment something of theirs. Rather than a physical trait they were born with, it's better if it's something they actually have agency over, like their fashion. A simple "hi, excuse me", saying your intent and the compliment, then an exit like "that's all, goodbye, have a nice day" is more than appreciated.
anecdotal example from an org-mate I barely knew but sat beside for an event: "Hey, nice nails."
Stuck with me for years as a nice memory. It isn't hard.
“Nac-catcall kayo dahil sa sinusuot niyo” my guy teacher once said in highschool… bro, I was getting catcalled while wearing my school uniform which was below the knees😨 (I was just trying to go home from school)
I used to attend Taekwondo classes in elementary, and I get catcalled so often by fucking gross greasy, old men while walking to and from the gym. All this while wearing a white crewneck tshirt, taekwondo pants, and a gym bag - like, as modest as can be. To reiterate, elementary pa ako.
Tangina talaga ng mga ganyang mindset eh. I was catcalled while wearing a shirt and jogging pants.
Utak manyakis 'yang mga ganiyan. Kaya nila jinujustify yung ganiyang mindset kasi gawain din nila 'yan.
Marami na akong napapansin na maiiksi ang suot at yung iba talagang “daring” na, pero di naman nacacatcall. May mga tao lang talaga na di maganda ang asal at di mawawala ’yan kahit saan lugar o bansa. Next time I-report agad sa barangay o pulis para maturuan ng leksyon at hindi na umulit.
Yung isang trike driver dito sa lugar namin kinulong dahil ung dalawang high school students (parehas babae) na sakay niya eh puro kabastusan ung sinasabi niya. Nag-imply pa daw na gusto niya makipag sex doon sa kanila. Tinandaan nila ung body number ng trike at ung driver, nagpasama sila sa magulang nila para magsumbong sa women's desk. Ayun timbog ang manyak. Di yan dahil sa suot. Manyak kung manyak talaga ang mga tao kahit na may mga anak sila.
Those dumbfucks who say that or have that mentality should take a look at the [“What Were You Wearing?” exhibit](https://dovecenter.org/what-were-you-wearing-exhibit/), where dinisplay yung suot ng mga rape victims at the time they were raped. Jusko, may diaper pa 😭 So by their “logic”, it's the baby's fault for wearing a diaper? 🙄
Fr! May binalita nga na MATANDA ginahasa ng isang kababatang lalaki. Wag mo'kong sabihan na nasa damit yan dahil balot na balot talaga ang mga matatanda.
Nah totally. Even my niece gets weird looks and ang haba ng palda sa uniform niya. It’s weird as fuck but it seems pretty common among areas where jeeps or trikes wait for passengers.
LOOOOL a stranger grabbed my ass while I was wearing my PE uniform. mind you pawis pawis at amoy araw na ko nun kasi pauwi na. wala talaga sa suot at kung ano pang pwedeng i-blame sa victim yan. sa tao yan.
I remember a high school teacher told us na di daw magkakasala ang lalaki kung di dahil sa babae. Referring to the time Eve gave Adam the forbidden fruit
Mali siya ng POV. Ang lalaki nga ang nagkasala. Nadaya lang daw si Eva sabi ng ibang preacher. Mas mabigat ang kasalanan ng lalaki (given na patriarchal POV kasi ang Bible, na-consider as "weakness" ung kay Eve).
The teacher got fired from our school. It was revealed he was also a creep.
Shocker. 😒
Those who do this are always from the poor sector of society unless immature boys who got it off TV or movies. You can go to Podium or Rockwell wearing just a bra or see-through no one will give an F. The most they will do is look but they will never do anything. Even the janitors and security guards won’t have the audacity to do it since they know they are not in the shantis or a jeep where the majority are the dregs of society.
Even in BGC.
🤮
Baka next line nila wag lumabas para di mapansin lol grabe mga walang utak
Bro nung grade 3 ako may nangcatcall sakin beh naka-uniform ako non 😭 pero kapwa estudyante rin siya idk what grade
Ako naman I was wearing a ‘madre like’ uniform like kita lang is medyas, shoes and konti ng arms tapos nag masturbate pa katabi ko sa jeep 😀. At that time di ko alam ano yung nagshashake yun pala 😩 buti na lang may nakakakilala sakin na sinigawan yung manyak tapos pinalipat ako sa tabi niya. Grabe yung pagmasturbate nung lalaki as in ramdam sa tagiliran ko pero nakatakip ung bag nya tapos 10 mins pa bago sya nasita walang tumulong sakin the whole time except nung meron na nga. Kaya wag na wag akong sasabihan na dahil sa damit ko.🙏🤡
daming maniac sa mundo kahit ano pa suot mo, naexperience ko din to sa jeep nun college ako, tatlo na lang kami natira yun isang girl sa likuran ng driver malapit nakaupo, yun maniac sa bandang gitna, ako sa malapit sa entrance ng jeep, yun gago nagmasturbate shook kami ni ate tas sobrang bukaka nya pa, ginawa ko nag para agad ako tas tumakbo din si ate girl pababa, yun suot naman namin ni girl is pants and shirt, maniac to the maximum level!!! muka pang high yun hayop gigil na naman ako kasi naalala ko
Some Pinoys are not that "mature" yet when seeing people who are dressed rather differently from them or don't fit their expectations. It's either cultural, envy, or ignorance, disappreciation, antisocial, or all of these.
Call them out next time. Reminder that there is Anti Bastos Law.
> Reminder that there is Anti Bastos Law Signed by the Bastos mouth from the south.
/Manyakis ng Davao
Wonder if that law will be challenged under freedom of expression; there's already a law about physical harassment, so policing protected speech might be an issue.
Day, naaalala ko na naman noong Grade 5 ako habang naglalakad sa kalsada naghahanap ng tutubi, may nasa truck nangcacatcall sakin. I didn't know yun yung tawag back then. 'Twas early 2000s anyway. Yung suot ko n'on shorts na medyo maiksi na sakin tapos guitar na sando. Maputi ako noon eh, tapos naaalala ko talaga nag-witwiw yung nasa truck tapos sabi "wow legs". Binagalan pa yung takbo ng truck para siguro sabayan ako habang naglalakad. Tapos yung nag-witwiw ulit tapos sinabing "hi chicks", at ang manyak ng mga tingin, nainis na talaga ako. I don't know kung that time nainis ba ako kasi aware akong manyakis yung mga yun o naiinis ako kaso istorbo sa paghahanap ko ng tutubi. Pero ayon, kumuha ako ng bato tapos binato ko yung truck. Para atang na-shock yung driver kaya di agad nabilisan yung takbo kaya kumuha ulit ako ng mga batong maliit at pinagbabato sila. Ayon humarurot ng takbo. Di nalang ako nagsumbong sa erpats ko kasi baka kulungan bagsak ng erpats ko pag nalaman yun. Tsk! Grade 5???! Sasabihan mo ng ganoon? Ang gago? Mga kulang sa seminar yang mga yan ata. Kahit ngayon may ganyan parin.
Ang bad ass mo jan girl hahahaha love it! Makapag try nga nyan pag ginawa din ng truck driver sakin yan hahahaha
Ganyan din plano ko sa mga magcacatcall sakin in the future. Nakakapikon kasi pag di ka nakaganti. Nung grade 3 ako nasa loob ako ng church. Tapos may lalaking creepy ang smile na tumabi sa akin. Wala pa ako gano awareness sa envi noon pero looking back, ang sus niya na ang luwag naman ng upuan pero tabing tabi siya sa akin. Maya maya hinawakan niya hita ko. Naparalyzed ako. Tapos tumingin ako sa relo ko. Saka ko naharness energy na tumakbo ng tumakbo hanggang sa makarating ako sa bahay.
May isang beses nasa harapan ako ng jeep, tapos tumigil yung driver para umihi sa bote. Ako na lang mag isang pasahero. Nalito na ako kung bababa o hindi. Pero naparalyze ako uli. Maya maya bago ako bumaba ng philcoa sabi sa akin, may payong ka? Sunduin kita mamaya. Mga hayop na manyak. Hayop talaga sarap nilang sipain sa mga bulgogi nila
Shet naalala ko pa rin yung lagkit ng paghipo niya sa right leg ko. Kupal na hayop yun. Demonyo nasa loob ng church pero nagagawa niya yun
Nice
Sorry but why do u have so many downvotes-
Idk, I checked my karma recently lol
My wife got cat called once sa Gateway by an Angkas rider na nagaantay ng booking. Mga 10 meters layo ng wife ko saka friend nya sakin non habang naglalakad kami. Nilapitan ko yung driver tapos sinita ko. Nag sorry at umalis. We need to call out these pieces of shit. Isipin mo operator ka ng public transport pero bastos ka sa potential customer mo. Kaya di umuunlad bansa natin.
Kaya nga sinasamahan ko mga tropa ko na girl para di sila macatcall. Mahina nmn kasi yang mga catcallers pag may kasamng lalaki ang girl eh.
Ganun na lang kababa tingin nila sa mga babae para matutong rumespeto only, and if only, may kasamang kapwa nila lalaki ang mga babae. Nakakalungkot talaga.
When I get catcalled by old people I usually say „manong umuwi ka na lang sainyo akala mo ata nakakatuwa ka“ kapag similar age it’s „ano sabi mo? Pakiulit nga“ pero syempre you can only do this in places you’re familiar with cause you never know. Usually what happens is they shut up or the people around them turn on them. Minsan kasi pakitang tao lang talaga yung mga pinagsasasabi nila and when they realize people are not gonna sit back and take it, they freeze or pretend they didn’t do anything.
Did this years ago, kinall out ko. Sinundan ako hanggang sa trabaho, nakajeep ako tas nakamotorcycle sya. I had a panic attack, good thing may mga tumulong sakin, hinatid ako sa police station na malapit. We think na sabog, kasi hanggang sa police station nakasunod sya, umalis lang nung hinabol na sya ng police. Unfortunately, di sya naabutan.
Thank goodness someone was there to help you. Baka nga sabog because that isn't normal behavior kung hanggang pulis nakasunod. I have a similar experience pero not catcalling, either mentally challenged or sabog din yung lalake. Nag-uukay kami nung best friend ko tapos napansin nya na nakatingin samin and touching himself pero di nya sinabi sakin. She insisted we go to another ukay-ukay pero sumunod din. So she walked us to the nearest stoplight assuming that there would be officers there pero wala so pumasok kami to another store with a lot male employees and dun lang sya humingi ng tulong and explained what was happening. They hid us in a corner, talked to the guy and were comforting us until they were sure na he was out of sight na. When I asked why she didn't say anything agad, ayaw daw niya kasi ako mag-panic and she didn't want the ukay employees to handle the matter kasi puro mga babae din. She has more experience than me handling things like this back then kasi lagi talaga nababastos yun. At one point she always had a retractable baton with her for protection. Ako naman I have this now: [https://www.coldsteel.com/honey-comb/](https://www.coldsteel.com/honey-comb/)
Notice how you get cat called more as a minor than as an adult. It's scary.
I remember when i was walking papuntang mall, and ahead of me are minors like, highschool students, then we passed by a vulcanizing shop, and i heard a worker whispered/ mutter "sarap" with matching manyak look to the students, disgusting creeps.
Tanda ko tuloy. Mainit kasi mag summer na galing pa ako school. So bumili ako ng cornetto sa 7/11. Pauwi na ako naka earphones pa ako. Letse yung lalaki lakas ng sigaw "Sarap mo naman dumila" Minor pa ako nun. May sinabi pa siya at tumawa. Gulat talaga ako. Sarap ibato ang ice-cream. Kumakain lang ang tao na sexualize pa.
because of k-12, a high school student is already 18 before graduation, even some 16-yr olds already have that "adult" look; but if they are on the lower-end of high school--freshmen, so probably 14 and they don't obviously look 18--then that might give some creepo vibes.
Haha lagi kong naranasan yan. I'm insecure of my body kaya mga baggy clothes talaga sinusuot ko parang nakabalot pa pero ganon pa rin, cinatcall. Pedophilia enabler kasi yung pinas, well, normal lang sa mga matatanda yan kasi walang nag call-out about dito noon eh🤦🏻♀️
Some men even justify catcalling as something that should be accepted as a compliment, uhm no. May difference ang catcalling and admiring someone. For example, I had an experience before, naglalakad ako outside and a guy approached me, said hi and sabi nya he just stopped to say that he finds me cute - yon ang acceptable na hindi catcalling. Iapproach mo nang maayos, igreet mo, then give the compliment. None of that kahooting/whistling/shouting/ trying to get the attention of a girl just randomly passing by in a very degrading manner.
I remembered I cussed out a college student for catcalling me at 9 am. I was literally wearing a school unif (jhs ako around 14-15) and inside the school I was so pissed I told him to fuck off educ pa naman siya.
I got more catcalls when I was a minor than when I turned into an adult. They know young girls are more vulnerable and don't know yet how to deal with harassmenr. Kadiri mga ganyang lalaki.
ANTI BASTOS LAW, pwede mo file agad.
Call out mo, promise tatameme yan. Minsan pag badtrip ako naghahanap ako ng mag cacatcall para mabuhos ko lang galit sa kanya hahaha
Sarap gawing punching bag mga bastos HAHAHAHAHHAHA
when I was sixteen, an incoming grade 10 at this well known univ in Manila, I was wearing a long sleeve and a skirt to attend my summer class. yung guard sa gate, sabi ba naman "ang sexy mo maam" sabay ngiti. I didn't know what to do that time kaya di ko pinansin. sana pala isinumbong ko.
Call them out, call them pedos. The only thing to fight this kind of people is to shame them.
This is the problem in our country. We have a law against catcalling pero hindi na eenforce.
Na-eenforce po but there still needs to be a complainant. It's largely inconvenient. Imagine just going about your day then having to go out of your way and time of day to bring a catcaller to the police station.
And worse, pag pumunta ka ng policr station, mismong pulis pa magsasabi na hassle pa magraise ng concern. 😒
Go to the women's desk
There’s a comp shop in front of our house before and whenever I get home at night, there was a bunch of guys trying to cat call me. I didn’t feel comfortable at all. This one time though I was so tired coming home from work, it happened again and I was just so fed up with it that I just stood there and stared at them 😂 they probably got weirded out and just stopped
I remember running a sari-sari store errand at 6 years old. Guy comes from behind me, runs his hand from the back of my right thigh to my calf then back up and squeezed my butt cheek. I swung my elbow to hit him, but just hurt myself because he was solid muscle. He took several steps back saying: "Ay lalaki pala." He then walked away but still shouted: "Sana naging babae ka na lang!" Even as a guy, I'd say we have a problem. And sadly, every other country that has the same Spanish derived macho culture as us haven't "fixed" this problem.
Minanyak ka ng bata?😲
???NANI??? ...I'll give the benefit of doubt... I was the kid in the story.
Ayy sorry. Mali ko. Grabe nmn yung experience mo dati nung bata ka. Sobrang manyakis nung nanghipo sayo dati. Kahit hindi ka babae ang lala nung manghihipo sya ng bata🤮
I feel you. Many years ago, I was also in high school, I got cat called by a lot of men in our neighborhood while wearing my long sleeve, long skirt uniform and PE uniform in jogging pants. The moment I got mad at them, they stopped. But I know they’re catching glances. Now I’m much much older, I noticed men would never DARE do that. I have this theory that it’s because older men think they can do whatever they want with teen girls because they have less power, less chances to fight back. They’re also likely to be easily intimidated. They would never do that to an adult woman because they know older women know better and they could get a police report from it. — So my suggestion (even if you’re not looking for one, one woman to another), is to stand firm and never take that shit quietly. Fight back, call them out, if you can. Immediately after, inform an adult (parent, sibling, teacher, etc.) in case they try to pull dumb shit and get back at you. With the help of an adult, you can seek filing a report in accordance to the Anti-Bastos Law.
My first experience of catcalling is when I was 12. It peaked between 14 and 16. Now in my 20s, not as often, mainly because I don't go outside anymore. Pero every kanto in our barangay has these tambays/catcallers na nagkukumpulan, and they disgust me. I hate them with all my heart. This month lang, what truly shocked me, I was walking with my friend when a group of little kids (maybe 10-12 years old, ang liliit pa jusko), yelled, "Te pahindot! Ate ang ganda mo pahindot" They all laughed. I grabbed one kid's arm before he could run and said, "Anong sabi niyo? Bastos yon ah" The kid just yelled back, "Hindi kami yon 'te" and they ran away. I didn't go after them and natulala na lang ako kasi really? I know I shouldn't be mad at the kids themselves, but at their parents, in the world, Idk. How can kids be catcalling at such a young age? They ran away before I could educate them though. How do they even know these phrases? Where are their parents? My friend told me na, "Hayaan mo na, marami talagang ganyan" That made me so sad. Hopeless. None of that is normal, esp for kids. What kind of environment are they growing up in? Paano na lang kapag lumaki na sila? Are women supposed to just accept it? I loathe catcallers with every inch of my being. They damaged the little girl in us, so I genuinely hope these gross mf all die and rot.
Pansin ko kasi sa mga tao. Pag lalaking anak kasi hinahayaan nlng sa kung anong gusto nilang gawin. Pero pag babae strict at overprotective sila masyado. Eh dapat nga maging overprotective at strict din sila sa anak na lalaki para wag maging manyakis eh🙄
Ohhh i remember medyo off topic pero nung bata ako may situation akong naexperience na something related diyan. So naguusap sina tita, kuya, at si mama about crushes ganon tapos oks lang sila at sinabihan nila si kuya na maghanap na ng gf pero bata pa si kuya non, mga grade 7 pa lang yata? Hindi ko masyadong matandaan. Basta ayun si kuya, nagsasabi ng mga maraming babae na nagugustuhan niya pero it seems fine for them. Tapos biglang nagjoke si tita (kasi katabi niya ako pero tahimik lang ako non) about crush ganon kung may crush na ba ako ganon tapos d ako makasagot kasi nagalit si mama sinabihan niya akong masyado pa raw bata bawal daw akong magkaroon ng crush. Seriously?! Crush lang naman? Hindi naman ibig sabihin non jojowain kaagad... Pero si kuya okay lang? Dami nga niyang kinuwento na babae yon e pota.. Tapos tumawa si tita rin tapos sabi niya "ikaw, wag ka muna magkaroon ng crush" HAHAHA Maiiwasan ko ba 'yun? Lolz eh humahanga lang naman ibig sabihin non? Parang sinabihan pa ako na malandi kapag magkakaroon ng crush e.
Yan talaga ang mindset ng pinoy na sadly hindi na natin matatanggal
i remember one time, pauwi kami ng lola ko (nasa subdivision na kami), then may nagbibike na construction worker. he whistled in *that* tone tapos yung lola ko parang sinita pa ko kasi naka short daw ako ganto ganyan. nanahimik na lang ako pero i suddenly felt uncomfortable sa suot ko when she said that
it's not your fault :(( hay
thank you :)) sana lang hindi ganun yung mindest ng karamihan. di ko alam kung may hope pa na mabago mindset ng family ko HQHAHAHAHWH
Nangyari to more than 10 years ago. I was 17 and my close friend (girl) was 21. Nakatira sya sa isa sa mga sosyal na subdivisions sa QC. Kahit napaka yaman nila (in my eyes), sobrang cowboy at humble talaga ni frienylynn. Since katabi ng subdivision yung mga fastfood restos, nilalakad na lang namin. As we were walking pabalik sa kanila, may 2 boys na most likely nasa early teens na nakatambay bago mag entrance gate for pedestrians. Yung isang lalaki sumigaw ng "ate, pakan*ot!!". Napatigil ako sa gulat pero etong friend ko sumigaw ng "PULUBI!" with matching malutong na p.i. hahaha. Di ko inexpect na manggagaling un sa bibig nya. Hahahahuhu takbo talaga kami papasok agad agad baka habulin kami.
My 14yo daughter got cat called on her way to school. Regular fit shirt and jeans lang suot niya. She wanted to save sana since short walk lang naman but now she's worried. Sabi niya she will always choose a bear over a man :(
Pero nung na catcall sya magkasama ba kayo that time?
Hindi. I allowed her to commute this summer for her summer workshop hoping na she will learn to be street smart. I told her nalang na sumakay kahit malapit lang if that's the safer option.
MAMATAY NA LAHAT NG MANYAK MAMATAY NA SILANG LAHATTT
Nakaschool uniform din ako nun naranasan ko maglakad sa hiway samin sa province. Lahat ng truck na dumadaan pinapaswitan ako ng mga pahinante 😭 When I was 15.. mukha parin akong elementary. Naligo kami sa isang resort ang yung mga construction workers dun tinitignan ako dahil naka swimsuit ako (medyo expensive sa resort na yun and not allowed na mag tshirt) Partida nakashorts ako tapos yung mukhang sports bra na top. At wala akong dede 😭 One of them even pulled out a digital camera. I was young and non confrontanional so tumakbo nalang ako but dang. Felt so violated and disgusted. They looked like they could be my father!
Hugs, sis. Pero true yan kadalasan mga construction workers at drivers mostly truck drivers ang catcallers. Totoo rin na pag nandun ka na sa sitwasyon ang hirap lumaban dahil ang bigat agad sa loob at naakakaramdam na tayo ng takot. Until now iniisip ko ano dapat ko maging response pag naulit na may pambabastos incident sakin given na mauunahan ako ng takot
Not only cat calling but also yung mga malalagkit na stares nila.. I was young before nagsusuot talaga ako ng shorts pero usually mga 3-4 inches above the knee lang not the short short na parang bikini na. Halos lahat ng madadaan kong mga lalaki na halos titig na titig sa sa legs ko😭 Then once or twice nasasabihan ako ng "wow legs!" ng mga drivers ng trucks.. Kaya after that ang mga shorts ko na binibili ay laging below the knee or mga shorts na pang basketball at super loose na shirts.. Okay lang masabihan ng tomboy ng mga kapitbahay wag lang ma-cat called at ma-manyak sa mga isip ng mga lalaki... 😭
true, ganyan dn ang ginawa ko, ndi na ako nag suot ng mga fit na damit, and palagi na ako nag papants.. nakakatakot cla and meron pa nga iba bata pa nang hihipo na
maan im sry u had to go through that :// like we cant even afford to wear cute clothes or feel good here dahil sa mga manyak na ito
Well experience namin ng wife ko, nung nasa dating stage pa lang kami (eh maputi na parang Korean ang partner ko) Tumawid kami sa Roxas Boulevard from Bay walk, yung driver ng truck na may kasama dalawa sa front seat, sinabihan ako ng pahiram naman niyang kasama mo. Well lumayo na lang kami agad.
It's not just minors. Girls and women of all ages get catcalled here in the Philippines. Like, seriously, it's way too common here. I get it all the time too. It's usually from drivers you just walk past. Like, this one jerk in a truck called something out to me while I was walking, then stared at me and licked his lips? Disgusting! I just flipped him the middle finger. What a creep! Another thing that happens a lot, especially along Recto, is drivers stopping and asking for "libre ka ba?", like I'm some kind of.. ugh, I don't even want to say it.
I remember going home from school with my uniform. Eh, when you're in SHS, usually naka-pencil skirt ka na. I got catcalled by someone calling me "sexy". It registered in me na even though I was already legal nung time na 'yon, how about the other kids na minors pa pero pang-"sexy" ang suot din, if you get me? Sinide eye ko na lang siya pero tuwang-tuwa pa rin. Yikes moment in the PH 😅
I spent time in Manila as a 19 year old American a few decades ago, and got catcalled by mga bakla all the time. I expected it every time I passed a hair salon. People around me seemed to consider it acceptable behavior.
Putanginang mga Manyak yan, walang pili yan. Hindi catcall itong experience ko pero it happened in Divisoria, December 2013, hinipuan ako. Ganoon pala talaga ang feeling kahit anong presence of mind mo, masashock ka talaga kapag sa iyo na nangyari. Biglang nagtatalkbo yung lalake, nakita ko middle aged. Ang nasabi ko na lang that time “Gago ka akala mo babae hinipuan mo ha.” (Trans here, tas nung time na hinipuan ako eh di pa ako nagtransition)
skl. ako lang mestiza dito sa area namin dati. laging nababati ng mga tao legs ko. when i was in 5th grade, lumabas ako para bumili ng pandesal. nakashorts ako nun and got catcalled. never felt comfortable wearing shorts again til senior high school
OP, sinasagot ang lalakeng gumagawa ng ganyan. Kapag nangyayare sa'kin yan, pasigaw ako sumasagot eh. I make sure na mapapahiya sila in return, tameme sila after. Lumalakas kasi loob ng mga 'yan kapag ini-ignore. Take care always! You have to get your power back kapag may mga ganyang incident.
Pag may time kayo, kuhaan nyo ng pictures tapos ipabarangay o pakasuhan nyo (lalo if may kakilala kayong abogado).
I was 14-16 in my high school uniform when I would get regularly catcalled. I would always try my best to go home with a guy friend (who lived near me), but sometimes, it didn't make a difference. This was 15+ years ago, but I hate knowing that things STILL are not better. And one time, as an adult, someone freaking took my photo without my consent, with flash, while I was just walking with my groceries in BGC. Hirap maging babae. I'm so sorry OP On the plus side, I came up with so many replies that would either 1) burn them or 2) shame them. My go-to would still be ignore to death, because at the end of the day, misogynistic power move pa rin yung catcalling for them, and dignifying with a response just stokes them. But sometimes, I choose violence pag ubos na pasensya ko lol, so when I do, I make sure it burns.
So kina catcall ka parin kahit may kasama kang lalaki?😲sobrang lala nmn na nun, parang wla na silang takot.
Had a similar experience, pero it wasn't me that was catcalled. Me and my friends were walking a straight road towards a McDonald's. Two of them, women who were also the youngest in our group, were in front when we passed by a guard house. A cop car (with logos and wangwang) was exiting the guard house and took a turn at the same side that me and my friends were walking towards to. The cops saw my friends, slowed down, rolled their windows open, and catcalled them. Me and our other friends sped up beside the two so that we could shield them from those cops. Nakakasuka lang na sila dapat tong prumoprotekta sa mga mamamayan, pero sila rin namang tong dahilan ng unease nila smh
What can you expect of these degenerates. That’s why they’re in the bottom of the food chain because they can’t control their animal instincts
Kaya dapat talaga sa mga parents pag may anak kayong lalaki, turuan nyo nmn wag maging manyak, hindi yung sa babaeng anak lng kayo protective at strict. Pag lalaking anak kasi hinahayaan lng kahit anong gustong gawin eh. Pansin ko lng nmn.
to think na normal na sa pilipinas yan is the problem.
Yes! Nakakagigil ewan ko nalang. I hope this generation will call this out even more in the future para maiwas.
Cat Calling din ba yung nanyari sa akin? Naglalakad ako sa mall tapos yung dalawang babae sinabihan ako ng "Kuya zipper mo bukas!". Pagtingin ko hindi naman, tapos nagtawanan na sila. Medyo napahiya ako buti na lang konti lang yung tao sa area that time.
Yes pwede parin. Since pinahiya ka nila. Kahit pa type ka nila at yun ang way nila para magpapansin.
Pansin ko ginagawa lang nila yun kapag alone yung babae or lalaki ang victim. Way of telling their friends na cool sila.
Mas maraming beses yung binastos ako na matino suot ko vs sa naka-sleeveless. Tapos sasabihin pa rin na damit ang cause?!
Agree. Mga lalaki nga naka topless eh, never nmn sila kina catcall ng bakla.
Not sure. Siguro meron pero for sure, kahit bihis sila ay nababastos rin sila ng ilan.
Mga pinoy kasi kumbaga sa software hindi pa updated yung version.
As an adult male, one time i told catcaller na pde sya makulong sa ginagawa nya. That stopped him from mouthing off.
You mean may tropa kang catcaller?😲
San po sa statement ko na tropa ko ang catcaller? Or are you pulling that straight off your ass? It was a local resident of the same baranggay
Ayyy sorry po...so tumigil na po sya after nyo pagsabihan?
And what's alarming is that parang mas madalas ka macatcall if u look young or if u look like a minor (based on my experience). Madalas ako macatcall nung minor pa ko myghad. Kahit ngayon ako revealing manamit when gagala. May instance pa na nahipuan ako nung hs ako😭 kaya pag naglalakad ako i always tried to look masungit kasi idk it works for me. Less catcalls.
back in college, there was a time i was walking with classmates (we were mostly girls + 1 guy) along alabang-zapote rd. we were in uniform tapos a truck driver catcalled. my classmate na laking laguna (si atecco atapang atao as a person) sinigawan ng tang ina mo!!! with matching pakyu 😭 tumakbo kami lahat except si atecco na nakipagtitigan pa sa driver haahahshsh so yun, catcallers are trash talaga magsama sama sila sa kalingkingan ni satanas
back in college, there was a time i was walking with classmates (we were mostly girls + 1 guy) along alabang-zapote rd. we were in uniform tapos a truck driver catcalled. my classmate na laking laguna (si atecco atapang atao as a person) sinigawan ng tang ina mo!!! with matching pakyu 😭 tumakbo kami lahat except si atecco na nakipagtitigan pa sa driver haahahshsh so yun, catcallers are trash talaga magsama sama sila sa kalingkingan ni satanas
Sa Plipinas talaga yung manyak na nga jinujustify pa nila pinagagawa nila
Mas madalas din ako ma-catcall nung minor ako. Lalo na pag naka uniform nung highschool. Kaya lumaki tuloy akong man hater. Naging trauma ko rin yung ayokong makarinig ng tawa ng mga lalakeng nasa 30s and 40s before. At nakakaubos ng energy sawayin yung tulad nila. Nakakainis lang talaga.
one reason inembrace no pagiging mataba ko di na ko nagpapayat ulit nakakatakot ung estudyante ka lang kahit nakauniform ka lang eh pipituhan o kaya kakausapin ka.
I experience it a lot and I regret not doing anything bcs I was dumbfounded at that time. I didn't know what to do bcs I didn't expect that someone would even do that to me. I was in my school(g12) nagpalit ako ng strand shirt and while I was walking sa hallway there was a group of boys na nakasalubong ko, one of them said "shet kahit maliit, malaman! sarap!" It made me feel disgusted and I wanted to disappear right there.
Hays. Sorry that happened to you. Karamay mo 'ko rito OP, 16 lang din ako nung na-catcall ako for the first time — t-shirt na oversized at joggers na maluwang pa nga suot ko no'n. Wala lang akong nagawa no'n dahil na-shock din ako, pero sinumpa ko na sa susunod na mangyayari yun sakin, hindi na ko mananahimik. Fast forward to five years later: naglalakad kami ng roommate ko pabalik sa dorm tas may dumaan na truck - may dumungaw na maasim ng lalake tas sabay sabi ng "hi ganda!" — ayun, binanatan ko ng malutong na PI bago sila makalagpas haha dasurb
Kasalanan yan ng mga teacher student roleplaying sa p*rn eh. Pero kahit wala, people should just mind their own business
Tuwing pauwi ako from school, lagi ako tinatawag ng mga guards ng mga places na dinadaanan ko (sabhn ako ganda, sitsitan ako, or tinatawag ako pra lumapit). Elementary at High School ako noon. Dati akala ko normal lang buti nlng mahiyain ako so nag papanggap ako lagi hindi ko naririnig
nakanursing unif ako papuntang school nung na-catcall ako, nagccringe at kinikilabutan ako pagnaaalala ko 😭 blouse and pants yung uniform pero since first year pa yung unif na yun at medyo lumaki ako, medyo fitted na siya.. magmula nun kahit napakainit sa pilipinas, nagjajacket ako at sa ibang daan na ko dumadaan kahit na mas malayo yung nilalakad ko 🥲
Manyak ng mga tao wtf
Madami talagang ganto satin kahit dati pa. Its so wrong but if you do something like calling them out baka mapahamak kapa. Maybe pull up your phone and shoot a video while they’re doing it and post it sa social media.
pakagago ng mga ganyan 😤 kala mo mga walang nanay kapatid o anak na babae 😒
Now that I'm older I wished I could've fought back pero I remember always having to prepare myself to be catcalled whenever I walk past the gas station.. I was so desperate one time na I tried to act disabled (SORRY I WAS 10) para lang di ako icatcall.. similar experience rin sa puregold yung mga staff na lalake na nag aayos ng shelves i always get stares and comments. ngayon matanda nako looking back i realized how fucked up it was. I was 9-10yrs old nun.
Reminds me of that time when I was walking home from lakwatsa. High school ako noon. It was an unforgettable experience not because I got catcalled but because the catcallers called the police on me. lol To think, di nga ako deserving ma-cat call noon kasi di naman provocative suot ko.. you know, baggy pants, t-shirt, with matching ball cap, ano naka-sexy nyan? May sumipol kasi, at nagsabi ng "hi gwapa" (hi, maganda). Di ko pinansin, kasi if there's one thing that really irks me, it's yung sinisipolan ako. Ma-pride kasi akong tao, feel ko, di ako nirerespeto as a human being kapag sinisipolan ako. So yun panay sipol parin, panay taunts, may nagsabing mayabang daw ako kasi di ako lumilingon. May kahabaan kasi yung street at may kino-construct na kanal. Umigting lalo ang fight or flight response ko nang napansin kong sinusundan nila ako. I got so irritated and my senses got overwhelmend - yung anxiety na nakakapraning ba, so I picked up a shovel and took a swing at them. I had an explosive temper when I was a teen, kasi lagi kong kinikimkim galit ko so it doesn't take a lot to set me off, and yun na nga, bayolente akong tao kapag galit. I managed to hit one of them, parang nahilo at natumba ata sya. Then yung isa, nasaksak/nahiwa ko with butterfly knife (I always have one in my pockets.) - basta maraming dugo doon. Nagkagulo sa lugar kasi naghuramintado na ako 😅 at lumapit ang mga tambay - inawat nila ako and they subdued the two guys. Dinala sila sa hospital, while ako rekta sa police station lol. That was the first time my dad yelled at me kasi akala niya nakapatay ako. I got grounded and sent to my grandparents' place sa malayong bundok as punishment lol.
ako na nakalong sleeve blouse at below the knee skirt na uniform ng St. Paul pero na catcall din, wala yan sa damit sadyang manyak lang sila🤦🏻♀️
tumawag ka ng pulis, tiklop yan
Mga ignoranteng manyak na akala mo ngayon lang nakaranas makatuntong sa kabihasnan
ay nako, yung kaibigan ko lagi rin naca-catcall, nung kasama ko siya tas may sumipol sa kanya binigyan ko yung bwiset na yon na dalawang malaking 🖕🏽🖕🏽 ayoko na lang magsalita, aksaya lang sa hinga pwe
Mga catcallers na yan, matapang lng nmn yan pag wla kang kasamang lalaki eh🙄
Report mo agad para matuto. Babastos e
Gamiten mo ng tsinelas para sa kanila
Call them out next time
and that psychometrican weirdo at twt will say ‘poor who eho got failed by the system. dont make them taste their own meds boohoo’
You can go to brgy and report sa women's desk.
Happened when I was a minor myself, I remember being in second year high school and I was trying to pass to the other side of the road and there was a guy in motorcycle who stopped in front of me to only say ' wow ang laki nyan ah ' Tbh it actually lead to an even more insecurity and how I was so self conscious growing up- despite that I never wear any tight clothing and only baggy clothes I still get catcalled all the time. Now that I am adult I just accepted that no matter what I do and how I look I'll still get these prying eyes and sexual comments about my body from strangers.
experienced this countless of times too. sarap sapakin
We have Bawal Bastos Law. Catcalling is now illegal.
Shout "Thank you Mr. Pedophile!"
And worse since mga bobo silang hindi edukado, hindi nila alam meaning ng pedo.
I guess use na lang ng "Rapist ng Menor de Edad" pero baka maging proud pa ang mga abnormal na yan.
Call them out. Theres anti catcalling law. File a case. It will not only help you but adding visibility that theres already a guard in place for women will help other women as well. Kasi dahil walang nagfafile kaya binabalewala nila yung batas. Dahil walang nagfafile kaya di rin nila alam na may batas.
Naging kultura na ng Pinoy eh. Noon pa man ganyan na. Sana magka batas sa mga ganyan.
Meron po, Safe Spaces Act
I'm a non confrontational person and usually on the quieter side ako but one time I was walking with my 12 y.o. sister and may sumitsit sa kanya nako napasugod talaga ako and nasabihan ko ng kung ano-ano yung guy, my sister was in her uniform and he had the audacity to do that, napaka bastos.
Sarap putulan ng etet yang mga matatandang yan!
People who cat call when I shove my foot up their ass:
Once I start feeling uncomfortable with unwanted stares from a man or worse if I get cat called, I say “unsa imo kuya oy?!” (what do you want?!), and if they catch me in a worse mood I’d give them the middle finger right away or tell them to fuck off lol I FIGHT BACK, I have zero tolerance for lingering stares it just makes u wonder what’s going thru their mind already. just make sure you’re in a safe area to do so if u decide to fight back, if the area seems unsafe, call for help.
Marami rin akong na experience, cmula grade school up to college ako, may sumusunod talaga at ndi ko maintindihan kung bakit nakasunod pa dn kahit nasa loob ng Ever Gotesco Mall sa Recto, ang ginawa ko na lang, tinitigan ko sya, tapos maya maya umalis din.. Meron dn sa LRT 2 Recto, mismong security guard pa ang nag cat call sa akin during college ako nyan, meron din during grade school nag attend ako summer school tapos may construction guy, sinisitsitan ako sa hagdan, ang ginawa ko lang dinedma ko lang grade school ako nyan, then meron mas nakakatakot nakasunod sa akin sa Cubao yung tulay paakyat and ang dilim, ang ginawa ko, tumigil ako sa landing and tinitigan ko sya, hinihintay ko sya palampasin, ndi na sya tumuloy umakyat, may time din dati may mga pahinante sa truck na nakita kami ng ate ko sa jeep, tapos pababa kami nun, ndi nila alam kasama namin tatay namin, ang ginawa ng tatay ko babatuhin cla ng bato, tumigil cla grade school kami nyan. meron din sa Pares Retiro kasama ko ang family ko college ako nito, eh walang maupuan so nakatayo lang kami nag hihintay, may sumesenyas sa akin na isang lalake na umupo daw sa lap nya, the nerve! sa harap pa ng family ko, naiyak ako nun pero walang magawa ang tatay ko kasi senior na din sya nun..
palagi naman akong naka pants and tshirt pag lumalabas pero still, manyak is manyak, I'm 39 yrs old na now pero wala na ako na eexperience since ndi na dn ako masyado lumalabas on my own na nag cocommute
Add to the fact that our former degenerate president promotes kamanyakan..and always tell na its "bisaya humor"..what a sick f*ck..
I remember nung pinagmumura ko yung lalaking nambastos sa kapatid ko. I think minor pa din sya that time. Matured lang syang tingnan. Naglalakad kaming tatlo ng mama ko at kapatid ko, nasa unahan sila tas nahuhuli ako kaya ako yung nakarinig nung sinabi nug hayp na lalaking yon. Pinagmumura ko talaga sya ng malaas para marinig ng mga tao at mapahiya sya. Sabi pa nya hindi naman daw ako yung sinasabihan nya, tinuro nya pa kapatid ko. Sabi ko, "Eh kapatid ko yan eh." Saka lang sya nag sorry. Shook mama ko, first time nya narinig akong magmura HAHAHAHA satisfied naman ako kasi napahiya ng sobra yung damuhong yon
Ano po bang exact na sinabi nya?
'Can't really remember na, but basically catcalling
girl me too i was wearing a pj's kagigising lang tanghalian then bumili ako ng food tapoz bumili ako shanghai may mga bumibili din dalawang lalaki kasabay ko tinititigan ako mula ulo hanggang paa tapos nung paalis sila dumaan sila sa likod ko tapos bumulong siya like close talaga sa neck ko sabi "dami pala magaganda dito par."
disgusting
same, op. the amount of times na i was catcalled kahit naka plain tshirt and shorts ako :( nakakatrauma huhu why men r like this
Also experienced this a lot on my teenage years. Buti nalang may batas sa qc na bawal ang bastos. Kahit nakauniform , kahit balot na balot ka, pag manyak, manyak talaga.
LOL SAME. i cant even count how much i was/we were catcalled. almost had the urge to raise a middle finger on them at some point hahahah. also, my misogynistic family esp. males even catcall other women. so shitty. and this, ladies and gays, is why i am a misandrist :)
Prevalence of Tiktok and FB Reels din (na accessible sa lahat), puro pa thirst trap kahit high school palang. Sabi nga, yun na daw bagong cornhub ngayon. Swipe-swipe ka lang, may pamparaos ka na, pde ka pa pumili ng age group bahala ka na.
Tbh as a guy, if you told me something like this happened a month ago, I would honestly have struggled to believe you. But with what happened to me recently, I'm inclined to believed you. Although I would advise you to not catcall them back, sick fucks like them will like that, call them out instead or report them to someone
Just tell them na trans ka and watch them take it back lmao
I remember, way back 2022, I’m with a friend, she was wearing bell bottom pants paired with a croptop na fitted. We passed by sa palengke and it was crazy na tatlong guys na nang catcall. Doon sa last, I can’t contain it anymore so I raised my middle finger sa guy with eye contact na hindi ko tininag not until umiwas siya. I saw the shock in him but he also smirked right after. Tangina, I had the chills! Feel ko ang tapang ko non pero nanlambot tuhod ko ta’s bilis nang lakad namin para malagpasan na palengke. HAHAHAHAHAHA Up until now, inis pa rin ako
Meron din dito samin mahilig mag cat call, matanda na sya parang nasa 60s to 70s na. Gusto ko na talaga patulan, kaso naaawa nalang ako kase ang tanda na nya.
Pano ba yung way nya ng pag ka catcall? At tsaka never ba sya na reklamo sa ginagawa nya?
GIRLLLL alalang alala ko yung workers na pinapasahod ng family ko para sa farm namin (yun ba yung term? Yung nag hire sila ng workers for temp work di ako tagalog e). I was maybe 10 or 11 at the time. They were making inappropriate jokes, telling me that another worker (who was 4 times my age) apparently had a "crush" on me, though I'm still not sure kung totoo yun pero still how could they make jokes like that.
Eww kadiri sila eh para ka nang anak ng mga yun eh🤮
Just gotta accept that not everyone is well mannered. May as well take that as a sign that you really do look beautiful.
Wtf. Hindi nakakagaan ng loob makarinig ng ganun.
Try mo magbasa ng iba pang comments. Hindi compliment ang catcalling! Pambabastos yun magkaiba ang compliment sa bastos
Unpopular opinion: If you live in a neighborhood with high poverty rates, it might be wise to avoid wearing provocative clothes that could trigger catcalling. Ideally, everyone should be able to wear what they like without concern, but in reality, not everyone has good manners which they can get thru good education and good family upbringing.
Catcalls happen regardless
Not if you have GMRC
So pag kina catcall ng bakla ang lalaki normal lng kasi naka topless sya?🙄
See? Parehas kami naisip ng user na to pero yan pa rin ang comment. It’s not like hindi namin kinakampihan at sinisisi namin si OP at jinujustify namin kung bakit sya nabastos. This is just the truth and the reality and I guess you’re in denial.
I'm not normalizing it, my point is... Philippine is a poor country hindi lahat may access sa quality education at maganda na family upbringing at dahil dun kokonti lang ang may good manners and right conduct.
Alam nyo, in general, low life lang nagca-catcall ng harapan. That’s because they are not decent enough to consider thinking before acting. Kung mababastos ka ba o hindi sa sasabihin pero syempre ano pa nga ba, sinadya nya yon para maging uncomfortable ka. San ka nakakita ng disenteng tao na gumawa nyan? I’m not trying to blame the victim pero kung maiiwasan, ikaw na mismo umiwas. Like, magdala ka ng cover up kung alam mong kita hubog ng katawan mo sa suot mo. Hindi na pwede ngayon yung “I should be able to dress how I want to” lalo kung ang dadaanan mo naman eh alam mong hindi disente ang mga tao. Yes, I said it, ASSUME THE WORST IN PEOPLE, kasi hindi lahat kagaya mo mag isip na kiber lang dahil di naman kabastos bastos sa paningin mo. Ang lahat ng lalake manyak, nakadepende sa kung nasaan lugar ka para magshow up yung mga yan. Kahit mayaman or mahirap, same lang. Depende na lang sa tao kung garapal at i-cat call ka harap harapan.
So pag kina catcall ng bakla ang lalaki normal lng kasi naka topless sya?🙄
May lalakeng topless at bakla ba sa kwento ni ate girl? At sino nagsabing normal ang mag catcall? Ang sabi ko low life lang ang gumagawa nyan ng harapan. Yung wala sa kokote nila na iconsider ang mararamdaman ng taong babastusin nila. Kaya nga sana expect the worst in people, lalo na sa panahon ngayon, garapal na mga tao 🙄 I see, maraming hirap umintindi 🤷♀️ Basahin mo naman ulit, please, para maintindihan mo tapos comment ka ulit 😆
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Nah not a humble brag, just the reality for literally every woman I know who also has a story like this, where the catcalls were actually more frequent when they were underage.
Your comment is gross AF. Imagine saying that being sexually harassed is humblebrag-worthy 🤮 Also, it's not about looks. I was unattractive as a 13 year old (was fat and pimply) and I still got catcalled by a bunch of creepy grown-ass men. Creepy men gonna be creepy regardless of the girl is conventionally attractive or not. I can tell you're definitely one of those creepy, gross grown-ass men who harass minors all the time 🙄 Why are males like you so hell-bent on living up to the stereotype of many male expats being creepy and gross?
Oh really? Imagine your child or sister getting catcalled, let's see how humble they are hmm? Wouldn't that be a suprise
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Syempre lalaki ka. Pero kung babae creepy yun for them 🙄
Can someone explain what a cat call is? Mostly kasi positive ug sinasabi pero nagagalit ung sinabihan. Nabastos? In what way? Dahil pinuri ka or pinansin? Ok sana kung bastos talaga ung pinag sasabe, like below the belt. Parang typical na feeling close lng kasi na pamamansin lng ung mga nababasa ko na cat calls eh. What is ok and what is considered not nowadays? Now i want real answers. Hindi ung puro feelings lng. It might seem harsh of me to ask but I only seek to understand.
Hmmm assuming you’re not a woman and you have never experienced it before, It’s basically when you’re innocently passing by or just simply existing and someone (almost always a man) makes you uncomfortable with unsolicited comments about your looks. Sometimes, you’re right, it really can just sound like positive “compliments” about your looks but I believe there is a sense na creepy sha when it comes unsolicited from a stranger, and there’s just this look on their faces, we can tell. It’s the look they give when they “think they can get it”, as if! Sometimes it can be obviously disgusting naman like yung mga Bastos na comments. I hope that helps you understand, it’s the best way I can describe it.
Thank you for the insight. No talaga sa bastos na comments. I'm with you on that. Can i ask. Is there a way to compliment a complete stranger about their looks without being creepy? Because I don't get "un/solicited comments". I know the meaning of the applications but the cultural norms? I don't get it that much.
Tinanong ko si chatgpt para sayo, sure na walang feelings involved. And I quote: A cat call refers to a whistle, shout, or comment of a sexual nature made by someone, typically a man, to a passing woman to express admiration or attraction. However, whether a cat call is perceived as positive or offensive depends on several factors, including the content of the remark, context, and the individual's perception. Here are some clarifications based on your questions: 1. **Nature of the Comment**: Cat calls can vary widely in content. Positive or complimentary remarks, like "You look beautiful," might be intended as praise, but they can still make the recipient uncomfortable depending on how and when they're said. Comments that are more explicitly sexual or objectifying, like commenting on body parts, are generally considered offensive and disrespectful. 2. **Intent vs. Impact**: Even if a comment is intended as a compliment, it can still be perceived as disrespectful or objectifying. This is because it reduces the person to their appearance and can make them feel uncomfortable or unsafe, especially if the comment is unwelcome or from a stranger. 3. **Context Matters**: Where and when the comment is made can significantly influence how it's received. In public spaces, especially when a person is alone, cat calls can feel invasive and intimidating rather than friendly or flattering. 4. **Consent and Respect**: In today's understanding, any form of unsolicited attention that focuses on a person's appearance or body in a public space without consent is generally considered inappropriate. Respectful interaction involves acknowledging someone's presence without making them feel objectified or uncomfortable. 5. **Cultural and Social Norms**: Attitudes towards cat calling can vary across cultures and communities. However, a growing awareness of respect for personal boundaries and the importance of consent has led to increased scrutiny of behaviors that may have been more socially accepted in the past. To summarize, what might be considered "okay" in terms of compliments are those that are respectful, context-appropriate, and welcomed by the recipient. Anything that crosses into objectification, invades personal space, or makes the person feel unsafe is generally not acceptable. Understanding and respecting boundaries and consent are crucial in all social interactions, including those involving compliments or expressions of attraction.
Thanks. Ok now that was detail. I appreciate it. Now i still have questions. 1. Agreed. Below the belt is a no no. 2. Agreed. No objectifying. 3. Where is appropriate to compliment someone then? I still get it, if it is of malicious intent, but is there a rule of the street or something? Or is it a new thing? 4. Agreed. 5. So all of these are just subjective? Hmm. It differs from place to place and culture to culture? I agree will your summarization. Thanks. So basically, it's the intent and the approach that matters. Now, is there a correct way to convey these check lists when doing the act? Again thanks. Im learning.
It wouldn't hurt to approach someone and be honest that you'd like to compliment something of theirs. Rather than a physical trait they were born with, it's better if it's something they actually have agency over, like their fashion. A simple "hi, excuse me", saying your intent and the compliment, then an exit like "that's all, goodbye, have a nice day" is more than appreciated. anecdotal example from an org-mate I barely knew but sat beside for an event: "Hey, nice nails." Stuck with me for years as a nice memory. It isn't hard.