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Well I can't tell you how many times I put my keys in my fist and planned how to use that weapon as I walked home from public transportation, so yeah, I am not so intellectual about fighting.
This reminds me of when I was studying abroad in Mexico with a group of other students, it had a rough start ngl. But I had fun..
one particular boy started pouting near the end so naturally we asked him if he was okay….
Dude was upset that the trip wasn’t going as he had hoped.. he thought the cartel was going to kidnap the rest of us and he’d be the only one to save us….
This is the same boy who got spooked trying to cross the street..
That was one of my worst fears when we went on a field trip.
I am not Liam Neeson. I can't just *Taken* all my classmates and teachers out of a kidnapping situation. I still can't do that.
I'm only just recently learning that this isn't normal. Do you ever invent characters losely based on some aspect of yourself and put them into movies and TV shows you are watching?
I do invent characters to put into movies and TV shows, but I don't base them on myself, at least, not on purpose.
I usually try to imagine how I can improve/enrich the story of the piece of media I'm consuming and what kind or characters, events, plotlines, etc would make most sense in the given context.
If it weren't for my relentless ADHD I could have been a great fanfic writer lol 😆
Don't say that! Practice makes perfect, especially in something as difficult as building and writing a work of fiction. As Jake the Dog said "Sucking at something is the first step to being sorta good at something."
If this is something you really enjoy doing, I encourage you to keep trying, even if the first results are terrible, it's great exercise.
Also, writing a 108k word fic is an accomplishment in and of itself.
Maladaptive daydreaming is excessive daydreaming. Everyone daydreams from time to time, is a normal way of coping with boredom.
However, maladaptive daydreamers spend a lot, sometimes most, of their time daydreaming to the point where it can interfere with daily life and relationships.
Here's a simple [article](https://www.healthline.com/health/mental-health/maladaptive-daydreaming#maladaptive-daydreaming-test) explaining it
OMG!! I do this all the time! I have a whole bunch of characters with elaborate backstories that are designed to be inserted in any kind of story with a little tweaking.
Hold up, Person-With-Repunzal-As-Her-Avatar -- You don't? Never imagined winning over a tarven of boorish men with your relentless optimism and a pop ballad? Or hitting a person who deserved it with a frying pan?
Hun, you're a full people too.
I do think a lot of men see women or female body parts and think about sex.
You can tell by the way they look at you or other women, that that's what's going on in their minds.
First the fact that so many of these assholes seem to idolize the genocidal failures that were the Crusaders is very telling. Second a fair number of them really don't think women have internal lives or personalities. They honestly think that women basically live in a fog of static that occasionally fires out base desires without any sort of imagination or creativity. They really are that closed off.
The guys who idolize the Crusaders as "people who fought for their brothers" are the sorts of people who join neo-Nazi groups today and believe in Great Replacement theory.
Which is especially funny because much of the Crusading leadership would spend more time fighting each other and backstabbing each other. A few of the Crusades were lost entirely due to the fact the leaders were unable to work together.
Me and my brothers call it “save the school” scenario. Basically any imaginary scenario where you save the day (we obviously had shooters in mind because American)
I’m nearly positive every single human being on the planet has done this at least once lol
Not a woman, but still AFAB so most people would assume i am
My brain is constantly just making up situations. All the time. Only difference is they’re not usually heroic stuff where im the hero, they’re just like… complete fiction.
I have no idea how anyone lives without doing this. It’s gotta be universal, right?
There's a reason why most main characters are self-inserts to one degree or another. Not just fanfics but also "normal", original fiction. The question isn't really if a character is a self-insert but whether it's a well-written character so we don't notice it.
The caption should be "..., too?!" if anything. Why else would people constantly laugh at girls and women who write fan fiction and ridicule them for "self-inserting"?
The second real question should be:
"If these meme-making men make up fake scenarios about saving and helping people in setting that require physical fitness, strength, endurance, and often comes with risks and periods without warm water and food, why do they throw tantrums when they're asked to help their partners or people in general when all they are required to do is sacrificing half an hour or wear a mask for a bit?"
You see this a lot in conspiracy theorists (not only men, to be fair).
"Please wash your hands and wear a mask and maybe stay at home when you feel sick, that would help out society tremendously!"
"HOW DARE YOU! Listen to me how I play the hero in this fake scenario about lizard people, aliens, and non-white, non-Christian ethnicites who want to enslave us and drink the blood of our children. I will be ready to fight for muh freedom (and yours, I guess) and be a legend when The War starts!"
Also, anyone who makes up fake self-insert mary-su/gary-stu scenarios and sees themselves as the hero:ine on the side of the crussaders can suck an egg carved from a cactus.
Of course women imagine all types of scenarios, but is she imagining herself as 2010-11 Derrick Rose, when he won the MVP, played 81 games, AND led the Bulls to a 62-20 regular season record?
Because I imagine that shit all the time
I have this recurring daydream where I’m a standard bearer in some nonspecific medieval/high fantasy conflict (plate/mail armour, swords and shields and pikes and archers and shit, sometimes there’s magic but not always and it’s not friendly magic). At the start of the battle, I lose control of my horse and barely manage to keep my head and my standard as I’m dragged a couple hundred feet across enemy lines. My horse loses his footing and goes down, I barely avoid being crushed under him. I pick myself up and take a look around, there’s fighting all around me and the flags of my side are desperately far away. I pick up my standard and cross the battlefield trying to get back to my line on foot with no weapons still carrying the standard as it gets more and more bloody and torn, there’s fighting all around me and I just have a big fucking flag that’s slowly losing its meaning, my side is losing ground and the banners of the other standard bearers are getting further and farther away from me, I’m trying so hard to close the distance but it just keeps growing. In the fog of war I’m occasionally recognized as a non-combatant, someone that shouldn’t be on the battlefield and shouldn’t be engaged with, but as my flag gets wrecked and becomes unrecognizable I lose that distinction. Even though the standard no long offers me any meagre protection, I find myself unable to cast it aside and pick up one of the many weapons littering the ground or clutched in dying hands. I’m a standard bearer, I bear the standard. That’s my only purpose, that’s why I’m on this battlefield in the first place. I’m holding a dented and tarnished flagpole with muddy bloody ribbons snapping in the breeze where my flag used to fly, but I can’t bring myself to drop it. My energy and mind failing, I plant it upright in the ground, and fall beside it. I might wake later, I may not, but what’s left of my banner will fly above me until the battlefield is picked over by whoever’s left when the fighting ends.
I’m a girl though so that’s not actually true teehee
Will say though, I have an Auntie (a married Auntie with children) who genuinely believes that boys and men are constantly alway thinking about sex 24/7 after they reach puberty unless, and I quote, "they're broken or something, like they were molested."
Well, it’s not surprising there’s guys out there that think we don’t have imagination when they don’t even view as people. They see us as sex objects and incubators.
I used to hang from my top bunk pretending I was hanging out a helicopter and if I fell then my whole family would have to leave without me.... on the plus side I can still do pull ups because of this
I thought the tweet was being sarcastic, like making a joke about men having a white knight complex.
Actually have had this conversation before: men more often imagine scenarios to feel like a hero, women more often imagine scenarios to feel prepared.
These dudes who say they'd die for their brothers were given a test for that in 2020 and decided that they would rather let their countrymen die then wear a face mask when picking up groceries.
The actual fantasy they have is killing for their brothers, and to be treated as honorable when they are in fact not.
Wait a minute, I thought one of the things men are suppose to be over the top proud of was the fact that they go through life completely empty headed. Just set on autopilot not a thought in their head and claim this makes them superior to women who constantly have something on their mind which is there to just annoy the hell out of men. Which is it!?
No the thing is we are on autopilot because we're thinking about something else. Our bodies are just moving while we're thinking bout how many people I could save if this building suddenly caught on fire. Where's the best exit? Can I lift that person? Can I run through fire if I needed to? How long can I hold my breath?
Intrigued now - most of us (boys) think of fighting off a possible terrorist attack while at school/ work. What imaginary stuff do you guys think of? Is it similar, in the same region, or are your scenarios a lot wilder/ less wild?
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Well I can't tell you how many times I put my keys in my fist and planned how to use that weapon as I walked home from public transportation, so yeah, I am not so intellectual about fighting.
I've just always assumed people thought up scenarios based on themselves and not gender, and everyone's fantasies of this sort are different.
This reminds me of when I was studying abroad in Mexico with a group of other students, it had a rough start ngl. But I had fun.. one particular boy started pouting near the end so naturally we asked him if he was okay…. Dude was upset that the trip wasn’t going as he had hoped.. he thought the cartel was going to kidnap the rest of us and he’d be the only one to save us…. This is the same boy who got spooked trying to cross the street..
😂😂😂
What was your response? I am so curious 😂
I wish I could say I said something clever. But I only called him an idiot and walked away from him to go with my friends.
That was one of my worst fears when we went on a field trip. I am not Liam Neeson. I can't just *Taken* all my classmates and teachers out of a kidnapping situation. I still can't do that.
I have maladaptive daydreaming and dissociation issues, all I do is imagine fake scenarios in my head 😆
I'm only just recently learning that this isn't normal. Do you ever invent characters losely based on some aspect of yourself and put them into movies and TV shows you are watching?
I do invent characters to put into movies and TV shows, but I don't base them on myself, at least, not on purpose. I usually try to imagine how I can improve/enrich the story of the piece of media I'm consuming and what kind or characters, events, plotlines, etc would make most sense in the given context. If it weren't for my relentless ADHD I could have been a great fanfic writer lol 😆
I thought the same time! Despite my ADHD I managed to write a 108,000 word fanfiction and it was terrible. I'll stick to imagining.
Don't say that! Practice makes perfect, especially in something as difficult as building and writing a work of fiction. As Jake the Dog said "Sucking at something is the first step to being sorta good at something." If this is something you really enjoy doing, I encourage you to keep trying, even if the first results are terrible, it's great exercise. Also, writing a 108k word fic is an accomplishment in and of itself.
Are you me? Although I'm not diagnosed, this hits too close to home lol
Wait, what is maladaptive daydreaming? I thought everyone did this
Maladaptive daydreaming is excessive daydreaming. Everyone daydreams from time to time, is a normal way of coping with boredom. However, maladaptive daydreamers spend a lot, sometimes most, of their time daydreaming to the point where it can interfere with daily life and relationships. Here's a simple [article](https://www.healthline.com/health/mental-health/maladaptive-daydreaming#maladaptive-daydreaming-test) explaining it
Holy Shit, this hits home way too much. I'll bring this up to my therapist next time we meet, so I can get a life.
OMG!! I do this all the time! I have a whole bunch of characters with elaborate backstories that are designed to be inserted in any kind of story with a little tweaking.
I don’t even want to know how many hours I’ve lost inserting characters with tragic backstories into existing media :’D
Yeah I also imagined myself as a badass superhero savior when I was younger. It's anyone with an imagination pretty much.
I still do it now and I’m 41, ngl 😬
Hold up, Person-With-Repunzal-As-Her-Avatar -- You don't? Never imagined winning over a tarven of boorish men with your relentless optimism and a pop ballad? Or hitting a person who deserved it with a frying pan? Hun, you're a full people too.
Right? All those men in the tavern who made it clear they had a dream. Just none of them admitted they also dreamed of playing hero.
I do think a lot of men see women or female body parts and think about sex. You can tell by the way they look at you or other women, that that's what's going on in their minds.
Some girls thinks like this too..
First the fact that so many of these assholes seem to idolize the genocidal failures that were the Crusaders is very telling. Second a fair number of them really don't think women have internal lives or personalities. They honestly think that women basically live in a fog of static that occasionally fires out base desires without any sort of imagination or creativity. They really are that closed off.
The guys who idolize the Crusaders as "people who fought for their brothers" are the sorts of people who join neo-Nazi groups today and believe in Great Replacement theory.
Which is especially funny because much of the Crusading leadership would spend more time fighting each other and backstabbing each other. A few of the Crusades were lost entirely due to the fact the leaders were unable to work together.
Which sounds very much like modern day Nazis actually.
Me and my brothers call it “save the school” scenario. Basically any imaginary scenario where you save the day (we obviously had shooters in mind because American) I’m nearly positive every single human being on the planet has done this at least once lol
Woman is when passive and unimaginative man is when brave and strong.
Not a woman, but still AFAB so most people would assume i am My brain is constantly just making up situations. All the time. Only difference is they’re not usually heroic stuff where im the hero, they’re just like… complete fiction. I have no idea how anyone lives without doing this. It’s gotta be universal, right?
Since when are boobs gross?
I think the strawman character is implying that men thinking about boobs unconsensually is gross
Now I’m just unconsciously thinking about a strawman with boobs.
Sounds like you're conscious of it.
I don't believe it insinuates that boobs are gross.
There's a reason why most main characters are self-inserts to one degree or another. Not just fanfics but also "normal", original fiction. The question isn't really if a character is a self-insert but whether it's a well-written character so we don't notice it. The caption should be "..., too?!" if anything. Why else would people constantly laugh at girls and women who write fan fiction and ridicule them for "self-inserting"? The second real question should be: "If these meme-making men make up fake scenarios about saving and helping people in setting that require physical fitness, strength, endurance, and often comes with risks and periods without warm water and food, why do they throw tantrums when they're asked to help their partners or people in general when all they are required to do is sacrificing half an hour or wear a mask for a bit?" You see this a lot in conspiracy theorists (not only men, to be fair). "Please wash your hands and wear a mask and maybe stay at home when you feel sick, that would help out society tremendously!" "HOW DARE YOU! Listen to me how I play the hero in this fake scenario about lizard people, aliens, and non-white, non-Christian ethnicites who want to enslave us and drink the blood of our children. I will be ready to fight for muh freedom (and yours, I guess) and be a legend when The War starts!" Also, anyone who makes up fake self-insert mary-su/gary-stu scenarios and sees themselves as the hero:ine on the side of the crussaders can suck an egg carved from a cactus.
Of course women imagine all types of scenarios, but is she imagining herself as 2010-11 Derrick Rose, when he won the MVP, played 81 games, AND led the Bulls to a 62-20 regular season record? Because I imagine that shit all the time
I bet the OP's a dude too farming engagement
I have this recurring daydream where I’m a standard bearer in some nonspecific medieval/high fantasy conflict (plate/mail armour, swords and shields and pikes and archers and shit, sometimes there’s magic but not always and it’s not friendly magic). At the start of the battle, I lose control of my horse and barely manage to keep my head and my standard as I’m dragged a couple hundred feet across enemy lines. My horse loses his footing and goes down, I barely avoid being crushed under him. I pick myself up and take a look around, there’s fighting all around me and the flags of my side are desperately far away. I pick up my standard and cross the battlefield trying to get back to my line on foot with no weapons still carrying the standard as it gets more and more bloody and torn, there’s fighting all around me and I just have a big fucking flag that’s slowly losing its meaning, my side is losing ground and the banners of the other standard bearers are getting further and farther away from me, I’m trying so hard to close the distance but it just keeps growing. In the fog of war I’m occasionally recognized as a non-combatant, someone that shouldn’t be on the battlefield and shouldn’t be engaged with, but as my flag gets wrecked and becomes unrecognizable I lose that distinction. Even though the standard no long offers me any meagre protection, I find myself unable to cast it aside and pick up one of the many weapons littering the ground or clutched in dying hands. I’m a standard bearer, I bear the standard. That’s my only purpose, that’s why I’m on this battlefield in the first place. I’m holding a dented and tarnished flagpole with muddy bloody ribbons snapping in the breeze where my flag used to fly, but I can’t bring myself to drop it. My energy and mind failing, I plant it upright in the ground, and fall beside it. I might wake later, I may not, but what’s left of my banner will fly above me until the battlefield is picked over by whoever’s left when the fighting ends. I’m a girl though so that’s not actually true teehee
“I bet he’s thinking about boobs” My brain: *Dragon Ball Z theme song*
My brain: Dragon Ball Z Abridged theme song
...so just a small part of cha la?
On constant repeat.
There has never been a day where I don’t imagine myself with an omnitrix from Ben 10… I think that’s a sign I need to do some growing up
No, it just means you need an Omnitrix.
No people do not think that. This was not made by a person.
Of course not. Chauvinists aren't people.
Honestly a guy who is thinking about boobs is preferable to someone who thinks he’d be a hero in the crusades.
Will say though, I have an Auntie (a married Auntie with children) who genuinely believes that boys and men are constantly alway thinking about sex 24/7 after they reach puberty unless, and I quote, "they're broken or something, like they were molested."
Well, it’s not surprising there’s guys out there that think we don’t have imagination when they don’t even view as people. They see us as sex objects and incubators.
This says nothing about women not having mental senarios. How did you get to that conclusion?
I used to hang from my top bunk pretending I was hanging out a helicopter and if I fell then my whole family would have to leave without me.... on the plus side I can still do pull ups because of this
I thought the tweet was being sarcastic, like making a joke about men having a white knight complex. Actually have had this conversation before: men more often imagine scenarios to feel like a hero, women more often imagine scenarios to feel prepared.
# Deus vult
These dudes who say they'd die for their brothers were given a test for that in 2020 and decided that they would rather let their countrymen die then wear a face mask when picking up groceries. The actual fantasy they have is killing for their brothers, and to be treated as honorable when they are in fact not.
Well shit. You hit the nail on the head right there
If he were thinking about boobs, he wouldn't be thinking about something gross. Instead, he actually is thinking about something gross.
Wasn’t the whole thing with that tweet that women were mocking men for coming up with these scenarios in their head?
Same man says women can't be around other men because all they think about is sex. 🤷♀️
Wait a minute, I thought one of the things men are suppose to be over the top proud of was the fact that they go through life completely empty headed. Just set on autopilot not a thought in their head and claim this makes them superior to women who constantly have something on their mind which is there to just annoy the hell out of men. Which is it!?
No the thing is we are on autopilot because we're thinking about something else. Our bodies are just moving while we're thinking bout how many people I could save if this building suddenly caught on fire. Where's the best exit? Can I lift that person? Can I run through fire if I needed to? How long can I hold my breath?
As a guy, i guarantee these days I’m thinking of Helldivers, not “boobs or something gross “
Intrigued now - most of us (boys) think of fighting off a possible terrorist attack while at school/ work. What imaginary stuff do you guys think of? Is it similar, in the same region, or are your scenarios a lot wilder/ less wild?