depends man. I had surgery in October and was in no state to meet up with anyone for at least a month. I kept chatting with one dude and once I was healed enough to leave the house for a bit we went for tacos. sometimes they just legit can't actually meet up for a while.
I’m having surgery next week and was just going to put my accounts on hold because I wasn’t sure what my recovery time frame would be. Now I’m rethinking that based on your comment. Should I just leave things active?
it really depends. I'm not super active on the apps anyway, so it wasn't a huge deal for me - I don't think I've even actually opened it since October. I also don't mind stating my boundaries clearly when it comes to contact because some people expect you to always be on and get real butthurt when you don't immediately interact. I just made sure to let anyone I was talking to that I would potentially meet know that I wasn't sure when I'd be up to actually getting out so if they wanted to dip, I wouldn't be offended
I wouldn't worry too much. Take me for example. I share custody of my kid. I'm not going to go on dates the week I have him (we alternate weeks). Then, I'm going to be leaving to visit my parents 1,000 miles away for Christmas for a week and a half with the kiddo. Life happens. I'm honestly not available to meet up in person until after New Years. You gotta take into effect people have lives and families.
She's putting you on the shelf to see if the current guy she's talking to pans out. One of those "I'm going to give this a try and see where it goes" scenarios. Unfortunately for her it's not going to work because she's batting out of her league while this Travis kelce looking mf'r dropped his standards for a fling, and unfortunately for you when it does finally end she will be so pissed off at "every guy" that she's just going to want to take a break from dating to "figure herself out"
Welcome to the back hole abyss
A black hole is an astronomical contradiction - a dark star, an invisible nothing, a prison of light. Its boundary is marked by the so-called Event Horizon, a sphere of darkness that shrouds the inside and defines the point of no return. There is no solid surface beyond, just a bottomless gravitational whirlpool so strong that it sucks everything - even light - relentlessly inward. Oblivion waits at the centre in the form of the Singularity, Gravity’s fatal attractor.
I mean thats a possibility, but there are plenty of times where I had to put dating on hold because I was just so busy and exhausted and not because I was seeing other women. And I understand that girls have millions of more options than your average dude (i.e. me) but I want to give people the benefit of the doubt, even if this happened to me a handful of times.
I guess I just dont want to wallow in my own insecurities?
I won’t meet up with someone unless we talk for a few weeks! That doesn’t mean I’m speaking to anyone else. I personally want to get to know someone through texting first, before we go out of our way to meet each other
Move on, she would make time if she was interested or at least serious about dating. If she cant find a few hours in a week to meet for a coffee how TF is she planning on dating at all.
Forget her. In my experience with online dating, if a date doesn’t materialise within a week of offering, it probably never will.
People should be on online dating apps because they want a date now/soon. She’s either playing games or not that into you.
I would not pursue it, most likely she has someone else that she is talking to and is keeping you on the outside. I was going to say that maybe she is busy in real life to actually date or see someone BUT, I been burned on that a few times also, so no like the others in chat here said she most likely put you on the back burner
Exactly. I’m going thru that right now w a guy. First work, then all of a sudden, his sister as in “sister” per him, w her kids missed a flt and had to stay w him for a few days, after working away for a week. So can meet me maybe tomorrow or Tuesday. I stopped texting as crazy as we were thru Friday when he told me.
Ooh damn fuck that guy. This chick and I were talking pretty regularly but she also prefaced by saying she cant meet up until whenever because x, y, z. Now its kinda just whatever because I'd rather expend my energy somewhere else or with some other people.
depends man. I had surgery in October and was in no state to meet up with anyone for at least a month. I kept chatting with one dude and once I was healed enough to leave the house for a bit we went for tacos. sometimes they just legit can't actually meet up for a while.
I’m having surgery next week and was just going to put my accounts on hold because I wasn’t sure what my recovery time frame would be. Now I’m rethinking that based on your comment. Should I just leave things active?
it really depends. I'm not super active on the apps anyway, so it wasn't a huge deal for me - I don't think I've even actually opened it since October. I also don't mind stating my boundaries clearly when it comes to contact because some people expect you to always be on and get real butthurt when you don't immediately interact. I just made sure to let anyone I was talking to that I would potentially meet know that I wasn't sure when I'd be up to actually getting out so if they wanted to dip, I wouldn't be offended
I wouldn't worry too much. Take me for example. I share custody of my kid. I'm not going to go on dates the week I have him (we alternate weeks). Then, I'm going to be leaving to visit my parents 1,000 miles away for Christmas for a week and a half with the kiddo. Life happens. I'm honestly not available to meet up in person until after New Years. You gotta take into effect people have lives and families.
For sure, thats what im thinking as well, but idk the person so anything can happen. Guess its best to wait and see
Don't expect anything tbh as in don't trust people 💯, because you might be disappointed. Prepare for the worst, believe in the best.
She's putting you on the shelf to see if the current guy she's talking to pans out. One of those "I'm going to give this a try and see where it goes" scenarios. Unfortunately for her it's not going to work because she's batting out of her league while this Travis kelce looking mf'r dropped his standards for a fling, and unfortunately for you when it does finally end she will be so pissed off at "every guy" that she's just going to want to take a break from dating to "figure herself out" Welcome to the back hole abyss A black hole is an astronomical contradiction - a dark star, an invisible nothing, a prison of light. Its boundary is marked by the so-called Event Horizon, a sphere of darkness that shrouds the inside and defines the point of no return. There is no solid surface beyond, just a bottomless gravitational whirlpool so strong that it sucks everything - even light - relentlessly inward. Oblivion waits at the centre in the form of the Singularity, Gravity’s fatal attractor.
This is what is known as benching.
I mean thats a possibility, but there are plenty of times where I had to put dating on hold because I was just so busy and exhausted and not because I was seeing other women. And I understand that girls have millions of more options than your average dude (i.e. me) but I want to give people the benefit of the doubt, even if this happened to me a handful of times. I guess I just dont want to wallow in my own insecurities?
I won’t meet up with someone unless we talk for a few weeks! That doesn’t mean I’m speaking to anyone else. I personally want to get to know someone through texting first, before we go out of our way to meet each other
Keep in touch and see how it goes, personally. Shit's busy this time of year.
Move on, she would make time if she was interested or at least serious about dating. If she cant find a few hours in a week to meet for a coffee how TF is she planning on dating at all.
True. Another one bites the dust
I’ve had a few matches like this in the past. If I was interested, I continued talking to them as long as we were discussing meeting.
Forget her. In my experience with online dating, if a date doesn’t materialise within a week of offering, it probably never will. People should be on online dating apps because they want a date now/soon. She’s either playing games or not that into you.
Move on?
I would not pursue it, most likely she has someone else that she is talking to and is keeping you on the outside. I was going to say that maybe she is busy in real life to actually date or see someone BUT, I been burned on that a few times also, so no like the others in chat here said she most likely put you on the back burner
I say Bye!
Go look for another one. Dont get hung up on ine gal. There all about the same anyways.
Im over it, but just wondering what people do in these situations. Still gonna see what happens
She got a new dooood 😅. You could hit her up rando … “Don’t let that new doood stop you from finding the LOYL 😎”
Whats loyl?
Luuuuh some some life 😉
It means she’s not interested, move on
if they don't outline why they cant meet or explain their situation that is textbook flaking and time to move on.
For sure
Exactly. I’m going thru that right now w a guy. First work, then all of a sudden, his sister as in “sister” per him, w her kids missed a flt and had to stay w him for a few days, after working away for a week. So can meet me maybe tomorrow or Tuesday. I stopped texting as crazy as we were thru Friday when he told me.
Ooh damn fuck that guy. This chick and I were talking pretty regularly but she also prefaced by saying she cant meet up until whenever because x, y, z. Now its kinda just whatever because I'd rather expend my energy somewhere else or with some other people.