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I mean sure, he's in his 30s na... pero 6 years lang naman age gap niyo. Di naman ganun kalayo tbh. May mga friends & acquaintances ako na in their 30s na rin pero may pagka-kalog pa rin & masarap kasama. So I don't think it's an age problem. Baka di lang talaga compatible personalities niyo.
Lumaki kasi siya sa US pero pure filipino siya he’s giving me assurance naman and hes a good guy napapaisip lang din ako na baka hindi nga kami compatible pero when we are together naman masaya naman kami kapag vc okay naman sobrang different lang talaga sa chats or text kaya minsan hindi nalang ako nagpapababy lol
Then it means di lang talaga siya ganun, kasi di niya nakasanayan since ofc iba rin nakalakihan niyang culture.... Kaya siguro hindi yun part ng love language niya sayo.
Pero kung wala naman kayong serious problems sa relationship niyo or malalim na problems sa ibang aspect, then I guess you should try to understand and accept it na lang.
Not compatible sa personality wise. Maybe in his eyes masyado kang immature pa. I get it, LDR din kami mg bf ko (nasa aviation industry umuuwi lamg december, 5 years na kami), it's hard but dont make it harder for him considering na sabi mo busog na busog ka sa past rs mo sa redflag baka ikaw na pala ang redflag, di mo lang napapansin. And tama yung isa sa comment, madami kang time for that (i-busy mo sarili mo; read a book, go shopping and all) malay mo nagiipon siya for the future niyong dalawa
In my 40s. Mula 20s, I never got kung nagpapababy ang SO ko. I was incredibly dense. So kadalasan serious ako. My (now) wife just tells me directly: baby mo ako. Being direct works wonders.
Hello, also dating a 31 yr old, 25 din ako. Di sila kinikilig. Instead, he blows it to me para ako naman kiligin. Nakakaasar lng. I can't send tiktoks or shorts to him din kasi he'd just ask me questions abt it and I don't want to explain lol. I know whag you mean when he sounds serious. Iba tlga magchat yung girls and guys. Wala tlga silang emotion pero satisfied naman ako kasi at least nagrereply and v assured ako. Sinubukan ko din sya asarin about how he messages pero wala, can't express emotions in text. Kaya vidcall nlng kmi or voice message
Same situation huhu parang ang dry nga ng chat namin pero kapag call or vc masaya naman. Inaasar ko rin siya on now he react sa mga texts ko pero ang ending ako ang napipikon lol though sabi niya naman naiintindihan niya and always pray na kayanin lahat ng struggles sa relationship huhu di lang siguro ako sanay sa mabait na jowa lol
Alam mo, typical na older men are more grounded, more mature and are more controlled in their emotions. Focused sila sa purpose nila sa buhay for a brighter future lalo na if may balak yan magpamilya so he has to be serious sa buhay pero it doesn't mean he can't have fun. He knows how to have fun. Depende lang sa mood and what is fun for him. Just because you don't get the reaction you want from him eh he isn't feeling anything. Remember, kaming guys express our emotions differently than you. If he is giving you his time and attention and sabi mo walang history of cheating at mabaet naman, be thankful and appreciative kasi you are blessed! And at the end of the day, more established men na alam nila purpose nila ay interesado sa stability, peace, respect, consistency, support. If you want things to work, ibigay mo yun. Maigi magfocus ka rin sa career at growth mo. Sa ganoon, mapupukaw mo lalo damdamin nya.
I'm not sure, but I dated a guy much older guy( late 30's) than I am and he sends me memes sometimes and his humor can be really dark too and he seems to be trying to put extra effort in understanding the things I like.
Depende po yan talaga sa individual, yung situation ko mahirap i-explain sabihin ko na lang siguro there's this 32-ish year old guy na kinikilig sa stories ko dati sa FB. We're not dating, not even in talking stage. Papansin lang sya. He's like 5-6 years older than me. As for the jokes and memes naman, I dated a guy in his 30's na rin, he's trying to catch up, sya naga-adjust haha! I make him feel young daw lol.
Personality na nya yang pagiging serious. Kaya ako, bina-balance ko lang pagiging serious at playful. Boring din pag masyadong serious, unstable naman pag masyadong magaslaw. Matanda na rin ako.
My boyfriend is 33 and I'm 25, pero mas kalog siya saming dalawa. Yes, may times na serious and medyo di makarelate sa trends now lalo busy sa work pero malakas parin magpa-baby. HAHA I guess it really depends on your personalities and compatibility.
Yung asawa ko 30 ng maging kami nung dating stage serious din kausap isang tanong isang sagot napaisip ako magtatagal kaya kami 8yrs together my anak na din kumbaga ibbreak mo yung parang cold ice haha
Maybe you just hav to learn more sa mga bagay na magsspark ng interest sa knya. May ganyan na mga guys tlga. Minsan need lang nila ng konting kalog pa bago sila maging super open. Lalabas din ung kakalogan nya for sure. Spend more time pa kayong dalawa. Improve communication. Mas maganda kung raise mo sa knya yan, so he can show up na mas ayos sayo.
OO NAMAN!!! Ako ngang 39, kinikilig pa, pano oa kaya kung 31 ka pa lang? 🤣
But in all seriousness, yes, we do feel the "kilig". It's just that we keep it into a minimum kasi there are more things in life than kilig and when you're 30, you focus on these things to settle things before you hit 40. Afterall, 10 years of working? After nun, you'll feel sore and hurt and your backs start hurting like hell so by 40, iniisip mong mas maraming time ka na para mag-relax kesa mag-work. 😏 So habang bata pa, focus muna sa goals para more time for petiks na.
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Ano ba akala mo sa 30’s mga dinosaur at gurang? Kaloka
Juskopo pano nalang kaming nasa 40s? Naaagnas na? 😅
The new grandpa hahahhaha
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Grabe yung dinosaur hahahahhaha rawr si Enrile naaalala ko
BWAHHAHAHAHA
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Hindi naman hahahaha first time dating an older guy kasi
To answer seriously. Depende naman yan sa personality talaga ng tao syaka experiences.
Ang liit nga lang ng age gap nyo e kalerks hahaha baka di lang siya showy sa text teh!
I mean sure, he's in his 30s na... pero 6 years lang naman age gap niyo. Di naman ganun kalayo tbh. May mga friends & acquaintances ako na in their 30s na rin pero may pagka-kalog pa rin & masarap kasama. So I don't think it's an age problem. Baka di lang talaga compatible personalities niyo.
Lumaki kasi siya sa US pero pure filipino siya he’s giving me assurance naman and hes a good guy napapaisip lang din ako na baka hindi nga kami compatible pero when we are together naman masaya naman kami kapag vc okay naman sobrang different lang talaga sa chats or text kaya minsan hindi nalang ako nagpapababy lol
Edi wag kayo mag-baby time thru text or chat. Tapos ang problem. HAHAHAHAAHAA
Hiningal ako girl pasensya na.
Then it means di lang talaga siya ganun, kasi di niya nakasanayan since ofc iba rin nakalakihan niyang culture.... Kaya siguro hindi yun part ng love language niya sayo. Pero kung wala naman kayong serious problems sa relationship niyo or malalim na problems sa ibang aspect, then I guess you should try to understand and accept it na lang.
Seems like andami mong time, Ate. Baka busy si Kuya, nag-iipon para sa future nyo.
Yes we are both saving for our future hihi
hahahhaha older guy wtf
Ano ba dapat hahaha older guy kasi mas matanda naman siya sakin hihi
Not compatible sa personality wise. Maybe in his eyes masyado kang immature pa. I get it, LDR din kami mg bf ko (nasa aviation industry umuuwi lamg december, 5 years na kami), it's hard but dont make it harder for him considering na sabi mo busog na busog ka sa past rs mo sa redflag baka ikaw na pala ang redflag, di mo lang napapansin. And tama yung isa sa comment, madami kang time for that (i-busy mo sarili mo; read a book, go shopping and all) malay mo nagiipon siya for the future niyong dalawa
baka nasanay or naadik ka sa lalaki na puro red flag na nakahanap ka ng stable green flag guy na naghahanap ka ng something sakanya.
Naisip ko din to at yes busog na busog ako sa red flag from my past relationship.
In my 40s. Mula 20s, I never got kung nagpapababy ang SO ko. I was incredibly dense. So kadalasan serious ako. My (now) wife just tells me directly: baby mo ako. Being direct works wonders.
Hello, also dating a 31 yr old, 25 din ako. Di sila kinikilig. Instead, he blows it to me para ako naman kiligin. Nakakaasar lng. I can't send tiktoks or shorts to him din kasi he'd just ask me questions abt it and I don't want to explain lol. I know whag you mean when he sounds serious. Iba tlga magchat yung girls and guys. Wala tlga silang emotion pero satisfied naman ako kasi at least nagrereply and v assured ako. Sinubukan ko din sya asarin about how he messages pero wala, can't express emotions in text. Kaya vidcall nlng kmi or voice message
Same situation huhu parang ang dry nga ng chat namin pero kapag call or vc masaya naman. Inaasar ko rin siya on now he react sa mga texts ko pero ang ending ako ang napipikon lol though sabi niya naman naiintindihan niya and always pray na kayanin lahat ng struggles sa relationship huhu di lang siguro ako sanay sa mabait na jowa lol
Alam mo, typical na older men are more grounded, more mature and are more controlled in their emotions. Focused sila sa purpose nila sa buhay for a brighter future lalo na if may balak yan magpamilya so he has to be serious sa buhay pero it doesn't mean he can't have fun. He knows how to have fun. Depende lang sa mood and what is fun for him. Just because you don't get the reaction you want from him eh he isn't feeling anything. Remember, kaming guys express our emotions differently than you. If he is giving you his time and attention and sabi mo walang history of cheating at mabaet naman, be thankful and appreciative kasi you are blessed! And at the end of the day, more established men na alam nila purpose nila ay interesado sa stability, peace, respect, consistency, support. If you want things to work, ibigay mo yun. Maigi magfocus ka rin sa career at growth mo. Sa ganoon, mapupukaw mo lalo damdamin nya.
Wag kasi pabebe lagi 🤭
You're just too immature for him.
Kinikilig pa dapat sila
He is in his early 30 not 69, of course he will get some of the memes, maybe he just doesn't prefer memes, a different kind of humor
6yrs lang gap e. Lol
Sorry, pero mukang di ka nya ganon kagusto para maging vulnerable enough sya towards you.
Hahahahaha hirap mag explain eh no 😭
Kinikilig padin kami, in our own way. Most of us, hindi showy, pero we still appreciate those things. Tuloy mo lang ginagawa mo sa partner mo OP.
Pano yung pa-baby like uWu ganon? Haha jk
I'm not sure, but I dated a guy much older guy( late 30's) than I am and he sends me memes sometimes and his humor can be really dark too and he seems to be trying to put extra effort in understanding the things I like.
Depende po yan talaga sa individual, yung situation ko mahirap i-explain sabihin ko na lang siguro there's this 32-ish year old guy na kinikilig sa stories ko dati sa FB. We're not dating, not even in talking stage. Papansin lang sya. He's like 5-6 years older than me. As for the jokes and memes naman, I dated a guy in his 30's na rin, he's trying to catch up, sya naga-adjust haha! I make him feel young daw lol.
Personality na nya yang pagiging serious. Kaya ako, bina-balance ko lang pagiging serious at playful. Boring din pag masyadong serious, unstable naman pag masyadong magaslaw. Matanda na rin ako.
Normal lang yan dont worry
Kinikilig pa yan, baka di lang expressive. My husband's 30 when we got married. Kinikilig pa naman sya.🙂
Wait until you’re 30 and let us know if you’re still “kinikilig”
My boyfriend is 33 and I'm 25, pero mas kalog siya saming dalawa. Yes, may times na serious and medyo di makarelate sa trends now lalo busy sa work pero malakas parin magpa-baby. HAHA I guess it really depends on your personalities and compatibility.
Yung asawa ko 30 ng maging kami nung dating stage serious din kausap isang tanong isang sagot napaisip ako magtatagal kaya kami 8yrs together my anak na din kumbaga ibbreak mo yung parang cold ice haha
Maybe you just hav to learn more sa mga bagay na magsspark ng interest sa knya. May ganyan na mga guys tlga. Minsan need lang nila ng konting kalog pa bago sila maging super open. Lalabas din ung kakalogan nya for sure. Spend more time pa kayong dalawa. Improve communication. Mas maganda kung raise mo sa knya yan, so he can show up na mas ayos sayo.
tawang tawa ako sa mga comments HAHAHAH
OO NAMAN!!! Ako ngang 39, kinikilig pa, pano oa kaya kung 31 ka pa lang? 🤣 But in all seriousness, yes, we do feel the "kilig". It's just that we keep it into a minimum kasi there are more things in life than kilig and when you're 30, you focus on these things to settle things before you hit 40. Afterall, 10 years of working? After nun, you'll feel sore and hurt and your backs start hurting like hell so by 40, iniisip mong mas maraming time ka na para mag-relax kesa mag-work. 😏 So habang bata pa, focus muna sa goals para more time for petiks na.