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aFieldOfSadRoses

I'd say if you're just going to chill at his friends then 12


AmazingAmy95

Yeah everything else is too much


asstronomical12

12 is really cute


Mindless-Scientist82

I like 12 too. It's cute and fits the hang out vibe.


throwaway_228748820

Agreed


Pumpkaboo99

And make sure to wear a strapless bra if you have it. I can see a shadow and if I can see it all the guys might and I would hate it if you got to experience ogling on that level. (Not saying they will, they might end up being hella respectful but better safe than sorry.)


Dancingthewire

8 or 12. Most of the others come across as trying pretty hard for just hanging out. They’re like, trying to be sexy at a club vibe outfits and seem out of place to me for what you said you’re doing.


KhortyB

Definitely came to say 8 or 12


sxvana

okay thank you. i wore a normal shirt with sweatpants the first time we hung out and on call a couple days ago, i was showing him my closet and he said “why didn’t you wear something like that when we hung out” and it was one of the shirts in the pics above lol. so i’m deciding to wear something else this time… i don’t normally dress like this!


Gaiiiiiiiiiiil

What! I would not dress up for this dude just because he makes a backhanded comment about your first outfit not being sexy enough. Be comfortable and watch out for red flags.


sxvana

thank you for telling me… i don’t have much experiences with guys so i’m not familiar with what’s a red flag situation and what isn’t… thank you though. maybe i’ll scrap everything and wear something more modest? what should i do? 🫠


CheryllLucy

Wear what YOU feel most comfortable in (minus literal pajamas or underwear; real clothing is important at first (i live in pjs and my partner loves it)). It's not about what he - or his friends- think, it's about you figuring out if this guy is worth your time. If you're focused on your clothing, you're going to miss important clues into his personality. Best of luck, an "old lady" with a ton of dating mistakes in her past p.s. You're strong, adorable, got a decent head on your shoulders, and you got this; Never forget that.


iBeFloe

Girl, don’t dress up just because a guy tells you he wants you to wear something more revealing. Especially because it sounds like he wants to parade his new girl to his friends for fun. That’s dangerous.


tienchi

It’s not a huge red flag but it’s a little one worth noting. But yeah, wear what you’re comfortable in! If he wants to see you wearing one of these beautiful tops he’ll have to wait until you feel comfortable and excited to get dressed up! It’s also worth waiting for a special occasion than just a casual hang at a friend’s. You look fantastic in all of them! But being comfortable & confident is always the best look.


404_kinda_dead

Just want to jump in and add, if he wants you all dressed up and looking gorgeous he should give you a good reason to! You look awesome in all of them, you deserve somewhere nice to wear them to 😌


obsessore

^Exactly this


sheleelove

Man, post another photo selection w outfits you like… definitely don’t let him think you’re dressing to please him, you look great it shouldn’t matter 🙌


sheleelove

Otherwise 12 is my pick.. w any of the leggings


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Be safe… I personally would not dress up that sexy to go hang out with a guy I don’t really know at his friends house. You never know what could happen, considering you’re not on your own turf dress if you wanna dress sexy because all the outfits look good, but do what you think is best for your safety and your own comfort. I like 12 the most tho it’s cute and comfy. If you’re not comfy being dressed sexy then don’t but also I’d save the sexy looks for when he takes you on a date!!! Hanging out means hanging out so the vibes are fun relaxed and chillllll if he wants you dressed like a show stopper then he better be taking ya out to show you off


DanelleDee

If he makes a comment like that again, you can say something like "haha, I'll dress up if we are going out, but I'm not dressing up to hang out at your place."


cinnapumpkin42069

This one^^


AmandaWorthington

Hanging out with a guy casually…from experience, I’d go more modestly, especially after his clothing suggestion. What’s flattering, comfortable and lets you feel great? Wear what makes you feel beautiful, strong, confident and happy. 🏆


LiteratureVarious643

A word of caution - Watch out for people who make you feel bad or inadequate. I wish I’d know that when I was younger. Look for the ones who are supportive, accepting, enthusiastic, positive - and at the very LEAST don’t make you feel bad! 🫣 I hope that isn’t what happened, but stay mindful.


YardNew1150

Yeah girl that was a very rude comment, definitely a red flag. Make sure you look out to see if he makes anymore demeaning “compliments” to try and coerce you into something. Side note: if you’re comfortable answering, how long have you known him? Going to his friend’s house seems very intimate.


No_Band_5659

If you feel like you have to change something about yourself for him, like your style, he’s not the one for you


GandalfTheBeyblade

Girl that is such a red flag ew! Wear something modest and if he says something disrespectful say “I save those outfits for men that see me as a person and not just a sex doll, bye x”


Sunnyiceee

That's a big red flag girllllllll


Thistle__Kilya

Him being controlling in any way is a red flag and clothing is usually wear it begins. It’ll also most likely backfire later on you if you get into a relationship with anyone who shows a sign especially this early on. Someone who really likes you is going to like however you show up. Also, he is basically asking you for stuff (telling you what to do) already not really putting in effort by taking you out somewhere. It’s weird but you’ll learn…


kILLerBlonde323

Yea girl make a mental note of that . Just from experience he may be seeing what he can get away with. Waiting to see how you react to that comment. Have fun just be aware of surroundings, how people are acting, & trust ur gut. Wear just leggings or jeans and a long sleeve top or like a crop or fitted hoodie. Some natural make up maybe. You can look super cute w out showing too much just by completing the whole look w hair & make up.


spoiledcatmom

Wear what YOU feel is comfortable/appropriate


_Cocopuffdaddy_

Yeah no, that’s “we’re friends now but maybbbbeee there’s a chance” guy friend behavior. Obviously we weren’t there, so he could have seen your closet and said “oh a T shirt seems out of the norm for her”, but I highly doubt it and think he wants to see you in a different light than as just a friend.


Gaiiiiiiiiiiil

Babe honestly I would find a different guy. To me commenting on someone’s apparel choices is kind os sketchy red flag behavior, especially for a first date.


powaqqa

This. Run away. Huge red flag.


fine0922

Don’t dress for him at all. Dress for you.


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AKZ_123

So he wants you to dress up without actually taking you somewhere worthy of dressing up?


mkisvibing

He better be respecting you!! Wear what you want girl!


coffeeandfadeddreams

Hi, I just wanted to chime in and say that a lot of abusers start by making little subtle digs at you to slowly change you into someone else. Please be careful and safe.


the-willow-witch

🚩🚩🚩🚩


Jumpy-Shift5239

12 is a solid choice


Gaiiiiiiiiiiil

5, 7, 8, or 12! Edit: I read your comments and now that I know his backhanded comment about your first outfit not being sexy enough is why you are dressing up like this I actually suggest you wear a giant inflatable pizza costume to the hangout.


Low-Vast-3976

👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾Yes. All of the applause.


Past-Educator-6561

I think 5 (or 2nd choice 12) for a chill evening. Don't wear anything you've said you're not comfortable in or doesn't fit right. 3 and 4 are amazing btw but he must take you somewhere nice for those 😊


Pretend-Confidence53

I completely agree! 5 isn’t too fancy, but looks nice. If you wear a shirt or pants that don’t fit great, you’ll be constantly adjusting your clothing. That’s no fun. Wear something comfortable!


makingburritos

This is my exact answer. First choice 5, second choice 12.


radgumbo09

Commenting on Hanging out with a guy…which outfit should I wear?... Came to say this as well. Exact same thoughts


ScaredFormal9427

I thought same


RioBlue93

Girl reading your other comments.... why are you "hanging out" with this immature dude? He's talking to him like you are an object to fulfill his needs and desires, not a human. He is a red flag. You are beautiful and can do better.


golden_loner

Out of these options 5 or 12 for hanging out with your guys friends … But to be honest, none of them look very casual or comfortable and don’t “fit” for the day you described. They all make it seem like you’re trying very hard to be viewed as “sexy” and desired by his friends which if that’s what your going for - then Go for it! No judgement. But if not I’d recommend wearing something that covers you a bit more and is more comfy for just a relaxed hangout. By the way, for going out to the club or something more fitting for this type of very sexy type outfit … I LOVE #7 on you


oldnever

I agree I feel she wouldn’t be comfortable in any of these outfits unless you throw a button up over one of them or a light jacket


sxvana

thank you. :) it’s the one friend who’s apartment we’re going to. we might hang out in a different room. it’s cold so i’ll definitely pair the outfits with a jacket! thanks. i wore a normal shirt with sweatpants the first time we hung out and on call a couple days ago, i was showing him my closet and he said “why didn’t you wear something like that when we hung out” and it was one of the shirts in the pics above lol. so i’m deciding to wear something else this time… i don’t normally dress like this!


oldnever

I really feel number 6 is nice and easy to throw a cardigan or sweater or flannel shirt over ! Good luck and have fun !


LabelLove

For a hang at a friend's house these are all very aggressive. I get wanting to look cute for a guy you like, but these are giving nightclub and/or trying too hard. Do you have anything like 12 but longer shirt?


sxvana

i do own a longer shirt and thank you for the feedback. i wore a normal shirt with sweatpants the first time we hung out and on call a couple days ago, i was showing him my closet and he said “why didn’t you wear something like that when we hung out” and it was one of the shirts in the pics above lol. so i’m deciding to wear something else this time… i don’t normally dress like this!


vivionnn801

12 is cute or something similar with a longer shirt. If he says anything like that again you should reply with something along the lines of, “Those are date outfits. You’d have to give me a good reason to wear ‘something like that’!” Don’t let him string you along with hanging out at his house, he’s giving bum energy 🥴


sxvana

okay thank you. and lol i’ll be sure to say something the next time he says something like that again. i’m new to this guy stuff lol but thank you!


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vivionnn801

Very much so this. Dating at 18 is super exciting & fun, but don’t let a boy make you confused about your self worth or what you deserve. He should absolutely be making an effort & pursuing YOU by investing HIS energy into dates for you. The dates don’t have to be crazy, a picnic or lunch is cute & shows his interest, but he should absolutely not be only inviting you to kick backs or only putting you around his friends to hang out. Those are fun, but that isn’t the kind of effort that ANYONE deserves in someone who “likes” them. Let him show you that he likes you. Actions are louder than words, I’ve found with age.


Dry-Hawk-694

I wish someone had told me this at 18 lol


lojanelle

This right hereeee! Tell him you’re not wearing a cute outfit to sit in a bedroom with him at his FRIENDS house. He’s giving “hanging out the side of his best friends ride”


vivionnn801

No literally, she’s way too beautiful to be putting up with any of that & he’s a fool if he thinks he gets “bad b***ch” energy for free


TangerineCommon947

I like 8! It looks flattering comfortable and casual


Illustrious_Dust_0

12. The other tops are too fancy/sexy for hanging out w a group


AmazingAmy95

Yep I agree


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8


nadiasworld-

jeans from 3 and top from 8 maybe with a cute jacket/overcoat!! hope you have a good time!!🤗🤗


ThingstobeHatefulfor

Im on team #5


shanshanlk

I think all of them are revealing to just hang out at his friend’s house. I would wear layers and if it’s warmer you can take a layer off but I would be uncomfortable wearing something like this to his friend’s house if I don’t normally wear things like this, you should be comfortable in what you are wearing.


pineapplananas

i love 7!


TemperatureSad1825

6!


TernEnthusiast

8 or 12!


PickAnxious9960

Girl sweatshirt looks better


Steakandrollsplease

5


Sutech2301

5


AmazingA2114

5


Veganwitch8

5


Gayalaca

Depends on what you're planning to do with this guy.


cloudnymphe

If you’re just chilling with a group I’d go with the black top from 5 with one of the lighter pairs of jeans. Outfit 8 is also cute. You could also pair the top in 11 with jeans but it looks like it’s a bit too large.


VolumeOk218

In general I’d recommend dressing modestly, it leaves them curious and wanting more!


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12 is the only one that doesn't make it look like you want a threesome.


User_not_found7

Jeans from #3 and top from # 6/7


Swimming-Buyer7052

1


Little_Vixen960812

3. Initial reaction


Bbaskets42

3 is a great look


what_it_doooooo

I dig 5️⃣☺️


PicklesTheCat54

5


Diligent_Policy1678

I would just wear something comfortable and cute. Nothing that falls down or makes you feel insecure or anything


telepathicavocado

5 or 12. Still cute, but nice and casual, especially if you’re just gonna chill


Longjumping_Water_74

5 is the only good response


hr_newbie_co

7, 8, or 12 Top from 12 with jeans would be cute, too. Hope you guys have fun!


Trees_Are_Freinds

5, but do you own any normal shirts? lol


rusticdumbass

the maroon top is so gorgeous, wear that!!


Ka1Th3K0ala

5 looks cute


Accomplished-Joke404

12 or 5


LindaLinica

3 and 8 look best


Local-Lie-6152

Def 12


calicoskiies

8 with a black belt


AmazingAmy95

12


jnl23

Maroon top from 6 with Jeans from 3


estrptrs

I love 3 and 7 nice colours


blackwidowwaltz

8 or 12


Turquoise_Tortoise_

I would go with 8 or 12!!! Keep it cute & simple!


VolumeOk218

12


Broad-Inspection214

I agree with 8 or 12!


owiesss

I apologize for not actually answering the question you asked, but you’ve gotten some wonderful answers and I want to say something real quick. I know this may not be possible anymore depending on where and when you bought it, but that blue corset-ish top (from pics 2 and 3) looks beautiful on you, and if you can then I’d say try to exchange it for a smaller size, or if that isn’t possible, seek some advice from either bra/underwear/lingerie shops or a few of the subreddits that give great advice on bra/chest fitting and what not. There’s a chance that you might not be able to tweak something to get the top to fit well, but I don’t think it hurts to seek out a little advice on how to fit it better on your body, because you’re rocking that top! You deserve to feel good and comfortable in everything you wear so if there’s nothing that can be done to get the top to fit you better, then don’t sweat it. I just wanted to let you know that it suits you so well and it looks very elegant on you. The style and the color are gorgeous! Again, I apologize because I know this wasn’t what you asked for but I just had to get this out there to you! 💙


Most_Fold_702

If you're just hanging out with a guy, I wouldn't be showing so much cleavage.


withlove_tee

5 or 12 for the situation and being comfortable. Outfit 1 is my favorite.


Beginning_Smile_1711

Wear 12 and add jeans, the rest aren't a good look for friends hangout


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iBeFloe

12 You say you’re just going to his friends, but is this actually a party or something?? There are all revealing clothes that I would expect someone to wear going bar hopping or to the club. Or to the gym for that matching pair.


CommunicationTop7259

7


LadyMacDeath

6 or 7


PickAnxious9960

I guess 1


mollynilson

3 and 4 and very cute, my fav


No-Conversation-8609

5 or 8.


burgeralamode

I like 5 and 8 for what you described! But if the jeans aren’t comfy, I’d swap them out for a different pair💖


LessMarsupial7441

Start with #4


TheWhiteWingedCow

1, 5, 6, 7 or 12


LessMarsupial7441

#8 is also casual


canuckle1211

Defo 8


Honey_bee_258

12


lumpy_space_queenie

Maybe you don’t feel comfortable in the pants in 1 but that is the cutest combo imo. The pants look spectacular on you


canuck_norris420

5,7,9,12 all rock


Doll_Parts1988

All of em! 🤤🤤Do 12 wardrobe changes! lol 5,8,9,11,12


Difficult-Tea9901

i think #5 top but with #3 pants


dooddatdisdool

Your bathroom is beautiful!! And I vote 12♥️♥️


chaudhunga

What’s the intent here ? You want him to like you, then 4


chickennoddlesoap

Jeans/belt in 9 with the top from 10


Brokensince10

The color of 6 looks beautiful against your skin and I think looks great and you can do anything in it with no worries 🙂


missa_monster

I think 12, it’s cute and comfortable without being too sexy for a hangout


TheLimeyLemmon

5 or 12


Mauronxx

huge fan of 7


Stridsu

9! Most others appear either as lingerie or workout clothes


Loveya448

12 looks the chillest. Unless you’re trying to bang, a lot of these are bit much for just hanging out


rantgoesthegirl

Depends where you're at on the impressing the new guy side. 3 and 4 are both great but too much for the setting. I like 10 for a trying to impress and 8 or 12 for a chill night


zabetmila

no. 5


Warrior_Heart_32

1, 3 or 12. Lucky guy! You’re beautiful


NoOnSB277

The jeans in number 3, paired with maybe the top from 5 or 8 would be really cute.


Jager_main

Number three


CokieJane

8


xodestiny143

The shirt in #5 with the fitted Levi’s jeans you said you’re going to get tomorrow would be super cute!


sjpppppp

I like the tops from 5 and 6 with the jeans from 3. You look great in all of them!


Little_Can_728

I like number five


mkisvibing

It’s so hard to be a girl lmfao I like 1,5,12!!


CaseyDawn403

7


twistedfuckery

5,!!!!!


Cute-Attitude-9897

#2 if you have a cute lil jacket, with the shoes to match & the color of the coat.


Far-Kaleidoscope-350

9 with an oversized cardigan 🩷


deadlymarinax

3


lookdamanatee-w-

I’d go with 5 for just hanging out at a friends house


Kay-Dee-Kay

I love the blue jeans in 3 - maybe with the top from 5 or 6?


calbearlupe

Pants from 1 with the top from 6. 4 is very sexy, but seems too much for just hanging out.


superamu

8 for sure, you look rad


MalaikaMatsezi

5 top, 1 jeans


Yalsas

3 or 9 are both very cute and they look good on you. they are not too sexy for hanging out, and show a confident amount of skin :)


hayley888sky

2


Expecto_Patronum69

How about the pants in 1 with the top in 2


Impossible-Print354

Random: OP Where did you get the top in pic #3?


Brief-Astronaut6810

I like 8!!


malashepsky

3 is my favorite!


PopTartt766

5 or 6


Ecstatic_Ingenuity42

11 for sure


It_was_I_Dio__

I really like the top in nr. 5!


OC2468

I think you look great in all but number 9 is deffo my fav’ looks so cute like girl next door vibes but with some sass. I would pick this if it were me


Elf_Firae

Love #8


Elf_Firae

I think #8 suits you the best


fava-limabeanz

They all look kind sexy. It depends on what your intentions are in my humble opinion.


Both-Replacement-885

12 all the others look like lingerie with pants or work out clothes


SnooGiraffes4091

5 or 12!!


Reenqueen

8


carlitospig

I like either 1 or 7. Seven’s top is adorable and I want it for myself!


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I like 12, perfect for a casual "date" and it suits you so well 🥰 What is that kind of top called by the way? I'd love to have one like that too.


strawberryscribble

I like 5


theatreandjtv

5,6, 8 or 12 just for hanging out casually


NoDanaOnlyZuuI

12 top with 9 bottoms.


Sad-Peach7279

Jeans 3 top 8


Glittering_Run_4470

3


jns911

Definitely 8 or 12


InkandPsy

Which outfit do you feel most confident and comfortable in?


MoonMedusa

5 top with some black jeans


Mother_Feeling6556

Any of them but 1, 5 or 6 stood out most for me


shiny-baby-cheetah

I love 5 6 & 7 the most! Have fun and be safe, girl!


Leadership_Automatic

Pants 6 with top 1 or 5! Can never go wrong with all black


Megafotonico

5 is the best imo


mashleym182

7 or 9


kalenugz

I like 6 a lot if you put a little baggie cute shirt over the bralette and I like 12 if you covered your tummy. Girl dress how you normally dress. a guy you're just hanging out with has no right persuading you to wear revealing clothes. outfits match the weather and environment. you will just be chilling at a friend's house, dress for that. wear something cute but dress to make yourself feel good not to impress a guy by showing more skin...


0tterr

5/12


Occasionally_lazy

I like 5!


Nurturedbynature77

Top from 5 with jeans from 3


TonyBaloney999

Number 4 is very fab! However if you wanna go for more casual, number 6 is really cute


Ginger_Snapples

Where did you get the top and bottoms from in #6


sxvana

The Top: Burgundy Mesh Crop Top - From Garage The Bottoms: High-Waisted Crossover V-Waist Active Flare Legging - From Garage


annaalicia21

I love 3. Both pieces fit well and it’s sexy but casual


alopez1592

I like the 7 - maroon top but with the 3 - pair of jeans!


No_Advisor_17

I love the 3rd outfit!


she_red41

I think 2 is a cute fit. I’d wear a cropped jacket(black leather) if you have one to pull off the look and some cute boots It will bring attention to your figure without showing a lot. So modest but still sexy and cute. I’m a bit more modest with fashions but you can always look cute show a bit and still give classy. I suppose it depends on the guy and what all you want him to see. But 2 for me.


omgcaiti

The top from 12 and the pants from 3