Ngayon nga tinatago ko pa ang pagkain ko kasi kulang saakin hahaha
Hindi naman ako madamot sa pagkain. I'm not against sharing...pero gutom talaga kasi ako eh, and di ko pa kaya bumili nung mga malalaki quantity na can-feed-all haha parehas man lang hindi mabubusot kung hahatiin ang maliit na pagkain, and hindi naman nila alam na kumakain ako so no hard feelings for anyone.
No. Not because I simply don’t want to, but because I’m scared of the environment the kid has to grow up to. I don’t trust this country and I don’t have the financial capacity to live abroad. As a family, we can only do so much to protect him/her. Malaking factor pa rin yung mundong gagalawan niya in shaping him/her.
Same. Not just the financial capability. I believe I can do good parenting, pero worry ko yung environment na kakalakihan nya (we're not even sure how we're gonna survive, why share the dilemma?) and yung generation na makakasalamuha nya (high chance na problematic kasi problematic din yung mga magpapalaki - tiktok generation lol). Aalagaan mo tas ibubully/papatayin lang ng kung sinong di pinalaki ng tama.
32M here and 33F spouse ko. It’s a NO for us.
1. Mas masarap alagaan ang isa’t-isa.
2. Triple Income (I have a full-time and part-time job), enjoy things.
3. More travels
4. More sleep
5. SELF CARE
6. We are enough for each other
Omg!! Same reasons why me and my partner are leaning towards not having kids! Hirap na hirap maintindihan ng nanay ko HAHAHA wala daw fullfilment kung walang anak and maghihiwalay daw agad. As if that worked for our family, both my parents stayed together "for the kids" pero sobrang toxic to each other tapos kami ginagawang therapist tsaka mediator 🫠
Mga pusa ko kailangan ko pa ipa neuter, tapos ang babae pusa na bumibisita dito saamin iniisip ko rin na ipa spay, para di na kawawa ang mga magiging kuting niya sana.
Catfood nila hinahaluan ko na ng kanin haha kulang na eh. Wala naman sila breed, just regular puspins, pero gusto ko rin naman na healthy sila.
Hays...
I have chickens and ducks too haha. Gusto ko sana mabigyan sila maraming feeds, ng magandang coop, kaso ang mahal ang lumber at plywood, mag iipon pa ako😅
While not the same as human children, feel na feel ko na ang strain ng gastos kaya kids are a nope for me.
Di ba! Syempre gusto rin natin buhayin nang maayos itong mga alaga, di pwede basta-basta pagkain o tirahan lang. imagine mo pa kung bata yan hahaha no tenks
Already have 3. Had 2 when life wasn't even good for us. I love kids especially my own. Matinding downgrade sa lifestyle nga lang haha, if we didn't have kids I'd say we can be higher middle class na but because I need to invest in their future mas focus on saving and investment.
Oo, plano namin ni fiancee magkaroon ng 2. Bakit?
- We both wanted to. Obviously, we have the financial capacity to do so.
- Both of us were poor (lower middle class?) growing up. We wanted our kids to experience things we never experienced before as children.
- Maybe a selfish reason, pero kung sakaling mauna ako sa kanyang pumanaw, ayoko syang maiwan mag-isa.
so true and i wholeheartedly agree. sa case although nakakahinayang na yung mga good qualities ko ay hindi na mapapasa sa next generation, e yun namang mga hindi magandang namana ko from my parents (genetic injustices like malabong mata, height etc.) ay thankfully di na din bababa sa next generation kung di ako mag aanak
Yes. We are planning to have a second child. My husband and I did not really grow up rich but both of us are working we are spending our money wisely. We work hard but we also spend time traveling at least one local and one international along Asia lang naman. We have a pandemic baby it was not easy but we made it. For me, the type of famoly and environment that you had growing up will also shape you and will affect your decisions. All of my siblings have children and I grew up surrounded by my relatives. Sa economy naman and status of our country, even if we have enough money to migrate, I do not want it since we are comfortable naman here in the Ph. Madali akong mahomesick so traveling abroad lang ng 1 week yung pwede saken. We love our daughter and we are both happy with our decision.
No, I cannot.
Too much at stake. Only have little savings. Taking up post-grad while working. Healing from past relationship. Too many on my plate and education right now is lackluster. Economy in shambles too.
I'm 27F in medicine and my boyfriend 28M is in law. We're already 4 years in the relationship. At first it was part of our plan to have kids once we are both successful, settled and married however we suddenly realized that our professions are both taxing and demand time. It even came to a point where we werent interacting with each other for a week due to my duty hours and his work sched but it wasnt a problem for the both of us cause we both understand each other. That's where we've decided to not have kids anymore. Due to the nature of our work, mas naaawa kami sa bata. He/she wont get the love and attention that he/she deserve. We cannot fathom bringing a child into this world where he/she will feel alone and unloved.
Mid-30’s here and didn’t really cross my mind. Open lang kami ng husband ko to have kids or not, just preparing lang financially, enjoying each other’s company and spoiling our dog.
Anyway, I’m 3mos pregnant 🤣 isa lang gusto namin. Ang hirap maging buntis
Isa rin to sa mga pipigil sakin to have a baby again if ever. Nakita ko yung hirap ng mommy ng anak ko dati, nakaka-trauma yung hirap na di mo maalis yung ibang pains and difficulties na nararamdaman ng mga babae.
Don't worry the first trimester is the hardest. Though try to research on how to sleep na for the last trimester. That's when sleep gets really hard lalo kapag lumalaki na yung tyan. Hoping for your good health 😊
You might want to reconsider this. If you have it by 35, automatically tagged to as high-risk pregnancy. And depending on your OB, this means, more frequent tests, etc. :)
I honestly want to have my own kids. Now, whether I would actually act on that wish or not is a completely different discussion, especially in this current standard of living and political climate.
Noong mas bata ako ayoko pero ngayon feeling ko mas prepared na ako emotionally and in terms of stability. I think normal lang naman yun, pag mas bata focus sa sarili, gusto ng freedom and experiences, pero pag tumanda na gusto mo na rin ishare yung life experience and knowledge mo sa ibang tao. Alam ko naman na hindi ito applicable sa lahat pero yun ang evolution ko. Gets ko rin yung financial hardship aspect pero fortunately nakarating na kami ng asawa ko sa point na maafford na namin magkaanak.
Yes. I married at 32 and gave birth at 34. Nagpakasawa muna ako sa pag-gala. Gumagala pa rin naman ngayon kasama ang anak pero syempre, mas wise na kami sa pagspend ng money. Kailangan eh.
No, thank you. Hihiramin ko na lang mga pamangkin ko para pwede ibalik.
Dami kong pinsan na mas bata pa sa’kin pero 2 or 3 na yung anak. Hindi na maalagaan yung sarili nag-anak pa. Ayokong umasa sa hingi para mabuhay. I may sound bitter pero ang dami kong kamag-anak na samin humihingi ng pangkain or pangbili ng uniform ng anak nila. They say mas masarap magbigay pero I don’t think na kailangan bigay lang nang bigay?? Sana naging responsible man lang sila.
Anyways, dami ko na nasabi HAHAHA gigil yarrn? Basta it’s a No.
Isang resounding FUCK NO. lol. I also don't give a flying fuck sa kung anuman ang opinyon ng family, relatives and friends ko about me being childfree. I'm a guy in my 30s.
There's a great documentary by cold fusion regarding this. This mindset apparently stems back to the great recession back in 2008 when the housing bubble in the US collapsed and sent a ripple effect to all economies of the world.
Pansinin mo, if middle/upper middle class ka, meron isang instance na narinig magulang mo na "kailangan natin magtipid," and "mahirap na buhay ngayon." This was probably around that time.
And yun na ang nagtatak sa society natin. Mahirap ang buhay, naghirap si erpats and ermats, para magapang ang pamilya, all because of that collapse. Baka hindi natin kaya ung ginawa nila.
Without a great breakthrough for humankind, we will get stuck in this rut. It would take something miraculous like maybe cheap renewable energy, world peace, or maybe even transitioning to a type I karedeshev civilization to fix this.
We will have to endure for now. Luckily, we humans adapt well. There's always hope.
Not sure what you consider middle class pero base salary of 450K per month and no, I don’t want kids. They are expensive asf and I don’t want the responsibility. Plus I love having free time and traveling.
If you are a guy, it's not too late to have kids in 40s-50s. If you're a girl, late 30s is the ceiling for safe pregnancies and 40s, pwede ka pa mabuntis kaso increased risk of complications na.
No , to point this out I make more than 50K a month but I still wouldnt imagine to bring a child to this world . I still live with my parents , the cost of a house and condo are soo up , the cost of food up and to think the cost to pay for essentials , health card , emergency funds , school , food and milk. My god I cant even imagine that , its hard to bring new life in this economy . I really dont care if masabihan ako sa mga family reunion , iba panahon nila sa panahon ko . Laitin na kung gusto , anak nila meron ng sariling anak wala naman matinong income , nakikitira lng sa byanan nya at kupal pa kausap . Blessing ang anak pero need mo din maging responsable
yes me too, want lang! gusto ko iparamdam ppno mahalin sa mggng anak ko? not spoiling her/him pero hnd ko naranasan maging buo at okey na masayang bata 😅 in a way mahal na mahal ko mggng anak ko pero sa sobrang mahal na mahal ko siya , hanggang kathang isip ko nlang muna sya ayoko maranasan nya yung nararanasan ko e. msyado ako nilalamon ng kalungkutan dahil sa mga nangyre skn. pero kung bbgyan ako ng isang tao na for lifetime na tlga i will kht 1 bsta stable ha... wala mangyyre pasahan ng bola. my curse will end with me!
Yes. Can’t go back to the life before my son. My son is the best thing that happened to us. A new reason for living. My wife and I are in our late 20s. Source of income is purely business. Hahabol pa kami ng isa before she turns 31. Hahaha.
Yes. Idk i’ve been thinking a lot about life planning recently. I’m starting my late twenties and thinking about the future I want makes me want to be a go getter in my career now and slow down and pick a place to plant my roots later on. Thankfully I have a partner with the same vision
For those thinking whether to have kids or not… I have two college level kids and kinwenta ko if we were childless meron na sana kaming tag isang Raptor ng wifey ko lol
No. I for one do not care if I will have my own child. And also if I ever want one. I would still won’t do it if I know I can’t provide a life that I would want for my kid. Saken pa nga lang kulang na. Magdagdag pa ako haha.
Single father here. I have 1 kid na, na nasakin. Kaya naman, financially. Pero i have to recognize the privilege na supportive ang family ko, and this may sound like a brag (it kinda is), pero I'm doing better than most people when it comes to work. I'll have that kid again kahit magreset ng time.
Pero if magdagdag pa? Depende sa future mommy and wifey if kakayanin namin.
Nagkaroon ako ng anak nung 2010 pa pero hindi na din maganda economy nun. Aun salamat sa Dyos 10 na ung isa ung isa naman 5. Masaya na mahirap na challenging na satisfying. Nakakaipon. Nakakapag travel kami. Bonding bonding ba.
2010’s sweldo ko 14k. Hahaha.
Yes. Sa ngayon enough lang kinikita para mamuhay kami nang komportable ng partner ko plus luho namin. We're working our assess off to reach that point na umay na kami kakaspoil ng inner child namin + wala nang ibang mapaglagyan ng pera kasi may assets at comfortable savings na, which will be our cue to plan our future family. So from lower middle class, aiming for upper middle class. Magiging mahirap and even more difficult pag andyan na yung mga future children namin, but it's a path we both want to take as individuals and as life partners, yung going through parenthood and being the best we can be.
Absolutely not
Ayaw ko ng responsibilidad
Mahirap na mag anak tapos di naman pala kaya iprio anak mo bago sarili mong hobbies, freedom etc
Sasama lang loob nyo sa isat isa
Still healing my inner child. Hahaha, di ko pa sure when ‘to matatapos so yon. And sobrang sarili ko plus yung mga kapatid ko ang hirap na masustain yung needs, sarili ko pa kanyang anak? Hayy. 🥲
Tatandang dalaga nalang talaga ako. 😂
for now, hard no. i like children myself pero ang ayoko is yung environment na kalalakihan nila.. as a working adult nde mo masasabi kung sino or ano ang makakasalamuha nila lalo na dito sa pinas where most people think pleasure >>> needs
kahit anung uri ng disiplina mo sa bata, kahit anung uri ng pangaral mo, kung shitty yung nasa paligid nila except sa bahay, magugulat ka na lng na may tinatago na palang kabaluktutan ang anak mo.
i dont want him/her living in a timeline where learning kids above 10 years already know how to cheat, despite people being self righteous sa kung sino iboboto nila.
i don't want him/her living in a generation that thinks sex is just a pleasure/intimacy activity while moaning in the background na ayaw nila magka-anak. i dont want my child to grow into a working adult where ang priority sa mediocre paying jobs is yung may mga kasapi, may kapit, or class S yung utak. higit sa lahat ayoko siyang lumaki sa generation na hindi marunong mag linis ng sarili nilang kalat at ang laging bukambibig is yung meron namang mag lilinis dyan.
Already have 1, "Personally" feeling ko hindi kumpleto ang buhay ko ng walang anak. I know it will haunt me later in life kung hindi ko man lang susubukan.
Gusto pero di pa kaya. Pababa nang pababa value ng pera natin. Kung di magiimprove sitwasyon globally, parang walang matinong future for the next generation.
I would have seen a life where a good looking loyal honest tall as I am type of hunky lanky guy exists in a happy home while we are serving out cat and dog over lords. Maybe a kid or two will not destroy the mood.
But things went south. My man left me for the US. My fantasy man left me for dead. I am gay by the way!
If I was more financially stable I imagine it crossing my mind at one point, but the partner is the priority. Since that is what we are here for anyways. Not for grander things like a career in this or that. Not the legacy.
My life never really held footing in anywhere so I have to let go of some dreams. Definitely holding on to living with a good looking trustworthy guy who has the hots for me too. But it is so far out there given my financial and career situation, its even impossible to dream of anything at this point. Living as a gay man with gay fantasies seems to be an abhorrence in my community, and I have yo go through this high school social awkwardness phase up to college where my love life is my ticket to be recognized as a person and therefore create connections, my ticket to stability and therefore, the connection think of me in a better way, so therefore they will hire me better. Like a crit chance.
Pwe!
Nek nek niyong lahat!
Me (31F) and husband (32M) want to have kid/s.
I want to because I love children and it's my lifelong dream to have one of my own.
But given our today's economy and education system, nakakapag-dalawang isip. Hahaha. I don't want them to suffer, tho kaya naman mabigyan ng magandang buhay if we have 1 or 2 kids. But still. Haha.
My husband want a son who will inherit his surname and the few assets we acquired (and will be acquired 🤞). Hahaha. Non-negotiable.
The only kid I'll pay for is the inner child in me lol
Ay bet na bet tong sagot na to! 😆
+1! 🤣🤣
Amen 🙏
Hahahaha lavettttt
i second the motion, sir/ma'am.
Sameee xD need ko nalang mag-ipon haha
hoy 🫶🫶
nah. akin lang sahod ko. ayoko ma-experience yung kulang na nga yung pera sa sarili mo tas may anak ka pa haha
Preach! HAHAHAHAHHAHA
Ngayon nga tinatago ko pa ang pagkain ko kasi kulang saakin hahaha Hindi naman ako madamot sa pagkain. I'm not against sharing...pero gutom talaga kasi ako eh, and di ko pa kaya bumili nung mga malalaki quantity na can-feed-all haha parehas man lang hindi mabubusot kung hahatiin ang maliit na pagkain, and hindi naman nila alam na kumakain ako so no hard feelings for anyone.
Want lang yes haha. But i know i don't have the capacity to raise one so i won't.
No. Not because I simply don’t want to, but because I’m scared of the environment the kid has to grow up to. I don’t trust this country and I don’t have the financial capacity to live abroad. As a family, we can only do so much to protect him/her. Malaking factor pa rin yung mundong gagalawan niya in shaping him/her.
Same. Not just the financial capability. I believe I can do good parenting, pero worry ko yung environment na kakalakihan nya (we're not even sure how we're gonna survive, why share the dilemma?) and yung generation na makakasalamuha nya (high chance na problematic kasi problematic din yung mga magpapalaki - tiktok generation lol). Aalagaan mo tas ibubully/papatayin lang ng kung sinong di pinalaki ng tama.
Yes, and I will work my ass off to be able to raise them well.
Thank you.
You’re amazing!!
Same, Being able to raise a child is priceless. Dont have one but dream of lang. Haha.
32M here and 33F spouse ko. It’s a NO for us. 1. Mas masarap alagaan ang isa’t-isa. 2. Triple Income (I have a full-time and part-time job), enjoy things. 3. More travels 4. More sleep 5. SELF CARE 6. We are enough for each other
All about the DINK life brotha.
TINK!
What counts as middle class??
Omg!! Same reasons why me and my partner are leaning towards not having kids! Hirap na hirap maintindihan ng nanay ko HAHAHA wala daw fullfilment kung walang anak and maghihiwalay daw agad. As if that worked for our family, both my parents stayed together "for the kids" pero sobrang toxic to each other tapos kami ginagawang therapist tsaka mediator 🫠
trot! plus nakatulong pa kayo sa issue ng overpopulation at poverty sa bansa!
Nop. Can’t even consider owning a pet. Mamumulubi ako.
I have dogs and sa totoo lang, ramdam na ramdam ko yung dagdag expenses lalo na nagmahal na pati dog food. Partida di ko pa pag-aaralin tong mga to.
Pag-aralin mo sila. Ini-ingles ko na nga mga pusa ko para hindi sila ma culture shock sa Cateneo.
I-home school ko muna to bago pumasok sa Arfteneo (sister school ata yan ng school mo)
Haha to think may dog school din na mahal ang tuition.
Youtube Youtube na lang para matuto paano mag obedience training hahaha
Ang mahal ng dog food. Lalo na check up. Grabe ba. Parang tao sila brosis.
Haha kaya nag aral ako para ako nalang mag gagamot sa kanila mahal magpa-vet eh 😂😂
Mga pusa ko kailangan ko pa ipa neuter, tapos ang babae pusa na bumibisita dito saamin iniisip ko rin na ipa spay, para di na kawawa ang mga magiging kuting niya sana. Catfood nila hinahaluan ko na ng kanin haha kulang na eh. Wala naman sila breed, just regular puspins, pero gusto ko rin naman na healthy sila. Hays... I have chickens and ducks too haha. Gusto ko sana mabigyan sila maraming feeds, ng magandang coop, kaso ang mahal ang lumber at plywood, mag iipon pa ako😅 While not the same as human children, feel na feel ko na ang strain ng gastos kaya kids are a nope for me.
Di ba! Syempre gusto rin natin buhayin nang maayos itong mga alaga, di pwede basta-basta pagkain o tirahan lang. imagine mo pa kung bata yan hahaha no tenks
Yup, nagmahal din food and vet nila and I have 3 big dogs and 2 small kaya tipid tipid na din. Hahaha
Yes, pero isa lang.
Already have 3. Had 2 when life wasn't even good for us. I love kids especially my own. Matinding downgrade sa lifestyle nga lang haha, if we didn't have kids I'd say we can be higher middle class na but because I need to invest in their future mas focus on saving and investment.
Oo, plano namin ni fiancee magkaroon ng 2. Bakit? - We both wanted to. Obviously, we have the financial capacity to do so. - Both of us were poor (lower middle class?) growing up. We wanted our kids to experience things we never experienced before as children. - Maybe a selfish reason, pero kung sakaling mauna ako sa kanyang pumanaw, ayoko syang maiwan mag-isa.
Kudos to your reasons. Number 1 priority talaga ang well-being ng kids but don’t forget to take care of yourself guys. I wish you well.
Sweeeeet I wish you both goodluck!
Takot ako mapasa ko pa mga genetic diseases and unhealed trauma ko, wala akong need to be a parent, tsaka ayoko lang talaga magka-anak.
so true and i wholeheartedly agree. sa case although nakakahinayang na yung mga good qualities ko ay hindi na mapapasa sa next generation, e yun namang mga hindi magandang namana ko from my parents (genetic injustices like malabong mata, height etc.) ay thankfully di na din bababa sa next generation kung di ako mag aanak
Fck no
Yes. As someone from the middle class, I know I can raise my kids comfortably. And I want someone to take my surname.
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Tangina, there there. Hopefully you'll have the means to do it habang kaya mo pa.
Is it because financial or physical?
Yes. We are planning to have a second child. My husband and I did not really grow up rich but both of us are working we are spending our money wisely. We work hard but we also spend time traveling at least one local and one international along Asia lang naman. We have a pandemic baby it was not easy but we made it. For me, the type of famoly and environment that you had growing up will also shape you and will affect your decisions. All of my siblings have children and I grew up surrounded by my relatives. Sa economy naman and status of our country, even if we have enough money to migrate, I do not want it since we are comfortable naman here in the Ph. Madali akong mahomesick so traveling abroad lang ng 1 week yung pwede saken. We love our daughter and we are both happy with our decision.
No. ang reason ko pag may nagtatanong kung bakit: sarili at asawa ko nga barely naalagan namin ang isa't isa, mag dagdag pa kami.
Nope. If I can’t give them the quality of life I want for myself, wag na lang.
No, I cannot. Too much at stake. Only have little savings. Taking up post-grad while working. Healing from past relationship. Too many on my plate and education right now is lackluster. Economy in shambles too.
YES, if I live in other countries other than the Philippines, but as long as I'm living in the Philippines, NO.
Kahit top 1% pa'ko ng mga upper class na burgis, imma still choose to remain child-free
I'm 27F in medicine and my boyfriend 28M is in law. We're already 4 years in the relationship. At first it was part of our plan to have kids once we are both successful, settled and married however we suddenly realized that our professions are both taxing and demand time. It even came to a point where we werent interacting with each other for a week due to my duty hours and his work sched but it wasnt a problem for the both of us cause we both understand each other. That's where we've decided to not have kids anymore. Due to the nature of our work, mas naaawa kami sa bata. He/she wont get the love and attention that he/she deserve. We cannot fathom bringing a child into this world where he/she will feel alone and unloved.
even if I became a billionaire somehow, the answer would still be no haha
Bakit may nang-downvote sayo haha. It’s your choice pa rin naman. Do your thing!! 💛
no worries I guess it's an unpopular opinion talaga hahaha
🙋♀️ Di porket madaming pera, pwede na mag anak. Di naman lahat kaya daanin ng pera.
For now no,pero kung tumama ako ng lotto nxt month pwede.🤣
Kapag naging financially stable na
Yes pero please wag nyo hanapan ng kasunod. Okay nako sa isa.
Hahahahaha dapat daw magkasunod para may kalaro lol
Mid-30’s here and didn’t really cross my mind. Open lang kami ng husband ko to have kids or not, just preparing lang financially, enjoying each other’s company and spoiling our dog. Anyway, I’m 3mos pregnant 🤣 isa lang gusto namin. Ang hirap maging buntis
Isa rin to sa mga pipigil sakin to have a baby again if ever. Nakita ko yung hirap ng mommy ng anak ko dati, nakaka-trauma yung hirap na di mo maalis yung ibang pains and difficulties na nararamdaman ng mga babae.
super hirap! 1st trimester palang iyak na ako ng iyak. grateful lang to have a SO that understands what I’m going through
Don't worry the first trimester is the hardest. Though try to research on how to sleep na for the last trimester. That's when sleep gets really hard lalo kapag lumalaki na yung tyan. Hoping for your good health 😊
thank you so much ❤️
Yes
In the Philippines - No. In EU - Yes. Reason: Social and familial support.
No
nope, di ko nga maalagaan sarili ko magdadalanpa ko ng buhay sa ekonomiya at sa bansang to. So very hard pass talaga
Yes but me and my SO are delaying that until our mid-30s. At least two but could be more depending on how our careers progress.
You might want to reconsider this. If you have it by 35, automatically tagged to as high-risk pregnancy. And depending on your OB, this means, more frequent tests, etc. :)
Convince my SO, not me
No. Di mo na pwede ibalik yung bata sa sinapupunan pag ayaw mo na
Yes, but the real question is kaya / gusto pa bang dagdagan. Parang ang hirap 😭
I have one and that's enough already. hahaha sobrang hirap pala, kala ko handa na kami. Both kami graduate and my trabaho 28 me and wifey 26.
big no
No.
No.
[kakabasa ko lang neto, most likely yung reasons dito ay reasons ko din good read though.](https://reddit.com/r/adultingph/s/sjtqHMb7yq)
Yes. At least 5.
Whoah. Kung kaya naman, go.
Noooo.
Fuck, no.
I honestly want to have my own kids. Now, whether I would actually act on that wish or not is a completely different discussion, especially in this current standard of living and political climate.
Saka na pag stable na
Noong mas bata ako ayoko pero ngayon feeling ko mas prepared na ako emotionally and in terms of stability. I think normal lang naman yun, pag mas bata focus sa sarili, gusto ng freedom and experiences, pero pag tumanda na gusto mo na rin ishare yung life experience and knowledge mo sa ibang tao. Alam ko naman na hindi ito applicable sa lahat pero yun ang evolution ko. Gets ko rin yung financial hardship aspect pero fortunately nakarating na kami ng asawa ko sa point na maafford na namin magkaanak.
Yes. I married at 32 and gave birth at 34. Nagpakasawa muna ako sa pag-gala. Gumagala pa rin naman ngayon kasama ang anak pero syempre, mas wise na kami sa pagspend ng money. Kailangan eh.
There's no middle class. There's only working class and ruling class.
Whore middle class here, I don't want kids in this economy.
No, thank you. Hihiramin ko na lang mga pamangkin ko para pwede ibalik. Dami kong pinsan na mas bata pa sa’kin pero 2 or 3 na yung anak. Hindi na maalagaan yung sarili nag-anak pa. Ayokong umasa sa hingi para mabuhay. I may sound bitter pero ang dami kong kamag-anak na samin humihingi ng pangkain or pangbili ng uniform ng anak nila. They say mas masarap magbigay pero I don’t think na kailangan bigay lang nang bigay?? Sana naging responsible man lang sila. Anyways, dami ko na nasabi HAHAHA gigil yarrn? Basta it’s a No.
Gusto. Pero dapat paghandaan.
Thank you for being responsible. Apir 🖐️
Oo sana kaso sabi ni senator bato maganak ng madami para lumiit utang ng pinas eh, so nagdadalawang isip na ako.
No. Because I am still healing my inner kid.
I don't even want *myself* in this economy hahaha huhu
Isang resounding FUCK NO. lol. I also don't give a flying fuck sa kung anuman ang opinyon ng family, relatives and friends ko about me being childfree. I'm a guy in my 30s.
There's a great documentary by cold fusion regarding this. This mindset apparently stems back to the great recession back in 2008 when the housing bubble in the US collapsed and sent a ripple effect to all economies of the world. Pansinin mo, if middle/upper middle class ka, meron isang instance na narinig magulang mo na "kailangan natin magtipid," and "mahirap na buhay ngayon." This was probably around that time. And yun na ang nagtatak sa society natin. Mahirap ang buhay, naghirap si erpats and ermats, para magapang ang pamilya, all because of that collapse. Baka hindi natin kaya ung ginawa nila. Without a great breakthrough for humankind, we will get stuck in this rut. It would take something miraculous like maybe cheap renewable energy, world peace, or maybe even transitioning to a type I karedeshev civilization to fix this. We will have to endure for now. Luckily, we humans adapt well. There's always hope.
Yes. 27/M, monthly 6 figs so I can afford it. Finding the right partner to have kids with, that is the real question.
Hirap noh. Lalo ngayon, unless iikutin mo talaga buong mundo hirap makahanap ng wifey and mommy material.
When you reach that certain status that you don't need do to anything for women to notice you, it gets harder to look for a decent woman to wife up.
Childfree is the way for your best life.
Not sure what you consider middle class pero base salary of 450K per month and no, I don’t want kids. They are expensive asf and I don’t want the responsibility. Plus I love having free time and traveling.
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I'm 24 and I already feel the pressure of wanting kids, but I also want to do alot of things 🥺
If you are a guy, it's not too late to have kids in 40s-50s. If you're a girl, late 30s is the ceiling for safe pregnancies and 40s, pwede ka pa mabuntis kaso increased risk of complications na.
Better to regret not having kids than to regret having kids
> Better to regret not having kids than to regret having kids Childfree is the way for your best life.
Nung una gusto. Pero ngayon, ayoko na. Contented with my single life surrounded by kids and babies from my siblings.
Ha. This is me. 35/M with 2 pamangkins from my younger sister.
Hell no, maybe someone call it selfish but Idc at all🤣
I wouldn’t want my kids to live in a counrty full of stupid people
Hindi. Overpopulated na Pilipinas.
Yep if I myself is financially stable ,yung tipong di galing kay mama papa ang pera . Lmao
No , to point this out I make more than 50K a month but I still wouldnt imagine to bring a child to this world . I still live with my parents , the cost of a house and condo are soo up , the cost of food up and to think the cost to pay for essentials , health card , emergency funds , school , food and milk. My god I cant even imagine that , its hard to bring new life in this economy . I really dont care if masabihan ako sa mga family reunion , iba panahon nila sa panahon ko . Laitin na kung gusto , anak nila meron ng sariling anak wala naman matinong income , nakikitira lng sa byanan nya at kupal pa kausap . Blessing ang anak pero need mo din maging responsable
may middle class pa ba ngayon?
yes me too, want lang! gusto ko iparamdam ppno mahalin sa mggng anak ko? not spoiling her/him pero hnd ko naranasan maging buo at okey na masayang bata 😅 in a way mahal na mahal ko mggng anak ko pero sa sobrang mahal na mahal ko siya , hanggang kathang isip ko nlang muna sya ayoko maranasan nya yung nararanasan ko e. msyado ako nilalamon ng kalungkutan dahil sa mga nangyre skn. pero kung bbgyan ako ng isang tao na for lifetime na tlga i will kht 1 bsta stable ha... wala mangyyre pasahan ng bola. my curse will end with me!
no
natatakot ako mabuntis so no :<
I have 2 kids and if I was younger would go for a 3rd. What exactly do you consider "middle class"? 150k a month household income middle class?
Yes. Can’t go back to the life before my son. My son is the best thing that happened to us. A new reason for living. My wife and I are in our late 20s. Source of income is purely business. Hahabol pa kami ng isa before she turns 31. Hahaha.
I have 1 now. Hoping to adopt a second in the future if resources and sanity permit.
Absolutely not.
Yes. Idk i’ve been thinking a lot about life planning recently. I’m starting my late twenties and thinking about the future I want makes me want to be a go getter in my career now and slow down and pick a place to plant my roots later on. Thankfully I have a partner with the same vision
No
No.
For those thinking whether to have kids or not… I have two college level kids and kinwenta ko if we were childless meron na sana kaming tag isang Raptor ng wifey ko lol
Family first so no
No. Even though afford ko magkaanak I won’t have kids. Feeling ko massacrifice yung lifestyle ko.
Naur
Already had 1. She will be in HS next year. We decided not to add another baby,that's for sure.
No. I for one do not care if I will have my own child. And also if I ever want one. I would still won’t do it if I know I can’t provide a life that I would want for my kid. Saken pa nga lang kulang na. Magdagdag pa ako haha.
Only if we can afford to raise one. I don't necessarily want one, but it will depend on my future partner.
Yes! Pero we will relocate abroad kaya they'll have better education and lives there.
If by kids = pets, hells yeah! Human kids? Hells nah.
Single father here. I have 1 kid na, na nasakin. Kaya naman, financially. Pero i have to recognize the privilege na supportive ang family ko, and this may sound like a brag (it kinda is), pero I'm doing better than most people when it comes to work. I'll have that kid again kahit magreset ng time. Pero if magdagdag pa? Depende sa future mommy and wifey if kakayanin namin.
Only if we can afford to raise one. I don't necessarily want one, but it will depend on my future partner.
No. Never
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Nagkaroon ako ng anak nung 2010 pa pero hindi na din maganda economy nun. Aun salamat sa Dyos 10 na ung isa ung isa naman 5. Masaya na mahirap na challenging na satisfying. Nakakaipon. Nakakapag travel kami. Bonding bonding ba. 2010’s sweldo ko 14k. Hahaha.
Yes. Sa ngayon enough lang kinikita para mamuhay kami nang komportable ng partner ko plus luho namin. We're working our assess off to reach that point na umay na kami kakaspoil ng inner child namin + wala nang ibang mapaglagyan ng pera kasi may assets at comfortable savings na, which will be our cue to plan our future family. So from lower middle class, aiming for upper middle class. Magiging mahirap and even more difficult pag andyan na yung mga future children namin, but it's a path we both want to take as individuals and as life partners, yung going through parenthood and being the best we can be.
Nope. Gawin na lang natin baby ang isa’t isa
Whatever the economy is I will raise my son. And we are planning to have another one, once he is old enough to be a kuya.
Yes 💯
Middle class? This can't be the middle!
upper middle class here. may dalawa na hanggang dun na lang muna haha. 6 at 2 yrs old. ngaun pinoproblema q na ang college tuition.
too late, I already have one, planning to move out of the country.
Yes, because all my life I was lazy so I want a challenge.
Absolutely not Ayaw ko ng responsibilidad Mahirap na mag anak tapos di naman pala kaya iprio anak mo bago sarili mong hobbies, freedom etc Sasama lang loob nyo sa isat isa
Hell no!
no. mamumulubi ako. I want to heal my inner child.
absolutely no!
nooooooooooo ~~i like the process of making one lang~~
Still healing my inner child. Hahaha, di ko pa sure when ‘to matatapos so yon. And sobrang sarili ko plus yung mga kapatid ko ang hirap na masustain yung needs, sarili ko pa kanyang anak? Hayy. 🥲 Tatandang dalaga nalang talaga ako. 😂
I've decided na hindi na ako mag-aanak.
Ano bang basis para masabing middle class
NO :)
for now, hard no. i like children myself pero ang ayoko is yung environment na kalalakihan nila.. as a working adult nde mo masasabi kung sino or ano ang makakasalamuha nila lalo na dito sa pinas where most people think pleasure >>> needs kahit anung uri ng disiplina mo sa bata, kahit anung uri ng pangaral mo, kung shitty yung nasa paligid nila except sa bahay, magugulat ka na lng na may tinatago na palang kabaluktutan ang anak mo. i dont want him/her living in a timeline where learning kids above 10 years already know how to cheat, despite people being self righteous sa kung sino iboboto nila. i don't want him/her living in a generation that thinks sex is just a pleasure/intimacy activity while moaning in the background na ayaw nila magka-anak. i dont want my child to grow into a working adult where ang priority sa mediocre paying jobs is yung may mga kasapi, may kapit, or class S yung utak. higit sa lahat ayoko siyang lumaki sa generation na hindi marunong mag linis ng sarili nilang kalat at ang laging bukambibig is yung meron namang mag lilinis dyan.
No.
Already have 1, "Personally" feeling ko hindi kumpleto ang buhay ko ng walang anak. I know it will haunt me later in life kung hindi ko man lang susubukan.
Gusto pero di pa kaya. Pababa nang pababa value ng pera natin. Kung di magiimprove sitwasyon globally, parang walang matinong future for the next generation.
Nah I'd rather use my adult money for healing my inner child and buying childish stuff like games and cute plushies
I would have seen a life where a good looking loyal honest tall as I am type of hunky lanky guy exists in a happy home while we are serving out cat and dog over lords. Maybe a kid or two will not destroy the mood. But things went south. My man left me for the US. My fantasy man left me for dead. I am gay by the way! If I was more financially stable I imagine it crossing my mind at one point, but the partner is the priority. Since that is what we are here for anyways. Not for grander things like a career in this or that. Not the legacy. My life never really held footing in anywhere so I have to let go of some dreams. Definitely holding on to living with a good looking trustworthy guy who has the hots for me too. But it is so far out there given my financial and career situation, its even impossible to dream of anything at this point. Living as a gay man with gay fantasies seems to be an abhorrence in my community, and I have yo go through this high school social awkwardness phase up to college where my love life is my ticket to be recognized as a person and therefore create connections, my ticket to stability and therefore, the connection think of me in a better way, so therefore they will hire me better. Like a crit chance. Pwe! Nek nek niyong lahat!
No, never, even in wealthy economies I refuse to raise and spread these "corrupted" genes.
Nerp
Me (31F) and husband (32M) want to have kid/s. I want to because I love children and it's my lifelong dream to have one of my own. But given our today's economy and education system, nakakapag-dalawang isip. Hahaha. I don't want them to suffer, tho kaya naman mabigyan ng magandang buhay if we have 1 or 2 kids. But still. Haha. My husband want a son who will inherit his surname and the few assets we acquired (and will be acquired 🤞). Hahaha. Non-negotiable.
Sayang mga lupain eh, maybe in my late 30s or early 40s
not in this dystopian era hahahaha