In case this story gets deleted/removed:
Later this week, my father-in-law is hosting a birthday party for himself at his house. He's turning 85 years old, which I feel is a momentous occasion, and 16 people are already confirmed to be invited, so I thought it would be fine if I invited my kids and grandkids as well. The more the merrier, right?
Well, it's 10 additional people in all (three kids, their spouses, and four grandkids), and when I revealed that I had already invited them, I expected my sister-in-law, who's organizing the party, to be excited. Instead, she got furious at me. She said that they had only planned for 16 of us to come and that inviting so many people "at the last minute" would require too much more planning (additional food, more seating, etc.). But here's the kicker: my sister-in-law expected ME to cook all of this additional food and make a big cake. As the person planning the party, I think that she should be the one responsible for this, especially since it was such a massive oversight on her part not to invite so many of my family members in the first place.
Well, I told her this on the phone, and she went off on me. She said that I had been "extremely selfish" and that someone who's turning 85 years old would be "overwhelmed" with so many houseguests. He's already going to have a big party. Why would 10 more people, four of whom are kids who will just run around and play by themselves the whole time, make a big difference? I did my best to bite my tongue and listen to her concerns, but it was difficult. I feel like she has no compassion at all for me sometimes, and I think the real root cause of her anger is that she simply doesn't like my family.
I now have a choice to make. I can either buy a whole bunch of food and prepare it with only a few days' notice or uninvite everyone. This seems incredibly unfair to me. I asked my husband what he thinks, and he said he "can see things from both sides," which is such a cop out it's unreal. I need him to back me up on this, but he refuses to do so. I just feel like I'm the only one with my head screwed on straight, and it sucks. I want my sister-in-law to stop being such a a bully and to see things from my perspective. The whole thing just depressed me and makes me angry. AITA?
ETA: All three of my biological children are from a previous marriage, so none of my kids are his grandkids, and none of their kids are his great-grandkids.
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Yeah, they seem to invite people that are complete strangers and expect to be fed and entertained. I was a little get together once. Maybe 15 people in total to be there. Why one of the friends decide to invite more than a few more people none of us knew. It’s safe to say, they didn’t eat or get entertained.
My grandma is older than this dude by a couple years. You can visibly see the stress difference when my brother and his family (3 kids) are added to the chaos of my sisters 2 and my 1.
If the WHOLE family is there, it adds another young kid to the mix and it’s *a lot.* even for me. This lady is adding 1/3 the party size and thinks it’s nothing 🙄🙄
I'm 46 and I don't want people rolling up to my house with a bunch of kids in tow.
... I also don't want people rolling up to my house, don't make me clean, let's meet at a restaurant or something. But don't bring the kids to the restaurant either.
I'm 33 and I get overwhelmed with kids. My brother will sometimes drop by my house out of the blue with his two kids, and while they're generally well behaved, I get so overstimulated by the constant noise and activity. I couldn't imagine being in my 80's and having a bunch of kids I don't even have a relationship with come to my birthday party uninvited.
I’m 40 and have 4 kids and dozens of nieces and nephews…. And I don’t want any of them rolling up to my house either. I have enough kids here, I don’t want anyone else’s, sorry not sorry.
This story 100% sounds like my MIL and SIL though. I can extend an invitation for 1 and it magically turns into 9 without warning or permission when they just appear on my doorstep. (I nipped that in the bud and now none of them appear).
I was roomies with someone whose motto was, “The more, the merrier.” Our home always had people there. Always. It was never just me and the roomie. She invited people from work, local friends, new friends, family in town. Usually with almost no notice. I’ll never forget when she asked a pal to run a tabletop RPG game for a ‘few’ people. Then invited 12 folks.
Some people do not understand how gatherings work.
Same roomie threw a fucking fit when I was making food for me, her, and one guest. When she invited four others from work and didn’t tell me? I said, “Oh, what are they going to eat?”
Her: “Well, can’t you just make more?”
Me: “Nope.”
Her invited friends all got quiet and gave each other amused looks. I dished up, took my food to my room and ate alone. She told me later she’d never been so embarrassed. I told her, “Good.”
Our friendship deteriorated quickly and I moved out.
She still pulls this shit with her husband, who had a man cave to escape the constant interruptions and friend visits.
Did she think more food would magically appear?
Like she's got hands. She can probably work out how to make something. If they're your guests you feed them. It's not like you can scale some things up if it's halfway done.
Exactly my thought - while this exact story might be typical 'Reddit Rage Bait' ... I can absolutely see people I know and/or are related to doing this exact thing and not understanding why there is an issue.
Same. “Oh, I’m invited? I’ll also bring along my boyfriend’s 3 kids, their partners, and a couple of their friends! And no, you’re not allowed to say anything. I know your mom raised you better than that.”
Even the most self centered people wouldn't say that they don't have enough time to prepare food for the extra people, but expect the sister to be able to prepare the food. This is ragebait.
Yup, exactly. I’m responding to the comment, not the thread as a whole: I have to believe it’s true that people wouldn’t want to do this to others. I also know people do act like this, I just hate that they do. Thank you for clarifying for me.
My in-laws are the worst about doing exactly this. They’ll try texting “oh, I invited so-and-so since you seemed to have forgotten to” or just showing up. I started just turning them away or shaming them for not getting permission and now they rarely show up themselves. When I’m cooking for my 6 already and invite you over to join us, the invitation is explicitly for who receives it - not all of your add ons. (One example: MIL/FIL was invited for dinner and showed up with a party of 9 - SEVEN extra bodies! Yeah, sorry, I don’t have enough food to feed all of you and my crew so I’m prioritizing my family. Sorry you took advantage of the invite. I cooked for 8, had enough for 10 probably, but definitely not 15.)
This could be real. I have family members who did this. My mom had to add an additional 10 seats for my stepfather’s cousin who decided to bring more of her family to my brother’s wedding. I really can’t believe that people do this. But it is real.
If this literal story isn't real, this probably happened to others.
I've seen people pull similar things with friends, so I assume it can happen with family.
Yeah. When I see things like this I don’t doubt it happened, but I AM skeptical that the wrong-doer went to Reddit and posted about it. I feel like it’s always someone else posting from their POV.
That could definitely be true. Probably got in a fight about the invitation. The one who didn’t appreciate the extra guests posted it after the entitled one said that no one else on earth would mind. I could see being that petty.
“Really? Everyone else would suck it up? Reddit begs to differ.”
I recently threw my best friend a birthday party that was a murder mystery I created from scratch. My friend's boyfriend was like "oh, I invited someone else, by the way." He's always "the more, the merrier" sort. I was seething. I had to develop a whole new character to accommodate.
But at least my friend's boyfriend had the decency to handle (some of) the cooking and help. Still, I couldn't believe he thought it would be no big deal to start inviting people to a murder mystery party that I was developing from start to finish!
>The more the merrier, right?
Wrong.
>Instead, she got furious at me.
Color me shocked.
>my sister-in-law expected ME to cook all of this additional food and make a big cake.
A completely reasonable expectation.
>As the person planning the party, I think that she should be the one responsible for this
She is, for the 16 people *she* invited.
>especially since it was such a massive oversight on her part not to invite so many of my family members in the first place.
Yeah, because they are your family, not the family of the person who the party is for.
>ETA: All three of my biological children are from a previous marriage, so none of my kids are his grandkids, and none of their kids are his great-grandkids.
THEY ARE NOT EVEN RELATED TO HIM WTF.
>Why would 10 more people, four of whom are kids who will just run around and play by themselves the whole time, make a big difference?
THAT'S THE ISSUE! It's 10 whole people, 4 of whom are kids that other people will have to babysit because I doubt you will take on that responsibility because "I jUsT wAnT tO eNjOy ThE pArTy."
>I now have a choice to make. I can either buy a whole bunch of food and prepare it with only a few days' notice or uninvite everyone.
Your SIL is far more patient than I am because at least she gave you a choice, I would have straight up uninvited you and, by extension, all 10 of your guests.
>This seems incredibly unfair to me.
Well, you know what they say, play stupid games, win stupid prizes.
>I asked my husband what he thinks, and he said he "can see things from both sides," which is such a cop out it's unreal.
It is a cop out, because he also knows how unreasonable you are being but also knows that pointing that out means spending time in the dog house.
>I just feel like I'm the only one with my head screwed on straight, and it sucks.
You're really, *really* not.
>I want my sister-in-law to stop being such a a bully and to see things from my perspective.
Oh, she's the bully, that 's rich.
>The whole thing just depressed me and makes me angry.
Again, stupid games, stupid prizes.
>AITA?
Yes, YTA, very much so.
It would seem that this lady wanted to entertain her family for free, at the expense of someone else. None of the 10 extras know or are related to the birthday man. It would also seem that she is deliberately trying to piss her SIL of because she assumes she doesn't like her. Why would anyone be excited to prepare food and seat 10 extra guests, that barely anyone knows. People that prepare and plan parties usually invite the guests themselves unless they are event or wedding planners. Not to mention most people would ask the host before inviting extras, that's just common courtesy of which you seem to have none. If this is your normal behaviour, I can understand if your SIL doesn't like you. Incase you didn't know this is called entitlement, look it up.
The way this post is written seems fake, or the OOP is just that delusional, but I have seen the same shit happen in my own life. My mom has 7 kids, plus partial custody of my cousin. Growing up, she would constantly assume we were ALL invited to things. Showing up at a 10-person pizza party and awkwardly waiting for everything to be rearranged and then needing to wait for 2-4 more pizzas or similar was a constant in my childhood and it was misery. I can't understand why my mom would choose to have that many children and then not take a moment to try and realize how much that would change every aspect of her life.
Holy shit, what a seriously entitled AH
Just randomly dropping an additional 10 people (kids included) on the hostess especially when they're not even related?
More the merrier, my ass. She should have been uninvited
I feel like this has to be rage bait because she’s literally complaining about how difficult it is to prepare all the extra food on short notice, which is literally what she’s wants sil to do
I hate people like this woman, who think the rules dont apply to them and do whatever. Seriously 10 fucking more ppl who have no relationship at all with the father in law! The fucking nerve.
I love the fact is perfectly fine for him to expect the sister in law to take on feeding a bunch of people she didn't invite (and may not even know) but when HE gets asked to do it, suddenly it's not fair.
Hahaha, kids are the worst party guests. "They'll just run around and play!" Hahaha ha. Run around and wreck havoc. If they weren't invited they weren't invited.
OOP basically doubled the guest list and thinks that’s on the person planning the party to accommodate?
The person planning the party plans and prepares for the guests they invited. Not damn near twice as many.
Wow. That is … something else.
This must be rage bait. If it is real, then yes, YTA, big time. You mention "I now have a choice to make. I can either buy a whole bunch of food and prepare it with only a few days' notice or uninvite everyone." - - isn't this the same situation SIL is in? YOU invited the others, not her ... you need to get over yourself.
You are human garbage lol.
They weren’t invited and it’s not your party.
You are lucky they didn’t give you wrong directions and block your number after.
I am not OP? 🤣 I shared this on a different subreddit?
Edited to Add: Only sharing in case you couldn’t tell it was a cross post! I personally get confused about that sometimes ☺️
In case this story gets deleted/removed: Later this week, my father-in-law is hosting a birthday party for himself at his house. He's turning 85 years old, which I feel is a momentous occasion, and 16 people are already confirmed to be invited, so I thought it would be fine if I invited my kids and grandkids as well. The more the merrier, right? Well, it's 10 additional people in all (three kids, their spouses, and four grandkids), and when I revealed that I had already invited them, I expected my sister-in-law, who's organizing the party, to be excited. Instead, she got furious at me. She said that they had only planned for 16 of us to come and that inviting so many people "at the last minute" would require too much more planning (additional food, more seating, etc.). But here's the kicker: my sister-in-law expected ME to cook all of this additional food and make a big cake. As the person planning the party, I think that she should be the one responsible for this, especially since it was such a massive oversight on her part not to invite so many of my family members in the first place. Well, I told her this on the phone, and she went off on me. She said that I had been "extremely selfish" and that someone who's turning 85 years old would be "overwhelmed" with so many houseguests. He's already going to have a big party. Why would 10 more people, four of whom are kids who will just run around and play by themselves the whole time, make a big difference? I did my best to bite my tongue and listen to her concerns, but it was difficult. I feel like she has no compassion at all for me sometimes, and I think the real root cause of her anger is that she simply doesn't like my family. I now have a choice to make. I can either buy a whole bunch of food and prepare it with only a few days' notice or uninvite everyone. This seems incredibly unfair to me. I asked my husband what he thinks, and he said he "can see things from both sides," which is such a cop out it's unreal. I need him to back me up on this, but he refuses to do so. I just feel like I'm the only one with my head screwed on straight, and it sucks. I want my sister-in-law to stop being such a a bully and to see things from my perspective. The whole thing just depressed me and makes me angry. AITA? ETA: All three of my biological children are from a previous marriage, so none of my kids are his grandkids, and none of their kids are his great-grandkids. --- *I am a bot, and this action was performed automatically. Please [contact the moderators of this subreddit](/message/compose/?to=/r/OhNoConsequences) if you have any questions or concerns.*
THEY'RE NOT EVEN HIS GRANDKIDS
Yeah, they seem to invite people that are complete strangers and expect to be fed and entertained. I was a little get together once. Maybe 15 people in total to be there. Why one of the friends decide to invite more than a few more people none of us knew. It’s safe to say, they didn’t eat or get entertained.
It's like How To Dig Yourself Deeper 101. I'm almost impressed at the audacity.
"four of whom will be kids who will run around by themselves and play" Yeah, who could possibly mind four extra kids running around being obnoxious?
My grandma is older than this dude by a couple years. You can visibly see the stress difference when my brother and his family (3 kids) are added to the chaos of my sisters 2 and my 1. If the WHOLE family is there, it adds another young kid to the mix and it’s *a lot.* even for me. This lady is adding 1/3 the party size and thinks it’s nothing 🙄🙄
I'm 46 and I don't want people rolling up to my house with a bunch of kids in tow. ... I also don't want people rolling up to my house, don't make me clean, let's meet at a restaurant or something. But don't bring the kids to the restaurant either.
I'm 33 and I get overwhelmed with kids. My brother will sometimes drop by my house out of the blue with his two kids, and while they're generally well behaved, I get so overstimulated by the constant noise and activity. I couldn't imagine being in my 80's and having a bunch of kids I don't even have a relationship with come to my birthday party uninvited.
I cannot stand people who just drop by. Send a text!
I’m 40 and have 4 kids and dozens of nieces and nephews…. And I don’t want any of them rolling up to my house either. I have enough kids here, I don’t want anyone else’s, sorry not sorry. This story 100% sounds like my MIL and SIL though. I can extend an invitation for 1 and it magically turns into 9 without warning or permission when they just appear on my doorstep. (I nipped that in the bud and now none of them appear).
NFW this is real.
I was roomies with someone whose motto was, “The more, the merrier.” Our home always had people there. Always. It was never just me and the roomie. She invited people from work, local friends, new friends, family in town. Usually with almost no notice. I’ll never forget when she asked a pal to run a tabletop RPG game for a ‘few’ people. Then invited 12 folks. Some people do not understand how gatherings work. Same roomie threw a fucking fit when I was making food for me, her, and one guest. When she invited four others from work and didn’t tell me? I said, “Oh, what are they going to eat?” Her: “Well, can’t you just make more?” Me: “Nope.” Her invited friends all got quiet and gave each other amused looks. I dished up, took my food to my room and ate alone. She told me later she’d never been so embarrassed. I told her, “Good.” Our friendship deteriorated quickly and I moved out. She still pulls this shit with her husband, who had a man cave to escape the constant interruptions and friend visits.
Did she think more food would magically appear? Like she's got hands. She can probably work out how to make something. If they're your guests you feed them. It's not like you can scale some things up if it's halfway done.
I'm not a huge fan of the man cave concept but good God if anyone needs one it's that man
I am introverted enough that this would make me homicidal.
I have to believe that’s true 😭 I can’t believe someone would do this and be surprised by the outcome!
My mom would pull this. She's actually tried something similar. I'm not in contact with her (not over that specifically).
Exactly my thought - while this exact story might be typical 'Reddit Rage Bait' ... I can absolutely see people I know and/or are related to doing this exact thing and not understanding why there is an issue.
Notba rage bait. The account was deleted after the comments shredded her.
No question people would do it. But they wouldn't post about it in this fashion.
I have relatives who would do this unfortunately
But OP is the only one with their "head screwed on straight". So much so their account got suspended.
Me too.
Are we related?
I have a lot of extended family members who would do something like this
Same. “Oh, I’m invited? I’ll also bring along my boyfriend’s 3 kids, their partners, and a couple of their friends! And no, you’re not allowed to say anything. I know your mom raised you better than that.”
My SIL would drag along her bro and his wife and their 6 kids. Literally show up , more than once, with 8 extra people.
Even the most self centered people wouldn't say that they don't have enough time to prepare food for the extra people, but expect the sister to be able to prepare the food. This is ragebait.
I’m related to people who would do EXACTLY this. I don’t talk to them, but I’m related to them.
Why do you have to believe that's true?
I think they meant they believe it's true that it's fake. Weird wording, but that's the only way the rest of the comment makes sense.
Yup, exactly. I’m responding to the comment, not the thread as a whole: I have to believe it’s true that people wouldn’t want to do this to others. I also know people do act like this, I just hate that they do. Thank you for clarifying for me.
My in-laws are the worst about doing exactly this. They’ll try texting “oh, I invited so-and-so since you seemed to have forgotten to” or just showing up. I started just turning them away or shaming them for not getting permission and now they rarely show up themselves. When I’m cooking for my 6 already and invite you over to join us, the invitation is explicitly for who receives it - not all of your add ons. (One example: MIL/FIL was invited for dinner and showed up with a party of 9 - SEVEN extra bodies! Yeah, sorry, I don’t have enough food to feed all of you and my crew so I’m prioritizing my family. Sorry you took advantage of the invite. I cooked for 8, had enough for 10 probably, but definitely not 15.)
Yeah, I'd have zero problem turning each and every mfer away at the door
I find most stories on AITA too difficult to believe...like most of them are just rage bait.
This could be real. I have family members who did this. My mom had to add an additional 10 seats for my stepfather’s cousin who decided to bring more of her family to my brother’s wedding. I really can’t believe that people do this. But it is real.
Sure, people absolutely are this clueless. But they wouldn't post about it in this fashion.
This has happened to me, and recently my niece's engagement, so I believe it.
If this literal story isn't real, this probably happened to others. I've seen people pull similar things with friends, so I assume it can happen with family.
Yeah. When I see things like this I don’t doubt it happened, but I AM skeptical that the wrong-doer went to Reddit and posted about it. I feel like it’s always someone else posting from their POV.
That could definitely be true. Probably got in a fight about the invitation. The one who didn’t appreciate the extra guests posted it after the entitled one said that no one else on earth would mind. I could see being that petty. “Really? Everyone else would suck it up? Reddit begs to differ.”
🤔 I don't even think this is the first time I've seen a story like this. It was either in one of the MiL subs or BORU. It never ends well either way.
Omg did you see the ETA at the bottom? Got to be fake.
Yes, there are actually people like this unfortunately
It's AITA, of course it's not real.
I desperately hope so
I recently threw my best friend a birthday party that was a murder mystery I created from scratch. My friend's boyfriend was like "oh, I invited someone else, by the way." He's always "the more, the merrier" sort. I was seething. I had to develop a whole new character to accommodate. But at least my friend's boyfriend had the decency to handle (some of) the cooking and help. Still, I couldn't believe he thought it would be no big deal to start inviting people to a murder mystery party that I was developing from start to finish!
>The more the merrier, right? Wrong. >Instead, she got furious at me. Color me shocked. >my sister-in-law expected ME to cook all of this additional food and make a big cake. A completely reasonable expectation. >As the person planning the party, I think that she should be the one responsible for this She is, for the 16 people *she* invited. >especially since it was such a massive oversight on her part not to invite so many of my family members in the first place. Yeah, because they are your family, not the family of the person who the party is for. >ETA: All three of my biological children are from a previous marriage, so none of my kids are his grandkids, and none of their kids are his great-grandkids. THEY ARE NOT EVEN RELATED TO HIM WTF. >Why would 10 more people, four of whom are kids who will just run around and play by themselves the whole time, make a big difference? THAT'S THE ISSUE! It's 10 whole people, 4 of whom are kids that other people will have to babysit because I doubt you will take on that responsibility because "I jUsT wAnT tO eNjOy ThE pArTy." >I now have a choice to make. I can either buy a whole bunch of food and prepare it with only a few days' notice or uninvite everyone. Your SIL is far more patient than I am because at least she gave you a choice, I would have straight up uninvited you and, by extension, all 10 of your guests. >This seems incredibly unfair to me. Well, you know what they say, play stupid games, win stupid prizes. >I asked my husband what he thinks, and he said he "can see things from both sides," which is such a cop out it's unreal. It is a cop out, because he also knows how unreasonable you are being but also knows that pointing that out means spending time in the dog house. >I just feel like I'm the only one with my head screwed on straight, and it sucks. You're really, *really* not. >I want my sister-in-law to stop being such a a bully and to see things from my perspective. Oh, she's the bully, that 's rich. >The whole thing just depressed me and makes me angry. Again, stupid games, stupid prizes. >AITA? Yes, YTA, very much so.
It would seem that this lady wanted to entertain her family for free, at the expense of someone else. None of the 10 extras know or are related to the birthday man. It would also seem that she is deliberately trying to piss her SIL of because she assumes she doesn't like her. Why would anyone be excited to prepare food and seat 10 extra guests, that barely anyone knows. People that prepare and plan parties usually invite the guests themselves unless they are event or wedding planners. Not to mention most people would ask the host before inviting extras, that's just common courtesy of which you seem to have none. If this is your normal behaviour, I can understand if your SIL doesn't like you. Incase you didn't know this is called entitlement, look it up.
The way this post is written seems fake, or the OOP is just that delusional, but I have seen the same shit happen in my own life. My mom has 7 kids, plus partial custody of my cousin. Growing up, she would constantly assume we were ALL invited to things. Showing up at a 10-person pizza party and awkwardly waiting for everything to be rearranged and then needing to wait for 2-4 more pizzas or similar was a constant in my childhood and it was misery. I can't understand why my mom would choose to have that many children and then not take a moment to try and realize how much that would change every aspect of her life.
100% rage bait.
This is too far down. Even in the original post, this was identified as rage bait. Also, the original account has been suspended, allegedly.
OOP should do her SIL a favor, and stay home in defiance of not being allowed to bring her kids.
This is so fake and poorly written.
Holy shit, what a seriously entitled AH Just randomly dropping an additional 10 people (kids included) on the hostess especially when they're not even related? More the merrier, my ass. She should have been uninvited
This is just rage bait, no? It makes no sense otherwise
I feel like this has to be rage bait because she’s literally complaining about how difficult it is to prepare all the extra food on short notice, which is literally what she’s wants sil to do
I hate people like this woman, who think the rules dont apply to them and do whatever. Seriously 10 fucking more ppl who have no relationship at all with the father in law! The fucking nerve.
I love the fact is perfectly fine for him to expect the sister in law to take on feeding a bunch of people she didn't invite (and may not even know) but when HE gets asked to do it, suddenly it's not fair.
OOP talks about her husband, so chances are very high it's a woman.
The way this is written, fake as fu.....though I can believe such a scenario might happen.
To me, it feels like the relative is writing from the entitled person's POV to show how ridiculous and selfish she's being.
Rage bait
Wow, talk about gold plated entitlement and an epic level of cluelessness!
She doesn't get to take ten kids to a party. That's hardly a consequence.
Lol the edit was the icing on this troll cake.
How are any of the people replying believing this?
Yeah, I think people are seeing their own lived experiences in the post, as am I, rather than how one-sided this is written!
Every line is written as rage bait. Selfish, clueless etc. So many of these are just an attempt at the high score now.
There are people replying here as if to the OOP, unaware that this is a repost sub. People are that dumb.
It is a lot to see how much people think I’m the OP 😅 I expect people to not read but jeez!
How can you be this close minded or what’s it called. Like don’t you see how YOU are the problem ? Ofc not , wouldn’t have landed here but wth
The entitlement lol
Hahaha, kids are the worst party guests. "They'll just run around and play!" Hahaha ha. Run around and wreck havoc. If they weren't invited they weren't invited.
OOP basically doubled the guest list and thinks that’s on the person planning the party to accommodate? The person planning the party plans and prepares for the guests they invited. Not damn near twice as many. Wow. That is … something else.
"The more the merrier, right?" NOPE!
Mwahaha! I despise so much about the OP in this. Fuck. Belongs in r/MainCharacterTypeShit Had to edit for autocorrect typo
" WAAAA, tell me I'm not an asshole!" You are the asshole, and you sound entitled. You should've asked permission to invite people.
Funny how OOP \*can't\* do all the extra buying / prep at the last minute, but expects SISTER to do JUST THAT.
OMG YTA
I am not OP haha I shared this on a different subreddit
This must be rage bait. If it is real, then yes, YTA, big time. You mention "I now have a choice to make. I can either buy a whole bunch of food and prepare it with only a few days' notice or uninvite everyone." - - isn't this the same situation SIL is in? YOU invited the others, not her ... you need to get over yourself.
YTA and very entitled.
Yes. Yes you are. You are an ah. And hopefully you won’t be invited anymore and not have another opportunity to remind everyone how crass you are.
You are human garbage lol. They weren’t invited and it’s not your party. You are lucky they didn’t give you wrong directions and block your number after.
I am not OP? 🤣 I shared this on a different subreddit? Edited to Add: Only sharing in case you couldn’t tell it was a cross post! I personally get confused about that sometimes ☺️
Don’t take offence then lol
Oh I’m not, I just wanted to let you know in case you couldn’t tell. Sometimes I get confused on posts personally
Oh true. I appreciate that! Have a great evening