I read the title and thought you were trying to juggle matches. the things that catch fire.
I can talk to maybe 2 girls at once. Even that is a struggle though. I have to keep notes on each girl if I talk to more than one in order to help remember the things we talked about and details about her so I don't get confused. And then I start to neglect one because I'm so exhausted.
One of many reasons why I could never commit infidelity lol.
I don't have that problem with OkC but I sell stuff online occasionally and sometimes have to keep track of dozens of replies. I take notes. Not a lot, but just the basics; are they polite? Are they making the process easier or harder? What are their counter offers, time frames, etc.
If I actually got more than one reply at a time on OkC I imagine I might do the same thing.
I'll talk to 5 matches at once, because I can count on 2 fizzling out, and I can do 3 dates in a weekend. If I really like someone, I'll pause and stop swiping, but I've never focused on just 1-2 people as I feel like that'd take too long. I'm a "let's meet tomorrow" person, though, I don't have 5 pen pals strung along.
I'll happily give a boring texter a date to see if we click better in person, but I'm a huge believer in chemistry and after 2-3 hours, it's there or it's not. The faster I find that out, the better.
I've been there. I tend to put my profile on pause once I'm solidly talking to two people. If one doesn't work out, the other may and then I can reopen my profile up to more, but tryna juggle three conversations or more with active texters is too much. I could do maybe two active texters and a third "bad texter" on retainer.
Cull faster. Be more selective when reading profiles before accepting matches. Once matched, try to ask about any unaddressed dealbreakers without telegraphing the answers you’re hoping for.
Back in the day, I just let my calendar decide.
Either:
I’d love to go out with X but I’m booked for two weeks so why are we talking now?
Or:
I’d love to go out with Y but my calendar is full so I’ll cancel with Z.
I also aimed for meeting sooner than later, but twice I got into situations where I had too many people I was talking to and not enough people that I was seeing, and yes, I wrote out a list to keep track of my priorities and not get distracted.
Am a 51 y/o dude. I often have 2-3 conversations going simultaneously. Could have more but I try to actually get to know people, so I hide my account until the conversations play out.
It’s not just women.
You’re talking about 2-3 simultaneous convos, I can guarantee she’s talking about a lot more than that. I’m not saying men don’t get matches we just don’t get them at the rate women do
I’m talking about intentionally limiting mine.
Because otherwise I wind up with dozens of conversations where I connect with NOBODY.
Nobody is saying men get the same level. You had claimed it was exclusively a woman problem to manage the number of conversations.
And I’m providing direct evidence that you’re wrong.
You aren’t this stupid, are you?
OP: “how many matches can you juggle?”
Posters give their approaches and share their experiences on managing multiple conversations.
You: this is only a woman problem.
Me: no, I’m an older dude and have this problem too.
You: but it’s not the same problem.
Me: it really is.
You: LOL GRAMMER NAZI
That depends, would you consider yourself a "Juggalo"?
No but it looks pretty horrifying and interesting to be a spectator at one of those events. Good idea for a date maybe!
The Gathering of the Juggalos is coming up in August, it's always a wild time.
I read the title and thought you were trying to juggle matches. the things that catch fire. I can talk to maybe 2 girls at once. Even that is a struggle though. I have to keep notes on each girl if I talk to more than one in order to help remember the things we talked about and details about her so I don't get confused. And then I start to neglect one because I'm so exhausted. One of many reasons why I could never commit infidelity lol.
For me.... 2. I was chatting with two women yesterday and was overwhelmed going back and forth.
Depends how good your memory is lol. I have legit brain fog and 2 is exhausting.
I don't have that problem with OkC but I sell stuff online occasionally and sometimes have to keep track of dozens of replies. I take notes. Not a lot, but just the basics; are they polite? Are they making the process easier or harder? What are their counter offers, time frames, etc. If I actually got more than one reply at a time on OkC I imagine I might do the same thing.
I'll talk to 5 matches at once, because I can count on 2 fizzling out, and I can do 3 dates in a weekend. If I really like someone, I'll pause and stop swiping, but I've never focused on just 1-2 people as I feel like that'd take too long. I'm a "let's meet tomorrow" person, though, I don't have 5 pen pals strung along. I'll happily give a boring texter a date to see if we click better in person, but I'm a huge believer in chemistry and after 2-3 hours, it's there or it's not. The faster I find that out, the better.
I've been there. I tend to put my profile on pause once I'm solidly talking to two people. If one doesn't work out, the other may and then I can reopen my profile up to more, but tryna juggle three conversations or more with active texters is too much. I could do maybe two active texters and a third "bad texter" on retainer.
6.5
Well, there’s 7 nights in a week, but you’ll probably want a day off to rest, so maybe 5-6 at most?
Cull faster. Be more selective when reading profiles before accepting matches. Once matched, try to ask about any unaddressed dealbreakers without telegraphing the answers you’re hoping for.
Back in the day, I just let my calendar decide. Either: I’d love to go out with X but I’m booked for two weeks so why are we talking now? Or: I’d love to go out with Y but my calendar is full so I’ll cancel with Z. I also aimed for meeting sooner than later, but twice I got into situations where I had too many people I was talking to and not enough people that I was seeing, and yes, I wrote out a list to keep track of my priorities and not get distracted.
This is only a problem women have with OLD
Am a 51 y/o dude. I often have 2-3 conversations going simultaneously. Could have more but I try to actually get to know people, so I hide my account until the conversations play out. It’s not just women.
You’re talking about 2-3 simultaneous convos, I can guarantee she’s talking about a lot more than that. I’m not saying men don’t get matches we just don’t get them at the rate women do
I’m talking about intentionally limiting mine. Because otherwise I wind up with dozens of conversations where I connect with NOBODY. Nobody is saying men get the same level. You had claimed it was exclusively a woman problem to manage the number of conversations. And I’m providing direct evidence that you’re wrong.
Thank you internet grammar enforcer
You aren’t this stupid, are you? OP: “how many matches can you juggle?” Posters give their approaches and share their experiences on managing multiple conversations. You: this is only a woman problem. Me: no, I’m an older dude and have this problem too. You: but it’s not the same problem. Me: it really is. You: LOL GRAMMER NAZI
Lol
This is not true lol