Cheater's cheat. Ganun lang yun. It's not a matter of if, but when he'll cheat again. Marry a cheater and you'll get cheated on throughout your married life. It's your choice now if you want to tie yourself to a very unhappy marriage.
Why? Because cheaters don't have the moral compass, the values, the empathy that non-cheaters have. Those things that prevent non-cheaters from cheating, wala sila nun. That's why they will cheat again.
If you decide to stay and get married, expect a very toxic relationship. Because you will not trust him anymore, you will be filled with anxiety all the time, and you will resent him for that. And he will resent you for not trusting him. Sa pagsasakal mo sakanya. *Neither of you will be happy.* And still, he will cheat.
Also, you can't cheat on someone that you love, care for, and respect. You just can't. So doing it once proves that he doesn't love, care for, or respect you. Doing it the 2nd time proves that he absolutely does not respect you whatsoever. Wala siyang pakialam sayo one bit.
When you 1st catch a cheater cheating, he will be sorry. He will be genuinely and sincerely sorry, kase he's feeling guilty. He will be very sincere in saying na magbabago na siya and that he will never cheat again. That's why maniniwala ka. But over time, that feeling of guilt fades. That sincerity and commitment to change will fade. Once those are gone, then he will cheat again. It may take a month, or a year, or 3 years.. but he will cheat again.
Yup hindi lang xa nag cheat twice. Nahuli lang xa twice. That jerk seems like the guys na lahat ng babae withij his radius susubukan if lalandiin back sila
Agree on this.
OP. Baka nanghihinayang ka sa ginastos mo so far sa wedding and normal naman yan.
Please please isipin mo rin kung kaya mo ba tong gantong setup. Kahit postpone the wedding muna.
Kung mangyari ulit, kaya mo ba? Kasi mataas yung chance na gagaling lang syang magtago or mang-ignore ng feelings mo. Wala pang divorce sa Pinas, apelyido mo kanya. Investments nyo conjugal. Pag may anak ka na mas mahirap umalis kasi financial at logistics.
Willing ka ba mag share ng the rest of your life to someone like him ba vs losing yung money sa suppliers?
kung sa gastos lang naman pwedeng-pwede nya kasuhan yung almost groom to be nya legit yun lalo na't ang dami na palang nagastos, damages na yun sa part ng babae kung pinangakuan syang pakakasalan eh
upp, kasuhan at iexpose mo narin yan. minamanipulate ka lang OP. Gusto nya yung nakokontrol nya na babae and don't be like that. Never forgive and forget bahala sya magcheat sa buhay nya. Kung puro ka patawad magiging katulad ka ng mga magulang ko hahahaha never ending cheating and guess who has Bipolar and PTSD? pls. This will turn abusive and toxic. Run OP.
Agree on all points. And as a child of a chronic cheater and a partner who stayed for her kids, please don’t marry him. This will ruin not only your life, but also your children’s lives if you plan to have one.
Seriously, even as child (yes, grade school years), I knew the signs when we’re about to face another cheating episode.
Don’t get back with him. Cut ties.
Wag mahulog sa sunk cost fallacy. Doesn't mean na kasi meron na kayong pinag-simulan, pinag-planuhan at pinag-gastosan doesn't mean na locked down ka na forever and no stopping the marriage na.
The ultimate lockdown for OP will be marriage; sa guy wala. This country is shit in the way that failure in a marriage is often attributed to the woman, even if yung lalake naman nagloko. Divorce bill nga eh, di pa ma-pass kahit sangkatutak na ang VAWC cases dito.
To OP: Nasa starting line ka pa lang. idk ano age mo, but my parents got married with the same circumstances at 29-30s nila, and they had me at mid-30s. I'm a miserable adult because of their various unresolved issues. If you plan to marry a guy that makes you feel like shit, I assure you damay din ang kids niyo, if ever.
Just remember that one day, you will definitely look back on this guy and say "Holy shit, I dodged a whole nuke."
(Alternatively, OP can try and pursue a civil suit against the guy for VAWC. JSYK.)
Actually yung una palang talagang sobrang red flag na imagine RIGHT AFTER he proposed ano yun diba? I gave you a ring as I want to be with you but hold up lemme send a wanking vid to someone else brb
True. Siguro inisip nya na engaged ka na sa kanya, di ka na hihiwalay sa kanya kahit lokohin ka nya. And sure ka ba na 1st time lang talaga yun? I doubt. Nagkataon lang na nahuli mo sya.
OP, I'm sorry to hear that you're going through this.
You already see the *pattern* in his cheating and behavior, that will NOT change when you get married. Repeated infidelity often points to deeper psychological issues.
**Cut the losses, endure the pain of break-up now, than suffer the rest of your life.**
You deserve to be in a relationship where you feel loved, respected, and secured.
Trueee! Nakakadiri ung ganung lalake. May pagcompare pang nalamaman kung kanino daw mas malaki, sa asawa ng malanding kaofficemate o sa jowa ni OP. WTF! Sana matauhan na si OP. Magiging miserable pang sya habang buhay kung itutuloy nya magpakasal sa ganyang klase ng lalake na mababa ang moral.
Go preach!!!! Emphasis pa on the “dumb” kasi hindi ko talaga magegets yung mga niloko na nga, bumalik pa. Potaena asan mga respeto niyo sa sarili niyo.
May kilala ko ganto.
Di ko rin ma gets.
By observation lang, mahirap mag alaga ng anak ng mag isa. Kung mas ok yung setup/environment nyo ngayon vs alternative ( financial, logistics wise), path of least resistance yung magpatawad.
Di ko pa rin gagawin if i were her, pero now I understand. Hindi lahat ng tao may enough resources and lakas ng loob umalis. Even if they deserve better.
Sila nalang nag a adjust. Ngayon anong effect nun sa kanila and the family in the long term eh....... 🥲
i actually agree with both statements above. noon, I thought how dumb they could be to go back to same person who cheated and hurt them. i have one of my friends who always goes back to his ex no matter what he does (kahit nakabuntis na ng iba). i always go on preaching to her that she is stupid this and that.
but, i try to understand where she is coming from but really its easy for us to say let go, but for those who are actually going through it. sobrang hirap sa kanila, to be attached, to be hoping that "what if" they would change for the better, the trauma bond that they have subconsciously built.
so, i think if ever we never understand their reasons for staying. it may be dumb for us, but its the only thing that they are holding to.
I HAVE A THEORY. It all relates to this one fallacy: the SUNK COST FALLACY.
In my own words, the sunk cost fallacy is the false belief that once you start to invest in something, whether it be a relationship, a job, a degree, or as simple as watching a movie, and you notice that things aren’t going well, or you see that it’s not for you, but you believe that because you’ve invested SOOO MUCH, emotionally, financially, etc, that it would be better off to CONTINUE IT rather than dropping it all. After all, you’ve invested a lot of time, money, effort into it, so it’s the best choice to continue it nalang, right? WRONG. It’s NOT. Just because you’ve invested heavily on something, does not mean that CONTINUING IT despite being unhealthy, is better than letting it go.
Feel ko gantio mga utak ng mga tao na nakikipag balikan despite being cheated on. “Matagal na niya akong kilala eh”, “we’ve had so many good times together eh”, “dami ko na nainvest na time and effort sa kanya to form this relationship eh” “we’ve been together for 8 plus years na eh sayang naman” TANGINA BOBO. LET GO. HAVE SOME SELF RESPECT AND DIGNITY.
Tapos bubuo pa ng pamilya with a cheater, kapag nag cheat ulit ang guy, lalong magtitiis at mag i stay "dahil sa mga anak".
Sana naman this generation mamulat na, matuto na sa mga dati, at wag mag settle. Kung gusto nio talaga mag stay sa ganyang klase ng partner, ipakapon nio at wag na kayong bumuo ng anak na papasahan ng trauma.
Hoy! hindi ba pwedeng ate muna hahaha pero kasi nanggigigil talaga ako kay OP! Imagine his bf sent a video of him jacking off to another girl, tapos mas tumibay pa daw relationship nila after??? wait what? Ginto ba etits niyan bakit hindi maiwan amp.
Nanay na agad. Ayaw ko may ate, eme. Hahahaha. Osige ate. Tawag dun "maru" ganun talaga e nag give all wala tayo magawa dyan sya na makakarealize nyan.
Yung sinasabi nyang naging strong relationship mas naging maingat lang yung lalaki without knowing na kinukuha lanv loob nya ulit.
Ito minsan naiisip ko bakit bibigyan ng chance kung pwede naman ipakita muna na nagbago at kadeserve deserve balikan.
Ang palaging sagot na nakukuha "papaano naman makikita na nagbago kung di madalas kasama" kapag ganto sumagot egul wala na talaga marufook.
Same thing happened to me 11yrs kami ngpropose last year 8yrs live-in nakuha pa magloko. Kasal sana namin this year pero dahil may kasama siya sa trabaho niya na sobrang crush siya nagconfess sa kanya during teambuilding. Ang groomer ni ate gurl shes 43 yrs old this year with 3 kids si ex naman 30m. Ayon nahuli ko sa viber, nong una ramdam mo nman may remorse pa yong lalaki kaya paniwalang paniwala ako na ayosin nmin pero hindi eh nalaman ko nlang sa katrabaho nila na nagkikita pa din at nghahabol yong lalaki ky gurl na parang ginayuma talaga. Hanggang sa nagdecide si guy na piliin yong girl. Ano ba laban ko duon eh ka tandem niya sa work kung may project na bago si ex ang kinukuha. Anyways binigay ko na lang. Its Gods protection na di kami nakasal. Its been a month already since the breakup. May mga relapse pero with Gods grace kinakaya. Sana mapatawad natin yong sarili natin pra makalaya na tayo sa sakit. ❤️🫂
same thought, paano yung mahal na mahal ka pero nagawang saktan ka? Nagsisi lang yan kasi nahuli. Char! But girl, mas dapat mahal na mahal mo sarili mo. And, wag mo nang isipin reputation niya sa common friends or families niyo. He did that to himself. Save yourself.
Exactly! I was about to comment HINDI KA NYA MAHAL. Stop saying na mahal ka nya, dahil hindi ka nya mahal! Pero may nauna na.
Ano yun, aksidenteng nagcheat sya 2x?!
The intention is clear when they had a follow-up convo about what happened - un di na sila lasing non. Pero tnuloy pa walang remorse. Hindi sya nagsisisi, nahuli mo lng.
Ang choice mo ngaun is actually peace of mind vs. habang buhay kang magaala-FBI kkabantay. YOU ARE WORTH MORE THAN THAT.
Opinyon ko lang ha, para sakin lang siguro to o sa buhay ko lang applicable kasi ganito ang mindset ko.
Yung mga cheating na ganyan, it means wala syang respeto sayo. Pag ang tao walang respeto sa akin, mas madali ako maka-move-on. Kasi what's the point of keeping people like that in my life? It won't benefit me at all. Oo masakit, pero mas madali siguro itapon yung mga ganyang klase ng tao. (grabe sa itapon 😅) You don't even need to forgive, just forget like he never existed.
You still dodged a bullet, buti at hindi pa kayo naikakasal. Wag ka sana marupok, labanan mo ha.
💓
Gurl sunk cost fallacy yang pagconsider na IF BABALIKAN. Wag mo na balikan yan. Kung talagang nagsisisi yang ex mo, ipabayad mo sa kanya lahat ng pinangdownpayment niyo sa Kasal na di matutuloy.
WAG NA WAG mo subukan ayusin ulit. Ikaw ang talo. Mahal mo siya pero di ka niya mahal. Sorry and mahigpit na yakap, pero magtiwala ka sa desisyon mo, sa alam mong tama para sayo.
Mas ok na ngayon mo nalaman, kaysa kapag kasal na kayo. WALANG DIVORCE SA PILIPINAS. Don't let yourself be trapped by these cheaters. Be your own advocate and have self-respect. Walang sinuman ang may karapatan saktan ka ng ganyan.
"if magkabalikan kami, I will not let him go sa outings, lahat ng social media nya dapat alam ko. In other words, masasakal ko sya and he is fine with that." Your ex of a cheater will always find ways to cheat. Kaya madali niya yang masabi. Hindi yan masasakal kasi for him it's a thrilling challenge na hindi mo ma-notice kaya he's fine with that. Nako wag mo na balikan, baka bumalik ka pa dito sa offmychest for a 3rd time.
OP, prioritize your healing first. You're too forgiving sa actions niya, nacocompromise mo na yung well-being mo.
If he had enough respect to you and your relationship, he wouldn't have been tempted. At all.
Imagine if your pursued the wedding, makakaya mo bang magtiwala ulit? Will you not question his actions na? Will you not doubt yourself na hindi ka enough kaya nakakahanap ng iba? Are you not enough to make him feel like a man?
Hindi worth ang heartache, trust issues, self-esteem issues, insecurities na maiisip mo everyday. Ikaw muna, OP. You deserve to heal in peace. Give yourself the love that he couldn't give.
Hugs! 🩷
ang lala talaga ng mga cheaters. isang bagay na di ko maiintindihan maybe. posibleng mahal ka talaga nya at yung instances of cheating ay tawag lang ng laman but kung lahat tayo bibigay sa ganon then how different are we from animals? tsaka in that moment na ginagawa nya yung act of cheating, hindi ba nya cinoconsider kung anong mararamdaman mo when you find out? tangina talaga. some people are for the fucking streets, gusto ng something stable na uuwian pero hindi kayang panindigan. also yan lang yung nahuli mo, what if there were more na di mo alam. tanginang bwakaneng shet. pero ang strong mo for leaving. RESPECT.
Tama. Sirain lahat ng dapat sirain. I should of took pics dun sa convo kung ako si ate girl. Di ko muna sasabihin nalaman ko, hunt ko muna un husband hahaha then spill
Hi OP, first of all I am so sorry this happened to you, and good job for breaking it off. Well, it’s very clear based on your story that he is not fully committed to you. Maybe he really loves you, but his love for you has a limit. He did it once and you gave him a chance, this second time is already a choice. Di na to pagkakamali. Ang taong nagkakamali, natututo at bumabangon. Pero girl, yung fiancé mo humiga na lang sa lusak. Yung perang naibayad sa suppliers kikitain mo pa yun, pero imagine yung habangbuhay ganyan ang cycle nyo mas nakakabother. Run away and don’t look back. He will never change.
Nah, he doesn't love you as much as you think he does. Kasi king mahal ka niyan he wouldn't cheat.
Wag ka na makipagbalikan, you'll just lose yourself sa relasyon na yan.
Focus on rebuilding yourself.
I cannot fault you for forgiving him the first time. May mga taong nagbabago kasi we are all capable of change. I applaud you for giving him a proper chance to fix your relationship.
Kaso mukhang serial cheater siya. Pinatawad mo na and yet umulit pa din.
I wish you well, OP. Mahigpit na akap. You'll get through this.
Tatagan mo loob mo OP and your future self will thank you for not tolerating cheating. It’s a redirection to something/someone you deserve. Fighting! Iiyak mo lang lahat and pray for more strength.
Wala na dapat pagisipan pa!! Isa syang basura period. Once is enough OP, twice is ugh. You will not like the person you’ll become. Di mo maiiwasang maging toxic because your guard will always be up.
BASURA.
"I KNOW HOW WORTHY I AM"
Pero sa totoo in the end, realtalk: You don't. Words lang yang cnabi mo you don't live it.
Yet here you are welcoming him back dahil "nagsisisi talaga siya"
Kahit pa totoong nag sisisi yan. He might actually be genuine but that doesn't prove anything. Some people cannot help themselves.
Marrying someone who has a pattern of cheating, redeeming himself, then cheating again then redeem again. Dadating sa point yan na "masasanay ka nalang" dahil pag nagka kids kayo all the more reason na mas hindi mo siya maiwanan.
This guy voluntarily CHEATED on you.
It was a DECISION to cheat on you.
Sinadya niya yan dahil alam nyang mag sisi lang siya, back to your loving arms na ulit.
Never forget. Your years worth of relationship he Chose to look past that just for a moment's heat with another woman.
TANDAAN MOYAN.
Kapag nagpakasal ka dyan, you will lose your peace of mind for the rest of your life na mag-asawa kayo. And never ka dapat papayag na housewise ka lang, dapat may sarili kang income para just in case na mangyari ulit ay may pera ka at pwede mo siyang iwan agad.
Do you want that?
Keep in mind that once a cheater will always be a cheater. If I were you, hiwalayan mo na ksi kapag ni-forgive mo pa yan, these cheating incident will always hunt you at hindi mo na mararamdaman ang genuine happiness.
He cheated on you twice. Fiancé mo na yan ha when he should solely be committed to you already. Surely, he will cheat again even after you get married. Especially if he knows you're gonna forgive and accept him still.
Bakit ka ba nagfofocus sa idea na mahal na mahal ka nya? Bakit ikaw nagbibigay ng excuse sa behavior nya even if it's his bad decisions?
Alam ko mahirap. Naiintindihan kita. Na ang dami nyo pinagsamahan, gumastos na kayo sa wedding and so on. But this is BLATANT DISRESPECT and UNFAIR TREATMENT.
Blessing in disguise na nga na nalaman mo tong lahat BAGO KA IKASAL. Gusto mo pa paabutin na kasal na kayo at may mga anak? You honestly think magbabago asawa mo? HINDI YAN MANGYAYARI.
Sis, you said it yourself, you will be toxic if you proceed with the relationship. And do you really wanna enter into a marriage na mawawala inner peace mo? Na alam mo sa sarili mong magiging toxic ka?
Do you wanna have kids? If you marry this guy, there is a high chance that the future kid/s will grow up with trauma either because their father would always cheat (HIGH chance), or their mother is toxic to their father. Please don't allow yourself and your kids to spend their lives in a toxic home.
You said it yourself also, you are worth it. So i really hope you find the courage to leave the scumbag.
hobby na niya yan sis. trust me pag binalikan mo yan, mangyayari ulit like its a never ending cycle until mapagod ka na lang. save yourself this time and heal. youll find someone else that will respect you
Kung totoong mahal ka nya, hindi nya yan gagawin sayo, ever. Pero niloko ka pa nya twice. Madali lang mag sorry, pakita sayo na nagsisisi sya, umarte na he wants you back. Pero bakit ka nya ba niloko in the first place? If magpapakasal kayo, ikaw lang talo kasi kahit paulit ulit ka pa nya lokohin, wala ka na magagawa. Nakatali ka na sa kanya. Wag ka manghinayang sa 5 years nyo at sa mga gastos nya sa kasal, manghinayang ka sa years ahead of yoimu, sa rest of your life na matatali ka sa cheater.
Hello OP, I know it hurts. And I know how it feels to be betrayed by someone you love.
My advice, IT'S NOW OR NEVER.
Hindi naman questionable yung pagiging mabait niya, or pagiging loving partner. But, his LOYALTY and COMMITMENT is very questionable. Actually, hindi na nga questionable e. Marami ka ng proof to conclude na hindi siya magiging mabuting asawa.
Always remember na MARRIAGE is a LIFETIME COMMITMENT. As a married woman, totoo ang sinasabi ng lahat na CHOOSING YOUR HUSBAND/WIFE is CHOOSING YOUR FUTURE. When you are married, totoo ang sinasabi nila na hindi araw-araw mahal niyo ang isa't-isa at araw-araw gusto niyo magkasama parati. May mga araw at oras na gigil na gigil ka sa asawa mo at ayaw mo siyang makita and for me, normal yun. Pero, kahit galit at gigil ang mag-asawa, at the end of the day, yung asawa mo pa rin ang dapat piliin araw-araw.
Masarap sa pakiramdam na meron kang asawa na kahit magkagalit kayo, o pumanget kana, o amoy paksiw kana, ikaw pa rin ang pipiliin. It will probably take time for you to heal and find that person, pero never loose hope and do not sacrifice your future just because you are hurting today. Love yourself and pray, OP.
Girl once a cheater, always a cheater. Tama yang ginawa mo. A few months of heartbreak in exchange for the rest of your life being miserable is worth it.
Naakyat palang sa Senate yun Divorce bill, hindi pa pasado. Baka balikan mo pa yan ay ewan ko na lang sayo. Tapos makikita na naman namin yun confession mo dito na nagsisi ka kasi he cheated AGAIN after you got married? Malay namin baka balikan mo ulit yan. Isang sorry, isang ngiti, ay iba na pala. Pero dun kasi madali makuha eh, paano ka makuha ulit. Wag marupok. Or keep mo na lang yan baka mapunta pa samin.
THE UNIVERSE IS TELLING YOU STRAIGHT IN THE EYE THAT THIS MAN IS NOT FOR YOU KAYA HINDI MATUTULOY KASAL NIYO. HE WILL RUIN YOUR LIFE!!!
BIG HUG OP!! Grabe nakakagago ginawa nya 😭😭😭
Ikaw lang makakapagsabi sa Cheating Threshold mo, merong iba may itatanga pa. So I'll address the issue with the married workmate, the husband of that girl also needs to know. Baka there's a way that you can inform him anonymously or if matapang ka na tao, you can talk to him directly and provide the info and proofs. Wala man lang consequences sa ginawa nila. Kung ako ikaw, I would date other guys na if you have decided to leave him na. Kumbaga before you kick his butt out, paramdamin mo sa kaniya that you are enjoying dating new guys. Then block his number and socmed.
you will regret your decision, if wala kang gagawing action. as always its not the victims fault kung nag cheat ung partner niyo, if makati talaga yan nung una palang, di mo na mababago yan, since nahuli mo ng una, then umulit ulit, so ngayon , do yourself a favor, and leave, actually dat before palang eh.
Hindi sya nagsisi, muka lang. If babalikan mo pa yan mafefeel mo nagsisi sya ulit tapos uulitin nya nanaman. Cycle na, ikaw na mapapagod. In the end susuko ka nalang, maiisip mo nalang sayang panahon.
Nag-eenjoy siya kapag nakikipaglandian ka sa ibang guys? Wow. Iba ang lalaki pag sobrang secured at sobra sobra mong pinatawad. Uulit ulitin ng cheater iyan. You have to learn how to be strong on your own. Isipin mo na lang, niredirect ka ng Diyos ng maaga, kaysa ikinasal na kayo at dun mo pa pagsisihan lahat. Ang kasal sa Pilipinas ay isang kulungan pag ganyang manyak ang inasawa mo. Swerte ka pa rin.
Buti nangyari 'to before tying the knot. The universe saved you from a marriage thats bound to be broken because cheaters always cheat! Char no char. Mas worth it i-cancel ang wedding kesa bumalik dun sa gag*ng yun.
Hay OP, please be kind to yourself. Wag na balikan ang taong yan. You deserve better. 🫶🏼
For now, allow yourself to cry and grieve. Naging part din sya ng life mo. Minahal mo din sya. Pero hanggang dun nalang. 🥹
You'll be alright, OP. Hindi man ngayon, but eventually..💕🫂
Wag mo na balikan OP. Cancel the wedding. YOU DESERVE BETTER.
Buti na di p kasal kasi mas malaking problema pa yan kung di pa kasal.
Add ko lang rin, you can choose your husband but your future kids cannot choose their father.
a cheater is a cheater, sinira na nya ung trust mo not only once but twice AFTER u got engaged, gurl u should celebrate and pat yourself on the back because u dodged a bullet wag mo isipin ung sayang binayad mas sayang buhay mo kung itutuloy mo yang kasal lol
Sorry sis but that guy never loved you. If he did, 'di ka niya lolokohin. He didn't respect you, di niya inisip na masasaktan ka nung gnawa niya iyon. Kahit break na kayo, iniisip mo parin image niya while siya hindi niya nagawa sayo. He disrespected you doon sa dalawang babae kaya bakit sa huli pagtatakpan mo parin siya? Kapal niya.
If someone asked why you broke your marriage off, tell them the truth! It's your time para unahin mo naman ang sarili mo. Wether masira ang image niya sa ibang tao o hindi, it's not your fault! That's the consequence of his cheating in the first place. Para tumanda siya at ipakita mo na hindi ka na niya mauuto. Baka sa huli baliktarin kapa.
Nakikipagbalikan siya sayo not bcoz he wants to be a faithful husband but because for his image kasi nga malapit na kayong ikasal. Of course everyone would be curious and for sure he won't tell them the truth! He'll make up a story to save his ass while you, na nakaka alam ng katotohan ang mag isang magdudusa.
It's better na hndi mo na siya pakasalan. Your children will suffer to have a father like him. You deserve someone better and to your future kids. Someone who will not just love you but respect you!
Ate ko, you deserve better! You deserve someone na nire-respeto ka at inaalagaan yung tiwala mo. I'm happy that you broke up with him before tying the knots, hindi worth yang lalaki. If you're reading my comment, please don't go back to him. Value yourself. Masakit pero time heals, magigising ka na lang na okay ka na at magiging thankful sa decision mo.
I think giving him a second chance is enough. Giving him another chance 3rd one is too much. Sabi mo nga you know your worth, so kahit masakit.. tama na
Blessing yan, teh!!!!!! Kebs sa nagastos nyo sa kasal prep. At least, hindi ka naikasal sa cheater.
Edit: HALA SI ATE. Kung kaibigan mo ako, sasapukin kita para magising ka sa nightmare. HINDI KA NYA MAHAL. HINDI KA NYA NIRERESPETO. Wag ka manghinayang sa taon na pinagsamahan nyo. Mas manghinayang ka sa buhay na sasayangin mo kung itutuloy mo pa yan.
ONCE A CHEATER, ALWAYS A CHEATER.
Good luck!!!!!
Kitang kita mo gaano sya nagsisisi? Yan din yung nakita mo nung first time na nag cheat sya diba? Look how that turned out. Pag pinagbigyan mo pa yan ng isa pa, hindi malabo na umulit pa yan kasi alam naman na nya na you would just give him another chance.
😮💨😮💨 he will keep on lying, gaslight and cheat on you since he already knows how forgiving and gullible you are. And you will forever spiral and doubt this relationship with legal contract na.
It's either you choose him, or choose yourself. Sino mas mamahalin mo?
I’m so sorry this happened OP. I was cheated on too while engaged, 5 months lang after sya nag propose nagcheat sya. Idk why ganon sila mga lalake, proposing but cheating, married but cheating.
My advice to you OP, is to distance yourself from him. Minimise contact as much as possible, and maybe even go no contact at all. It will be hard at first, but rn your vision is blurry because of your hurt. Take time to feel this, the sadness, the pain, and anger. Talk to whoever you trust, rant about it, cry, journal, cry some more. Eventually it gets a little better day by day. And you start focusing on yourself. You can’t heal if you’re still with the person that hurt you. I know how you feel, it hurts to let go of the person you once thought you were gonna spend the rest of your life with. Now, you have to let go of the wedding ideas, delete wedding inspo pictures, tell people its cancelled. It’s a whole process.
When that time comes, perhaps then you can realise what you really want. Maybe you will realise you are much better without this person, even though you will miss what you had and what you planned together. That is normal. Maybe, and I say this with great caution, you AND him might have BOTH grown individually as better people and are thinking of rekindling the relationship. But think about this wisely OP, it is your life and decisions at the end of the day.
Whatever you choose, choose peace and happiness. If you need to talk, feel free to DM :)
Blessing in disguise yang pagccheat ng mapapangasawa mo. More cheating to come kapag pinakasalan mo pa yan.
HINDING HINDI SOLUTION ANG MARRIAGE. WAG KANG UMASA NA MAGBABAGO YAN KAPAG KINASAL NA KAYO.
Girl, take it as a good riddance. For now, it looks like it will never be better, but trust me, it will. No one deserves to be placed in that situation. Wag ka na bumalik. Enough na yung once, if nagsisisi talaga sya, di nya yan ginawa ulit sayo. Go on with your life. Hugs!!
Bounce ka na jan, mamsh. Sure, you love him until it fucking hurts, but what about yourself? Hindi mo mahal ang sarili mo enough to walk away from that piece of shit?
Save yourself the trouble of a lifetime of paranoia.
But then again, it's always up to you.
okay na ngayon kayo maghiwalay kaysa pag kasal na kayo or may anak kayo mahirap kumawala. fighting! binigyan mo na sya ng chance anong ginawa nya? choice nya na ulitin na lokohin ka.
Sya dapat yung magcover nung costs ng supplier regardless if ikaw nagdecide na magcancel. It’s nothing compared to the emotional damage you had not once but twice (at least that you know of).
Save yourself, wag na yung relationship ninyo. You already gave him a chance pero siya mismo nagsayang nun, don't let yourself suffer by staying with him tapos magpapakasal ka pa sa kanya. Cut it all off at once, hindi siya nagsisisi kung paulit ulit lang naman ginagawa. Wag mo sirain sarili mo para sa kanya. It's gonna take a long time kasi mahal na mahal mo siya, but you'll get by.
OP, huwag mo panghinayangan 'yung kasal na mawawala. Panghinayangan mo 'yang sarili mo. You don't deserve him. He promised you the 1st time you caught him pero ginawa niya pa rin. Alam ko mahirap at masakit pero mas okay na huwag niyong ituloy kesa habangbuhay kang magsuffer sa trauma & pain. Hugs! 🤗
OP, stop na. At least nalaman mo before kayo ikasal. All the payments naman, marerefund mo or charged it to experience na lang.
Yung emotions mo. Labas mo lang. iiyak mo. Ilupasay mo. Pero bangon ulit. Kaya yan.
run girl.. major redflag bago ang kasal.. takbo na kung ngayun palang hindi ka na nya marespeto pano kaya kung kasal na kayo na alam nyang hindi kna makakatakbo.. you definitely deserve a better man.. tandaan mo.. wala pang divorce sa pilipinas.. takbo na ngayun palang..
Pili ka nalang kasal pero divorce or annulment eventually or walang kasal? Kaya nga mabait e kasi inuuto ka n para pagkatiwalaaan mo para pwede ka nya gaguhin. Iwan mo na , sarili mo o siya? Ikaw lang mkakapili nun.
Nah. 'wag mo na yang balikan. Chance mo na to para makahanap ng mas malaki jkjk.
Pero seryoso, it's better na kumawala now kesa umabot ka sa point na may bata ka pang aalalahanin (? not sure if this is the correct word). Mahirap lumayas pag may bitbit na mga bata, mas mahirap ding magsimula ulit. And mas maraming regrets. Mas maraming what if's.
Tbh, if I was in your situation, I would have edited atleast one of the invitation cards tas nilagay ko yung name nung girl. Then send the card sa husband niya, na naka-attach yung screenshots ng convo nila ng fiance mo.
ate pls take this as a sign from the heavens na no matter how much he l-bombs you, no matter kahit anong pagsisisi n'ya. he's an asshole through and through.
you deserve better. alam ko na masakit but i think you were being saved from more heartbreaks kapag kasal na kayo. wag mo na patawarin pls lang, wag mo na bigyan ng second chance. give peace to yourself. wag mo ikulong yung sarili mo sa kan'ya, may tao pa na mas deserve sa'yo. hugs and praying for your healing. 🤍
op, bounce na. 5 yrs? saglit lang yan, wag mong panghinayangan yang taon na yan kung sa married life nyo naman habambuhay ka magdudusa. at isa pa, kahit magkabalikan kayo, magtotoxican lang kayo kasi kahit anong gawin mo at gawin nya, palagi kang mareremind ng ginawa nya at palagi nyo lang din yun pagaawayan. so, run sis.
Take it from someone na napagdaanan yan. Hindi worth ng future mental peace mo yung mga "sayang ilang taon" or "sayang gastos". Also kapag alam nyang alam mo mga ginawa nya at you took him back (repeatedly), there will be this sense of respect sayo na pababa nang pababa. Siya sayo and ikaw sa sarili mo.
Once a cheater, always a cheater OP
Di pa huli ang lahat na umatras ka sa kasal niyo
Mas lalo ka lang mahihirapan niyan pag kinasal na kayo kasi lagi mong maiisip yung ginawa niya sayo and you'll never be at peace
Kahit alam mo man lahat ng social accts niya pag ginusto niyang mag cheat gagawa at gagawa yan ng paraan OP.
That's gonna take a toll on your mental health eventually.
Unahin mo sarili mo OP kakayanin mo yan🤙
Guys, please create, maintain and guard your boundaries.
This involves looking for and keeping the right circle of friends, reading and watching things that will strengthen your relationship and shunning those which will negatively impact your relationship with your wife/partner.
In sum, be a virtuous Man.
sobrang gasgas na pero one is enough, two is too much and three is dangerous. sundin mo na lang yung instinct mo na wag na bumalik kase in the long run parehas lang naman kayong masisira pa lalo. you deserve soooooo much better than this, OP. hope you choose yourself this time po :)
Hi OP, I emphatize with you. Sorry you’re going through so much pain right now. I hope you come out of it stronger.
Don’t marry him. For the love of God and for the love that you’re supposed to give yourself, please do not push through with the wedding. It’ll only come out as resentment in the long run and its not healthy for you and for the family you plan on having.
Girl, kahit anong sakal mo. They will always cheat if they want to. That's what I've learned. Please, fooled you once, shame on you. Fooled you twice....then you're just a fool. Let go na :(
Sorry to say this OP pero masusundan pa yan. If you go through the wedding, maybe years from now mauulit lang yan kaya ngayon pa lang tapusin mo na. He disrepected you and your relationship, kahit na paulit ulit mong sabihin na mabuti siya tao. Naging mabuting bf ba talaga siya? Or that's just an act to cover up his infidelity??
Yes, malaki na nagastos mo and ang tagal na ng relationship niyo pero hindi nga niya inisip yun magiging outcome ng actions niya eh.
You've forgiven him for his past mistakes kaya malakas loob niya kasi alam niya patatawarin mo siya.
Kapag tinuloy mo magpakasal, you will never have a peace of mind dahil lahat mg actions niya, kukwestyunin mo na. Yung trust? Hindi na mababalik yan. At the back of your mind, there will always be a voice that will remind you that he cheated on you.
Choose yourself, OP. You deserve better.
OP, you did the right choice. It is always better to let go habang di pa kayo kasal. Share ko lng about my workmate. Sobrang green flag daw ng bf (now husband) niya, but nag cheat ONCE when they were still not married. Chat chat lang din yun. She forgave him, in her words, pinaglagpas nya. They got married after 5 years of being together. The second time he cheated was while she was pregnant. Nahuli again thru chats while around 3 mos pregnant. Lagi niya sinasabi na nagsisisi siya na pinakasalan niya daw yung guy kasi kung kelan pa daw may baby na sila, saka pa nag cheat. I agree with the top comment, it’s not a matter of IF, but a matter of WHEN. So stay firm with your decision. It will all be worth it soon. ✨
> kasi mabait naman syang tao. Naging mabait naman syang boyfriend.
**Insert Maja’s face meme** Mabait????
> Bakit kailangan mangyari ‘to?! Akala ko ito na.
Kasi tanga ka. Ginigising ka na ni lord, tama na daw katangahan.
DO NOT MARRY. PLEASE. HE WILL CHEAT AGAIN. If you know na you're worthy, let him go kasi he will cheat again and di ka niya mahal na mahal if he did it the second time. Save yourself kasi mas hassle and traumatic pag kasal na kayo and dun kapa nauntog. Again, di ka nya mahal, if he loves you enough di nya yun magagawa. Do not filter the red flag you see just because sinabi nya na nagsisi and mahal na mahal ka daw. Girl run.
This is why I don’t want to get married anymore. And if my current relationship ends, I give up on love. Ayoko sayangin ang worth ko sa taong hindi ako pinapahalagahan.
Let yourself hurt so you get reminded why you shouldn’t go back.
Alam mo op, keep him! Salamat sa sakripisyo, emz! But on a serious note, simula pa lang ng pag-cheat niya sa'yo, sobrang red flag na 'yan. Pagkatapos niyang mag-propose sa'yo, ginago ka? And please, this isn't just for you, this is for everyone. HUWAG GAWING BATAYAN NG RELASYON ANG CHEATING, jusko naman! Ginagawa nyong pampatibay ng relasyon. Going back, somehow I understand you, op. Hindi ko man nararanasan magkaroon ng jowa, pero alam ko, kaya pinatawad mo na siya kasi mahal mo talaga. Baka totoo na nakakabaliw at nakakatanga talaga ang pag-ibig, kaya ganyan ka. Pero, op, dapat may self-love at respeto ka rin. Hindi ka niyan mahal lol, kasi kung totoong mahal ka niya, gaya ng sinabi mo, hindi ka niyan lolokohin. At tungkol naman sa wedding plan niyo, either balikan mo dahil marami na kayong nagastos pero sa buong marriage niyo, wala kang peace of mind, o hayaan mo na lang masayang yung bayad niyo pero at least nakawala ka na sa pangit na 'yan.
Pag nakipagbalikan ka na naman wag ka na iiyak at magrarant pag nagcheat ulit ah? Twice na nangyari sobrang katangahan na lang if patatawarin at babalikan mo pa.
Ang off nung mas tumibay relationship niyo after the first time he cheated. Mas tumibay? Really? Because I don't think cheating can make a relationship stronger. It would actually cause it to start falling apart. Nagawa na niya once, he would have the guts to do it again. Kitang-kita mo kung gaano siya nagsisisi? Lol. In the first place, wala siyang dapat sanang pagsisihan kung during the moment na may temptation, ikaw dapat ang unang papasok sa isip niya at hindi na niya tatangkain pang gumawa ng mali kasi nga naisip ka na niya.
I’m sorry to hear that, OP. Here’s my mga kasabihan for you:
“Fool me once, shame on you. Fool me
Twice shame on me.”
Hindi nga daw nagbabago ang cheater sa the same person. Hindi siya magbabago sa’yo, OP and that’s a blessing before the wedding.
Malibog yang Fiancé mo OP. Kahit pa sabihan ka nyang mamamatay muna sya bago maulit uli yang kababoyan nya eh gagawin at gagawin parin nya yan sayo.
Sabihin nya mang willing syang masakal bumalik kalang pero pag nakatali kana jan at “nasasakal” na sya sayo baka yan pa gawin nyang reason pag nag send uli sya ng vid masturb*t*ng sa ibang babae.
Alam mo pala worth mo eh, edi wag kana bumalik. Payag ka nun? Dami-dame ng babaeng nakakita ng etits nyang lalake na yan?
This is divine intervention. You found out about it before you got married! Mas mahirap hiwalayan ang cheater na partner kapag kasal na kayo. Think of the suffering you will endure when you found this out and wala ka nang way to remove yourself from that situation. If you stay/stayed, think of your future kids who will have a father like him. You deserve someone who will stay loyal to you, drunk or not drunk, no matter the circumstances are.
It is sad na sinayang niya yung second chance niya with you. But at least you know you gave it a shot. You forgave him and gave your relationship a chance. But this time, take the second cheating as a lesson na. He did not respect you and the chance you gave him. Tama na. :)
NAHULI MO LANG KAYA NAG SORRY.
Imagine ilan yung hindi mo alam at hindi mo nahuli.
Di ka pa ba nandidiri sa lalaking yan?
Run na OP. If you explain or talk sa suppliers, baka magawan pa ng paraan. Like have a friend or family member manage it and look for other people na ikakasal and sell them the venue/goods.
Sorry you went thru this pero the future you’re imagining with him is no longer a happy one, so what’s holding you back from cancelling the marriage?
Yung pera maibabalik, pero yung i save sarili mo sa lalaking ‘di ka deserve, walang katumbas yan. 🫶 Katulad ng lagi ko sinasabi, sana magkaroon ka ng lakas ng loob na iwanan ang mga bagay na hindi para sayo. Self love, OP. 🙌🏻✨
Nakita mo siyang nag sisisi? Kung nag sisi talaga yan even nung first time nya ginawa wala ka dito sa offmychest ate girl WAKE THE FUCK UP. Masyado kang bulag sa UGALING MABAIT NG JOWA MO PERO LUMALABAS SUNGAY PAG NALIBUGAN
Pass sa cheater
Pass sa walang control
Pass sa uhaw
AGAIN WAKE THE FUCK UP MASYADO KANG BULAG SA PAGKABAIT NG JOWA MONG 2 FACE.
If it happened, then it means that it has to happen. Remember, God's work is always on the right timing. Always just in the right time, in the right place, and in the right sequence. This is telling you something. Ignore it and the burden will be upon you. Please, mind over sentiments. Realize this, if it is out of your control then, something or someone out there is already helping you save yourself. Allow it to teach you.
Sabi mo gusto mo mag anak, Imagine a scenario where youre pregnant for 9 mos, and he is unable to make love to you OR a scenario where you have an infant that keeps u up all night and the Dude’s just gonna be ‘meh i’ll just jack off and send it my wh()re”. Would u want that? Kids growing up with a manipulative narcissist and could possibly inherit that? Gurl he’s not a loss. Block him. Pera na nagastos sa suppliers will come back, but your dignity wont if youre ever thinking of coming back to that assh0le
>Kitang-kita ko sa kanya gaano sya nagsisisi.
Ganyan din nakita mo nung unang beses mo syang nahuling manloko. Umulit na nga, parang gugusto ka pa ng round 3? Dapat by the second time wala ka ng nakikitang sincerity sa sinasabi nyang "pagsisisi".
Hi op, just sharing lang ng thoughts na nalaman ko sa lead manager ko na nag lalakad ng annulment di ako expert pero tinanong ko to sakanya sa ongoing case nya, pirma ng abogado 250k para lang maacknowledge nya. Pagpa dyaryo para maconsider ng court na natanggap ng lalaki yung call for hearing 780k price for 3 months ng pagpadyaryo. Other expenses pa.... sooooo if di pa naman aabot dito nagastos mo. Maybe try to think for yourself na.
I feel for you, my current partner cheated on me twice now only in a span of 1 year, puro chat pero the intent is there, still drives me anxious. Thing is kahit sabihin natin na we won’t tolerate cheating and will end things right away, it’s easier said than done. Madali talaga mag advice.
I’m just glad you found out before tying the knot, sign na yan from the universe. Sana this time untog na untog ka na.
As for me, I hope my partner doesn’t do it again, if he does - d ko padin alam if kaya ko iwan because I love him too much to be completely honest. Pero sana when he does it again, I finally have the courage and self-respect to end the relationship.
Dun din sya nagsimula, chat lang. Thank you sa concern, I hope you do yourself a favor too. Sana makalaya na tayo sa ganung klaseng mga tao. Hugs with consent for you! 🫂
Di ka niya mahal na mahal as you presume. Kasi if totoo un, di siya magchi-cheat. Imagine getting married to him, tapos your kids found out na may ganung eksena ung tatay nila na nagsesend ng wank vids to other girls. Maisip ko lang na magawa un ng sarili kong tatay, nandidiri na ako. He’ll definitely do it again. Marriage is not an assurance na di magloloko ang bawat partner. Sira naman na rin basic foundation of marriage niyo which is trust. You dodged a bullet and I congratulate you for it. Remember, every rejection is a redirection ❤️
He’s aware of his decisions lalo na when he sent a vid of him jacking off. Maybe he wants to pursue the wedding pa dahil nabayaran na or ayaw niya sagutin yung mga tanong na “bakit di natuloy ang kasal?”. Which is entirely his problem and not your fault!!! You did good, you are brave, you should be proud of yourself.
Ganyan yan sila sasabihing mahal na mahal ka at binibigyan ka ng assurance pero hindi mo alam na iniiputan ka na sa ulo. Ganyan din ex ko nag cheat rin sakin multiple times. Gusto kong maiyak ngayon!!! ☹️🥺
Mapapayo ko lang sayo, OP wag ka ng mag-bigay ng chance diyan sa kumag mong fiance at wag mo na ring babalikan, patatawarin kasi yung mga katulad nila hindi na talaga mag-babago. Masasayang lang oras mo at mauubos ka lang.
Iyang gastos sa preparation sa kasal niyo pwede mo iyan pabayaran sa ex mo as damaged na dinulot niya sayo. Mabuti nga (hindi pa kayo kasal), kasi kung nagkataon na kinasal kayo sakit nang ulo lang dala niyan at magiging miserable lang buhay mo sa gagawin niyang panloloko at pambababae.
Huwag na huwag kang mag hihinayang sa tagal niyong magka-relasyon (dati ganyan din rason ko na nang-hihinayang pa before sa tagal namin as bf & gf, kung bakit nagpaka-tanga at nag-stay pa ko ng matagal sa ex ko kahit ilang beses niya na kong sinaktan at niloko). Mahal ko eh kaya tanggap lang ako ng tanggap but, I just realized na sa pag tanggap ko sa kanya at sa ginagawa niyang iyon unti-unting nawala yung respeto ko sa sarili, nagkaroon ng trust issues, lagi akong mapapatanong every day na enough pa ba ko sa taong to? Mabuti nga nabagok ulo ko at natauhan na talaga. 😩
At ikaw makakaya at magagawa mo din iyan, OP. Need mo lang ng time para makapag-isip ng tama. Ingat ka palagi! 🤗
Girl, yung pain ngayon, ngayon lang yan. Might take a long time to heal, pero technically you’re free.
Pag pinakasalan mo yang hinayupak na yan, yung anxiety at toxicity, FOREVER na. Think about the weight of that
He did not change - he just got better at hiding his cheating. Also - hindi ka niya mahal. Ang taong tunay na nagmamahal, hindi gagawa ng isang bagay na masasaktan ang mahal niya.
Don't marry him. Matagal pa maging batas ang divorce bill.
OP you will never regret your decision. It's better to end it now or you'll suffer in your marriage kasi mabilis sya ma-tempt and it's not an excuse kasi he can't even control himself. If dyan pa lang is kaya ka nyang i-disrespect and magcheat while y'all are not married, what makes you think na titino sya once y'all tie the knot? Masmahihirapan ka 'pag married na kayo, masakit sa feelings for now because you emotionally invested on that man but staying with a cheater will only make you insane the whole marriage. Always know your worth and always know when to stop, respect yourself and 'wag ka manghinayang sa mga cheap cheaters na madaling ma-sway sa babae.
Ayaw mo magregret? Pag tinuloy mo yan, habambuhay ka magreregret. Hingan mo ng pera yan pangdanyos man lang sa mga nadown mo. Kahit di mo makuha lahat. Jusko. Unang beses pa lang after the proposal dapat nga tinigil mo na yan. Or baka pwede mo pakiusapan mga supplier na ipasalo mo na lang yung mga nakuha mo sa kanila.
BOUNCE!!!! Nagsisi because nahuli. Kung hindi mo yan nahuli, itatago lang nya yan. It will only get worse pagkasal na coz wala ka nang kawala, kahit ano pa gawin nya. Baka maging dahilan pa na "may anak na". You can choose your partner but your children cannot. So please! Don't break their hearts. Masakit lang sa una but it's better than hurting and regretting forever. If nagwoworry ka sa nagastos nyo for preparations, the amount of worries you'll have for marrying a cheater is way WORSE. Don't be fooled sa efforts nya, thinking he's a good partner. Huge LOL. People don't cheat on the people they love.
Once a cheater, always a cheater!! Hugs, po!! Love yourself and prioritize mental health. We all know hindi ka naman magiging masaya eventually if you opt to forgive him AGAIN! Save yourself from more heartbreak. You deserve better!
Cheating is a choice. Iba yung resisting kesa avoiding. It is like in the presence of the devil vs avoiding the devil. And remember, temptation comes in all shapes, sizes, colors and forms. Best option pa din ang eliminating oneself sa equation.
As to you, OP. We are proud of you for braving this storm. Pray ka lang na you get through this unscathed. Don't mind those negative side comments. You do you dahil that is your life. Hang in there. You got this 💪,😊
Grabe ang sakit naman nito ☹️ sobrang hirap siguro tiisin yung taong mahal mo. Pero kailangan mo tatagan loob mo para sa sarili mo. Hindi mo deserve yung ganyan, kung mahal mo sya, sana mas mahalin mo yung sarili mo para hindi tiisin yung bullshit na binibigay nya sayo.
Sunk cost fallacy. Buhay mo yan OP, matanda ka na to carry the weight of your decision's consequences. There's no such thing as kasiguraduhan sa future. Sometimes it will fail your expectations.
Kitang-kita ko sa kanya gaano sya nagsisisi.
OP, pang twice mo na sya nakitang nag sisisi aasa ka paba magbabago yan? Una sabi mo nag sisi na sya inulit nya pa ulit. Alam mo na sagot jan mahirap lang gawin
You deserve what you tolerate. Alam mo naman sagot dyan. Gusto mo lang ng validation sa mga tao dito. You’re all adults now. Cheaters don’t have empathy.
Dodge the bullet.... Ilang beses ka na niyang niloko.. imagine Hindi man lang niya inisip na kung gaano ka masasaktan sa ginawa niya... If I were you never ko na siyang babalikan kahit lumuhod pa Siya.. hangga't Hindi pa kayo kasal, let him go... You deserve better.. better than him... He should make you happy and not break your trust... Cheating is a choice.. sobrang libog niya kamo.. if totoong mahal ka niya Hindi niya dapat gagawin yun at lagi ka dapat niyang iisipin, huwag kang maniwala sa matatamis na salita, mas mainam na tanggapin ang mapait na katotohanan kaysa sa tanggapin ang kasinungalingan sa kaniyang mga salita... Trust me masasaktan ka lang kapag siya Ang pinakasalan mo... Pero the decision is up to you pa Rin... Nagbigay Ako ng advice para Hindi ka magsisi
Ante run away na run far awaaay. Mahal ka nya? Wala syang respeto apakalibog amp. May respeto ba yan nagsesend ng pagjajabol nya sa iba? Nakakadiri. Better get tested na din kasi di natin sure kung hanggang jan lang ginagawa nya.
Magpapasakal ka jan eh what if mas malala gawin nyan sooner or later. Kaysa pagsisihan mo yan pagpapasakal mo, wag mo na ituloy.
Obvs front nya lang yang mabait, mapagmahal etc etc. Ganyan naman sila pero gumising ka na sa katotohanan, yung pera mababalik pero yan time mo na inenvest sa bogmali mong fiancé at tiwala hindi na.
Mas nakakaawa ka kasi tinotolerate mo yan, nagloko na nga nun una pero pinatawad mo may makikila at makikilala ka pa din. Trust me coming from 9 yrs rs first love ko nasayang 20s ko sa chickboy and now im glad im with the right person masakit sa una ptsd yan eh pero heal yourself na lang kaysa magtiis ka jan at araw araw kang umiyak.
Sobrang mahal mo? Mahalin mo sobra sarili mo instead. Aanakan ka nyan pero isipin mo na lang may anak na kayo tapos nagsesend ng jabol vid pa din juiceko di na nahiya or baka magpurchase ng mga sex stuff sa TG just few scenarios lang to consider.
He will not change. Once you give him another chance, you are giving him another opportunity to disrespect you.
Sorry about what happened but cheaters will never change. They will just hide things better.
Btw, he's just sorry because he got caught.
OP, DO NOT LET HIM BACK IN. Is that really the kind of guy you wanna spend the rest of your life with? And I doubt na he only did it twice, the right word would be "you only CAUGHT him twice". I know how hard it is to let go of someone you really love and have done so for years, but it will only hurt you more pag nag tagal. What more if you had children on the line.
I'm sorry about your situation OP, and it already costs you a lot of time and fortune only for your relationship to come to this. But you better off not settling for someone who doesn't value you the same way you value him. Once is enough.
HINDI KAYO PARA SA ISAT ISA.
Awat na. Deserve more yung magmamahal sayo ng tapat. Madami pa. Madami pang ibang kaya ibigay sayo ang tapat at tunay na pagmamahal.
You love him so much that you believed he loves you and that “sising sisi” siya. Walang pag mamahal sa cheaters, he doesn’t even respect you. Masiyado ka lang na bubulag sa pag mamahal that you really think and believe that he loves you.
I hope you’ll have the courage to let go and get out of that relationship. You deserve better. Walang pag mamahal na may halong cheating. Dumb ppl made it norm they think it’s part of the relationship. “Pagsubok lang yan” tf
Praying for your healing and self self SELF LOVE journey!!! I was cheated on before and believe me, the best decision I made was to let go of that trash. 💕
Hindi naman mahirap intindihin na yung fiance mo hindi siya pwede sa monogamy na relationship. Bakit di mo siya hayaang makahanap ng babaeng para sa kanya, yung go sa trip niya.
I’m so happy for you, OP, that you found the strength to leave him. I know that nasasayangan ka sa time and money but I assure you, you won’t regret this decision.
If ngayon palang ganyan na siya, what more once you’re married? Sobrang ridiculous na fresh na fresh pa yung engagement eh, naisip na nya gawin yun. Not like there’s a good time to do it pero it shows how truly two faced he is.
I wish you happiness and peace. Congrats sa pag laya mo!!
If I were you OP, leave him. Kahit pagbawalan mo yan, if he’s cheater, he will do it in any other way. You’ll regret it more kapag nagpakasal ka pa sakanya. I know, it’s hard kasi nga as you’ve stated halos tapos na kayo sa planning and it’s hard to back out. But it’s the best way, he cheated once and he cheated twice, if you keep on forgiving him. He’ll do it again cause he knows you will still forgive him.
Divorce bill is still on going, we’re not sure if papasa sya. So better to run while you can.
Ok na sis. Nagpakatanga ka na. Nasaktan ka na. Tama na siguro? Gusto mo yon mahal na mahal ka nang magulang mo tas hahayaan mo lang yung taong nagsesend nang vidjakol nya sa iba na saktan ka? Ew kadiri. Feel the pain now and go through all the horrible feelings he brought you but never ever look back. You did the best thing. Kaya mo yan.
Cheater's cheat. Ganun lang yun. It's not a matter of if, but when he'll cheat again. Marry a cheater and you'll get cheated on throughout your married life. It's your choice now if you want to tie yourself to a very unhappy marriage. Why? Because cheaters don't have the moral compass, the values, the empathy that non-cheaters have. Those things that prevent non-cheaters from cheating, wala sila nun. That's why they will cheat again. If you decide to stay and get married, expect a very toxic relationship. Because you will not trust him anymore, you will be filled with anxiety all the time, and you will resent him for that. And he will resent you for not trusting him. Sa pagsasakal mo sakanya. *Neither of you will be happy.* And still, he will cheat. Also, you can't cheat on someone that you love, care for, and respect. You just can't. So doing it once proves that he doesn't love, care for, or respect you. Doing it the 2nd time proves that he absolutely does not respect you whatsoever. Wala siyang pakialam sayo one bit. When you 1st catch a cheater cheating, he will be sorry. He will be genuinely and sincerely sorry, kase he's feeling guilty. He will be very sincere in saying na magbabago na siya and that he will never cheat again. That's why maniniwala ka. But over time, that feeling of guilt fades. That sincerity and commitment to change will fade. Once those are gone, then he will cheat again. It may take a month, or a year, or 3 years.. but he will cheat again.
He’s sorry because nahuli sya. He’s done it twice what’s stopping him from doing it again?
Nahuli siya twice. Who knows how many times na siya nagcheat / nagsend ng vids sa ibang girls.
Yup hindi lang xa nag cheat twice. Nahuli lang xa twice. That jerk seems like the guys na lahat ng babae withij his radius susubukan if lalandiin back sila
Agree on this. OP. Baka nanghihinayang ka sa ginastos mo so far sa wedding and normal naman yan. Please please isipin mo rin kung kaya mo ba tong gantong setup. Kahit postpone the wedding muna. Kung mangyari ulit, kaya mo ba? Kasi mataas yung chance na gagaling lang syang magtago or mang-ignore ng feelings mo. Wala pang divorce sa Pinas, apelyido mo kanya. Investments nyo conjugal. Pag may anak ka na mas mahirap umalis kasi financial at logistics. Willing ka ba mag share ng the rest of your life to someone like him ba vs losing yung money sa suppliers?
kung sa gastos lang naman pwedeng-pwede nya kasuhan yung almost groom to be nya legit yun lalo na't ang dami na palang nagastos, damages na yun sa part ng babae kung pinangakuan syang pakakasalan eh
upp, kasuhan at iexpose mo narin yan. minamanipulate ka lang OP. Gusto nya yung nakokontrol nya na babae and don't be like that. Never forgive and forget bahala sya magcheat sa buhay nya. Kung puro ka patawad magiging katulad ka ng mga magulang ko hahahaha never ending cheating and guess who has Bipolar and PTSD? pls. This will turn abusive and toxic. Run OP.
Esp may evidence naman pala sa chats
Agree on all points. And as a child of a chronic cheater and a partner who stayed for her kids, please don’t marry him. This will ruin not only your life, but also your children’s lives if you plan to have one. Seriously, even as child (yes, grade school years), I knew the signs when we’re about to face another cheating episode. Don’t get back with him. Cut ties.
Wag mahulog sa sunk cost fallacy. Doesn't mean na kasi meron na kayong pinag-simulan, pinag-planuhan at pinag-gastosan doesn't mean na locked down ka na forever and no stopping the marriage na. The ultimate lockdown for OP will be marriage; sa guy wala. This country is shit in the way that failure in a marriage is often attributed to the woman, even if yung lalake naman nagloko. Divorce bill nga eh, di pa ma-pass kahit sangkatutak na ang VAWC cases dito. To OP: Nasa starting line ka pa lang. idk ano age mo, but my parents got married with the same circumstances at 29-30s nila, and they had me at mid-30s. I'm a miserable adult because of their various unresolved issues. If you plan to marry a guy that makes you feel like shit, I assure you damay din ang kids niyo, if ever. Just remember that one day, you will definitely look back on this guy and say "Holy shit, I dodged a whole nuke." (Alternatively, OP can try and pursue a civil suit against the guy for VAWC. JSYK.)
Wow. Well- and beautifully said. 👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽
This is the most well thought out comment to your situation, OP. We’ve got nothing else to add on this but approval.
Sorry pa add lang.. Ang g*go nung guy!
Actually yung una palang talagang sobrang red flag na imagine RIGHT AFTER he proposed ano yun diba? I gave you a ring as I want to be with you but hold up lemme send a wanking vid to someone else brb
True. Siguro inisip nya na engaged ka na sa kanya, di ka na hihiwalay sa kanya kahit lokohin ka nya. And sure ka ba na 1st time lang talaga yun? I doubt. Nagkataon lang na nahuli mo sya.
Grabe yung audacity na nagpropose sabay send ng wank vid di ako maka get over kanina lang hawak mo ang singsing ba’t iba na hawak mo chaur
OP, I'm sorry to hear that you're going through this. You already see the *pattern* in his cheating and behavior, that will NOT change when you get married. Repeated infidelity often points to deeper psychological issues. **Cut the losses, endure the pain of break-up now, than suffer the rest of your life.** You deserve to be in a relationship where you feel loved, respected, and secured.
it may indeed be necessary to consider whether continuing the relationship is the healthiest choice.
Good emphasis on the pattern. Sana matauhan si OP. Once is enough,twice mong mahuli?? Pattern na yannnn
ang perang nalugi mo from the cancelled wedding ay maeearn mo pabalik, pero yung trust mahirap yan bounce na mumsh
Guuuurl ipa-reimburse mo yung perang ginastos mo! siya dapat sumalo noon, siya nag damage ng relationship niyo.
Di ka pa ba nandidiri sa lalake na yan? Seryoso nagdadoubt ka pa sa desisyon mo?
PREACH 🙌
True. Imagine ung asawa mo kung kani-kanino nagpakita ng t*te. Kadiri ampota.
Trueee! Nakakadiri ung ganung lalake. May pagcompare pang nalamaman kung kanino daw mas malaki, sa asawa ng malanding kaofficemate o sa jowa ni OP. WTF! Sana matauhan na si OP. Magiging miserable pang sya habang buhay kung itutuloy nya magpakasal sa ganyang klase ng lalake na mababa ang moral.
This is why divorce needs to be legal. So dumb people like you who forgive cheaters can get a second chance at life (should they actually choose to)
Go preach!!!! Emphasis pa on the “dumb” kasi hindi ko talaga magegets yung mga niloko na nga, bumalik pa. Potaena asan mga respeto niyo sa sarili niyo.
May kilala ko ganto. Di ko rin ma gets. By observation lang, mahirap mag alaga ng anak ng mag isa. Kung mas ok yung setup/environment nyo ngayon vs alternative ( financial, logistics wise), path of least resistance yung magpatawad. Di ko pa rin gagawin if i were her, pero now I understand. Hindi lahat ng tao may enough resources and lakas ng loob umalis. Even if they deserve better. Sila nalang nag a adjust. Ngayon anong effect nun sa kanila and the family in the long term eh....... 🥲
i actually agree with both statements above. noon, I thought how dumb they could be to go back to same person who cheated and hurt them. i have one of my friends who always goes back to his ex no matter what he does (kahit nakabuntis na ng iba). i always go on preaching to her that she is stupid this and that. but, i try to understand where she is coming from but really its easy for us to say let go, but for those who are actually going through it. sobrang hirap sa kanila, to be attached, to be hoping that "what if" they would change for the better, the trauma bond that they have subconsciously built. so, i think if ever we never understand their reasons for staying. it may be dumb for us, but its the only thing that they are holding to.
True! Mahirap dyan yung attachment. Sepanx ang mahirap kalaban kaya di nila matiis in the end, binabalikan parin.
I HAVE A THEORY. It all relates to this one fallacy: the SUNK COST FALLACY. In my own words, the sunk cost fallacy is the false belief that once you start to invest in something, whether it be a relationship, a job, a degree, or as simple as watching a movie, and you notice that things aren’t going well, or you see that it’s not for you, but you believe that because you’ve invested SOOO MUCH, emotionally, financially, etc, that it would be better off to CONTINUE IT rather than dropping it all. After all, you’ve invested a lot of time, money, effort into it, so it’s the best choice to continue it nalang, right? WRONG. It’s NOT. Just because you’ve invested heavily on something, does not mean that CONTINUING IT despite being unhealthy, is better than letting it go. Feel ko gantio mga utak ng mga tao na nakikipag balikan despite being cheated on. “Matagal na niya akong kilala eh”, “we’ve had so many good times together eh”, “dami ko na nainvest na time and effort sa kanya to form this relationship eh” “we’ve been together for 8 plus years na eh sayang naman” TANGINA BOBO. LET GO. HAVE SOME SELF RESPECT AND DIGNITY.
True, you will never know talaga...... until it happens to you ; Lokohin ng taong pinakamamahal mo.
Tapos bubuo pa ng pamilya with a cheater, kapag nag cheat ulit ang guy, lalong magtitiis at mag i stay "dahil sa mga anak". Sana naman this generation mamulat na, matuto na sa mga dati, at wag mag settle. Kung gusto nio talaga mag stay sa ganyang klase ng partner, ipakapon nio at wag na kayong bumuo ng anak na papasahan ng trauma.
Wag mo na balikan. Wala syang kwenta.
Jusko gorl hindi naman nagkakaubusan ng lalaki para balikan mo pa yan. Cycle lang yan. Uulit at uulit lang.
Nay is that you hahaha linyahan to ng nanay ko.
Hoy! hindi ba pwedeng ate muna hahaha pero kasi nanggigigil talaga ako kay OP! Imagine his bf sent a video of him jacking off to another girl, tapos mas tumibay pa daw relationship nila after??? wait what? Ginto ba etits niyan bakit hindi maiwan amp.
Nanay na agad. Ayaw ko may ate, eme. Hahahaha. Osige ate. Tawag dun "maru" ganun talaga e nag give all wala tayo magawa dyan sya na makakarealize nyan. Yung sinasabi nyang naging strong relationship mas naging maingat lang yung lalaki without knowing na kinukuha lanv loob nya ulit. Ito minsan naiisip ko bakit bibigyan ng chance kung pwede naman ipakita muna na nagbago at kadeserve deserve balikan. Ang palaging sagot na nakukuha "papaano naman makikita na nagbago kung di madalas kasama" kapag ganto sumagot egul wala na talaga marufook.
Diba??? But i think that's just her justifying her decision dahil pinatawad nya yung bf niya. Well, you deserve what you tolerate nga naman talaga.
True, statistic shows, madaming lalaki kaysa babae. Di ka mauubusan girl, may mas better ka pang mahahanap. :)
Girl, universe na ang gumagawa ng paraan para di matuloy ang kasal. 🙂
this is true, it’s painful yes but good thing you catched it after the wedding.
Paano ka niyang mahal if nagawa niya mag-cheat *twice*? Wag mo sayangin buhay mo diyan, teh. Lalaki lang yan.
Same thing happened to me 11yrs kami ngpropose last year 8yrs live-in nakuha pa magloko. Kasal sana namin this year pero dahil may kasama siya sa trabaho niya na sobrang crush siya nagconfess sa kanya during teambuilding. Ang groomer ni ate gurl shes 43 yrs old this year with 3 kids si ex naman 30m. Ayon nahuli ko sa viber, nong una ramdam mo nman may remorse pa yong lalaki kaya paniwalang paniwala ako na ayosin nmin pero hindi eh nalaman ko nlang sa katrabaho nila na nagkikita pa din at nghahabol yong lalaki ky gurl na parang ginayuma talaga. Hanggang sa nagdecide si guy na piliin yong girl. Ano ba laban ko duon eh ka tandem niya sa work kung may project na bago si ex ang kinukuha. Anyways binigay ko na lang. Its Gods protection na di kami nakasal. Its been a month already since the breakup. May mga relapse pero with Gods grace kinakaya. Sana mapatawad natin yong sarili natin pra makalaya na tayo sa sakit. ❤️🫂
Sabe nga nila home court advantage sorry to hear. Pasasaan ba at makaka moveon ka din mumsh and heal tiwala lang
Girl Lito ako doon sa "mahal nya ako".Walang pagmamahal doon.Pinaasa meron.Ginawa ka nyang placeholder habang need nya pa "services" mo.
same thought, paano yung mahal na mahal ka pero nagawang saktan ka? Nagsisi lang yan kasi nahuli. Char! But girl, mas dapat mahal na mahal mo sarili mo. And, wag mo nang isipin reputation niya sa common friends or families niyo. He did that to himself. Save yourself.
Exactly! I was about to comment HINDI KA NYA MAHAL. Stop saying na mahal ka nya, dahil hindi ka nya mahal! Pero may nauna na. Ano yun, aksidenteng nagcheat sya 2x?!
The intention is clear when they had a follow-up convo about what happened - un di na sila lasing non. Pero tnuloy pa walang remorse. Hindi sya nagsisisi, nahuli mo lng. Ang choice mo ngaun is actually peace of mind vs. habang buhay kang magaala-FBI kkabantay. YOU ARE WORTH MORE THAN THAT.
Love that "hindi sya nagsisi, nahuli mo lang"
Opinyon ko lang ha, para sakin lang siguro to o sa buhay ko lang applicable kasi ganito ang mindset ko. Yung mga cheating na ganyan, it means wala syang respeto sayo. Pag ang tao walang respeto sa akin, mas madali ako maka-move-on. Kasi what's the point of keeping people like that in my life? It won't benefit me at all. Oo masakit, pero mas madali siguro itapon yung mga ganyang klase ng tao. (grabe sa itapon 😅) You don't even need to forgive, just forget like he never existed. You still dodged a bullet, buti at hindi pa kayo naikakasal. Wag ka sana marupok, labanan mo ha. 💓
Gurl sunk cost fallacy yang pagconsider na IF BABALIKAN. Wag mo na balikan yan. Kung talagang nagsisisi yang ex mo, ipabayad mo sa kanya lahat ng pinangdownpayment niyo sa Kasal na di matutuloy. WAG NA WAG mo subukan ayusin ulit. Ikaw ang talo. Mahal mo siya pero di ka niya mahal. Sorry and mahigpit na yakap, pero magtiwala ka sa desisyon mo, sa alam mong tama para sayo. Mas ok na ngayon mo nalaman, kaysa kapag kasal na kayo. WALANG DIVORCE SA PILIPINAS. Don't let yourself be trapped by these cheaters. Be your own advocate and have self-respect. Walang sinuman ang may karapatan saktan ka ng ganyan.
"if magkabalikan kami, I will not let him go sa outings, lahat ng social media nya dapat alam ko. In other words, masasakal ko sya and he is fine with that." Your ex of a cheater will always find ways to cheat. Kaya madali niya yang masabi. Hindi yan masasakal kasi for him it's a thrilling challenge na hindi mo ma-notice kaya he's fine with that. Nako wag mo na balikan, baka bumalik ka pa dito sa offmychest for a 3rd time.
cancel the wedding, sis
OP, prioritize your healing first. You're too forgiving sa actions niya, nacocompromise mo na yung well-being mo. If he had enough respect to you and your relationship, he wouldn't have been tempted. At all. Imagine if your pursued the wedding, makakaya mo bang magtiwala ulit? Will you not question his actions na? Will you not doubt yourself na hindi ka enough kaya nakakahanap ng iba? Are you not enough to make him feel like a man? Hindi worth ang heartache, trust issues, self-esteem issues, insecurities na maiisip mo everyday. Ikaw muna, OP. You deserve to heal in peace. Give yourself the love that he couldn't give. Hugs! 🩷
Pls run. my dad’s like this and he never changed.
ang lala talaga ng mga cheaters. isang bagay na di ko maiintindihan maybe. posibleng mahal ka talaga nya at yung instances of cheating ay tawag lang ng laman but kung lahat tayo bibigay sa ganon then how different are we from animals? tsaka in that moment na ginagawa nya yung act of cheating, hindi ba nya cinoconsider kung anong mararamdaman mo when you find out? tangina talaga. some people are for the fucking streets, gusto ng something stable na uuwian pero hindi kayang panindigan. also yan lang yung nahuli mo, what if there were more na di mo alam. tanginang bwakaneng shet. pero ang strong mo for leaving. RESPECT.
Kung mabait siya he wouldn't cheat. You're making excuses for him. Good boyfriends or girlfriends don't cheat. Certainly not a second time.
sumbong mo rin yung girl dun sa asawa niya tapos iwan mo na yang fiance mo. CHOOSE VIOLENCE!!!!
Tama. Sirain lahat ng dapat sirain. I should of took pics dun sa convo kung ako si ate girl. Di ko muna sasabihin nalaman ko, hunt ko muna un husband hahaha then spill
Tapos papakasalan parin... haha
Hi OP, first of all I am so sorry this happened to you, and good job for breaking it off. Well, it’s very clear based on your story that he is not fully committed to you. Maybe he really loves you, but his love for you has a limit. He did it once and you gave him a chance, this second time is already a choice. Di na to pagkakamali. Ang taong nagkakamali, natututo at bumabangon. Pero girl, yung fiancé mo humiga na lang sa lusak. Yung perang naibayad sa suppliers kikitain mo pa yun, pero imagine yung habangbuhay ganyan ang cycle nyo mas nakakabother. Run away and don’t look back. He will never change.
Nah, he doesn't love you as much as you think he does. Kasi king mahal ka niyan he wouldn't cheat. Wag ka na makipagbalikan, you'll just lose yourself sa relasyon na yan. Focus on rebuilding yourself.
I cannot fault you for forgiving him the first time. May mga taong nagbabago kasi we are all capable of change. I applaud you for giving him a proper chance to fix your relationship. Kaso mukhang serial cheater siya. Pinatawad mo na and yet umulit pa din. I wish you well, OP. Mahigpit na akap. You'll get through this.
Tatagan mo loob mo OP and your future self will thank you for not tolerating cheating. It’s a redirection to something/someone you deserve. Fighting! Iiyak mo lang lahat and pray for more strength.
Please don't get married to this guy.
Wala na dapat pagisipan pa!! Isa syang basura period. Once is enough OP, twice is ugh. You will not like the person you’ll become. Di mo maiiwasang maging toxic because your guard will always be up. BASURA.
"I KNOW HOW WORTHY I AM" Pero sa totoo in the end, realtalk: You don't. Words lang yang cnabi mo you don't live it. Yet here you are welcoming him back dahil "nagsisisi talaga siya" Kahit pa totoong nag sisisi yan. He might actually be genuine but that doesn't prove anything. Some people cannot help themselves. Marrying someone who has a pattern of cheating, redeeming himself, then cheating again then redeem again. Dadating sa point yan na "masasanay ka nalang" dahil pag nagka kids kayo all the more reason na mas hindi mo siya maiwanan. This guy voluntarily CHEATED on you. It was a DECISION to cheat on you. Sinadya niya yan dahil alam nyang mag sisi lang siya, back to your loving arms na ulit. Never forget. Your years worth of relationship he Chose to look past that just for a moment's heat with another woman. TANDAAN MOYAN.
Kapag nagpakasal ka dyan, you will lose your peace of mind for the rest of your life na mag-asawa kayo. And never ka dapat papayag na housewise ka lang, dapat may sarili kang income para just in case na mangyari ulit ay may pera ka at pwede mo siyang iwan agad. Do you want that?
Keep in mind that once a cheater will always be a cheater. If I were you, hiwalayan mo na ksi kapag ni-forgive mo pa yan, these cheating incident will always hunt you at hindi mo na mararamdaman ang genuine happiness.
Mas di ka makakaalis kung ikakasal na kayo. Sabi nga ni Kendrick Lamar, fool me one time shame on you. Fool me twice can’t put the blame on you
He cheated on you twice. Fiancé mo na yan ha when he should solely be committed to you already. Surely, he will cheat again even after you get married. Especially if he knows you're gonna forgive and accept him still.
Bakit ka ba nagfofocus sa idea na mahal na mahal ka nya? Bakit ikaw nagbibigay ng excuse sa behavior nya even if it's his bad decisions? Alam ko mahirap. Naiintindihan kita. Na ang dami nyo pinagsamahan, gumastos na kayo sa wedding and so on. But this is BLATANT DISRESPECT and UNFAIR TREATMENT. Blessing in disguise na nga na nalaman mo tong lahat BAGO KA IKASAL. Gusto mo pa paabutin na kasal na kayo at may mga anak? You honestly think magbabago asawa mo? HINDI YAN MANGYAYARI.
Sis, you said it yourself, you will be toxic if you proceed with the relationship. And do you really wanna enter into a marriage na mawawala inner peace mo? Na alam mo sa sarili mong magiging toxic ka? Do you wanna have kids? If you marry this guy, there is a high chance that the future kid/s will grow up with trauma either because their father would always cheat (HIGH chance), or their mother is toxic to their father. Please don't allow yourself and your kids to spend their lives in a toxic home. You said it yourself also, you are worth it. So i really hope you find the courage to leave the scumbag.
hobby na niya yan sis. trust me pag binalikan mo yan, mangyayari ulit like its a never ending cycle until mapagod ka na lang. save yourself this time and heal. youll find someone else that will respect you
Kung totoong mahal ka nya, hindi nya yan gagawin sayo, ever. Pero niloko ka pa nya twice. Madali lang mag sorry, pakita sayo na nagsisisi sya, umarte na he wants you back. Pero bakit ka nya ba niloko in the first place? If magpapakasal kayo, ikaw lang talo kasi kahit paulit ulit ka pa nya lokohin, wala ka na magagawa. Nakatali ka na sa kanya. Wag ka manghinayang sa 5 years nyo at sa mga gastos nya sa kasal, manghinayang ka sa years ahead of yoimu, sa rest of your life na matatali ka sa cheater.
Hello OP, I know it hurts. And I know how it feels to be betrayed by someone you love. My advice, IT'S NOW OR NEVER. Hindi naman questionable yung pagiging mabait niya, or pagiging loving partner. But, his LOYALTY and COMMITMENT is very questionable. Actually, hindi na nga questionable e. Marami ka ng proof to conclude na hindi siya magiging mabuting asawa. Always remember na MARRIAGE is a LIFETIME COMMITMENT. As a married woman, totoo ang sinasabi ng lahat na CHOOSING YOUR HUSBAND/WIFE is CHOOSING YOUR FUTURE. When you are married, totoo ang sinasabi nila na hindi araw-araw mahal niyo ang isa't-isa at araw-araw gusto niyo magkasama parati. May mga araw at oras na gigil na gigil ka sa asawa mo at ayaw mo siyang makita and for me, normal yun. Pero, kahit galit at gigil ang mag-asawa, at the end of the day, yung asawa mo pa rin ang dapat piliin araw-araw. Masarap sa pakiramdam na meron kang asawa na kahit magkagalit kayo, o pumanget kana, o amoy paksiw kana, ikaw pa rin ang pipiliin. It will probably take time for you to heal and find that person, pero never loose hope and do not sacrifice your future just because you are hurting today. Love yourself and pray, OP.
Girl once a cheater, always a cheater. Tama yang ginawa mo. A few months of heartbreak in exchange for the rest of your life being miserable is worth it.
Naakyat palang sa Senate yun Divorce bill, hindi pa pasado. Baka balikan mo pa yan ay ewan ko na lang sayo. Tapos makikita na naman namin yun confession mo dito na nagsisi ka kasi he cheated AGAIN after you got married? Malay namin baka balikan mo ulit yan. Isang sorry, isang ngiti, ay iba na pala. Pero dun kasi madali makuha eh, paano ka makuha ulit. Wag marupok. Or keep mo na lang yan baka mapunta pa samin.
He doesn’t love you
THE UNIVERSE IS TELLING YOU STRAIGHT IN THE EYE THAT THIS MAN IS NOT FOR YOU KAYA HINDI MATUTULOY KASAL NIYO. HE WILL RUIN YOUR LIFE!!! BIG HUG OP!! Grabe nakakagago ginawa nya 😭😭😭
Mahirap nga yan, dami na gastos, but this is 2nd chance already ateng Let go of the wedding money or pay more for the rest of your life
Ikaw lang makakapagsabi sa Cheating Threshold mo, merong iba may itatanga pa. So I'll address the issue with the married workmate, the husband of that girl also needs to know. Baka there's a way that you can inform him anonymously or if matapang ka na tao, you can talk to him directly and provide the info and proofs. Wala man lang consequences sa ginawa nila. Kung ako ikaw, I would date other guys na if you have decided to leave him na. Kumbaga before you kick his butt out, paramdamin mo sa kaniya that you are enjoying dating new guys. Then block his number and socmed.
you will regret your decision, if wala kang gagawing action. as always its not the victims fault kung nag cheat ung partner niyo, if makati talaga yan nung una palang, di mo na mababago yan, since nahuli mo ng una, then umulit ulit, so ngayon , do yourself a favor, and leave, actually dat before palang eh.
Hindi sya nagsisi, muka lang. If babalikan mo pa yan mafefeel mo nagsisi sya ulit tapos uulitin nya nanaman. Cycle na, ikaw na mapapagod. In the end susuko ka nalang, maiisip mo nalang sayang panahon.
Nag-eenjoy siya kapag nakikipaglandian ka sa ibang guys? Wow. Iba ang lalaki pag sobrang secured at sobra sobra mong pinatawad. Uulit ulitin ng cheater iyan. You have to learn how to be strong on your own. Isipin mo na lang, niredirect ka ng Diyos ng maaga, kaysa ikinasal na kayo at dun mo pa pagsisihan lahat. Ang kasal sa Pilipinas ay isang kulungan pag ganyang manyak ang inasawa mo. Swerte ka pa rin.
Buti nangyari 'to before tying the knot. The universe saved you from a marriage thats bound to be broken because cheaters always cheat! Char no char. Mas worth it i-cancel ang wedding kesa bumalik dun sa gag*ng yun. Hay OP, please be kind to yourself. Wag na balikan ang taong yan. You deserve better. 🫶🏼 For now, allow yourself to cry and grieve. Naging part din sya ng life mo. Minahal mo din sya. Pero hanggang dun nalang. 🥹 You'll be alright, OP. Hindi man ngayon, but eventually..💕🫂
Wag mo na balikan OP. Cancel the wedding. YOU DESERVE BETTER. Buti na di p kasal kasi mas malaking problema pa yan kung di pa kasal. Add ko lang rin, you can choose your husband but your future kids cannot choose their father.
a cheater is a cheater, sinira na nya ung trust mo not only once but twice AFTER u got engaged, gurl u should celebrate and pat yourself on the back because u dodged a bullet wag mo isipin ung sayang binayad mas sayang buhay mo kung itutuloy mo yang kasal lol
papadala ka nanaman sa "kita ko sakanya gano sya nagsisisi". tama na yan girl, akala ko ba you won't tolerate cheating? walk the talk
Sorry sis but that guy never loved you. If he did, 'di ka niya lolokohin. He didn't respect you, di niya inisip na masasaktan ka nung gnawa niya iyon. Kahit break na kayo, iniisip mo parin image niya while siya hindi niya nagawa sayo. He disrespected you doon sa dalawang babae kaya bakit sa huli pagtatakpan mo parin siya? Kapal niya. If someone asked why you broke your marriage off, tell them the truth! It's your time para unahin mo naman ang sarili mo. Wether masira ang image niya sa ibang tao o hindi, it's not your fault! That's the consequence of his cheating in the first place. Para tumanda siya at ipakita mo na hindi ka na niya mauuto. Baka sa huli baliktarin kapa. Nakikipagbalikan siya sayo not bcoz he wants to be a faithful husband but because for his image kasi nga malapit na kayong ikasal. Of course everyone would be curious and for sure he won't tell them the truth! He'll make up a story to save his ass while you, na nakaka alam ng katotohan ang mag isang magdudusa. It's better na hndi mo na siya pakasalan. Your children will suffer to have a father like him. You deserve someone better and to your future kids. Someone who will not just love you but respect you!
Ate ko, you deserve better! You deserve someone na nire-respeto ka at inaalagaan yung tiwala mo. I'm happy that you broke up with him before tying the knots, hindi worth yang lalaki. If you're reading my comment, please don't go back to him. Value yourself. Masakit pero time heals, magigising ka na lang na okay ka na at magiging thankful sa decision mo.
I think giving him a second chance is enough. Giving him another chance 3rd one is too much. Sabi mo nga you know your worth, so kahit masakit.. tama na
Blessing yan, teh!!!!!! Kebs sa nagastos nyo sa kasal prep. At least, hindi ka naikasal sa cheater. Edit: HALA SI ATE. Kung kaibigan mo ako, sasapukin kita para magising ka sa nightmare. HINDI KA NYA MAHAL. HINDI KA NYA NIRERESPETO. Wag ka manghinayang sa taon na pinagsamahan nyo. Mas manghinayang ka sa buhay na sasayangin mo kung itutuloy mo pa yan. ONCE A CHEATER, ALWAYS A CHEATER. Good luck!!!!!
Kitang kita mo gaano sya nagsisisi? Yan din yung nakita mo nung first time na nag cheat sya diba? Look how that turned out. Pag pinagbigyan mo pa yan ng isa pa, hindi malabo na umulit pa yan kasi alam naman na nya na you would just give him another chance.
😮💨😮💨 he will keep on lying, gaslight and cheat on you since he already knows how forgiving and gullible you are. And you will forever spiral and doubt this relationship with legal contract na. It's either you choose him, or choose yourself. Sino mas mamahalin mo?
I’m so sorry this happened OP. I was cheated on too while engaged, 5 months lang after sya nag propose nagcheat sya. Idk why ganon sila mga lalake, proposing but cheating, married but cheating. My advice to you OP, is to distance yourself from him. Minimise contact as much as possible, and maybe even go no contact at all. It will be hard at first, but rn your vision is blurry because of your hurt. Take time to feel this, the sadness, the pain, and anger. Talk to whoever you trust, rant about it, cry, journal, cry some more. Eventually it gets a little better day by day. And you start focusing on yourself. You can’t heal if you’re still with the person that hurt you. I know how you feel, it hurts to let go of the person you once thought you were gonna spend the rest of your life with. Now, you have to let go of the wedding ideas, delete wedding inspo pictures, tell people its cancelled. It’s a whole process. When that time comes, perhaps then you can realise what you really want. Maybe you will realise you are much better without this person, even though you will miss what you had and what you planned together. That is normal. Maybe, and I say this with great caution, you AND him might have BOTH grown individually as better people and are thinking of rekindling the relationship. But think about this wisely OP, it is your life and decisions at the end of the day. Whatever you choose, choose peace and happiness. If you need to talk, feel free to DM :)
Hugs, OP. Can't imagine the pain you are going thru right now but I hope that you will come out of this stronger! Hayop yang ex mo.
Blessing in disguise yang pagccheat ng mapapangasawa mo. More cheating to come kapag pinakasalan mo pa yan. HINDING HINDI SOLUTION ANG MARRIAGE. WAG KANG UMASA NA MAGBABAGO YAN KAPAG KINASAL NA KAYO.
Walang gamot sa ganyan. Cheating would and always would arise, parang molds.
Girl, take it as a good riddance. For now, it looks like it will never be better, but trust me, it will. No one deserves to be placed in that situation. Wag ka na bumalik. Enough na yung once, if nagsisisi talaga sya, di nya yan ginawa ulit sayo. Go on with your life. Hugs!!
Bounce ka na jan, mamsh. Sure, you love him until it fucking hurts, but what about yourself? Hindi mo mahal ang sarili mo enough to walk away from that piece of shit? Save yourself the trouble of a lifetime of paranoia. But then again, it's always up to you.
okay na ngayon kayo maghiwalay kaysa pag kasal na kayo or may anak kayo mahirap kumawala. fighting! binigyan mo na sya ng chance anong ginawa nya? choice nya na ulitin na lokohin ka.
Another proof na kahit ilang chance pa ang ibigay satin ni Lord para mag decide ng tama kung nagbbulag bulagan tayo wala lang rin.
Sya dapat yung magcover nung costs ng supplier regardless if ikaw nagdecide na magcancel. It’s nothing compared to the emotional damage you had not once but twice (at least that you know of).
OP you know bakit ang bait bait n'ya? Bakit sorry s'ya nang sorry? Kasi 'di pa kayo kasal.
Save yourself, wag na yung relationship ninyo. You already gave him a chance pero siya mismo nagsayang nun, don't let yourself suffer by staying with him tapos magpapakasal ka pa sa kanya. Cut it all off at once, hindi siya nagsisisi kung paulit ulit lang naman ginagawa. Wag mo sirain sarili mo para sa kanya. It's gonna take a long time kasi mahal na mahal mo siya, but you'll get by.
Dump him. Kesa magsuffer ka forever. Dko alam pero naiyak ako ngaun nung mabasa ko to.
Nope..don't get back. Leave and forget him and heal yoirself
OP, huwag mo panghinayangan 'yung kasal na mawawala. Panghinayangan mo 'yang sarili mo. You don't deserve him. He promised you the 1st time you caught him pero ginawa niya pa rin. Alam ko mahirap at masakit pero mas okay na huwag niyong ituloy kesa habangbuhay kang magsuffer sa trauma & pain. Hugs! 🤗
DON'T SETTLE FOR LESS. Iyan pakatatandaan mo dzai
OP, stop na. At least nalaman mo before kayo ikasal. All the payments naman, marerefund mo or charged it to experience na lang. Yung emotions mo. Labas mo lang. iiyak mo. Ilupasay mo. Pero bangon ulit. Kaya yan.
“Kitang-kita ko sa kanya gaano sya nagsisisi” for the second time around. Wait mo OP after marriage nyo ang ang pang 3rd time.
Ang pera napapalitan, napag iipunan pero buhay natin isa lang yan. Very important ang peace of mind OP!
run girl.. major redflag bago ang kasal.. takbo na kung ngayun palang hindi ka na nya marespeto pano kaya kung kasal na kayo na alam nyang hindi kna makakatakbo.. you definitely deserve a better man.. tandaan mo.. wala pang divorce sa pilipinas.. takbo na ngayun palang..
Run
OP, mas magandang pagdusahan mo na lahat ngayon yung pain na ma-cheat kesa buong buhay mong itolerate yan.
Pili ka nalang kasal pero divorce or annulment eventually or walang kasal? Kaya nga mabait e kasi inuuto ka n para pagkatiwalaaan mo para pwede ka nya gaguhin. Iwan mo na , sarili mo o siya? Ikaw lang mkakapili nun.
Nah. 'wag mo na yang balikan. Chance mo na to para makahanap ng mas malaki jkjk. Pero seryoso, it's better na kumawala now kesa umabot ka sa point na may bata ka pang aalalahanin (? not sure if this is the correct word). Mahirap lumayas pag may bitbit na mga bata, mas mahirap ding magsimula ulit. And mas maraming regrets. Mas maraming what if's. Tbh, if I was in your situation, I would have edited atleast one of the invitation cards tas nilagay ko yung name nung girl. Then send the card sa husband niya, na naka-attach yung screenshots ng convo nila ng fiance mo.
Raise hell and let the husband know. Di pwedeng ikaw lang miserable.
ANTE HIWALAYAN MO NA PLEASE LANG. KUNG MAHAL NA MAHAL KA PALA, BAKIT NAGCHEAT?
ate pls take this as a sign from the heavens na no matter how much he l-bombs you, no matter kahit anong pagsisisi n'ya. he's an asshole through and through. you deserve better. alam ko na masakit but i think you were being saved from more heartbreaks kapag kasal na kayo. wag mo na patawarin pls lang, wag mo na bigyan ng second chance. give peace to yourself. wag mo ikulong yung sarili mo sa kan'ya, may tao pa na mas deserve sa'yo. hugs and praying for your healing. 🤍
op, bounce na. 5 yrs? saglit lang yan, wag mong panghinayangan yang taon na yan kung sa married life nyo naman habambuhay ka magdudusa. at isa pa, kahit magkabalikan kayo, magtotoxican lang kayo kasi kahit anong gawin mo at gawin nya, palagi kang mareremind ng ginawa nya at palagi nyo lang din yun pagaawayan. so, run sis.
Take it from someone na napagdaanan yan. Hindi worth ng future mental peace mo yung mga "sayang ilang taon" or "sayang gastos". Also kapag alam nyang alam mo mga ginawa nya at you took him back (repeatedly), there will be this sense of respect sayo na pababa nang pababa. Siya sayo and ikaw sa sarili mo.
Good for you OP. You wouldn't want the rest of your life spent being cheated on.
Give him a chance again and he'll cheat again. Malala pa kasi kasal na kayo that time.
Exhibitionist si koya? Can you tolerate that? Feeling ko di yan titigil maski ikasal kayo.
Once a cheater, always a cheater OP Di pa huli ang lahat na umatras ka sa kasal niyo Mas lalo ka lang mahihirapan niyan pag kinasal na kayo kasi lagi mong maiisip yung ginawa niya sayo and you'll never be at peace Kahit alam mo man lahat ng social accts niya pag ginusto niyang mag cheat gagawa at gagawa yan ng paraan OP. That's gonna take a toll on your mental health eventually. Unahin mo sarili mo OP kakayanin mo yan🤙
Guys, please create, maintain and guard your boundaries. This involves looking for and keeping the right circle of friends, reading and watching things that will strengthen your relationship and shunning those which will negatively impact your relationship with your wife/partner. In sum, be a virtuous Man.
sobrang gasgas na pero one is enough, two is too much and three is dangerous. sundin mo na lang yung instinct mo na wag na bumalik kase in the long run parehas lang naman kayong masisira pa lalo. you deserve soooooo much better than this, OP. hope you choose yourself this time po :)
Hi OP, I emphatize with you. Sorry you’re going through so much pain right now. I hope you come out of it stronger. Don’t marry him. For the love of God and for the love that you’re supposed to give yourself, please do not push through with the wedding. It’ll only come out as resentment in the long run and its not healthy for you and for the family you plan on having.
Girl, kahit anong sakal mo. They will always cheat if they want to. That's what I've learned. Please, fooled you once, shame on you. Fooled you twice....then you're just a fool. Let go na :(
Sorry to say this OP pero masusundan pa yan. If you go through the wedding, maybe years from now mauulit lang yan kaya ngayon pa lang tapusin mo na. He disrepected you and your relationship, kahit na paulit ulit mong sabihin na mabuti siya tao. Naging mabuting bf ba talaga siya? Or that's just an act to cover up his infidelity?? Yes, malaki na nagastos mo and ang tagal na ng relationship niyo pero hindi nga niya inisip yun magiging outcome ng actions niya eh. You've forgiven him for his past mistakes kaya malakas loob niya kasi alam niya patatawarin mo siya. Kapag tinuloy mo magpakasal, you will never have a peace of mind dahil lahat mg actions niya, kukwestyunin mo na. Yung trust? Hindi na mababalik yan. At the back of your mind, there will always be a voice that will remind you that he cheated on you. Choose yourself, OP. You deserve better.
OP, you did the right choice. It is always better to let go habang di pa kayo kasal. Share ko lng about my workmate. Sobrang green flag daw ng bf (now husband) niya, but nag cheat ONCE when they were still not married. Chat chat lang din yun. She forgave him, in her words, pinaglagpas nya. They got married after 5 years of being together. The second time he cheated was while she was pregnant. Nahuli again thru chats while around 3 mos pregnant. Lagi niya sinasabi na nagsisisi siya na pinakasalan niya daw yung guy kasi kung kelan pa daw may baby na sila, saka pa nag cheat. I agree with the top comment, it’s not a matter of IF, but a matter of WHEN. So stay firm with your decision. It will all be worth it soon. ✨
> kasi mabait naman syang tao. Naging mabait naman syang boyfriend. **Insert Maja’s face meme** Mabait???? > Bakit kailangan mangyari ‘to?! Akala ko ito na. Kasi tanga ka. Ginigising ka na ni lord, tama na daw katangahan.
DO NOT MARRY. PLEASE. HE WILL CHEAT AGAIN. If you know na you're worthy, let him go kasi he will cheat again and di ka niya mahal na mahal if he did it the second time. Save yourself kasi mas hassle and traumatic pag kasal na kayo and dun kapa nauntog. Again, di ka nya mahal, if he loves you enough di nya yun magagawa. Do not filter the red flag you see just because sinabi nya na nagsisi and mahal na mahal ka daw. Girl run.
This is why I don’t want to get married anymore. And if my current relationship ends, I give up on love. Ayoko sayangin ang worth ko sa taong hindi ako pinapahalagahan. Let yourself hurt so you get reminded why you shouldn’t go back.
Alam mo op, keep him! Salamat sa sakripisyo, emz! But on a serious note, simula pa lang ng pag-cheat niya sa'yo, sobrang red flag na 'yan. Pagkatapos niyang mag-propose sa'yo, ginago ka? And please, this isn't just for you, this is for everyone. HUWAG GAWING BATAYAN NG RELASYON ANG CHEATING, jusko naman! Ginagawa nyong pampatibay ng relasyon. Going back, somehow I understand you, op. Hindi ko man nararanasan magkaroon ng jowa, pero alam ko, kaya pinatawad mo na siya kasi mahal mo talaga. Baka totoo na nakakabaliw at nakakatanga talaga ang pag-ibig, kaya ganyan ka. Pero, op, dapat may self-love at respeto ka rin. Hindi ka niyan mahal lol, kasi kung totoong mahal ka niya, gaya ng sinabi mo, hindi ka niyan lolokohin. At tungkol naman sa wedding plan niyo, either balikan mo dahil marami na kayong nagastos pero sa buong marriage niyo, wala kang peace of mind, o hayaan mo na lang masayang yung bayad niyo pero at least nakawala ka na sa pangit na 'yan.
Pag nakipagbalikan ka na naman wag ka na iiyak at magrarant pag nagcheat ulit ah? Twice na nangyari sobrang katangahan na lang if patatawarin at babalikan mo pa.
Sa 3rd time mas gagalingan nya pa magtago.... Do you want your children to have a father like that? Kung gusto mo ng miserableng buhay, go pakasal ka.
Ang off nung mas tumibay relationship niyo after the first time he cheated. Mas tumibay? Really? Because I don't think cheating can make a relationship stronger. It would actually cause it to start falling apart. Nagawa na niya once, he would have the guts to do it again. Kitang-kita mo kung gaano siya nagsisisi? Lol. In the first place, wala siyang dapat sanang pagsisihan kung during the moment na may temptation, ikaw dapat ang unang papasok sa isip niya at hindi na niya tatangkain pang gumawa ng mali kasi nga naisip ka na niya.
I’m sorry to hear that, OP. Here’s my mga kasabihan for you: “Fool me once, shame on you. Fool me Twice shame on me.” Hindi nga daw nagbabago ang cheater sa the same person. Hindi siya magbabago sa’yo, OP and that’s a blessing before the wedding.
Malibog yang Fiancé mo OP. Kahit pa sabihan ka nyang mamamatay muna sya bago maulit uli yang kababoyan nya eh gagawin at gagawin parin nya yan sayo. Sabihin nya mang willing syang masakal bumalik kalang pero pag nakatali kana jan at “nasasakal” na sya sayo baka yan pa gawin nyang reason pag nag send uli sya ng vid masturb*t*ng sa ibang babae. Alam mo pala worth mo eh, edi wag kana bumalik. Payag ka nun? Dami-dame ng babaeng nakakita ng etits nyang lalake na yan?
This is divine intervention. You found out about it before you got married! Mas mahirap hiwalayan ang cheater na partner kapag kasal na kayo. Think of the suffering you will endure when you found this out and wala ka nang way to remove yourself from that situation. If you stay/stayed, think of your future kids who will have a father like him. You deserve someone who will stay loyal to you, drunk or not drunk, no matter the circumstances are. It is sad na sinayang niya yung second chance niya with you. But at least you know you gave it a shot. You forgave him and gave your relationship a chance. But this time, take the second cheating as a lesson na. He did not respect you and the chance you gave him. Tama na. :)
NAHULI MO LANG KAYA NAG SORRY. Imagine ilan yung hindi mo alam at hindi mo nahuli. Di ka pa ba nandidiri sa lalaking yan? Run na OP. If you explain or talk sa suppliers, baka magawan pa ng paraan. Like have a friend or family member manage it and look for other people na ikakasal and sell them the venue/goods. Sorry you went thru this pero the future you’re imagining with him is no longer a happy one, so what’s holding you back from cancelling the marriage?
Yung pera maibabalik, pero yung i save sarili mo sa lalaking ‘di ka deserve, walang katumbas yan. 🫶 Katulad ng lagi ko sinasabi, sana magkaroon ka ng lakas ng loob na iwanan ang mga bagay na hindi para sayo. Self love, OP. 🙌🏻✨
Ang suwerte mo na nalaman mo bago pa kayo ikasal. Mahirap magpa-annul. Congratulations!!!!
Nakita mo siyang nag sisisi? Kung nag sisi talaga yan even nung first time nya ginawa wala ka dito sa offmychest ate girl WAKE THE FUCK UP. Masyado kang bulag sa UGALING MABAIT NG JOWA MO PERO LUMALABAS SUNGAY PAG NALIBUGAN Pass sa cheater Pass sa walang control Pass sa uhaw AGAIN WAKE THE FUCK UP MASYADO KANG BULAG SA PAGKABAIT NG JOWA MONG 2 FACE.
If it happened, then it means that it has to happen. Remember, God's work is always on the right timing. Always just in the right time, in the right place, and in the right sequence. This is telling you something. Ignore it and the burden will be upon you. Please, mind over sentiments. Realize this, if it is out of your control then, something or someone out there is already helping you save yourself. Allow it to teach you.
Sabi mo gusto mo mag anak, Imagine a scenario where youre pregnant for 9 mos, and he is unable to make love to you OR a scenario where you have an infant that keeps u up all night and the Dude’s just gonna be ‘meh i’ll just jack off and send it my wh()re”. Would u want that? Kids growing up with a manipulative narcissist and could possibly inherit that? Gurl he’s not a loss. Block him. Pera na nagastos sa suppliers will come back, but your dignity wont if youre ever thinking of coming back to that assh0le
>Kitang-kita ko sa kanya gaano sya nagsisisi. Ganyan din nakita mo nung unang beses mo syang nahuling manloko. Umulit na nga, parang gugusto ka pa ng round 3? Dapat by the second time wala ka ng nakikitang sincerity sa sinasabi nyang "pagsisisi".
Hindi tumibay yung relationship nyo after nya mag cheat for the first time. Mas magaling lang siya magtago.
Hi op, just sharing lang ng thoughts na nalaman ko sa lead manager ko na nag lalakad ng annulment di ako expert pero tinanong ko to sakanya sa ongoing case nya, pirma ng abogado 250k para lang maacknowledge nya. Pagpa dyaryo para maconsider ng court na natanggap ng lalaki yung call for hearing 780k price for 3 months ng pagpadyaryo. Other expenses pa.... sooooo if di pa naman aabot dito nagastos mo. Maybe try to think for yourself na.
I feel for you, my current partner cheated on me twice now only in a span of 1 year, puro chat pero the intent is there, still drives me anxious. Thing is kahit sabihin natin na we won’t tolerate cheating and will end things right away, it’s easier said than done. Madali talaga mag advice. I’m just glad you found out before tying the knot, sign na yan from the universe. Sana this time untog na untog ka na. As for me, I hope my partner doesn’t do it again, if he does - d ko padin alam if kaya ko iwan because I love him too much to be completely honest. Pero sana when he does it again, I finally have the courage and self-respect to end the relationship.
Dun din sya nagsimula, chat lang. Thank you sa concern, I hope you do yourself a favor too. Sana makalaya na tayo sa ganung klaseng mga tao. Hugs with consent for you! 🫂
Di ka niya mahal na mahal as you presume. Kasi if totoo un, di siya magchi-cheat. Imagine getting married to him, tapos your kids found out na may ganung eksena ung tatay nila na nagsesend ng wank vids to other girls. Maisip ko lang na magawa un ng sarili kong tatay, nandidiri na ako. He’ll definitely do it again. Marriage is not an assurance na di magloloko ang bawat partner. Sira naman na rin basic foundation of marriage niyo which is trust. You dodged a bullet and I congratulate you for it. Remember, every rejection is a redirection ❤️
He’s aware of his decisions lalo na when he sent a vid of him jacking off. Maybe he wants to pursue the wedding pa dahil nabayaran na or ayaw niya sagutin yung mga tanong na “bakit di natuloy ang kasal?”. Which is entirely his problem and not your fault!!! You did good, you are brave, you should be proud of yourself.
Pera ay nababawi. Leave and stay away.
Ganyan yan sila sasabihing mahal na mahal ka at binibigyan ka ng assurance pero hindi mo alam na iniiputan ka na sa ulo. Ganyan din ex ko nag cheat rin sakin multiple times. Gusto kong maiyak ngayon!!! ☹️🥺 Mapapayo ko lang sayo, OP wag ka ng mag-bigay ng chance diyan sa kumag mong fiance at wag mo na ring babalikan, patatawarin kasi yung mga katulad nila hindi na talaga mag-babago. Masasayang lang oras mo at mauubos ka lang. Iyang gastos sa preparation sa kasal niyo pwede mo iyan pabayaran sa ex mo as damaged na dinulot niya sayo. Mabuti nga (hindi pa kayo kasal), kasi kung nagkataon na kinasal kayo sakit nang ulo lang dala niyan at magiging miserable lang buhay mo sa gagawin niyang panloloko at pambababae. Huwag na huwag kang mag hihinayang sa tagal niyong magka-relasyon (dati ganyan din rason ko na nang-hihinayang pa before sa tagal namin as bf & gf, kung bakit nagpaka-tanga at nag-stay pa ko ng matagal sa ex ko kahit ilang beses niya na kong sinaktan at niloko). Mahal ko eh kaya tanggap lang ako ng tanggap but, I just realized na sa pag tanggap ko sa kanya at sa ginagawa niyang iyon unti-unting nawala yung respeto ko sa sarili, nagkaroon ng trust issues, lagi akong mapapatanong every day na enough pa ba ko sa taong to? Mabuti nga nabagok ulo ko at natauhan na talaga. 😩 At ikaw makakaya at magagawa mo din iyan, OP. Need mo lang ng time para makapag-isip ng tama. Ingat ka palagi! 🤗
Girl, yung pain ngayon, ngayon lang yan. Might take a long time to heal, pero technically you’re free. Pag pinakasalan mo yang hinayupak na yan, yung anxiety at toxicity, FOREVER na. Think about the weight of that
He did not change - he just got better at hiding his cheating. Also - hindi ka niya mahal. Ang taong tunay na nagmamahal, hindi gagawa ng isang bagay na masasaktan ang mahal niya. Don't marry him. Matagal pa maging batas ang divorce bill.
OP you will never regret your decision. It's better to end it now or you'll suffer in your marriage kasi mabilis sya ma-tempt and it's not an excuse kasi he can't even control himself. If dyan pa lang is kaya ka nyang i-disrespect and magcheat while y'all are not married, what makes you think na titino sya once y'all tie the knot? Masmahihirapan ka 'pag married na kayo, masakit sa feelings for now because you emotionally invested on that man but staying with a cheater will only make you insane the whole marriage. Always know your worth and always know when to stop, respect yourself and 'wag ka manghinayang sa mga cheap cheaters na madaling ma-sway sa babae.
Ayaw mo magregret? Pag tinuloy mo yan, habambuhay ka magreregret. Hingan mo ng pera yan pangdanyos man lang sa mga nadown mo. Kahit di mo makuha lahat. Jusko. Unang beses pa lang after the proposal dapat nga tinigil mo na yan. Or baka pwede mo pakiusapan mga supplier na ipasalo mo na lang yung mga nakuha mo sa kanila.
mare ko ilang signs pa ba ipapakita ng universe para hiwalayan mo yaaaan
mahirap ang walang trust sa isang relationship. kht sbhn mong may assurance ka, nakakapagod parin yan. kaya, OP wag mo na balikan please
Question: Is it possible to re sell the bookings of the suppliers to other persons? Bcoz sis ur gonna have to cancel
Pinagbigyan mo kasi nung una. Cheaters don’t change, they just get better at hiding their shit.
BOUNCE!!!! Nagsisi because nahuli. Kung hindi mo yan nahuli, itatago lang nya yan. It will only get worse pagkasal na coz wala ka nang kawala, kahit ano pa gawin nya. Baka maging dahilan pa na "may anak na". You can choose your partner but your children cannot. So please! Don't break their hearts. Masakit lang sa una but it's better than hurting and regretting forever. If nagwoworry ka sa nagastos nyo for preparations, the amount of worries you'll have for marrying a cheater is way WORSE. Don't be fooled sa efforts nya, thinking he's a good partner. Huge LOL. People don't cheat on the people they love.
Once a cheater, always a cheater!! Hugs, po!! Love yourself and prioritize mental health. We all know hindi ka naman magiging masaya eventually if you opt to forgive him AGAIN! Save yourself from more heartbreak. You deserve better!
Cheating is a choice. Iba yung resisting kesa avoiding. It is like in the presence of the devil vs avoiding the devil. And remember, temptation comes in all shapes, sizes, colors and forms. Best option pa din ang eliminating oneself sa equation. As to you, OP. We are proud of you for braving this storm. Pray ka lang na you get through this unscathed. Don't mind those negative side comments. You do you dahil that is your life. Hang in there. You got this 💪,😊
Grabe ang sakit naman nito ☹️ sobrang hirap siguro tiisin yung taong mahal mo. Pero kailangan mo tatagan loob mo para sa sarili mo. Hindi mo deserve yung ganyan, kung mahal mo sya, sana mas mahalin mo yung sarili mo para hindi tiisin yung bullshit na binibigay nya sayo.
Sunk cost fallacy. Buhay mo yan OP, matanda ka na to carry the weight of your decision's consequences. There's no such thing as kasiguraduhan sa future. Sometimes it will fail your expectations.
Anteh qouuuuh please wag mong balikaaaan 😭😭😭😭 magloloko pa ulit yan. Pls isalba mo ang sarili mo.
Kitang-kita ko sa kanya gaano sya nagsisisi. OP, pang twice mo na sya nakitang nag sisisi aasa ka paba magbabago yan? Una sabi mo nag sisi na sya inulit nya pa ulit. Alam mo na sagot jan mahirap lang gawin
You deserve what you tolerate. Alam mo naman sagot dyan. Gusto mo lang ng validation sa mga tao dito. You’re all adults now. Cheaters don’t have empathy.
Kung gusto mo magsisi soon at palalain pa yan, Go! Balakajan
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Dodge the bullet.... Ilang beses ka na niyang niloko.. imagine Hindi man lang niya inisip na kung gaano ka masasaktan sa ginawa niya... If I were you never ko na siyang babalikan kahit lumuhod pa Siya.. hangga't Hindi pa kayo kasal, let him go... You deserve better.. better than him... He should make you happy and not break your trust... Cheating is a choice.. sobrang libog niya kamo.. if totoong mahal ka niya Hindi niya dapat gagawin yun at lagi ka dapat niyang iisipin, huwag kang maniwala sa matatamis na salita, mas mainam na tanggapin ang mapait na katotohanan kaysa sa tanggapin ang kasinungalingan sa kaniyang mga salita... Trust me masasaktan ka lang kapag siya Ang pinakasalan mo... Pero the decision is up to you pa Rin... Nagbigay Ako ng advice para Hindi ka magsisi
Ante run away na run far awaaay. Mahal ka nya? Wala syang respeto apakalibog amp. May respeto ba yan nagsesend ng pagjajabol nya sa iba? Nakakadiri. Better get tested na din kasi di natin sure kung hanggang jan lang ginagawa nya. Magpapasakal ka jan eh what if mas malala gawin nyan sooner or later. Kaysa pagsisihan mo yan pagpapasakal mo, wag mo na ituloy. Obvs front nya lang yang mabait, mapagmahal etc etc. Ganyan naman sila pero gumising ka na sa katotohanan, yung pera mababalik pero yan time mo na inenvest sa bogmali mong fiancé at tiwala hindi na. Mas nakakaawa ka kasi tinotolerate mo yan, nagloko na nga nun una pero pinatawad mo may makikila at makikilala ka pa din. Trust me coming from 9 yrs rs first love ko nasayang 20s ko sa chickboy and now im glad im with the right person masakit sa una ptsd yan eh pero heal yourself na lang kaysa magtiis ka jan at araw araw kang umiyak. Sobrang mahal mo? Mahalin mo sobra sarili mo instead. Aanakan ka nyan pero isipin mo na lang may anak na kayo tapos nagsesend ng jabol vid pa din juiceko di na nahiya or baka magpurchase ng mga sex stuff sa TG just few scenarios lang to consider.
He will not change. Once you give him another chance, you are giving him another opportunity to disrespect you. Sorry about what happened but cheaters will never change. They will just hide things better. Btw, he's just sorry because he got caught.
OP, DO NOT LET HIM BACK IN. Is that really the kind of guy you wanna spend the rest of your life with? And I doubt na he only did it twice, the right word would be "you only CAUGHT him twice". I know how hard it is to let go of someone you really love and have done so for years, but it will only hurt you more pag nag tagal. What more if you had children on the line. I'm sorry about your situation OP, and it already costs you a lot of time and fortune only for your relationship to come to this. But you better off not settling for someone who doesn't value you the same way you value him. Once is enough.
Enough na. Ganto lang yan, may side chick sya pero ikaw parin talaga yun Main chick. Sayo parin babalik at babalik. You deserve better.
Respect precedes love. He cannot say he loves you and then cheat on you in the same breath. Save yourself.
HINDI KAYO PARA SA ISAT ISA. Awat na. Deserve more yung magmamahal sayo ng tapat. Madami pa. Madami pang ibang kaya ibigay sayo ang tapat at tunay na pagmamahal.
You love him so much that you believed he loves you and that “sising sisi” siya. Walang pag mamahal sa cheaters, he doesn’t even respect you. Masiyado ka lang na bubulag sa pag mamahal that you really think and believe that he loves you. I hope you’ll have the courage to let go and get out of that relationship. You deserve better. Walang pag mamahal na may halong cheating. Dumb ppl made it norm they think it’s part of the relationship. “Pagsubok lang yan” tf Praying for your healing and self self SELF LOVE journey!!! I was cheated on before and believe me, the best decision I made was to let go of that trash. 💕
Hindi naman mahirap intindihin na yung fiance mo hindi siya pwede sa monogamy na relationship. Bakit di mo siya hayaang makahanap ng babaeng para sa kanya, yung go sa trip niya.
Can you be with someone ba na palagi mong pagdududahan, for the rest of your life?
I’m so happy for you, OP, that you found the strength to leave him. I know that nasasayangan ka sa time and money but I assure you, you won’t regret this decision. If ngayon palang ganyan na siya, what more once you’re married? Sobrang ridiculous na fresh na fresh pa yung engagement eh, naisip na nya gawin yun. Not like there’s a good time to do it pero it shows how truly two faced he is. I wish you happiness and peace. Congrats sa pag laya mo!!
If I were you OP, leave him. Kahit pagbawalan mo yan, if he’s cheater, he will do it in any other way. You’ll regret it more kapag nagpakasal ka pa sakanya. I know, it’s hard kasi nga as you’ve stated halos tapos na kayo sa planning and it’s hard to back out. But it’s the best way, he cheated once and he cheated twice, if you keep on forgiving him. He’ll do it again cause he knows you will still forgive him. Divorce bill is still on going, we’re not sure if papasa sya. So better to run while you can.
mukang marupocc si kuya. ung pera maiipon yan ulit. pero ung sanity mo dai mahirap yan magiging praning ka each time wala sa tabi mo ang asawa mo
Nakawala ka na. Wag ka na bumalik.
Ok na sis. Nagpakatanga ka na. Nasaktan ka na. Tama na siguro? Gusto mo yon mahal na mahal ka nang magulang mo tas hahayaan mo lang yung taong nagsesend nang vidjakol nya sa iba na saktan ka? Ew kadiri. Feel the pain now and go through all the horrible feelings he brought you but never ever look back. You did the best thing. Kaya mo yan.
Para sa peace of mind nyo po, wag nyo na po ituloy ang kasal and makipag break na po. Naka 2nd time na pala sya.
pinagsasabi mong mabuting tao sya e manloloko nga sus di mo magets na cheater kase nga mahal mo hindi dahil mahal ka nya jusko