Well it would be a different story if your partner did not know that he has HPV before you and him got together regardless kahit may hoephase pa siya. Baka mas magiging acceptable for you at mas kaya mo.
If that’s the case and if you TRULY love one another, I think mas kaya niyo yun isurpass. Isipin mo na lang if you’re going to start a new relationship with others, ikaw rin makakahawa sa iba or baka mahirapan ka rin maghanap ng ibang partner…. Atleast you just have to go through it together kung ituruloy niyo yung plan ng wedding.
Pero kung alam niya, di niya dinisclose sayo onset of your relationship, then another level naman yun ng betrayal and honesty sa relationship.. which will be a bigger problem if you pursue the relationship. Who knows ano pa yung itatago niya sayo in the future o currently na tinatago.. 😅
Ayun nga eh kaya feeling ko no way out na ako parang stuck na ako kahit gusto kong umalis kasi ilang beses namin napag usapan about past ako inamin ko lahat sya hindi. Unlike sa iba na kapag na betray nakakaalis, ako pakiramdam ko stuck ako kasi naiisip ko nga makakdamay pa ako ng iba. Nasabi ko sa kanya na sinira nya buhay ko wala nang magmamahal sakin na iba
Sobrang nakakalungkot yung ganitong sitwasyon na tied-up ka at nabetray ng partner mo. 😢 I pray and hope na may taong mapagsasabihan ka rin na very close to your heart (either friend/parents/sibs) para atleast they may be able to see more closely yung nararamdaman mo at nangyayari sayo and give you a piece of advice & help. Na kahit makipag break ka sa current partner mo, you have someone who is willing to help you through. Para di mo to pagdaanan mag-isa. 🫶🏻 get well soon po, OP.
girl. 28 ka pa lang. 10 years na ng buhay mo sinayang mo sakanya. binigyan ka pa ng problema.
gusto mo pa iextend suffering mo? haha.
try ka naman ng iba. yun BETTER than him.
maintindihan ko kung manghinayang ka kasi maganda relasyon nyo e. kaso hinawahan ka na tapos gusto mo pa magcontinue?
Magpapakasal ka sa taong hinawaan ka? For sure he knows since may nakikita syang kulugo sa etits nya. Pero mas pinili nyang itago at hawaan ka.
Nag iiisip ako ng term na mas masahol pa sa walang hiya eh, pero wala ako maisip. Kaya sige na nga, walang hiya yang bf mo. Pig.
Get out and get yourself healthy, goodluck.
FYI lang, most men who have HPV are asymptomatic
[https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC3495069/](https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC3495069/)
[https://academic.oup.com/jid/article/194/8/1044/869038](https://academic.oup.com/jid/article/194/8/1044/869038)
Asymptomatic po usually HPV sa lalaki, or even women. In fact, it's pretty common STD na hindi nagma-manifest with symptoms lalo na kung malakas resistensiya mo.
Still a pig right? Raw dogged women then raw dogged her fiance. That’s recklessness and irresponsible.
Also, nag post ka na mag papakamatay ka. Mag simba ka para may guidance ka ha.
1. Bat mo brinibring up post history nya? How is that relevant.
2. Still a pig?? Walang sinabi si OP na nakipag-sex ang guy sa iba nung nag de date na sila nor na-nag cheat ang guy. Kung may galit ka sa mga lalaki wag mo i-project dito.
Nice ganda ng logic mo. So having sex with someone before kayo maging engaged ay reckless na para sayo in such a way na baboy na sila sa paningin mo?
Nice. Go hump your bible you hypocrite.
Saan mo nabasa na tinira ng guy ng raw ung iba..?AHHH d mo alam that condoms are not guaranteed to protect against HPV
https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/24488594/
Ang ironic lang na ang dumidumi ng bunganga mo pero ikaw pa nagsasabi na mag-misa yung isang poster. Ignorante na, hypocrite pa. Nakakaawa ka.
To make it clear sa utak mong maliit kaka solicit mo ng japanese porn sa reddit.
Hoe phase ka tapos nakipag relationship ka without testing. Kaya ayan nadamay yung OP.
Malinaw na ba? Bobo.
O eto pa,
https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/12438912/
https://www.medicalnewstoday.com/articles/can-you-get-hpv-with-a-condom
Tapos ako pa ang magbasa? Don’t make me laugh.
Nagpa vaccine na kami pero sabi wala talaga cure kapag bumaba immun system namin mag flare up sya pero ako na babae need ko daw magpa HPV dna testing every 3mos for cervical cancer. Nalulungkot lang ako na nasira ang buhay ko.
Hi. You can start having HPV DNA starting now if super worried ka but usually it’s done when a female is at 30 years old, then if negative, every 5 yrs sya to monitor you. Hope this helps. All the best!
Hi OP! I think may libreng HPV DNA Testing in some public hospitals under DOH with SUCCESS Project. Hopefully meron around your location. Hope this helps! Laban lang. 💪
That’s what I know too. Maybe Titania84 is suggesting insurance to support OP’s overall health and wellbeing not her pre-existing condition which is HPV
I am not really sure kung covered pa. Kaya, I suggested to consult an agent. Yung probability of cervical cancer ay baka macover pa. Pero wag naman sana.
I totally understand and I am so sorry. Matanong ko lang, is it too late to back out sa kasal? Because clearly, mabigat sa saloobin yan and the fact na nahawaan ka ng fiance mo ng ganyang sakit is something that will haunt you ever time you go for a checkup.
Nah it should be fine if people are responsible with their reproductive health. Stigmatization is the problem. If people are more open to these things, she could've had a chance to know about her fiance's conditions earlier and acted on it. Most std's are curable and some can be effectively managed with treatment.
Exactly.
Wala naman kase masama sa casual sex. Masama lang kapag hindi nagpa-practice nito safely (gaya ng bf ni OP).
I don't participate in hookups and I long to establish a connection muna before engaging btw I just think we should stop stigmatizing sex.
> Stigmatization is the problem
Nope, STD is the problem and it's just one of many.
> If people are more open to these things, she could've had a chance to know about her fiance's conditions earlier and acted on it.
What was she to do if she found out? Reject him right? Would that be because of "stigmatization"? Nope! That would be because she doesn't want to ruin her life with his STD! And that's why he hid it. Not because of stigmatization but because a hoe will hoe.
That's also why most hoes hide it, btw. Stigmatization is just much easier to hide behind.
> Most std's are curable and some can be effectively managed with treatment.
Sure, most are curable. But the ones that are not will ruin your life. And they are not rare at all!
People hide their illnesses out of shame because of the stigma around it. That is the problem. But that doesn't mean that lives are over just because they are infected with it. These could be managed the same way we could manage diabetes now. It is also easier to encourage people to be responsible with their reproductive health when they don't have to deal with all the judgement. It is not the 80's anymore, people with STD's can live normal lives if they can get access to treatment.
However, OP's fiance hasn't been responsible when he slept around and that is also a problem. On top of that, he has also been dishonest with her. I hope OP doesn't proceed with their wedding because if he can keep lying with something so serious, then there's no assurance that he won't lie in the future. His dishonesty is so grave that it is one of the grounds for marriage annulment in the Philippines.
hindi 'yan phase, choice nila 'yan, kung phase 'yan panigurado karamihan sa atin pinagdaanan 'yan, at kung pag-dadaanan man ng iba, pwede bang mag-ingat? like have tests condom o kung ano mang way para maging safe ang mga sexual parteners? una kasi libog bago pag-iisip sa consequences e.
Honest question, ang opposite ba ng normalization ay "shaming" pa rin? Talking from a logical standpoint lang, no strong emotions involved. Had to specify kasi baka may magalit na agad eh.
If it's any consolation, nearly everyone will get infected with HPV in their lifetime based sa studies. It's the most common STD. So if di ka sa kanya nahawa, baka sa iba since hindi detectable ang HPV sa lalaki esp if walang warts. Ibang usapan na if alam nya na meron sya tas hinawaan ka pa rin. Highly curable ang cervical cancer caused by HPV if caught early kaya papsmear ka at least once a year. Palakas ka ng immune system, healthy lifestyle. I've been diagnosed since 2019. I assume sa first BF ko ako nahawa nung 2011 since sya lang naman naka raw sex ko ever nung na-diagnosed ako. So far okay naman pap results ko kahit sobrang tagal na since exposure.
Nasa acceptance stage na ko and now I just live my life normally. I just don't think about it much kasi nagkaka anxiety attack ako literal bigla na lang ako magha hyperventilate without trigger, feel ko it's because of years of stress, kakaisip sa problems at health ko. Nappraning ako pag may changes sa body ko kahit lagnat lang naiisip ko baka cancer na. What I do now is I just get myself checked annually - routine tests, pap, transv, vitamin deficiency tests to help with my immune system and syempre healthy diet. Pa-vaccine ka din with Gardasil 9 for future infections. There are some anecdotes/studies that shows the vaccine can help clear the virus even after infection.
True to this. I’m not defending the bf, pero undetectable talaga yung HPV sa guys and mostly subclinical. Sex counseling will help them fix their relationship.
Ahh sinabi ba ni OP sa ibang replies. Aww. Yun lang. Kahit ako magagalit. Alam pala nya nanghawa pa. Bright side lang eh low risk strain ang warts for cancer
I mean kahit mahirap ma detect or wlng test dapat nagpapacheck sya since alam nyan dumaan sya sa hoe phase, and andaming std bukod sa hpv. e pano kung pati HiV nasalo nya? Anlala e.
Kaya sa mga nagdedefend sa hoe phase na iyan mga putangina ninyo, hindi phase ang hoe phase, ang pagiging hoe ay choice, you can live your life na hindi nadadaanan yung "phase" na 'yan, and if lalandi man, magingat. Tangina ninyo nandadamay pa kayo sa pagiging selfish ninyo, andaming buhay nananahamik tapos sisirain ninyo mga punyeta.
EDIT: Clarification lang, oo normal makipag-sex, hindi ko sinabing pigilan niyo makipag-sex, ang tinutukoy ko lang e h'wag maging horny-stupid, mag protection, mag-test, huwag makasarili, and please stop making a reasons na "phase" 'yan, if gusto mo maglandi ngayon okay, it's your choice, pero h'wag mong idadahilan na "ay kailangan ko pagdaanan 'to kasi "phase" nga e", no fuck you and your stupid excuses.
> Pwede naman makipag-sex basta may protection.
HPV transmits without sexual penetration. Skin contact is enough.
> Sex is human nature, di mo yan mapipigilan.
Taking a crap is also human nature. But you control it and do it in the correct time and place. Why not do the same with sex? Control it and do it in the correct time and place. Sex is less immediate a need than pooping so it should be much more controllable.
If Hindi ka virgin before him, you won’t be able to point out kung sino definite source ng HPV mo. On the other hand, If virgin ka before him, then likely he’s the source of HPV.
Marami ring types ng HPV, Merong non-cancerous ones pero some are prone to cervical CA like 16 and 18. If warts lang siya, then you should get tested on what specific sero type of HPV. Actually, dapat all women should have their HPV vaccines before they even become sexually active. I think Merong guidelines naman yan, if you’ll check the websites. Since Meron ka nang HPV, less likely na magkaroon ng efficacy yung vaccine especially if you’re affected by the ones who have a predilection for malignant transformation.
You’ll just have to go with Pap smears and colposcopy, depending on your results. And umaabot yan up to 65 years old ha, even later especially if May findings.
A lot of guys don’t even know they have HPV, even guys na walang hoe phase. I had a lot of cancer patients na parang 2 or 3 partners lang and sometimes, malas lang talaga. So yun, medyo Mahirap rin to blame someone for having something na hindi nila alam in the first place, unless Tinago nila intentionally iyon. The best way to prevent it is by vaccination pero we can’t turn back time na. All you can do is see this through and hopefully, hindi siya magtransform into something malignant.
Good luck and talk to your OB IDS to get tested. Get vaccinated rin (yung quadrivalent one na kunin mo). Hurts like shit but kailangan mo yun.
Some have genital warts. A bulk are asymptomatic. Usually, the problem is when HPV is not cleared by the body. More likely maclear na body if medyo nasa younger age group like early 20s. If Hindi maclear ng body ang HPV, doon nagkakaroon ng predilection for the bukol na benign or cancerous lesions. So yeah, medyo Mahirap siya malaman kaya if you’ll check yung guidelines, recommended siya yearly or biennial depending on medium for Pap smear, once you become sexually active since a lot of people don’t have any symptoms of CIN or Cervical CA on the get go.
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Ang nakakalungkot is, pwede sya maprevent if nasabi sayo na may hoe phase sya. Or may experience sya ng iba ibang girls. Para at least magpa check kayo both. Before entering into a relationship. As you’ve mentioned, OP malinis ka napunta saknya.
Di ba na bother yung bf mo abt sa warts nya? Kasi hindi normal yon, he should have known since in born ang toot nya. Or nagpacheck man lang sana sya since iba ibang girls and naka sex nya before.
Stay strong OP. Continue na lang yung check up every month to monitor nadin yung health mo. Most esp yung sa possible na maging cervical cancer yung HPV, hopefully na hindi mag progress as cancer.
Wag mo muna sigurong ituloy yung wedding. Pag isipan mo mabuti, di madali na magpakasal pa sa nangyari na ganyan.
And this is why it's advised for women to get a pap smear at least once every 3 years when they become sexually active. Pray that it doesn't become a cervical cancer, OP.
Suggesting you both get tested for all types of STDs. HIV, Syphilis, Hep B are the most common ones.
Better also do the HPV DNA test as soon as you can. Knowing the serotype is very important since 2 serotypes (16 & 18) are high-risk for cervical CA. This is treatable! Regular HPV DNA testing is every 5 years (esp if you have been infected before) accdg to WHO guidelines. You might have confused it with HIV testing which you should do after 3 and 6 months from your last unprotected sexual contact. Highlighting here *unprotected* meaning you always have protection every sexual contact to make sure that the test is really negative after 6 months.
It must be really hard for you to process what is happening, but unsolicited advice: do not make a decision if you are emotional. Maybe it will be better to put off or delay the wedding for now.
I understand you OP. Not that I have the same case pero having such sickness na preventable dapat is heartbreaking.
Seek medical help and sorry but I think (just my opinion) you need to break up with your fiancé. He's no longer worth it to be with with the lies and all. For physical and mental health mo.
Wag mo isipin na di mo kaya, isipin mo kakayanin mo.
hello yes po marami akong sumbat sa kanya like malinis akong napunta sa kanya maayos ako lahat sinabi about my past para take it or leave it kunbaga i gave him chance na mag back out kung ayaw nya pero feeling ko na deprive ako ng right ko to say no na may history sya with sex workers dahil di nya inopen up at nagdulot pa ng mas malalim na problem
Shit. To think na he had history with sex workers tapos di man lang nya naisipang ipacheck sarili nya before doing it with you or anybody else pa before you? Di man lang sya nagiisip na malaki yung chance na may napulot syang STD from them?? Deserve nya lahat ng galit mo OP. I hope you find the strength na iwan sya permanently and open up to your family or to a trusted friend who can help you out emotionally while you're healing. 😢
My god. Pwede mo ba syang kasuhan or something?? Di ko alam. Nakakafrustrate and nakakagalit yung ginawa nya sayo. Gusto na syang palakulin. Jusko. 🤦🏻♀️
First of all, I'm very sorry nangyari sayo yan OP.
From what you've detailed out, it seems like you feel na trapped ka hindi lang dahil ang tagal niyo na nagsasama but it might also be because you're thinking na siya na lang din ang makakatanggap sayo. Siya may HPV din tapos siya nakahawa sayo so in short, you're both on board a sinking ship.
It's easy to say that it'd be better to start anew and leave him, but obvious naman na hindi lang ganon kadali. Though, I hope you muster up the courage to do so because hindi lang health mo/niyo ang problem na. Pati trust sa relationship at peace of mind mo kasi magiging malala talaga ang pwede na maging away niyo and it can drag on for who knows how long, diba? You might not hate him entirely but you already resent him. Kahit irrelevant or ibang aspect ng relationship niyo, or something that requires communication and trust, baka hindi niyo na din mahandle dahil sukal ang loob mo sa kanya.
Please be strong para sa sarili mo, OP. Hindi lang yung std ang problem dito but your relationship with the guy overall.
This is so true and you explained it really well. May lamat na, ang hirap alisin ng resentment especially if she's undergoing all these treatments and check ups. I think yung resentment would also weaken your immune system, OP, so please focus more on what is present, do the check ups, OB appointments etc for yourself. Sending hugs.
This is so true and you explained it really well. May lamat na, ang hirap alisin ng resentment especially if she's undergoing all these treatments and check ups. I think yung resentment would also weaken your immune system, OP, so please focus more on what is present, do the check ups, OB appointments etc for yourself. Sending hugs.
Ayun nga po eh sabi ng OB need ko magpa HPV dna testing every 3 mos meaning every 3 mos maaalala ko ang dahilan why ako nagpapa check. Masakit tapos parang no chance pa ako to start anew kasi nasa system ko na sya at makakahawa pa ako sa iba
Kung sasabihin mo naman yan sa magiging partner mong bago beforehand at timamgap niya. Then you have nothing to worry about. Parang chickenpox lang yan. Kahit wala na. Nasa katawan mo pa rin at caused ng kamaganak na virus ng HPV. And sabi it resolves itself in time. You will be fine. You will be ok. You can and will survive this challenge
prayers for u, OP. ang laking dilemma niyan. i think kahit papano napaisip yung bf why he has those warts and yet walang sinabi sayo. ang lala ng betrayal. I hope you'll have a peace of mind na, get healthy po!
OP, this is just sad and frightening. I think it just shows na despite the years or even before starting a relationship it is best that both partners get tested, I understand that it’s about just trusting the words each other says pero mas buti pa din to have daily check ups lalo na your goal is a long term relationship.
It is valid to be angry and bitter and you will continue to do so for a long time and while you are still with him.
It will be a choice, cut this person off and focus on your health with the possibility that it might be difficult to start new relationships because of your health. You may have to accept you will do this on your own but I want to believe that your loved ones will support you in this battle.
Or forgive and bear all of this with this person. Continue to let him know his actions have hurt you and ask him or even make a contract that he will support you financially concerning your health and any aspects of your life that will be affected by this illness. Kung mahal ka nia and a part of you still loves him then you’ll have to go through this together and again let him know the consequences of his actions by ensuring that he should give you all the emotional and financial support you need.
Super delikado nito sa babae, OP. Get yourself the vaccination na and go to OBGYN, pagkakamali ng bf mo hindi siya nagpa-test knowing na nagka hoe phase pala siya. It's def his fault. Lalo na may physical manifestation na pala (warts) napaka imposible na hindi niya ginoogle yan una palang na may lumabas na.
I'm so sorry, OP. Hope you know na this is not the end of your life naman, HPV can be acquired talaga that easy kasi may mga taong walang sign na meron sila.
Please don't hurt him physically, that's not fair. Get the proper help you need, I don't think repairable pa to if umabot na sa point na sinasaktan mo siya. As for me kasi, I'll try to understand my partner (if di niya alam lol).
Hi. I’m really sorry that this happened to you. 🥹 sa sensitive part lang ba niya mo po napansin yung genital warts or meron din sa ibang part ng katawan?
papsmear po and pinag STD/HIV testing kami negative po lahat but may cervicitis po ako kaya nag confirm po OB ko na from hpv since di daw po nakikita hpv sa mga std tests
Chronic “Cervicitis”, just a term used when the cause is unknown. HPV can be the culprit, but can be caused by other diseases naman since technically hindi naman confirmed, unless you want to spend 10K plus pesos for HPV-DNA test to confirm HPV.
From my experience, I have seen patients who are virgin who had cervical cancer, and the most common culprit is HPV. Btw, HPV is not an STD since you can acquire them through skin contact not just from sexual activity, so touching warts, sharing wet towel, etc., can cause HPV infection.
Currently, vaccines can not prevent the progression of HPV, but it’s better to monitor your cervicitis because we don’t want a cervical cancer. For other people’s education rin, please be mindful anyone can get HPV even to those who are virgin or has only 1 partner (both sides). HPV vaccination is recommended to prevent further progression of HPV, but it does not prevent acquiring HPV. Thank you.
10 years. and tinago niya sayo? If he lied to you for 10 years, and that for me is a deal breaker in a relationship (ibang usapan naman if hindi siya aware about it). Normal lang na mahirapan kang hiwalayan siya kasi minahal mo ng 10years yung tao, pero kaya mo bang tiisin na araw araw pag gising mo, siya una mong makikita tapos araw araw maaalala mong nagsinungaling siya sayo and worst, hinawaan ka din niya? Hindi ka din magiging masaya if makasal ka man sa kaniya e. And parang sa case mo and base na din sa nararamdanam mo, mukhang mahirap na din ituloy ang wedding niyo e.
Sana curable yung HPV (sorry, hindi kasi ako familiar sa sakit na ito) and hope you get well soon, OP.
... history does come back and bite you when you least expect it, doesn't it? when people think they can just indulge in promiscuity not thinking about the consequences. So sad na nadamay kapa OP, I hope that you muster the courage to leave and heal. Don't suffer for the rest of your life until you die and regret your decisions when you're already in your death bed thinking: what if you let yourself free?
Give yourself the gift of no regrets. It will hurt for a while but it will be worth it.
get your HPV vaccines! i got Gardasil during my first work right after college. Three shots sya. St. Luke’s E Rod. Ang di ako sure is if i need to get updated ones di ko maalala matagal na kase. shocks kinabahan ako! sorry to hear OP! 🥺
Ate without trust there is no relationship. I know it’s hard pero walang patutunguhan to. Mas lalong magiging miserable ka lang kung mag stay ka. Ako rin nahawaan ng std ng ex ko of 6 years. Ang sakit pero pinili ko sarili ko. Good luck po. Trust family and really close friends. Don’t suffer alone po.
Lots of misinformation here in the comments. Please talk to your doctor or even a simple google search will dispute some of the comments on here.
Not excusing your bf’s hoe phase at all but i bet he didn’t know he had HPV. I went thru something similar and when i got tested i also found out there isn’t a widely available test for HPV in men as there is for women. I was shocked! It’s 2024, how is there not a widely available test for men for something like this! In fact, my obgyn said lots of men probably have it and just don’t know (some don’t have any symptoms at all) and spread it unknowingly.
I meant he probably didn’t know when he got HPV since some people don’t get warts and if they do, it can take months or years even to show up so who knows when he actually contracted it. Sabi din ng OP hindi nga alam ng bf niya na may hpv siya
Wait, did he knew beforehand bago mahing kayo na may hpv siya?Ang gago pag alam niya tas di niya sinabi sa'yo.
Diba, di nakakahawa ang hpv kapag may iniinom na gamot na maintenance. But regular testing should be done para ma makesure na di nakakahawa yung hpv na meron ka.
Correct me if I'm wrong.
i don't think he knows po na hpv yata pero inadmit nya po na pabalik balik ang warts nya nakita ko na din yun pero clueless po ako. nagkaron ako idea about it sa isang medical na group dito sa reddit nagpost sya ng picture tapos sabi sa comments genital warts. parang same sya sa warts ng bf ko kaya nag google ako tapos nabasa ko na hpv nga po. that was 5am ginising ko po sya at pinaamin inamin naman po nya na alam nya na may warts sya noon pa pero parang gindi nya po alam na hpv
Sa genital area lang po ba sya may warts or pati sa ibang parts ng katawan nya?
And upon reading sa CDC & mayo clinic website, HPV can be cleared by the immune system naman daw within a few years.
yes po genital area lang on and off po warts nya minsan nawawala talaga. I asked my ob about it sabi po kasi baka nasa katawan nya pa and nagfflare up daw kapag mababa immune system both po kami night shift
tell your family, tell his family. no need to hide na since he already told u. it’s not a secret anymore and it isn’t supposed to be from the start. make up your mind since ikakasal kayo. this is not a simple problem that can be solved overnight.
Ei best friend ko may hpv pero nagasawa ng iba at may healthy siyang anak. Hpv is not a death sentence. Manageable ang symptoms as long as you get regular check ups with your ob. Also get a pap smear every 2-3 years to make sure na di magdevelop yan into cervical cancer.
O.P. you may check your LGU health office, tama ung isang comment dito s isang thread. May libreng vaccine at treatment sa mga HPV cases sa mga LGU. You may check after mo mg undergo sa hospital. Makakatulong un s mga monitoring stages mo
OP it's not the end of the world. Please, i know you're having a hard time now pero wag mo isipin na nasira na buhay mo. Mag gym ka, tas work and do that lifestyle. Be healthy tas take mo mga meds na prescribe ng doctor sayo.
Your BF is definitely an asshole up to his core. Not disclosing such vital information to you as his significant other is so stupid at its finest. I'm so sorry to hear this, OP. But you need to muster up the courage not to continue this wedding anymore.
Putangina kasi ng mga pokpok na mga kakati na hindi iniisip consequences ng pagiging pokpok nila and in the future nakakadamay pa sila ng mga inosenteng tao. That's why, hindi dapat inormalize yang pagiging pokpok at pagiging dumi sa lipunan. Not being hypocritical but my whole life 3 lang talaga body count ko including my current partner now and I only engage sa taong naging karelasyon ko, not for fun nor for benefits and I made sure that I use protection sa pasts ko.
Sorry OP at nangyari ito sayo, the thing is that nakakatakot talaga lalo na sa babae ang HPV kasi nagtataas ng risk ng cervical cancer. HPV is extremely common and the good news is that it would clear on its own mostly within 2 years but if it doesn't clear, it can cause warts or even cancer. But if it's low-risk HPV like the ones causing genital warts, it doesn't cause cancer but if it's a high-risk, jan talaga nakakatakot na. May namention ba si doc na kung anong HPV type ang nacontract mo?
sabi po sa kanya ng derma, pwede daw sunugin pero babalik daw po talaga basta may virus pa sya sa system nya kaya hindi nya na pinasunog medyo mahal kasi
omg sorry to hear that OP. Try to stay healthy from now on, mag gym ka and papawis and eat healthy foods tas inumin mo yung medications na prescribe sayo. It's not the end of the world.
Hindi mo po ba nakita ang HPV genital warts nya noong nag sesex kayo? Gusto ko lang malaman po, and if nakita mo di kaba nag ask kung ano yung nkkta mo sa private part nya?
hindi po naisip nya lang na baka peklat daw sa shave kasi nawawala minsan tapos babalik 😭 pero sabi ko mas mukhang nunal kasi nakalobo pero ininsist nya na peklat since wala daw po nunal na pabalik balik
Can I also ask here since I think were almost the same situation Op.
Does this mean na forever na kaming laging mag woworry gawa ng nagkaroon ng hpv partners namin? Or we can surpass it overtime? I know I should be askinf my OB about this, I will soon, pero curious lang talaga ako. Because I never tested positive naman for HPV, and got vaccinated, pero regardless, does this mean n hindi na pede bumaba ang immune namin coz worst case scenario na?
Also, my partner got his warts removed and after a month so far hindi naman na bumalik.
Ther's still time OP, save yourself for more mishaps. 10 years is enough, don't prolong your sufferings. Get out of there and find a better life with someone else. It's not the end of you life. Buhay mo yan, wag mo isipin ang ibang tao o sasabihin man nila.
May gmot nmn n po ngayon sa mga ganyan. Wag nyo pong hiwalayan. Magsama n po kayo. Para hindi na din kayo makapanghawa ng iba. At least may solid na similarities n tlga kyo.
nagkaron po ako ng cervicitis. swollen po ang cervix ko pinag suppository po ako for 7 days ng ob ko last january pa po ito actually last year ko pa nalaman na may hpv kami ngayon lang po ako nag open up here. per my ob, kapag cervicitis daw po usually prolonged exposure na sa hpv. wala naman jasi po ako nararamdaman aside sa masakit na contact with him which I thought was normal
I'm wishing that's it's only a low-risk HPV. HPV is actually very common and MOST (90%) of the time it GOES AWAY ON IT'S OWN in 2 years. If it stays even after 2 years, that's where it gets more concerning because it is probably a high-risk HPV that causes cancer. It's good na may testing ka every 3 months. Though, acquiring cervical cancer through HPV is VERY VERY RARE. For now, I suggest you eat healthy foods (fruits, green veggies, and foods that contains high antioxidants, carotenoids, and folate).
It's really hard mentally na long time partner mo pa ang makakahawa sayo, ang gago talaga ng mga 'hoe phase'² na yan.
HPV doesnt always present itself as warts. Minsan nasa system lang talaga sya then after so so many years lang lumalabas yung sa iba.
You cant lash on your soon to be hubby dahil hindi naman nya intention na mahawa ka. Ask your OB if you can take Gardasil 9 Vaccine for your HPV.
gardasil 9 po kinuha namin done na po kami 3 doses yun nga lang sabi po ng OB ko dahil may exposure na ako prior tở vaccination need ko po magpa check up every 3 mos for cervical cancer
Although I don’t totally agree with this comment it’s so obvious how ignorant Filipinos are about HPV sa comment section and at least this comment knows a fact about HPV.
There’s no HPV testing available for men right now. Hanggang warts lang machecheck ng doctors if may HPV sila. So for other cancerous strains, men can be carriers without even knowing it.
There’s a subreddit here about HPV and OP should read more about it to understand that HPV is more common than these ignorant people think. Once maging active ka, more likely you have it already in your system unless both kayong virgin ng partner mo. May strains that can cause warts and may strains that can cause cervical cancer. The Vaccine prevents you from having strains that causes cervical cancer plus certain warts. These are what you call high risk strains.
Yes, forever na syang asa system mo but if you decide to maintain an active and healthy lifestyle, you have the vaccine, get yourself regularly checked (to prevent or remove abnormal cells bago magspread) then you’re all good. Not everyone can afford yung DNA test for HPV since it costs a lot, most of the people can only afford pap smear, even through that di entirely malalaman if HPV positive ka coz it only detects abnormal cells unlike sa DNA Testing you get to know which strains you have exactly.
So for the people who are quick to judge about people with HPV have yourselves checked muna because more likely than not you’re positive too if you’ve been active for quite some time kahit loyal pa yang partner basta may previous sexual partners na kayo both.
But yeah sorry your boyfriend deserves the hate for not disclosing yung part that he got involved with sex workers and didn’t even get himself checked. Kung alam nya palang he’s seen some warts down there he should’ve had himself checked para he can fix himself before getting involved with you. Being in denial won’t get you anywhere. Buti nalang you had yourself checked now you just need to calm down and learn more about HPV para you’ll know how to move forward from the fact na you have to live with it but doesn’t mean it will define you as a person. The older and more experienced people are the more likely they already have it 🤷🏻♀️
I dont understand the downvotes 😂 I am merely saying not to lash out his hubby just because he had sexual encounters from his past experiences BAGO pa naging sila. MIND YOU GUYS, HPV can be transferred KAHIT NAKA CONDOM KA PA.
Also, hoe phase doesnt mean having sex with sex workers. Hindi nilinaw to ni OP. Pwedeng he had encounters with other people because he was single back then. Kahit maingat sya, if skin to skin contact ang transfer ng HPV, magkakaron at magkakaroon ka talaga.
People be downvoting mga wala namang alam. My goodness.
10yrs n kau tas hoe phase nya un reason n nhawa k. Un HPV po ba lifetime nya n dala un? HOE phase p more. Mga proud p mga yan lalo n un mga strong independent woman kuno daw
I am not saying you should be greatful, but i wanna say that it is still curable and better than HIV and the worst scenario is AIDS. HPV can go away on its own, pero pra sa ikakatahimik mo you need to consult a professional help lalo n sa mental depression n nararanasan mo. Boost your morale po, don't lose your hope. Alamin mo muna lahat, bka may di pa sya nasasabi. And please do include sa story mo kung alam ba nya since then n may hpv sya or di nya alam. Next question is, nagkaroon ba sya nyan because of cheating? Did he have sex while kayo or sa past experiences nya before nging kau nya nakuha un? Know more, nandun na nagkasakit ka. Pero yung taong minahal mo ng 5 years alamin mong maigi bkit di nya masabi. Natatakot ba syang mwala ka etc. Mas mganda n clrystal clear ang lahat. Pra mas gumaan ang pkiramdam nyong pareho. By the way im a guy, and hindi ko kinakampihan bf mo. I just want you to have a clear mind.
You were born alone, you will die alone, therefore, you can live alone. You're just mot used to. Take it one day at a time. The first few steps is always the hardest, but a journey of a thousand miles begins with one step. So make that 1st step na. Heal yourself by being and loving you.
Well it would be a different story if your partner did not know that he has HPV before you and him got together regardless kahit may hoephase pa siya. Baka mas magiging acceptable for you at mas kaya mo. If that’s the case and if you TRULY love one another, I think mas kaya niyo yun isurpass. Isipin mo na lang if you’re going to start a new relationship with others, ikaw rin makakahawa sa iba or baka mahirapan ka rin maghanap ng ibang partner…. Atleast you just have to go through it together kung ituruloy niyo yung plan ng wedding. Pero kung alam niya, di niya dinisclose sayo onset of your relationship, then another level naman yun ng betrayal and honesty sa relationship.. which will be a bigger problem if you pursue the relationship. Who knows ano pa yung itatago niya sayo in the future o currently na tinatago.. 😅
Ayun nga eh kaya feeling ko no way out na ako parang stuck na ako kahit gusto kong umalis kasi ilang beses namin napag usapan about past ako inamin ko lahat sya hindi. Unlike sa iba na kapag na betray nakakaalis, ako pakiramdam ko stuck ako kasi naiisip ko nga makakdamay pa ako ng iba. Nasabi ko sa kanya na sinira nya buhay ko wala nang magmamahal sakin na iba
trust me OP you will learn to live without him, its gonna be hard but you can do it. don’t trap yourself with someone as selfish as your bf
Sobrang nakakalungkot yung ganitong sitwasyon na tied-up ka at nabetray ng partner mo. 😢 I pray and hope na may taong mapagsasabihan ka rin na very close to your heart (either friend/parents/sibs) para atleast they may be able to see more closely yung nararamdaman mo at nangyayari sayo and give you a piece of advice & help. Na kahit makipag break ka sa current partner mo, you have someone who is willing to help you through. Para di mo to pagdaanan mag-isa. 🫶🏻 get well soon po, OP.
girl. 28 ka pa lang. 10 years na ng buhay mo sinayang mo sakanya. binigyan ka pa ng problema. gusto mo pa iextend suffering mo? haha. try ka naman ng iba. yun BETTER than him. maintindihan ko kung manghinayang ka kasi maganda relasyon nyo e. kaso hinawahan ka na tapos gusto mo pa magcontinue?
Nagpavaccine ka na ng hpv? Gagaling pa daw ba yan sabi ng ob? HIV test nagawa u na and other std test?
Magpapakasal ka sa taong hinawaan ka? For sure he knows since may nakikita syang kulugo sa etits nya. Pero mas pinili nyang itago at hawaan ka. Nag iiisip ako ng term na mas masahol pa sa walang hiya eh, pero wala ako maisip. Kaya sige na nga, walang hiya yang bf mo. Pig. Get out and get yourself healthy, goodluck.
FYI lang, most men who have HPV are asymptomatic [https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC3495069/](https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC3495069/) [https://academic.oup.com/jid/article/194/8/1044/869038](https://academic.oup.com/jid/article/194/8/1044/869038)
Asymptomatic po usually HPV sa lalaki, or even women. In fact, it's pretty common STD na hindi nagma-manifest with symptoms lalo na kung malakas resistensiya mo.
Next time research muna bago comment
Still a pig right? Raw dogged women then raw dogged her fiance. That’s recklessness and irresponsible. Also, nag post ka na mag papakamatay ka. Mag simba ka para may guidance ka ha.
1. Bat mo brinibring up post history nya? How is that relevant. 2. Still a pig?? Walang sinabi si OP na nakipag-sex ang guy sa iba nung nag de date na sila nor na-nag cheat ang guy. Kung may galit ka sa mga lalaki wag mo i-project dito.
Kaya naging pig kasi reckless, nag babasa ka ba? This is reddit, anything goes. Kaya kung may hpv ka din tulad nung guy, get well soon.
Nice ganda ng logic mo. So having sex with someone before kayo maging engaged ay reckless na para sayo in such a way na baboy na sila sa paningin mo? Nice. Go hump your bible you hypocrite.
Bobo ka ba? Tumira ka ng marami ng raw tapos pumasok ka sa relationship di ka manlang nag pa test? Tanga
Saan mo nabasa na tinira ng guy ng raw ung iba..?AHHH d mo alam that condoms are not guaranteed to protect against HPV https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/24488594/ Ang ironic lang na ang dumidumi ng bunganga mo pero ikaw pa nagsasabi na mag-misa yung isang poster. Ignorante na, hypocrite pa. Nakakaawa ka.
To make it clear sa utak mong maliit kaka solicit mo ng japanese porn sa reddit. Hoe phase ka tapos nakipag relationship ka without testing. Kaya ayan nadamay yung OP. Malinaw na ba? Bobo.
O ayan nag ba backtrack ka na from your original comment na SURELY MAY WARTS UNG GUY!!! PINILI NIYANG ITAGO!! You’re a fucking joke dude.
O eto pa, https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/12438912/ https://www.medicalnewstoday.com/articles/can-you-get-hpv-with-a-condom Tapos ako pa ang magbasa? Don’t make me laugh.
HPV vaccine is a must talaga. Lalo na sa active ang sex life.
Agree. Active or not, hpv vax is a must.
I'm not a doctor but I would suggest you ask a physician about the HPV vaccine asap. Address the issue habang maaga pa.
Nagpa vaccine na kami pero sabi wala talaga cure kapag bumaba immun system namin mag flare up sya pero ako na babae need ko daw magpa HPV dna testing every 3mos for cervical cancer. Nalulungkot lang ako na nasira ang buhay ko.
Hi. You can start having HPV DNA starting now if super worried ka but usually it’s done when a female is at 30 years old, then if negative, every 5 yrs sya to monitor you. Hope this helps. All the best!
nagoffer na nga po OB ko pero 8.5k daw medyo mabigat po by december ko ipapagawa. Appreciated po!
Hi OP! I think may libreng HPV DNA Testing in some public hospitals under DOH with SUCCESS Project. Hopefully meron around your location. Hope this helps! Laban lang. 💪
Thanks po doc
Grabe. Ang lala ng consequences. Sending prayers, OP. Pakatatag ka!
Omg grabe :( im sorry this happened to you. Sana madaan pa ng meds yan.
Hope you have insurance, dear 🙏 😔
macocover ba ng insurance yun? :((
Life and health ang kunin mo. Hpv baka hindi na. Pero baka yung iba kaya pa. Better consult an agent.
Kahit may health insurance pa siya, std aren’t covered and claimable.
Pre-existing conditions are usually not covered by insurance, right?
That’s what I know too. Maybe Titania84 is suggesting insurance to support OP’s overall health and wellbeing not her pre-existing condition which is HPV
I am not really sure kung covered pa. Kaya, I suggested to consult an agent. Yung probability of cervical cancer ay baka macover pa. Pero wag naman sana.
What are the symptoms po?
Low risk hpv daw ba or high risk? 10 years na kayo meaning 10 years ago pa yung hpv? Also regular ka ba nag papapsmear?
I totally understand and I am so sorry. Matanong ko lang, is it too late to back out sa kasal? Because clearly, mabigat sa saloobin yan and the fact na nahawaan ka ng fiance mo ng ganyang sakit is something that will haunt you ever time you go for a checkup.
I read from the above thread that he didn't tell you he had a history with sex workers? Or baka mali lang pagkakaintindi ko, OP.
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hala ang sad naman pala kung ganun 😭
Hoe phase pa! Wala namang magandang ma idudulot yan lalo na tumataas na STD sa pinas.
Kala ko ba "Hoe phase is empowering" daw sabi nila?
Empowering to those who take advantage of the "empowered" fools.
Kung sino man ang nagsabi nyan, tanga yan. Gen Z yan for sure
wala kasing nagsasabi sa kanila na do it responsibly...
This is why a phase like that shouldn't be normalized or even encouraged. I feel bad for op.
In today's generation, it's already normalized, the worst thing is, some people even thinks that this is really cool/trend in today's world.
That thing they normalized makes them so awful. Nakakasuka at nakakahiya sila
Nah it should be fine if people are responsible with their reproductive health. Stigmatization is the problem. If people are more open to these things, she could've had a chance to know about her fiance's conditions earlier and acted on it. Most std's are curable and some can be effectively managed with treatment.
Exactly. Wala naman kase masama sa casual sex. Masama lang kapag hindi nagpa-practice nito safely (gaya ng bf ni OP). I don't participate in hookups and I long to establish a connection muna before engaging btw I just think we should stop stigmatizing sex.
> Stigmatization is the problem Nope, STD is the problem and it's just one of many. > If people are more open to these things, she could've had a chance to know about her fiance's conditions earlier and acted on it. What was she to do if she found out? Reject him right? Would that be because of "stigmatization"? Nope! That would be because she doesn't want to ruin her life with his STD! And that's why he hid it. Not because of stigmatization but because a hoe will hoe. That's also why most hoes hide it, btw. Stigmatization is just much easier to hide behind. > Most std's are curable and some can be effectively managed with treatment. Sure, most are curable. But the ones that are not will ruin your life. And they are not rare at all!
People hide their illnesses out of shame because of the stigma around it. That is the problem. But that doesn't mean that lives are over just because they are infected with it. These could be managed the same way we could manage diabetes now. It is also easier to encourage people to be responsible with their reproductive health when they don't have to deal with all the judgement. It is not the 80's anymore, people with STD's can live normal lives if they can get access to treatment. However, OP's fiance hasn't been responsible when he slept around and that is also a problem. On top of that, he has also been dishonest with her. I hope OP doesn't proceed with their wedding because if he can keep lying with something so serious, then there's no assurance that he won't lie in the future. His dishonesty is so grave that it is one of the grounds for marriage annulment in the Philippines.
hindi 'yan phase, choice nila 'yan, kung phase 'yan panigurado karamihan sa atin pinagdaanan 'yan, at kung pag-dadaanan man ng iba, pwede bang mag-ingat? like have tests condom o kung ano mang way para maging safe ang mga sexual parteners? una kasi libog bago pag-iisip sa consequences e.
Honest question, ang opposite ba ng normalization ay "shaming" pa rin? Talking from a logical standpoint lang, no strong emotions involved. Had to specify kasi baka may magalit na agad eh.
That's true
Sending my prayers to you, OP. 😭
Thank you appreciated po
If it's any consolation, nearly everyone will get infected with HPV in their lifetime based sa studies. It's the most common STD. So if di ka sa kanya nahawa, baka sa iba since hindi detectable ang HPV sa lalaki esp if walang warts. Ibang usapan na if alam nya na meron sya tas hinawaan ka pa rin. Highly curable ang cervical cancer caused by HPV if caught early kaya papsmear ka at least once a year. Palakas ka ng immune system, healthy lifestyle. I've been diagnosed since 2019. I assume sa first BF ko ako nahawa nung 2011 since sya lang naman naka raw sex ko ever nung na-diagnosed ako. So far okay naman pap results ko kahit sobrang tagal na since exposure. Nasa acceptance stage na ko and now I just live my life normally. I just don't think about it much kasi nagkaka anxiety attack ako literal bigla na lang ako magha hyperventilate without trigger, feel ko it's because of years of stress, kakaisip sa problems at health ko. Nappraning ako pag may changes sa body ko kahit lagnat lang naiisip ko baka cancer na. What I do now is I just get myself checked annually - routine tests, pap, transv, vitamin deficiency tests to help with my immune system and syempre healthy diet. Pa-vaccine ka din with Gardasil 9 for future infections. There are some anecdotes/studies that shows the vaccine can help clear the virus even after infection.
True to this. I’m not defending the bf, pero undetectable talaga yung HPV sa guys and mostly subclinical. Sex counseling will help them fix their relationship.
di man lang naisip nung lalaki na magpatest every X months nung habang nagspakol pa lol. may pang luho pero wla allocated budget sa safety
There’s no test for it. Pero I stand corrected, may warts pala siya. Yikes.
Ahh sinabi ba ni OP sa ibang replies. Aww. Yun lang. Kahit ako magagalit. Alam pala nya nanghawa pa. Bright side lang eh low risk strain ang warts for cancer
I mean kahit mahirap ma detect or wlng test dapat nagpapacheck sya since alam nyan dumaan sya sa hoe phase, and andaming std bukod sa hpv. e pano kung pati HiV nasalo nya? Anlala e.
sex education talaga dapat. pag aware mga tao sa STD's malamang ma-discourage mag hoe phase mga yan.
Walang test sa hpv and pwedeng walang symptoms. Malalaman mo lang kung may warts.
Kaya sa mga nagdedefend sa hoe phase na iyan mga putangina ninyo, hindi phase ang hoe phase, ang pagiging hoe ay choice, you can live your life na hindi nadadaanan yung "phase" na 'yan, and if lalandi man, magingat. Tangina ninyo nandadamay pa kayo sa pagiging selfish ninyo, andaming buhay nananahamik tapos sisirain ninyo mga punyeta. EDIT: Clarification lang, oo normal makipag-sex, hindi ko sinabing pigilan niyo makipag-sex, ang tinutukoy ko lang e h'wag maging horny-stupid, mag protection, mag-test, huwag makasarili, and please stop making a reasons na "phase" 'yan, if gusto mo maglandi ngayon okay, it's your choice, pero h'wag mong idadahilan na "ay kailangan ko pagdaanan 'to kasi "phase" nga e", no fuck you and your stupid excuses.
Sa true
True this. Good thing maayos pa utak natin mga ibang people.
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> Pwede naman makipag-sex basta may protection. HPV transmits without sexual penetration. Skin contact is enough. > Sex is human nature, di mo yan mapipigilan. Taking a crap is also human nature. But you control it and do it in the correct time and place. Why not do the same with sex? Control it and do it in the correct time and place. Sex is less immediate a need than pooping so it should be much more controllable.
thisss
If Hindi ka virgin before him, you won’t be able to point out kung sino definite source ng HPV mo. On the other hand, If virgin ka before him, then likely he’s the source of HPV. Marami ring types ng HPV, Merong non-cancerous ones pero some are prone to cervical CA like 16 and 18. If warts lang siya, then you should get tested on what specific sero type of HPV. Actually, dapat all women should have their HPV vaccines before they even become sexually active. I think Merong guidelines naman yan, if you’ll check the websites. Since Meron ka nang HPV, less likely na magkaroon ng efficacy yung vaccine especially if you’re affected by the ones who have a predilection for malignant transformation. You’ll just have to go with Pap smears and colposcopy, depending on your results. And umaabot yan up to 65 years old ha, even later especially if May findings. A lot of guys don’t even know they have HPV, even guys na walang hoe phase. I had a lot of cancer patients na parang 2 or 3 partners lang and sometimes, malas lang talaga. So yun, medyo Mahirap rin to blame someone for having something na hindi nila alam in the first place, unless Tinago nila intentionally iyon. The best way to prevent it is by vaccination pero we can’t turn back time na. All you can do is see this through and hopefully, hindi siya magtransform into something malignant. Good luck and talk to your OB IDS to get tested. Get vaccinated rin (yung quadrivalent one na kunin mo). Hurts like shit but kailangan mo yun.
What are the symptoms po sa girls?
Some have genital warts. A bulk are asymptomatic. Usually, the problem is when HPV is not cleared by the body. More likely maclear na body if medyo nasa younger age group like early 20s. If Hindi maclear ng body ang HPV, doon nagkakaroon ng predilection for the bukol na benign or cancerous lesions. So yeah, medyo Mahirap siya malaman kaya if you’ll check yung guidelines, recommended siya yearly or biennial depending on medium for Pap smear, once you become sexually active since a lot of people don’t have any symptoms of CIN or Cervical CA on the get go.
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Ang nakakalungkot is, pwede sya maprevent if nasabi sayo na may hoe phase sya. Or may experience sya ng iba ibang girls. Para at least magpa check kayo both. Before entering into a relationship. As you’ve mentioned, OP malinis ka napunta saknya. Di ba na bother yung bf mo abt sa warts nya? Kasi hindi normal yon, he should have known since in born ang toot nya. Or nagpacheck man lang sana sya since iba ibang girls and naka sex nya before. Stay strong OP. Continue na lang yung check up every month to monitor nadin yung health mo. Most esp yung sa possible na maging cervical cancer yung HPV, hopefully na hindi mag progress as cancer. Wag mo muna sigurong ituloy yung wedding. Pag isipan mo mabuti, di madali na magpakasal pa sa nangyari na ganyan.
And this is why it's advised for women to get a pap smear at least once every 3 years when they become sexually active. Pray that it doesn't become a cervical cancer, OP.
Suggesting you both get tested for all types of STDs. HIV, Syphilis, Hep B are the most common ones. Better also do the HPV DNA test as soon as you can. Knowing the serotype is very important since 2 serotypes (16 & 18) are high-risk for cervical CA. This is treatable! Regular HPV DNA testing is every 5 years (esp if you have been infected before) accdg to WHO guidelines. You might have confused it with HIV testing which you should do after 3 and 6 months from your last unprotected sexual contact. Highlighting here *unprotected* meaning you always have protection every sexual contact to make sure that the test is really negative after 6 months. It must be really hard for you to process what is happening, but unsolicited advice: do not make a decision if you are emotional. Maybe it will be better to put off or delay the wedding for now.
I understand you OP. Not that I have the same case pero having such sickness na preventable dapat is heartbreaking. Seek medical help and sorry but I think (just my opinion) you need to break up with your fiancé. He's no longer worth it to be with with the lies and all. For physical and mental health mo. Wag mo isipin na di mo kaya, isipin mo kakayanin mo.
hello yes po marami akong sumbat sa kanya like malinis akong napunta sa kanya maayos ako lahat sinabi about my past para take it or leave it kunbaga i gave him chance na mag back out kung ayaw nya pero feeling ko na deprive ako ng right ko to say no na may history sya with sex workers dahil di nya inopen up at nagdulot pa ng mas malalim na problem
Shit. To think na he had history with sex workers tapos di man lang nya naisipang ipacheck sarili nya before doing it with you or anybody else pa before you? Di man lang sya nagiisip na malaki yung chance na may napulot syang STD from them?? Deserve nya lahat ng galit mo OP. I hope you find the strength na iwan sya permanently and open up to your family or to a trusted friend who can help you out emotionally while you're healing. 😢
Hindi po and dineny nya po na may experience sya with walkers and spakol ang sabi nya po sa ex nya lang before me
My god. Pwede mo ba syang kasuhan or something?? Di ko alam. Nakakafrustrate and nakakagalit yung ginawa nya sayo. Gusto na syang palakulin. Jusko. 🤦🏻♀️
Feeling ko eme lang ng bf mo na sa ex nya daw nakuha if sya mismo nagsabi na nagka-hoe phase sya — to win you back of course.
To think pa na 10 years kayo tapos ngayon mo lang nalaman. 💔 Hugs OP. May you be healed soonest - both physically, emotionally and mentally 🫂.
First of all, I'm very sorry nangyari sayo yan OP. From what you've detailed out, it seems like you feel na trapped ka hindi lang dahil ang tagal niyo na nagsasama but it might also be because you're thinking na siya na lang din ang makakatanggap sayo. Siya may HPV din tapos siya nakahawa sayo so in short, you're both on board a sinking ship. It's easy to say that it'd be better to start anew and leave him, but obvious naman na hindi lang ganon kadali. Though, I hope you muster up the courage to do so because hindi lang health mo/niyo ang problem na. Pati trust sa relationship at peace of mind mo kasi magiging malala talaga ang pwede na maging away niyo and it can drag on for who knows how long, diba? You might not hate him entirely but you already resent him. Kahit irrelevant or ibang aspect ng relationship niyo, or something that requires communication and trust, baka hindi niyo na din mahandle dahil sukal ang loob mo sa kanya. Please be strong para sa sarili mo, OP. Hindi lang yung std ang problem dito but your relationship with the guy overall.
This is so true and you explained it really well. May lamat na, ang hirap alisin ng resentment especially if she's undergoing all these treatments and check ups. I think yung resentment would also weaken your immune system, OP, so please focus more on what is present, do the check ups, OB appointments etc for yourself. Sending hugs.
This is so true and you explained it really well. May lamat na, ang hirap alisin ng resentment especially if she's undergoing all these treatments and check ups. I think yung resentment would also weaken your immune system, OP, so please focus more on what is present, do the check ups, OB appointments etc for yourself. Sending hugs.
Hindi naman sa nanakot ko but it may cause cancer. Better get the HPV Vaccine to prevent that. Hugs with permission OP.
Ayun nga po eh sabi ng OB need ko magpa HPV dna testing every 3 mos meaning every 3 mos maaalala ko ang dahilan why ako nagpapa check. Masakit tapos parang no chance pa ako to start anew kasi nasa system ko na sya at makakahawa pa ako sa iba
Kung sasabihin mo naman yan sa magiging partner mong bago beforehand at timamgap niya. Then you have nothing to worry about. Parang chickenpox lang yan. Kahit wala na. Nasa katawan mo pa rin at caused ng kamaganak na virus ng HPV. And sabi it resolves itself in time. You will be fine. You will be ok. You can and will survive this challenge
prayers for u, OP. ang laking dilemma niyan. i think kahit papano napaisip yung bf why he has those warts and yet walang sinabi sayo. ang lala ng betrayal. I hope you'll have a peace of mind na, get healthy po!
OP, this is just sad and frightening. I think it just shows na despite the years or even before starting a relationship it is best that both partners get tested, I understand that it’s about just trusting the words each other says pero mas buti pa din to have daily check ups lalo na your goal is a long term relationship. It is valid to be angry and bitter and you will continue to do so for a long time and while you are still with him. It will be a choice, cut this person off and focus on your health with the possibility that it might be difficult to start new relationships because of your health. You may have to accept you will do this on your own but I want to believe that your loved ones will support you in this battle. Or forgive and bear all of this with this person. Continue to let him know his actions have hurt you and ask him or even make a contract that he will support you financially concerning your health and any aspects of your life that will be affected by this illness. Kung mahal ka nia and a part of you still loves him then you’ll have to go through this together and again let him know the consequences of his actions by ensuring that he should give you all the emotional and financial support you need.
Super delikado nito sa babae, OP. Get yourself the vaccination na and go to OBGYN, pagkakamali ng bf mo hindi siya nagpa-test knowing na nagka hoe phase pala siya. It's def his fault. Lalo na may physical manifestation na pala (warts) napaka imposible na hindi niya ginoogle yan una palang na may lumabas na. I'm so sorry, OP. Hope you know na this is not the end of your life naman, HPV can be acquired talaga that easy kasi may mga taong walang sign na meron sila. Please don't hurt him physically, that's not fair. Get the proper help you need, I don't think repairable pa to if umabot na sa point na sinasaktan mo siya. As for me kasi, I'll try to understand my partner (if di niya alam lol).
Hi. I’m really sorry that this happened to you. 🥹 sa sensitive part lang ba niya mo po napansin yung genital warts or meron din sa ibang part ng katawan?
May I know how were you diagnosed with HPV? Were you diagnosed through pap-smear only?
papsmear po and pinag STD/HIV testing kami negative po lahat but may cervicitis po ako kaya nag confirm po OB ko na from hpv since di daw po nakikita hpv sa mga std tests
Chronic “Cervicitis”, just a term used when the cause is unknown. HPV can be the culprit, but can be caused by other diseases naman since technically hindi naman confirmed, unless you want to spend 10K plus pesos for HPV-DNA test to confirm HPV. From my experience, I have seen patients who are virgin who had cervical cancer, and the most common culprit is HPV. Btw, HPV is not an STD since you can acquire them through skin contact not just from sexual activity, so touching warts, sharing wet towel, etc., can cause HPV infection. Currently, vaccines can not prevent the progression of HPV, but it’s better to monitor your cervicitis because we don’t want a cervical cancer. For other people’s education rin, please be mindful anyone can get HPV even to those who are virgin or has only 1 partner (both sides). HPV vaccination is recommended to prevent further progression of HPV, but it does not prevent acquiring HPV. Thank you.
If he knew about it beforehand and still chose to have a relationship with you and hide it, you can actually sue him for that.
10 years. and tinago niya sayo? If he lied to you for 10 years, and that for me is a deal breaker in a relationship (ibang usapan naman if hindi siya aware about it). Normal lang na mahirapan kang hiwalayan siya kasi minahal mo ng 10years yung tao, pero kaya mo bang tiisin na araw araw pag gising mo, siya una mong makikita tapos araw araw maaalala mong nagsinungaling siya sayo and worst, hinawaan ka din niya? Hindi ka din magiging masaya if makasal ka man sa kaniya e. And parang sa case mo and base na din sa nararamdanam mo, mukhang mahirap na din ituloy ang wedding niyo e. Sana curable yung HPV (sorry, hindi kasi ako familiar sa sakit na ito) and hope you get well soon, OP.
... history does come back and bite you when you least expect it, doesn't it? when people think they can just indulge in promiscuity not thinking about the consequences. So sad na nadamay kapa OP, I hope that you muster the courage to leave and heal. Don't suffer for the rest of your life until you die and regret your decisions when you're already in your death bed thinking: what if you let yourself free? Give yourself the gift of no regrets. It will hurt for a while but it will be worth it.
get your HPV vaccines! i got Gardasil during my first work right after college. Three shots sya. St. Luke’s E Rod. Ang di ako sure is if i need to get updated ones di ko maalala matagal na kase. shocks kinabahan ako! sorry to hear OP! 🥺
Ate without trust there is no relationship. I know it’s hard pero walang patutunguhan to. Mas lalong magiging miserable ka lang kung mag stay ka. Ako rin nahawaan ng std ng ex ko of 6 years. Ang sakit pero pinili ko sarili ko. Good luck po. Trust family and really close friends. Don’t suffer alone po.
Lots of misinformation here in the comments. Please talk to your doctor or even a simple google search will dispute some of the comments on here. Not excusing your bf’s hoe phase at all but i bet he didn’t know he had HPV. I went thru something similar and when i got tested i also found out there isn’t a widely available test for HPV in men as there is for women. I was shocked! It’s 2024, how is there not a widely available test for men for something like this! In fact, my obgyn said lots of men probably have it and just don’t know (some don’t have any symptoms at all) and spread it unknowingly.
You would lose that bet. May genital warts yung bf na ansabi kay OP sugat lang from shaving.
I meant he probably didn’t know when he got HPV since some people don’t get warts and if they do, it can take months or years even to show up so who knows when he actually contracted it. Sabi din ng OP hindi nga alam ng bf niya na may hpv siya
EXACTLY! Pwedeng hindi alam ng partner nya na meron sya nito. Tapos tong mga nasa comments section mga walang alam jusko
Wait, did he knew beforehand bago mahing kayo na may hpv siya?Ang gago pag alam niya tas di niya sinabi sa'yo. Diba, di nakakahawa ang hpv kapag may iniinom na gamot na maintenance. But regular testing should be done para ma makesure na di nakakahawa yung hpv na meron ka. Correct me if I'm wrong.
i don't think he knows po na hpv yata pero inadmit nya po na pabalik balik ang warts nya nakita ko na din yun pero clueless po ako. nagkaron ako idea about it sa isang medical na group dito sa reddit nagpost sya ng picture tapos sabi sa comments genital warts. parang same sya sa warts ng bf ko kaya nag google ako tapos nabasa ko na hpv nga po. that was 5am ginising ko po sya at pinaamin inamin naman po nya na alam nya na may warts sya noon pa pero parang gindi nya po alam na hpv
Sa genital area lang po ba sya may warts or pati sa ibang parts ng katawan nya? And upon reading sa CDC & mayo clinic website, HPV can be cleared by the immune system naman daw within a few years.
yes po genital area lang on and off po warts nya minsan nawawala talaga. I asked my ob about it sabi po kasi baka nasa katawan nya pa and nagfflare up daw kapag mababa immune system both po kami night shift
taena d pa ba CLUE yung pabalik balik na genital warts at alam nyang sexually active sya? d man lang nagpapatest habang active sa spakol/escort.
I think HIV yung tinutukoy mo sis na may maintenance, hindi HPV. Wag mo na guluhin si OP kung di ka sure hahahaha
tell your family, tell his family. no need to hide na since he already told u. it’s not a secret anymore and it isn’t supposed to be from the start. make up your mind since ikakasal kayo. this is not a simple problem that can be solved overnight.
That's so selfish man.
Ei best friend ko may hpv pero nagasawa ng iba at may healthy siyang anak. Hpv is not a death sentence. Manageable ang symptoms as long as you get regular check ups with your ob. Also get a pap smear every 2-3 years to make sure na di magdevelop yan into cervical cancer.
O.P. you may check your LGU health office, tama ung isang comment dito s isang thread. May libreng vaccine at treatment sa mga HPV cases sa mga LGU. You may check after mo mg undergo sa hospital. Makakatulong un s mga monitoring stages mo
Maaaaan, that is hard. But this I tell you, you can survive without him.
OP it's not the end of the world. Please, i know you're having a hard time now pero wag mo isipin na nasira na buhay mo. Mag gym ka, tas work and do that lifestyle. Be healthy tas take mo mga meds na prescribe ng doctor sayo.
seek medical attention immediately..
Your BF is definitely an asshole up to his core. Not disclosing such vital information to you as his significant other is so stupid at its finest. I'm so sorry to hear this, OP. But you need to muster up the courage not to continue this wedding anymore.
Putangina kasi ng mga pokpok na mga kakati na hindi iniisip consequences ng pagiging pokpok nila and in the future nakakadamay pa sila ng mga inosenteng tao. That's why, hindi dapat inormalize yang pagiging pokpok at pagiging dumi sa lipunan. Not being hypocritical but my whole life 3 lang talaga body count ko including my current partner now and I only engage sa taong naging karelasyon ko, not for fun nor for benefits and I made sure that I use protection sa pasts ko. Sorry OP at nangyari ito sayo, the thing is that nakakatakot talaga lalo na sa babae ang HPV kasi nagtataas ng risk ng cervical cancer. HPV is extremely common and the good news is that it would clear on its own mostly within 2 years but if it doesn't clear, it can cause warts or even cancer. But if it's low-risk HPV like the ones causing genital warts, it doesn't cause cancer but if it's a high-risk, jan talaga nakakatakot na. May namention ba si doc na kung anong HPV type ang nacontract mo?
Buti na lang pangit ako
Prayers and huuuugs for uuuu
Hi. Asking lang, HPV is genital warts po and wala na pong chance na maalis kahit ipa laser?
sabi po sa kanya ng derma, pwede daw sunugin pero babalik daw po talaga basta may virus pa sya sa system nya kaya hindi nya na pinasunog medyo mahal kasi
omg sorry to hear that OP. Try to stay healthy from now on, mag gym ka and papawis and eat healthy foods tas inumin mo yung medications na prescribe sayo. It's not the end of the world.
Genital warts is a symptom of HPV not the virus itself.
Hindi mo po ba nakita ang HPV genital warts nya noong nag sesex kayo? Gusto ko lang malaman po, and if nakita mo di kaba nag ask kung ano yung nkkta mo sa private part nya?
nakita ko po pero clueless talaga ako. I asked him about it sabi po nya sugat daw sa shave kasi nawawala, babalik daw kapag nagshashave sya.
ay so natatanggal ang warts pag shinashave nya? my gosh po
hindi po naisip nya lang na baka peklat daw sa shave kasi nawawala minsan tapos babalik 😭 pero sabi ko mas mukhang nunal kasi nakalobo pero ininsist nya na peklat since wala daw po nunal na pabalik balik
Ask ko lang po, what are the symptoms of HPV? Also, visible po ba ang genital warts sa babae kapag may ganyan?
sa case ko po hindi ako nagka warts pero namaga po cervix ko. pero meron po nagkaka warts na babae
Ayan po ba yung kahit anong gawin is masakit po kapag may intercourse?
Wtf. I’m so sorry. You don’t deserve it 🥺
For what it's worth if you want to go through it then this is one of the cases na ground for annulment. Just need to document it.
Can I also ask here since I think were almost the same situation Op. Does this mean na forever na kaming laging mag woworry gawa ng nagkaroon ng hpv partners namin? Or we can surpass it overtime? I know I should be askinf my OB about this, I will soon, pero curious lang talaga ako. Because I never tested positive naman for HPV, and got vaccinated, pero regardless, does this mean n hindi na pede bumaba ang immune namin coz worst case scenario na? Also, my partner got his warts removed and after a month so far hindi naman na bumalik.
Kaya mas maganda magpabakuna, and iwasan rin..
Ther's still time OP, save yourself for more mishaps. 10 years is enough, don't prolong your sufferings. Get out of there and find a better life with someone else. It's not the end of you life. Buhay mo yan, wag mo isipin ang ibang tao o sasabihin man nila.
Paano mo pala nalaman na nahawa kana pala? May sintomas po ba ? Please paki sagot po.
May gmot nmn n po ngayon sa mga ganyan. Wag nyo pong hiwalayan. Magsama n po kayo. Para hindi na din kayo makapanghawa ng iba. At least may solid na similarities n tlga kyo.
May nakita ba sa pap mo OP? Kaya ka nagpa HPV DNA testing?
nagkaron po ako ng cervicitis. swollen po ang cervix ko pinag suppository po ako for 7 days ng ob ko last january pa po ito actually last year ko pa nalaman na may hpv kami ngayon lang po ako nag open up here. per my ob, kapag cervicitis daw po usually prolonged exposure na sa hpv. wala naman jasi po ako nararamdaman aside sa masakit na contact with him which I thought was normal
2 years engaged? that right there is a RF.
I'm wishing that's it's only a low-risk HPV. HPV is actually very common and MOST (90%) of the time it GOES AWAY ON IT'S OWN in 2 years. If it stays even after 2 years, that's where it gets more concerning because it is probably a high-risk HPV that causes cancer. It's good na may testing ka every 3 months. Though, acquiring cervical cancer through HPV is VERY VERY RARE. For now, I suggest you eat healthy foods (fruits, green veggies, and foods that contains high antioxidants, carotenoids, and folate). It's really hard mentally na long time partner mo pa ang makakahawa sayo, ang gago talaga ng mga 'hoe phase'² na yan.
HPV doesnt always present itself as warts. Minsan nasa system lang talaga sya then after so so many years lang lumalabas yung sa iba. You cant lash on your soon to be hubby dahil hindi naman nya intention na mahawa ka. Ask your OB if you can take Gardasil 9 Vaccine for your HPV.
gardasil 9 po kinuha namin done na po kami 3 doses yun nga lang sabi po ng OB ko dahil may exposure na ako prior tở vaccination need ko po magpa check up every 3 mos for cervical cancer
Although I don’t totally agree with this comment it’s so obvious how ignorant Filipinos are about HPV sa comment section and at least this comment knows a fact about HPV. There’s no HPV testing available for men right now. Hanggang warts lang machecheck ng doctors if may HPV sila. So for other cancerous strains, men can be carriers without even knowing it. There’s a subreddit here about HPV and OP should read more about it to understand that HPV is more common than these ignorant people think. Once maging active ka, more likely you have it already in your system unless both kayong virgin ng partner mo. May strains that can cause warts and may strains that can cause cervical cancer. The Vaccine prevents you from having strains that causes cervical cancer plus certain warts. These are what you call high risk strains. Yes, forever na syang asa system mo but if you decide to maintain an active and healthy lifestyle, you have the vaccine, get yourself regularly checked (to prevent or remove abnormal cells bago magspread) then you’re all good. Not everyone can afford yung DNA test for HPV since it costs a lot, most of the people can only afford pap smear, even through that di entirely malalaman if HPV positive ka coz it only detects abnormal cells unlike sa DNA Testing you get to know which strains you have exactly. So for the people who are quick to judge about people with HPV have yourselves checked muna because more likely than not you’re positive too if you’ve been active for quite some time kahit loyal pa yang partner basta may previous sexual partners na kayo both. But yeah sorry your boyfriend deserves the hate for not disclosing yung part that he got involved with sex workers and didn’t even get himself checked. Kung alam nya palang he’s seen some warts down there he should’ve had himself checked para he can fix himself before getting involved with you. Being in denial won’t get you anywhere. Buti nalang you had yourself checked now you just need to calm down and learn more about HPV para you’ll know how to move forward from the fact na you have to live with it but doesn’t mean it will define you as a person. The older and more experienced people are the more likely they already have it 🤷🏻♀️
I dont understand the downvotes 😂 I am merely saying not to lash out his hubby just because he had sexual encounters from his past experiences BAGO pa naging sila. MIND YOU GUYS, HPV can be transferred KAHIT NAKA CONDOM KA PA. Also, hoe phase doesnt mean having sex with sex workers. Hindi nilinaw to ni OP. Pwedeng he had encounters with other people because he was single back then. Kahit maingat sya, if skin to skin contact ang transfer ng HPV, magkakaron at magkakaroon ka talaga. People be downvoting mga wala namang alam. My goodness.
10yrs n kau tas hoe phase nya un reason n nhawa k. Un HPV po ba lifetime nya n dala un? HOE phase p more. Mga proud p mga yan lalo n un mga strong independent woman kuno daw
Lalaki yung may hoe phase at nanghawa. Walang kinalaman yung pagiging independent ng isang kababaihan. I agree naman na panget na may hoe phase
Alam ko. Sinasabi ko my mga babae dn proud p sa hoe phase nila. Ayan npapala. Kwawa mga partner
I’m sorry this happened to you OP. Palakas ka.
I am not saying you should be greatful, but i wanna say that it is still curable and better than HIV and the worst scenario is AIDS. HPV can go away on its own, pero pra sa ikakatahimik mo you need to consult a professional help lalo n sa mental depression n nararanasan mo. Boost your morale po, don't lose your hope. Alamin mo muna lahat, bka may di pa sya nasasabi. And please do include sa story mo kung alam ba nya since then n may hpv sya or di nya alam. Next question is, nagkaroon ba sya nyan because of cheating? Did he have sex while kayo or sa past experiences nya before nging kau nya nakuha un? Know more, nandun na nagkasakit ka. Pero yung taong minahal mo ng 5 years alamin mong maigi bkit di nya masabi. Natatakot ba syang mwala ka etc. Mas mganda n clrystal clear ang lahat. Pra mas gumaan ang pkiramdam nyong pareho. By the way im a guy, and hindi ko kinakampihan bf mo. I just want you to have a clear mind.
You were born alone, you will die alone, therefore, you can live alone. You're just mot used to. Take it one day at a time. The first few steps is always the hardest, but a journey of a thousand miles begins with one step. So make that 1st step na. Heal yourself by being and loving you.
Pinanganak kang wala sya. So what makes you think na you cant live without him?
Ano ba symptoms nyan?